DADICATED.COM - empowering Dads

DADICATED.COM - empowering Dads

By Philipp Hartmann
Philipp Hartmann became a dad of five under two in 13 months. In our first season "Being Dad" we meet unique, inspirational fathers who share their own experiences and stories.

DADICATED.COM aims empower men in their vital role as Dads. Our mission is to help facilitating family success.
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32 Dr. Mark Shillinger on boys to men initiation and how to be happier, healthier and holier
“As a dad I just didn’t want to go through the rest of my life not being whole with my son.” Dr. Mark Schillinger on DADicated.com  This is one of my favourite sessions so far.  Dr. Mark Schillinger is 67 years of age, has 2 kids, one son and one daughter and is based north of San Francisco. He refers to his family setup as “successful divorced family”. Mark is a physician, chiropractor, entrepreneur, community leader and awesome dad. Mark coaches parents and mentors young men on how to have more caring and cooperative relationships. As a neuroscientist he also specialises in stressmanagent teaching doctors how to calm down their patients - something we all can use in family life I guess.  Mark’s life’s purpose is to help people achieve their true potential by mentoring them to discover their own core values and transform those values into positive beliefs and productive behaviors. 20 years ago Mark realised that his relationship with his teenage son was failing and started a programme called the Young Mens’ Ultimate Weekend. A weekend that involves other men and aims to initiate boys into manhood. The aim is to help them to get rid of all their past pain, hurt and disappointment and move on to be able to fulfil their full potential of their life going forward.  Mark teaches us relaxation techniques, how to empower boys, covers mentorship and how not to be emotionally distant. Mark shares powerful insights from his decades -long work with teenagers and families. We dive into how he managed to reconnect to his teenage son himself, how he managed to achieve a healthy relationship with his wife after their divorce and his own journey as a dad.  The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:  As a father find a mentor.  Be willing to relax and learn how to relax quickly. Stay calm and kind.  The powerful concept of both, and… two things can be true at the same time. For instance: you can be upset and collect yourself.  Don’t make your kids wrong but find them right.  If you can, find rites of passages to initiate your sons as men.  Working with virtues and values is powerful.  Take care of yourself first so you can take care of the family.  If this podcast helps you be a better parent, please consider leaving a review and share it with another parent or two. Thank you so much. Enjoy this session with Dr. Mark Schillinger!  Links from this episode:  The ManKind Project: https://mankindproject.org/  MDI: https://www.mentordiscoverinspire.org/  Together for Cape Town, raising 3.000.000 meals for Cape Towns underserved kids by January 2021: www.togetherforcapetown.com  Dr. Mark Schillinger:  www.ChallengingTeenageSons.com  www.ymuw.org  www.Schillinger-Chiro.com  www.AdjustingTheMindSeminar.com  For stress management and personal growth contact mark@MarkSchillinger.com  Philipp Hartmann (host):  Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2  “Being Dad” on DADicated.com:  Podcast: www.dadicated.com  Instagram: www.instagram.com/beingdad_official  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dadicateddotcom
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July 11, 2020
31 Coley Harris left his 2 year old son Ahmarr David behind to serve a 16 year sentence
In 1994 Coley Harris went to prison to serve a 16 year sentence; he left behind his 2 year old son Ahmarr Melton. The two were separated for 14 years and have since both been working on their relationship. Today both of them work with youth from underserved communities focussing on the issue of father absence due to incarceration. The session is very powerful and important. Coley is 47, he is married, a father and grandfather. Coley shares his story of ending up in prison after a series of bad decisions in an environment of street culture surrounding drug dealing, drug usage and violence. Coley opens up about the pain and how he dealt with the unbelievable magnitude of the situation during the 14 year long separation. We also talk about his relationship with his own Dad and his upbringing. Ahmarr is 29, he is also married and a father of three. Ahmarr is in finance and also works in the community helping children whose parents are incarcerated finding their way. Ahmarr shares how it was for him to grow up with his Dad in prison and the impact the situation had on him in the home, in school and in his community. Ahmarr said he did not feel anger, just confusion. And he also shares how his own past has shaped him as a father today. We touch on adoption, discuss the issue of incarcerated parents and their joint journey of healing that started with “Outh of the Ashes”. “Out of the Ashes” is a dramatic expression of the real life journey of father and son who struggled while building the relationship they never had after their separation. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Continue to leave space for growth and dont be rigid in your own growth. Stay engaged, even if your circumstances do not allow for much interaction with your children. No matter how long you’ve gone as a father: take a shot. For the most part an adult child will want a relationship with a father. Fathers have a second chance as grandfathers. Forgiveness is key. If this podcast helps you, please consider leaving a review and share if this podcast helps you in your parenting journey. It’ll take you only a few minutes but the impact for others might be huge. Thank you so much. Enjoy this session with Ahmarr and Coley! Links from this episode: http://www.outoftheashesllc.com/ Order “Out Of The Ashes: Where a Seed Finds Life [DVD+Discussion Guide]” here: https://store.fatherhood.org/out-of-the-ashes#product-reviews Missing Dad Podcast with Coley Harris & Ahmarr Melton: https://podcasts.apple.com/bw/podcast/missing-dad/id1493365898 Together for Cape Town, raising 3.000.000 meals for Cape Towns underserved kids by January 2021: www.togetherforcapetown.com
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June 21, 2020
30 Jason Goldberg on the role of fathering shaped by a biblical world view
Jason is a devout Christian, he is married and has one son. Jason is one of the best business strategists I know, he is also a successful venture capitalist, leader and entrepreneur. In business his mission is to create jobs and impact by scaling impactful firms. In the family sense his mission is to be living in the manifest presence of God so that that is palpable for his son. Jason’s Dad left when he was ten and he grew up without a dad, raised by a single-mom with two sisters in a family with very little money. Jason and his Dad only connected two decades later and Jason opens up about his own healing journey stemming from having an absent father and thus not growing up emotionally whole. It is powerful to hear Jason talk on how he found his Faith and how this has transformed himself, his life and his view on family in such a radical way. He shares how he has recently learnt to be a man and what being a Dad in the presence of God means for him and how this shapes his own life and his family life. When his son Elai was three he devoted a year to being a great father in terms of reading, praying and thinking. He refers to this as a faith driven revelation for him. Jason finishes the session with powerful book recommendations on family, religion and becoming a better dad (links below). The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Switch on as a Dad. You need to choose this. An interesting concept Jason shares: Children first and foremost must feel safe with you, after that they must feel unconditionally loved, after that they must feel capable and after that they must feel responsible. Behaviour issues can sometimes be solved by healing the gut. Parenting with a higher purpose or energy in mind in beneficial for yourself and your children. Spending dedicated time on learning how to become a better father is powerful. If dadicated.com helps you being a better parent, please consider leaving a review. It’ll take you only a few minutes but the impact for others might be huge. Thank you so much. Enjoy this session with Jason Goldberg! The books Jason discusses in this episode (also see Jason’s parenting books airtable: https://airtable.com/shrsf8XkbHQpr3sF0): “Raising Men: Lessons Navy Seals Learned from Their Training and Taught to Their Sons” by Eric Davis “Raising Kingdom Kids” by Tony Evans “Discipline That Connects with Your Child's Heart” by Jim Jackson‎ “The Well-Behaved Child” by Dr. John Rosemond‎ “Raising Giant-Killers: Releasing Your Child's Divine Destiny Through Intentional Parenting” by Beni Johnson and Bill Johnson “Kingdom Man” by Tony Evans “Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High”, by Al Switzler, Joseph Grenny, and Ron McMillan
