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Coming Up for Air — Families Speak to Families about Addiction

Coming Up for Air — Families Speak to Families about Addiction

By Allies in Recovery

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Here Come the Holidays -- How Do You Deal?
Here Come the Holidays -- How Do You Deal?
Holidays. Winter. How do you deal? Start by shifting expectations about how things might go, and who might be there. Have conversations about “soft” expectations with your loved one in advance. Consider alternative plans, and take care of yourself. Stick with people who support you. How can you shift yourself, your belief system, and your behavior? Share duties, and consider an alcohol-free holiday, whether your loved one has any issue with it or not. 
30:13
November 25, 2022
How Do You Stop Catastrophizing?
How Do You Stop Catastrophizing?
If you find yourself swept away in the undertow of negative thinking about what might happen and how you might prevent it, the number-one tool to use is stepping back, noticing that you're doing it. Number two is deciding to shift it, starting with "no negative talk." And third is hitting the metaphorical "reset" button, finding something to soothe yourself. At first, it may not go well, but over time, you can get good at it.
28:07
November 18, 2022
Guest Jaclyn Brown Returns: Part 2
Guest Jaclyn Brown Returns: Part 2
In part 2 of 2, Jaclyn Brown talks about her personal journey in the wake of losing her brother. For her, advocacy and harm reduction work became a way to find her own voice and power after feeling guilty and helpless. To hear more of Jaclyn's story, be sure to check out our earlier interviews with her.
22:58
November 11, 2022
Guest Jaclyn Brown Returns: Part 1
Guest Jaclyn Brown Returns: Part 1
"The universe is trying to tell me something" -- Guest Jaclyn Brown returns to discuss her advocacy and harm reduction work in the wake of losing her brother. To hear more of Jaclyn's story, be sure to check out our earlier interviews with her.
30:37
November 04, 2022
What are Wishes and Dips?
What are Wishes and Dips?
You've got tools -- active listening, being curious and open -- so when your loved one expresses what they would like, or feels they can't continue as they are, you're ready. In those moments of "wishes and dips," you can gently move forward, listening to them and having resources ready, for now or whenever they're ready. It's a main tenet of CRAFT -- noticing the openings. It's also a practice -- something to stay with over time, so you have a chance to be received.
38:24
November 04, 2022
An Interview with Guest Jaclyn Brown: Part 2
An Interview with Guest Jaclyn Brown: Part 2
The rest of our interview with Jaclyn Brown, a podcast host and voice  for advocacy. In part 1, she discussed losing her brother to addiction.  In part 2, she discusses the aftermath, and what she does to create  space in her own life for her ongoing grief.
25:00
October 21, 2022
An Interview with Guest Jaclyn Brown: Part 1
An Interview with Guest Jaclyn Brown: Part 1
Guest Jaclyn Brown tells the story of her painful voyage through losing her brother to addiction. She's now a podcast host and a voice for advocacy.
31:02
October 14, 2022
Stigma: Changing the Story
Stigma: Changing the Story
Stigma is a story someone makes up about a situation. CRAFT provides a framework, and helps you take the story apart and change it, consciously addressing situations and moving forward with eyes open. Stigma takes power away, but making conscious choices brings your power back.
24:26
October 07, 2022
Turning Negative Thinking to a Positive Tool
Turning Negative Thinking to a Positive Tool
Your thoughts have power. Anxiety is a thought process. The tools you need are shifting negative thinking to positive, and emanating that positivity. Both are essential to CRAFT. Kayla and Laurie discuss how to handle negative thinking, and why it’s important to do so.
31:45
September 30, 2022
The Importance of Self-Care During Conflict
The Importance of Self-Care During Conflict
Times of crisis and conflict may seem like the worst times to practice self-care -- yet in those moments, taking care of yourself is key to CRAFT. The more you learn to increase your awareness of yourself and your reaction, the more you can successfully use CRAFT tools. If what you want to happen in those times involves your loved one's actions, it's not likely to be successful. Changing your actions and reactions, however, alters the environment and creates the possibility of change.
22:33
September 23, 2022
Speaking Up: The Compassionate Way
Speaking Up: The Compassionate Way
How do you communicate when you see problematic behavior? The key is  intention: observing behavior, and pointing it out calmly and thoughtfully. The idea is to briefly and specifically tell your loved one how the behavior impacts you, then step back without expectation of  an outcome, and give them the dignity of processing what you've said.  Over time, this CRAFT tool can lead to long-term change.
33:01
September 17, 2022
Sectioning: When to Consider Forcing Your Loved One into Treatment
Sectioning: When to Consider Forcing Your Loved One into Treatment
"Sectioning," or using the courts to force your loved one into treatment, is an extreme tool, and not optimal. It conflicts with some of the pillars of the CRAFT method, but it's also sometimes unavoidable. Use the CRAFT skills to understand when danger is acute, and enough to warrant sectioning.
27:01
September 09, 2022
Giving Your Loved One Trust and Agency
Giving Your Loved One Trust and Agency
Kayla and Laurie discuss short-term vs. long-term change -- start by working on one change in yourself rather than in your loved one, like focusing on your thought process, choosing to trust and step back, giving your loved one the chance to make decisions. This gives both of you the tools for slower, but more effective long-term change -- think of erosion, not a tsunami.
27:32
September 02, 2022
How to Ask Effective Questions
How to Ask Effective Questions
How do you ask questions that create space for your loved one rather than hemming them in? We may have brilliant ideas about what someone should do, and want to share. The skills we need, however, are openness and a willingness to hear the other person and provide space and opportunity for them to process. Back up, don't interrupt, and let your loved one talk without offering your feedback.
22:28
August 26, 2022
Creating a Safe Space for Decisions
Creating a Safe Space for Decisions
You can help your loved one make decisions by creating a safe space -- by listening, being genuinely interested in their perspective, being non-judgmental, and allowing them to slow things down to examine their own thinking. Avoid trying to fix things yourself, and assume that they're wise enough to know what they need. Your role is to help them make their own choices.
26:19
August 19, 2022
How, Why, and When to Put Yourself First
How, Why, and When to Put Yourself First
How do you take care of yourself when there's a crisis with your loved  one? It's a process of changing how you think about yourself and your  role in the dynamic. If you can change how you think -- even for small  parts of the day -- it changes the dynamic with your loved one, allowing  them the freedom to look at themselves, and not just worry about how  they impact you. Laurie and Kayla share tips.
25:23
August 12, 2022
Answering Listener Questions
Answering Listener Questions
In all our interactions with our loved one, it's important to be open  to conversation, and seek a way to be collaborative rather than making  demands. Our hosts discuss two listener questions, one about a partner  who wants a debit card back, and another about a friend who's picking  someone up from prison and wants to help continue their seeking of  sobriety.
25:19
August 05, 2022
Motivation: What Drives Change
Motivation: What Drives Change
Motivation drives change. How do you find motivation to change your part of the dynamic, and allow time and space for the process to unfold? It's okay to sometimes feel like maybe things aren't working, then get back on track. If you don't know how to change, Allies in Recovery offers a toolbox. As long as you stay interested and use the tools, things can change.
19:45
July 29, 2022
What is Radical Acceptance?
What is Radical Acceptance?
Radical acceptance involves understanding that much of what happens is out of your control, and using strategies to calm, distract, and soothe yourself. The goal is to avoid catastrophizing -- envisioning and preparing for the worst outcomes. Radical acceptance means letting go of what you can't control, experiencing feelings and pain, but without increasing agitation, reactivity, and suffering.
20:13
July 22, 2022
When Your Loved One Uses Multiple Substances
When Your Loved One Uses Multiple Substances
If your loved one uses multiple substances, use the "functional analysis" to understand which substance to focus on first. Start small, by changing your own behavior in response to your loved one's use. Aim to shift over time. Study CRAFT modules 3, 5, and 6 closely to help make your plans.
32:49
July 15, 2022
Coming Home
Coming Home
After any treatment, when someone is in early recovery, check your  expectations. Your loved one is likely in a fragile state,  uncomfortable, edgy, body wrecked after dependency, and disregulated  physically and emotionally. It's a time of transition, so have realistic  expectations. Be gentle, caring, and connected, not an inquisitor.  Connection is key.
35:52
July 08, 2022
Unsolicited Advice: Helpful or Hurtful?
Unsolicited Advice: Helpful or Hurtful?
It's smart to avoid giving unsolicited advice. If you receive it, hold  your ground, knowing that you're dedicated to upholding the CRAFT model.  Consider telling the advice-giver to look into CRAFT to understand what  you're doing.
24:28
July 01, 2022
An Interview with Meme English
An Interview with Meme English
Guest Meme English, a former family therapist and consultant in the legal system, discusses family dynamics. When it comes to substance use, family dynamics are complicated. There are many layers of trauma, from generational to personal, and competing  needs among family members. Balancing all these factors and personal  situations means deciding whose needs get most clearly met. Trauma  therapy also requires time and commitment, and is harder to find since the pandemic.
29:47
June 24, 2022
Conditional Love, Unconditional Love, and Shame: Part 2 -- The Antidote
Conditional Love, Unconditional Love, and Shame: Part 2 -- The Antidote
Let's look at shame and negative thinking and discuss how to slow down, gain awareness, and soothe your system. Our hosts focus on the essential tool of empathy -- especially for yourself -- as a way to  understand what story you’re making up, and change that story by looking for the positive even in difficult moments.
25:38
June 17, 2022
When Do You Work on Use of Less-Dangerous Substances?
When Do You Work on Use of Less-Dangerous Substances?
Dominique shares a family’s question about a loved one who’s addressed the most pressing substance use. Should the family now focus on their loved one’s cannabis use? Our hosts discuss harm reduction and the role of the “functional analysis” in CRAFT to address such questions. The analysis involves reviewing what’s changed, patterns and dynamics, and making sure your own behaviors support reduction of use. These actions are subtle, and their subtlety makes them more effective. Even with multiple substances, they recommend addressing one at a time. The functional analysis should keep happening with different drugs, so that you know which behaviors to reward and which to walk away from. The Allies site includes cannabis resources discussing withdrawal and tolerance, and the more-concentrated form of use called “dabbing. 
25:25
June 10, 2022
Conditional Love, Unconditional Love, and Shame: Part 1
Conditional Love, Unconditional Love, and Shame: Part 1
Even when love is not conditional, there sometimes must be conditions regarding people’s behavior. Love in romantic relationships may change if you break up, but with family members, conditionality applies to behavior, not love. What we as family members can modify is how we react and our expectations. Conditionality goes back to boundary issues – there are edges someone comes to where they must stop what they’re doing. It’s important to note that wishing someone would go away is a normal, protective reaction to difficult feelings.
28:14
June 03, 2022
Facing Obstacles Part 2: How to Not React in Tough Moments
Facing Obstacles Part 2: How to Not React in Tough Moments
What do you do in those difficult moments when you feel ramped-up? Laurie and Kayla discuss strategies to back away and not go with the emotion of the moment.
28:17
May 27, 2022
Facing the Obstacles, Part 1
Facing the Obstacles, Part 1
What are the obstacles between knowing what to do and putting that knowledge into real practice? In part 1, our hosts focus on  avoiding a "crisis" response, and slowing events down to avoid being reactive.
