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Courtship Code

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Join Relationship coach, author and experienced matchmaker, Zara J., every week as she delivers courtship and dating advice for ambitious, high achieving, and successful women looking to break up with past relationship trauma and low self worth, and learn how to embody feminine energy, authenticity, and court compatible men for commitment. Using a combination of spirituality, psychology, and matchmaking techniques, Zara created the Captivating Courtship Code.

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This excuse prevents confident women from attracting a true quality relationship S4E26

Courtship CodeJun 07, 2021

00:00
24:44
Captivating Testimonial: Adapter Love Loop, Engagement & Doing the Inner Work S7E14
Mar 25, 202454:29
Courtship for Anxiously attached High Achieving women S7E13

Courtship for Anxiously attached High Achieving women S7E13

If you are a high achieving woman that's anxiously attached you may find yourself overthinking interactions with men, having a hard time balancing your career and love life, or attracting emotionally unavailable men.

You may find yourself subconsciously trying to control the outcome of the relationship and rushing the courtship process whenever relationship anxiety creeps in. This keeps you on the hot-cold, situationship relationship wheel.

Being in this courtship loop may have you feeling frustrated, lonely, or even confused about how to break-free from sabotaging patterns so that you can attract the healthy, long-term commitment you truly want.

In today's episode you will learn the actual problems you're facing in your dating and courtship experiences and what shifts you need to take, along with a practical solution that makes courtship and dating effortless and predicatable.


Enrollment for The Captivating Courtship Code coaching program is NOW OPEN:

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

Links mentioned in this episode:

The Captivating Courtship Code  - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to attract commitment and high level coaching every step of the way.

Love Loops Community Membership - Get a complimentary month to the Love Loops Community and break your relationship patterns. Step into your worthiness of unlimited love, and out of the burnout, breakup, and situationship loop. 

Captivating Weekend - Join the 3-day immersive experience with like minded women who are serious about life and love. Learn tools and techniques to stop letting relationship anxiety block love, and create your 90 day attraction plan.

Have a question? DM us on Instagram @captivatingcourtship

Mar 18, 202437:08
Setting Boundaries and Uncovering Blindspots S7E12
Mar 11, 202436:46
Captivating Weekend - Self Worth Sarah S7E11

Captivating Weekend - Self Worth Sarah S7E11

If you have achieved success in her career but struggle with feelings of inadequacy in your personal life, you may be a Self-Worth Sarah.

When it comes to Self-Worth Sarahs, despite your accomplishments, you battle with low self-worth and often attract emotionally unavailable partners who reinforce your negative beliefs about yourself. 

This may lead to codependency in relationships and feeling burnt out from unsuccessful dating experiences.

In this episode, you will learn how to break this relationship pattern and step into your worthiness to have the love and life you deserve.


Captivating Weekend

www.captivatingcourtship.com/captivatingweekend


Links mentioned in this episode:

The Captivating Courtship Code  - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to attract commitment and high level coaching every step of the way.

Love Loops Community Membership - Get a complimentary month to the Love Loops Community and break your relationship patterns. Step into your worthiness of unlimited love, and out of the burnout, breakup, and situationship loop. 

Captivating Weekend - Join the 3-day immersive experience with like minded women who are serious about life and love. Learn tools and techniques to stop letting relationship anxiety block love, and create your 90 day attraction plan.
Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @captivatingcourtship




Feb 28, 202428:40
Captivating Weekend - Anxious Ava S7E10

Captivating Weekend - Anxious Ava S7E10

Are you an Anxious Ava? If you are a woman who values your spiritual beliefs and is actively seeking a long-term committed relationship, however, your anxious attachment style leads you to overthink every interaction with potential partners, then you may be an Anxious Ava.

Your anxiety causes you to appear clingy or needy. Despite your desire to find love, you struggle with managing your emotions and often feels discouraged by the lack of commitment from the men you date.

In this episode we discuss the biggest pain points for the Anxious Ava type when experiencing relationship anxiety, and how to attract a partner you desire who is willing to commit to a serious relationship.


Captivating Weekend

https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/captivatingweekend


Links mentioned in this episode:

The Captivating Courtship Code  - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to attract commitment and high level coaching every step of the way.

Love Loops Community Membership - Get a complimentary month to the Love Loops Community and break your relationship patterns. Step into your worthiness of unlimited love, and out of the burnout, breakup, and situationship loop. 

Captivating Weekend - Join the 3-day immersive experience with like minded women who are serious about life and love. Learn tools and techniques to stop letting relationship anxiety block love, and create your 90 day attraction plan.

Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @captivatingcourtship





Feb 26, 202420:25
Captivating Weekend - Are you an Overwhelmed Olivia? Story time S7E9

Captivating Weekend - Are you an Overwhelmed Olivia? Story time S7E9

Are you an overwhelmed Olivia? If you are successful with a demanding career, balancing life and love can feel very overwhelming, and your romantic life may even take a backseat to your career. 

Despite your professional achievements, you struggle with relationship anxiety and constantly finds yourself emotionally attached to men who are unavailable or unwilling to commit. 

In this episode we discuss how to avoid feeling burnout from unsuccessful dating experiences, and how to deal with clinginess and neediness in relationships, along with experiencing low self-worth.


Captivating Weekend Register Now:

https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/captivatingweekend


Links mentioned in this episode:

The Captivating Courtship Code  - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to attract commitment and high level coaching every step of the way.

Love Loops Community Membership - Get a complimentary month to the Love Loops Community and break your relationship patterns. Step into your worthiness of unlimited love, and out of the burnout, breakup, and situationship loop. 

Captivating Weekend - Join the 3-day immersive experience with like minded women who are serious about life and love. Learn tools and techniques to stop letting relationship anxiety block love, and create your 90 day attraction plan.

Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @captivatingcourtship


Feb 23, 202430:06
A Sneak Peek into Our Captivating Weekend Virtual Event S7E8

A Sneak Peek into Our Captivating Weekend Virtual Event S7E8

🌟 Ready to break free from relationship anxiety and find lasting love? 

Join me for the Captivating Weekend virtual event! 🌟

If you're a high-achieving woman who's tired of feeling overwhelmed and burnt out in your dating life, this workshop is for you. 

Discover proven strategies to overcome self-sabotaging relationship patterns, cultivate confidence, and attract the love you deserve.

For 3 days we will work together in an intimate event to help you get crystal clear on how to break your relationship patterns, create an offline plan to meet compatible partners, and design a life you love.

Space is limited.

Secure your spot today and take the first step towards a brighter, more fulfilling future. 

DM, “CAP”, to register on Instagram @captivatingcourtship


#CaptivatingWeekend #LoveAndFulfillment #Empowerment #RelationshipCoaching


Feb 22, 202409:16
How to use Courtship Loops to Attract Better Relationships S7E7
Feb 19, 202426:56
No Journey to Love is the Same S7E6
Feb 12, 202433:08
Why insecurity stops men from pursuing you and what to do about it S7E5
Feb 08, 202450:26
Overcoming Uncertainty for Anxious Attachers S7E4
Feb 02, 202443:41
How to Use Marriage Mentors to Improve your Love Life S7E3

How to Use Marriage Mentors to Improve your Love Life S7E3

Jan 15, 202459:21
Captivating Courtship 2024 S7E2

Captivating Courtship 2024 S7E2

In this episode we reflect on courtship lessons of 2023, what to expect from Captivating Courtship, and new services and programs in 2024.