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June 14, 2020
29 Sander Raeijmaekers a Dad’s view of postnatal depression (PPD)
Sander is a dear friend of mine. He is 41 years old and has one daughter together with his partner Babiche. Sander has always been a big inspiration for me as a dad. His wife struggled with postnatal depression after Lou was born and it was very valuable for me to hear first hand how they managed that situation. Sander is a humble, warm man with a big heart. He has an awesome family and both our families have been friends for many years. We obviously speak about how his partner’s postpartum depression impacted Sander and Babiche as a couple, what it is and what he learned from the situation. We also cover each of our birth experiences and how to empower dads during birth, breastfeeding, not sleeping as young parents, unmet expectations and how to deal with that in a relationship. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Step up as a Dad. This is a decision you choose for yourself. Go to all the checkups be there for the Birth and make sure that you are being involved. Ask questions and apply yourself. Have a Doula present during Birth. Be flexible and do not hold on to expectations. Dads are able to empower their children by not minding but minding them at the same time. Lastly please do check out togetherforcapetown.com. Our aim is to provide 3.000.000 meals to children in Cape Town’s townships before the year is out and since our start three weeks ago we were able to raise 55.000 meals so far. You can find more under togetherforcapetown.com. If you like this episode, please leave a review. As always, I appreciate your time, thank you for listening in. Enjoy this session. Links from this episode: Book: “Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams”, by Matthew Walker: https://www.google.com/search?rlz=1C5CHFA_enZA883ZA883&q=why+we+sleep+matthew+walker
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May 31, 2020
28 Eric Fox on his daughter’s coma & his wife’s cancer
“You never really know how much people are willing to do or are prepared or want to help until it’s needed.” Eric Fox on DADicated.com (Eric’s daughter went through a long coma, wasn’t breathing on her own for the first five weeks and she had a 3% chance of survival). Eric Fox is a stay-at-home Dad of two, married since 1999, living in Dubai. In 2015 his wife Krysta was diagnosed with breast cancer but has now recovered. In November 2017, right after Krysta’s chemo, Chloe, his daughter, was involved in a near fatal road accident resulting in a coma for weeks on end with a 3% chance of living. Luckily she is well on the way to recovery. In our session Eric opens up about the strain the situation brought to their marriage and how they managed to turn their relationship around. Eric shares how he managed to deal with the feelings and fears throughout his wife’s and daughter’s fight for recovery. We talk about his situation as a stay-at-home dad, how the family deals with all of this. Eric also shares how Matthew, his son, dealt with his sister’s accident at the time. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Always oblige when your kids want to spend time, you can’t get that opportunity back. Make sure your children understand that they can never disappoint you. No matter what happens. Check-in on the best, worst and funniest every night over dinner with everyone. Schedule important conversations with your wife and don’t try them when you’re exhausted or the kids are screaming. If your friends need your help, be the first to raise your hand. “Bring clarity to discussions. Say what it is that you want to say and also work out how you want to receive information.“ On a personal note: South Africa’s Covid-19 lockdown has brought the economy near collapse and people are starving. If you, as many, love Cape Town and its people, please do check out our initiative www.togetherforcapetown.com and donate. Our aim is to provide 3.000.000 meals to children in Cape Town’s townships before the year is out. Thank you! Beautiful quote by Eric Fox: “When things became extremely difficult communication or the lack thereof became crucial.” Thank you for listening and sharing this episode of dadicated.com. If you like it, please consider leaving a review, truly appreciated. Links from this session: Help us to reach our goal of feeding 3.000.000 kids in Cape Town’s townships before the end of 2020: https://togetherforcapetown.com/ Dadicated.com Website: www.dadicated.com
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May 24, 2020
27 Conrad (“Caveman”) Stoltz: 3x Visualisation-Ninja DAD, 7x World Champion, 2x Olympian athlete and multiple African Champion
“The hardest thing I have ever tried to do was to truly, truly emotionally connect.” Conrad Stoltz, 7x world champion, 2x Olympian Athlete, 5x African Champion, 5 Times South African Champion - DAD of three! Conrad Stolz, aka the “Caveman” is an exceptional triathlete from South Africa. He’s a powerful man and humble dad of three kids, Sina 4.5, Zander 2.5 and Zoe 5 months. In my mind Conrad is the definition of hardcore. He is a 7x Cross Triathlon World Champion, 10x XTERRA USA Series champion, 2x Olympian athlete and so many more amazing results… The first ten years of his career he lived hand to mouth, sleeping on park benches or in police stations as he came straight out of Apartheid and without a sponsor he actually couldn’t afford to compete on that level globally. Conrad told me he had to win to be able to eat! He says his own Dad, an Afrikaans cattle Farmer and proud, hard man, was a true icon for him and ultimately he learned the essential life-lessons for his success from his father. Through visualisation Conrad is able to disassociate his mind from physical pain and enter flow or peak state during competition. In the session we explore how this ability can be applied to being a parent. Conrad opens up about his own upbringing, his personal fears and struggles as a dad, athlete and husband and his journey and struggles of retirement from competing after 34 years when his child was born and becoming an entrepreneur The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Being a Dad is an endurance sport all by itself. Have more patience. Be vulnerable, show emotion. Nobody told us it’s going to be hard. Prepare outcomes. Visualise. Have a pre-prepared outcome of what you want to happen for any given situation. You have to also visualise the failure. What you put in is what you get out: Perseverance, Suffering, Connecting with people. “If you follow your passions it’s very easy to commit, suffer and succeed.” Teachable moments: during play if a teachable moment arises, stop everything (in a playful way), explain what you need to explain, carry on playing. Another amazing quote from the Caveman: “Racing is even harder if you’re being chased.” On a final note: many of you know that I am based in Cape Town and we are currently in one of the hardest lock-downs globally. The result of the lockdown is that the economy has collapsed and COVID-19 has brought hunger and, sadly in some cases, violence. Together we have started an initiative called www.togetherforcapetown.com. Our aim is to raise enough money for 3.000.000 meals for underprivileged kids before the year is out. Conrad's website: http://www.conradstoltz.com/ Conrad on Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conrad_Stoltz
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May 17, 2020
26 Being a single dad, step dad & entrepreneur with Todd Palmer
“First I was a boy raising a baby. Then I was a man raising a boy on my own while raising and growing a business. Sometimes that overlap was great, sometimes it was quite messy.” Todd Palmer, entrepreneur, single-parent dad and now also step-dad, on dadicateddotcom.  Todd Palmer became a single-parent at the age of 24 in a time where chances for getting custody for fathers was around 1% in his hometown Detroit, Michigan. Having brought up his son as a single dad, today, in his fifties, Todd has become a step-father to a ten year old girl. He filed for personal bankruptcy at the age of 25 as he had spent all his money on the custody court case. He started his business at 28 and went from struggling entrepreneur on the brink of bankruptcy with $600,000 debt to making the INC 5000 as one of America’s fastest-growing companies 6 times.  Todd opens up about his journey as a single parent, a dad and step-dad, male bonding between father and son, his own experiences with divorce, bringing up a child on his own and how he was able to overcome imposter syndrome for himself.  The session is fun and it’s meaningful on many levels. Todd’s shares are powerful and it’s interesting to hear him opening up as a father and businessman.  The most powerful takeaways for me a a dad where:  There’s no perfection in parenting and therefore failure doesn’t exist if we allow failure to be a learning opportunity.  Have self-compassion and kindness for yourself.  “ATV (authenticity, transparency, vulnerability) with spouses and children.”  Show up and be fully present.  Have tenacity and resilience.  Memories over money.  Set aside self-care time every day.  Have genuine, authentic conversations.
