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Friend In Your Head

Friend In Your Head

By Von Decarlo
Stand-up comedian and author, Von Decarlo, dishes out practical advice for everyday life to all of her loyal listeners. The Friend In Your Head podcast, formerly known as the Coach Von Podcast, has a new name, but is the same hard hitting, heart to heart show with honest discussions about all aspects of life and relationships, serving up lots of giggles. Be a part of the show by calling in and leaving a question for Von to answer on the podcast.
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Perspective: Life Happens in the Middle
Von Decarlo discusses how to keep a positive mindset, as well as the sisterhood she saw on the show Verzuz between legendary singers Gladys Knight and Patti LaBelle.
45:56
September 14, 2020
Domestic Violence: Double Standards
Von Decarlo discusses the double standards of domestic violence and how dangerous (and insulting) it is to perpetuate the idea that it’s ok for women to inflict physical abuse onto men.
49:38
September 7, 2020
Letting Go: Forgive & Accept
Von Decarlo discusses living life on purpose through forgiving, not forgetting.
53:59
August 31, 2020
DATING: Lies, Deal Breakers, & Long Distance
Von Decarlo discusses dating with purpose, as well as, various aspects of how online dating, new normal COVID dating, and long distance relationships can be good for getting to know each other’s true intentions and deal breakers.
41:11
August 24, 2020
Transition My Friend
Von Decarlo discusses her transition back into comedy after sheltering in place for over 4 months, and all the dark voices of discouragement she had to fight through in her head.
50:52
August 17, 2020
HUNGRY
Von Decarlo discusses how hungry she is on her new juice cleanse diet, and how hungry Jonathan Isaac (Orlando Magic) is for attention by choosing to not kneel for the national anthem or wear a Black Lives Matter T-shirt.
39:05
August 3, 2020
Reinvent Yourself
Von Decarlo discusses keeping peace of mind and the epiphany she had that made her look at her mother’s slow cancer recovery as a blessing. This episode is all about finding ways to reinvent yourself while staying true to who you are, like Nate Robinson venturing into boxing.
36:21
July 26, 2020
Shut Up and Geography
Von Decarlo slams Laura Ingraham for not knowing that Toronto is in Canada, while discussing the possibility of applying for dual citizenship in light of mask-less, messy America.
40:03
July 19, 2020
Red Table of Entanglement Flipped
Von Decarlo discusses the double standards of the Jada Pinkett Smith entanglement situation, and takes her listeners on a what if it was Will, not Jada journey.
45:39
July 13, 2020
Airborne Kanye Cooties
Von Decarlo discusses Kanye West’s presidential plans, & the impossibility of keeping corona cooties out of the NBA Disney bubble, especially with new reports coming out about COVID-19 being airborne.
47:00
July 6, 2020
Noose Knot a Noose
Von Decarlo discusses the noose found in Nascar driver’s, Bubba Wallace garage, Vince Carter’s retirement, The Five Heartbeats Documentary and more.
39:12
June 29, 2020
It’s My Birthday! Put a NBA Ring On It
Von Decarlo discusses the coronavirus smart rings that the NBA staff and players will receive when they restart their season at Disney Orlando, as well as the Trump rally debacle in Tulsa. Her birthday is June 24th, and she wants the NBA to put one of their covid rings on it.
34:04
June 22, 2020
2020 - Year of Vision in HD
Von Decarlo discusses the ironic symbolism of 2020 - the year of vision here to make everything crystal clear. The world is in HD now, and everyone must adjust. Talking points include the murder of George Floyd and his funeral, Colin Kaepernick, Roger Goodell, LeBron James, Laura Ingraham, the movie "10,000 Black Men Named George", and more.
46:14
June 8, 2020
Everybody VS Racism
Von Decarlo discusses the George Floyd protests going global and his death being an undeniable eye opener for police brutality and racism, as well as, the problem with saying there are only “a few bad apples” when referencing bad cops, and the JR Smith viral video beat down of a person who vandalized his car.
36:26
June 1, 2020
Party In The USA
Von Decarlo struggles to make sense of America’s re-opening strategy, and her own fate of having to decide if she should get back in the game come July like the NBA, or stay at home indefinitely; all while dealing with her neighbors partying in the background.
30:44
May 25, 2020
The Last Dance at the Drive In
Von Decarlo discusses why she missed The Last Dance on ESPN to go on an adventurous drive upstate (NY) through Trump town in order to see a double feature at a drive in movie theatre.