To get the 2024 service guide, email or DM "MORE" @zarajcaptivatingcourtship on Instagram or book a consultation.


Book a 30 minute consultation: www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

Links mentioned in this episode:

FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them

Join The Captivating Courtship Code Coaching - Enjoy the luxury and intimacy of live coaching in our exclusive group coaching community for greater success and support to transform your love life for good.
Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com


Jan 08, 202447:19
Stop trying to change him & do this instead S7E1
Jan 01, 202401:01:38
How to stop being the problem in your love life S6E51
Dec 25, 202335:33
Why you struggle to trust men during dating & courtship and how to trust S6E50

Why you struggle to trust men during dating & courtship and how to trust S6E50

One of the scarier aspects of dating & courtship is opening yourself up to making new connections, feeling excited about the relationship, then fearing disappointment. When you finally meet a new man that you share a connection with, you so badly want the relationship to work that you subconsciously begin looking for all the reasons why it won't. This cycle is exhausting and a pattern you will want to break if you are serious about attracting a healthy, committed partner and lasting relationship.

In order to do this you must learn to rebuild your trust muscle and learn to trust yourself, first. If you find yourself struggling to trust men you may be experiencing a lot of fear, anxiety, and conflict in your relationships. This episode will help you understand why you struggle to trust and how you can change this around and rebuild your trust muscle so that you can attract the love and relationship of your dreams.


Links mentioned in this episode:

FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them

The Captivating Courtship Code Lifetime Community - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to heal relationship patterns, create your captivating life and attract love.

Join The Captivating Courtship Code Coaching - Enjoy the luxury and intimacy of live coaching in our exclusive group coaching community for greater success and support to transform your love life for good.

Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com  

Dec 18, 202351:26
Hot Cold Relationship Burnout S6E49
Oct 23, 202349:54
Anxious Overthinking & Sabotaging Relationship Patterns S6E48
Oct 17, 202339:16
 From anxiously attached to trusting the Courtship Process and Letting Go of Control S6E47

From anxiously attached to trusting the Courtship Process and Letting Go of Control S6E47

Do you find it difficult to stop anxious overthinking during the courtship process? If you find yourself getting deeply emotionally attached whenever the need for security and validation surface and it's sabotaging your love life, this episode is for you.

Oftentimes, when you find yourself feeling fear and other emotions around a potential relationship going left, you may emotionally react and become needy, clingy, or combative and unintentionally push the man away or try to control the courtship process in order to speed things up and get the commitment you desire. This is a fast track to ruining the path to commitment. When you are on the bridge of trust as we teach in CCC you must stop repeating past relationship patterns, allow yourself to fully connect with a man's heart, and navigate the courtship process with intention so the bridge feels safe to cross for both parties. This will help you attract love.


On today's episode we're discussing how high achieving women can manage anxious attachment during the courtship process and let go of trying to control the process.


Links mentioned in this episode:

Free Love Loops Masterclass:

https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR

Free Love Loops Roadmap

https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy

Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:

⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠

Find Your Path to Love:

⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

Oct 09, 202328:28
How to Communicate to Connect from the Heart S6E46

How to Communicate to Connect from the Heart S6E46

Do you have difficulty allowing yourself to be fully authentic, vulnerable, and feel safe connecting with a man's heart? When you are attempting to attract commitment from sabotaging relationship patterns, child trauma, or unhealed wounds you will have a hard time communicating from your heart without fear of rejection, disappointment, or being judged. This is way, learning how to communicate and connect from the heart is one of the most powerful ways you can transform your love life and deepen emotional connections that lead to a healthy relationship.


As a woman, your feminine essence is your superpower. It allows you to influence, create safety, and captivate a man's heart effortlessly. Knowing how to tap into your super in a way that is purely authentic, heart-centered, and connected to your core will ground you in your worth and make you even more attractive to the best relationship for you. When you are reacting out of fear of hurt, guarded, or treating relationships transactionally you won't create the healthy, loving connection you desire with a man. This is Wounded Princess Energy. Potential partners won't be able to deny this aspect of your authentic value when you can fearlessly communicate and connect from your heart as the Captivating Queen you are.


In this episode you will learn how to communicate and connect with a man's heart and how you can empower yourself through your feminine essence to transform your love life and all of your relationships.


ENROLLMENT FOR CCC OPENS SEPTEMBER 15-22. GET ON THE WAITLIST NOW.

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Links mentioned in this episode:

Free Love Loops Masterclass:

https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR

Free Love Loops Roadmap

https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy

Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:

⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠

Find Your Path to Love:

⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

Sep 13, 202351:17
Selling Yourself on Settling S6E45

Selling Yourself on Settling S6E45

Have you been selling yourself on settling? In this episode we discuss what it actually means to sell yourself on settling, why you do it, and how to stop so that you can attract the healthy relationship you deserve.


Too often, women confuse settling with status, accolades, or even ego driven desires. However, actual settling is much deeper and has a greater mental, emotional, and spiritual impact. When you sell yourself on either settling to stay single or settling for less than you deserve in a relationship, you will never have the type of relationship you deserve, even if you attract commitment. When you decide to settle, you train yourself on a subconscious level to believe you are not worthy or deserving of what your heart and soul truly desires for your love life.


You can have the relationship your heart craves. You must simply decide it's inevitable and do the work required to make it happen now. In this episode you will learn the key steps to stop selling yourself on settling and get on the path to the relationship you deserve.


ENROLLMENT FOR CCC OPENS SEPTEMBER 15TH

GET ON THE WAITLIST NOW

⁠⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠⁠


Links mentioned in this episode:

Free Love Loops Roadmap

https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy

Love Loops Masterclass:

https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR

Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:

⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠

Join The Worthy Woman coaching community:

⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠

Find Your Path to Love:

⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

Sep 12, 202349:06
Feeling Burnt Out w/ Courtship & Dating S6E44

Feeling Burnt Out w/ Courtship & Dating S6E44

Have you been feeling burnt out with courtship and dating? The feeling of "burnout" is often linked to deeper emotions that's causing you to want to shutdown, avoid or simply do nothing with your love life. While it's understandable to feel frustrated or disappointed at times, being burnout is typically the result of managing your beliefs, emotions, and actions during the courtship process.


Wanting a relationship is normal. Every human wants to feel understood, connected and loved. Yet, if you have been single for some times or newly broken-up the stress of uncertainty and lack of control over the outcomes in your love life may cause you to react to situations in a way that's the total opposite of your true relationship desires. This is why getting to the root of burnout so that you don't avoid, shutdown, or make emotionally reactive decisions with potential partners can quickly transform this feeling and put you on the path to enjoying courtship, better dating experiences, and believing in love again.


In this episode we discuss why you are feeling burnt out, what to do about it, and steps to burnout around moving forward.


JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR THE CAPTIVATING COURTSHIP CODE:

⁠⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠⁠


Links mentioned in this episode:

Free Love Loops Roadmap

https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy

Love Loops Masterclass:

https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR

Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:

⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠

Join The Worthy Woman coaching community:

⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠

Find Your Path to Love:

⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com


Sep 04, 202355:31
Where to meet quality men: Simple 5 step Love Links Strategy S6E43

Where to meet quality men: Simple 5 step Love Links Strategy S6E43

If you haven't felt sure about what steps to take to meet new men this episode is for you. Today, we're discussing Captivating Courtship's signature 5 step Love Links strategy and how you can use it to self-assess what actionable steps you can take to meet quality men and attract an authentically aligned partner.