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May 10, 2020
25 Dr. Michael Trautmann’s fatherhood journey & one life changing day and night with his own Dad
Michael Trautmann is a strong man with the ability to inspire and lead people to success. He is a serial-founder, entrepreneur and Dad who has two sons, Oskar and Moritz, 21 and 24.  The session is meaningful, powerful and moving and we both had a good cry together towards the end. Michael truly leads with vulnerability as he shares deep personal experiences about his own journey as a father, husband and his relationship with his own Dad who died of cancer last year. We talk about our roles as entrepreneurs and businessmen. Michael shares his own learnings and insights gained from business in relation to being a Dad, what he learned from the Hoffmann process and one very powerful, life changing day and night he experienced with his father. Michael is one of the most important and successful heads in the German advertising landscape (global ex-CMO Audi, ex-MD of Springer & Jacobi, founder of kempertrautmann and founder of thjnk). Michael also co-founded upsolut Sports which initiated and runs HYROX. Together with Christoph Magnussen, he runs one of Germany’s leading podcasts #OnTheWayToNewWork. They kindly invited me towards the end of last year (link below). The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Quality over quantity of time. Michael and his father once where gifted a unique 8 hours together that changed his life and that of his children forever. What if we can look out for those opportunities with our kids? Allow myself to reflect back and improve. This implies that I have to accept where I made mistakes. Lead with vulnerability. Time together is bonding. Values form the foundation. As always I am hoping that these sessions do help you in your journey as a parent. If they do, please do share this with others and leave a review. Highly appreciated. Enjoy! #fatherhood #advertising #onthewaytonewwork #otwtnw #beingdad #dadicated #familyadvice #hoffmannprocess Links of this episode: My episode with Michael and Christoph on their podcast #OTWTNW: https://soundcloud.com/onthewaytonewwork/163-podcast-mit-philip-hartmann-agenturunternehmer-remote-worker The Hoffman Process: https://www.hoffmaninstitute.org/ HYROX: https://hyrox.com/en/ thjnk: https://www.thjnk.de/en/
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May 3, 2020
24 David Bacon was born a great uncle (in case you are trying to figure that one out: his sister was already a grandmother when he was born)
As we do this session I am in lockdown with four three year olds and two four and a half year olds, so times are interesting. Dave Bacon is an amazing man and Dad. Dave’s thoughts about Being a Dad are remarkable and his own story is remarkable as well - for instance each his dad, himself and his son were all born in a different century. Dave and his wife Heather have 3 children who are 11 and 7 - he also has twins. Dave is the Founder & CEO of Better With Bacon, recognised as ‘Best Places to Work’, ‘Top 50 Colorado Companies to Watch’ and he has been on the Inc. 5000 fastest growing companies three times. He is an avid skier and very active and holds numerous board positions in altruistic and charity causes. Dave’s father, Ernst Bacon, was a famous composer who had 6 children, 11 grandchildren, 1 great grandchild. Dave was born in 1973. At that time his dad was 45 years his mom’s senior. He was born a great uncle because his sister was already a grandma and of course his niece was older than him. The session is really fun and beautiful. Dave opens up on his own upbringing and all the different perspectives and viewpoints he grew up with in such a unique family setting - think about a 85 trying to parent a ten year old. The overarching theme of his upbringing was always the arts and the beauty of all things. We cover the amazing gift Covid has given us - which is having more time together as families and we talk about how we each handle COVID as families. Dave shares some amazing tips on how he manages to improve his relationship with his children and I have to say he seems like an extraordinary human. For instance the one time his 8 year old had the idea of climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro for a fundraiser for a local school, two years later they did just that - and raised USD 103.000. A simple idea became something amazing. Dave also shares how his kids and the family deal with death, how he tried to solidify his kids' impact on himself and how the arts and music impacts their lives on a daily basis. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Mandate your children to participate in the arts. Keep a field note for each child, don’t date the entries, give it to them later in life. This way they will know the impact they had on you and the world around them in a powerful way. Show your vulnerability to your kids. Make sure they understand you, too make mistakes, all the time. 1.000.000 seconds are 11 days, 1.000.000.000 are 31 years. Our children are multiple time billionaires which is a lovely concept! Kids must know that their ideas matter and also that their ideas are actionable. Allowing my kids ideas into my life is a great excuse to celebrate our relationship. Get everybody to write down three things they are grateful for and read it out over dinner.
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April 28, 2020
23 Dr. Malik Mohammed a journey from homeless child to “Scholar Warrior Dad” on a mission is to improving the human condition
This next session truly left me in awe. It is powerful and inspirational. Dr. Abdul-Malik Muhammad is a father, husband, educator, transformational leader, entrepreneur and author. He has been married to Christina for 25 years and became a dad at the young age of 20, a second time at 25. Interestingly his step-father and his wife’s father stay with them as well. Malik’s story really is powerful and amazing. Born into a womb of trauma, Malik’s father died during his mother’s pregnancy. He was homeless from five well into his teenage years and spent quite some time in juvenile correction facilities. Malik describes this period as a time of transition, instability and dysfunction - yet he shares amazing insights from that time that helped him as a Dad later in life. Today he has a BA in International Affairs, an MA in Educational Leadership and a Doctor of Education in Educational Leadership. Always working with the underserved in urban and rural areas, he has focused on the development of boys to men, establishing a tutelage for oppressed youth, and building progressive organizations. He is the founder and CEO of Akoben LLC and Transforming Lives Inc. so he is in the fields of education and mental health. Malik trains people on how to develop restorative relationships with adults and children to bring positive transformation. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: We have to be truth-tellers. Build resilience and perseverance in our children to create an inner fortitude and strength. Don't do things for them or to them, do things with them. Be a man of honour and work hard. It’s all about impact. Explain to your children how their behaviour or not meeting their responsibilities makes you feel. Make sure you stand in your power of moral authority. Model a manifestation of your values to your children. It is mission critical that we make sure the world sees our children through the same beautiful lens that we see them through. We have to fight hard for this! Fathers of boys cannot solely raise their sons. As fathers we have a responsibility to reach many and give them the opportunity to show other boys what fatherhood looks like. Allow myself to be changed by my children as I change them. If you feel that podcasts help and inspire you to be a better parent I am asking you to share two podcasts you love with two dads or moms you love today. Enjoy the session! Links from this session: Malik’s first book The Restorative Journey – Book One: The Theory and Application of Restorative Practices, inspires to think and act differently in leadership, relationships and service to others: https://akobenllc.org/products/the-restorative-journey-book-one/
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April 13, 2020
22 Marc Rousso on being a dad during personal bankruptcy
Marc Rousso has two children; his shares are uplifting and practical and they are very important as we are stuck in a downturn economy caused by the explosive global deceleration we are currently experiencing. Marc built his business from nothing to a decent property company. As Marc and his wife had their first child, Lehman Brothers hit, he went bankrupt, lost his business and was left with $2.500.000 personal debt. Without a paycheck for five years Marc doubled down a new start, his family and being a Dad. It’s amazing to hear how Marc managed to separate the huge anxiety he felt during this time and his role as being a Dad. The session is really powerful and Marc shares beautiful and important insights and tips. Marc wants to create a life without regrets and be the best dad he can be -  regardless of the situation. This was amplified by the sudden death of a dear friend who told him he wished he had spent more time with his kids.Having felt more of a nuisance to his father Marc is trying to be the dad he never had. As a family man and entrepreneur Marc has driven a lot of intentional choices such as creating a family friendly business or ritualising routines that have worked for him and his children. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: When times are tough, there is always that one part of life I can control: being a good dad. A successful life - and being a good dad for that matter - stems from the ability to wake up the next day and be a better version of yourself. Life has a time expiration. Learn to live a life without regret. Every night before bed they play GIN - a card game. For 15 minutes. An amazing way to connect on an ongoing basis. Carve out a dedicated stretch of intentional time with the kids every day where you are present and engaged. If you feel that podcasts help and inspire you to be a better parent I am asking you to share two podcasts you love with two dads or moms you love today. Enjoy the session!  #bankrupcy #dads #entrepreneurship #fatherhood #lifeafterbankrupcy #familygoals
