The Truth About Being an Entrepreneurial Dad/Husband
By Fred Blumenberg
If you want real perspective and insight on what’s happening right now in my entrepreneurial journey, you’ve come to the right podcast. I tell you about the challenges of fatherhood along with being a good husband to my awesome wife. It’s a juggling act to say the least. Here’s how I stay crazy yet effective in my life.
One thing that you’ll run into a lot is people trying to make you feel inferior because of a few things. They may feel insecure of their own standing, they may feel fearful of your progress, they may feel as though they need to “peacock” and posture to show off.
Do not allow this to discourage you. Let me tell you about a time that I got insulted and how this made me feel and my response to it.
Coaching kids by using the #1 Mindset has helped me to develop and strengthen the brand even further. And it works to create supreme confidence in the kids that I coach. Listen to how this helped a young basketball player who didn’t even know of the basketball player LeBron James.
My entrepreneurial journey has been one big roller coaster of crazy twists and turns. After moving 1700 miles from Chicago, IL to Sandpoint, ID, I swore I’d never move furniture again. Now here I am moving furniture helping my entrepreneurial friend Travis.
I’m also coaching youth football (which I love to do) but I literally might have bitten of more than I could chew by taking on this new project. It’s the life of an entrepreneurial dad. Yikes!
I needed to take time for myself to stop and reassess what I was doing. I think we all have moments along our entrepreneurial journey where we need to assess what’s working and what’s not giving us the results we desire.
I also needed to take time with the family. It was necessary. Take time to for yourself when it’s needed. The world’s troubles will always be there tomorrow.
Entrepreneurs all have moments that challenge us when it comes to creating sales. Here’s my moment that's challenging me and what I’m doing about it. The raw and real authentic truth about my current mindset.
No one knows that one of the biggest challenges of my entrepreneurial journey has been watching my two baby girls while doing my job. There’s nothing that I’ll ever fast that’ll be harder than this.
I give all the credit to those that are single moms or dads that do this by themselves. You ALL are the REAL MVPs.
I’ve always had a drive to help people in general. It wasn’t until I began this entrepreneurial journey that I decided to use my talents and abilities to help other entrepreneurs do the one thing that’s challenging to do - win the mind every damn day.
I’ve had some significant challenges to overcome over the past month or so. Finding my groove with my business and finding time for my kids has been a struggle but a growing process at the same time.
Here are my personal thoughts on both topics that I’ve experienced over the past few weeks.
Over the past few weeks, I’ve had to take a step back from posting as much as I do on social media. I’m a one man show so I needed to redirect my efforts to strengthening the sales side of the business. Everything is a step in the right direction. Here’s what I have going on at this very moment.
Accountability is a hard pill to swallow for most people. It’s actually one of the top three things that I deal with when speaking to entrepreneurs. Here’s what I had to learn and teach to my son when I gave him a haircut and we talked about life.
One thing that I had to learn was the power of the word no. I stretched myself extremely thin with over commitment to way too many projects. Not to mention, I had my own thing. I needed to take a step back and tell some people that I needed to focus on me.
It was the best decision that I made. It was refreshing to center myself and find my focus and get back to what I needed to do to make things happen. Maybe you can relate to this?
It’s been quite a difficult and challenging period with my 9 year old son. He’s testing every fiber of my being. It’s also challenging because I’m pursuing my entrepreneurial career and the challenges with that increase everyday.
Sometimes I'm at a loss with him. But inevitably I feel as though it's my fault and that I'm doing something wrong. Listen to my struggle as a parent and an entrepreneur.
One of the things that I learned early on as an entrepreneur is that you have to be authentic with the people you work with. You can’t just sell products for the sake of making money and think that will be a long lasting game plan.
You won’t become successful unless they’re successful at using your product or services. It’s that simple. Listen to this episode to hear about what happened when I sold a bottle of Skinny Body Care weight loss pills to my friend. It was a good lesson that I learned and it’s the reason why I am who I am today.
This week, I’ve had to contact a number of future clients who seem to be shuffling their feet on making decisions. It reminds me of how I used to be when I made decisions to do things in life. I would take weeks and even months to make a simple choice.
I’m glad that I’m out of that (comfort) zone of time wasting. I work to push others out of their (comfort) zone of time wasting as well.
This week has definitely been a huge test for me. I have the opportunity to work with Andy Audate who is a Millennial Speaker who works directly with Les Brown.
There’s big time commitment on my end because I’ve already committed over $1K to other investments as a part of my business. This is the part where I’m stretched extremely thin. I wish I could say you’d never mentally reach this point but I will always keep it authentic with you.
The fears of falling on my face and being in the red in my bank account are there. But I’m running directly at my fears and going all in. Listen to my story. I’m hopeful that you can relate.
The hardest thing about this entrepreneurial journey has been the time that I miss out with my kids. It’s been incredibly difficult. It’s extremely important for me to be a great dad. Especially since my dad sucked and was never around for different reasons.
I want and need to be present in my kids’ lives. It’s something that I work on every day.
Oh you don’t know about how I got stuck in three inches snow in Idaho because of my own stupidity? Let me tell you about my story and why it’s important to ask for helping when you need it. Even when you do something stupid.
Turning 40 is a landmark birthday for me. Just a bit of insight for you - I honestly didn\u2019t think I\u2019d make it past 21. I don\u2019t know why but those were my thoughts when I was young.
Here I am, the day before turning 40 and I feel a lot better than I did when I turned 30. It\u2019s all because I\u2019m going 100% all-in after my dreams to become a multimillionaire doing what I love. Helping other people make THEIR dreams come true.
Here\u2019s some insight on where my thoughts are on the eve of my birthday.
