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The After Action Review

The After Action Review

By Demetrius Latham
Welcome to The After Action Review podcast, featuring bi-weekly conversations designed to help you lead a more fulfilled and productive life. I am Demetrius Latham, Jr., Ph.D. I am a life coach, part-time lecturer at the Univ. of Louisville, and former police officer. The podcast is an expansion of my life coaching business, "Empowering Life Changes", and my blog which can be found at www.empoweringlifechangesllc.com.
I am always available for comments or concerns by email: demetrius@empoweringlifechangesllc.com.

I hope that you've come ready to reset and refocus.
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Ep 30. Radical Forgiveness - Chapter 1: Jill's Story
So the Coach sent out an SOS to start a virtual book club, and guess what... some good folks got back with me! Today my co-host is none other than my boy Nick (IG/Twitter: eyesonnick). Please join us weekly as we make our way through this intuitive and thought-provoking book. We are eager to challenge some of our core beliefs and learn new positive coping strategies. 
51:24
May 15, 2022
Ep 29. Your Life Is Your Brand!
Whew and we're back!!! In this episode we're discussing how our life is similar to some of our favorite brands. This means that we have to understand how our decisions, which shape our lives, ultimately define the way that people in the world perceive us. If you're getting ready to start a business, start school, start a new job, get into a relationship, looking to mend a friendship, or just want to develop yourself... well why aren't you listening by now!!!!!
25:50
April 28, 2022
Ep 28. Perseverance Despite Hopelessness
Recently in a coaching session a client asked me, "why should we persevere if nothing ever works out? Why should we keep trying if it only gets harder?". During the session I answered her questions and reaffirmed her worth and value. But it really got me thinking through the week. Why do I choose to persevere? When I take a good look through the looking glass (mirror) and see myself, what things about me spark a flame and give me the umph to get up and get going?! Well.... you'll have to listen to find out :) 
27:34
March 11, 2022
Ep 27. Love, Light, and all that jazz with the Brooklyn Doll
Whew listen.... we covered so much in this special episode that I don't even know how to honestly begin. We hit love, loss, grief, mental illness, friendship, relationships, queer inclusivity, Kanye, Putin, COVID-19, navigating as a black American, politics, boundaries, spiritual alignment, and more!  I sincerely thank Lindsey (Linz_wags) for blessing us with her time and wisdom. Shoutout to iComplexity for the opening music for this special episode!  Enjoy, Coach Latham 
01:51:40
March 04, 2022
Ep 26. Mental Health Is Wealth!
Hello Hello! I'm back with another exciting and impactful episode! Today, the focus is on mental health. I take time to breakdown: Overworking, Burnout, Stress, Grief, Depression, Self Sabotage, and Positive Coping Skills.  Be on the lookout for more collaborative episodes that I'll be doing over the next few months as I continue to bring you insightful and relevant information.  Be well, Coach Latham 
46:46
February 28, 2022
Ep 25. When Life Happens
Some days are just not as good as we'd like for them to be. Other times we fall short of our goals, we become hard on ourselves, and we only end up beating ourselves up more than we should. In this episode we discuss our emotional response to life's misfortunes, how we can handle blockage, how to stop our energy from leaking, and how to re-direct our focus. 
44:17
February 08, 2022
Ep 24. Redirecting our problems into challenges and tips for transformation
This week we're tackling the issue of how our mindset and the way that we see things as a problem or a challenge affect our outlook, habits, and decision making.
31:03
January 13, 2022
23. Self-Rejection w/ Keith
Happy New Year and welcome to 2022!!! We're starting the year off getting right to business! Keith from (Keith Khronicles) is back to help bring this episode to life. Self-rejection is a form of self-sabotage and limiting beliefs. Often, we are not even the creators of these thoughts, they are projected onto us by our caregivers or role models. Stick around as we dig deep into what self-rejection is, how it shows up in our lives, how it affects us, and how we can work through it.    Don't forget to subscribe, like, and share the episode! Keith can be followed on all social media platforms at: keithwayne__ 
01:09:32
January 01, 2022
22. Wrestling For A Blessing
Merry belated Christmas!! In this episode I cover the story of Jacob wrestling with the angel at the bank of the river. I had it in my mind that I wanted this episode to be about self-rejection, but as fate would have it, I awoke this morning and for some reason the story of Jacob kept playing out in my head. Then I got a notification from my Facebook memories and 11 years ago on this day, I referenced the story of Jacob as my great-grandmother wrestled with her angel for a blessing during her surgery to remove cancer from her body. So, I must be obedient to the word and the will of God because there is someone who is going to hear and see this message that new life might be breathed into them. Today, I am asking that you allow me to enter into your dark places, that you might bring me into the recess of your spirit where you hide all of those things that embarrass you, those things that make you feel unworthy, those things that cause you to labor in your sleep. My objective today is to bring you out of the dark, to stand with you while your vision adjusts, and to set you on your way. If you or someone you know is struggling with depression or dark thoughts, I urge you to visit www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/call, you can also call 1-800-273-8255. They offer an online chat service through the website provided. Both the phone line and the chat service are monitored 24/7, there will always be someone standing by to help you. The service is free and confidential. Please be kind to yourself, take care of yourself, and know that even in your darkest place, there is a resource available to you.
