Words of Gratitude
Welcome to Episode 3 and today I will be talking about the absolute importance of words of gratitude
You hear a lot from others, don’t you about how grateful you should be? What are you grateful for today? by anonymous writer “Be grateful for small mercies” or “you should be grateful you are not poor” or “think yourself lucky you have got a job or your health or your family ” and so on Insert the appropriate phrase; I am sure you get the picture.
Those common, trip off the tongue, words of gratitude, how lucky I am to be alive, how lucky I am to have food to eat, how lucky I am to have a job or whatever it was I should be eternally grateful for.
I am ashamed to say, as a younger woman I never really took any of it as seriously as I should have.
To me it was something your elders trotted out when they wanted to make a point about you being an ungrateful little so and so.
So, naturally it went in one ear and out the other.
It is only lately and I am not really sure why, the acknowledgement of words of gratitude seem to have taken on a greater significance in my life.
Perhaps it is because I can now hear all the time, the much younger generation behind me, dismissing those words of wisdom in the same cavalier fashion I did. I hear them poo-pooing parents and grandparents and elders, just like I did at their age and into early adulthood
And I don’t like it, says she who is now acutely ashamed of herself for being like it herself.
Their arrogance and sense of invincibility matched with a “nothing can touch me” attitude pervading their snorts of mocking. The “old fogeys” are just rattling on.
Recently I have found myself wondering why it has become so important to me now. I think it is because it has just dawned on me I might have become the “old fogey”...
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Mindset change is
definitely in order if you constantly think you will fail with your business idea or you think you can't have, be or do something or, you are faced with other people, however well-meaning, who point this sort of thing out to you and you believe them.
Your mindset is the single most important thing in the world to get right and keep right if you want to move forward with your business idea...
And here is my own quote about it...
"You have to treasure your mindset and nurture it like a child"
The simple truth is if you think you can’t about something then you won’t.
Lack of confidence in your ability is an absolute killer and other people can be complicit in the murder of many a fledgling business idea without even realising it.
It is SO easy to be derailed by a single random or throwaway thought, word or action in the blink of an eye.
So, if you are serious about beginning your perfect business and then actually doing something about it, then you need to get a handle on this dream destroyer straight away.
If you feel you are long overdue for a mindset change then...
Let’s start with a definition of mindset
Just so you can start with an understanding of what you are dealing with.
And I quote from one of the great dictionaries of the world - mindset is
A fixed mental attitude or disposition that predetermines a person’s responses to and interpretation of situations
An inclination or habit
Once you understand you have this fixed mental attitude or disposition that predetermines how you approach life then you can work towards change.
But what do you need to change you might ask?
Well, you need to move away from what is known as a fixed mindset where you find yourself saying
“Well I can’t do this” or “I am too old/young/fat/thin/time poor/money poor”
or other negatives such as
“Well I blame my parents/partner/children/boss/friends” for whatever it is you think you can’t be, do or have.
You then need to move into two very important and alternative mindset change patterns.
They are a business one and a growth one.
If you can’t move away from your fixed mindset and develop these two then, in all honesty it is game over before you even take the first step.
It’s a bit like a battery in a torch;
You can’t make the light shine on the negative settings.
You have to have the positive side facing the right way to make the connection.
You can press the on button for as long and as often as you like but nothing will ever happen and you will never see the light come on...
Starting a small business or hoping to?
Welcome to episode 1, and here is my question to you if you are.
Why are you doing it?
From what I see, many people seem to want to start out on their venture the wrong way round and especially for the wrong reasons.
The fact you would rather stick a pencil in your eye than keep going to work for someone or something that means nothing to you, is, surprisingly for some not the best reason for striking out on your own.
So I would like to share a few things I have learned along the way on my travels about starting a small business.
The glaringly obvious points when seen retrospectively, as I did after a number of false starts with my own efforts, become blindingly obvious.
And let me tell you, until I learned my lesson I made this mistake several times over. Not just the once.
If you have the time to read it, I mention in my about me page on my website, how I have started several online businesses and one off line in the real world.
I talk about how I didn't get on very well with any of them, I tried and failed miserably which completely put me off business at the time, I thought, for life.
I made the classic assumption I was rubbish at it, with not hope.
As time went by though, with that 10th wonder of the world hindsight, I can see quite clearly the reason they all went wrong, and how I set myself up for failure every single time.
Aside from not choosing the right business model for me or the right subject area, and I will cover this in more detail in a later recording.
The other glaringly obvious mistake I made was not being absolutely crystal clear as to why I ever wanted to start a business in the first place nor did I pay any heed to who I wanted to serve, or actually how I wanted to serve them.
My website and course is the premise of this topic now, after such a bad experience. I didn’t want others to have to take such a hard road.
The complete understanding of the why question is absolutely crucial to get right in the beginning. I can't emphasise that enough.
Ask yourself and answer honestly, why is your business in existence?
Business Ideas For Beginners
I decided to start this podcast as an addition to my website createyourperfectbusiness.co.uk.
It is a site about helping people come up with their perfect business idea based around who they are and how they want to live their life.
A tailor-made business to add value to the world and with passion and personality included as standard.
I wanted to branch out on the website to include a podcast and talk to people who are just like you and I, starting their business from scratch and finding their way
So why did I pick business ideas then? You might be asking.
Over the years I realised I had a gift for putting ideas together for people, in ways they hadn’t thought of themselves.
And people often came to me for my advice about quite a few things, I think, because of the lateral way I process information.
I seemed to come up with an answer they hadn’t thought of, perhaps about their career or relationships or life in general.
And as career and work have been one my greatest challenges over the years I thought I would apply my talent to this area and not choose broken relationships or money problems, both of which I have excelled in with honours.
And when I found a career coaching course run by the brilliant Dr. Valerie Young (If you want to look her up, she wrote a bestselling book about The Imposter Syndrome, and you can find it on Amazon), I did actually do a little happy dance because I felt at last I had found something that felt right for me. People often talk about feeling like they are coming home to something, and here I was right at the front door with a key.
I realised I could put a frame around my talent, turn it into something useful to help others and it was possible to monetise it too.
So, the business of business ideas became my path to follow.
Mentioned in this episode:
Dr. Valerie Young - Changing Course
My course: Create Your Perfect Business Idea - From Idea To First Product or Service