Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
By Choose Recovery Services - Alana Gordon and Amie Woolsey
Alana and Amie bring their own experiences to the conversation, and their individual expertise makes for a unique and valuable resource.
Alana Gordon-MFTI, CCPS, CSAT candidate, Betrayal Coach
Amie Woolsey-Betrayal Coach, CPC, ELI-MP, APSATS trainee
For more information: ChooseRecoveryServices.com | info@chooserecoveryservices.com
Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing Nov 29, 2022
Stepping Into Authenticity - with Luke Gordon
We all wear masks at times, but hiding your true self is exhausting and inauthentic. In this week’s episode we welcome back Luke Gordon. Luke opens up about his personal battles with hiding behind false versions of himself. He describes how he was finally able to deepen relationships when he stepped into vulnerability, integrity, and authenticity.
Listen to learn:
What true authenticity is and isn’t
How authenticity is “earned and learned”
The reward in choosing short-term pain for long-term gains
How to reach sustainable growth and peace within yourself
Referenced in this episode:
Connect with Luke Gordon and book a session with him HERE.
Exciting Resources Coming Soon!
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Subscribe to this new podcast by Luke Gordon. Learn more about authenticity and the struggle to be real with ourselves and others as you build meaningful relationships. Subscribe now and watch for the first episode in May!
In-person Intensive: Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held May 16-18, 2024 in Spanish Fork, UT. Learn more and register HERE.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. New group beginning soon!
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
What Does "Get In Your Body" Mean?
Your body is keeping secrets - traumatic memories and intense emotions locked away at a cellular level. In this episode, Amie and Alana dive into the science of how the body “keeps the score,” storing experiences that your conscious mind has disconnected from. Learn how to unlock your body’s innate wisdom to truly heal.
Listen to learn:
How emotions and memories are stored in the body, not just the brain
The science behind why the body “keeps the score” on traumatic events
Practical ways to get back in touch with your body’s signals
The value of having supportive people for regulating the nervous system
Referenced in this episode:
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
Quit Moralizing Your Emotions! - past podcast episode
Is Ketamine Right For Me? - past podcast episode
Should I Stay or Go? - Amie’s self-paced guide for helping you explore what choice is right for you
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Is Ketamine Right For Me?
Imagine being able to rewire your brain to heal from the devastation of betrayal trauma and PTSD. Many who have tried ketamine say they have done just that. On this episode, Alana explains what ketamine is and how it can help receptors in your brain work together to promote healing from the pain of trauma. Listen in as Alana shares her experience with ketamine and the insight and healing she gained from this treatment.
Listen to learn:
What ketamine is and how it’s used to treat PTSD
How ketamine can increase your brain’s neuroplasticity
The potential benefits of using ketamine as a tool for healing
The importance of utilizing multiple tools and modalities during recovery
Starting Soon!
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Learn practical tools and skills in a caring environment that fosters relational growth. Group begins April 3rd. Learn more and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - This betrayal trauma support group led by Hali Roderick is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Quit Moralizing Your Emotions!
Are you constantly judging your emotions as good or bad? Do you feel guilty for experiencing “negative” feelings? In this episode, Amie dives deep into the tendency we often have of moralizing our emotions. Learn why it’s important to notice and name your feelings, to become aware of when you might be suppressing emotions, and how to embrace all of your emotions with self-compassion.
Listen to learn:
Why moralizing emotions is unhealthy
Practical tips to increase awareness of when you’re moralizing your feelings
How to separate your self-worth from your emotional experiences
Techniques for making peace with the full range of human emotions
Referenced in this episode:
Amie’s Offerings: Believing In You; Intimacy Within; Should I Stay or Go?; or book a consultation HERE
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - This betrayal trauma support group led by Hali Roderick is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Why Addicts Need To Do Their Work Part II; Helping Children Heal with Luke Gordon
Have you ever felt so overwhelmed by the damage caused by your addiction that giving up seemed like the only option? In this episode, Luke Gordon, cofounder and coach at Choose Recovery Services, as well as a father in recovery, opens up about grappling with feelings of hopelessness when facing attachment wounds inflicted on his children because of his addictive behaviors.
Amie, Alana, and Luke discuss the crucial work of healing your own attachment trauma while simultaneously repairing the parent-child bond.
Listen to learn:
Why addicts must examine their own attachment wounds and heal from them
How to balance doing inner work while also parenting authentically
The important role that repair plays in relationships
How to overcome hopelessness, feelings of failure, and perfectionism so you can heal yourself and your relationships
Referenced in this episode:
Now, Discover Your Strengths - book
A.R.E. You There For Me? - past podcast episode
Attachment Assessment - find out your attachment style
Divorce 101 - Amie’s self-paced guide to learn the next wise steps for you
Intimacy From Within - Amie’s self-paced course that leads couples through the seven levels of intimacy
Starting Soon!
Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first! This workshop will help you know if you are ready to date again, understand how you’re showing up in relationships, tips and tricks for dating, and what a healthy relationship looks like. The next workshop is March 28th-30th. Register HERE.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Learn practical tools and skills in a caring environment that fosters relational growth. Group begins April 3rd. Learn more and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Support for women for women who have recently experienced betrayal. First four weeks are free!.
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn how to move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal.
Help. Her. Heal - This program helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Support group led by Hali Roderick for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and need support navigating their own experience.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Why the Addict Needs to Do Their Own Attachment Work - with Luke Gordon
This week we are excited to welcome Luke Gordon to the podcast! Luke is an emotional health coach and cofounder of Choose Recovery Services who specializes in helping men overcome unwanted sexual compulsive behaviors.
Luke shares how disruptions in our earliest childhood attachments form the foundation for later challenges like addiction, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and struggles with emotional intimacy. With raw vulnerability, Luke shares his own journey and provides insight into the harrowing yet rewarding work of exploring attachment wounds and family dynamics.
Listen to learn:
How early childhood wounds can manifest in relationships at all stages of life
How generational patterns can be linked to current behaviors
Techniques for exploring your attachment story honestly without blaming or villainizing your caregivers
The role of professional support in providing a safe space to do this vulnerable work
Referenced in this episode:
It Didn’t Start WIth You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn
Learn more about Luke and book a session with him HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and need help coping. First four weeks are free!.
Believing in You - Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn to move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help. Her. Heal - This program helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Supporting Teens and Young Adults Through Parental Betrayal - With Morgan Ellsworth
When parents have experienced betrayal in their relationship, the entire family system is impacted. Teens and young adults are old enough to sense things are amiss, but may not understand everything that’s happening in their parents’ world.