33:45
May 18, 2020
Hunted
Von Decarlo discusses the public outcry of the Ahmaud Arbery case in which the suspects of his murder were not arrested (in Georgia) for months, and the irony of former Laker Shannon Brown (also in Georgia) being arrested and charged almost immediately after firing shots at two strangers who entered his home. She also points out the hypocrisy of people who attacked LeBron James online for using his platform to speak out on being a black man hunted.
42:08
May 11, 2020
Mind In The Middle
Von Decarlo discusses what she is doing to keep her mind in the middle of doing nothing and something during lockdown 2020, especially since there are no sports to watch. She also lends her opinion on Joe Biden’s early commitment to choosing a female running mate now that he is officially the Democratic candidate for the upcoming presidential election.
27:29
April 11, 2020
Coronavirus: Practical Advice and Tips
Who do you want to save you in the apocalypse? Will Smith from the movie, I Am Legend, or Daryl from the Walking Dead? Von Decarlo gives her answer to this, as well as practical tips and advice on how to prevent getting sick, and knowing the Coronavirus symptoms if you are sick. All this and more, including her election year conspiracy theory.
48:19
March 14, 2020
Mamba Out
Von Decarlo discusses the untimely death of Kobe Bryant.
51:25
February 4, 2020
Equal Pay, Equal Booty
Von Decarlo discusses the US Women’s soccer team’s pay discrepancy, and Serena Williams left booty cheek pic.
33:49
July 13, 2019
Lets Talk About It Live (Special Live Recording #1)
Coach Von Podcast live recording featuring comedians Mike Yard, Dave Temple, and Alex English with special guest Garren James, from Showtime's hit show Gigolos.
27:47
June 21, 2019
To The Left, To The Left Becky. Literally.
Beyonce's personal space gets invaded courtside by the Warriors owner's wife in Game 3 of the finals when she leaned over Queen Bey to talk to her husband Jay Z; sparking a conversation on this episode of the Coach Von Podcast about jealousy and insecurity vs. respect. Von Decarlo explains why men often get these things confused.
30:21
June 6, 2019
Kill Von D
Inspired by a moment with the song "Kill Jay Z", Von Decarlo shares an epiphany of how you must let your old self die in order to allow your new self to survive.
38:44
May 29, 2019
Fired On My Day Off
Exclusive Coach Von Podcast. From her hotel room in Los Angeles, CA, Von Decarlo discusses why she is no longer on the NBA Sirius XM. This independent woman and comedian was censored and let go without warning, or reasonable explanation. Become a Patron to watch her recording this podcast and more exclusive content. Visit CoachVon.com for to see how!
26:34
April 26, 2019
Karma, Courage, & Doritos
Inspired by her Instagram Live session, Von Decarlo discusses how Karma, both good and bad, returns to you, and how you must have the courage to live your best life; even with Doritos staring at you from across the room.
48:38
December 5, 2018
I'm Back! Like Derrick Rose.
After being gone for the summer to prepare for her new show on Sirius XM NBA Radio, Von Decarlo is back from hiatus and ready to drop 50 on your head like Derrick Rose did to the Jazz.
29:52
November 6, 2018
Big Nate
It’s Von Decarlo’s birthday weekend and she spends it doing comedy in Houston. She attends the opening games for season 2 of the Big 3 and had a fun time trolling and roasting the games, and meeting the legendary Dr. J. The discussion takes a heart melting turn as she talks about Big 3 superstar Nate Robinson, an 11 year NBA vet, and his struggles with mental illness and depression.
31:51
June 25, 2018
Logic vs Emotions: Don’t Punch a Wall
Von Decarlo took such a big L betting on LeBron James and the Cavs in the finals against the Warriors that it made her re-read her own book. Heavy emphasis on making good decisions with logic over emotions is discussed in this episode using LeBron’s decision to punch an inanimate object after game one leaving him with a broken hand, as well as his future decision on where he will play moving forward. Examples from Von Decarlo’s own life are also used to dig deep into this topic.
33:08
June 11, 2018
LeBama
This week’s podcast was inspired by a baby picture of LeBron James that Von Decarlo posted on her Instagram which, in turn, prompted a lot of negative comments. The NBA finals are discussed as well as insecurity, jealousy, and who should be MVP.
32:55
June 4, 2018
Memorial Day Conspiracy Theory
A CP3-less Houston Rockets lose game 7 at home to the Warriors and Von Decarlo explores conspiracies on both ends, including her own Memorial Day woes.
33:35
May 29, 2018
Don’t Get Stuck In Your Ways
In this jam packed episode of the Coach Von Podcast, Von Decarlo encourages you to win by making adjustments. Ball is life and she discusses the adjustments of teams, players and coaches; from the ECF (Cavs vs Boston) and WCF (Warriors vs Rockets), to the Knicks new head coach David Fizdale, Philly’s lost process, Becky Hammon possibly becoming the first woman head coach of the NBA and more.
