Cynthia Bailey-Rug

Cynthia Bailey-Rug

By Cynthia Bailey-Rug
Thank you for checking out my podcasts! They cover the same topics as my writing & everything comes from a Christian perspective. Check out my site for more information at www.CynthiaBaileyRug.com Also, I hope to add more podcasts fairly often, but due to my own mental health struggles, they may not be added terribly often. I will do my best though. If you notice me mentioning my video in some podcasts, it's because the audio was taken from my old YouTube videos.
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Why You Shouldn't Defend Yourself Against A Narcissist's Smear Campaign
This podcast addresses why defending yourself against a narcissist's smear campaign is utterly pointless, no matter how bad it gets.
03:37
July 11, 2020
Why After Implementing No Contact, You Should Stay No Contact With A Narcissist No Matter What
This podcast discusses the importance of remaining no contact with a narcissist no matter what after you have decided to sever ties.
04:10
July 11, 2020
How To Go No Contact With A Narcissist
This podcast offers practical advice to help you end the relationship with the narcissist in your life.
04:11
July 4, 2020
How To Deal With Guilt Trips
This podcast offers suggestions in dealing with the difficult situation of when a narcissist uses guilt trips to manipulate.
03:14
July 4, 2020
How To Cope When Narcissists Shift The Blame To You
This podcast offers ways to cope when the narcissist in your life shifts the blame to you for problems he or she has created
03:51
July 4, 2020
How Narcissists Use Shame To Abuse, Part 2
This podcast is the second of two addressing the topic of ways narcissists use shame to abuse their victims.
04:02
July 4, 2020
How Narcissists Use Shame To Abuse, Part 1
This podcast is the first of two addressing the topic of ways narcissists use shame to abuse their victims.
03:32
July 4, 2020
How Narcissists Isolate Their Victims
This podcast discusses ways narcissists isolate their victims in order to make them easier to abuse.
04:23
July 4, 2020
How Narcissists Handle Health Crises
This podcast discusses how narcissists handle health crises.
03:56
July 4, 2020
How Narcissists Fool Their Victims
This podcast addresses ways narcissists fool their victims.
03:55
July 4, 2020
How Narcissists Convince Victims That They Are The Problem
This podcast addresses ways narcissists convince victims that they are the cause of all problems in the relationship.
03:17
July 4, 2020
How Narcissists Abuse Without Lifting A Finger
This podcast discusses subtle ways narcissists abuse their victims with virtually no effort on their part.
03:44
July 4, 2020
How Many Abuse Victims Process Negative Emotions
This podcast discusses a common but rarely mentioned way that abuse victims process negative emotions.
03:28
July 4, 2020
How Childhood Trauma Affects Adults
This podcast explains some of the ways that childhood trauma affects people into adulthood.
04:29
June 22, 2020
Help For When Places And Items Trigger Painful Memories Or Flashbacks
This podcast offers a unique way to cope when faced with places or items that trigger painful memories or flashbacks.
03:42
June 22, 2020
Hoovering Tactics
This podcast explains common hoovering tactics.  In other words, what narcissists do to their victim after the victim leaves them but they want the victim to return to the relationship.
03:47
June 22, 2020
How Dysfunctional Families Protect Their Narcissist
This podcast is about how dysfunctional families protect their narcissistic relative.
03:43
June 22, 2020
How Feeling Your Feelings Helps Your Mental Health
This podcast discusses the benefits of feeling your feelings rather than ignoring them.
04:01
June 22, 2020
Gaslighting
This podcast discusses the subtle, insidious and evil form of abuse that is known as gaslighting.
04:11
June 22, 2020
Ghosting, aka The INFJ Door Slam
This podcast discusses why sometimes people disappear from the lives of others and why with certain people, that can be the best way to end a relationship.
03:42
June 22, 2020
Getting To Know Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse
This podcast helps the listener learn to get to know themselves after escaping narcissistic abuse.