In today’s episode we are excited to welcome Morgan Ellsworth, a life coach at Choose Recovery Services. She is an APSATS trainee and has training as a DBT Skills Coach. Morgan shares her story of navigating her teenage years in an environment touched by betrayal trauma. She offers practical advice to ensure teens and young adults receive the attention and care they need so they can process their experience and begin to heal.
Listen to learn:
What parental betrayal felt like from a teenager’s perspective
How support groups were helpful in Morgan’s healing
Specific things parents can do to help their children work through their emotions and experience
Things to watch out for that may alienate your children during this time
Referenced in this episode:
Learn more about Morgan and book a session with her HERE.
Morgan’s two support groups - Adult Children Uniting for Healing and Resilient Teens. Both classes help participants process, share their experience, and learn coping skills.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 4 weeks.
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help. Her. Heal for Men - This program helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Attachment and Children as You Navigate Betrayal
We know attachment can suffer between partners when there’s been betrayal or trauma, but how are our kids’ attachments impacted? In today’s episode, Amie and Alana unpack how to be a solid anchor for your children during hard times. Learn how to be grounded, regulated, and vulnerable to help your children stay securely attached to you even amidst chaos or crisis.
Listen to learn:
How doing your own healing work enhances your children’s ability to form secure attachments
Why staying regulated in your own emotions can help your children with their big emotions
What balance and repair look like and why they are important
Why being vulnerable with your kids helps them process their emotions in healthy ways
Referenced in this episode:
Past episodes on children and pornography: When Your Child is Also Struggling With Pornography Use and Talking to Your Kids About Pornography…On Purpose!
Past episodes on attachment: Attachment Theory - When It’s Helpful and When It’s Not; A.R.E. You There For Me? and Is It Me? Is It Him?
Believing in You - In this course Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Learn more HERE.
Coming Up!
Help.Her.Heal - This course helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship. Learn more about the course and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Is It Me? Is It Him? Attachment Broken Down
Do you ever feel tangled up in knots trying to understand where your relationship pain stems from? How can you tell if your pain is coming from childhood attachment wounds or current betrayal trauma? This week Amie and Alana help us learn how to unravel old and new attachment knots and walk us through what we can do to feel secure again in our relationships and in trusting ourselves.
Listen to learn:
Why believing your body’s signals is crucial, especially in the beginning stages of healing
How to determine the difference between childhood vs. relational attachment wounds
How boundaries can transform inner turmoil into empowerment
How professional help can bring support and clarity to your healing journey
Coming Up!
Help.Her.Heal - This course helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship. Two sessions will be beginning soon. Learn more about the course and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help. Her. Heal for Men - This program helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
A.R.E. You There For Me? Attachment Practice Tool
Have you ever felt disconnected, even when your partner is right beside you? In these situations, ask yourself, “A.R.E. you there for me?” Amie and Alana break down the acronym "A.R.E." to give you a tool to help you set the foundation for meaningful bonds, communication and attachment. Learn how to deepen your connection so you can be there for others and for yourself.
Listen to learn:
What A.R.E. stands for
How being accessible, responsive, and engaged can help you increase emotional connections
The difference between cognitive and emotional empathy (and why it matters!)
How to cultivate true presence and interest in your partner
Referenced in this episode:
Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown
Believing in You - In this course Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Learn more HERE.
Coming Up!
Help.Her.Heal - This course helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship. Two sessions will be beginning soon. Learn more about the course and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Attachment Theory - When It's Helpful and When It's Not
Do you crave deep connection but struggle to let partners in? Have you ever accused loved ones of being distant when they simply needed space? These behaviors could stem from your attachment style. Join Amie and Alana as they delve into attachment theory and how our attachment styles formed in childhood become blueprints for our relationships throughout our lives.
Listen to learn:
What the four styles of attachment are
Ways in which trauma and inconsistent parenting can breed anxiety
How your attachment style impacts the ways you show up in your relationships
How understanding your attachment style can help you connect deeper to those around you
Referenced in this episode:
The Attachment Project - Find out your attachment style
Believing in You - In this course Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Learn more HERE.
Coming Up!
Help.Her.Heal - This course helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship. Two sessions will be beginning soon. Learn more about the course and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Can Trust Be Restored After Infidelity?
Trust is essential in healthy relationships, yet it is shattered by betrayal. Rebuilding that broken trust can feel impossible. In this episode, Alana tackles head-on the messy complexities around trust after betrayal. She offers insight into power imbalances, avoiding the dangerous “floating saint” trap, boundary setting, embracing imperfection, and more. With patience, help, and healing, you can learn to trust again.
Listen to learn:
How power differentials play into trust
How an understanding of betrayal violence can give you a framework for thinking about trust
What a “floating saint” is and how this can unintentionally create more mistrust
The role of authenticity when working to cultivate trust
Referenced in this episode:
Past episodes on trust: Trusting Yourself First and Building Trust in the Relationship
What is Betrayal Violence? - Past episode with Hope Ray from the Betrayal Violence Institute
“Are You On the Coaster?” - YouTube video from Dr. Jake Porter
Past episodes on boundaries: Beginning Boundaries Starting With Me, Boundaries and Why I Must Own My Reality, and Boundaries and Non-Negotiables
Coming Up!
Help.Her.Heal - This course helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship. Two sessions will be beginning soon. Learn more about the course and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Are You Self-Rejecting?
If you’ve experienced betrayal in a relationship then you know what it’s like to feel rejected by your partner. But are you aware of ways you may be rejecting YOURSELF? In this episode, Amie sheds light on the topic of self-rejection. Learn what self-rejection is, how it shows up in our thoughts and actions, and what you can do to overcome this barrier to healing and connection.
Listen to learn:
How self-rejection may stem from childhood patterns
The many ways that self-rejection can manifest
How to use the three pillars of self-coaching to combat self-rejection
Why it’s important to shift your mindset to self-acceptance
Referenced in this episode:
Deconstructing Gaslighting Podcast with Sarah Morales
Believing in You - In this course Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Learn more HERE.
Intimacy Within Self Paced Course- Connecting back towards YOU after betrayal . One step at a time. Amie walks you through all 7 levels of intimacy and how to cultivate within yourself FIRST.
Coming Up!
Honoring Our Bodies Through Awareness and Nutrition - Join this FREE webinar hosted by Jori Pena to learn more about nutrition and how trauma affects the body. Gain insight on connecting to your body, nutrition, body scans, meditation, and more! Webinar will be on January 23, 2024. Register HERE.