37:06
May 16, 2018
The Process of Good Seeds
Today on the Coach Von Podcast, Von Decarlo met Iyanla Vanzant, the writer of the famous self-help book Acts Of Faith after doing Power Hour on Sirius XM Urban View. She discusses the importance of planting good seed‘s, and trusting your own process; while questioning if Philly fans still trust their process as the Sixers looks to possibly get swept in the second round. She also puts the microscope on Kristaps Porzingis and questions where his seeds are being planted.
35:03
May 8, 2018
All Balls Down
All bow down to King James and Michelle Wolf in this episode of the Coach Von Podcast where Von Decarlo discusses the no flinching fear they both had under intense pressure. Love, basketball, and comedy is pondered as Von Decarlo perceives life in the information age and Trump era as an ongoing crossover episode of Black Mirror and The Truman Show, with no Truman. But wait, there’s Kanye West.
32:16
April 30, 2018
Bronchella Formation
Today on the Coach Von Podcast, Von Decarlo gets you into formation and catches you up on everything in this first round from the Cavs suits helping to tie up the series with the Pacers despite the WWE antics of Lance Stephenson to Harden’s airballs, and much more. Coach Pop losing his wife of 40 years is discussed.
30:33
April 23, 2018
First Round Predictions
It’s day one of the 2018 NBA playoffs and Von Decarlo sets her first round predictions.
15:45
April 14, 2018
Blacklisted
Feeling a little under the weather and over confident, Von Decarlo declares herself the MVP of being the coolest girl in relationships, but feels blacklisted like the real MVP LeBron James. Ben Simmons Rookie of the Year candidacy is discussed.
29:49
April 9, 2018
Ball Is Life, Live It Like It’s Golden
Snowed in on the Coach Von Podcast, Von Decarlo chimes in on Vince Carter’s tears, Trey Burke’s swag, John Wall’s return, the future of the Knicks and more. Trying to stay optimistic, Von Decarlo decideds that the only way the Knicks have a chance in this lifetime, is her becoming the owner of the franchise someday. Keeping her head above water, she encourages everyone to appreciate their life and health.
30:23
April 2, 2018
Love Brought Me Home To Steeler Nation
Von Decarlo is coming off the bench from New York to visit her mom in Pittsburgh as she goes through her chemo and radiation treatments like the good sport that she is. Throughout this episode, she ponders if Odell Beckham Jr. is irreplaceable, and discusses having mental stability through hard times while questioning if Kevin Durant has what it takes to go all the way without Steph Curry.
30:29
March 27, 2018
No Knicks Tank
Today on the Coach Von Podcast, Von Decarlo declares no tanking in New York City. She trashes the idea of losing to win in the NBA, and calls out refs for abusing their power. She discusses what effects losing can have on your self-esteem and compares the work ethic and performance of an athlete on the court to being a comedian on stage.
35:12
March 20, 2018
Let My Players Go
Freedom rings on the Coach Von Podcast today as our loving host Von Decarlo makes a plea to the NCAA, as well as Drake, to stop taking advantage of their power over players. A discussion of hip-hop culture and swag ensues as she acknowledges the death of legendary rapper Craig Mack, and the tragic helicopter crash in the east river near Roosevelt Island in New York that claimed the life of Tristan Hill, a member of the Westchester Knicks franchise.
30:45
March 13, 2018
Calculating March Madness
It’s time for March Madness and Coach Von respectfully borrows the popular hashtag #TimesUp to call out the NCAA on their alternative facts. She vents about the Ocsars while congratulating Kobe Bryant on his win and encourages everyone to have “Killmonger” confidence. No excuses are accepted as she highlights the bravery and discipline of NFL superstar prospect Shaquem Griffin.
41:03
March 5, 2018
Date Night In Wakanda
It’s date night on the Coach Von Podcast and Von Decarlo takes herself out on a date to see Black Panther. She reviews the film and finds herself in love with every character (literally) and decides she needs to get in shape so she can be in future Black Panther films. She considers the Warriors the only team in the NBA that could actually be from Wakanda, but there is only one thing that disqualifies them, and its the same thing that might keep Von Decarlo from her starring role - high yellow swirls.