The Love Links strategy is a simple road map shared with The Captivating Courtship Code's clients to navigate the relationship market and expand dating and courtship options, without overthinking. By using the map, you have a simple plan to prioritize where to meet men starting with a broad approach and narrowing in. We cover online dating, conferences, long distance relationships and more with this simple approach. This way you never have to second guess where to start or feel a drought in your love life, especially during cuffing season.


The Love Links strategy is at the perfect companion to your Love Loops, to make it easy to navigate the relationship market according to your relationship patterns. We provide you with the best tools and approach to meeting potential partners according to your specific Love Loops, to make dating and courtship work with you and decrease any resistance you may have to moving your love life forward. Take notes and listen now.


Enrollment for The Captivating Courtship Code opens September 15th. Get on the Waitlist Now

https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Links mentioned in this episode:

Free Love Loops Roadmap

https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy

Love Loops Masterclass:

https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR

Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:

⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠

Join The Worthy Woman coaching community:

⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠

Find Your Path to Love:

⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

Aug 21, 202352:42
 LoveMe Love Loop: Self Sacrificing and Shrinking w/courtship & relationships S6E42

LoveMe Love Loop: Self Sacrificing and Shrinking w/courtship & relationships S6E42

The relationship pattern known as the LoveMe Love Loop is known for self-sacrificing during courtship, dating and relationships in order to people please and meet their potential partner's needs. The hopeless romantics of the 8 Love Loops, their willingness to prove their worth through people pleasing and shrinking their voice is their strongest form of self-sabotage that keeps them from having the relationship and connection they deeply desire.


In this episode, we dive into the LoveMe Love Loop and the pros and cons of their particular relationship pattern. We discuss the secret to LoveMes getting their emotional needs met, increasing vulnerability and communication, and stepping into their most powerful authentic selves. You will also learn 3 simply keys to no longer shrink during the courtship process so you can get your wants and needs met.


CCC FALL ENROLLMENT OPENS SEPTEMBER 15TH GET ON THE WAITLIST NOW

www.captivatingcourtship.com/ccc-waitlist


Links mentioned in this episode:

Free Love Loops Roadmap

https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy

Love Loops Masterclass:

https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR

Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:

⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠

Join The Worthy Woman coaching community:

⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠

Find Your Path to Love:

⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com

Aug 14, 202343:26
Trophy Love Loop: Boundaries and Fear of Missing Out S6E41

Trophy Love Loop: Boundaries and Fear of Missing Out S6E41

Do you have the Trophy Love Loop? One of the biggest challenges with the Trophy Love Loop is having difficult keeping boundaries due to a fear of missing out. This fear is rooted in survival emotions that not only causes low value behaviors in relationships and your personal life, but it also causes you to attract and work to keep relationships that are low value and less than you deserve.


All of this is rooted in thoughts, feelings and beliefs of not being worthy of the love and security you desire and deserve. When you don't believe you are enough and that you can actually have the relationship you deserve, you will settle and find yourself feeling anxious and insecure with the men you meet.


These behaviors also trickle into your personal and work relationships, resulting in experiences and relationships that don't allow you to feel safe and valued. You can turn this around. You deserve to break this loop and have the relationship of your dreams and deepest, and most authentic desires. If you have the Trophy relationship pattern this episode is dedicated to you. Listen now.


Links mentioned in this episode:

Free Love Loops Roadmap

https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy

Love Loops Masterclass:

https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR

Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:

⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching⁠

Join The Worthy Woman coaching community:

⁠https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist⁠

Find Your Path to Love:

⁠www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship⁠

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram ⁠@zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com


Aug 07, 202331:21
Love Loops 101: Uncovering Relationship Patterns S6E40
Jul 31, 202359:32
Captivating Courtship in 2023 S6E39
Jul 17, 202343:41
Do you need to heal to attract a healthy relationship? S6E38
Jul 11, 202352:50
Practical steps to find a spouse S5E37
Jul 03, 202341:60
Unmasking Courtship & Dating Mistakes: What went wrong? S5E36

Unmasking Courtship & Dating Mistakes: What went wrong? S5E36

In this episode, we dive deep into the world of courtship and dating, focusing on successful women aged 28-43 who have a burning desire to find love and get married within the next 12 months. Join us as we unmask the most common courtship and dating mistakes that may be hindering their path to marriage and provide a roadmap for success.


We begin by discussing the importance of setting clear relationship goals and defining the path to marriage. By understanding what you truly desire in a life partner and effectively communicating those expectations, you can attract a compatible match.


Fear often creeps in when embarking on new relationships, especially for accomplished women. We explore the significance of vulnerability and trust, offering practical techniques to overcome relationship fears and create space for emotional intimacy.


Navigating the dating pool can be overwhelming, but we emphasize the quality over quantity approach. Discover how to effectively filter potential partners and invest time in getting to know someone before committing. We share valuable insights on identifying compatible matches who align with your long-term goals.


Balancing a successful career and a love life is a common challenge for ambitious women. We provide time management strategies to help strike a healthy work-life balance and prioritize self-care, ensuring that both areas of life flourish.


Managing expectations and recognizing red flags are crucial aspects of successful dating. We guide you in setting realistic expectations, establishing healthy boundaries, and trusting your instincts when it comes to potential warning signs.


Effective communication and conflict resolution are paramount in building lasting connections. We delve into the importance of active listening, expressing yourself authentically, and resolving conflicts with compassion and understanding.


Self-care and personal growth are often overlooked in the dating process. We highlight the significance of nurturing yourself along the way, offering strategies for self-reflection, personal growth, and enhancing self-confidence.


Join us on this enlightening episode as we unmask the courtship and dating mistakes that may be holding you back from finding love and getting married. With our roadmap to success, you'll gain the insights and tools needed to navigate the dating world with confidence and purpose, ultimately leading you towards a meaningful and fulfilling partnership.


Tune in now to discover how to unmask courtship and dating mistakes and create the path to marriage you've been longing for.


Join the next Captivating Weekend and Apply to CCC

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching



Jun 26, 202348:17
Monday Coffee Chat: Survival Mode and Authentic Values during dating, courtship and relationships S6E35

Monday Coffee Chat: Survival Mode and Authentic Values during dating, courtship and relationships S6E35

When you are in survival mode being in your authenticity and attracting a man who shares your authentic values in courtship is a challenge. This is because when you are anxious, fearful of getting hurt, or trying to control the outcome of the relationship you aren't focused on building meaningful connections. Instead, you will simply focus on securing the man or the relationship, even if he is the wrong partner for you. While it's a good thing to have resilience in courtship, applying pressure or ignoring incompatibility only causes you to waste time with a nowhere relationship or possibly commit to a man who's not authentically aligned.


This is a Monday Coffee Chat episode from 2019, where you go behind the scenes of The Captivating Courtship Code coaching program for live Q&A coaching. Zara J. shares expert relationship coaching advice to guide clients through their courtship and dating questions. In this episode you will learn about navigating dating in adversity, questions to ask before marriage, authenticity in romantic relationships, overcoming obstacles in love, and mindset transformation in dating.