Help.Her.Heal - This course helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship. Two sessions will be beginning soon. Learn more about the course and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Unraveling Shame with Jess Kovic
Am I enough? Am I worthy of connection? Am I worthy of love? If you have found yourself asking these questions, then you will want to listen in as Amie and Alana and their guest, Jess Kovic, talk all about shame. Jess is a certified life coach, APSATS trainee, Brainspotting practitioner, and fellow team member at Choose Recovery Services. Jess helps us dive deep into the shame surrounding betrayal - how it shows up, why it sticks around, and most importantly, how you can shed it.
Listen to learn:
How to identify misplaced shame
How perfectionism and shame are connected
The distinction between keeping things private vs hiding
Tools to use as you work to leave shame behind
Referenced in this episode:
Connect with Jess Kovic at Choose Recovery Services or on Instagram @itsjesskovic
Coming Up!
Honoring Our Bodies Through Awareness and Nutrition - Join this FREE webinar hosted by Jori Pena to learn more about nutrition and how trauma affects the body. Gain insight on connecting to your body, nutrition, body scans, meditation, and more! Webinar will be on January 23, 2024. Register HERE.
Help.Her.Heal - This course helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship. Two sessions will be beginning soon. Learn more about the course and register HERE.
Believing in You - In this course Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Learn more HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Intimacy Within Self Paced Course - A Guide to learning how to connect back towards you through 7 levels of intimacy. Discover how to take up space, trust your instincts, honor your emotions, connect with your higher self, and gain a deeper understanding of yourself than ever before.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Don't Dance With WALTER!
Although he’s always eager to take you for a twirl on the dance floor, Walter isn’t the dance partner you want. His toxic tango can cause you to constantly trip up in your relationships. So who is this Walter guy? WALTER is an acronym representing the unhealthy communication behaviors we often fall into despite our best intentions.
In this week’s episode, Amie and Alana share examples from their own lives of times they’ve danced with Walter, and they give you ideas of how you can ditch Walter for good and learn to relate to others in healthier ways.
Listen to learn:
What WALTER stands for
Examples of dancing with Walter to avoid
What the window of tolerance is
The benefits of staying in the window of tolerance
What to do when Walter keeps asking you to dance
Referenced in this episode:
Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
Believing in You - In this course Amie teaches you how to work with your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Learn more HERE.
Coming up!
Honoring Our Bodies Through Awareness and Nutrition - Join this FREE webinar hosted by Jori Pena to learn more about nutrition and how trauma affects the body. Gain insight on connecting to your body, nutrition, body scans, meditation, and more! Webinar will be on January 23, 2024. Register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help. Her. Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Why Does Betrayal Trauma Hurt So Bad?
Betrayal cuts deep, and that wound causes intense pain and heartache. In this episode, Alana talks about why betrayal is so traumatic. She walks us through the three main areas that betrayal attacks and outlines the six stages of healing. Listen to understand more about the strong emotions you may feel as you’re recovering from betrayal and how that’s a normal and expected part of healing.
Listen to learn:
Why betrayal is so traumatic
How betrayal trauma impacts your attachment, your emotions, and your intimacy
The results of experiencing “betrayal blindness”
The importance of healing individually and relationally
How to understand the six stages of healing and where you are in those stages
Referenced in this episode:
The Betrayal Bind - book by Michelle Mays
Diving Into Full Disclosures - past podcast episode
Polygraphs Better Understood - past podcast episode
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help. Her. Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Laughing With Us, At Us; Blooper Time!
Happy Holidays! Alana and I are so grateful to all you listeners and feel so blessed to hear from all of you and the support you feel from this podcast.
Many of you will write in and kindly assume that we have it all together, so today we thought we'd show you just how much we don't!
Head over to our YouTube channel to watch Alana and I listen to our blooper reel as well. We hope this gives you a much needed laugh in the middle of your hard.
We know you do hard things and know that you can continue to do hard things and we are here to support you along the way.
Keep CHOOSING YOU!
xo
Amie & Alana
Referenced in this episode:
Don’t Miss Out!
Help. Her. Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Next session starts January 8th. Register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help. Her. Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
6 Practices Your Grief Needs From You; With Kim Brown
When you have experienced trauma or betrayal, grief and sadness feel like constant companions. Kim Brown, a grief educator, APSATS candidate, and certified betrayal trauma coach at Choose Recovery Services joins Amie and Alana this week to help us understand more about grief and its significance in our healing journey. If you find yourself constantly trying to ignore your grief or push it aside to deal with later, listen up to learn about what you can do to actually integrate grief into your life in healthy, healing ways.
Listen to learn:
The six things grief needs from you
How to live in grief while healing
The importance of feeling and expressing emotions as they arise
The things grief can teach you if you let it
Referenced in this episode:
Connect with Kim at Choose Recovery Services
Follow Kim on Instagram @kimbrown.coach
Find Kim in the grief.com directory
Intimacy Within Self Paced Course- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. This self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through all 7 levels of intimacy. As you practice the tools and skills offered you will not only gain awareness around what healthy looks like, but what healthy looks like for YOU! Come back towards you today.
Don’t Miss Out!
Help. Her. Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Next session starts January 8th. Register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
When Doing More Means Doing Less
“I have to do it all! I have to BE it all!” If you often find yourself thinking these things, then this episode is for you! Amie and Alana share practical tips for finding balance amidst the seasonal chaos. If you feel overwhelmed and pressured to make the holidays (or any days!) picture-perfect, this episode will give you permission to do less of what doesn’t matter so you can do more of what does.
Listen to learn:
How to determine what traditions really matter this year
The perils of overscheduling
How to avoid the urge to give up and do nothing
How to embrace modifying or skipping traditions if necessary
The importance of seeking help without embarrassment if you need support
Referenced in this episode:
Intimacy Within Self Paced Course- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. This self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through all 7 levels of intimacy. As you practice the tools and skills offered you will not only gain awareness around what healthy looks like, but what healthy looks like for YOU! Come back towards you today.
Don’t Miss Out!
Help. Her. Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Next session starts January 8th. Register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help. Her. Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Surviving the Holidays: Road to Recovery Webinar
The holidays can be a tricky time under the best of circumstances, but in the aftermath of a betrayal, they can feel impossible. This week’s episode offers a no-nonsense guide to surviving the holiday season. If you’re tempted to run and hide during these upcoming weeks, listen in on this Road to Recovery webinar as Alana and Luke throw you a lifeline. The tools they share can help you navigate through this season of triggers and turmoil and give you hope as you launch into the new year.