Last week was no joke for me. Michelle and I have been dealing with our son\u2019s issues behavior issues in class and it\u2019s been frustrating to say the least. His issues have been going on for a while. We don\u2019t know if he\u2019s ADD, has high anxiety, whether he needs a counselor for some help, we just don\u2019t know.
And don\u2019t forget that I\u2019m an entrepreneurial stay-at-home-dad who watches over my two little girls Daisy (11mos) and Skylar (3yo).
The challenges seemed to have mounted up on me last week and today\u2019s episode will give you insight on where my mindset currently stands with at-home affairs.
I\u2019m transitioning into a new part of my life. I\u2019ll be turning 40 years old on February 21, 2018 and there are many things that I have going on right now.
I began my entrepreneurial journey in October 2015 and there have been many ups and downs and many challenges along the way.
My latest challenge has come as the biggest test to my mental state. I\u2019m working on myself and leveling up to new heights that I\u2019ve never experienced. It\u2019s the New Me and the New Me has taken a lot of mental energy to create.
It\u2019s been incredibly challenging for me to work while sleep deprived. I\u2019m often very hard on myself when it comes to getting work done but it can be stressful to try to do everything I wish to accomplish and be a great dad.
Today\u2019s episode will give you insight on what I\u2019ve had to battle and why it\u2019s become an insane challenge to be a dad and go through a major transition in my life.
I recently made an adjustment on my entrepreneurial journey and it has helped tremendously.
I\u2019ve been known to burn the midnight oil and beat the sun up but it became draining when I didn't see where I was making progress. Yes, outwardly I could see the progress but inwardly I was feeling like I was doing doing doing and getting nothing nothing nothing.
I decided to track my wins and losses at the end of each day. It\u2019s given me time to reflect on my work and to see where I\u2019ve made progress and see where I need improvement.
Most importantly, I\u2019ve been able to have daily mini-celebrations on my victories and that\u2019s a good thing. I hope this helps you to have the same feeling along your journey as well.
One thing I\u2019ve always hated doing was reading. I hate reading. I don\u2019t hate it, I loathe it. I\u2019ve diagnosed myself with ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder). If it doesn\u2019t interest me beyond five minutes, you can forget about it.
But when I began my entrepreneurial journey in October 2015, one thing I knew was for certain: I had to read books. I had to read books to level up in life. Let me clarify. I\u2019m in the process of becoming a multimillionaire. One of the things that multimillionaires do is read books. Many of them. Your top CEOs read 60 plus books a year.
So how did I beat reading? Listening. Now that I can vibe with. Hears how I\u2019ve managed to read up to 30 books since I started my journey.
I have the biggest problem with giving back to myself when it comes to rewarding myself for the hard work that I put in. It sounds crazy right? I don\u2019t know how to reward myself - but the truth is that I used to be the opposite.
I used to reward myself too much by going out every other Friday to the bar. I used to reward myself by purchasing things that I couldn't afford to make myself look like I had money.
So I decided to do a 180\260 turn and go in the opposite direction. I gave up all the things that the Broke Fred used to do and decided to do the things that the Rich Fred would do. Metaphorically speaking, I gave up all of the activities that wasted time and money.
But I left myself with a void and now I\u2019m forced to fill that void. Can you relate?
Nothing will happen perfectly. Nothing. I understood this when I had my first born. The day we brought him home, I remember thinking, \u201coh wow, what did I get myself into.\u201d
Here\u2019s how I\u2019ve gotten to where I am and how certain situations and events have made me the way that I am today.
There are so many fake-preneurs on social media that is nauseating. A fake-preneur is someone who\u2019s perpetrating as the real thing. They have no intention on helping you solve a problem, they\u2019re looking to pad their pockets with your money. Period. They\u2019re out to get theirs.
An entrepreneur will show you how they\u2019ve become successful and the process of how they\u2019ve done it. They will give you the negative situations they have encountered and what they did to rise up from them. If they show you a cool photo of them at the beach, it will be because they\u2019ve earned it and not to just show off.
A true entrepreneur will bare their soul and tell you the good, bad and ugly about anything you want to know about being an entrepreneur. A fake-preneur sells you a dream.
Be aware of the fake-preneurs. They\u2019re multiplying at an exponential rate.
Sleep. Oh how I wish I could sleep like I used to before I had baby Daisy. It\u2019s been a challenging year while on this entrepreneurial journey. I\u2019m working a crazy amount of hours along with getting broken sleep. Daisy has been the most challenging child when it comes to getting her to sleep. It\u2019s been draining. Can you relate to what I\u2019m talking about? If so, this is a good listen and laugh for you.
As a dad, I\u2019m responsible for more than just bringing home the money and keeping a roof over our heads. Life happens at hyper speed and it sometimes feels like I can\u2019t get a grip on it. I used to put all my energy into managing my time and balancing Life. Once I gave up trying to fit in and be normal and just accept my crazy life, the happier I began to live. I have an understanding that you live once on this earth and if you don\u2019t learn to enjoy the craziness, you\u2019ll end up miserable and unhappy for a long time.
I had a moment this evening with the kids. It came out of nowhere. It was a culmination of the end of the day activities with the kids (getting ready for bedtime) and the pressures of my business. Here\u2019s how I handled my situation and what you can learn from it.
Michelle and I love to point out the good qualities in our kids and reference ourselves when they happen. You know- like Trey is hyper-energetic and that\u2019s a quality of mine. Ellie can be very nurturing and timely and that\u2019s a quality of hers. Here\u2019s a few stories that will make you laugh especially if you\u2019re a parent.
You guys know me, I\u2019m ALWAYS energetic and positive but I have my moments and Michelle let me know when I was having too many of them. Here\u2019s an insight on how I got called out on my bad attitude over the last few weeks.