0:00 Survival Mode and Courtship, Dating & Relationships

6:56 Questions to ask before marriage

9:30 Paying attention to what people value


Links mentioned in this episode:

Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Join The Worthy Woman Monthly Membership:

https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist


Book a 20 minute Attract Your Match call:

www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact


Find Your Path to Love:

www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship


Join the next open coaching call:

https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZAuceuuqz4iGN25FmjmYSe2jR4nKQr8QPCu





Jun 22, 202318:55
Getting over ex and interfaith relationships coaching S6E33

Getting over ex and interfaith relationships coaching S6E33

How do you push past an ex and deal with interfaith relationships? In today's coaching episode, we'll have an insightful conversation about how to do just that.


In relationships and specifically interfaith relationships, it's important to understand why we feel the way we do and process our emotions. In this episode, she admits that she still misses her ex because he had certain qualities that she can't find in other men around her. But as she digs deeper, she realizes that she's not open to receiving those qualities from other men because she got hurt the last time she did. She also realizes that if men don't show up for her right from the beginning, she tends to lose interest and doesn't give them a chance to open up later on. This points her toward a much deeper issue: her own emotional unavailability.


If you want someone to give, you have to be open to receiving. This often proves to be difficult because we come from a place of fear, distrust, judgment, and guarded emotions. It’s crucial to focus your mind and energy on the type of relationship you envision for yourself.


In coaching with Zara, this woman reaches the conclusion that in interfaith dating, when you’re not operating in your authentic values and boundaries, things will often take unexpected turns. She realizes while processing that her key takeaway from this coaching class was just this. Determining her own authentic values because if your values are fluctuating depending on who you’re in front of, it is an indicator that you’re not operating to your full authentic worth.


Take a cup of coffee and dive into this episode to process your perspective on interfaith relationships and getting over exes as you listen to this coaching episode unfold.


Time Stamps for this episode:


00:00 - Introduction

00:29 - How to push past missing your ex

1:15 - What about her ex she still misses

2:50 - Not seeing the same in other men

3:30 - Believe in finding that in other men

4:12 - On not being open to receiving

5:45 - It is possible to become available even after breaking up

7:00 - Unravelling emotional unavailability

9:30 - If you want someone to give, you have to be open to receiving

11:55 - Honing down on the desired type of relationship

12:45 - Overcoming challenges in interfaith relationships

16:30 - What she felt was unfair

22:40 - Fear of putting herself in the same situation again

23:10 - Exercises in CCC, on guilt and shame

24:35 - Believing that you can make decisions more in alignment with yourself

25:05 - Committing to your vision of love

28:00 - Dealing with guilt: an example

32:10 - Her takeaway: determining her values

33:14 - Interfaith relationship advice



Links mentioned in this episode:


Register for the next open coaching session:

https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZAuceuuqz4iGN25FmjmYSe2jR4nKQr8QPCu


Attract Your Match Game Plan Call

www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact


Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship/


Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship


Jun 19, 202339:21
How to stop wasting time with a relationship that's going nowhere S6E32

How to stop wasting time with a relationship that's going nowhere S6E32

You don’t need to go through pain and relationship issues for months or years on end to find a valuable man who is worthy of you. Today’s episode brings to you freshly brewed stories for the Captivating Courtship Code which are examples to tell you How and why to stop wasting time with a relationship that’s going nowhere.


Many high-achieving women rush into the dating and courtship process, focusing solely on the outcome. This will lead to being in cycles of non-committal relationships, investing in emotionally unavailable men or toxic, narcissistic men, and hot & cold relationships. In doing this, endless time is wasted hoping for a man to commit and come around.


The problem lies in how much we value our time and when we don’t value our time, how can we expect anyone else to value it? If you want love, trust, emotional connection, stability, and a partner who is authentically aligned to your personal and professional life, you have to be confident about their commitment level and you don’t have the time to waste it on convincing them to prove your worth to a man or relationship that makes you feel insecure and doubtful.


High-achieving women almost always face pressure to succeed in all areas of life - career, relationships, personal commitments, and simultaneous pressure to not be weak through all of this. The obvious result is stress and stress leads them to complicate relationships and over-extend themselves physically, emotionally, and even financially.


You must practice getting out of your mind and into your body, heart, and gut. Your gut is your feminine intuition and that is your superpower in the courtship and dating journey. Pay attention to whether he is using language that includes you in his future plans. Is he consistent in his investment in you? Is he respectful of the boundaries that you create or is he breaching them? It is also on you to not just create but also keep these boundaries irrespective of who comes and goes. When you spend more time reflecting on your relationship patterns and experiences, you will see long-term authentic shifts in the quality of your life and relationships.


Take a deep dive into this episode to gain valuable insight into the hows and whys of not wasting your time in nowhere relationships.




Time Stamps in this episode:


00:00 - Introduction

2:15 - Shifts you see once you start the inner work

4:13 - Storytime!

7:30 - Why CCC does not have scripts

12:40 - Commitment readiness

12:50 - Long-distance courtship

13:50 - Attention is not intention

14:04 - Story 2

15:55 - What often happens in Long Distance Relationships

17:52 - Learning to value your own time

20:13 - Story 3

22:17 - Are you prepared to move?

23:52 - You don’t have time to waste

25:00 - Investing time in a relationship that makes you doubtful

26:52 - 3 Shifts to Attract Commitment

27:12 - Getting out of your mind and into your body

28:18 - The process of attracting low-value relationships

31:12 - Solutions to turn this around!

31:30 - 1. Pay attention to his future plans

32:34 - 2. Is he consistent?

34:29 - 3. Making high-quality relationship decisions

35:32 - 4. Setting and keeping boundaries for the standard you deserve

37:13 - 5. Expressing your needs, desires, and expectations in courtship

38:37 - 6. Spend more time in reflection

40:36 - Surround yourself with a community of women

44:00 - Conclusion


Links mentioned in this episode:


3 Shifts To Avoid Wasting Your Time And Attract The Commitment You Desire S6E13

https://captivatingcourtship.com/3-shifts-to-stop-wasting-time-and-attract-commitment-s6e13/


Attract Your Match Game Plan Call

www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact


Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship/


Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship


Jun 12, 202348:59
Why humility does not serve successful women during dating and courtship S6E31

Why humility does not serve successful women during dating and courtship S6E31

Humility in your spirit is a beautiful virtue to have but it can make you shrink in your courtship process in a way that is unhealthy for both your partner and most importantly, you. Take a deep dive into this episode to know why humility does not serve successful women during dating and courtship.


Since time immemorial women have been taught to be less, speak less, and express less. It has never been safe for a woman, especially women of color to be seen and heard. We grow with generational trauma and triggers that severely impact our understanding and expression of our most authentic selves. It is not unexpected then, that we develop the idea that we have to shrink ourselves in order to be loved, valued, and respected. If we don’t, we fear that there will be rejection and abandonment.


Many women are what we would call, modern traditionalists. Women who have worked hard to create a completely modern life but the values they hold are traditional. In that case, a traditional or an anti-traditional man can again force us to shrink our boundaries, needs, and wants. If we don’t, there comes the fear of rejection again.


However, although this may come across as contradictory, the truth is you can have both - balancing modernity and traditional values. Navigating the complexities of courtship can be challenging but the real problem is not external. It is the self-doubt, the insecurity of being too successful and still not being enough, it is the disbelief in the ability to have a fulfilling relationship. This happens because we place our value in external things like our home-making skills or our sex appeal or mostly, our accomplishments.