Road to Recovery webinars are held on the last Sunday of each month and are FREE! Click HERE to register for the next webinar.
Listen to learn:
Ten practical tips to put into practice today to set you up for success
How to manage expectations vs. reality this holiday season
Tools for handling in-laws and family gatherings
Mindset shifts that can accelerate healing
Referenced in this episode:
YouTube video - Conversations: Enmeshment with Ken Adams
Past podcast episodes - Four-part series on therapeutic separation - Part 1; Part 2; Part 3; Part 4
Dr. Omar Minwalla’s work on the secret sexual basement
More from Choose Recovery Services
Help. Her. Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Next session starts January 8th. Register HERE.
Intimacy Within Self-Paced Course- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. This self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through all 7 levels of intimacy. As you practice the skills offered, you will not only gain awareness around what healthy looks like, but what healthy looks like for YOU! Come back towards you today.
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma. Free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step toward recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Healing IS Possible; With Staci Somes LPC NCC
After nearly two decades of marriage, Staci Somes found herself at a crossroads far too many women face: should I stay or should I go? Join Amie and Alana as they talk with Staci, a licensed professional counselor and coach at Choose Recovery Services. In this raw and vulnerable conversation, Staci shares her personal journey of betrayal and the growth and healing that can be found on the other side.
Listen to learn:
How to tell when it’s time to leave a partnership that isn’t working
What you can learn by noticing patterns in your relationship
What growth after betrayal can look like
How to reconnect with your core gifts and sense of self after trauma
Referenced in this episode:
Learn more about Staci and her work at Choose Recovery Services HERE.
Connect with Staci on Instagram HERE.
Amie’s Divorce 101 Guide: When You’ve Exhausted ALL Other Options - My goal with this guide is to EMPOWER you to become the decision-maker in your life by helping you connect back towards you. After all, you have the power to shape your future. Let's slow the process down and take it one step at a time. I'm committed to walking alongside you on this journey. I promise you, it does get better.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Intimacy Within Self Paced Course- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. This self paced course and guidebook will walk you through all 7 levels of intimacy and as you practice the tools and skills offered you will not only gain awareness around what healthy looks like, but what healthy looks like for YOU! Come back towards you today.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Not Pretending, Being Authentic and Owning Your Experience
Do you ever feel like you have to pretend to be happy in your relationship? Are you tired of hiding your true feelings just to keep the peace? Join Amie and Alana as they talk about the problems of inauthenticity and the benefits of embracing and expressing your real thoughts and emotions.
Listen to learn:
What authenticity is and why it is important in healing relationships
The problem with feeling like you have to pretend with your partner
How drawing four circles on a piece of paper can help you tap into your higher self
What the benefits are of slowing things down and getting curious
Referenced in this episode:
Altogether You by Jenna Riemersma
No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Intimacy Within Self Paced Course- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. This self paced course and guidebook will walk you through all 7 levels of intimacy and as you practice the tools and skills offered you will not only gain awareness around what healthy looks like, but what healthy looks like for YOU! Come back towards you today.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Radical Self-Care; Preparing for the Holidays
Have you ever heard of the term radical self-care? Join Amie today as she uses this concept to encourage you to prepare for the up and coming holiday months so that you can be the CHOOSER of your experiences.
Here is what she will cover:
- What is radical self-care?
- The importance of deep, intentional self-care.
- The first pillar: Awareness, including identifying beliefs, values, desires, fears, and unresolved emotions.
- Living in alignment with core values during the holiday season.
- Setting realistic expectations.
- Transformational acceptance and embracing the reality of change and grief.
- Healing emotional wounds and trauma.
- Challenging and replacing limiting beliefs.
- The pillar of agency and the importance of setting boundaries.
- Choosing to feel grief when facing changes.
- Taking a holistic approach to well-being.
- Giving yourself permission to pause and reflect.
- Choosing how you want to show up during the holidays.
- Becoming the chooser and freeing yourself from external expectations.
Believing In You Coaching Membership with Amie is a great way to take your healing to the next level. Find out more HERE
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Connecting Back Towards YOU; Intimacy Within Self-Paced Course where you will be guided through all 7 levels of intimacy and learn how to create healthy within, FIRST!
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Divorce 101 Guide: Feeling stuck in deciding? Not sure where to even start if you do? I got you, Check out my self paced guide to help you get clear with YOUR decision in the next right step for you, right now.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Candidate
Family Disclosures with Dr. Anthony Walker Ph.D
While couples may go through therapeutic disclosures, what about the children? They also notice problems and are able to sense when things are off. Today Amie talks with Dr. Anthony Walker, a Choose Recovery coach trained in Brainspotting and the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model through APSATS. Dr. Walker and Amie explore the what, when, and how of family disclosures as an important step in healing.
Be sure to listen to the end of the episode to hear Dr. Walker share several characteristics of healthy families which can be a helpful framework as you work to strengthen your family relationships.
Listen to learn:
What is family disclosure and how do you know if it’s something you even need?
How does family disclosure differ from a couple’s therapeutic disclosure?
How to approach family disclosure when children are at different ages and developmental stages?
Tips for handling family disclosure when a child doesn’t want to be involved in the conversation.
How to know when the timing is right (or wrong) for a family disclosure.
Referenced in this episode:
Learn more about Dr. Anthony Walker and book a complimentary session HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Believing Your Body; Healing from Betrayal & Abuse
Join Amie today as she shares an episode from her Empowered Divorce Podcast where she talks about the importance of healing from betrayal by BELIEVING your body.
Your body's memory is an integral part of trauma that goes way beyond the cognitive part of your brain. The body holds so much memory and it influences your physical health, emotional wellbeing, and behavior. Acknowledging and addressing this aspect of trauma is vital to your overall healing. Trauma isn't just a psychological issue. It's a physiological one as well. To truly heal, it is essential to address the impact that trauma has on the body and allow for that integration of mind and body in the recovery journey.
To hear other episodes from Amie about Believing In You subscribe to The Empowered Divorce Podcast:
Believing Your Lived Experience
Believing In YOU; Sitting with Cognitive Dissonance
Want to learn more about Amie's Signature Coaching Program? Click HERE or go to chooserecoverservices.com
Referenced in this episode:
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk
Information on gaslighting with Sarah Morales
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Connection Between Interpersonal Trauma and Chronic Illness with Darcy Haas
We are excited to welcome Darcy Haas to the podcast today! Darcy is an RN who practices functional medicine and nutrition. She focuses on helping women address the root causes of their physical health issues. Darcy shares her own experience with betrayal trauma and her resulting health problems leading her to study and learn more about how chronic stress and trauma can physically impact the body.
