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Christian Family Life

By Christian Family Life

What started as a question “God you created marriage can you make it work?” soon became a statement “God, you created marriage you can make it work.” Thank you for joining us on the Christian family life podcast where we get into the good, the bad, and the ugly in our marriage relationships and mine God‘s word to see what it has to say about it.
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Reasons Marriages Fail Part Five of Six; Trials

Christian Family LifeNov 25, 2021

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Is Your Marriage Normal?

Is Your Marriage Normal?

What are we looking to to define if our marriage is normal? Today our team talks about what we should be looking to in order to help us define where we are at and what areas we need to grow in as individuals and as a couple to continue to strengthen our marriages.

Mar 21, 202433:13
Taking Out The Trash In Your Marriage!

Taking Out The Trash In Your Marriage!

On todays podcast we take the time to chat with Richard and Elizabeth Albertson, founders of Live The Life (livethelife.org). One of the tools they share today is titled, "Take Out The Trash". Listen in as we discuss this tool and a few others that will help you and your spouse in your everyday interactions!

Mar 14, 202436:27
Thriving In Our Marriage As We Release Shame In Our Lives!

Thriving In Our Marriage As We Release Shame In Our Lives!

Shame is a tool that Satan uses to keep us from moving forward and living a victorious life. Jesus brings conviction, forgiveness, and redemption to give us a life that is thriving in Him. This allows us to draw closer to the Lord and also to earthly relationships, starting with our spouse. Listen in today as we chat about the difference between shame and conviction and how we can thrive in our marriage when we are living free in the Lord.

Mar 07, 202432:31
The Impact Of 55 Years Of Marriage!

The Impact Of 55 Years Of Marriage!

On todays podcast Roland and Tammy interview Will and Cindy Goff who have celebrated 55 years of marriage. This podcast is so impactful because of God's redemption story and God's calling on a couple that is still answering His call on their lives to invest in other couples, and to help them thrive and understand God's purpose for their marriages.

Feb 29, 202436:33
Growing And Learning Over 30 Years Of Marriage!

Growing And Learning Over 30 Years Of Marriage!

Today, Roland and Tammy along with Gio and Suzy share what they have learned over three decades of marriage. You will be challenged and encouraged as they share what God has taught them and how they have applied Biblical faith principles along the way.

Feb 22, 202435:22
Pursuing Romance While Living In Reality!!

Pursuing Romance While Living In Reality!!

Joining us on todays podcast are Brandon and Lauren Piner. They share the excitement of dating and getting married, to the joys of sharing a life together, and then the blessings of raising a family. This conversation is a great reminder to pursue romance while living in all the realities of life!!
Feb 15, 202432:05
When God Intervenes And Transforms A Marriage!

When God Intervenes And Transforms A Marriage!

Join us today as Gray and Shelly Foshee share how God did a deep work in each of their lives after several years of a difficult marriage that ultimately transformed their marriage.

Feb 09, 202432:37
An Amazing God Tale!

An Amazing God Tale!

Regardless of what stage of marriage we are in, it's always good to hear an Amazing God Tale! "God Tales" are stories of God's love, care, and faithfulness in marriages and how those couples navigated the different seasons of life. Join us today as we chat with Ian and Nickie Connell and hear how God brought them together and what keeps them together and thriving.

Feb 01, 202432:07
Got Questions About Marriage?

Got Questions About Marriage?

Our CFL team had the privilege 0f partnering with Motor Racing Outreach for a Marriage Conference. At the conference we fielded some questions, but really didn't have the time to go in depth. Today we have taken those questions and spent time working through them. Hope the conversation today helps you get answers for similar questions you may have!!

Jan 25, 202437:13
Healthy Tensions In Your Marriage!

Healthy Tensions In Your Marriage!

Healthy tensions do not need to be negative. They can be positive, constructive, and they will always be there. Listen in today as we encourage and challenge you to create healthy patterns in dealing with tensions that enter into your marriage.