The solution to this? Setting boundaries in courtship and embracing your most, authentic self, placing your value in your growth. The end goal here is overcoming self-doubt in dating, and owning your value in courtship because if you don’t, humility can keep you in a loop of compromise. Inner-work for successful women isn’t easy as you must challenge the beliefs that come up and question your worthiness, making you want to hold back and shrink but this reprogramming of how you show up in a relationship is the most important takeaway from today’s episode. Listen now!



Time stamps for this episode:


00:00 - Introduction

1:33 - On Lifestyle Shifting

11:18 - Storytime!

15:55 - Is it okay to not be heard?

17:08 - Generational impacts of trauma

19:03 - Wanting to be enough

19:22 - Modern traditionalist in relationships

21:55 - Trophy partners and the problem with looking at them as a prize

24:48 - The reason why humility does not serve successful women in dating and courtship

26:58 - Problem 1: Self-doubt and insecurity in your own worth and value

Problem 2: Fear of rejection and abandonment

30:35 - The solution to these two problems

32:00 - Embracing Your Authentic Self in Courtship

33:30 - Honoring and enforcing your boundaries

35:42 - Reclaiming Your Worth: Ending the Cycle of Settling for Less in Relationships

36:53 - The changes you will notice once you start the inner-work

37:47- 5 Tips for Cultivating Self-Worth: Building Confidence to Pursue a Fulfilling Courtship

37:53 - 1. Identify & challenge limiting beliefs

39:32 - 2. Create new routines

40:30 - 3. Work on building effective communication skills

41:45 - 4. Practicing sharing and communicating with a community of women

47:17 - 5. Prioritizing and Investing in personal development and growth

49:00 - Accelerating your courtship process

49:41 - Humility - the virtue that can become a vice

50:00 - Conclusion



Links Mentioned in This Episode:


Attract Your Match Game Plan Call

www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact


Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship/


Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship



Jun 05, 202355:27
Courtship Mistake 3&4- Not knowing how to meet, qualify, and get courted by valuable men S6E30

Courtship Mistake 3&4- Not knowing how to meet, qualify, and get courted by valuable men S6E30

If you have been dedicating 10-15 years of your life to education, growth, and self-development, you deserve a partner who understands you and is authentically aligned with your values. Today’s episode brings you an in-depth dive into the 3rd and 4th mistakes of the Courtship Mistakes series of episodes in our podcast!


If you find yourself jumping into situations that don’t go too far, it is because there is somewhere in you a lack of confidence in your own ability to feel valued, loved, and respected. There is thus a high level of urgency and you don’t trust any man, no matter how valuable to take his time to make the decision to commit to you. The problem, to begin with, is ourselves. If we don’t truly believe in the value we bring to the table, how can we expect to be able to qualify a man?


This could look like a disaster, but these human mistakes need action. You need clarity to first know and then own your authentic value, you need to open up your social circles and tap those social resources for your courtship process too to meet these valuable men around you (believe us when we say there are plenty). You have to very necessarily take the effort to go through the courtship process in a way that is intentional and will lead to commitment. This is where knowing how to get courted, and stepping back into your feminine energy comes into the picture.


It’s not a rule but this is why at Captivating Courtship, we focus on getting to know how men think and their perspective in commitment psychology. It truly could be life-changing for your courtship process. The Love Loft is a tool that has the power to transform your framework, shake and reconstruct your belief system and most importantly get you commitment-ready so you can meet, qualify, and get courted by valuable men.


Take a plunge into this insightful episode and know what not to do when you’re trying to court for commitment!


Time Stamps For This Episode:


00:00 - Introduction

1:55 - Comparison is the thief of joy

2:50 - Why you deserve an authentically aligned partner

4:04 - Importance of understanding commitment ready levels

5:00 - Mistakes 3&4 introduction

5:13 - 2 processes to help attract quality men

7:00 - There actually are valuable commitment-ready men around

7:20 - Importance of understanding the way he thinks

9:44 - High-achieving women vs high-achieving men

13:08 - What a man truly wants

16:27 - The 4 big problems

21:00 - The Love Loft Introduction

21:54 - The signature 6-Step Process

22:03 - Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

23:13 - Attracting from a place of distrust

23:40 - Helping you embody the Queen energy

24:15 - Helping you to meet men

24:57 - Knowing how to move through a courtship that ends up in commitment

25:08 - Getting grounded in your favorite energy

25:38 - Make commitment decisions & conversations

26:36 - The Love Loft - A deeper look

30:00 - Conclusion


Links Mentioned in This Episode:


Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment

www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact


Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship/


Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

May 22, 202336:40
Courtship Mistake #2 Not Understanding Commitment Readiness Levels S6E29

Courtship Mistake #2 Not Understanding Commitment Readiness Levels S6E29

Being committed is defined as being devoted to seeing it through. It means when you know you’re in it to win it. Today’s episode works through understanding commitment readiness levels, in not just your potential partner but also yourself.


A relationship starts with you looking inward first. Before questioning if the man is commitment ready, it is essential to work on yourself and get to the point where you are able to receive that commitment healthily.

There are cold guys, warm ones, and hot guys. Cold guys are inconsistent, rejecting, and emotionally unavailable. You only attract the hot & ready ones when you yourself are self-secure and fully commitment ready. There can be endless debate on the third type of guy - the warm guy.


Warm guys who are valuable and ready to explore are tough to decipher. Not courted with intent and knowledge, warm guys can even turn cold. Then there are men who are valuable and warm but they’re not commitment-ready. Many women get stuck in these grey spaces with valuable and warm guys who they think are hot guys.


The underlying truth is you can’t expect every man you meet to be “The One”. We are actively working in the Captivating Courtship Code to break these stereotypes. The common thing about all three types of guys is: they come to teach you. You must be open to receiving and learning from each man you meet. The more experience you gain, the more value you show up with, in the ultimate relationship that later turns into a successful and valuable marriage.


Dive into this episode to learn about the three types of men, three things that could happen when you meet these men, and what you can do when you meet a warm, valuable guy.



Time Stamps for the episode:


00:00 - Introduction

1:40 - What is a commitment?

2:10 - Check-In with Yourself

4:00 - You have to be able to receive a commitment

4:33 - Three Types of Guys

10:20 - What to expect from guys in the relationship market?

14:02 - Every man you meet is not going to be your husband

15:18 - 3 things that could happen when you get out there and meet men

16:55 - More on the 3 types of men|

20:20 - How Warm Guys Are Different

22:28 - Conclusion


Links Mentioned In This Episode:


Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment

www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact


Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce


Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship


May 15, 202325:29
Courtship Mistake #1 Successful women not focusing on valuable and authentically aligned men S6E28

Courtship Mistake #1 Successful women not focusing on valuable and authentically aligned men S6E28

In todays's episode of the series, 6 courtship mistakes successful women make and how to correct them, we dive into courtship mistake #1: Successful women not focusing on valuable and authentically aligned men. Many accomplished and successful women don’t know how to identify and attract valuable men. 
Over my 8 years in the relationship industry, we’ve worked with a spectrum of professional women who desire to partner with men they deem as valuable. 

It became clear they had no real idea how to identify a man of value and how to focus their energy on being courted by them. Even if they had attracted these types of men in the past, they didn’t actually know why they attracted them, or how to meet more men they actually desire to partner with.


The big problem for these women, and maybe even you, is that valuable men meet women with the same accolades often. Women who are successful, educated, and attractive. That’s not enough to feel emotionally moved to commit. You must understand the psychology of commitment. Why they want to commit to a woman and how the process of commitment works so the relationship naturally and authentically moves in that direction, or you will find yourself in hot-cold relationships and situationships.