Listen to learn:
What happens physically when our stress response is activated far longer than intended
The impact of chronic stress and trauma on the body
The importance of investing in your own healing
Where can you start if you feel some physical symptoms could be trauma-related
Referenced in this episode:
Connect with Darcy Haas on her website - Sit With Me Functional Nutrition
Sign up HERE to receive Darcy’s top ten tips to focus on in your healing journey
Connecting Back Towards YOU; Intimacy Within Self-Paced Course where you will be guided through all 7 levels of intimacy and learn how to create healthy within, FIRST!
Check it out HERE ad start connecting back towards YOU today.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Divorce 101 Guide: Feeling stuck in deciding? Not sure where to even start if you do? I got you, Check out my self paced guide to meet you where you are at in the journey and help you get clear with YOUR decision in the next right step for you, right now.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Candidate
How Long Will These Triggers Last? Healing From Betrayal
Do you ever wonder if constant triggers mean you’re stuck and not healing? While trauma triggers may last a lifetime, you can learn skills to decrease their intensity and frequency. Amie and Alana have a candid discussion about how to think about triggers, trust your inner wisdom, and rewire your brain’s reactions so you can heal, thrive, and appreciate the parts of yourself that are simply trying to protect you.
Listen to learn:
How to find safety within your body
How to understand the root causes of triggers
The importance of developing resiliency
The benefits of surrounding yourself with a strong support system
Referenced in this episode:
Kristin Neff’s work on self-compassion
Believing In You Coaching Program- The next openings will be available November 8th, just in time to get you through the holidays and into the new year with tools and learning to help you heal, thrive and BELIEVE in yourself again. Click the link HERE to get your spot; they are limited. If you are not sure if you are ready, please book a session with Amie, and she can guide you to the next right step for you in your healing journey.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Healing Trauma with Dr. Don St John
Join us and our guest Dr. Don St John, Ph.D as he shares his 4 pillars of healing from trauma.
Here is what you will gain:
Dr. St John's Trauma Background:
Dr. St John's personal history of trauma and abuse.
Realization of the need for healing in his own life.
Understanding the importance of addressing both the mind and body in the healing process.
The Four Pillars of Healing Trauma:
1. Somatic Healing:
The importance of reconnecting with the body.
The impact of trauma on the body's tissues and consciousness.
Various somatic healing methods, including yoga and structural integration.
2. Psychological and Emotional Healing:
Uncovering and challenging beliefs formed around traumatic experiences.
The fear of taking risks again after trauma.
The role of psychotherapy in healing psychological and emotional wounds.
3. Relational Healing:
The significance of healthy relationships in healing.
Balancing self-protection with the need for connection.
The importance of vulnerability, compassion, and communication in relationships.
4. Spiritual Healing:
Finding a sense of self beyond one's ego.
Reflecting a higher power to connect with one's higher self.
Understanding that we are all interconnected.
Referenced in this episode:
Dr. Don St John’s website
Dr. Don St John’s book - Healing the Wounds of Childhood and Culture
Book a session with Choose Recovery Services at www.chooserecoveryservices.com
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Believing In You Coaching Program With Amie Woolsey
Divorce 101 Self Paced Guide: When you feel stuck in the "Should I Stay Or Should I Go"
Should I Stay Or Go Free Group Coaching Session with Amie Woolsey Thursday 9am MT
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma. Free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery couples to learn valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step toward recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Couples Coaching With Stephanie Hamby
Why Relational Recovery?
- Stephanie shares her personal journey and how it led her to become passionate about relational recovery.
- The transformation she experienced in her own life after partner betrayal.
- The importance of helping others experience positive transformations in their lives.
The Possibility of Healing
- Discussing the possibility of healing and recovery in relationships.
- Highlighting the need for both partners to be willing and invested in the process.
- Emphasizing that relational repair requires commitment and mutual growth.
The Role of Empathy in Relational Healing
- Exploring empathy as an essential element in healing.
- Addressing the misconception that empathy is an inherent trait and how it can be learned.
- The value of empathy in partner sensitivity and the healing process.
Couples Work vs. Coaching
- Evaluating the difference between couples therapy and coaching in the context of relational recovery.
- Discussing the benefits of early couples recovery work, psychoeducation, and skill-building.
- Emphasizing the importance of finding properly trained coaches and therapists.
Safety and Stability Before Couples Work
- Recognizing the significance of safety and stability before engaging in deeper relational work.
- The role of individual work in achieving safety and stability.
- The need for foundational healing and learning before progressing to couples work.
Want to book a session with Choose Recovery Services?
Go to www.chooserecoveryservices.com
Believing In You Coaching Program With Amie Woolsey
Divorce 101 Self Paced Guide: When you feel stuck in the "Should I Stay Or Should I Go"
Should I Stay Or Go Free Group Coaching Session with Amie Woolsey Thursday 9am MT
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
What is Differentiation and Why Is That Helpful In My Healing Work?
What You'll Learn
- What is differentiation
- Why its helpful to learn how to differentiate
- Why both spouses need to do this work
Referenced in this episode:
In this podcast episode, Alana reflects on her graduate school experience and provides updates on their podcast. She discusses her initial exposure to Murray Bowen's model of Bowen theory as she delves into her own personal discoveries about differentiation in therapy. Alana shares how she struggled with maintaining her identity while emotionally connecting with others, highlighting the concept of differentiation.
The episode emphasizes the importance of differentiation in healthy relationships by allowing individuals to preserve their identity while remaining emotionally connected to their partner. We learn that differentiation enhances emotional resilience, improves conflict resolution, and prevents emotional fusion/enmeshment. Alana emphasizes the importance of healthy boundaries and the ability to navigate the challenges of long-term relationships while dispelling misconceptions about detachment.
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Believing In You Coaching Program With Amie Woolsey
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
"I'm Fine, It's Fine, Everything is FINE!" What if it's OK that it's NOT fine?
Do you find yourself saying, “I’m fine” when you’re not? Join Amie and Alana as they explore why we try to convince ourselves and others that we are okay when we’re actually struggling. Get ready to dig deeper into what your “I’m fine” response is really trying to communicate.