Jan 18, 202432:40
Reset Your Marriage

Reset Your Marriage

Is the grass really greener on the other side? We are the only ones that struggle with these issues? Things will never change? We should just focus on the kids? Divorce would be easier! Do you ask yourself some of these questions or ones similar? Satan continues to lie to us to keep us from pursing God's purpose in our lives and our marriage. Today we challenge you to hit the reset button!! Take a step back and hear the Truth from God!

Jan 11, 202438:05
#couplegoals

#couplegoals

Happy New Year!!! Today we talk about goals. How do we set up goals that will point us to the purpose God has for us as a couple, and create oneness in our marriage.

Here is a good start: Matthew 6:33“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Let's seek God out and what He wants for us and then we can create an environment to help us reflect His image as a couple.

Jan 04, 202435:13
Generosity in Your Marriage And Beyond!!

Generosity in Your Marriage And Beyond!!

When we think of generosity in the context of marriage, we typically envision a couple or a family being generous with others. But what would it look like if we were most generous to the one closest to us … to our spouse? Today our CFL team interviews one of the most generous couple we have met. Fred and Kelly Waite share with us their story and the "why" behind their generosity to each other, their family, and beyond!


Dec 28, 202340:31
Moving From Performance To "FAITH Love" In A Healthy Way!

Moving From Performance To "FAITH Love" In A Healthy Way!

It is imperative that faith-based values are balanced with an understanding of how they apply within a relationship. For example, forgiveness should be accompanied by understanding and movement towards resolution. It is not falling into a cycle of overlooking serious issues thereby enabling destructive behavior. Today our CFL team talks about the misuse of "FAITH Love" and steps you can take to move towards a healthy "FAITH Love" relationship.

Dec 21, 202338:29
Receiving The Gift Of "FAITH Love"

Receiving The Gift Of "FAITH Love"

Being loved by faith is such a special gift that can be given to each of us. It is the greatest gift ever given by God through His son Jesus, but it can also be and extension of our relationship with God that propels us to give the same gift to our spouse!! Let's not only learn how to give the gift, but also how to receive it. Join us as we discuss this topic on todays podcast.

Dec 14, 202329:14
Are You Loving Your Spouse By Faith or Performance?

Are You Loving Your Spouse By Faith or Performance?

It's easy to define a performance based marriage, but it is not as easy to define a faith based marriage. Join us as we share some thoughts on this topic as we recorded in front of a live audience at Trinity of Fairview in Fletcher, NC. We would like to give Sean and Kristin Froelich as well and Adam and Sherry Guice a special thank you for inviting us to join their church family on this weekend.

Dec 07, 202337:12
Cultivating Thankfulness In Your Home

Cultivating Thankfulness In Your Home

Join us today as we spend some time with Ryan and Marissa Pierce. They share a thought with us that will help us better understand how to cultivate thankfulness in our homes. That phrase is "Water your own Garden".

It is easy to look around and see others "gardens" and think you want that, but in all reality it is because someone is tending their own garden and we need to do the same to ours!! Thankfulness is cultivated, make the investment!

Nov 30, 202339:05
Are You Prioritizing Your Spouse?

Are You Prioritizing Your Spouse?

When we understand God's faith principle of provision, we will grasp that our spouse is God's gift to us and because of that we should desire to make sure we are prioritizing them above any other earthly relationship. This attitude will create in us a heart of thankfulness for the person God has brought to us! We would like to thank Ric and Kim Perez for hosting us to record this podcast in their back yard with several couples from the area!!

Nov 23, 202334:03
Are Thankful Thoughts In Your Head and Your Heart Toward Your Spouse?

Are Thankful Thoughts In Your Head and Your Heart Toward Your Spouse?

Thoughts come from many different places. The enemy may tell us lies, which can sometimes be partial truths, luring us into believing them. People may speak things over us, some true and some false.We may have our own thoughts, which can sometimes lead us down rabbit trails, spiraling us downwards. Today our team encourages you to check your head and your heart through the lens of scripture, and allow the Holy Spirit to guide your towards healthy thoughts about your spouse and how to better express those to them.

Nov 17, 202317:48
How Can We Be Thankful For Our Spouse?

How Can We Be Thankful For Our Spouse?

