Mindset for Medical Moms

Do you just feel like you are the problem in every scenario? I did. For years, I felt like I was just broken. In this episode, I share a very personal reflection on motherhood and what healing that belief actually looked like for me.

If all the habit advice out there is true and helpful, why can't you just stick to the habits you want? Because you're missing the piece that actually makes habit change last.

In this episode I explain what you need to do first before any other habit hacks and how you can start seeing results today.

If you are waiting for the other shoe to drop and get anxious when you start to feel happy this episode is for you.

You don't have to choose between being a good caregiver and being happy.

In this episode I share how being intentional about practicing positive emotions will help you be more present and stop setting yourself up to doubt your happiness.

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Self compassion is the key to growth, long term change, and overall confidence. Practicing self compassion is self care. In this episode I will show you how to do it. I also break down what self-compassion is, what skills are involved in putting it into practice and realistic examples of how you can apply it to your life today.

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Do you want to increase your confidence? Change a habit? Feel less dread before an upcoming doctor's appointment?

This episode will teach how to do just that. I share two tools how to build your belief in yourself and how to shift your mindset in simple, doable, realistic ways.

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If you have a medical anniversary come up, often times it can be difficult to know what to do with them. In this episode I outline the three things you can do to help yourself work through difficult emotions that arise and what you should know about medical anniversaries.

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In this episode I walk you through the actions I took and the mindset changes that I made to lose twenty pounds. Spoiler alert, the mindset changes were the biggest piece of the weight loss puzzle. Listen in to hear all of the beliefs I had to let go of and the new ones I had to learn.

The quiet conversations that you have with yourself are the building blocks to self love. In this episode you'll learn how to engage with your negative self talk and criticism in a simple, easy to implement way. You'll hear multiple examples of how this might show up in your life and how to engage with yourself so that you are building up your self confidence instead of reinforcing negative beliefs.

"Logically, I understand it's not my fault, but I still feel so guilty."

If you struggle with feeling guilt, shame, and responsibility for your chid's health condition this episode will be the one for you.

In this episode I share why you feel this way, what stops you from feeling better, how to feel better, and where to start. It's packed with amazing information to help you feel less guilty and more confident as a medical mom.

Being in the hospital is exhausting. It taxes your body, your emotions, and energy. Taking a break from the hospital in some capacity is necessary to avoid burnout and help take care of yourself. This episode shares practical tips and mindset shifts to help you feel better about taking a break when you need it.

Forgiveness is a loaded word. It can feel like such a huge task or burden to forgive someone. In this episode I simplify forgiveness so that forgiveness does not feel like a complicated endeavor and share how to start using forgiveness as a tool to utilize in your relationships. It's a choice to forgive and forgiveness is not a stamp of approval for harmful behavior, but a way to actively create connection and set boundaries in your relationships.

During the six weeks I took adult swim lessons, I learned so much more than how to swim, I learned about the importance of mindset work and processing difficult emotions to create the results I wanted. Today I share those eight lessons that I had to use and apply to swim lessons and beyond. Join in me learning more about the secret to truly managing discomfort, increasing your self belief, and one of the most powerful emotions to cultivate when doing difficult things.

In this episode I share what it means to manage your brain, why it matters, and how it can help. Including 5 areas it can make the most impact in your life.

What do you do when you feel constantly guilty? how do you handle shame when you feel so stuck? In this episode I share with you five steps that will help you respond to your guilt and shame so that you can help yourself redirect your mind, help yourself move forward without feeling bad and feel more confident along the way. Shame stops us from self belief and this episode will show you how to stop shame and take back your authority over your emotions.

Do you find yourself comparing yourself often? Judging yourself or others more frequently than you want to? This episode shows the different areas where you might be comparing yourself in medical motherhood and life. I share what keeps you stuck in comparison and how to get out of it.

The term self care gets tossed around a lot these days and this episode is here to set the record straight. I share what self care is, what it is not, and how to consider what self care looks like in your life. I debunk several myths around self care and help you understand the very next steps you need to take to take care of yourself best.

When I discovered Sleuth, I knew I needed to have the co-founder Sehreen on the podcast. Sleuth is an app for families to use for their kid's health. This is a "better webMD for kids". This conversation is so inspiring as we dive into advocacy, the future of tools like Sleuth that can help medical moms, and how to navigate life as a caregiver, while managing your own stress and wellbeing. This is a must listen for all medical moms.