Listen to learn:
How to get curious when you find yourself saying you’re fine even when you’re not
How to recognize “pink flags” so you can gain awareness around these patterns
Why it’s important to feel your feelings and not just think about them
What to do if you discover it’s really not fine, and you’re not okay
Referenced in this episode:
Why We Need to FEEL Our Feelings - past podcast episode
Dating From Within: Divorce to Empowered Dating Workshop - This three-day course led by Amie will help you take charge of your post-divorce dating journey. Learn how to date yourself first, how to know when you’re ready to date again, tips and tricks to use when dating, and so much more. Workshop will be October 12-14th. Register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Does Intention Override Your Experience?
Do you spend endless hours trying to diagnose your partner and obsessing over their intentions and motivations? In this week's episode, Amie and Alana are giving you permission to stop overanalyzing your partner and to shift the focus back to yourself. You'll walk away feeling empowered, with insight into where to direct your energy during your recovery journey.
Tune in to learn:
How the confusion of analyzing your partner can drain your energy
Why the impact of your partner’s behavior matters more than their intent or diagnosis
How shifting your locus of control to yourself can help you gain clarity
Why talking to a professional coach or therapist can be so helpful
Referenced in this episode:
What is Betrayal Violence, and How Does It Apply to Your Situation? With Hope Ray - past podcast episode
Love You Now Conference hosted by Kaylee Dunn - Join Amie on September 22nd as she talks about what you can do when you have exhausted ALL options. Claim your FREE ticket HERE or to find out more check out @amiewoolsey
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Is Recovery Work Being Weaponized?
Betrayal is painful enough, but what if your partner uses their recovery against you? This week we dive into the complicated dynamics of betrayers weaponizing their healing. Join Amie and Alana as they explore the nuances of weaponizing recovery work including what it is, how to spot it, why it happens, and how you can protect yourself.
*BIG disclaimer with this topic - weaponizing can go both ways, and this episode is not intended to be used against your partner either.
Listen to learn:
Specific examples of what weaponizing recovery work looks like
The difference between feeling hurt during your recovery journey and being injured
How to tell if your partner is weaponizing recovery versus just being clumsy while learning new skills
Steps you can take if you recognize these patterns in your relationship
Referenced in this episode:
Deconstructing Gaslighting with Sarah Morales - Past Podcast Episode
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Bonus Episode: Men's Help Her Heal and Why It's Important
Join Alana Gordon and Hali Roderick as we talk about the need for men to gain the skill set on how to help their wife heal after betrayal if they want relational healing. If you would like to learn more about the Help Her Heal Course, go to www.chooserecoveryservices.com.
Help Her Heal for Men with Hali Roderick
https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/help-her-heal/
We are starting a new group called Help Her Heal, that teaches men about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. This group will offer resources modeled after the work of Carol Juergenson Sheets to help men rebuild lost trust and create intimacy. This group will begin September 11th, 2023, and will be held weekly on Mondays at 7:30pm MT.
Other Upcoming Groups
Healing Hearts for Couples
https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/healing-hearts/
Stephanie Hamby is starting a new course called Healing Hearts that offers a comprehensive program for couples in early recovery, focusing on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues. This course will allow couples to learn more about emotions, communication, boundaries, and how to address underlying issues. It starts on October 1st, and will be held weekly on Sundays at 5pm MT.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/empowerment-after-betrayal-men/
We are offering a support group for men who have been betrayed as we have noticed a lack of resources for men with this experience. This weekly, 90-minute support group will allow men to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while surrounding themselves in a supportive community. This group, Empowerment After Betrayal, will meet Mondays at 6pm MT.
Choose Healing for Betrayed Women https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/choose-healing-betrayal-trauma-support-for-women/
We are excited to offer more support to betrayed women with a free 6-week group, Choose Healing for Betrayed Women that serves as a helpful "first aid" for those who have just begun to navigate the difficult experience of betrayal trauma. This group meets weekly for 90 minutes, and we have multiple groups and coaches to fit different situations and preferences.
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Helpful Links
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Meet the Coaches: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/
Group Programs: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/groups-2/
Courses: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/courses-2/
Webinars: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/webinars/
What Is Betrayal Violence, and How Does It Apply To Your Situation? With Hope Ray
“It is time to define betrayal violence.” That is the message that our guest, Hope Ray, wants to offer today. Hope is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, and a Certified Hope and Freedom Practitioner. Listen to hear how Hope uses the term “betrayal violence” and how she feels those powerful words give a more thorough definition of the experience of betrayed partners.
In this episode you will learn:
How Hope defines the word “violence” and applies that term to relational betrayal.
What the partner adaptive bonding cycle is and the role it plays in relationships.
The importance of intention when thinking about betrayal violence.
The difference between betrayal violence and betrayal trauma and how both terms are useful.
Why this framework and vocabulary can be so helpful during the process of rehabilitation.
Referenced in this episode:
The Relationship Dynamic Assessment- This groundbreaking assessment created by Kimberly Day, LMHC, CCPS offers a very clear picture of the different domains where destructive behaviors exist in your relational experience. Amie is trained and qualified to give the assessment and help you process the results. For more information on how you can receive this incredible resource to help you gain more awareness to your lived experience and reality, click HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing- Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 6 weeks.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men- Hali Roderick is starting a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men- Support group for men who are ready to take the first step toward recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men- This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men- Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Road to Recovery- Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar- Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go?- Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A- Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Say Hello To Your Vagus Nerve; Specific Ways to Relax Your Central Nervous System
Last week we learned about the important role our nervous system plays in regulating our bodies. This week Amie and Alana are here to continue that conversation and to give you practical, tangible things you can do right now to help engage and relax your central nervous system.
Tune in to learn:
- What bodily discomfort may be telling you.
- What to remember if the work you’re doing seems NOT to be working.
- Specific strategies you can implement on your own to regulate your nervous system.
- Ways a professional can help you activate the vagus nerve.
- Some of the benefits you may experience as you keep your nervous system online.
Referenced in this episode:
Body Love Class - This free, self-paced, online class helps you lean into an awareness of your body.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick is starting a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
- Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
- Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
- Choose Recovery Services
Your Amazing Nervous System Explained With KayLee Dunn
We are excited to welcome Psychotherapist and Betrayal Navigation Coach, KayLee Dunn, to this week’s episode of Choose to Be. KayLee talks through the brain science behind trauma and will help you better understand your body’s survival responses and how to turn them into your superpower. With relatable personal examples, relevant research, and empathy for your experience, this is a valuable episode you won’t want to miss!
Listen to Learn:
- What fight, flight, and freeze looks like and what you can do with it.
- How naming and noticing helps you begin to regulate yourself.
- Whether or not you can really heal after betrayal.