It is easy to default to the negatives about our spouse! The realities of life can quickly send us down a path that makes us question our relationship and future. One of the best ways to combat this is by being thankful for the good, the bad, and the not so good about your spouse! It allows you to look at your relationship through a lens of faith that can only come through the power of the Holy Spirit. Join us today as we chat about being grateful for your spouse.

Nov 10, 202336:06
Are You Choosing Your Spouse Over Your Friends?

Are You Choosing Your Spouse Over Your Friends?

Learning to transfer loyalty from your friends to your spouse is not as easy to do, especially if you have life long friends. Today our team talks about making sure our spouse is number one in our relationship and how we need to set healthy boundaries that will help your relationship thrive as well as with the friends you have.

Nov 02, 202336:58
Are The Children In The Way of Your Marriage?

Are The Children In The Way of Your Marriage?

Good healthy boundaries should create bridges not isolation. As you create boundaries with your children it should draw you closer to the Lord, your spouse, and your children. Helping our children understand how to respect the different relationships in the home will create a healthy environment for everyone. Listen in as we touch on this topic of boundaries with your children.
Oct 26, 202341:34
Are You Married To Your Spouse or Your Work?

Are You Married To Your Spouse or Your Work?

Often the word "Balance" is used to express one's idea of what a healthy life should look like. However, balance actually conveys the idea that everything in our lives should receive equal time and attention, including God. Isn't that contrary to God's Word? Listen in as we answer this question.

Oct 19, 202338:01
In-laws or Out-laws?

In-laws or Out-laws?

Leave and Cleave is an important Biblical principle, but how are we using it? Are we pushing our extended family away or are we creating a bridge that creates a healthy environment that everyone can thrive in and enjoy. Today our CFL team takes the time to talk through boundaries with the in-laws!!

Oct 12, 202337:45
Boundaries vs. Bridges!!

Boundaries vs. Bridges!!

The purpose of boundaries should be to establish health...not create division! Many times boundaries are weaponized to create space for what we want, not necessarily what we need. Listen in today as we encourage you to build boundaries that will also create bridges for healthy relationships.

Oct 05, 202331:55
Celebrating Children In Our Marriage!

Celebrating Children In Our Marriage!

God's second purpose for marriage is to reproduce a Godly heritage. There are so many negatives that our culture throws at us as couples when it comes to children. "They cost too much", "This world we live in is a mess, why bring children in to it", "Children will be a hinderance to what you want to accomplish". Our goal in this podcast is for you to see it from God's lens. When we do, we will see it is something to celebrate!!

Sep 28, 202331:24
Are You Wrestling Hurricanes in Your Marriage?

Are You Wrestling Hurricanes in Your Marriage?

Brad and Tiffany Haines, author of Wrestling Hurricanes, join us on this podcast that was recorded in front of a live audience at Haerfest Coffee and hosted by Mazevo Church. Brad and Tiffany share how the trials they faced and are currently facing are realities that can very easily destroy their marriage. It is a journey that led Tiffany Haines to answer the “why” questions. And, spoiler alert, the answer is simply the glory of God. This is a powerful interview that will help you and your spouse release the tensions and help you rest in the Creator!!
Sep 21, 202331:31
What Sustains A Marriage And What Legacy Can We Leave?

What Sustains A Marriage And What Legacy Can We Leave?

Sally Meredith, co-founder of Christian Family Life, joins us to share what sustained her marriage to Don and the legacy they have left for their children and grandchildren! 54 years of marriage is amazing, but it didn't come without it's challenges. Listen in today as we are encouraged to look to God to sustain our marriage, and the blessings that can flow out of it to impact the next generation

Sep 14, 202337:07
Redemption And Hope For Your Marriage

Redemption And Hope For Your Marriage

On todays episode we continue our conversation with Will and Cindy Goff. There story of how God completely restored what had been broken is inspiring and will bring you hope for your marriage!
Sep 10, 202332:51
A Vibrant Marriage, From Beginning to End!!

A Vibrant Marriage, From Beginning to End!!