31:46
May 20, 2022
Making Changes at Your Own Pace
Making Changes at Your Own Pace
Laurie and Kayla discuss change -- how to manage it, how quickly it can or can't happen, and how to focus your efforts.
28:57
May 13, 2022
What CRAFT Can Do in 12 Weeks
What CRAFT Can Do in 12 Weeks
An overview of the first twelve weeks of CRAFT, discussing what it can accomplish quickly, and what becomes a lifetime practice.
31:55
May 06, 2022
Setting Boundaries
Setting Boundaries
So what are boundaries, really? Who are they really for, and how do you use them well?
35:33
April 29, 2022
De-escalation Strategies
De-escalation Strategies
How do you address conflict? The Allies' team discusses several important de-escalation techniques to use when you're faced with an emerging conflict. 
33:50
April 22, 2022
 CRAFT and Decision-making: A Listener Weighs In
CRAFT and Decision-making: A Listener Weighs In
Dominique tells the story of a dad who sees his son's truck at a saloon. Not wanting the son to drive home intoxicated, dad uses an extra key to drive the truck home, parking it a block away. The son returns home intoxicated, ranting about his "stolen truck."  Dad stays silent while the son calls the police. They arrive and the intoxicated son rages. Dad tells police (but not the son) where the truck is. A listener says this whole scenario about dad parking truck away seems passive-aggressive, and asks what purpose was served. Was an enraged son the ultimate goal, so the police would arrest him?  Why did the father take no steps to alleviate his son's anxiety and anger? Wouldn't the CRAFT method say that when the son came home, he should see the truck in the driveway and get a brief explanation from dad on why it was there? Wouldn't the next day, when the son was sober and both parties more calm, be the time to discuss?
35:19
April 15, 2022
Treatment and Families: part 2
Treatment and Families: part 2
A continued discussion of families and treatment. Part one examined how the family can affect treatment and  vice-versa. Part two looks at the overall idea: taking care of yourself and observing your own boundaries, while asking how you might best add to treatment.
26:36
April 08, 2022
Treatment and Families: Part 1
Treatment and Families: Part 1
Laurie, Dominique, and Kayla discuss ideas about families and treatment, focusing particularly on how the family can affect treatment -- and vice-versa -- in part one of this two-part episode.
25:39
April 01, 2022
CRAFT in Romantic Partnerships, part 2
CRAFT in Romantic Partnerships, part 2
A continued discussion of the CRAFT model in romantic relationships. In part 2, our hosts talk about practicing and using the tools of CRAFT in difficult moments to address not you  loved one's substance use, but the relationship-affecting behavior that happens with substance use.
30:16
March 25, 2022
CRAFT in Romantic Partnerships, part 1
CRAFT in Romantic Partnerships, part 1
How does the CRAFT model work in romantic relationships? In part one, our hosts say our job as loved ones is to get our  own needs met. First, we must figure out those needs and what we can do to meet them, then ask for help from our loved ones in specific, measurable ways.
33:16
March 18, 2022
Don't Take It Personally
Don't Take It Personally
What are the challenges of releasing yourself from feeling responsible for your loved one's behavior, as their parent or family member? This involves recognizing yourself as your own person, and allowing them the respect and dignity of having their own process.
30:10
March 14, 2022
Redefining Recovery
Redefining Recovery
Our hosts discuss the individual nature of the  term "recovery." They look at recovery as an evolution involving growth,  change, finding meaning, and finding ease. They say the best plan is to  respect people's processes, plant seeds when you can, and stay  interested in how your loved one defines the process for themselves.
29:57
March 04, 2022
CRAFT as the Beginning of Treatment
CRAFT as the Beginning of Treatment
A look at CRAFT as the beginning of  treatment – as connection, openness, curiosity, and modeling change. Our hosts advocate focusing not on what your loved one does, but on case management, on researching available options to present when the time is  right. That leaves you free to work on changing the dynamic and going for connection.
30:56
February 25, 2022
Dr. Carl Erik Fisher on Addiction
Dr. Carl Erik Fisher on Addiction
Guest Dr. Carl Erik Fisher talks about the historical context of addiction and approaches to treatment, the subject of his new book, The Urge.
38:07
February 21, 2022
The importance of reframing
The importance of reframing
How do you "reframe" bad  situations? What does it means to reframe in a realistic, not idealistic way?
30:21
February 18, 2022
What Happens When You Give Advice?
What Happens When You Give Advice?
How do you handle the difficulties of giving advice? Our hosts discuss the best ways to approach such conversations -- including simply listening.
27:37
February 12, 2022
Becoming Part of the Process
Becoming Part of the Process
There's power in patience and a more passive, accepting approach to helping your loved one walk their own path of recovery. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
28:06
February 04, 2022
Control and Consequence
Control and Consequence
What can we control? When we set boundaries, what happens for us and our loved one? Our hosts point out that change requires patience, time, and more patience. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in  Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
29:11
January 28, 2022
How Do You Find Common Ground When You Disagree?
How Do You Find Common Ground When You Disagree?
Dominique and Kayla discuss finding common ground with your loved one -- or anyone else -- on seemingly intractable issues. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in  Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
29:54
January 14, 2022
How Do You Release Trauma?
How Do You Release Trauma?
How do you release the trauma that can affect families and loved ones, and learn new habits over time? Our hosts take a deeper dive. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including eight video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
33:35
January 07, 2022
When to Step Away From Your Loved One
When to Step Away From Your Loved One
In times of conflict, any interaction with your loved one -- positive or negative -- can reinforce using behavior. Our hosts discuss how the CRAFT process of simply removing yourself from the situation can create a paradigm shift in the relationship. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and  dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
27:40
December 31, 2021
Should You Stay Connected to Your Loved One Who Is Using?
Should You Stay Connected to Your Loved One Who Is Using?
How do you communicate with your loved one in a way that is helpful for everyone? By becoming a "positivity detective." Our hosts dispel the myths of confrontation, detachment, and tough love, explaining how these approaches can damage the relationship and cause you to miss opportunities to encourage recovery. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in  Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
24:40
December 24, 2021
Do You Need to Know if Your Loved One Is Using?
Do You Need to Know if Your Loved One Is Using?
How important is it to know for certain whether your loved one is using? The greatest value comes in following your instincts, rewarding your loved one's positive behavior and removing rewards when you suspect use, rather than getting caught up in finding the evidence. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
24:53
December 17, 2021
Building a Bridge with CRAFT
Building a Bridge with CRAFT
Our hosts discuss a family struggling with alcohol use and mental health disorders, accompanied by concern over the children's well-being. Dominique cautions about when and how to intervene, the consequences of involving the authorities, and how the CRAFT approach can help.
24:03
December 10, 2021
Goals and Expectations
Goals and Expectations
How can greater self-awareness and realistic expectations about impacting our loved ones’ behavior allow us to be more “in the game?” As we continue to focus on practice rather than perfection, the tools of CRAFT can change how we feel and interact with our loved ones, gently shifting the dynamic between us over time. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
28:42
December 06, 2021
The Basics of CRAFT
The Basics of CRAFT
A basic overview of the CRAFT model for families facing a loved one's addiction -- including how it works, and why it works. In this segment, you will learn how the CRAFT skill set can be applied to any situation. Laurie also shares her personal experience with CRAFT and how it helped to empower her own  family. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
28:07
November 26, 2021
What About the Other Family Members?
What About the Other Family Members?
What's the impact of substance use and other health challenges on the entire family, particularly when all the attention is focused on one person? This important and often difficult conversation helps alleviate the guilt that parents and other care providers feel about such disparities, and shows us how to be more sensitive to those family members who may appear to be doing just fine. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in  Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
23:50
November 12, 2021
Suicidal Ideation vs. Substance Use
Suicidal Ideation vs. Substance Use
How do you approach it when a loved one expresses suicidal thoughts? How do you tell the difference between suicidal ideation and the idea of killing oneself over time through substance use? What opportunities do these conversations afford, and how do you intervene in a way that keeps your loved one safe, while at the same time, fosters connection and supports recovery?  Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
28:07
November 06, 2021
Looking for Positive Moments
Looking for Positive Moments
Hosts Laurie, Kayla, and Dominique discuss a foundational part of the  CRAFT model from module 1: working on your own reactions; looking for  positive moments to step in with your loved one, and moments to gently  step away. When your loved one is not high or using, you can engage with  the person rather than the substance. CRAFT is a long-term process, so  allow yourself the patience to try new things, adopt a different  orientation, learn new skills, and give a relationship space. This can  have a positive impact on the entire dynamic, and a positive influence  on your loved one's choices. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in   Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and  dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
23:14
October 29, 2021
Control vs. Influence
Control vs. Influence
When you want something, how do you request it? Hosts Laurie and Kayla talk about developing a communication style that aims to influence, not control. Influence comes from a softer, more open and compassionate position, and it can change the dynamic of the relationship over time. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
19:28
October 22, 2021
Deciding When Your Loved One Can Live at Home
Deciding When Your Loved One Can Live at Home
How do you decide when and how your loved one can live  at home? Hosts Laurie, Dominique, and Kayla discuss boundary-setting,  and Laurie shares details about her son's journey in living at home. Join  our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s  program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with  experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more at alliesinrecovery.net
32:03
October 15, 2021
Grandparents and Multigenerational Dynamics
Grandparents and Multigenerational Dynamics
In many families, parents of children with substance abuse disorder are taking care of their grandchildren. Hosts Dominique, Laurie, and Kayla and guest Dr. Meme English discuss the complexities of a multigenerational dynamic, intergenerational trauma and substance use, the lack of resources for grandparents, and the need for people to connect to more support in these overwhelming circumstances and know that they’re not alone. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in   Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and  dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
38:40
October 08, 2021
Guest Dr. Carl Erik Fisher
Guest Dr. Carl Erik Fisher
Addiction specialist Dr. Carl Erik Fisher discusses the effects of stress on the body, and shares some mindfulness techniques that are proven effective. Dr. Fisher and our hosts explain how mindfulness can help families in recovery achieve a sense of agency in their lives by allowing them more control over their emotions. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
41:34
October 01, 2021
Always Have a Plan
Always Have a Plan
It's important to have a plan for expectations when your loved one is at home, and when they can't stay. Dominique, Laurie, and Kayla discuss the specifics of having a list of treatment and living options ready and waiting. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in  Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
31:36
September 24, 2021
Podcast 84
Podcast 84
Podcast 84 With your best Allies From Allies in Recovery
24:59
September 17, 2021
Podcast #83 — SUD, the Family & the Importance of Patterns
Podcast #83 — SUD, the Family & the Importance of Patterns
In their work with families of addicted loved ones, Kayla and Dominique have observed how certain patterns are mirrored. In a nutshell, our loved ones with SUD become fixated on their substance of choice, and they become compulsive about using it. Over time, the family member often becomes fixated on their addicted loved one, and finds themselves compulsively trying to fix the situation. Knowing this can be useful if you're ready to effect change...  Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net
30:36
September 10, 2021
Podcast # 82 — Crisis vs Chronic, the Sequel
Podcast # 82 — Crisis vs Chronic, the Sequel
(35 min)  Dominique joins Kayla and Laurie and pushes last week's conversation a bit deeper (episode #81). You will hear more concrete examples of how to implement what Laurie calls "the Big Pause" and how to recognize when you're being triggered into a crisis reaction. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
35:21
September 03, 2021
Podcast #81 — When Crisis Mode Becomes Chronic, and How to Shift This
Podcast #81 — When Crisis Mode Becomes Chronic, and How to Shift This
(29 min)   Kayla and Laurie dive into the issue 'When crisis mode becomes chronic.' They look into WHY you don't want that, including the neuro-science behind it (cortisol levels).  "Fight or flight is an unsustainable state," Kayla points out. If it has become your new normal, know that you're not doing yourself, or your loved one, any favors. Poking fun at her own tendency to want to "fix" situations and wield her baseball bat, Kayla reminds us that (unless it's actually our job), we are NOT first responders.  Laurie describes the days when she was desperately calling her son's drug dealers or lurking in their neighborhoods, when he'd gone missing. Learn why Laurie and Kayla are both huge fans of "the pause." And why it's sometimes important to embrace the "I don't know." When our thoughts and feelings are out of control, we often respond by trying to try to fix or control the situation with our loved one, but that is often simply not possible. However, it IS possible to override the out-of-control feelings, to learn the skills to calm ourselves down. Our hosts help you understand how to identify and differentiate "crisis" and "chronic" and what to do once you've determined what you're facing in a given moment. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
29:12
August 21, 2021
Podcast #80 — Low-Hanging Fruit: As the Family, What Actions Can You Take Today?