- What your inner survivor is.
- How your triggers and your inner survivor are a gift.
Mentioned in this Episode:
- Tiktok: @heykayleedunn
- KayLee’s Website: www.kayleedunn.com/
- Love You Now Conference: www.kayleedunn.com/loveyounow
More from Choose Recovery Services
- Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks.
- Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
- Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick is starting a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
- Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
- Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
- Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery.
- Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery.
- Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
- Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
- Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
- The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Why Do I Feel Emotionally Detached?
Many women suffering from betrayal not only emotionally detach from their partners, but they also detach from themselves. In preparation for next week’s episode with Mental Health Therapist, KayLee Dunn, Amie and Alana wanted to give you some ideas to think about, sit with, and journal on around the topic of emotional detachment. Listen to learn how you may be using emotional detachment as a coping mechanism while working through the devastating effects of betrayal.
Tune in to learn:
- How disassociating helps you self-protect
- How disassociating connects to your childhood
- Why you don’t want to numb any of your emotions
- What fight, flight, or freeze has to do with disassociating
- The importance of recognizing how and where detachment is showing up for you
Referenced in this episode:
- Why We Need to Feel Our Feelings - Past Podcast Episode
- How We Feel App
More from Choose Recovery Services
- Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks.
- Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick is starting a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
- Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
- Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
- Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery.
- Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery.
- Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
- Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
- Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
- The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
- Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
- Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
- Choose Recovery Services
Getting Curious About Hypervigilance
👮 Do you find yourself policing your partner, feeling the need to repeatedly check their phone, their whereabouts, and their actions? First, this is NORMAL after betrayal, and second, this isn’t a place you want to stay long term. There ARE ways to let go of these habits in a way that will move you from feeling powerless to empowered. Amie and Alana break down the whys of hypervigilance as they encourage you to get curious about some of your behaviors after betrayal.
Tune in to learn:
- What is causing your hypervigilance?
- What are some examples of hypervigilance?
- How can you manage feelings of hypervigilance?
- What is the difference between hypervigilance and intuition?
- Why is hypervigilance so damaging long term?
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Alana’s Blog Post on Hypervigilance
Podcast Episode: How Can I Tell the Difference Between Trauma and Intuition?
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks.
Help Her Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
How Can I Know The Difference Between A Trauma Response And My Intuition?
Are triggers getting in the way of your ability to recognize your gut feelings? And what’s the difference between the two? After going through trauma, it can become confusing to distinguish between which feelings are legitimate alarm bells and what’s a false alarm. Amie and Alana share real life examples, relatable analogies, and helpful tips to help you get to the bottom of these feelings in this week’s episode.
Tune in to learn:
- How to identify if you have safety in your relationship
- How regulating your emotions helps you tune into gut feelings
- Why you might find it more difficult to regulate your emotions in the summer
- The first step to sorting out your emotions
- What it looks like to become an expert of your feelings
Take your healing to the next level with Amie's new group starting next month - Believing in You! Get tools and concepts to gain more self awareness and learn how to love yourself. Spots are filling quickly, so register today!
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Learn more.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery. Learn more.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery. Learn more.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Learn more.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Learn more.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. Learn more.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce. Listen here.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Finding Safe, Healthy Support To Help You Heal
There’s no such thing as bad support, right? Wrong! Amie and Alana welcome you to a chat about times you may be getting “support” that isn’t truly supporting your healing journey. Find out what helps and what is holding you back when it comes to getting the support you need in this week’s episode of the Choose to Be Podcast.
Tune in to learn:
What does healthy and unhealthy support look like?
What does it mean to have “friends of your marriage?”
How to manage friendships with unhealthy support?
What should you do if family members are an unhealthy support?
Take your healing to the next level with Amie's new group starting next month - Believing in You! Get tools and concepts to gain more self awareness and learn how to love yourself. Spots are filling quickly, so register today!
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Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Learn more.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery. Learn more.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery. Learn more.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Learn more.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Learn more.
Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. Learn more.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce. Listen here.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Deconstructing Gaslighting with Sarah Morales
As a trailblazer and thought-leader in the field of gaslighting, Sarah Morales has redefined gaslighting to help reduce the stigmatization, fear, and powerlessness around the term. This week, Sarah joins Amie and Alana to share what gaslighting looks like, what it takes to repair a relationship with gaslighting, and whether or not chronic gaslighters are capable of healing.
Don’t miss this episode to learn:
- Why those in recovery continue to gaslight.
- What you might be getting wrong about gaslighting and narcissism.
- How to tune into your head, heart, and gut when being gaslit.
- One of Sarah’s favorite phrases she has her clients tell themselves.
Connect with Sarah Morales:
Website: https://www.sarahmoralescoaching.com
Sarah’s free video series: https://www.sarahmoralescoaching.com/free-gaslighting-video-series
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahmoralescoaching/
Email: sarah@sarahmoralescoaching.com
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- Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more.
- Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more.
- Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Learn more.
- Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery. Learn more.
- Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery. Learn more.
- Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Learn more.
- Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Learn more.
- Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. Learn more.
- The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce. Listen here.
- Believing In You Membership - Get weekly coaching, one on one coaching and opportunities in between weekly sessions, all to help you take your awareness and healing to the next level. Get more info HERE
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Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
The Luxury Of Grief; Navigating your grief after betrayal
Have you ever heard the saying, “Grief is a luxury for the brain that feels safe?” This is a quote from Dr. Jake Porter, and it might sound like an oxymoron, but it’s true! Amie and Alana share how grief is a luxury, and how you can’t get there unless you’re feeling safe within yourself, your body, and your emotions.
Tune into this episode to learn:
- A quick review of the stages of grief
- How a separation from your partner gives you the space to grieve
- The connection between relational safety and grief
- How relational safety brings relief
- How to get unstuck from feelings of sadness and anger
- …and more!
More from Choose Recovery Services
- Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more.
- Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more.
- Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Learn more.
- Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery. Learn more.
- Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery. Learn more.
- Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Learn more.
- Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Learn more.
- Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. Learn more.
- The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce. Listen here.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
When Your Child Is Also Struggling With Pornography Use; With Jeremy Leavitt LMFT
Are you navigating parenting a child who struggles with compulsive behaviors? For those who have experienced betrayal trauma, this can bring up a lot of fears, triggers, and concern. Amie and Alana are joined this week by special guest, Marriage and Family Therapist, Jeremy Leavitt, to discuss the exploratory and compulsive behaviors your children may be experiencing, and how you can help. Plus, listen to the end for the one potentially awkward question Jeremy recommends all parents ask their teens.