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April 5, 2020
21 Dr. David Zelman: parenting & living in the present for the future
Dr. David Zelman is 72 years old, married for 40 years, three children and two grandchildren. David has been doing “Transcendental Meditation” for 50 years. Through his work in the last four decades David has achieved enlightenment. David is a behavioural psychologist and received his PhD back in 1976. He has done extensive work with families and children. David has coached thousands of people nationally and internationally, including billionaires, royalty, industry leaders, entrepreneurs, executives, professional athletes, and performers. David is the founder and CEO of Transitions Institute in Dallas, Texas. His process guides people on a powerful journey of self-discovery and freedom. David feels that individuals are most effective when their intentions and actions are aligned toward a future they deeply desire, and to which they make a deliberate commitment. David says clarity, purpose, and self-expression need to become the guiding principles for living happily and living successfully. In this session we talk about the Transitions model, powerful concepts of parenting and communicating with our children. David shares valuable insights from his forty years of working with people and particularly families and children. The session was truly powerful and there are so many valuable and amazing, positive learnings. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: To be a better Dad I have to be a better self. Live in the present but with a future mindset. Nothing I’ve ever accomplished in my life did I do on my own. Look for opportunities to celebrate your relationship with your kids. My actions and feelings are perfectly correlated to whatever my internal conversations are. Promote a growth mindset in your kids. Kids need to have a say. Teach them to be other-oriented. The capacity to communicate with others is fundamental to their success in life. So is mine. Be present to their being present. Be conscious of their awareness. Be conscious of who I am as a provider in my different roles. Listen, listen, listen to them and their world around them. Don’t hurt them, guilt them or make them afraid of me. Don’t make them choose sides. Please do get involved in our mission to facilitate family success. If you feel that podcasts help and inspire you to be a better parent I am asking you to share two podcasts you love with two dads or moms you love today. Enjoy the session! Links from this episode: Dr. David Zelman’s book: “If I can, you can. Transformation made easy”: https://books.google.co.za/books/about/If_I_Can_You_Can_Transformation_Made_Eas.html?id=zRaNCwAAQBAJ&redir_esc=y
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March 20, 2020
20 Balancing life in business, family & personal growth (and dealing with an eight year old daughter) with Jeremy Ames
Jeremy Ames is 42, married and has 2 kids. He lives in Idaho in the U.S. and is a serial entrepreneur. Jeremy’s current business, Guidant Financial, has helped over 18.000 entrepreneurs put more than 4 billion USD to work, mainly in small businesses or franchises. In 2007, Jeremy was honored as the National Young Entrepreneur of the Year by the Small Business Administration. I like this session a lot because it’s mainly just an honest chat between two dads. Jeremy says his main challenge as a dad is balancing his time to feed personal growth, his desire to build businesses and spend quality one-on-one time with his friends and family. I was intrigued to hear his strategies and experience shares coming from such a high-paced, driven individual. Jeremy is a brave man at heart and we had a powerful and valuable conversation about love, family, relationship and self. Jeremy opens up about his own family challenges and how he manages to keep his marriage healthy. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Do not let your own ego and sense of validation get tied up in how others perceive your kids. Do an annual trip with only one of the kids and yourself - kids decide where to go. It’s difficult to engage with kids over activities outside of your own bias. Keeping appointments is a superpower. Lastly: please do get involved in our mission to facilitate family success: share two podcasts - any podcasts - that inspire you to be a better parent with two parents you love today. Enjoy this session! #dad #dads #entrepreneurship #entrepeurdad #fatherhood #parenting #relationship #supportsystem #father
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March 10, 2020
19 Warren Farrell the father of the men's movement & author of “The Boy Crisis”
Warren Thomas Farrell is 77. He is an American educator, activist and author of seven books on men's and women's issues. All of his books are related to men's and women's studies, including his March 2018 publication “The Boy Crisis”. Farrell initially came to prominence in the 1970s as a supporter of second wave feminism; he served on the New York City Board of the National Organization for Women (NOW). Although today he is generally considered "the father of the men's movement" he advocates for neither a men’s nor a women’s movement but a gender liberation movement. Warren chairs the Coalition to Create a White House Council on Boys and Men amongst other things to influence change. In the session Warren opens up about his own family set-up and his experiences and challenges as a step-dad of 2 girls. His one daughter was adopted by his wife before they got together and the other daughter is a biological child from his wife and her previous partner. Warren also shares amazing insights and learnings from a few decades of research. We talk about adoption, mom-style parenting and dad-style parenting and the effects, father involvement - or the lack thereof - and the consequences. Fir instance: Warren told me the single biggest predictor of suicide for boys is a lack of father involvement. Another topic he elaborates on is how much can be gained simply by making sure dad and mom are both aware and honour the contribution dads make by means their intuitive actions. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Structured family dinner nights help everybody in the family feeling heard and fostering positive ties. Roughhousing leads to children being more empathetic and understand the difference between assertiveness and aggression - so keep on going dads. The single biggest predictor of success is postponed gratification “Moms can’t hear what dads don’t say.” Please do get involved in our mission to facilitate family success by sharing any two parenting two parenting podcasts that have inspired you with with two dads or moms you love. Enjoy! Links from this episode: www.dadicated.com Warren Farrell on Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Warren_Farrell Coalition to Create a White House Council on Boys and Men: http://whitehouseboysmen.org/ Warren’s official website: https://warrenfarrell.com/ #warrenfarrell #boycrisis #feminism #dads #fatherlessness #absentfathers #sons #daughters #whitehouseonfamilies #adoption #moms #couplescommunication 
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March 10, 2020
18 Alan Haefele on being a dad of a child with autism
Alan Haefele is an entrepreneur from South Africa. He has been married to Christy for 14 years and together they have four children. Three boys and one baby girl. Alans oldest son has autism. Alan’s shares, explanations and insights were truly valuable and personally I learnt a lot from his experience shares. Alan takes us through his own journey as a dad, his initial denial phase, his learnings, his son’s symptoms and the stigma attached to autism. I love Alan’s practical advice on the topic and it is obvious that he has gone through some healthy introspection and applies himself with this. Alan shares how the autism affects his relationship and the rest of the family and how they deal with it as a family. In short Alan opens up and allows us a beautiful insight into a family affected by autism in a very positive and approachable manner. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Seeking perfection as a dad is not sustainable. Humour helps - mostly. The spectrum is wide and fluid and I realise now that more people are actually on the spectrum than I ever thought. Take it one symptom at a time. It’s important to make boundaries clear for outsiders when it comes to your own family matters. Ritualising solutions that have proven successful is a very powerful strategy. If you haven’t yet, please support the project and hit subscribe. Also, please share this episode with others who need to hear this. Thank you! Enjoy! Correction: Following the podcast, Alan messaged me just to wrap up his incomplete comments on SMA that he couldn’t recall in the recording (around 46 minutes in). He wrote: “..SMA is the childhood onset of ALS, both debilitating motor neuron diseases. Apologies for blanking Philip, I was also confusing Christopher Reeves with another actor, Christopher doesn’t suffer from ALS although his ALS-like paralysis symptoms threw me in the moment. Stephen Hawking, of course, is a memorable case of the debilitating effects of ALS. Apologies for my confusion!”