Podcast #80 — Low-Hanging Fruit: As the Family, What Actions Can You Take Today?
to come(35 min) The family of a loved one using substances often receives discouraging messages like "there's nothing you can do to change things" or "just wait until they hit rock bottom." The CRAFT method flies in the face of those cultural beliefs. At Allies in Recovery, we give families a framework, a toolkit, a system to put in place. Results don't appear overnight, though as our founder, Dominique Simon-Levine, often says, "CRAFT is the fastest way through. Even if you feel things need an urgent response." This episode focuses on "Low-Hanging Fruit," meaning: Give yourself some easy-to-accomplish, satisfying tasks that you can do today, to help move the situation forward with your loved one. You absolutely can help to move things forward. There absolutely are action items that you can do TODAY. And you absolutely can influence your loved one in the direction of treatment and recovery. Science has shown this to be true. Listen in! Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
35:02
August 06, 2021
Podcast #79 — When Things Get Nasty, What Cards Trump the Blame Card?
Podcast #79 — When Things Get Nasty, What Cards Trump the Blame Card?
When your loved one plays the "Blame" card or shames you or guilts you, what are your options? This topic actually has many more layers than you may think. And yes, there are some concrete and powerful things you can do to deflect the blame or guilt they're trying to send your way. Our hosts explain why the "Blame Game" is actually a very smart and adaptive technique that our loved ones with Substance Use use to self-soothe. Kayla gives us some of the strongest cards to use when they pull out their well-worn Blame card. Laurie shares her tips for empowering both yourself, and your loved one, in these sticky, tricky conversations (both face-to-face and over the phone). Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
29:35
July 23, 2021
Podcast #78 — Is "Addiction" a Bad Word? Removing Stigma from Our Language
Podcast #78 — Is "Addiction" a Bad Word? Removing Stigma from Our Language
Why all the hubbub about stigmatizing language when it comes to Substance Use?  Is "addiction" a bad word? Laurie MacDougall is author of the article "The Power of Language," on the Allies in Recovery blog, which explores how removing stigma from the language we use (ie, Substance Use vs. Substance Abuse) can have dramatic effects on the care and treatment people receive. Laurie explains her position (and how she came to it) to colleagues et co-hosts Kayla and Dominique, who at first admit they'd rather stick to their established ways of referring to Addiction / Substance Use Disorder / Opiate Use Disorder / Alcohol Use Disorder, etc. Will Laurie win them over? Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
30:13
July 09, 2021
Podcast #77 — How Considering 'Identity' Can Improve Things with Your Loved One with Addiction
Podcast #77 — How Considering 'Identity' Can Improve Things with Your Loved One with Addiction
What does 'Identity' have to do with substance use in the family? Here are a couple examples of how our identity can trip us up: - I'm so enmeshed with my loved one and their substance use that when you ask me how I am, I tell you about how my loved one is doing, or I'm incapable of knowing what I am actually feeling, or I figure, it doesn't really matter. - I may believe that I have the responsibility of punishing, or creating consequences for my loved one's substance use, and I may keep returning to this approach despite the fact that I see it's not helping my loved one or our communications. When we're too attached to a role we've been playing, or think we should play, this often puts blinders on us... we are much less able to take an honest look at the dynamics between ourselves and our loved one. And why do we want to have a clearer vision of the dynamics? In order to change things up. Even though, as Kayla says, "changing your identity is the scariest things in the world." We hope that listening to this episode will help you see why it's still important to consider shifting some parts of your identity that simply aren't serving you or anyone else. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
35:07
June 25, 2021
Podcast #76 — Shame, Shame and More Shame (and Its Good Friend, Substance Use)
Podcast #76 — Shame, Shame and More Shame (and Its Good Friend, Substance Use)
How does shame fit in to Substance Use and the family system? We're not talking about the shame you feel when you've done something regrettable, but rather the deeper, internalized belief that so many of us have, that says "There's something wrong with me." Kayla calls it "character assassination". Shame plays a prominent role where substance use has become problematic: the person misusing substances often feels shame about being stuck in the pattern, and the family often falls into the trap of blaming themselves for where their child/family member is, which they may feel reflects badly on them. It can be a real shame-fest. Join our hosts for this illuminating conversation. You'll learn to start peeling away the layers and get to the core of the issue. Why is this important? Why is it one of the things we ask you to look at when you're working our program for families? Because the family works as a system. And the more you learn to see and understand your role in the system, the more power you'll have to shift the dynamic. This does work! Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
36:18
June 11, 2021
Podcast # 75 — Do's & Don'ts When You're On the Phone with an Addicted Loved One
Podcast # 75 — Do's & Don'ts When You're On the Phone with an Addicted Loved One
A continuation of last week's podcast, we get in depth about the intricacies of dealing with a loved one in a situation of limited connection navigating the realities of the dynamics in how do you communicate and draw a loved one back in and stay connected and draw em back in when theres limited communication or stuck with only text messaging and also what do you do when you finally have that commmunication with a call with your loved on and they are beligerent and treating you like a whipping post Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
34:40
May 28, 2021
Podcast # 74 — Learn How to Apply CRAFT with a Loved One Who's Far Away or Isn't in Touch
Podcast # 74 — Learn How to Apply CRAFT with a Loved One Who's Far Away or Isn't in Touch
(34min) CRAFT puts the family in the role of informed shepherd for their Loved One (LO) with Substance Use, and the method was designed for families who have day-to-day interactions with the LO and can use their influence in that framework. But how do you continue the conversation and work the magic of CRAFT if your Loved One is far away, or if you have very minimal contact? Can you rekindle communication, can you get to a softer, more trusting relationship, and can you shine the light on treatment for your Loved One. . . all the while being far away or having minimal interactions? We believe that yes, you absolutely can! Learn to coax the scared, wounded animal back out of the woods and back into a relationship with you. Learn to communicate without the anxiety and panic that are often part of the family member's experience, by putting yourself in a "connecting position" vs. a "threatening position." Learn how to change the dynamic of "the pursuer and the avoider" with your communications. Kayla's example is: "Send cat photos . . . and use emojis!" Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
34:32
May 14, 2021
Podcast #73 First Thought, Second Thought
Podcast #73 First Thought, Second Thought
(39 min)   Following their discussion on Episode #72, Laurie, Kayla and Dominique look at the "First thought, Second Thought" phenomenon, a key topic in Cognitive Behavior Therapy. It's an important one for anyone, but especially for families addressing the needs of a Loved One with addiction and/or trauma. Kayla reminds us that "You are not the center of their universe, even if they love you," and emphasizes the importance of getting space inside our own heads. Thoughts happen, and we can actually learn to react and respond to them differently. How do you get space? This is about getting mental space. Literally, you're taking a pause. You're looking at that first thought, saying "that's interesting," and putting some space before you allow the second thought in. "When we look at our Loved Ones as the "Identified Problem," that's a trap that they can never get out of," says Kayla. "So, the more we look at ourselves  . . . the more we release them to just focus on themselves and their own issues. . . . What's my part of the problem so that I can do my part of the solution?" Kayla and Laurie also look at the subtle beliefs behind the idea of "listening to your gut" — what should we actually do with our gut's messages? Listen? Follow? You won't want to miss this! Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
39:08
April 30, 2021
Podcast #72 — You Are Not Your Story: How to move out of drama and into consciousness
Podcast #72 — You Are Not Your Story: How to move out of drama and into consciousness
(33 min 45 sec) "How do I calm my system down enough so that I'm not eating and drinking battery acid every day?" or in other words, "How can I go from a reflexive, automatic, unconscious reaction to actually being able to have choice over my reactions?" Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
33:45
April 07, 2021
Podcast #71 — Dominique Interviews Annie Highwater on Her Journey Thus Far
Podcast #71 — Dominique Interviews Annie Highwater on Her Journey Thus Far
(20 min 5 sec) Dominique interviews Annie Highwater on her journey to her current vocation Annie speaks of the feelings of craziness and chaos she grew up in: "When life feels hopeless and you feel like everyone around you is losing their mind... I was so surrounded by it, I never saw a way out!" She speaks of the peer support work she does now, and shares a message of hope that comes from her own lived experience: "Recovery is a beautiful thing, and it's possible for any family." She talks about her own journey to healing: "I started noticing that the more peaceful I was, the calmer the situation would be." Annie's enthusiasm is catching, and her journey is inspiring. Tune in! Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
20:05
April 02, 2021
Podcast #70 — Recovery Capital and Laurie's Journey to a New Vocation - Advocate and Peer Recovery Specialist
Podcast #70 — Recovery Capital and Laurie's Journey to a New Vocation - Advocate and Peer Recovery Specialist
(24 min 39 sec) Allies Founder & Director, Dominique Simon-Levine, interviews Laurie MacDougall, Allies collaborator and creator of REST educational groups. Dominique was especially interested in what pushed Laurie to leave her former occupation and begin focusing on the work she does today: educating, advocating for, and supporting families affected by Substance Use Disorder.  Laurie describes various life circumstances that came together and sparked change, including her discovery of the Allies in Recovery website. She talks about what was in her head when she created REST and how the momentum brought her to where she is today. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
53:37
March 31, 2021
Podcast #69 — You're Gonna Be Lousy At It, At First: Reflective Listening, Intentional Dialogue and How to Vastly Improve Communications with Just About Everybody
Podcast #69 — You're Gonna Be Lousy At It, At First: Reflective Listening, Intentional Dialogue and How to Vastly Improve Communications with Just About Everybody
If you've ever felt baffled or enraged by communicating with a loved one, you're sure to appreciate this episode. Peer Recovery specialist Laurie MacDougall is joined by Imago Relationship therapist Kayla Solomon and Allies in Recovery's chief editor, Isabel Cooney, for an eye-opening dive into Reflective Listening. What is it? How does it work? What are the benefits for you, and the person you're reflectively listening to? And why does Kayla believe in it so much that she says she'd use it if someone were pointing a gun at her? Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
01:05:41
February 26, 2021
Podcast #66 From Mother to Resource — with Cheryl Juaire