30:28
February 26, 2018
All Star Reservoir Dogs
It’s NBA All Star weekend and Coach Von takes on the responsibility of assigning current players, as well as old, to characters in the classic Quentin Tarantino movie, Reservoir Dogs. She discusses the slam dunk contest, the opening ceremony starring Kevin Hart, the butchered National Anthem, the halftime show, and the Team LeBron win. She gives the NBA a warning notice, letting them know that the fake MVP trophy at the All Star game does not replace the real MVP award that LeBron gets robbed of every yea
44:09
February 19, 2018
What’s Love Got To Do With Buckets
Von Decarlo is all up in her feelings today on the Coach Von Podcast as she celebrates the “New Cavs” beatdown on the Boston Celtics home floor. She also celebrates the return of D Wade to the Miami Heat, and the happy Union he appears to have with his beautiful wife, despite their many bumps in the road; a side baby bump to be exact. Single for her 6th Valentine’s Day, she wishes her daughter a happy birthday, and illustrates love and loyalty through her discussion about Porzingis and the NY Knicks.
33:07
February 12, 2018
Super Bowl Side Eye
Von Decarlo encapsulates Super Bowl 2018 as she breaks down the opening ceremony, halftime show, and the racial undertones of the game in general. Remaining firm in defense of King James and the recent Cavs vs Rockets blowout, she addresses her social media trolls and their unreasonable desire to debate. The overall, all-inclusive tone of this episode emphasizes how embracing another person’s point of view does not necessarily make you apathetic, but empathic.
48:47
February 5, 2018
Who’s Your Pick?
Today on the Coach Von Podcast, Von Decarlo talks about the Grammy’s, Celtics vs Warriors, Ronda Rousey joining the WWE, Vince McMahon’s XFL plans and much more in this jam packed episode. Steph Curry not being front of mind in barbershop talk when people are naming their favorite picks is brought to the table for discussion. She also goes on defense when tackling the idea of Tom Brady vs Michael Jordan for consideration of greatest athlete to ever live.
43:35
January 29, 2018
Debatable Haters
Today on the Coach Von Podcast, Von Decarlo debates the non-debatable notion of irrational conversations and haters. The current downslope of the Cavs is discussed as we learn how to take our losses and turn them into wins. Von Decarlo encourages personal growth through accountability and honest assessments of yourself as well as others. She also makes a prediction regarding who will be the breakout star of the Kardashian kids, and it is not Tristan Thompson’s future baby with Khloe.
32:31
January 22, 2018
For a King Celebrate
Do you know who the first black player in the NBA was? Do you know what team they were signed to? What year was the first slam dunk credited? It’s MLK day on the Coach Von Podcast and Von Decarlo proudly shares some history and pointers on how you can “take a day to love somebody” by evaluating yourself and the people who you choose to be on your team.
32:32
January 15, 2018
The Stable Genius
Will the real stable genius please stand up? Von Decarlo discusses comedians like Dave Chappelle and athletes like LeBron James mental stability vs President 45, as well as creating a lifestyle in which you live your goals 365 days a year instead of making New Year resolutions that you can’t keep. Letting go is the theme of this first episode of the year utilizing NBA superstars as examples. NBA All Star voting is debated, as well as Draymond Green’s comments about NBA officiating and replacing all the
40:02
January 8, 2018
Stocking Stuffer
It’s Christmas Day on the Coach Von Podcast and Von Decarlo gives her listeners a little stocking stuffer of inspiration to help every lonely heart get through the day. She shoots her shot with Christmas game day predictions, and discusses why she has had a lack of hope in the Knicks despite their current success. She expresses how that lack of faith has been parallel in other areas of her life.
33:00
December 25, 2017
Knicks Neutrality
Net Neutrality has a major play in this episode as Von Decarlo discusses how the powers that be plan to control the content of what we see much like how they control modern day television (news) and cable, and how prior to the freedom of the internet, there were people who could deny that things like policy brutality even existed. Von Decarlo also discusses the difficulty of letting go of people and vices, and Carmelo Anthony’s somewhat neutral and very lukewarm welcome back return to the garden.
35:58
December 18, 2017
Christmas Balls are Ringing
Today on the Coach Von Podcast Von Decarlo talks about being “guilty until proven innocent” and our pro athletes being at the top of the food chain when it comes to political correctness and integrity. LaVar Ball removes his son LiAngelo from UCLA and signs both him and his youngest son LaMelo to Lonzo’s agent, disqualifying both of them for NCAA eligibility, and Von Decarlo is in full agreement with LaVar’s decision. She discusses parenting, lonely eating, dating and the upcoming NBA Christmas game
37:50
December 11, 2017
Full Court Convo w Courtney Renalds
This week on the Coach Von Podcast, Von Decarlo is in studio with comedian Courtney Reynolds for his podcast “Full Court Comedy”, recorded live on Stationhead. The two go at it regarding age, trial by social media, Stephon Marbury’s career in China, the Knicks, and more. By the end of the show, the only thing they seemed to have worked out for sure, is that LeBron James is NOT a weed head. Or is he?