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March 10, 2020
17 Richard Walton "Being Dad" in the jungle
Not only is Richard a successful serial entrepreneur and dad of 4 kids - three girls and one boy. I could tell immediately that Richard has done some deep introspection about being a father, family and values in his life. Richard is a man who follows his heart and therefore seems to make really good decisions in his life when it counts. At one stage in his life Richard decided to move to the jungle in Costa Rica - at a time when his first baby was 7 months and his wife pregnant with their second child - they were going to stay six months and ended up living there for 8 years. The result of this was that Richard was able to literally spend and live the first 8 years of his childrens lives together with them. In this episode, Richard and myself speak about some of the challenges we face as an entrepreneurs and dads. We chat about education, travelling and how - within a mere 4 years - Richard built a company with over 120 employees growing at insane rates all because he watched his son playing soccer on his own through the kitchen window. And of course the ups and downs of that journey. Enjoy!
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March 3, 2020
13 “The Iron Cowboy” James Lawrence on parenting, Birth & natural consequences
My next dad, James Lawrence aka “The Iron Cowboy”, is truly inspirational. James holds numerous world records and has achieved some pretty mind blowing results with his body and his mind. He is best known for doing 50 consecutive full Iron Mans in 50 American States. 50! What many people do not know is that James has always made a point of including his family in his adventures and world records. For instance, during the ‘50’, his daily appointment to run 5 ks with his daughter kept him going. James has five kids, four daughters and a son. Him and his wife are very young parents and he has a very healthy and inspiring take on being a dad and parenting. I love his ways of dealing with the fact that he is outnumbered by his kids in the positive manner he does. James opens up on his views as a Dad, he shares valuable, and very practical experiences and tips on how we can prepare our kids for adulthood. We talk about natural consequences that can aid parenting, chores, grit, failure and allowing yourself to laugh often. We then move on to talk about how we experienced the births of our children as dads (we have 10 between the two of us) and how dealing with energy in the right way can lead to emotional connection and emotional healing. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Communicate at an early age and make that the expectation. Emotions and how we vibrate in families and beyond is very real and often attached to a physical element. Natural consequence often brings great teaching moments. Don’t forget to enforce the natural consequence. Allow kids to be. Put a moral compass over sound principles to allow your kids authentically who they are as unique individuals. I have scheduled one-on-one birthday dates until the end of time with my kids. As always, if you like this session please do subscribe to the podcast and leave me a review. Please share this episode with others who need to hear this. Please enjoy another session of DADicated.com with James the “Iron Cowboy”. Links from this episode: James’s website: https://www.ironcowboy.com/ James on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamesandrewlawrence James on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IronCowboy/ #SouthAfrica #Canada #dad #dads #fatherhood #Birth #homebirth #naturalbirth #childbirth #triathlon #dadgoals #mom #moms #ironcowboy
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February 20, 2020
16 'Who' over 'what' with Brandon Dempsey
Brandon Dempsey is a super-passionate Dad of two kids. He had 13 siblings growing up. He’s a serial entrepreneur currently running two companies. Brandon is also an Iron Man, author, speaker, professor, a non-profit leader, an adventurer and he runs a couple of nonprofits. All of this is only possible because Brandon his truly highly focussed and has clarity of vision on who he wants to be. He is a gifted strategist who is able to execute. In this session Brandon shares his own learnings and his key-strategies on teaching his kids intentionality and being present. We talk about his value-set as a dad and how he himself applies intentionality and accountability to family life. One very powerful concept Brandon shares is the “who” over “what”. The most powerful takeaways for me as a Dad where: I want to be 100% present at home, phone off, watch off. My interaction with strangers has a huge impact on how my children interact with others, too. Take intention on how I can become the person I want to become and put guardrails in place where necessary. The concept of “building a better who” is more powerful than focusing on “what I want to do”. Please check out my wife’s podcast “On the run moms” (https://open.spotify.com/show/2XeAyRUVo3rWsiZd7MElcs) where she speaks about her life and learnings as a mom of twins and triplets. The link is in the show notes. If you haven’t yet, please get involved and support the project by subscribing. Enjoy! Links from this episode: My wife’s podcast “On the run Moms”: https://open.spotify.com/show/2XeAyRUVo3rWsiZd7MElcs Brandon’s latest TedX talk: “A Cheat Sheet To Turning Dreams Into Reality”: https://www.ted.com/talks/brandon_dempsey_a_cheat_sheet_to_turning_dreams_into_reality Brandon’s book: “Shut up and Go”: https://www.amazon.com/Brandon-Dempsey/e/B01D8WH88I%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share Brandon’s marketing agency: https://gobrandgo.com/
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January 26, 2020
15 “Daddy Saturday”: intentionality & actionable parenting
My next Dad, Justin Batt, is the founder of the “Daddy Saturday” movement and non-profit organisation. Justin’s mission is to impact 10 million fathers in the next 10 years. Justin has 4 kids. A daughter of 11 years and three boys 9, 7 and 5. His wife is an entrepreneur and because she started a bridal boutique he found himself alone with his daughter every Saturday when she was two old. Add three more boys to the mix within the next six years and Justin found himself on his own every Saturday with more and more kids over time. He grabbed opportunity and “Daddy Saturday” was born. Saturday is the day entirely devoted to, carefully curated and planned with his kids. Other Dads started reaching out or joined in and the rest is history. Justin’s says Dads are not born with a field manual and his aim is to inspire and provide practical applications on how to engage with your kids. His focus is on actionable parenting, intentionality and implementation. We talk about his movement, intentionality and structure in the home, the concept of failing and Justin’s, very practical, experience shares one can apply in an instant. Another great concept we explore - he calls it pivoting - parents can apply before difficult conversations happen. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: I have to be equally aligned with my wife in the things that matter to build a united front. Don’t burn all your fuel during the week. Don’t be your kids’ hero; be your kids guide and find more guides for the things you’re not good at. Excessive use of screen time as parents and fathers rubs off on my kids. Big one for me. For all of my German listeners: please check my wife’s podcast “On the run moms”, where she speaks about her journey as a Mom of twins and triplets: https://open.spotify.com/show/2XeAyRUVo3rWsiZd7MElcs If you enjoy this podcast and want to support the project, please subscribe so you’ll never miss another episode. Links from this episode: My wife’s podcast podcast “On the run Moms”: https://open.spotify.com/show/2XeAyRUVo3rWsiZd7MElcs Justin’s website: https://daddysaturday.com/ Justin’s podcast: https://daddysaturday.com/podcast/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/daddysaturday/ Justin on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/justinbatt Justin’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Daddy-Saturday-Intentional-Become-Adults-ebook/dp/B07PJY3H9K