Two important things women need to consider: Valuable men want women like you and there are lots of valuable men available, right now.

Today's podcast breaks it down and provides a clear understanding and perspective of the shifts necessary to focus your energy on valuable men so that you can attract the types of men you deserve.


Time Stamps for this episode:


00:00 - Introduction

3:15 - Not attracting commitment

4:15 - What is a valuable man?

7:21 - Building an authentic connection

7:30 - Logical Attraction

9:00 - How successful women will sometimes fear a valuable man's circle of influence

9:35 - Accolades aren't enough to move a man to commit

10:13 - Not understanding commitment psychology

10:35 - Do you believe you're worthy of a valuable relationship or do you question it?

11:11 - You are already worthy enough to attract a valuable partner

11:49 - Successful women are often the first of their kind

14:15 - How you will notice shifts in your life once you start working on yourself

15:25 - Holding the initial interest beyond the initial desire

15:57 - Low value thoughts and emotions arising in courtship

17:00 - Valuable men actually want women like you

17:42 - What makes a valuable man feel supported?

19:42 - You already have the qualities that you value in someone else

21:26 - The odds are in your favor

22:07 - Envisioning life with a valuable partner

23:00 - Attract Your Match Game Plan Call

23:26 - Two reasons you're not attracting commitment ready men

24:00 - Conclusion


Links mentioned in this episode:


Book a 20 minute Attract Your Match Game Plan call

www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact


Take Assessment to Discover Your Path to Love

www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship


Apply to coaching

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Questions? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship


May 08, 202327:23
6 Courtship Mistakes Made by Successful Women And How to Correct Them S6E27

6 Courtship Mistakes Made by Successful Women And How to Correct Them S6E27

You come to bed tired from home, you switch between the dating apps, you get drained from introducing yourself to men who don’t match your energy, before you drool to sleep.


Now imagine finding men you can authentically connect to, men who are willing and eager to create a deep, heartfelt connection with you without being hesitant or having their walls up. Spend time with this image in your head, sit with it, embody it. Because you are about to actually find these “imaginary” men like many other women in this community did.


When you repeat the same actions and expect different results, you disappoint yourself and get stuck in the Loop of Distrust. However, changing your courtship actions and decisions can be a first step to having valuable relationships with a man worthy of your time and effort.


This episode gives us a quick and impressionable glance at 6 courtship mistakes made by successful women like you and how you can correct them. Tune right in and click on the link below for a 20 minute Attract Your Match Game Plan Call which will guide you with actionable steps on starting your courtship journey right.


Time Stamps For This Episode:


00:00 - Introduction

1:25 - Envisioning Valuable Men

4:02 - Spending more time living your vision

5:00 - Making different courtship decisions

7:40 - Shifting the focus of your energy

8:59 - First Mistake

9:52 - Quality men vs Valuable men

11:01 - Second Mistake

12:07 - Third Mistake

13:07 - Fourth Mistake

14:30 - 5 Steps for commitment

15:08 - Fifth Mistake

16:19 - Sixth Mistake

17:30 - Conclusion: Attract Your Match Game Plan Call


Links Mentioned In This Episode:


Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment

www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact


Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce


Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

May 01, 202322:20
Better Hormonal Health & Relationships w: Jasmine Filiatrault S6E26

Better Hormonal Health & Relationships w: Jasmine Filiatrault S6E26

DID YOU KNOW that YOUR BIRTH CONTROL could impact the kind of partners you’re picking or decisions you’re making in your courtship process?


This episode is eye-opening for millenial women who are trying to balance busy careers, love and wellness. Hormonal health directly affects how your relationships and potential body image issues, anxiety, fatigue, emotional management and how you feel about yourself! Your hormones also can affect how you emotionally react, communicate and navigate your relationships and your love life.


In this episode, Zara J. interviews Jasmine Filiatrault, who is an ER Nurse and a specialist on Hormonal Health and Relationships, who takes us on a journey of how her mother had Endometriosis, her struggles with her cycles as a young woman and how she discovered the path to feminine wellness.


We learn about hormonal health, PMS, uterus alchemy, period cramps, birth control methods, their pros and cons AND fertility which is a concern to many women listening to this podcast because you’re looking to start a family or you see commitment and marriage in your future plans!


Take away life changing knowledge and tips from this enlightening episode of Captivating Courtship Podcast. LISTEN NOW!



Time-Stamps for the Episode:


0:00 - Intro

2:58 - Jasmine’s background and life

4:12 - Jasmine’s painful period cramps, is that normal?

4:32 - What happened to her body on birth control pills

7:07 - Birth Control stopped, IUD started

14:26 - Why do doctors insist on other solutions outside hormonal balance and nutrition?

17:55 - Jasmine specializing in hormonal health

19:05 - Women pick better partners, make better decisions when not on birth control

19:35 - Certification in Australia

21:25 - Do we inherit period/hormonal issues from our mothers?

24:02 - Over-working out

25:55 - Why is hormonal health something that matters?

30:26 - What is one of the biggest misconceptions some women have about their hormones?

31:29 - Can you have COFFEE?

33:45 - How Jasmine assessed Zara and her hormones!

35:05 - 3 to 5 big things YOU’RE ignoring!

40:43 - Funny Story by Zara

43:15 - Cancer, Breast Cancer

46:36 - How your hormonal imbalances are directly impacting YOUR LOVE LIFE!

49:37 - Misconception you might have about hormonal health or fertility!

53:13 - Tips for someone NOT ON BIRTH CONTROL!

54:20 - Concluding notes and tips.



Links Mentioned In This Episode:


Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment

https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515


Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce


Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship


Apr 24, 202301:03:41
 Relationship Patterns pt3- Tips to create new healthy, authentic relationship patterns S6E25

Relationship Patterns pt3- Tips to create new healthy, authentic relationship patterns S6E25

If you’ve been feeling like you’re running on a treadmill and not making any real progress, it is because you don’t yet know who you truly are in a relationship - what your relationship patterns are, what works for you & what doesn’t and what you want in the future of your love life.


If you’ve ever had the thought of marriage and a family in your future, know this: it is 100% available to you and the voice in your head that tells you it’s not, is lying to you. No matter how much action you take, if your mindset does not welcome new, healthy relationship patterns, you are not going to be able to bring about a substantial change in your love life. This is exactly what is called self-sabotage.


In this episode, we discuss that the key to changing this is being powerfully vulnerable & transparent with yourself about what you want in your relationship and taking full ownership of the choices you make in your courtship & dating journey. You have to decide that your old patterns are not serving you any longer and you want to make the decision to be committed to making your future happen.


Listen to this podcast to finally give yourself the permission to not shrink yourself when you decide to dream, think and live big. You are allowed to design a Captivating Life with a man who wants to grow with you.


Link in bio, listen now.


In the 3 day Virtual Relationship Reset this weekend, you will get tools and coaching on how to manage your thoughts, beliefs and feelings. Learn how to be on the driver's seat of your love life.

You can register in the link mentioned below and set the “reset” button on your love life!