Podcast #66 From Mother to Resource — with Cheryl Juaire
(45:56)  In this episode Cheryl Juaire joins Laurie to share her personal journey through heartache and grief after losing her son to SUD. She details the steps in her grief and how community helped her get a new perspective on life with grief. Inspired by her participation in a group for mothers who've lost children to SUD, she created a sharing platform called TEAM SHARING. Through social networking, community activism, grief services and advocacy, TEAM SHARING provides support and friendship to grieving families while working to raise awareness of SUD and its impact on our communities.  Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
48:08
February 12, 2021
Podcast #68 — How Do Alanon / Naranon Differ from CRAFT? An In-depth Comparison
Podcast #68 — How Do Alanon / Naranon Differ from CRAFT? An In-depth Comparison
(1 hour 1 min) Kayla Solomon joins Laurie MacDougall to address the question, “How do Alanon / Naranon differ from CRAFT?”  The two most common approaches for family members dealing with SUD are broken down and compared. Listen to this in-depth discussion on the differences, and a few similarities, between CRAFT and Alanon/Naranon. Which approach discourages continued interaction with your LO? Which one encourages you to reflect upon both the family member's role and the LO's behaviors? Which one gives you a toolkit for staying in touch and building a bridge with your LO? You can't afford not to listen to this episode! Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic. Topics in this post: Al-Anon, CRAFT 101, Self-help groups
01:03:48
February 11, 2021
Podcast #67 — Positive Change with Tommy Joyce, Certified Peer Recovery Specialist
Podcast #67 — Positive Change with Tommy Joyce, Certified Peer Recovery Specialist
In this episode, Tommy Joyce, Director of Recovery Support Services at the East Bay Recovery Center, comes on the show to share his recovery journey and how he came to be an ally to people with SUD. He responds to the question: “What are Recovery Communities and Certified Peer Recovery Specialists?”  We also get insight into his work, and his perspective on the current drug-use crisis. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
53:20
February 04, 2021
Podcast #65 What is Peer Support? — With Thrive CEO Brian Bailys
Podcast #65 What is Peer Support? — With Thrive CEO Brian Bailys
In today's episode of Coming Up for Air, Annie Highwater focuses on peer support. She interviews Brian Bailys, Thrive CEO and creator of Ascent. Ascent - Regain Control is a patient support mobile app designed to help people in recovery walk the path to sobriety.   Ascent also is an in-person peer recovery coaching service and an emergency room peer support service. Listen in to learn more about peer recovery coaching and Thrive Peer Support. Learn more about Thrive @ thrivepeersupport.org Check out the Ascent - Regain Control app here or get in touch hello@ascent-program.com Warmest thanks you to Annie for her inspiring words, her dedication and her enthusiasm. Click here for more Coming Up for Air episodes. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
37:42
December 23, 2020
Podcast #64 The 5-Actions Program — A Self-Guided Roadmap Out of Addiction
Podcast #64 The 5-Actions Program — A Self-Guided Roadmap Out of Addiction
In this new Coming Up for Air episode, Allies in Recovery guest blogger and creator of REST, Laurie MacDougall, interviews Dr. John Fitzgerald. Dr. John Fitzgerald recently launched the 5-Actions Program with the support of the state of New Mexico. The 5-Actions Program is an educational online program to help people understand and overcome addiction. Check out this incredible resource at nm5actions.com. Free for all New Mexico residents. If you are not a resident of New Mexico, contact us here to express your interest (please provide zip code in your message). We're hoping many more states will follow NM's lead and we're collecting requests from all over the country! You can also head to John's website, addictionhelp.org and read about 5-actions and his eye-opening approach for long-lasting change and well-being. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
01:08:27
December 08, 2020
Podcast #63 Heartland High — Ohio's First Recovery School
Podcast #63 Heartland High — Ohio's First Recovery School
Columbus, Ohio. Allies in Recovery contributor and acclaimed writer Annie Highwater meets with some of Heartland High's key staff members, making for an uplifting and heartfelt Coming Up for Air episode! In today's episode, School Director Dr. Paige Stewart and Student Engagement Coordinator Jennifer Belemu describe Heartland High's ground-breaking approach based on individualized learning, kindness and compassion. Listen in to learn more about how Heartland students in recovery manage to rekindle hope as well as regain self-confidence and dignity. heartlandhighschool.org anniehighwater.com Warmest thanks to Annie for her inspiring words, her dedication and her enthusiasm. Click here for more Coming Up for Air episodes. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
01:01:10
November 23, 2020
Podcast #62 Annie Highwater & Katie Donovan - A Mother's Addiction Journey
Podcast #62 Annie Highwater & Katie Donovan - A Mother's Addiction Journey
In this episode of Coming Up for Air, Annie Highwater and Katie Donovan share thoughts about how their children's active addiction affected their whole family. Invested to help their kids overcome addiction, they both questionned their own behaviors, only to grow, heal and become stronger women, mothers, and individuals. amothersaddictionjourney.com anniehighwater.com Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic. 
01:12:05
November 09, 2020
Podcast #61 Laurie's Internal Journey
Podcast #61 Laurie's Internal Journey
In today's episode of Coming Up for Air, Dominique Simon-Levine asks Laurie MacDougall to share with us what was going through her mind when she realized her son was struggling with an opiate disorder.  From being naive and thinking her family would never be affected by addiction, to finding help in peer support and relief in educating herself. From experiencing depression and PTSD, to getting her life back by hitting 90 meetings in 90 days. From finding CRAFT and Allies in Recovery, to dedicating her life to helping families feel empowered. From driving around all night looking for her son, to figuring out how to let the negative and obsessive feelings wash over her. In this episode, Laurie delivers a beautiful and powerful account of the trials and tribulations of a mother fighting to heal her son and heal herself. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more here: alliesinrecovery.net  Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.
55:25
October 17, 2020
Podcast #60 DBT Part II — The Story of DBT
Podcast #60 DBT Part II — The Story of DBT
Annie continues the discussion with DBT specialist Lisa Bond. Where does DBT come from? They look into the story of Dr. Marsha Linehan, who struggled with mental health, suicidal feelings, etc. After her full recovery, Linehan created DBT for people who needed more than therapy or medical treatment. DBT is a powerful, encouraging, validating process that can transform just about any life in upheaval. A membership at Allies in Recovery brings you into contact with experts in the fields of recovery and treatment for drug and alcohol issues. Our learning platform introduces you to CRAFT and guides you through the best techniques for unblocking the situation. Together we will move your loved one towards recovery. Learn more here: https://alliesinrecovery.net/
01:09:32
June 04, 2019
Podcast #59 What Is DBT and Who Can It Help? Interview with Lisa Bond
Podcast #59 What Is DBT and Who Can It Help? Interview with Lisa Bond
In this episode (Part 1 of a 2-part series), Annie Highwater speaks with Lisa Bond, RB and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Specialist about the DBT method of treatment. DBT is found to be efficient and highly effective for those experiencing emotional distress, conflict issues, borderline personality, suicidal ideation, C-PTSD, trauma and addiction. Listen to this conversation to learn how DBT can help children, teens or adults, in all sorts of situations. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video learning modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the field of treatment and recovery. Learn more here: https://alliesinrecovery.net/
01:02:13
June 04, 2019
Podcast #58 Unpacking Module 3: What's Happening When My Loved One Uses?
Podcast #58 Unpacking Module 3: What's Happening When My Loved One Uses?
Being successful with the CRAFT method, which is at the core of the Allies in Recovery member site, requires building your awareness around your loved one's substance use. Laurie MacDougall runs family groups with our Learning Modules and brings up some of the common questions families have about Module 3. We look into the "ABC’s of your loved one’s use"(Antecedents, Behaviors, Consequences) and why they're key to understand. Many families are surprised to realize that, in addition to the negative consequences they're so familiar with, there are also positive consequences of our loved one's use—everything is not black and white. Dominique Simon-Levine, Allies' founder, provides explanations and anecdotes to help you go deeper into this key module. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more here. http://alliesinrecovery.net/#join
33:48
March 13, 2019
Podcast #57 I'm Desperate to Save My Loved One's Life
Podcast #57 I'm Desperate to Save My Loved One's Life
This podcast addresses the reality that so many families are living with: living in fear that our addicted loved one will die. Dominique Simon-Levine and Laurie MacDougall look at the CRAFT perspective On this understandable but destructive state of being. We so badly want to chain them to their beds until it's all over. Listen in to this conversation and let us give you a new perspective. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more here: https://alliesinrecovery.net/
36:07
March 07, 2019
Podcast #56 Sam Quinones Speaks About his Award-Winning Book, Dreamland
Podcast #56 Sam Quinones Speaks About his Award-Winning Book, Dreamland
Sam Quiñones researched and wrote the book Dreamland: The True Tale of America's Opiate Epidemic. In this episode, Annie has the privilege of speaking with Sam, who shares his rich experiences writing the book - from researching Mexican cartel trafficking, to meeting dealers in prisons who were open and raw with their stories, to getting to know the family members impacted by a Loved One's addiction. Sam paints a vivid picture of how the closing of community pools such as Dreamland (the books namesake) in Portsmouth, Ohio contributed to the gathering storm of what has become our country's worst drug epidemic in history. Hearing Sam feels like listening to an old friend describe years of family and community stories that hit right to the heart of all of us. Dreamland is a book everyone should read, and this is an episode everyone should hear!! A membership at Allies in Recovery brings you into contact with experts in the fields of recovery and treatment for drug and alcohol issues. Our learning platform introduces you to CRAFT and guides you through the best techniques for unblocking the situation. Together we will move your loved one towards recovery. Learn more here: https://alliesinrecovery.net/#benefits
01:07:40
November 10, 2018
Podcast #55 Dominique Simon-Levine—Attaching & Detaching—What Does This Even Mean?
Podcast #55 Dominique Simon-Levine—Attaching & Detaching—What Does This Even Mean?
Have we not all heard the phrase "You just need to detach" when it comes to navigating life in the midst of active addiction?  But...how exactly is this done?  Is detaching even the appropriate way to go about the relationship? Listen to this week's episode with Annie and Allies in Recovery's Founder Dominique Simon-Levine as they discuss the meaning of detaching, and how to ATTACH in healthy ways.  Annie shares true life examples from actual family members and readers, and Dominique gives some pretty amazing, expert CRAFT Method direction to each one; as if she were counseling them in person.  Great episode for ANY family!