Happiness sometimes feels like it's this elusive thing we are always chasing, but it doesn't have to be that way. In this episode I share how to think about happiness, how to create it, and what stops you from feeling happy.

Do you want more patience? Does patience often feel like you're forcing yourself to use all your will power? I've got the trick for you. In this episode I'll share how to think about patience in a brand new way, so that you don't have to force yourself or feel exhausted after one interaction. This small shift will be the difference between you feeling frustrated and impatient to feeling calm and capable. Increasing your ability to feel patient will help you get off the emotional rollercoaster.

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People pleasing is sneaky. it labels itself as being polite, nice, and just keeping the peace. What it actually is is lying, manipulation, and sacrificing yourself to prove you're likable and even lovable.

This episode was inspired by my recent experience at a restaurant where I was not okay with my food, but simply said, "I'm fine." I share the toll people pleasing takes on you, the good qualities it has given you, and the four simple ways you can stop people pleasing.

In this episode we are joined by the incredible Katie Taylor, a certified Child Life Specialist. Katie shares how you can navigate inpatient life use the hospital resources available to you to the best of your abilities. We discuss how you can coordinate breaks, how to participate in rounds, and how to utilize a child life specialist to help you and your child while in the hospital.

Everyone of us will have circumstances that we can change and we can't change and have a lot of feelings about them all too. In this episode I share how you can tap into your own personal empowerment by giving yourself the gift of choice. I share what you should know about circumstances and the tools you can use to help yourself navigate each new circumstance you find yourself. I share how these tools changed my life and how they can help yours.

In this episode I outline the steps of processing a diagnosis. This simple process shows you what you need to do to handle the arrange of emotions and shifted expectations when receiving a diagnosis. I also include several ways to gain a deeper insight into your mindset so that you can accept diagnosis and move forward.

Are you feeling anxious about an upcoming appointment or have you been given a clearance after your child has been considered stable but you can't shake the feeling that the other shoe is going to drop at any moment? This is a feeling most medical moms can relate to and it can feel so overwhelming. It often feels productive to feel this way sometimes. In this episode I will share with you how to see how this feeling can impact your life and what to do about it so you can feel differently.

The right questions can open you up to new possibilities. In this episode I share with you a list of questions to consider for all different scenarios in your life and how they can help you move in the direction you want to go. These questions when asked with curiosity will help you understand yourself better, gain more awareness around your needs, and build your confidence. You won't think about questions the same after this episode.

This month's podcast guest is with Nakayla Von Raeder a pediatric sleep consultant for neurodivergent children. We answer all you hot button sleep questions like:

When should your child stop having screen time before bed?

Why is sleep so important and how does it impact my child?

When do I use melatonin?

How do I get my kids to share a room effectively?

Plus so much more!

This episode is truly going to blow you mind and help you get more sleep.

How do you start doing things you know you should, but find yourself procrastinating because you feel so stuck with fear? This second part to this masterclass on fear is all about taking actions when you feel stuck. This episode will teach how to practice compassionate understanding to get yourself unstuck and taking the action you want.

The number one struggle I see medical moms come to me about is fear. How do you deal with constant fear of the unknown? How do you relax when anything could happen at any time? How do you manage your stress through all of  it even when things are stable? Or when something comes up how do I not spiral into a puddle?

So we are going to dive into all of these questions and the fear that comes with it so that you can understand what your options are in managing your thoughts and feelings through this so you can show up and feel the way you want to. 

Sexual health is an important part of overall human health, but often gets discredited as shallow or unimportant. In this episode I sit down with Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Sarah Hughes to discuss why sex can be so weird to discuss, how to improve your sex life, how to work through purity culture and more. It's chalk full of incredible insights that will help you embrace your body, pleasure, and prioritize a fulfilling sex life

Accepting your child's diagnosis is one of those things that no one talks about, but it's something that impacts both you and your child. In this epsisode you will learn: 

- the three reasons why you should work on accepting your child's diagnosis 

- What you might be avoiding instead and using acceptance as the front 

- the three basic tools to guide you through medical motherhood 

- how to accept your child's diagnosis 

Emotional capacity is your ability to navigate unhelpful thought patterns, difficult emotions, and the quality of your relationships. How do you expand this? How do you respond to emotional triggers if you're exposed to them again and again? 

