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DADICATED.COM - empowering Dads

By Philipp Hartmann

Philipp Hartmann became a dad of five under two in 13 months. In our first season "Being Dad" we meet unique, inspirational fathers who share their own experiences and stories.

DADICATED.COM aims empower men in their vital role as Dads. Our mission is to help facilitating family success.
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32 Dr. Mark Schillinger on boys to men initiation and how to be happier, healthier and holier

DADICATED.COM - empowering DadsJul 11, 2020

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68 Brett Rustand on the family as a team and forming lasting memories

68 Brett Rustand on the family as a team and forming lasting memories

“We have a critical role as parents to create memories for children, and put them in situations and environments where they’re creating memorable experiences.” Brett Rustand on DADicated

Brett Rustand is a 45-year-old military veteran and father of five who lives in Tuscon, Arizona. He and his wife both come from large families and have put a lot of effort into melding their individual experiences into their own unified family culture.

Brett’s military career completely changed direction upon the birth of his first son in Korea. He decided that, from that moment on, he would dedicate every day of his life to raising his children, and currently works in an industry helping veterans to get jobs.

In this session, we discuss working as a team within your family and our role as parents in deliberately creating situations that will form lasting memories for our children. He draws insightful parallels between functioning as a military unit and as a family and emphasizes the importance of showing vulnerability and giving children space to reconcile their own emotions.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

- When children see themselves as part of a team with their own responsibilities, it helps them formulate their own identity and feel comfortable within their individual roles as part of a coordinated family unit.

- Constant communication routines are essential in maintaining strong and functional relationships both between spouses and as a family.

- It’s so easy to forget to take a step back and enjoy how wonderful an experience it is to help a little person develop and become a full-fledged human being. Realizing this and taking the time to do so is essential for our own perspective and parenting experience.

Thanks for listening, I hope you’ll enjoy this session!


GUEST SOCIAL MEDIA

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brett-rustand-0b17977/

Website:  https://crestins.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abitrusty/

Philipp Hartmann (host):

Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2

Dadicated: https://www.dadicated.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beingdad_official/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/philipphartmann

Mar 14, 202201:08:58
67 Ben Richter on navigating the complexities of a blended family

67 Ben Richter on navigating the complexities of a blended family

“The best advice I can give myself as a dad is to believe in your impossibles.” Ben Richter on DADicated

Ben Richter is an amazing man, dad and entrepreneur. He is a father of seven from two marriages who has learned to navigate the complexities of blending different family cultures with multiple children of different ages.

Ben has built one of the premier airport logistics companies and has managed to develop effective habits for balancing his work and family life. He emphasizes the importance of being fully present for your children by minimizing phone and work time when you’re together.

In this session, we discuss various valuable principles of fatherhood. Ben shares how he implemented “checkmark” systems from a relatively young age to teach children to consciously reflect on their behavior in a tangible and quantifiable way.

He explains how building positive communicative habits into our own and in our children’s everyday lives yield extraordinary results - and that difficulties are inevitable, but learning how to respond to them is what really counts.

Ben is truly inspirational in terms of his outlook on life and what he has achieved as a father and businessman and I thoroughly enjoyed our session together!

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

- Teaching children to exercise gratitude is a powerful way to influence their ability to respond to and to evaluate their daily lives.

- Focusing on incremental improvement on your performance as a parent is hugely rewarding, rather than focusing on missteps or regretting mistakes. Immediately focus on being the best version of yourself as soon as you walk in the door to be with your children.

- Daily and weekly recaps with a quantifiable checkmark system can engrain lasting positive behaviors in children.

I was on the fence about checkmarks for a long time but have to say that Ben’s perspectives made a lot of sense to me and have implemented a few of his ideas at home. So far this works really well.

If you find these concepts interesting I recommend you read “The Entitlement Trap: How to Rescue Your Child with a New Family System of Choosing, Earning, and Ownership” by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre. It goes well together with this podcast and the concepts described are complementary and valuable.

Thanks for listening, I hope you’ll enjoy this session!

GUEST SOCIAL MEDIA

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/benbrichter/

Website:  www.airportlogistics.org

Philipp Hartmann (host):

Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2

Dadicated: https://www.dadicated.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beingdad_official/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/philipphartmann

Mar 07, 202259:26
66 Darryl Woods Snr and Darryl Woods Jnr on forgiveness and building a relationship despite extraordinary circumstances

66 Darryl Woods Snr and Darryl Woods Jnr on forgiveness and building a relationship despite extraordinary circumstances

“Growing up, people always asked where’s my dad, I would say in prison. But I always knew that that wasn’t the complete story. I wish I could say more to that when they asked me that, because they say your dad’s in prison people make assumptions. Yes, he was in prison, but he played a major part in my life.” - Darryl Woods Jnr on DADicated

Darryl Woods Sr. is 49 years old. He spent his 28 years and 11 months as a dad in prison. His son, Darryl Woods Jr., was born one year before his father was incarcerated. Their unique story and relationship they have today despite their difficult situation is nothing but amazing and inspirational.