Time Stamps For This Episode:


00:00 - Introduction

00:29 - Self Care Weekends

4:01 - Cycle of repeat experiences

6:20 - You should know this, if you really want a marriage & family life

7:57 - Owning the desire for a partner

10:06 - You have to get clear on your patterns

12:00 - You have help available to you

12:33 - 5 Tips to create new authentic, high value relationships

13:05 - 1st Tip

16:47 - 2nd Tip

19:24 - 3rd Tip

24:00 - 4th Tip (The Gap)

26:58 - Make the Decision (You are committed to make that happen)

30:00 - Note on Making Decisions

34:32 - There is no Plan B

35:58 - Conclusion




Links Mentioned In This Episode:


Register for 3 Day Relationship Reset

https://buy.stripe.com/8wM8xdbLxf6Z97qaEV


Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce


Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship


Apr 17, 202342:45
Relationship Patterns pt2: 3 Relationship patterns to shift to attract better partners S6E24

Relationship Patterns pt2: 3 Relationship patterns to shift to attract better partners S6E24

Of the top three relationship pattern types (The Too Goods, The Love MEs and the Trophies), which one are you? Most people fit into one dominating pattern type and one or two other sub pattern types.


Not knowing and owning your authentic value in a relationship may be happening because your inner girl is still choosing your partners and making decisions in your relationships. So, you seek validation or settle in a relationship.


In this episode, we deep dive into the three main relationship pattern types to understand what each type can do to break a toxic pattern and create new patterns that take their relationships to the next level.


Listen to this podcast episode to know how to reverse this and shift all control to the hands of your authentic adult self. This will help you create the high value love life you’ve always wanted to manifest.


Link in bio. Listen Now!


In the 3 day Virtual Relationship Reset this weekend, you will get tools and coaching on how to manage your thoughts, beliefs and feelings. You too can make your way through the courtship process and qualify & attract a man who is aligned with the love life you’ve always wanted to manifest.


You can register in the link mentioned below and set the “reset” button on your love life!



Time Stamps For This Episode:


00:00 - Introduction

1:49 - 3 most popular pattern types

5:06 - The Too Goods

9:10 - The Love Mes

12:07 - The Trophies


Links Mentioned In This Episode:


Register for 3 Day Relationship Reset

https://buy.stripe.com/8wM8xdbLxf6Z97qaEV


Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce


Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship


Apr 10, 202325:32
 Relationship Patterns pt1- Deep dive into discovering your relationship patterns S6E23

Relationship Patterns pt1- Deep dive into discovering your relationship patterns S6E23

In this episode, Zara breaks down why discovering your relationship patterns will be the turning point of your love life- not just for your love life but your other relationships, your career, your finances, your health and your self image.

What takes you from being a Wounded Princess to a Captivating Queen is healing your inner child. Your inner child has felt insecure, abandoned, ignored, unheard and triggered. This is why, even now, your inner child is running the show. This is why, after all these years of relationships, you could feel like you “ruin” even good relationships even though that’s not your fault you went through all that at such a young age. This is why your inner child needs to heal.

Because you value your love, career, finances and time, learning how to communicate your value to the right types of men is essential so that you can attract the right kind of relationship.

In exciting news, Captivating Courtship is holding a 3 Day Relationship Reset! It will be a 3 day live virtual event and it will leave you with the tools and knowledge you need to reset your love life in the next 30 days. Time for you to get intentional and take action. Allow yourself the opportunity to hit the “RESET” button on your love life!


Time Stamps for This Episode

00:00 - Introduction

1:19 - What Transformed Zara’s Life

3:50 - Why Matchmaking Was A Challenge

5:05 - Turning Point For Zara

5:26 - Why You Probably Sabotaged That Perfect Relationship

8:24 - Zara’s Breaking Point

10:46 - You Are Gonna Have To Do The Work To Bring Change

12:23 - How Zara’s Heartbreak Made Her Feel

14:23 - This Time Zara Focused On Herself

17:14 - Zara & Hypnotherapy

19:50 - Zara’s Decision to Captivating Courtship

21:40 - Patterns

26:22 - Why It Might Not Be Working For You

28:28 - You Don’t Have To Live A Life Of Regret

31:00 - Why Your Inner Child Needs To Heal

33:17 - 3 Day Relationship Reset & Conclusion

Links Mentioned In This Episode

Register for 3 Day Relationship Reset https://buy.stripe.com/8wM8xdbLxf6Z97qaEV


Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

Queen of Courtship Assessment https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship



Apr 03, 202342:23
Captivating Testimonial - Married Abroad & Becoming an Emotionally Available Woman w/ The Captivating Courtship Code Relationship Coaching S6E22

Captivating Testimonial - Married Abroad & Becoming an Emotionally Available Woman w/ The Captivating Courtship Code Relationship Coaching S6E22

If you attract emotionally unavailable men there may be a chance you are also emotionally unavailable. Do you want to know how to build and turn a long distance courtship into marriage? Maryama says “Don’t wait until things get worse. The sooner you take action, the better your life will be!”


If you’re a successful millennial woman and you have been actively courting and dating and you don’t know where to start, this podcast is tailor-made for YOU!


When she joined coaching, Maryama felt like she had “nothing to lose” and she needed “external help to figure out” her love life. From the Captivating Courtship Community, she found the examples, healing and relationship skills she needed to attract the right match for her. Coaching helped her also establish healthy boundaries and improve her career and her relationships, she finally learnt to advocate for herself!


In this episode, Captivating Courtship Code student shares her journey of becoming an emotionally available woman, attracting love, getting married and moving abroad. We dive into tips for long distance relationships and what made her decide to commit to her husband and take the leap to get married.

Get to know how Maryama turned around her love life and the ONE thing that was holding her back! She also gives us a sneak peak into her life as a wife and how coaching has impacted that. Head over to the podcast and LISTEN NOW!



Time Stamps:


00:00 - Introduction

2:22 - Where Maryama was before she joined coaching

5:57 - The benefits she had after joining coaching

8:07 - Maryama’s No.1 thing to work on when she joined coaching

10:23 - How she turned around her No.1 thing to work on

13:27 - How Maryama met her husband during coaching

16:30 - Long distance before marriage

20:40 - What about her husband was a “YES!” for her?

23:00 - What impact did coaching have on how Maryama shows up now as a wife?

25:20 - What has life been like now?

27:00 - Her wedding!

28:16 - Moving abroad and some important advice!


Links Mentioned In This Episode:


Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment

https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515

Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce


Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

Mar 27, 202346:07
Trust IS difficult after Betrayal: How to trust again & attract love S6E21

Trust IS difficult after Betrayal: How to trust again & attract love S6E21

YOUR BRAIN IS NOT WIRED TO FIND LOVE!

The good news is that you can rewire it.

Do you feel like every time you take one step forward with attracting a partner, you go three steps back in your love life? Do you at this point question your desirability or ability to find love?


We are all operating on negative thought loops and patterns we default to because they feel familiar and safe. The way out of this cycle is to learn how to process from the present and the future instead of your past. You have to get new experiences that validate new beliefs. You have to rebuild your trust muscle so your brain has proof that you can have the type of relationship and commitment you want from the types of men you want.


Listen to this podcast to make high quality relationship decisions so that you can attract the right partner faster and to get more information and action to develop the skills you will need in this courtship journey with us!


We have a Freebie for you today. It's called Total Package Confidence. It breaks down the pillars of stepping into the best version of yourself and that includes trust & intuition. To get the free download, message Zara on Instagram, “TPC”.


Time Stamps for the Episode:

00:00 - Intro

4:16 - Time is now to make your love life a priority!

6:17 - The Loop of Distrust and its effects

14:47 - Attracting the same type of men

16:54 - How To Break The Loop of Distrust

18:14 - First & Second Hand Proof

18:57 - Captivating Courtship Coaching Community - why YOU should be part too!