45:25
December 27, 2021
21. Keith Khronicles Interview
In this crossover special episode, my friend Keith (IG/Twitter: keithwayne__) and I discuss relationships, my time working for the Louisville Metro PD during the Breonna Taylor Protest, self-control, my transition into life coaching, and a host of other interesting topics. The full video will be available on Keith's YouTube Channel (Keith Khronicles) at the following link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e0FwfeltoGY.  ***There is some explicit language***
01:21:59
December 19, 2021
20. 12 Steps to Develop Your Life!!!
You asked for it and the Coach delivered. Here are "12 Steps to Help You Develop Your Life!!!". Listen, the list is not all inclusive, you can add and swap as you see fit. I'm excited to continue fulfilling the content request, and I thank you for the ideas!  ***There are a few curse words thrown around***
01:25:27
December 17, 2021
Bonus: 5 Steps Towards Living the Life YOU Really Want!!!!
Listen!!! I reached out and some of you responded. I'm going to be developing a full episode to capture this really good request from an engaged listener. 
03:57
December 11, 2021
19. Protecting Your Gifts
Alright, so listen, I want to jump right into this topic today! We’re going to spend our time together talking about protecting your gifts. As I was developing the content for today, I realized that it’s December, which means its Christmas, which means people are out shopping for gifts, and I promise I did not wake up this morning and say “I hope people” know how to protect their Christmas gifts. Today, we’re going to be focusing on your spiritual gifts, the things that are given us to by God, that we may often try to run from out of fear of being “too great”. Be sure to rate the podcast and leave a review. Don't forget to share it with your coworkers, friends, and family! 
41:50
December 09, 2021
18. Is It Really For Your Protection
This week we're taking a look at the way that we create walls in and around our lives. Some of the walls that we develop have the potential to help nurture and cultivate our growth. Other walls have the ability to make us remain small and are detrimental to our growth. This week ask yourself the following: What is the dream? What am I trying to build? What do I want? When you define your dream/vision/purpose, it brings things back into focus. Helping you realize and actualize what it is you’re after. When you define what you’re trying to build, it helps you to hone in on what is necessary for the fulfillment of your dream. When you define what you want, if helps you to ensure your desires are in alignment with your divine purpose.
33:53
November 30, 2021
17. Handling Turbulence in Life
This episode centers on navigating the turbulence that we encounter in life. Below are a few important points drawn out of the message. Life has been hard for most of us over these last 2 years, but there is something to be learned.  1.  Feeling depleted does not mean that God is not with you. 2.  The presence of doubt does not mean that you’re not capable. 3.  The way that you see yourself will speak volumes to how you care for or beat yourself up. 4.  Just because there are problems where you’re at does not mean that God does not want you there. There will be problems everywhere. 5.  God means for our journey to be tough at times. 6.  Through our interactions with our enemies, who dig into the sensitive areas of our lives, we are made stronger. 7.  The walk of faith is tough. You might get beat up on the fight. Life can be rough and unfair. But it is through these hardships that we become fortified and wiser. 8.  The closer you come to the promise the more difficult the opposition will become.
36:12
November 04, 2021
16. Transparency, Growth, and Healing from a Woman's Perspective
This episode continues the powerful and moving discussions that took place at the women's empowerment meeting. Featured are two different female speakers who share similar stories of hurt, pain, and triumph. We are all works in progress. We are all fighting invisible battles. There is power in our ability to speak our truth and stand in our transparency.
43:24
October 27, 2021
15. The Empowered Mother
This is a special episode as it features a powerful and moving story. The story of my mom's upbringing. Her battle of overcoming isolation, abuse, molestation, abandonment, teen pregnancy, and depression. In her own words, my mother (Monique Pasley) leads a room of other empowered mothers, daughters, sisters, and cousins. There is power in our ability to speak our truth and stand in our transparency. 
19:18
October 05, 2021
14. Resiliency with Jon Weems
In this episode, Jon from St. Louis tells us his story about what helped him escape depression and a potential suicide, how triathlons have saved his life, his experience in IRONMAN Louisville, and some details about his upcoming debut in IRONMAN Texas!  ***There are some audio issues that could not be overcome during the recording of the episode. The audio issues do not takeaway from Jon's ability to tell his story. We are working to resolve these issues in the anticipation of future collaborative episodes.***  
51:48
September 27, 2021
13. The Essence of a Good Relationship
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. There is no perfect man or perfect woman. No perfect pet. No perfect job. No perfect thing that will make everything better for eternity. Rather, there are good relationships. Good jobs. Good pets. Good situations. Each of these is developed not through perfection, but through imperfection. That brings us to today’s topic, The Essence of a “Good Relationship”. This episode is not just for couples or those who are married. It’s for friends, parents, and family members. For co-workers and colleagues. We are all entering and exiting relationships throughout our lives and sometimes we have no idea that it’s occurring.  You can find the couples check-ins card by following HappyPartnersProject on Instagram.  "I hope this helps" is a book written by Nakeia Homer. "1000+ Little Habits of Happy, Successful Relationships" written by Marc & Angel Chernoff 
28:57
September 18, 2021
12. The "Aha Moment"
In this episode we discuss the "aha moment" that happened for me one day while I was vacuuming. We never get to determine when the light bulb clicks on, but when it happens be attentive! This is the first episode where I also video-recorded the segment. You can see the video on my IG page at coachlatham_phd.  As you're listening to this episode think of some times in your life when the light bulb lit up and you weren't ready to commit. Think of a time when the light bulb lit up and you went after it. Then answer the following questions for each scenario: What was the outcome? What did you learn? How can you apply that in the future? 