Darryl Sr. grew up in one of the roughest parts of Detroit and was flung into a life of drugs and crime from a very early age. He was incarcerated at 18 years of age and sentenced to life without the possibility of parole. He refused to succumb to a victim mentality and went above and beyond to be a present and a positive role model in his son’s life.

In this session, we discuss overcoming the difficulties of being a father figure from within prison, turning a hopeless situation into something positive for yourself and others, Darryl shares his experiences on the power of mental persistence and faith in overcoming seemingly insurmountable obstacles.

I am absolutely amazed at both their strength and perseverance, and the wonderful relationship they have built as father and son.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

- Even under the most impossible circumstances, mental strength and a positive approach can prevail and yield astounding results in parenting.

- We can choose victimhood or the opposite for ourselves.

- Being there for your children takes many forms and this might not always just be physical.

To book my remote keynote on how we can empower dads in an effort to help facilitate family success please reach out via dadicated.com or simply use my LinkedIn (below).

Thanks for listening, if you like this one, please share the session.

GUEST SOCIAL MEDIA

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/darrylwoods1/

Website:  https://www.startsmartlife.com/meet-darryl/ ; https://masteryourdaymasteryourlife.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/darrylwoodsjr/?hl=en

Podcast: https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/master-your-day-master-your-life-darryl-ea0oZicJNw9/

Philipp Hartmann (host):

Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2

Dadicated: https://www.dadicated.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beingdad_official/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/philipphartmann

Feb 28, 202201:03:22
65 Tom Cullen on overcoming devastation and adapting to single parenting

65 Tom Cullen on overcoming devastation and adapting to single parenting

“The best advice I can give myself as a dad is that love is the baseline. The kids will always have my love. They need to know that. They need to feel that. I can be upset, sad, embarrassed, furious, all those things. But there will always be that base love. Of course I’ll always love them no matter what. But the key is that they know and feel that, always.” Tom Cullen on DADicated

Tom Cullen is a single dad and entrepreneur who lives with his two daughters who are six and eight in a small, rural town in New York.

Tom shares an episode where he had to literally pack up and leave the family home with his two kids within a couple of hours. He has never returned to that home, became a single father and dramatically shifted his approach to both his business and parenting thereafter.

We spoke together about how to establish family values, how to run family retreats and family meetings, the importance of constant re-evaluation of our own approach to parenting, goal setting for kids and how to show emotion to our children whilst shielding them from the unnecessary baggage we might be experiencing as adults.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

- It’s very possible to turn devastation into empowerment and strength by conscious acts.

- Teaching my kids how a new toy works is an incredible opportunity to connect, teach and bond.

- Being a good dad is cool. Make it positive and engaging.

- Teach goal setting in a playful way early on.

To book my remote keynote on how we can empower dads in an effort to help facilitate family success please reach out via dadicated.com or simply use my LinkedIn (below).

Thanks for listening, if you like this one, please share the session.

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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thomascullen/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/thomascullen

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cullentj/?hl=en

Philipp Hartmann (host):

Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2

Dadicated: https://www.dadicated.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beingdad_official/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/philipphartmann

Feb 21, 202252:38
64 Dave Galbenski on Learning While Teaching

64 Dave Galbenski on Learning While Teaching

“The best advice I can give myself as a dad is being a dad is a journey, not a destination. It’s about progress, not perfection. Be present, and when present, be present." Dave Galbenski on DADicated.com

Dave Galbenski is an amazing entrepreneur and thought leader in the field of law from Michigan. He is happily married and has one daughter who is just about to graduate from college.

Dave has won numerous awards for his business endeavors, he served as the chairman of the Entrepreneur’s Organization and founded the EO Leadership academy. He himself has learned a lot about the value of education and hard work from his father, who was the first in his family to graduate from college and has played a huge role in Dave’s life.

In this session, Dave shares his views on how we are both teaching and learning throughout our parenting journeys and that we can never do everything perfect but we can always try to do our best. Dave emphasizes the importance of creating moments in our children’s lives and acting with intention, but also just being there for them when they need us most.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

- Moments Matter. Moments are the molecules of our lives and our lives are merely a cumulative outcome of many moments.

- Being a parent must be my number one priority. Figuring out how to make everything else fall into place comes second.

- When you do your best you don’t have to be perfect.

- Turn technology off wherever you can.

“It’s our job to do this, this is what we’re here to do. And we won’t know anything, we won’t know everything, we’re gonna do some things that are gonna be imperfect, but we’re gonna give it our best and we’re gonna be intentional about it and we’ll keep learning along the way.”

