Intrapersonal Adventures With Chris Deputy

• Police Suspect Everett Area Man 84 Killed Missing Tenant
• Accused Killer of Tenant Now Charged With 2 Earlier Assaults
• Body found near Stampede Pass identified as Snohomish County homicide victim

It is extremely difficult from a victim's perspective to process all the emotions that are involved with finally having your experiences validated. At the same time, it is difficult to convey the cognitive dissonance that can happen from a victim's perspective.

1. When a victim has a compounded trauma in the #workforce with physical and emotional violations, our #colleagues and #leadership teams can lack the backstory references that make our sense of #safety at #work more challenging.
2. When #workers are relocated from their support systems, if there is compounded trauma, a toxic culture may seem too daunting a task to move towards addressing it effectively. To victims that have been through severe trauma, it can add to our sense of #MoralInjury.
3. In large, it has been experienced that most people do not know how to respond to a victim. Most especially so when rape and murder are involved in the trauma. The most common reaction is that people will ask, "Are you okay?" This question is a Boolean question that does not get to the important aspect of how we feel. A better question is, "How are you feeling?"

For those of us that have been through rigorous counseling to face the challenge of accepting what happened to us while navigating various paths that can help us move forward, we can work towards healthier mental health living. This is not easy. It takes a lot of deep digging to pull those skeletons out of our closet.

Facing shame can be damned arduous work. The common social narratives can compound the trauma despite the good intentions of many. Others react from a place of self-centeredness that can result in reflexive anger from the victim.

I've had to catch myself several times since I found out that #LloydEdwinRichmond finally lost control of his self-control