16:26
September 08, 2021
11. Holding the Standard
In this episode we'll discuss the importance of finding value in our story, knowing our purpose, and being in control of the quality of our life. If you've experienced failure, anxiety, depression, or a feeling of being "lost" because of "life" then this episode is especially for you. Happy listening!!!! 
20:40
August 25, 2021
10. The Power of Preparation
"It is better to be prepared and have no opportunity, than to have an opportunity and not be prepared."  The power of preparation is about purposefully moving you from a place of planning in a space of survival, to planning from a space of safety. As you listen to this episode, consider from which space have you been making plans.
28:28
August 03, 2021
9. Life Lessons from College
In this episode we talk about some great life lessons I picked up during my time at the University of Louisville. Have your pen and paper ready! 
23:35
July 27, 2021
8. The Marathon Mindset
In this episode we explore the power of having a marathon mindset. Learning the importance of "Decide. Commit. Act." The Marathon Mindset is applicable to so many things that occur in our lives. New marriage, new relationship, raising kids, experiencing loss, taking on a new career, relocating, etc... Focus on getting your mind right so that you can live your best life!!!
22:20
July 24, 2021
7. You Are Enough!
I recently took a trip home (no surprise) and had some exceptionally moving conversations with some of my close friends and family. I've also been reading a book by Tarana Burke and Brené Brown, titled "You Are Your Best Thing: Vulnerability, Shame Resilience, and the Black Experience. An Anthology". Between the familiar love of being home, the rawness of the conversations, and the experiences shared within the book I was really moved to cover this topic. 
30:46
July 17, 2021
6. IRONMAN Episode (3)
Wow!!!! What an emotional episode, the coach actually sheds a few tears in this one. It's a somber memory when I discuss Deidre, but I am so happy that I got the chance to meet her, and I'm happy that I was able to honor her memory by completing something she motivated me to start.  So, for these last 3 episodes I want to talk about IRONMAN LOUISVILLE 2019. These episodes highlight the interconnectedness of my job, family, personal life, and the commitment required to take on such a challenge. Endurance sports are a lot like life. Life is not a victory march, it is a long and hard marathon that we run over and over again. As always, please reach out if you have any questions. Don’t forget to rate and review the podcast. Tune in and learn something from this!
20:54
July 09, 2021
5. IRONMAN Episode (2)
So, for these next 3 episodes I want to talk about IRONMAN LOUISVILLE 2019. These episodes highlight the interconnectedness of my job, family, personal life, and the commitment required to take on such a challenge. Endurance sports are a lot like life. Life is not a victory march, it is a long and hard marathon that we run over and over again. As always, please reach out if you have any questions. Don’t forget to rate and review the podcast. Tune in and learn something from this!
20:28
July 09, 2021
4. IRONMAN Episode (1)
So, for these next 3 episodes I want to talk about IRONMAN LOUISVILLE 2019. These episodes highlight the interconnectedness of my job, family, personal life, and the commitment required to take on such a challenge. Endurance sports are a lot like life. Life is not a victory march, it is a long and hard marathon that we run over and over again. As always, please reach out if you have any questions. Don’t forget to rate and review the podcast. Tune in and learn something from this!
20:42
July 09, 2021
3. The Power of The Pivot
For the third episode I talk about the power of the pivot, and some of the life lessons that I've learned along the way that help me to resolve conflicts. As you listen to this episode please consider, "what have you done in the last six months that you're most proud of". Thank you for tuning in, and I believe that this episode will be beneficial! 
18:23
July 08, 2021
2. Building The Fire
Recently, I was blessed with the ability to take a trip to a forest area near Houston, TX. My partner planned the trip as a way for us to getaway and reconnect with one another. I never imagined that lighting a fire outside would give me such a prolific thought. Tune in to this episode as we talk about building, tending to, watching over, and maintaining the fires of our lives. 
18:04
July 08, 2021
1. Welcome!
Welcome to The After Action Review podcast, featuring bi-weekly conversations designed to help you lead a more fulfilled and productive life. I am Demetrius Latham, Jr., Ph.D. I am a life coach, part-time lecturer at the Univ. of Louisville, and former police officer. The podcast is an expansion of my life coaching business, "Empowering Life Changes, LLC", and my blog which can be found at www.empoweringlifechangesllc.com. I am always available for comments or concerns by email: demetrius@empoweringlifechangesllc.com. I hope you that you've come ready to reset and refocus. 
15:48
July 07, 2021