37:50
October 31, 2018
Podcast #54 Prof. Daniel Skinner Considers Ohio's Issue #1
Podcast #54 Prof. Daniel Skinner Considers Ohio's Issue #1
In this episode of CUFA, Annie speaks with Dr. Dan Skinner, Assistant Professor of Health Policy at Ohio University’s Heritage College of Osteopathic Medicine, Department of Social Medicine, on the Dublin, Ohio campus. Their conversation focuses on a topic that is daily making news in Ohio - Issue 1 - the Drug Amendment that has both sides divided. Listen in as Dr. Skinner gives us details on what Issue 1 involves and how it will affect families in the State of Ohio and corresponding states who may choose to follow suit. His compassion is refreshing and inspiring. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more here: https://alliesinrecovery.net/
48:24
October 17, 2018
Podcast #53 Interview with Parent Coach Cathy Taughinbaugh
Podcast #53 Interview with Parent Coach Cathy Taughinbaugh
Cathy Taughinbaugh is a parent coach using the CRAFT method. In this interview, Cathy talks about her own experience with addiction in her family, addresses "Tough Love" and Al-Anon, and speaks about her work. For unlimited access to Allies in Recovery's online learning platform featuring our 8 Video Modules, join today. Learn more here: https://alliesinrecovery.net/#benefits
41:44
October 16, 2018
Podcast #52 What Is CRAFT & Why Do You Need It?
Podcast #52 What Is CRAFT & Why Do You Need It?
In this episode of CUFA, Annie and Laurie explain CRAFT method, what is is, how it works and what you can do to guide your Son, Daughter, Spouse, or other Loved One willingly into treatment.  Could tweaking your wording lead someone to choose recovery? What are some things you might try to influence another's behavior toward treatment and healing? And what are the ten types of distorted thinking that we all fall into from time to time? Lots of great direction, and hopeful information in today's show, this is an episode that every family needs to hear!! Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more here: https://alliesinrecovery.net/
45:09
July 14, 2018
PODCAST #51 Not My Child! Awakening & Awareness
PODCAST #51 Not My Child! Awakening & Awareness
When the first signs of addiction or substance abuse appear, our first reactions often revolve around denial, blame-shifting, shock. How do we as families, and a society, learn to see reality as it truly is? Why is it helpful to face the truth with clear eyes? How do we overcome or change these thoughts or beliefs on an individual, but also societal level? How can we be aware with out being paranoid or afraid? Laurie and Annie have both been there and have had time to look back and consider these important questions. Tune in for an interesting conversation... For unlimited access to Allies in Recovery's online learning platform featuring our 8 Video Modules, join today. Learn more here: https://alliesinrecovery.net/#benefits
28:12
July 04, 2018
PODCAST #50 Let Me Get You Some Soup (or Not!!) Recognizing Signs & Symptoms and Acting Accordingly
PODCAST #50 Let Me Get You Some Soup (or Not!!) Recognizing Signs & Symptoms and Acting Accordingly
Dominique Simon-Levine joins our hosts to provide a broader picture of what it looks and feels like when a loved one is using, or withdrawing. Gathering information and facts about your Loved One's substance use is one of the first steps that will allow you to apply the CRAFT method successfully. When you recognize signs of withdrawal/hangover, do you bring them soup? Help them to bed? Dominique Simon-Levine reminds us about the connections between moments of use, moments of withdrawal, and what CRAFT teaches the family to do. Annie also shares several real-life examples from families who have contacted her, wondering if what they were seeing were signs of use/relapse. Listen in for an information-filled, no-nonsense episode of Coming Up for Air! A membership at Allies in Recovery brings you into contact with experts in the fields of recovery and treatment for drug and alcohol issues. Our learning platform introduces you to CRAFT and guides you through the best techniques for unblocking the situation. Together we will move your loved one towards recovery. Learn more here. http://alliesinrecovery.net/
46:38
May 22, 2018
PODCAST #49 Family Secrets—Why Do We Keep Them?
PODCAST #49 Family Secrets—Why Do We Keep Them?
Every family has secrets, but when secrets keep us stuck, in pain or operating out of a system of dysfunction, why do we keep them? When it comes to addiction, betrayal, mistreatment...why do those who are affected have a harder time talking about it than those in the grip of the behavior? Family—wives, partners, mothers, fathers, siblings etc.—tend to have a more difficult time being open about what is going on in the family than those afflicted, even though protecting the secret seems to be the barrier between healing and relief. Laurie and Annie deep dive into this subject. Laurie gives an example from her own childhood, of having tried to report unsettling behavior to a relative; rather than accepting and handling wrongful behavior, her aunt chose go silent, invalidating the truth of the story in order to avoid "rocking the boat" within the family. This pathology affects us all at some point. Listen in to this week's episode to hear some great thoughts to consider for living a shame-less, secret-free existence! A membership at Allies in Recovery brings you into contact with experts in the fields of recovery and treatment for drug and alcohol issues. Our learning platform introduces you to CRAFT and guides you through the best techniques for unblocking the situation. Together we will move your loved one towards recovery. Learn more here: http://alliesinrecovery.net/
31:46
May 01, 2018
PODCAST #48 The Hosts Are The Guests! Allies in Recovery's Editor Interviews Annie & Laurie
PODCAST #48 The Hosts Are The Guests! Allies in Recovery's Editor Interviews Annie & Laurie
Not only will you learn what Laurie hankers for that is both sweet and salty, or why other drivers are likely to honk at Annie in her car, but in this new podcast episode, you will hear your Coming Up for Air hosts as never before. You will learn more about their motivations for why they do the work they do, hear what they envisioned for their lives (or didn't) as children, and learn about their visions for a society that does a better job addressing the issues of addiction. You'll also hear an interesting exploration of self-care — why is there so much resistance across the board? Allies in Recovery's Content Editor, Isabel Cooney, invites Laurie MacDougall and Annie Highwater to spend half an hour in the guest seats! Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video learning modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the field of treatment and recovery. Learn more here. http://alliesinrecovery.net/#benefits
37:28
April 05, 2018
PODCAST #47 Facing Addiction's Michael King Spreads Hope & Recovery
PODCAST #47 Facing Addiction's Michael King Spreads Hope & Recovery
"I'm a college-educated white male. I'm the face of addiction!" declares Michael King. Addressing the way we speak about addiction, he explains "If we end the stories that we tell by just talking about the mess that addiction creates, we're doing a disservice to everybody out there who is looking for help.....I wanna shout from the rooftops that Guess What! We create mountains of mess and we can work through them and make amends for those things that we've done wrong...and then we have the ability to take that experience and try to use it to try to help other people..." This week's episode is full of hope and information as Laurie and Annie speak with Michael King, of Facing Addiction. Even offering his own contact information for families in need, Michael touches on his own descent into alcoholism, DUI's and professional embarrassment, and his own recovery. From his own recovery he moved into truly embracing the world of recovery, finding a newborn passion for helping others and extending the support system on a national level. He speaks eloquently of the need to spread the word in our communities that recovery is possible! Join the Allies in Recovery member site today for full, unlimited access to our e-learning platform, expert guidance, and the chance to connect with others in your situation. Learn more here. http://alliesinrecovery.net/#benefits
41:05
March 23, 2018
PODCAST #46 Feeling Sorry: Where Does It Lead? Can It Be Useful?
PODCAST #46 Feeling Sorry: Where Does It Lead? Can It Be Useful?
When a Loved One suffers from addiction, part of the complicated web of emotions we experience involves feeling sorry for them. A Loved One struggling with the influence of drugs or alcohol is not in their "right mind," and can often play on those chords—inviting us to feel sorry for them, in order to extract from us what they need in that moment. As the family of a Loved One with SUD, we can also be vulnerable to feeling sorry for ourselves, given the high stress and heartache that are part of nearly every day. What are these feelings? Where do they come from? Is there anything to do about them, and can they be useful? Laurie and Annie dive into the topic with their usual passion and curiosity, giving examples from their own lives as well as helpful guidance. Tune in! A membership at Allies in Recovery brings you into contact with experts in the fields of recovery and treatment for drug and alcohol issues. Our learning platform introduces you to CRAFT and guides you through the best techniques for unblocking the situation. Together we will move your loved one towards recovery. Learn more here. http://alliesinrecovery.net/#benefits
36:21
March 08, 2018
PODCAST #45 You Don't Know What You Don't Know—Awareness & Preparednes
PODCAST #45 You Don't Know What You Don't Know—Awareness & Preparednes
In today's episode Annie and Laurie touch on awareness being low when it comes to how many families are struggling with an addicted or chemically dependent Loved One. They discuss what to be aware of ahead of time versus becoming aware through a wake up call. From how addiction starts, what specific signs to look for, how each of them would have handled a few things different had they known a thing or two like they do now...and how to handle someone in your orbit, such as a coworker, neighbor, relative or friend, that may have this going on with their son, daughter or other Loved One.
53:02
February 22, 2018
PODCAST #44 Interview with Former Drug Court Judge Scott Vanderkarr
PODCAST #44 Interview with Former Drug Court Judge Scott Vanderkarr
In this week's podcast episode Annie and Laurie interview recently retired Judge Scott Vanderkarr, from Columbus, Ohio's Drug Court. Scott left the bench to spread the word about Drug Courts being needed in every court setting across the nation. With a background as a Prosecuting Attorney and his days as a judge, Scott did not expect to find himself affected by the opiate epidemic on a personal level. Tune in to hear his moving account of the close relationship he developed with a young man who later died of an overdose. Scott tells us about all he is currently doing to bring hope and change to families who are dealing with the crisis of addiction. A membership at Allies in Recovery brings you into contact with experts in the fields of recovery and treatment for drug and alcohol issues. Our learning platform introduces you to CRAFT and guides you through the best techniques for unblocking the situation. Together we will move your loved one towards recovery. Learn more here. http://alliesinrecovery.net/#benefits
50:06
February 09, 2018
PODCAST #43 Encouraging Your Loved One into Treatment
PODCAST #43 Encouraging Your Loved One into Treatment
Your addicted loved one needs treatment. Motivation may not be great. You may have heard that the the family is powerless over the situation. Or you may be looking for a magic, instantaneous solution and fear that things are so dire that you don't have time to try anything "soft" or "gradual." Laurie and Annie, who have both successfully shepherded their loved ones into treatment, share how-to's for families facing this dilemma. Along with what worked well, they also point out what didn't. All the while acknowledging that different families need different solutions. Join the Allies in Recovery member site today for full, unlimited access to our e-learning platform, expert guidance, and the chance to connect with others in your situation. Learn more here. http://alliesinrecovery.net/#benefits
51:57
January 26, 2018
PODCAST #42 Do You Really Want to be Well?
PODCAST #42 Do You Really Want to be Well?
In this week's episode Laurie and Annie talk about those we know who seem content in misery, hanging pictures and inviting company down into their pit with them. Outside of being in the midst of trauma or grief, there are times we can decide not to see things negatively. Why do we return to situations we do nothing but complain about? This week's short podcast ends with a list from Psychology Today of symptoms and signs that one might be a "chronically unhappy person." Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more here. http://alliesinrecovery.net/#benefits
34:02
January 19, 2018
PODCAST #41 Who Is Your Enemy?
PODCAST #41 Who Is Your Enemy?