In this episode you’ll learn more about:
- The four pillars of sobriety (Support, Successes, Accountability, Insight)
- How youth support groups differ from adult support groups
- Understanding shame and how to better respond
- How parents’ fears can sabotage a child’s healing
- How should a parent react to a child’s compulsive behaviors
- Why being in tune to your own emotions allows you to have more trust in your children
- Loving, honoring, and embracing sexuality
You can connect with Jeremy Leavitt, LMFT by emailing him at leavitttherapy@gmail.com Is your relationship trying to heal from infidelity, sexual addiction, or other forms of betrayal? Whether you need couple support, individual help, or group work we can help you find the right fit and move you from stuck to freedom. Set up a free consult today! www.chooserecoveryservices.com
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- Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more.
- Believing In You Group Coaching for Women - Come join Amie Woolsey as she coaches you on learning how to TRUST yourself again, LOVE yourself perhaps for the first time, and BELIEVE that you can be happy again. Weekly coaching, 2 FREE 1:1 sessions with Amie, worksheets, recorded sessions, tools to practice each week and more. Come get your spot!
- Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more.
- Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Learn more.
- Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery. Learn more.
- Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery. Learn more.
- Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Learn more.
- Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Learn more.
- Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. Learn more.
- The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce. Listen here.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Therapeutic Separation Part 4; What reintegration looks like, and what it doesn't with Luke Gordon
Join us for part four of the four-part series on therapeutic separations. In this episode, Amie, Alana, and Luke break down the pieces of what the separation can entail to help work towards reunification and reintegration back into the home and relationship. They discuss what things to watch for, markers to know you might be ready, and what to do if your partner isn't doing their part.
Is your relationship trying to heal from infidelity, sexual addiction, or other forms of betrayal? Whether you need couple support, individual help, or group work we can help you find the right fit and move you from stuck to freedom. Set up a free consult today! www.chooserecoveryservices.com
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- Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more.
- Believing In You Group Coaching for Women - Come join Amie Woolsey as she coaches you on learning how to TRUST yourself again, LOVE yourself perhaps for the first time, and BELIEVE that you can be happy again. Weekly coaching, 2 FREE 1:1 sessions with Amie, worksheets, recorded sessions, tools to practice each week and more. Come get your spot!
- Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more.
- Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Learn more.
- Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery. Learn more.
- Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery. Learn more.
- Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Learn more.
- Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Learn more.
- Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. Learn more.
- The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce. Listen here.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Therapeutic Separation; Part 3; Separation agreement questions
This is part three of a four-part series on therapeutic separations. In this episode, Amie and Alana break down the pieces of a therapeutic agreement for separation. This agreement outlines the terms and conditions agreed upon by the couple as they undergo the separation process. It serves as a framework to establish clear boundaries, expectations, and goals.
Listen to learn the 12 critical questions outlined in the agreement, including:
- What are the goals for the separation?
- What are the expectations for visiting each other’s living spaces?
- Who will be taking the children and when?
- When will you plan to check in with each other?
- What are the specific plans for contacting each other?
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- Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more.
- Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more.
- Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Learn more.
- Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery. Learn more.
- Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery. Learn more.
- Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Learn more.
- Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Learn more.
- Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. Learn more.
- The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce. Listen here.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Therapeutic Separation; Part 2; How to prepare for separation with Luke Gordon
This is part two of a four-part series on therapeutic separations. Last week Amie and Alana covered why you might need a separation and the feelings that come up while making this decision. This week, Luke Gordon joins to discuss how to prepare for a separation, and what to expect emotionally, mentally, and physically.
Tune in to learn:
- How a marriage separation could benefit your relationship.
- Situations where it’s important to spend time apart.
- Fears you may experience when considering a separation.
- The importance of individual work through a separation.
- How to approach talking to your kids about a separation.
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- Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more.
- Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more.
- Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Learn more.
- Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery. Learn more.
- Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery. Learn more.
- Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Learn more.
- Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Learn more.
- Dating After Divorce Course - Join Amie for three 90-minute sessions to learn essential tips to diving into the dating scene after divorce. Learn more.
- Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. Learn more.
- The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce. Listen here.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Therapeutic Separations; Part 1; Is separation right for you?
Considering a separation can feel daunting and intimidating. This episode is the first of a 4-part series on separation. In this episode, Amie and Alana walk you through the basics of what a separation actually is, the 4 types of separations you could consider, the benefits of spending some time apart, and what you need to think about when considering a separation.
Amie and Alana will encourage you to pay attention to your body, your needs, and your safety as you navigate this difficult decision, and they’ll share examples of what separation looked and felt like in their relationships. Listen to the full episode to learn more!
- Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more.
- Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more.
- Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Learn more.
- Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery. Learn more.
- Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery. Learn more.
- Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Learn more.
- Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Learn more.
- Dating After Divorce Course - Join Amie for three 90-minute sessions to learn essential tips to diving into the dating scene after divorce. Learn more.
- Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. Learn more.
- The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce. Listen here.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Bonus! Free Couples Road To Recovery for Couples Trying to Heal After Infidelity, Affairs, or Sexual Addiction
Are you trying to heal you relationship after its been destroyed by lies, betrayal, infidelity, problematic sexual behaviors, or sexual addiction? Join us for a free Q&A and webinar the last Sunday of every month.
Register by going to ChooseRecoveryServices.com
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services
• Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more.
• Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more.
• Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Learn more.
• Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery. Learn more.
• Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Learn more.
I Feel Like I've Lost Myself Since Going Though Trauma. How Do I Find Myself Again?
Going through something traumatic can feel like having a rug ripped out from underneath you, leaving you feeling disoriented and confused. It’s natural to lose trust in others and in yourself as you work through processing what has happened to you.
In this episode, Alana will help you gain an understanding of how to find yourself again. Alana will share 8 essential steps to finding yourself after trauma, like:
- Acknowledging your experience with self-compassion
- Understanding and identifying useful coping mechanisms
- Establishing a new routine
- Rediscovering passions and interests
- And more!
Alana gives you great ideas to begin building your foundation of healing and encourages you to take baby steps to begin trying them one at a time.
Mentioned in this episode: Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services
- Choose Betrayal Trauma Healing for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks. Learn more.
- Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Learn more.
- Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Learn more.
- Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects the come along the road to recovery. Learn more.
- Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity. Learn more.
- Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Learn more.
- Dating After Divorce Course - Join Amie for three 90-minute sessions to learn essential tips to diving into the dating scene after divorce. Learn more.
- Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. Learn more.
- The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce. Listen here.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
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