What newlywed couple wants to know what skills will be needed about future events such as child rearing, midlife changes, empty nesters or retirement at the time of their wedding!  Newlyweds have many years to prepare for those occasions!  Well, here we are, now in our 70’s……how did we get here so quickly? Listen in today and be encouraged as Will and Cindy Goff share some rich information on how you can have a vibrant marriage at the beginning and as the years go on!

Aug 31, 202338:32
Is Your Marriage Standing On A Strong Foundation?

Is Your Marriage Standing On A Strong Foundation?

We are joined today by Zach and Abi Schneider as they share some key elements that they included in their dating, engaged, and now married life to help them begin building a strong foundation that will last a lifetime! Whether you are dating, engaged, or married for 40 plus years, you will be blessed and encouraged by this conversation.

Aug 24, 202335:01
Getting Back To The Basics Of Marriage!

Getting Back To The Basics Of Marriage!

Answering questions like Why Get Married?, Are Compatibility and Good Intentions Enough?, How Can We Live Happily Ever After?, How Can We Cultivate Authentic Intimacy?. Today we just touch the tip of the iceberg as we discuss some foundational truths to help you build a strong marriage, or help you to get back to the basics and help rebuild and strengthen your marriage so you can begin to thrive in it.

Aug 17, 202335:09
Establishing A Right Foundation In Your Marriage!

Establishing A Right Foundation In Your Marriage!

Establishing a strong foundation before you even get married is so important. If you are dating or engaged make the time to have the conversations and go through pre-marital counseling to help you with this process. If you are married and have drifted a little, take a listen to Daniel and Rachels as they encourage us with personal stories on how they planned and built this foundation that they continue to build on. It's never to late to be reminded of your early dating days and your love story and hit refresh.




Aug 11, 202337:08
Setting Goals In Your Marriage!

Setting Goals In Your Marriage!

On todays episode we take time to talk about the importance of setting goals. We are fans of living in the moment, but also believe that you need to pray over and communicate your dreams and goals. It is a great practice to help you define your marriage mission statement that God has given both of you and how you will execute it. Join us as we discuss this important topic.

Aug 03, 202334:45
Practical Financial Advice For Couples!

Practical Financial Advice For Couples!

Reed Crosson from Ron Blue Trust ronblue.com, shares some practical financial advice that you and your spouse can implement that will help relieve some of the tensions your marriage may be feeling.

Jul 27, 202337:16
Talking Money and Marriage!

Talking Money and Marriage!

Today we spend time with Reed Crosson of Ron Blue Trust (https://www.ronblue.com). In the first part of a two part interview, Reed helps us understand the purpose of money and how we can implement that into our marriage. Reed shares that money is a tool, a test, and a testimony! Great information that will greatly impact your marriage in a positive way!

Jul 20, 202330:03
Celebrating A Milestone: Episode 100!

Celebrating A Milestone: Episode 100!

Celebrating milestones in life are important! Today our CFL team has some fun celebrating a ministry milestone of 100 episodes for the Christian Family Life Podcast. Listen in and enjoy!

Jul 13, 202326:55
Can Blessings Come From Trials?

Can Blessings Come From Trials?

We are conditioned to believe that nothing good can come from a trial. In todays episode we discuss what scripture says about trials and how we can look at them from a different perspective. Dare we say even as a blessing.

Jul 06, 202335:56
The Truth About Trials!

The Truth About Trials!

Join us today as we talk about the truth about trials. You’re either in one, coming out of one, or getting ready to go into one. It’s a crazy cycle that we all need to learn to navigate.
Jun 29, 202329:51
Does Your Communication Help or Hurt?

Does Your Communication Help or Hurt?

Conflict within a marriage cannot be avoided. Scripture tells us not to be surprised (1 Peter 4:12) when trials come our way. How we communicate within those trials with our spouse will either help or hurt the situation. It is important to take the time to understand your go to style of communication and ask the questions, why do I communicate in that way? Do I need to change the way I communicate with my spouse?

Jun 22, 202340:21
Communication: Life or Death To Your Marriage?

Communication: Life or Death To Your Marriage?

