The Coaches Way With S & J

NLP is a great way to instill more positive change within your life, in various areas. 

One of the ways is the 6 step re-frame. 

What I love about this episode, is that it's great for your car ride if you want to listen to something informative, inspirational, and practical. It's just under 20 minutes, and we list out all 6 steps. 

1st step starts at 3:12, then we go into detail for everything else

A list of the 6 steps. 

1. What do you want?

2. What behaviour is getting in the way of what you actually want?

3. What is the positive intention behind that behaviour? (the one that's getting in the way)

4. What are 3 other behaviours that would accomplish that positive intention from the previous question??

5. Are you willing to take these new actions instead of your previous behaviour routine? 

6. Is there any part of you that would object to taking these actions??

Confidence is a big thing, especially in todays crazy world. 

So what do you do?? How do you build it? Is there ONE magic thing you can do, and it automatically comes?

Not really...

But we talk about habits, action steps, state of mind, and al things that have a part to play in you becoming a BETTER you. 

Shownotes:

:25 - Radio Maria

3:00 - Confidence for men and women

3:20 - MoMonday (motivational mondays)

5:07 - What does confidence mean to you? What it means to me. 

6:45 - Jon’s take on confidence

7:25 - My MoMonday talk topic on having fun, despite of fear being present

10:25 - Jon’s NLP talk

11:40 - Small steps, for example - doing video is scary, but it’s a small step in the right direction. 

12:50 - Pitfall feeling in stomach

16:00 - The more you do something, the more you realize that the earth is still spinning, there are worst care scenarios. Your confidence is more a state of mind, and everything around you is still going on, it’s still happening. 

19:00 - Situations that bring you down. Each different situation requires the same approach mentally, BUT require different action steps.

25:15 - Asking what you think of when you hear the term Alpha Male. Negative connotations.  

28:10 Confidence in general, but other areas may be iffy. - Connect with the internal stream, and let out the joy. 

32:45 - Liquid Courage

37:30 - Ask yourself are all areas of life where they want them to be. 

Jon & I dive into the concept of male and female energies. We all have the, but we just use them at different times depending on the situation. 

There might have been times where you've been more aggressive than your partner, or you've been more calmer.

There may have been times where you've had this great vision, and you followed through no matter what. 

These are all examples of the different energies at play. 

I'll leave them time stamps here. 

If you have resonated with some of the things said, then please share this with the people you know :)

P.S. There were some technical difficulties, but it was all good!

Timestamps! 

:53 - What do people think when they hear masculine and feminine energy

3:35 - What’s your balance??

4:42 - Masculine energy - what is it?

6:15 - Female energy

8 - Back to balance

15 - Mine and Jon’s side

16 - Not a matter of “having” it, but it’s just

using it, and when you use it

18 - Self audit

20 - Partners wanting a certain “energy” to come out a bit more

29 - Got both energies, here’s how you know

Jon and I go into SPACE BABY! 

True, we don't directly talk about coaching, but it does have it's part to play within the whole space realm, and you'll see that within the podcast. 

With TRILLIONS of stars and what not, space is huge, like absolutely huge. it's no wonder that your head might hurt if you start thinking about it too much! 

Have a listen, and enjoy getting lost in thought :)

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2:00 - Space, and the existential properties of it. It’s vastness, and what it means to you. 

3:40 - We are small, literally

6:15 - Hubble poignant that telescope

9:00 - Our galaxy alone - 20 billion

11:35 - Picture this in your head

16:00 - Blow someones mind

21: You choose what you believe in

26: Distraction

You can check out Jon's blog post about spiral dynamics here:

https://torontoperformancecoaching.com/2018/09/20/spiral-dynamics/

Basically put, SD is the study of understanding human nature. There are many models, this just happens to be one of them. 

There are 7-8 different levels, and each one falls under a category of traits. 

I've listed the colours in the timestamps below. 

This is interesting, because in your life and the many relationships that play a role, each one of you is a different "colour". 

How you interact with one another depends on what your "colour" is. 

Have a listen, enjoy, and share with people who you know will get use out of this!

3:00 - Model of how to understand human behaviour

4:40 - Different colours/levels

6:05 - First Level

8:40 - Second level

10:15 - Red

15:50 - Blue

21:20 - Orange

27:30 - Jon makes fun of my for taking 2-3 minute showers

29:35 - Green

33:20 - Yellow

This one's a beauty.

Anthony and I dive deep into your thought patterns, how it actually affects your day to day, and what you can do to BREAK the pattern if it doesn't serve you.  

At the end of the day, if it doesn't serve us, then why have it as part of our routine?   

For example. We briefly mention about looking at your phone the first thing in the morning. What if we were to ask, why?  

-We speak about meditations, and how you can apply that in different ways.  

-We speak about the importance of starting your day off right. Have a morning routine, and set your physiology up for a winning day.  

-We talk about living our your purpose, finding out what drives you.  

-We speak about your energy, taking care of your body. Without health, there is nothing  

-Having a conversation with your ego. If you sit back and actually have a conversation with it, you'll find out how odd it sounds.  

-Many more things!  

Have a listen! 

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You can check out Anthony's website here: 

http://anthonycheam.com