In this week's episode, Laurie and Annie discuss the differences between dealing with a relative or partner struggling with SUD, versus a son or daughter. They explore why we are so easily hurt and inflamed in the midst of it all. Why do others just not get it? And why are some people mean, particularly to someone who is down? Are they the enemy? Tune in to this week's informative, relatable conversation! For unlimited access to Allies in Recovery's online learning platform featuring our 8 Video Learning Modules, join today. Learn more here. http://alliesinrecovery.net/#benefits
38:26
January 12, 2018
PODCAST #40 Conflict & Family Patterns
PODCAST #40 Conflict & Family Patterns
In this week's episode, Laurie and Annie discuss patterns of conflict that repeat within our lives, sometimes without our realizing it. With recovery and peace as the goal, your hosts discuss strategies for not engaging in chaos and negativity. A membership at Allies in Recovery brings you into contact with experts in the fields of recovery and treatment for drug and alcohol issues. Our learning platform introduces you to CRAFT and guides you through the best techniques for unblocking the situation. Together we will move your loved one towards recovery. Learn more here. http://alliesinrecovery.net/#benefits
38:31
January 04, 2018
PODCAST #39 Accountability & SUD
PODCAST #39 Accountability & SUD
What is accountability and why is it important for families facing SUD? In this episode, Laurie goes over the meaning of accountability and how a movement of consequences for our kids began some years ago that included a level of shame and punishment that does not work. Your hosts discuss experiences with accountability including apologizing to their sons for handling them with fear and shaming tactics. Great episode for those who are ready to "drop the weapons" and approach their loved one with wisdom, compassion, love and hope! A membership at Allies in Recovery brings you into contact with experts in the fields of recovery and treatment for drug and alcohol issues. Our learning platform introduces you to CRAFT and guides you through the best techniques for unblocking the situation. Together we will move your loved one towards recovery. Learn more here: http://alliesinrecovery.net/#benefits
46:27
December 28, 2017
PODCAST #38 Trust and SUD
PODCAST #38 Trust and SUD
In today's Coming Up for Air episode, Annie and Laurie discuss the effects of broken trust. They look at the big picture of addiction entering the home of a family who did "all the right things," to family and friends damaging our trust, and how Substance Use Disorder (SUD) and deception often go hand in hand. They ponder who to trust, what to trust, how to trust again and how to look at the enormous topic of Trust when it comes to recovering from the trauma of addiction in a family. Tune in to this week's episode for encouraging information! Join the Allies in Recovery member site today for full, unlimited access to our e-learning platform, expert guidance, and the chance to connect with others in your situation. Learn more here. http://alliesinrecovery.net/#_benefits
30:03
December 22, 2017
Podcast #37 Holiday Episode: When the Holidays are a Trigger
Podcast #37 Holiday Episode: When the Holidays are a Trigger
Regardless the holidays or traditions you observe, this time of year can be trying, triggering and even traumatic. In this special holiday podcast, Laurie MacDougall and Annie Highwater take apart the often looming, overwhelming effect of "the Holidays" - from how our own expectations affect reality, what role nostalgia plays, how honest we are about those in our entourage who are struggling with SUD, and the heavy duty emotions that often come up for many of us during this time, this conversation will allow you to look at the holiday season from a different angle. A membership at Allies in Recovery brings you into contact with experts in the fields of recovery and treatment for drug and alcohol issues. Our learning platform introduces you to CRAFT and guides you through the best techniques for unblocking the situation. Together we will move your loved one towards recovery. Learn more here. http://alliesinrecovery.net/#_benefits
42:09
December 18, 2017
PODCAST #36 Anger vs. Wrath
PODCAST #36 Anger vs. Wrath
Anger is a natural part of the human experience. It is seen as a healthy response when a person has been victimized, for instance. Wrath, on the other hand, can be seen as the destructive state of being when a person takes anger too far, and is characterized by the desire for vengeance, the need to punish, and losing one's natural ability to tell right from wrong. In this episode, Annie and Laurie explore these two emotional states, the connections to a life affected by SUD, and ways to protect ourselves and our entourage from harmful behavior. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, two blogs, and dialogue with experts in the field of treatment and recovery. Learn more here: http://alliesinrecovery.net/#benefits
49:40
December 15, 2017
PODCAST #35 Liar Liar, Pants On Fire!
PODCAST #35 Liar Liar, Pants On Fire!
This episode focuses on lying. It is well known that SUD often ushers in lies and more lies. Annie Highwater and Laurie MacDougall explore the phenomenon of lying, digging back into their own childhoods and trying to identify the roots of lying in adulthood. They look at how we, as the entourage of someone with SUD, can approach the fact of being lied to. We may not be able to prevent someone from lying, but we can learn how not to be thrown off or trapped in the net. Finally, they address the reality that many families are tempted to create their own web of lies in order to protect their Loved One struggling with addiction. Listen in! A membership at Allies in Recovery brings you into contact with experts in the fields of recovery and treatment for drug and alcohol issues. Our learning platform introduces you to CRAFT and guides you through the best techniques for unblocking the situation. Together we will move your loved one towards recovery. Learn more here. Visit alliesinrecovery.net/ for more information, to sign up for Module 1 for free, or to join today!
39:48
December 07, 2017
PODCAST #34 Heads Up: Tips for Families with a Loved One on the Recovery Path
PODCAST #34 Heads Up: Tips for Families with a Loved One on the Recovery Path
In this episode, Annie and Laurie offer eye-opening tips for families who are affected by addiction—whether in the discovery phase, your loved one's already in treatment, or in recovery. Heads-Up tips include what to look for if you suspect your Loved One is struggling with a substance, to what to expect from those first calls home when they're in a treatment facility. Laurie and Annie discuss things they have learned along the way, as well as what they wish they’d known or been made aware of beforehand. Much helpful insight for those who are new or unsure of the dynamics they may encounter! Allies in Recovery offers affordable memberships to our exclusive member-only website. On our site, you will learn the CRAFT method which is an alternative to the conventional "intervention" so often seen on TV, and which simply fails to motivate our addicted loved ones, most of the time. Visit alliesinrecovery.net/ for more information, to sign up for Module 1 for free, or to join today!
58:13
December 01, 2017
PODCAST #33 Interview with Chief Deputy Sheriff Rick Minerd
PODCAST #33 Interview with Chief Deputy Sheriff Rick Minerd
IIn today's episode, Annie and Laurie speak with Chief Deputy Sheriff Rick Minerd, from the Columbus, Ohio area. Officer Minerd details what he sees in the field, related to addiction, crime and even issues with cartel. Without a personal recovery story of his own, he nevertheless shares a hopeful view that was spawned from listening to families who have been through the horror of addiction with a loved one. Officer Minerd runs the HOPE Task Force, which approaches families in addiction crisis, particularly in the aftermath of an overdose experience, to offer hope, compassion and resources for help versus punishment, shame or fear. Tune into this week's episode for an eye-opening conversation with an officer of the law who has seen just about everything! For unlimited access to Allies in Recovery's online learning platform featuring our 8 Video Modules, 3 blogs, podcasts and many other resources, join today. Learn more here (http://alliesinrecovery.net/) or sign up for our free gift offer and get a sample of our eLearning program for families here: http://alliesinrecovery.net/free-gift-offer/
47:55
November 24, 2017
PODCAST #32 Victimhood And Victimizing
PODCAST #32 Victimhood And Victimizing
What exactly IS victim mentality? Do you have it, do I? What is the definition of a victim? On this week's Coming Up for Air podcast, Laurie and Annie compare experiences of family and friendship that involved injury, disappointment and opportunities to stay down on the low road and wallow. Those along with experiences with a Loved One's struggle with SUD that are not personal, planned out attacks can tempt a person to feel defeated and suffer longer than we have to. One might get thrown under the bus, but we don't have to lay under it forever. We hope you will enjoy to this week's podcast conversation! Allies in Recovery is an online learning platform and community for families wanting to address the addiction of a loved one. Built on the foundation of a scientifically-validated program (CRAFT), Allies in Recovery is rooted in the firm belief that families can become effective, compassionate allies and guide their loved one towards recovery. To learn more or sign up for our free gift offer, visit: http://alliesinrecovery.net/free-gift-offer/
42:21
November 17, 2017
PODCAST #31 Interview with Richard Jones from the Recovery Cartel
PODCAST #31 Interview with Richard Jones from the Recovery Cartel
This week Laurie and Annie welcome Richard Jones: counselor, therapist, coach and founder of Recovery Cartel to Coming up for Air. Richard is in long term recovery himself and has an experienced, compassionate and innovative approach to helping guide families who are affected by an addicted Loved One. He throws terms like "tough love" and "enabling" out the window and sets family members at ease—particularly distressed parents—to get involved, talking, and on the same page when it comes to helping the one they are so worried about find their way out of the depths of addiction. Tune in to this week's episode to learn his take on this compassionate, whole-family style of therapy, coaching and treatment! A membership at Allies in Recovery brings you into contact with experts in the fields of recovery and treatment for drug and alcohol issues. Our learning platform introduces you to CRAFT and guides you through the best techniques for unblocking the situation. Together we will move your loved one towards recovery. Learn about membership and our free gift offer here: http://alliesinrecovery.net/free-gift-offer/
01:07:21
November 10, 2017
PODCAST #30 The Most Overlooked Resource: Family And Friends
PODCAST #30 The Most Overlooked Resource: Family And Friends
Has anyone ever said to you, “There is nothing you can do or say that will change things"? Did it make you feel hopeless? powerless? We may be powerless over the disease but we can influence our Loved Ones. This has been studied and proven with CRAFT. Have you ever noticed it's often the same people who warn against enabling and yet try to convince you you're powerless? Isn't this a bit contradictory? In this episode, Annie & Laurie discuss the role of parents-spouses-friends——the most loving and caring people in the Loved One’s life, and the most likely to champion their success in recovery and treatment. Join the Allies in Recovery member site today for full, unlimited access to our e-learning platform, expert guidance, and the chance to connect with others in your situation. Learn about membership and our free gift offer here: http://alliesinrecovery.net/free-gift-offer/
36:11
November 03, 2017
PODCAST #29 Interview with Pam Rickard from the Herren Project
PODCAST #29 Interview with Pam Rickard from the Herren Project
Today Pam Rickard is absolutely passionate about what she does - helping people with addiction and mental health for the Herren Project. She gives thanks for the judge who sentenced her to several months in jail for too many DUI's - this ended up being the beginning of her recovery. Rickard speaks about her life as a high-functioning alcholic who ran 7 marathons while still in active addiction.This interview with Laurie & Annie is both entertaining (Pam has a great sense of humor and ability to smile at herself) while also being extremely inspiring. A must hear! A membership at Allies in Recovery brings you into contact with experts in the fields of recovery and treatment for drug and alcohol issues. Our learning platform introduces you to CRAFT and guides you through the best techniques for unblocking the situation. Together we will move your loved one towards recovery. Learn more here. http://alliesinrecovery.net/free-gift-offer/
01:14:01
October 26, 2017
PODCAST #28 Fake It 'Til You Make It
PODCAST #28 Fake It 'Til You Make It
In this week's episode Annie and Laurie discuss what it means to be authentic, yet "fake it" until the feelings come organically -- regarding getting better, feeling positive, being friendly and making wise choices in difficult situations when everything in us wants to do something different (act out). Annie poses the question "Is it fake to have manners around someone who has treated you terribly?" Laurie gives scientific proof that we can actually elevate our moods and outlook by smiling, keeping a record of what we are grateful for and starting the day with a positive mind. Both agree being real is as necessary as "winging it" can sometimes be, to get better at handling very difficult situations, tune in for this very relatable episode! A membership at Allies in Recovery brings you into contact with experts in the fields of recovery and treatment for drug and alcohol issues. Our learning platform introduces you to CRAFT and guides you through the best techniques for unblocking the situation. Together we will move your loved one towards recovery. Learn more here. http://alliesinrecovery.net/
37:53
October 21, 2017
PODCAST #27 Codependency & Denial
PODCAST #27 Codependency & Denial
PODCAST #27 Codependency & Denial by Allies in Recovery
42:27
October 10, 2017
Mike Duggan: Wicked Sober
Mike Duggan: Wicked Sober
Mike Duggan from the State Without Stigma campaign and Wicked Sober, tells his personal story of addiction and speaks about his work and his passion. Mike is in long-term recovery himself and opens up about his own story. He expresses great hope for recovery and treatment for those who are ready to check out of the miserable life of addiction and into treatment. Tune in to this week's episode for a great insider view of what it's like in the depths of dependency, as well as the mindset of those who are prepared to find freedom and recovery from it! Allies in Recovery offers affordable memberships to our exclusive member-only website. On our site, you will learn the CRAFT method which is an alternative to the conventional "intervention" so often seen on TV, and which simply fails to motivate our addicted loved ones, most of the time. Visit alliesinrecovery.net/ for more information, to sign up for Module 1 for free, or to join today!