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January 19, 2020
14 Jamie Mitchell one of the most inspiring waterman alive on his role as a Dad.
My next dad is THE Jamie Mitchell, maybe the most inspiring watermen alive. Jamie is a 10X World Paddle Champion and professional big wave surfer. Jamie Mitchell has created a life from the ocean, one which he wants to be able to pass down to his children. Born in Australia and now living on the islands of Hawai’i with his wife and two daughters, he sees we are on an ecological path that must be changed. When we spoke Jamie had just completed his “Seven Crossings Project” that comprised of a 5 day & 170-mile paddle (!) of the Channel Islands in an effort to raise money and promote solutions towards a sustainable planet. Jamie told me the reason for his project where his daughters who are 2 and 4 today. He wants to raise awareness for the global climate crisis we are in today. He is right and it makes a lot of sense to support Jamie in his efforts. Besides the seven crossings project we chatted about his perspectives as a young dad of two girls, Jamie opened up on some of the things he struggles with as a dad and how he manages to translate his insights and dedication as a professional athlete to Being a Dad. We also talked about his own upbringing, his parents and what impact his dad had on himself growing up. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: It is important to stand for what you believe in and be that role model for your kids. If you want your kids to surf at the age of two or three, use goggles. Let your children decide, and take the lead on, when they want to learn and at which speed they’d like to progress. Links from this episode: Please support Jamie’s Seven Crossings Project: https://sevencrossingsproject.com/ Donate here: https://sevencrossingsproject.com/collections/donate Seven Crossings Project on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sevencrossingsproject/?hl=en Seven Crossings Project on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sevencrossingsproject Jamie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamie_mitcho/?hl=en Jamie on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/livinginliquid/ More on Jamie’s insane run of winning the gruesome Molokai 2 Oahu ocean paddleboard race (http://www.molokai2oahu.com/) 10x: https://www.smh.com.au/opinion/jamie-mitchell-the-greatest-australian-sportsman-you-havent-heard-of-20150313-14358j.html
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January 12, 2020
#12 The beautiful journey of captain Gerard le Suer, “Dad at Sea”
Gerard le Suer is a very dear friend of mine, he has two sons (8 and 10), and he is an amazing Dad. Gerard is a traditional healer (“Sangoma”), business consultant, coach, surfer, entrepreneur, sailor and of course passionate Dad. Together with his family has been sailing around the world for the last 14 months with his wife and their two boys. In our session Gerard opens up on his own transformation from being a business consultant travelling alone and being away from the family most of the time to now spending pretty much 24/7 with his family. We also talk about their travels as a family and the surrounding challenges, schooling, particularly in the perspective of travelling with kids and leadership in family. Gerard shares some pretty awesome insights on what we can learn from our kids and we talk about the issue with society suggesting you always have to strive for happiness all the time. We also talk about money, happiness and the value of time. Towards the end Gerard shares some mind-blowing thoughts on the different maps us and our children operate on in this world and how we perceive our self-decided identities as the reality. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Happiness is not relative to ownership but comes out of relationship. Money comes at an opportunity cost in the form of time for most of us. Happiness is a result, joyfulness is a state. Don’t get stuck in a belief just because it’s written down somewhere. As always, if you like this session please do subscribe to the podcast and leave me a review. Please share this episode with others who need to hear this. Please enjoy another session of DADicated.com with Gerard le Suer. Links from this episode: Gerard on LinkedIn: https://za.linkedin.com/in/gerard-le-sueur-6027489 3S Functional & Personal Training in the South of Cape Town: https://www.3sfunctionaltraining.co.za/
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December 30, 2019
#11 the uplifting story of Marcus, shot in combat shortly after becoming a first-time dad
In this next session I sit down with Mark and Marcus Haney, both father and son. The session is powerful and interesting. Marcus, a Purple Heart U.S. Marine, was shot in Afghanistan during a fire fight in combat shortly after becoming a first time dad himself. Mark, Marcus’s dad is a serial entrepreneur who works with and invests in entrepreneurs in the Sacramento area since 2011. In this session we talk about how it felt for Mark to send his son off to a warzone and Marcus‘s journey of leaving for war as a strong Marine - without kids - and to come back as a wounded, immobile and totally dependent first-time Dad (Marcus had to undergo 5 surgeries and many months of intense recovery). Marcus opens up and shares his story of going through a difficult divorce during that time. Essentially he suddenly found himself having shift gears dramatically and having to fight a very different kind of battle upon his return; it was a long journey for him and, despite the stigma of PTS(D), in the end he was allowed to be a dad to his son Hunter with 50/50 custody. I found his positive attitude and insights very inspirational. We also talk about society’s, often contradictory, expectations on men and dads, entrepreneurship, the Haneys’ values as a family and some of the systems they use to keep their bonds strong. The session gives deep insights into valuable aspects of fatherhood in difficult situations. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: My own issues are not half as bad as I often make them out myself. Continuously execute on your important goals without excuses. Always move forward, bad things from the past don’t matter. Thank you for supporting me by sharing this session with other dads and moms. Please also leave me a review, I love your feedback! Links: Mark Haney: Mark’s business: https://www.haneybiz.com/ Mark on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/markehaney Marcus Haney: Marcus’s business: https://haneyis.com/ Marcus on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcus-haney-30350a61 Further reading: War in Afghanistan: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/War_in_Afghanistan_(2001%E2%80%93present) Purple Heart: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Purple_Heart Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Posttraumatic_stress_disorder
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December 22, 2019
#10 Rob & myself have 8 prem babies combined On parents relationships, own identities & family first