1:00:12
December 4, 2017
Family & Player Ties
Von Decarlo is on an early morning train ride back to New York City after visiting her family in Pittsburgh. She talks about cutting meat out of her diet when she finds it hard to eat the delicious early Thanksgiving meal with her family. Like Kyrie, she’s just done eating a bunch of animals. Thoughts of player ties and the relationships they have with their teams emerge as she discusses the idea of being loyal to a fault. Demarcus Cousins and Kobe Bryant serve as examples of good and bad relationships.
35:30
November 20, 2017
In The Middle
This week on the Coach Von Podcast, Von Decarlo explores middle child syndrome, and blames LiAngelo Ball’s recent woes on not having his own signature shoe. Was his arrest in China a cry out for help? She also discusses the difficulties of the upcoming holiday season, and her plans to visit her family in Pittsburgh.
30:54
November 13, 2017
Slice of Humble Pie
Von Decarlo takes several slices of humble pie to the head as she discusses the Cleveland Cavaliers. While she’s not quite jumping ship on her early predictions for King and company, she acknowledges that right now, it looks as if the King needs Kyrie, not the other way around as she so boldly stated after Kyrie Irving’s departure to the Boston Celtics. She blames her current basketball predictions on empty nest syndrome and her full time commitment to stand up comedy.
33:43
November 6, 2017
#MeToo Gone Wild
Out of context again? Von Decarlo finds herself wrapped up in a Twitter beef with strangers and a so called friend when her tweets are taken out of context after she calls out the misuse of the hashtag “#MeToo”. Everything seems out of whack this week as she lives in an alternate reality where she enjoys the Lakers win over the Wizards, and is dismayed by Knicks win over the Cavs in the Cavs 3rd loss in a row. Thank God for comedy!
48:08
October 30, 2017
Opening Week, Daddy Got Balls
It's opening week for the 2017/18 NBA season and Von Decarlo is there for all of the action. Well, sort of, as she tries to figure out her comedy schedule with game nights. In this jam-packed episode she discusses her mixed feelings about Hoodie Melo, suggests that Lavar Ball set his son Lonzo up to be a target on purpose, is in awe with Swaggy P being a fireball new edition to the Warriors, and so much more!
34:12
October 20, 2017
Full Court, Empty Nest
Von Decarlo looks to fill her empty nest syndrome with basketball and comedy. She discusses the NBA opening night schedule and her biggest pet peeve, the Secaucus replay center. She explains why she decided against doing predictions this season, and goes in on JR Smith's comment about Kyrie Irving being the greatest offensive player he's ever seen.
30:57
October 16, 2017
Out of Context Offense
Cam Newton, Nelly, and pre-season basketball games are at the top of the list on today's episode while Von Decarlo tries to decipher whether or not the controversial Dove ad is offensive, or just taken out of context. She also discusses the dangers of being found guilty by accusation, and trial by Instagram and Twitter.
32:09
October 9, 2017
What's Going On?
The official launch is here! Von Decarlo speaks on the mass shooting in Las Vegas and the irony of the San Francisco 49'ers posting a picture of them locking arms and taking a knee as a team with the caption "together", without Colin Kaepernick. Sports and music used to be the escape for most people, and what typically brings people together, but now what? She also touches on Adam Silver and 2017/18 NBA predictions.
30:39
October 2, 2017
Still In The Intro Phase w James Goff
Comedian James Goff joins Von Decarlo to discuss the many issues surrounding Colin Kaepernick and the Take A Knee movement, Carmelo Anthony being traded to OKC, Kyrie Irving being weird on First Take, Lebron James new attitude, and much more.
59:32
September 26, 2017
Who Is Coach Von? Part 2
In this episode of the Coach Von podcast, Von Decarlo further discusses her background and how the name Coach Von morphed into having a double meaning. She speaks about her book "Speak Fluent Man, a memoir about her relationship with the late Comedian Patrice O'Neal.
26:30
September 26, 2017
Who is Coach Von?
In this introductory episode, Von Decarlo tells us the origin of the name "Coach Von" and gives listeners a taste of what they can expect on the show moving forward. She touches on the NBA, upcoming WWE events, her beloved Mr. Socko puppet, and more. She describes how a person's loyalty to their favorite team, or lack there of, can translate into their real life relationships.
25:29
September 26, 2017