51:42
October 09, 2017
Crisis: How Do I Sit Through a Meeting When My Life is Falling Apart?
Crisis: How Do I Sit Through a Meeting When My Life is Falling Apart?
In this week's episode, Annie and Laurie recall times they have experienced "hit-the-ceiling" stress and crisis resulting from issues that surge out of a family member's addiction. Some of these crises were even life and death situations. Both reveal how they pulled themselves down in the moment, who helped, what helped, and what didn't help - including the "10 types of distorted thinking" that can arise in the midst of madness. Both have learned how to quickly come to a place of peace and to make smart decisions. Lots of information in this week's podcast for those times of Level 10 of stress, conflict and crisis! Allies in Recovery has made these podcasts available to the public in the hopes that you will relate to the experiences described by Laurie and Annie, that you will learn from them and be reminded that you are not alone. http://alliesinrecovery.net/ is the online home for families dealing with a loved one's addiction. We teach the CRAFT method of intervention, based on communication techniques, self-awareness and bridge-building with your addicted loved one.
46:07
September 21, 2017
Empty Nest and SUD
Empty Nest and SUD
In this week's show, Laurie and Annie respond to a Listener's message about life after SUD. When your Loved One goes off to treatment and recovery, life changes for everyone. The dynamics of an empty nest and absence of activity can have unexpected effects. Allowing ourselves time to process the changes and pursue new interests takes time, practice and sometimes therapy! For the full member package (eLearning for the family, specialized blogs, private journal, treatment resources...) join Allies in Recovery today! Learn more at http://alliesinrecovery.net/
33:50
September 20, 2017
What's In Your Toolbox?
What's In Your Toolbox?
We all need tools for repairing, tweaking or rebuilding. In this episode Laurie and Annie discuss power tools for trying times, tools for moments of crisis and chaos and tools for triumphant, peaceful lives. Having a toolbox is important for "calming down our crazy" and finding gratitude in the good that comes from lives changed by the turmoil of SUD and difficult times in general. Allies in Recovery offers affordable memberships to our exclusive member-only website. On our site, you will learn the CRAFT method which is an alternative to the conventional "intervention" so often seen on TV, and which simply fails to motivate our addicted loved ones, most of the time. Visit http://alliesinrecovery.net/ for more information, to sign up for Module 1 for free, or to join today!
44:49
September 01, 2017
Grief And Disappointment: the New Normal
Grief And Disappointment: the New Normal
In this episode of Coming Up for Air, Annie and Laurie cover the topic of grief and disappointment and elaborate on finding a new normal. Laurie covers the 5 stages of grief and introduces the concept of grieving someone still living. Both moms give examples of how they are making peace with how life was, versus what it has become after loss, change and having a Loved One struggles with SUD. Allies in Recovery offers affordable memberships to our exclusive member-only website. On our site, you will learn the CRAFT method which is an alternative to the conventional "intervention" so often seen on TV, and which simply fails to motivate our addicted loved ones, most of the time. Visit alliesinrecovery.net/ for more information, to sign up for Module 1 for free, or to join today!
47:33
August 18, 2017
Enabling Non-Use
Enabling Non-Use
We've all heard of enabling use, but what about enabling non-use? In this week's podcast, Laurie and Annie discuss the positive power we have to influence our loved ones suffering from SUD, by enabling moments of non-use. Annie introduces 6 real life scenarios submitted from family members with examples of current family crisis or issues. Laurie gives the suggested CRAFT response to each. Modifying the behavior around a struggling loved one begins the process of moving the family forward. Listen in to hear real life situations you might relate to, with helpful ways to approach and respond! For the full member package (eLearning for the family, specialized blogs, private journal, treatment resources...) join Allies in Recovery today! Learn more at http://alliesinrecovery.net/
47:41
August 01, 2017
Interview with Lee Weber from Addictionblog
Interview with Lee Weber from Addictionblog
This week on Coming Up for Air, Laurie and Annie welcome Lee Weber of the Addiction Blog. With a readership of 2.5 million per month, contributors from all over the world with expert knowledge of addiction, alcoholism, SUD and recovery (including our own Dominique Simon-Levine, Founder of Allies in Recovery), Lee's work is affecting the lives of many. She brilliantly delivers her personal story, along with her years of knowledge and research for our audience in this episode packed full of hope, information and encouragement. We hope you will get as much out of it as we did! Allies in Recovery has made these podcasts available to the public in the hopes that you will relate to the experiences described by Laurie and Annie, that you will learn from them and be reminded that you are not alone. http://alliesinrecovery.net/ is the online home for families dealing with a loved one's addiction. We teach the CRAFT method of intervention, based on communication techniques, self-awareness and bridge-building with your addicted loved one.
53:13
July 31, 2017
Interview with Activist Alicia Cook
Interview with Activist Alicia Cook
This week's episode of Coming up for Air may have had some technical difficulty, but Laurie and Annie powered through it to welcome their guest The Alicia Cook! Alicia Cook is an established writer and award-winning activist from New Jersey. Her work has appeared on the Huffington Post, CNN, USA Today, Teen Vogue, and many more. She gained international attention with the publication of her essay “The Other Side of Addiction“, which explores how the family is affected by addiction. Cook is extremely active in her efforts to combat the heroin epidemic, including writing, podcast appearances, and speaking to students and their parents. PBS Executive Producer, Steve Rogers, created an episode of his Emmy-nominated documentary series, “Here’s the Story” around Cook and her efforts entitled “A Family Disease.” The episode was dedicated to Cook’s cousin, Jessica, who passed away from a drug overdose in 2006. The episode was officially selected in the New Jersey Recovery Film Festival in 2017. Become a member of Allies in Recovery today and learn a proven method for how to unblock the situation and guide your addicted loved one towards treatment: http://alliesinrecovery.net/
01:07:57
July 24, 2017
Good-time Charlies: A Conversation on Addiction, Shame & Recovery with Rob Koebel
Good-time Charlies: A Conversation on Addiction, Shame & Recovery with Rob Koebel
On this week's Coming up for Air, Laurie and Annie welcome guest Rob Koebel to discuss his past experiences with alcoholism and where he is in his recovery today. Koebel is an award-winning journalist, actor, writer, host and voice-over artist. His journalism work has been recognized by Emmy awards, Associated Press and an Edward R Murrow award. After experiencing a very public embarrassment, Rob has been making the climb upward and onward to help others see what is behind the face of the "Good Time Charlie" drinkers and the effects they may have on their Loved Ones. Great episode for those who know and love or might be someone who is known as the life of the party! Allies in Recovery offers affordable memberships to our exclusive member-only website. On our site, you will learn the CRAFT method which is an alternative to the conventional "intervention" so often seen on TV, and which simply fails to motivate our addicted loved ones, most of the time. Visit alliesinrecovery.net/ for more information, to sign up for Module 1 for free, or to join today!
57:10
July 16, 2017
Interview With Laurie's Son Tommy
Interview With Laurie's Son Tommy
In today's episode, Laurie's son Tommy opens up about his experience with SUD. Listen to his moving account of surviving a terrifying overdose and his thoughts for teens and young adults. Tommy also elaborates on what he feels parents new to this situation ought to know... This is a strong, raw, realistic conversation that gives much insight and HOPE! Allies in Recovery offers affordable memberships to our exclusive member-only website. On our site, you will learn the CRAFT method which is an alternative to the conventional "intervention" so often seen on TV, and which simply fails to motivate our addicted loved ones, most of the time. Visit http://alliesinrecovery.net/ for more information, to sign up for Module 1 for free, or to join today!
53:14
July 10, 2017
Interview with Annie's Son
Interview with Annie's Son
On this week's Coming Up for Air podcast, Annie and Laurie talk with Annie's son Elliot, whose opiate dependency and recovery is detailed in Annie's book "Unhooked." Elliot opens up with an honest, raw perspective of where a son or daughter's mind might be while in active addiction, what would have helped from his point of view, what to not take personally as the parent of someone struggling deep in SUD. He also tells us what life looks like for someone in their 20's pursuing sobriety yet wanting a fun, active lifestyle. We hope you will gain lots of insight from this week's episode through the eyes of one who went to the depths of darkness in his addiction and found his way to treatment and recovery.• Become a member of Allies in Recovery today and learn a proven method for how to unblock the situation and guide your addicted loved one towards treatment: http://alliesinrecovery.net/
57:00
June 23, 2017
Silver Linings: Our New Playbook
Silver Linings: Our New Playbook
Can good possibly come in the midst of terrible crisis, chaos and despair? While Annie and Laurie agree that they wouldn't wish a loved one's struggling with SUD on any family, they also agree that it can prompt positive growth, pruning and weeding, purging and healthy family development. Strength can emerge from the depths of this adversity. This week's discussion revolves around personal growth that has come from facing the affliction of their sons' addiction. Both give examples of how their sons have matured into men and how society as a whole is being called to health, truth and compassion. Join in and send us your thoughts about this week's Coming Up for Air! For the full member package (eLearning for the family, specialized blogs, private journal, treatment resources...) join Allies in Recovery today! Learn more at http://alliesinrecovery.net/
46:24
April 11, 2017
Stories Of Stigma
Stories Of Stigma
Can good possibly come in the midst of terrible crisis, chaos and despair? While Annie and Laurie agree that they would wish a Loved One's struggling with SUD on no family, they also agree that it can prompt positive growth,pruning and weeding, purging and healthy family development. Strength can emerge from the depths of this adversity. This week's discussion revolves around personal growth that has come from facing the affliction of their sons' addiction. Both give examples of how their sons have matured into men and how society as a whole is being called to health, truth and compassion. Join in and send us your thoughts about this week's Coming Up for Air! Join us today to take advantage of the numerous benefits of being an Allies in Recovery member. Learn more at http://alliesinrecovery.net/
49:19
April 10, 2017
A House Divided Stands No Chance
A House Divided Stands No Chance
This week Annie and Laurie invite Laurie's husband Trevor and Annie's ex-husband Elliot Sr. to the podcast to discuss being on the same page during crisis and decisions. The conversation touches on blended families, exposing siblings to potentially dangerous behaviors, intrusions from others, being in agreement and being divorced-yet-not-divided. They all agree that division opens the door for manipulation.   Coming Up for Air brings together two inspiring moms, for thoughtful discussion of topics pertaining to addiction in the family. Both Annie Highwater and Laurie MacDougall have adult sons in recovery from opiate addiction. They also consider themselves to be in recovery, and have made self-care a central goal of their lives. Both use the CRAFT approach for addiction in the family. Allies in Recovery has made these podcasts available to the public in the hopes that you will relate to the experiences described by Laurie and Annie, that you will learn from them and be reminded that you are not alone. AlliesInRecovery.net is the online home for families dealing with a loved one's addiction. We teach the CRAFT method of intervention, based on communication techniques, self-awareness and bridge-building with your addicted loved one.