03:32
June 22, 2020
Going No Contact Doesn't Fix Everything
This podcast discusses how although no contact does help abuse victims a great deal, it does not fix everything.  It also helps prepare those considering going no contact prepare for what happens afterwards.
03:58
June 22, 2020
Grief After Narcissistic Abuse
This podcast discusses the need many people have to grieve after narcissistic abuse. (Please excuse the meow at the end.. one of my cats was especially talkative the day I made this.  This episode was the one with the least meows in it.  Frankly I didn't feel like doing it yet again so I went with the least "meowy" version... lol)
03:39
June 22, 2020
Fixing Your Narcissistic Parent's Problems Is A Bad Idea
This podcast explains exactly why fixing your narcissistic parent's problems is a very bad idea.
03:57
June 22, 2020
Frequently Used Gaslighting Phrases
This podcast discusses some of the more common phrases narcissists use to gaslight their victims in order to manipulate and control them effectively.
04:07
June 22, 2020
Flashbacks
This podcast is about flashbacks and the best ways to cope with them.
03:10
June 22, 2020
Flying Monkeys
This podcast addresses the topic of flying monkeys and how to deal with them.
03:37
June 22, 2020
For Anyone Who Has Gone No Contact With An Abusive Parent
This podcast is for those who have gone no contact with their abusive parent(s).
03:52
June 22, 2020
For Those Who Judge Victims For Tolerating Abuse
This podcast is aimed at those who judge victims of abuse for tolerating the abuse for as long as they did.
03:18
June 22, 2020
Biblical Forgiveness
This podcast discusses the topic of forgiveness and how it is not what many people think it is.
04:01
June 22, 2020
Financial Abuse
This podcast addresses the topic of financial abuse.
04:27
June 22, 2020
Do Narcissists Know Right From Wrong?
This podcast answers the question about whether or not narcissists truly know right from wrong.
03:57
June 22, 2020
Discrediting The Victim
This podcast discusses how and why narcissists discredit their victims.
03:53
June 22, 2020
Discussing Abuse
This podcast addresses the topic of discussing abuse -  is it a good or bad thing and why?
03:16
June 22, 2020
Don't Believe Everything You Hear
This podcast discusses how you should not blindly believe everything you hear, and instead should consider the information for yourself.
03:46
June 22, 2020
Encouragement For The Weak And Flawed
This podcast encourages those who are still in a relationship with a narcissist, and feel weak or flawed for not going no contact.
03:53
June 22, 2020
Engulfing And Ignoring Narcissistic Mothers
This podcast discusses the difference between the engulfing and ignoring types of narcissistic mothers.
04:01
June 22, 2020
Don't Let Anyone Silence You
This podcast encourages the listener not to allow anyone to silence them from discussing their traumatic experiences.  It is healing and helps raise awareness to discuss narcissistic abuse, and no one should try to silence a victim from sharing their story!
03:38
June 22, 2020
Dysfunctional Behaviors Of People Raised By Narcissistic Parents
This podcast discusses some of the common dysfunctional behaviors people who were raised by narcissistic parents exhibit.
04:00
June 22, 2020
Dysfunctional Ways Narcissists Cope - Reinventing The Past
This podcast discusses one of the many dysfunctional ways narcissists cope - reinventing the past into something more palatable to them.
04:10
June 22, 2020
Dysfunctional Ways Narcissists Cope - Retroactive Justification
This podcast discusses one of the many dysfunctional coping skills narcissists use, retroactive justification.
03:43
June 22, 2020
How Narcissists Abuse By Nitpicking And Changing Goals
This podcast addresses how narcissists abuse their victims by using petty, nitpicking criticisms and constantly changing what their goals are.
03:36
June 22, 2020
Emotional Incest, Covert Incest, Parentification And Parentalization
This podcast discusses the incredibly difficult topic of when a parent treats their child as if the child is the parent or a partner.  This phenomenon is known by several names -  emotional incest, covert incest, parentification and parentalization.
04:34
June 22, 2020
Enmeshment
This podcast covers the topic of enmeshment in dysfunctional families.