Marriage communication problems were sited as the most common factor leading to divorce. How you communicate is such a big piece of the puzzle when it comes to your marriage health. We need to humble ourselves and honestly search the heart to figure out why we communicate the way we do! Is there something within my heart that is influencing the way I communicate to my spouse? Today we go to the basics of how to get to healthy communication!

Jun 15, 202341:31
What's A Great Way To Invest In Your Marriage?

What's A Great Way To Invest In Your Marriage?

Gray and Shelly Foshee share with us how important it is to invest in other marriages. By doing so, the Foshee, were able to notice how much of an impact it had on their own marriage. This is a good reminder to not keep your relationship isolated from others, but find ways to care for, help, and encourage other couples, as well as, receive from others. Using the resource "Two Becoming One" was a great tool for them to do just that! For more info on how you can be a marriage discipler check out christianfamilylife.com



Jun 08, 202330:31
God's Power Changed Our Marriage And Now Fuels Us To Invest In Others!

God's Power Changed Our Marriage And Now Fuels Us To Invest In Others!

Join us today as we talk with with Gray and Shelly Foshee and hear their story of redemption that has fueled them to become marriage missionaries. It's amazing what God can do when we think there is nothing that can help. Gray and Shelly are excited about continuing to share what God has done in their marriage with so many others.

Jun 01, 202327:34
Are You Feeling Alone and Hopeless in Your Marriage?

Are You Feeling Alone and Hopeless in Your Marriage?

LeWayne and Yasmine Young share with us the ups and downs of marriage and how they leaned on God to give them hope in the midst of navigating a blended family!! Often times we believe the lies that we have no hope and nothing will ever change, or this is too hard!! We hope that the Youngs story will encourage you to believe that in Christ there is always hope and redemption!!

May 25, 202330:46
Remerge Marriage? What is it?

Remerge Marriage? What is it?

Join us on todays podcast as we interview Lewayne and Yasmine Young about the tensions in your marriage that come from a blended family. LeWayne and Yasmine help us understand the term Remerge and what that looks like when two families come together.

May 18, 202327:31
Great Advice To Strengthen Your Marriage!!!

Great Advice To Strengthen Your Marriage!!!

Many people ask us, what is the best piece of advice you can give us to make our marriage better? Our answer today is very different than if we were to have answered this question 20 plus years ago. Listen in as we share what we believe to be great advice to help strengthen you marriage and for it to thrive.

May 11, 202331:02
It’s Worth It!

It’s Worth It!

Your marriage is worth fighting for. Enjoy mountain top experiences as you work through the valley. Today our team shares why the fight is worth it and important.
May 05, 202329:27
Getting Back To The Basics Of Marriage!!!

Getting Back To The Basics Of Marriage!!!

Freedom to love and accept your spouse is based on your relationship with God!! Letting God's love and forgiveness for you (The Gospel) flow through you to others starting right in your own home with your spouse! Pray for each other and pray that the Holy Spirit help you move your marriage from performance to faith. Check out our resource "Two Becoming One" for more insight to this topic. https://www.christianfamilylife.com/cfl-store/



Apr 28, 202332:59
Enjoy Your Marriage, Don't Just Endure It!!

Enjoy Your Marriage, Don't Just Endure It!!

"I wish there was a way to know you were in the good old days before you actually left them." Andy Bernard said this in "The Office". God not only has purpose for your marriage as well as providing us our personal perfect provision, but God wants us to truly enjoy your marriage! Be reminded of the good times, enjoy the rewards and milestones that come with staying married. Get through the difficult times to see your marriage strengthened on the other side!! Join us as we are reminded of the good old days and start creating new ones!

Apr 20, 202332:18
Part 2 Interview with Co-Author of "Secrets of Sex and Marriage" Dr. Michael Sytsma

Part 2 Interview with Co-Author of "Secrets of Sex and Marriage" Dr. Michael Sytsma

Sex is one of the most common marriage issues (for example, nearly 80% of couples are mismatched in how often they want it), but it doesn't have to be that way. Listen in as we continue our talk with Dr. Michael Sytsma!

Apr 13, 202334:50