Links Mentioned In This Episode:


Get FREEBIE DM “TPC” on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship


Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment

https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515


Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce


Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship


Mar 20, 202327:57
 Communication tip for Commitment Conversations pt1 S6E20

Communication tip for Commitment Conversations pt1 S6E20

Do you feel like no matter how close you get to commitment & marriage, you still are far away? Do you find it difficult to communicate your needs or are you often subject to hiccups, conflict and drama in commitment conversations? If yes, this podcast is made for YOU! It has that one secret that could be holding you back from commitment. Conversations about commitment need you to have your defenses down. If you communicate from a place of need, your commitment conversation can go left. Remember, conversations about commitment are a negotiation and learning how to communicate in a way that builds trust, leads to commitment.   Book a 20-minute Attract Your Match Game Plan Call to get to the core of what is stopping you from attracting commitment! Time stamps for the podcast: 3:51 - Why commitment conversations may go left. 5:50 - How commitment conversations are negotiations. 11:43 - Your role as a high achieving woman in commitment conversations 14:28 - Why making a commitment is a big and impactful decision 15:49 - The importance of timing in commitment conversations 17:42 - How the Captivating Courtship Code can help you stop wasting your time 21:15 - ONE SECRET TIP for commitment conversations! Links Mentioned In This Episode: 20 Minute Attract Your Match Game Plan Call https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515 Join the CCC Program to be in the driver’s seat of your love life! Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Queen of Courtship Assessment https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship
Mar 13, 202331:24
Why he didn’t Commit S6E19

Why he didn’t Commit S6E19

Did the man you were dating/courting take all your attention and not commit to you? What if you knew the exact reasons why, and what steps you can take to lead to different outcomes in your courtship process so you can actually attract commitment? You wouldn't waste time on a non committal or emotionally unavailable guy again, right? High-achieving women like you don’t need to hand over all control and power to attract commitment. A happy healthy woman will pour into other cups too. She will break generational curses and get and give real love. STOP wasting your time, get to know your blind spots and be on the driver’s seat of your love life. This podcast gives clarity on why you reached a dead end in the courtship process and what to do about it for your next relationship. Create relationships that will actually lead to commitment!

https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515

Links Mentioned In This Episode:

20 Minute Relationship Assessment Call
https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515

Join the CCC Program to be in the driver’s seat of your love life!

Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

Queen of Courtship Assessment
https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

Mar 10, 202325:21
8 Reasons Why you are still single S6E18

8 Reasons Why you are still single S6E18

Twenty-three percent of Americans aged 30-49 are single. With millions of Americans looking to attract a relationship and committed partner you may ask yourself, "Why am I still single?" This episode will bring clarity and help you take intentional action towards a high quality love life so that you can attract a compatible partner for marriage. We delve into the three beliefs of Desirability, Availability and Inevitability and the 8 reasons holding you back from taking actionable steps to improve your relationships.

We discuss the importance of self worth and how low self worth can negatively impact our efforts to seek partners. From attachment styles, childhood trauma, sense of self to emotionally unavailable men, we discuss everything that is keeping you looped and leashed. At the end of the episode we discuss the top three reasons why you might be feeling like love is not meant to be and what to do about it.

Book a 20-minute relationship assessment call to figure out what’s holding you back and take actionable steps!

https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515

Links Mentioned In This Episode:

20 Minute Relationship Assessment Call

https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515

Join the CCC Program to be in the driver’s seat of your love life!

Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce

Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship

Mar 06, 202344:57
Why Successful women struggle with commitment conversations S6E17
Mar 03, 202341:05
BTS Monday Coffee Chat: Paying attention to your patterns S6E16

BTS Monday Coffee Chat: Paying attention to your patterns S6E16

Do you feel like no matter how consistent you are with dating, your love life isn’t moving forward? Well, that could be because of love blocks. Love blocks create relationship patterns in your life. These love blocks could look like childhood wounds, triggers, self sabotage and abandonment.


Many high achieving women let relationship anxiety, communication issues, disappointment, or low self-worth hold them back from attracting the right partner. Identifying your relationship patterns such as fear of rejection and difficulty setting healthy boundaries, can create a ripple-effect of change in you. This episode will help you get clear how you can dig deeper into your own mindset which is the first step towards a high value love life.


Join us for this Monday's Coffee Chat behind the scenes of the Captivating Courtship Code coaching as we explore how to break free from patterns that may be holding you back from achieving the love life you desire.


Take your Queen of Courtship Assessment now to know which of the 4 Courtship avatars you are right now. This will give you specific actionable steps you can take to attract better relationships.


Time Stamps for this episode:


00:00 - Trophy Pattern

2:15 - How to Qualify a Man

4:47 - Get to Know People for Who They Really are!

5:29 - 1 Limiting Habit Women Have

6:05 - Why Qualifying a Man is Important

9:33 - Fear of Rejection is Fear of Vulnerability

10:02 - Ways to Make Yourself Heartbreak Proof

12:43 - What is stopping you?

13:50 - Manifest Your Match by Paying Attention to Your Patterns

16:52 - Boundaries are Scary but Very Important

17:11 - It’s mostly All About Plan A!

19:42 - How to Get Clear on What You Want

22:51 - Where are You Positioned?

25:07 - Journaling Your Courtship Journey

29:25 - What You Can Do Differently

31:35 - Conclusion


Links Mentioned in This Episode:


15 Minute Courtship Assessment Call

https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515


Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce



Feb 27, 202335:53
BTS Monday Coffee Chat: Reactive communication, Breakups & Misalignment S6E14

BTS Monday Coffee Chat: Reactive communication, Breakups & Misalignment S6E14


In this episode, we dive into setting clear boundaries and knowing when and why you need to lean back to build a sustainable, stable relationship. Join us for this Monday’s Coffee Chat as we explore things you can do before reacting to disrespect in your relationships.


One key to attracting your ideal partner is being clear on your own relationship needs. The more clear you are on your relationship needs, the more intuitive you will be in courtship and choosing the right partner. Clarity will help you narrow down and focus on quality men who desire your authentic value as opposed to men who disrespect your boundaries and ultimately leave you feeling unworthy.


Or maybe you’re attracting good men but they’re just not meant for you.. You probably need to break up with your type?


The Relationship Assessment Call linked below is for career driven millennial women who want to assess their love blocks and have a game plan for courtship.



Time Stamps for the episode:


00:00 - Introduction

4:11 - Why Being Clear on Relationship Goals is Necessary

7:00 - Things You Can Do Before Reacting to Disrespect

8:57 - You Don’t Need To Raise Him

13:07 - How To React To Expectations of Exclusivity on The First Encounter

15:04 - How To Make The Right Choice And Not Regret it

18:35 - Misalignment in Values, Visions, Decisions

22:43 - Expectations of Long Distance Exclusivity

29:29 - How To Score Your Man on The Commitment Scale

33:57 - Why You Both Have To Be On The Same Page

35:12 - What He Might Be Feeling & Why You Should Post In The Group Proactively

37:50 - Know When & Why To Lean Back

43:18 - Your Focus Should Be Alignment

48:00 - Conclusion



Links Mentioned In This Episode:


20 Minute Relationship Assessment Call

https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515


Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program

www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching


Queen of Courtship Assessment

https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce


Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship


Feb 20, 202351:35