Rob Murray is a passionate Dad of three kids who are all born premature. His 4 year old was 5 weeks early and his 2 year old twins were 8 weeks early. I have 5 premature kids (10.5 and 10 weeks). Rob runs a digital agency business called intrigue that is growing 30% a year for the last 6 years, he is also the president of Entrepreneurs Organization in Ontario in Canada and he does lots of charitable work and he is very involved in his local start-up scene. Rob shares very valuable insights and strategies he and his wife Megan developed to keep their relationship strong and their family tight. We talk about challenges him (and myself) are facing with having had so many (prem babies) babies almost "at once". A big part of the session is about dadicated.com and our goals with the project because Rob’s wife couldn’t believe my story and told him to ask me all these questions since. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad: My wife’s and my relationship must come first to ensure a solid, safe foundation for the kids. Rob reminded me of what my good friend Alon told me: ensure you maintain a healthy balance of all your own roles and identities - even after there are kids. If I ask my wife what chores need to be done this is actually more mental load on her. If I want say yes to “family first”, I need to say NO to something else. As always, if you like this session please do subscribe to the podcast and leave me a review. Please share this episode with others who need to hear this. Please enjoy another session of DADicated.com, this time with Rob Murray Links for further reading and information: Rob Murray on LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/intriguerobertmurray Rob on twitter: https://twitter.com/IMRobMurray Rob’s youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/intriguerob Rob’s (awesome) digital agency: https://intrigueme.ca/people/team/
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December 15, 2019
#9 life lessons from a dad who experienced bankruptcy with Conor Neill
My next dad’s name is an inspiring man, Conor Neill. Conor is a Professor at IESE where he runs Leadership courses, he is an author, a keynote speaker, a serial entrepreneur and the Spanish President of Vistage, the worlds leading CEO organisation. He is Irish with two children from two marriages and obviously a very passionate dad. The session is inspirational and powerful because Conor has done some deep introspection of which he shares in powerful ways. Despite his amazing career the most profound insights in this session stem from Conor’s bankruptcy and how this business failure seriously humbled and changed him as a person - and as a dad. The event made him question many of his own behaviours. It also impacted heavily on his family-life and marriage and it’s interesting to hear how his values changed drastically in the years thereafter. Ultimately the bankruptcy brought him closer to himself and also his family. Conor is very well spoken and interesting. We address thought-provoking points around family, business, value systems and personal development - and of course being a dad. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad and entrepreneur where: Personal success is worth nothing if it doesn’t come with family-success at the same time. Kids over work. When it seems the price could be fair, it’s fair. "We judge ourselves by our intentions but others only see our actions." This counts for our children as well! "Time is finite." Don't fill is with busy work but focus on the important things. Many asked how you can support this project: Please do subscribe to the podcast Leave a review Share the podcast with other moms and dads - thank you! Links for further reading and information: Conor Neill on Twitter: https://twitter.com/conorneill Conor Neill on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/Conor Conor Neill on youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcZhBlipmIFlfZjt-Ji4Udg Conor’s personal websites: https://cono.rs/ & https://conorneill.com/ Book mentioned during the session: "A Million Miles in a Thousand Years", by Donald Miller: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Million_Miles_in_a_Thousand_Years Shoutout to https://blog.feedspot.com/dad_podcasts/ for including http://www.dadicated.com in the Top 20 Podcasts for Dads of 2019. Thank you! #dads #dadpreneur #fatherhood #bankrupcy #entrepreneurship #entrepreneursorganization #vistage #family #marriage #divorce #selfimprovement #empowerment #selfreflection #ireland #spain #madrid
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December 8, 2019
#8 Jason Reid on his son's suicide and teen suicide
This session is very powerful and intense. Jason Reid is 52 years of age, he is married and has three children. Last year his fourth son, Ryan, killed himself. Jason shares his son's story, his perspective as a Dad and his views on parenting and the challenges our children are facing in todays world. He gives a lot of valuable practical and powerful advice. Although the session is very sad and the topic difficult, teen suicide and depression are important points of conversation we need to have. Teen suicide is the second leading cause of death for the age range 15 to 24 in the U.S.A. Jason has since brought an organisation to life called chooselife.org and is on a mission to end teen suicide by the year 2030. He has also produced a documentary on teen suicide called "Tell My Story" (links below).  The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Our kids do not hear us, they emulate us. Be authentic and teach them vulnerability by being vulnerable yourself. Speak each other, to your own kids and to other kids. "I’m fine." is not a sufficient response from my child when my gut tells me otherwise. Parenting is inconvenient. Kids talk to us when they want to. Make sure you catch it when it counts. And lastly: the world has changed, our parenting needs to change accordingly. Links for further reading and information: Jason’s organisation with the goal of ending teen suicide by 2020: https://www.chooselife.org/ Jason’s (TEDex) talks: https://www.chooselife.org/jays-talks Jay's most recent TED talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p24x5mIIMeQ Jason's documentary on teen suicide: https://www.chooselife.org/film More on Teen Suicide in the U.S.A.: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Teenage_suicide_in_the_United_States Need help? Visit: Suicide prevention Lifeline: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ or call: 1-800-273-8255 #tellmystory #teensuicide #parenting #suicideprevention #dadadvice #dads #moms #family #childdrepression #kids #socialmedia #bullies #familypodcast #familylife
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December 1, 2019
#7 John Gray of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"
My next dad is John Gray. You probably know him as the author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. The book was a long time bestseller in the 90s, he’s sold millions of his books. John is an interesting dad and our session was different and thought provoking. John dives deep into his work of the last few decades and translates his thoughts on the differences between men and women to dads and moms. We cover his standpoints on relationships, hormones, psychology, the difference between men and women and how we deal with stresses, diet and what dads and moms can teach their children when they are balanced in their own powerful energies as men and women. The session is honest and straightforward, which I like a lot. Some of the things John says or rather how he says them would be unpopular or politically incorrect - and that’s exactly why I found the conversation so interesting! If we launch into stuff you find difficult, I urge you to look beyond that and listen for your own value. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Violence comes from anger and fear and happens when you don't have role models who solve problems. Be a strong outside presence for your children and teach them that just because something difficult happened once, it doesn’t necessarily have to happen over and over again. Teach your daughters how they can trust in other people and be interdependent by making sure they can trust in you. How you treat your partner will translate to your own children. Fathers can provide resilience. Kids need to hear: you did your best and your best is good enough! Links for further reading and information: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Gray_(American_author) https://www.marsvenus.com/
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November 24, 2019
#6 Flo Jung world champion & down to earth DAD!