55:52
April 09, 2017
Trigger Happy
Trigger Happy
Laurie and Annie explore what it means to be triggered. Annie takes to the public to poll people about being triggered. Both give examples and explanations of how they perceive heated situations and how they are best dealt with. Laurie speaks, for example, about driving through a neighborhood that sparks the memory of her son's drug use, and how this can still produce anxiety for her. The episode ends with the topic of drinking reactivating the disease of addiction, and whether it's a trigger to drink around loved ones who have struggled with SUD. Join Allies in Recovery today and become part of a growing community of families learning how to become an ally to their addicted loved one. http://alliesinrecovery.net/
51:41
April 08, 2017
Enabling Use
Enabling Use
Annie and Laurie compare experiences of enabling use. They offer a short quiz on signs of enabling and discuss better ways of managing situations that might require lending a hand. To learn more about Allies in Recovery, the sponsor of Coming Up for Air, or to join our member site, visit AlliesinRecovery.net today. http://alliesinrecovery.net/ #enabling #addiction
43:46
April 07, 2017
Feelings, Nothing More...
Feelings, Nothing More...
Laurie and Annie elaborate on the effects and responses to surging emotions that are common when dealing with SUD and in other areas of human interaction. Why do we have feelings? And how much weight to we give them? To become a member of Allies in Recovery and learn CRAFT for the Family Member, visit AlliesinRecovery.net today! http://alliesinrecovery.net/ #emotions #SUD #feelings #addiction #opioids
45:56
April 06, 2017
Leave Your Drama To The Llama
Leave Your Drama To The Llama
This week, Annie and Laurie analyze the meaning of drama with examples from people asked in an entertaining poll in the public. Both discuss issues of drama within family, friendships, not getting sucked in and who at times can actually be drama!*** Coming Up for Air brings together two inspiring moms, for thoughtful discussion of topics pertaining to addiction in the family. Both Annie Highwater and Laurie MacDougall have adult sons in recovery from opiate addiction. They also consider themselves to be in recovery, and have made self-care a central goal of their lives. Both use the CRAFT approach for addiction in the family. Allies in Recovery offers affordable memberships to our exclusive member-only website. On our site, you will learn the CRAFT method which is an alternative to the conventional "intervention" so often seen on TV, and which simply fails to motivate our addicted loved ones, most of the time. Visit alliesinrecovery.net/ for more information, to sign up for Module 1 for free, or to join today! #FamilyDrama #Drama #friendships #addiction #family
01:02:17
April 05, 2017
Manipulation
Manipulation
This week, Laurie and Annie discuss experiences with manipulation. How do we recognize manipulation when it's present? How do we as affected family actually manipulate as well? Coming Up for Air brings together two inspiring moms, for thoughtful discussion of topics pertaining to addiction in the family. Both Annie Highwater and Laurie MacDougall have adult sons in recovery from opiate addiction. They also consider themselves to be in recovery, and have made self-care a central goal of their lives. Both use the CRAFT approach for addiction in the family. Allies in Recovery has made these podcasts available to the public in the hopes that you will relate to the experiences described by Laurie and Annie, that you will learn from them and be reminded that you are not alone. AlliesInRecovery.net is the online home for families dealing with a loved one's addiction. We teach the CRAFT method of intervention, based on communication techniques, self-awareness and bridge-building with your addicted loved one. http://alliesinrecovery.net/ #manipulation #addiction
47:31
April 04, 2017
The CRAFT Method, with Dominique Simon-Levine
The CRAFT Method, with Dominique Simon-Levine
Dominique Simon-Levine, creator and founder of Allies in Recovery.net is this week's special guest. Dominique is an expert in the CRAFT method for guiding an addicted loved one towards treatment and recovery. "You don't want to detach regardless of what's happening ..... You want to stay engaged. Yes, you want to step away and be neutral when you see them using .... but you're not going to go very far...." Coming Up for Air brings together two inspiring moms, for thoughtful discussion of topics pertaining to addiction in the family. Both Annie Highwater and Laurie MacDougall have adult sons in recovery from opiate addiction. They also consider themselves to be in recovery, and have made self-care a central goal of their lives. Both use the CRAFT approach for addiction in the family. Become a member of Allies in Recovery today and learn a proven method for how to unblock the situation and guide your addicted loved one towards treatment: http://alliesinrecovery.net/ #Selfcare #CRAFTintervention #addiction #familysupport #opioids
47:17
April 03, 2017
Slogans: The Language Of Recovery
Slogans: The Language Of Recovery
In this episode, Annie and Laurie discuss the familiar anecdotes of recovery (such as "the 3 C's," "Do the next right thing" and "They have to really, reaaally want it!" etc.). Each shares compelling personal examples of how applying these slogans/ideas can be strength-giving, encouraging, empowering and can give wisdom through the tough days. Coming Up for AiR brings together two inspiring moms, for thoughtful discussion of topics pertaining to addiction in the family. Both Annie Highwater and Laurie MacDougall have adult sons in recovery from opiate addiction. They also consider themselves to be in recovery, and have made self-care a central goal of their lives. Both use the CRAFT approach for addiction in the family. Allies in Recovery has made these podcasts available to the public in the hopes that you will relate to the experiences described by Laurie and Annie, that you will learn from them and be reminded that you are not alone. AlliesInRecovery.net is the online home for families dealing with a loved one's addiction. We teach the CRAFT method of intervention, based on communication techniques, self-awareness and bridge-building with your addicted loved one. http://alliesinrecovery.net/ #Slogans #wisdom #ToughDays #addiction #Opioids
55:24
April 02, 2017
Support Groups
Support Groups
Laurie and Annie compare support group experiences as well as what is helpful when you first find out, or if you're going through it alone. Coming Up for Air brings together two inspiring moms, for thoughtful discussion of topics pertaining to addiction in the family. Both Annie Highwater and Laurie MacDougall have adult sons in recovery from opiate addiction. They also consider themselves to be in recovery, and have made self-care a central goal of their lives. Both use the CRAFT approach for addiction in the family. Allies in Recovery has made these podcasts available to the public in the hopes that you will relate to the experiences described by Laurie and Annie, that you will learn from them and be reminded that you are not alone. AlliesInRecovery.net is the online home for families dealing with a loved one's addiction. We teach the CRAFT method of intervention, based on communication techniques, self-awareness and bridge-building with your addicted loved one. http://alliesinrecovery.net/ #addiction #SupportGroups #opioidCrisis
59:52
April 01, 2017
Goals as a Family Member
Goals as a Family Member
Annie and Laurie open up about where the focus was when addiction first presented in their sons, all the way through to where their goals and focuses are now -  with a short quiz on where you might be in the stressful process. (It is a process!) Become a member of Allies in Recovery today and learn a proven method for how to unblock the situation and guide your addicted loved one towards treatment: http://alliesinrecovery.net/ #addiction #stress #opioidCrisis #RecoveryisaProcess
44:21
March 31, 2017
Consistent Forgiveness
Consistent Forgiveness
This week, Laurie and Annie dive deep into the role forgiveness plays, relating to addiction and the road to recovery.  This episode explores frequent forgiveness for a loved one who is acting out in the disease, as well as personal examples of forgiving others who made it worse along the way. Annie and Laurie end the episode with a discussion of the reasons they needed to forgive themselves. Coming Up for Air brings together two inspiring moms, for thoughtful discussion of topics pertaining to addiction in the family. Both Annie Highwater and Laurie MacDougall have adult sons in recovery from opiate addiction. They also consider themselves to be in recovery, and have made self-care a central goal of their lives. Both use the CRAFT approach for addiction in the family. Allies in Recovery has made these podcasts available to the public in the hopes that you will relate to the experiences described by Laurie and Annie, that you will learn from them and be reminded that you are not alone. AlliesInRecovery.net is the online home for families dealing with a loved one's addiction. We teach the CRAFT method of intervention, based on communication techniques, self-awareness and bridge-building with your addicted loved one. http://alliesinrecovery.net/ #forgiveness #RoadtoRecovery #addiction #AddictionisaDisease #opioidCrisis
44:30
March 30, 2017
Friends' And Family's Reactions
Friends' And Family's Reactions
Annie and Laurie open up about parallel issues that can arise through the worst of times.  As they managed their homes with their sons' addiction raging, they also had to deal with what was going on on other fronts: crisis, chaos, conflicts, the good, the bad and the unexpected that happened alongside the central struggle. Join us today to take advantage of the numerous benefits of being an Allies in Recovery member. Learn more at http://alliesinrecovery.net/ #OpioidCrisis #Chaos #addiction #conflict #WorstofTimes
38:21
March 29, 2017
Annie And Laurie's Stories
Annie And Laurie's Stories
In this episode, Laurie and Annie briefly introduce themselves and discuss backgrounds, family dynamics and open up about their lives leading up to and through their experience with the national opiate crisis entering their lives. Two very different paths leading to the same journey of recovery. Their compelling stories validate the idea that addiction is a disease and it’s a family disease that can happen to any family in any community. We must recover together. Coming Up for Air brings together two inspiring moms, for thoughtful discussion of topics pertaining to addiction in the family. Both Annie Highwater and Laurie MacDougall have adult sons in recovery from opiate addiction. They also consider themselves to be in recovery, and have made self-care a central goal of their lives. Both use the CRAFT approach for addiction in the family. Allies in Recovery has made these podcasts available to the public in the hopes that you will relate to the experiences described by Laurie and Annie, that you will learn from them and be reminded that you are not alone. AlliesInRecovery.net is the online home for families dealing with a loved one's addiction. We teach the CRAFT method of intervention, based on communication techniques, self-awareness and bridge-building with your addicted loved one. http://alliesinrecovery.net/ #AddictionisaDisease #opioidCrisis, #familystories #addiction #Drugs
51:48
March 28, 2017