Thanks for listening, if you like this one, please share the session.

To book my remote keynote on how we can empower dads in an effort to help facilitate family success please reach out via dadicated.com or simply use my LinkedIn (below).

GUEST SOCIAL MEDIA

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidgalbenski/

Website: http://www.lumenlegal.com/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/davegalbenski

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davegalbenski/

Philipp Hartmann (host):

Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2

Dadicated: https://www.dadicated.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beingdad_official/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/philipphartmann

Feb 14, 202251:49
63 Dinis Prazeres on Leadership, Mindfulness & Teamwork

63 Dinis Prazeres on Leadership, Mindfulness & Teamwork

Dinis Prazeres on DADicated.com: “The best advice I can give myself as a dad is to be kind to yourself and be mindful of what you focus on because what you focus on grows.”

Dinis Prazeres is a father of two sons, 6 and 10. He met his wife, who is from Poland, while studying in France, and they currently live together in Canada.

Dinis shares his journey of taking over the reins from his own father in the family business and more recently shifting more towards full-time life and mindfulness coaching.

In the session we discuss his own upbringing, being a role model for our children, parenting by impact and instilling teamwork and Dinis explains his leadership principles and why being conscious of what we choose to focus on and assuming positive intent are such a powerful tools in life. 

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

- When you’re grounded and happy you’re in the best possible capacity to be a parent, leader or friend. 

- So much of parenting is about self-management. 

- Emphasize the strengths and abilities of my children to help them focus on what they’re good at.

- What you focus on grows so focus on those golden opportunities of happiness.

- “The best gift we can give someone else is our own happiness.”

To book my remote keynote on how we can empower dads in an effort to help facilitate family success please reach out via dadicated.com or simply use my LinkedIn (below).

Thanks for listening and, if you like this one, please share the session.


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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dinisprazeres/?originalSubdomain=ca

Website: http://www.jeds.ca/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/dinisprazeres

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dinisprazeres/?hl=en


Philipp Hartmann (host):

Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2

Dadicated: https://www.dadicated.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beingdad_official/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/philipphartmann

Feb 07, 202246:23
62 Financial literacy for children with Evan Harris

62 Financial literacy for children with Evan Harris

“The best advice I would give myself is to recognize that my children are themselves. They are not a projection of me, nor were they me, or I am them at their current age.” - Evan Harris on DADicated

Evan Harris is an entrepreneur who has been married for 25 years and has two sons, 13 and 16. As teenagers, they have already learned the ins and outs of investment and have bought and sold action figures, motorcycles, cars, and even a boat.

In this session, we discuss how he separates emotion from money in his relationship with his children and motivates them to work for things they want, value their possessions, and leverage them to achieve more. He has a fascinating approach to gamifying their financial experience and provides valuable insight into the roles of both fathers and external mentors in their lives.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

- It’s essential to provide a training ground where children can fail and recuperate from it at home – you don’t want them to fail for the first time in the real world.

- Introducing your children to external figures, or “virtual uncles,” from whom they can learn is a powerful tool in their development.

- Giving an allowance doesn’t provide much educational value, but earning money for real work and even having the option of taking out high-interest loans from your parents can be hugely beneficial to children, if managed carefully I would add.

I hope you like the session, let me know your thoughts in the reviews and please enjoy! Thanks for listening


GUEST SOCIAL MEDIA

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evan-harris-200103a6/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evan.harris.39

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sd.evan/


Philipp Hartmann (host):

Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2

Dadicated: https://www.dadicated.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beingdad_official/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/philipphartmann

Book my keynote on building successful families and empowering dads here: https://about.me/philipphartmann

Jan 31, 202254:19
61 Dr. Robert Brooks on Resilience in Children

61 Dr. Robert Brooks on Resilience in Children

“The best advice I would give myself as a dad is to accept my children for who they are and reinforce their passions and islands of competence.”

Dr. Robert Brooks has been married for 57 years, has two sons and is a grandfather of four.

A clinical psychologist on the faculty of Harvard Medical School and former Director of the Department at McLean Hospital, Dr Brooks has lectured nationally and internationally and authored or co-authored 19 books about resilience, kids, parenting, family, relationships & school.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

  • Be a charismatic adult to your - and other - children
  • Resilience is a mindset
  • Try and create positive micro moments - they can change the entire trajectory of your child's life


Please enjoy listening to 45 years of professional & decades of personal experience as a dad. A truly powerful session!