03:58
June 22, 2020
Deciding Whether Or Not To Go No Contact
This podcast helps the listener gives the listener things to think about if they're considering going no contact with a narcissist.
03:47
June 20, 2020
Dealing With People Who Don't Understand Mental Illness
This podcast discusses ways of dealing with people who don't understand mental illness, and can be very difficult about it.
03:56
June 20, 2020
Compassion Fatigue
This podcast addresses a topic common to those who survived narcissistic abuse.  People pleasing is often a consequence of narcissistic abuse.  Compassion fatigue is a consequence of people pleasing.  It's when you get burned out on helping other people while not taking good enough care of yourself.
03:25
June 20, 2020
Comparing Your Struggles To Others' Is Not Good
This podcast discusses why comparing your struggles to those of other peoples' is a bad idea.
03:27
June 20, 2020
Common Ways Narcissists Get Attention
This podcast discusses some of the most common tactics narcissists use to get attention and how to deal with that behavior effectively.
04:06
June 20, 2020
Childish Behaviors Of Narcissists
This podcast addresses some particularly childish behaviors done by narcissists and how to cope with them.
03:43
June 20, 2020
Busyness: An Unhealthy, Trauma Based Way To Cope
This podcast addresses busyness as an unhealthy way to cope with past trauma.
03:48
June 20, 2020
Breaking Free From Being The Family Scapegoat
This podcast helps to encourage those in the awful role of family scapegoat how to escape that position.
03:21
June 20, 2020
Body Memories
This podcast discusses the phenomenon of how the body remembers everything it has experienced, and how this relates to surviving abuse.
03:37
June 20, 2020
Being Your Parent's Parent
This podcast addresses what is it like for the child of the narcissistic parent when their parent wants the child to be the parent rather than the parent being the parent.
05:16
June 20, 2020
Bad Decisions And Narcissists
This podcast addresses one possible reason narcissists and their flying monkeys behave as they do.
03:41
June 20, 2020
About Passive/Aggressive Behavior
This podcast discusses passive/aggressive behavior as an abuse tactic commonly used by narcissists
03:39
June 17, 2020
About Non Apologies
This podcast is about something called a non apology, which is a common abusive tactic narcissists use.
03:50
June 17, 2020
About Narcissistic Friends
This podcast discusses the toxicity of narcissistic friends.
03:39
June 17, 2020
About Irritable Gratitude Syndrome
This podcast discusses a little discussed phenomenon known as Irritable Gratitude Syndrome.
03:36
June 17, 2020
About Harassment And Stalking
This podcast discusses the very real dangers of being harassed and stalked.
04:21
June 17, 2020
About Guilt After The Death Of A Narcissistic Parent
This podcast discusses the guilt adult children of narcissistic parents often feel after that parent has died.
03:44
June 17, 2020
About False Strength
This podcast discusses what society calls strong yet is actually not strong, which is why I call it false strength.
03:54
June 17, 2020
About Disproportionate Anger In Victims Of Narcissistic Abuse
This podcast discusses a common phenomenon in victims of narcissistic abuse - disproportionate anger.
04:08
June 17, 2020
About Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, aka C-PTSD
This podcast discusses a common after effect of narcissistic abuse, Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
04:19
June 17, 2020
About Anger In Adult Children Of Narcissistic Parents
This podcast discusses the natural anger that occurs in adult children of narcissistic parents.
03:46
June 17, 2020
A Way To Stump Narcissists
This podcast shares a way for victims of narcissistic abuse to stump their narcissist, thus (hopefully!) reducing the abuse temporarily.
03:11
June 17, 2020
A Message For My Younger Followers
This podcast is for those who are under legal age and living with their abusive parents.
03:18
June 17, 2020
A Different Facet Of Triangulation
This podcast addresses a lesser known way narcissists triangulate their victims.
03:58
June 17, 2020
About Narcissists And Respect
Narcissists have a skewed view of respect.  This podcast explains why their view is wrong.
04:09
June 17, 2020
**Please start here!!**
This is a brief introduction to my podcasts.  
00:30
June 17, 2020