In this episode you will learn: 

- why emotional triggers are not bad things

- why it's important to understand how to regulate your emotions in those triggering events 

- what your brain needs during those times of emotional unsafely 

- how to self soothe 

When someone says, "happiness is an inside job." do you get super annoyed? I did too. I resisted that idea for a long time, because I didn't know how to be responsible for my emotions in a way that didn't include blame or shame. In this episode I share what it is that you're responsible for and how you can lean into that responsibility in a way that serves you. Being responsible for yourself is the most empowering thing you can do because you are the biggest influence you have in your life. It's time to let yourself influence you fully. 

You'll learn: 

- what you're responsible for 

- why it matters 

- specific examples of being emotionally responsible 

The number topic that people stress out about the most is money. Money can feel scary, confusing, and overwhelming. In this episode I sit down with money mindset expert Shannon Brome-Ward to discuss all the ways your money mindset can impact how money feels. If you want to change how money feels in your life, you cannot miss this episode. We cover so many topics in one episode it will blow your mind. 

If you're feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or generally feeling bad and want to feel differently, this episode is designed to show you how you can feel better. I show you how by telling what not to focus on. When you're feeling a lot of negative feelings it's easy to feel lost and not sure where to start. In this episode you'll learn what not to focus on, how to recenter your focus, what you actually can be doing, and what you shouldn't be wasting your time with. 

Waiting for your appointments to space out so you can finally feel less overwhelmed? What if you don't have to wait for anything to change for you to feel differently? In this episode I help you see what parts of the appointments frequency are in your control and how to feel differently about it. It's not a magic pill or make believe. it's simple tools and intentional thought work put together to help you feel more empowered in your medical motherhood experience. 

Parenting a child with medical needs involves being in scenarios you never expected and considering questions you've never had to ask before. In this episode I share how to consider your role as a parent and what you need as a parent to feel more confident navigating parenting a child with medical needs.  

Why haven't you ever stuck with an exercise habit? It could be that you've been treating exercise like a checklist rather than what it is...a relationship. In medical motherhood we don't often get the benefit of being able to have tons of predicability and this can cause you to feel like you don't have time or the schedule to exercise. Changing your habits starts with creating the ability to adapt and be responsible for your relationship with exercise and in this episode I show you how to do that. 

Before you're a mother there are a lot things you think motherhood is and then you become a mom and reality sets in and you find out how wrong you are about it. So much of motherhood is better and harder than you realize. Medical motherhood presents it's own unique challenges, but none more than the missed expecations of what you thought motherhood was supposed to me. Medical motherhood puts you in situations you never imagined being in and it's easy to think of this 'version' of motherhood as second best, second-rate, and not the 'real' version of motherhood. 

This episode takes a deep dive into expectations of motherhood and how you can reconcile your expectations with reality. 

This time of year can be so stressful and challenging to navigate with healthy kids, let a lone a child with complex medical needs. This episode I'm sharing how to look at this time of year so that you're not adding additional stress and worry. With simple considerations you can feel empowered by your choices and support yourself and your family through this time of year. 

What the heck is a life coach? What does a life coach even do? These questions plus several more questions are answered in this episode plus so much more. In this episode I talk about how important it is to see your own authority in your life, how to think about investments, and how to consider if coaching is right for you.  

Where does your self worth come from? Is it supposed to feel like a constant chase? Building yourself worth doesn't have to be complicated. In this episode Cortney shares how simple self worth is and how you can create a strong foundation of self worth.  

Your self-talk is the narration of your life. How you speak to yourself is one of the greatest ways you can improve you relationship with yourself, increase your confidence, and change self doubt. This episode includes 5 ways to improve your self talk in practical ways that actually help. 

Gratitude is an incredible tool to use in your life. As a medical mom you know how much there is to be grateful for, but I don't want any medical mom forcing themselves to be grateful. Forced gratitude and genuine gratitude are two different ways of using the tool of gratitude. In this episode I share how you can use gratitude in a way that helps you rather than makes you feel guilt or sadness or shame. 

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It usually happens late at night laying in bed, a whirlwind of thoughts hit you hard. You start worrying about all the possible, usually negative, outcomes of the upcoming doctor's appointment you have and it's completely overwhelming. Anxiety can hit us and feel never ending, in this episode I break down how to respond to appointment anxiety so that you can show up and be present in those appointments.  

Present you and future you are in a co-creating relationship. In this episode you will learn how to consider that relationship in way that allows you to work towards the things you want and not fear what the future holds. 

Save the date! July 16th 2022 I'll be at Little Cottonwood Park in Los Alamitos California for a mindset for medical moms meetup from 2-4pm.