Florian Jung is one the most progressive windsurfers globally, ocean adventurer and environmentalist and obviously a super passionate Dad. Flo opens up about his challenges around family-life and being ‘modern gypsies’ - travelling with everyone as a professional athlete.  We talk about his hopes and dreams for his son and how his perspective changed completely since he became a father. Flo shares his plans for his near future and his passion for the environment and the ocean. We discuss emancipation and how parenting has changed from when we were kids ourselves.  Maybe the most powerful topic that keeps popping up in this session is the fact that we should leave our children of whom we borrowed this planet a decent Mother Earth. Flo is very passionate about conservation and we talk about the ocean crossing he is planning for (this was recorded in March 2019, due to an injury shortly after the project hasn’t happened yet).  We talk about ‘digital challenges’ with kids, the impact we are having as a dad per se and of course actually taking responsibility for the impact you're having on your children by your own choices and actions.  My key takeaways as a dad where:  If I eat chocolate, they can eat chocolate.  Be intentional around your own actions and be aware of the impact your decisions have on your kids  Spend as much time with your family as you can.  Please rate and share with other moms and dads! Thank you!  Links to this episode:  Flo’s website: https://www.florianjung.com/  Follow Flo on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flojungdotcom/
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November 17, 2019
#5 Andrew Shortell lost a baby & was accused of shaken baby syndrome
Andrew Shortell is a dad of two children. Him and his wife lost their son Tristan at 4 months back in 2014 and where accused of shaken baby syndrome in the aftermath. The accusation was only cleared after many painful months and obviously the whole situation was beyond traumatic. Andrew takes me through what happened that particular night when they lost the baby and he shares how he managed to cope with the whole situation. The session is very powerful and sad. Andrew told me afterwards that he feels this could be the starting point for his own healing. I truly wish this for him! Despite the tragic story somehow they got through and with the arrival of their third child managed to turn their life back into a positive and happy outlook. This was awesome to hear! The session with Andrew left me thoughtful and inspired. The key takeaways for me as a dad where: Carry on, never give up Deal with sadness and loss as soon as you can. Don’t carry the sadness. It was powerful to hear how Andrew was able to focus his energy on the rest of the family and managed to turn things around Professionally Andrew is a Washington, D.C. based live event producer and film director. Please share this episode of dadicated.com with other dads and moms and leave a rating and review. Thank you! Further reading on Andrew: Website: www.andrewshortell.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrew.shortell LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrew-shortell-3215289/ Andrew speaking out about losing a child and being accused of shaken baby syndrome: https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/disputed-diagnosis-sends-parents-prison-abuse Interesting links (not directly related to Andrew): https://www.bbc.com/news/av/education-47443966/dads-who-lose-a-child-are-overlooked https://charlieschildloss.co.uk/
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November 10, 2019
#4 Yat Siu on consistency, empathy & education
Dadicated.com: Yat Siu (Chinese: 蕭逸) is a Hong Kong based Dad, entrepreneur, angel investor, classically trained musician, director of the Asian Youth Orchestra, Global Leader of Tomorrow at the World Economic Forum, and Young Entrepreneur of the Year who was born and raised in Vienna, Austria. Yat is co-founder of the Dalton Learning Lab, which emphasises divergent thinking and design thinking for children. His extraordinary views on our educational systems, how we teach and educate our children. In short, Yat is awesome! His extraordinary views on our educational systems, how we teach and educate our children, dealing with kids' gaming addictions and how he proposes to deal with digital and screen-time in principle intrigued me from the start! In this session Yat shares his views (and frustrations) on today’s education system (outdated information arbitrage we force upon our children really), tech and the digital worlds us and our kids live in. Yat shares amazing personal learnings and ideas on dealing with gaming addiction and how he and his children deal with conflict as equals. Related links: Yat on Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yat_Siu Yat is the Founder & CEO of Outblaze https://www.outblaze.com/yat-siu Yat is the Co-founder & Non-Executive Chairman, Animoca Brands https://www.animocabrands.com/board-of-directors
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November 3, 2019
#3 Grant Hatch “Being Dad” with stage 4 lung cancer
Grant Hatch is truly inspiring. He has four boys, he is extremely intelligent and has been successfully fighting stage 4 cancer for quite some time. Grant has managed to change his condition’s diagnosis from terminal to chronic by means of various treatments he initiated. This conversation, I was privileged to have with him, in essence is so powerful because Grant truly opens up how he feels like as a Dad of four with cancer but also, because we actually did not focus on the cancer so much. I was very interested in the Grant before and after the diagnosis and Grant shares some amazing insights. To put it lightly, I was blown away by Grant’s positivity, his energy and vibe. Grant feels very strongly about educating the public on cancer and Radon, a radioactive, natural gas that most likely caused Grant’s condition. Please do watch this powerful video here: https://youtu.be/PB3nLBu4urg Note: This recording is about 10 months old upon publishing.
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October 26, 2019
#2 Walter Lee’s son Zy has only one arm, no legs
As a Dad Walter found his calling when his 3rd son, Zy, was born with only one complete limb. His left arm. Read that again... The doctors had not picked up Zy’s condition on the scans during the pregnancy and so Zy’s condition came as a complete surprise upon his birth. He decided early on to “prepare the child for the road and not the road for the child.” Walters modus operandi is to INSPIRE, EMPOWER and ENABLE. And it truly is! I felt inspired and humbled after our session. In this episode Walter Lee and myself discuss the challenges AND the upsides of living with and empowering a differently abled child. Walter shares his life-learnings and opens up about how his family dealt with this unusual situation that memorable 30th of September 2006 brought. Walter talks about his journey as a Dad, his fight for justice and how he managed to enable his son’s walking by the age of two! His foundation’s mission is to bring “INDEPENDENT LIVING” to the 10 million children with movement disabilities in South-east Asia. The foundation has since grown with a branch in Malaysia and activities also in Tanzania, Japan and other South-east Asian countries. Walter (a.k.a. Chef Kani) is a serial entrepreneur, celebrity chef, restauranteur, author, speaker, lecturer, and now, social worker and farmer. He speaks 8 languages and is married with 3 children. Walter and Zy’s motto is: “Fail fast, fail different, fail forward!” & Zy responds “...and fail young”. If you, like myself, also had goosebumps during this episode, please do share this and leave a review. Greatly appreciated! “Give us a chance and you’ll be surprised.” (Walter Lee) Enjoy! Philipp Hartmann ----- Links related to this episode Zy Movement Foundation http://en.zmf-asia.org/ Walter’s Book “Walking without legs” https://www.facebook.com/zmfmy/posts/walking-without-legs-written-by-mr-walter-lee-founder-of-zy-movement-foundationh/1770317003241468/ Walter Lee on LinkedIn https://in.linkedin.com/pub/walter-lee/47/b16/4b7 Walter Lee on facebook https://www.facebook.com/walter.lee.12720 TEDxChiangMai "Walking without Legs" with Walter & Zy Kher Lee https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nJ5bIPzNjAM
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October 20, 2019
#1 Warren Rustand: strategies on building successful families
My next guest, Warren Rustand, is an inspiring leader, a business man and of course a Dad. He has seven children and nineteen grandchildren. This session is truly impactful and to this day I have never met another Dad as clear and focussed as Warren. Warren is 77 today he is an ex-NBA player, a White House Fellow and later served as White House Appointments Secretary to the U.S. president. Warren is the past chairman of the World Presidents' Organization and various other impressive things.  In business, Warren has listed numerous times, sat on many boards and has led big companies. Despite all of this, his true passion is family and this is where his main focus lies.  The session is a profound share of experience and wisdom by a seasoned Dad and family man with defined priorities and clarity of vision. In this episode Warren takes us through his learnings of as a father and husband. He explains his family mission and vision system and tells us how he managed to create a successful family that shares their lives on a multi-generational farm today.  Warren gives valuable practical advice on parenting and marriage. He runs us through his value and belief system, clear overarching principles, priorities and how he drives & achieves positive results in his family life.  The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:  Your relationship with your partner is the foundation for everything. Keep it strong and healthy.  Ask your child what she wants from life. Start early and do it often.  If you have a family vision and clear values defined things become a lot easier.  Apologize, forgive, carry on.  Teach your kids to work and create a family bank.  Technology can rupture families.  Same answer from dad and mom, always.  It’s critical to have one on one relationship with every child, every week.  Building consensus around rules in the family is one of the most powerful principles.  Please share do share this session - and if you haven’t yet - please hit subscribe.  Links from this episode:  Authors mentioned:  Richard and Linda Eyre’s books: https://valuesparenting.com/theeyres/books/  Phil Dembo’s website: http://coachinglifestrategies.com/  Books mentioned:  Phili Dembo’s book “The Real Purpose of Parenting: The Book You Wish Your Parents Read”: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/13286602-the-real-purpose-of-parenting  The Entitlement Trap: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/308968/the-entitlement-trap-by-richard-eyre/
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October 13, 2019