Dr Robert Brooks social media:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drrobertbrooks/

Website: https://www.drrobertbrooks.com/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/drrobertbrooks

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drrobertbrooks

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClc3FBSM8ds1mcGiybqARmw

Philipp Hartmann (host):

Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2

Dadicated: https://www.dadicated.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beingdad_official/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/philipphartmann

Book my keynote on building successful families and empowering dads here: https://about.me/philipphartmann

Jan 24, 202201:11:56
60 Creating a successful family vision & instilling values with Robert Glazer

60 Creating a successful family vision & instilling values with Robert Glazer

“Be happy and healthy, be respectful, responsible, resilient, and be kind.” - Rob Glazer, Dadicated.com

Rob Glazer is a very successful business owner who built a $20 million global business recognised as a best place to work by Inc, Fortune, Forbes, Entrepreneur, the Boston Globe and Glassdoor. He is also a father to 3 and avid outdoors family man.

We discuss among other things how incorporating a value based system of doing family life is really not that different from running a successful organisation.

We talk about the incredible value of creating vision boards, setting goals and being accountable to those goals. We also talk about what it means to let your child find their independence and push past their fear of the unknown.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

  1. The value of family meetings is often underestimated.
  2. Giving yourself the permission not to do things that you’re not good at and to focus on the things that you are good at is immensely powerful.
  3. Do things that push yourself and your children out of their comfort zone can teach them that anything you desire can be realised as long as you do the work that is required.

Book my keynote on building successful families and empowering dads here: https://about.me/philipphartmann

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Robert’s Books: https://www.robertglazer.com/book/

  • Friday Forward
  • How To Make Virtual Teams Work
  • Elevate
  • Performance Partnerships
  • Thrive in the virtual workplace

Philipp Hartmann (host):

Feb 03, 202101:00:42
59 THE Rory Sutherland on not losing your marbles as a dad of twins, establishing trust and the fathers-daughter-bond

59 THE Rory Sutherland on not losing your marbles as a dad of twins, establishing trust and the fathers-daughter-bond

“I think we make the business of parenting disproportionally difficult - if we assume that everything is within our control.” Rory Sutherland on DADicated.com

Rory Sutherland is one of the most influential men in the advertising world, a charismatic speaker and Dad of twins. He’s the former Vice Chairman of Ogilvy Group, has served as Chair of the Judges in Cannes and is a best-selling author. He is very intelligent, fun and will get your brain and heart to fire up. Do yourself a favour and listen to this lighthearted discussion around the sheer disruption that parenting brings to an otherwise tidy, domesticated life.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

  1. It’s important in a multi-child household to keep the rules the same for everyone
  2. That there are some things that parenting cannot change so there is really no upside in getting too upset about that.
  3. Our job as parents is to prevent catastrophe. Simply: keep them from worst-case scenarios

To book Philipp’s keynote on building successful families simply to reach out via www.dadicated.com.

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Jan 27, 202156:27
58 Dr. John Rosemond - Renegade Parent Psychologist on Marriage Centred Parenting & Parent Authority

58 Dr. John Rosemond - Renegade Parent Psychologist on Marriage Centred Parenting & Parent Authority

“Children need equal amounts of unconditional love and unequivocal authority.” Dr. John Rosemond on DADicated.com

John is 72, married for 52 years, 2 children and 7 grandchildren between the ages of 13 to 25.

John is an American columnist, highly sought after public speaker, and author of 11 best-selling parenting books and often seen as controversial in today’s popular parenting views. He has worked in family psychology since 1971 and refers to himself as an “opposing voice to psychological correctness”.

In this session John shares his views on child-centered vs. adult-centered parenting, natural authority and discipline, building your child’s self-esteem, teaching humanity, and being a husband and wife first and a father and mother second. We cover speech characteristics, codependency and his concept of the parenting “hump”.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

  1. Be a husband and wife first and a mother and father second.
  2. I must not add “OK” at the end of a request to my child.
  3. One of the greatest gifts I can give my children is the understanding that they are capable human beings – not solving every problem in life, but being capable of dealing with it

To book Philipp as a keynote speaker on “Empowering Dads & Facilitating Family Success” visit www.about.me/philipphartmann.

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To book Philipp as a keynote speaker on “Empowering Dads & Facilitating Family Success” visit www.about.me/philipphartmann

Jan 20, 202101:00:00
57 Next-level serial entrepreneur, coach & autism dad with Michael Caito

57 Next-level serial entrepreneur, coach & autism dad with Michael Caito

“Saying the right thing during a coachable moment to your children that builds their self-confidence can be the biggest difference-maker and change the trajectory of their whole life forever.” Michael Caito on DADicated.com

Michael Caito is an amazing dad and serial entrepreneur who co-founded ”Restaurants on the Run”, scaled it to 10 markets, 600 people and $40 million in revenue and sold it in 2015. He served as global chair of Entrepreneurs Organization, is the CEO at MAP Consulting and a member of YPO.

Mike is married, three boys, one with autism. We discuss enabling social skills with kids with autism, how to empower children in principle, how to instill good habits and Mike explains how some of his coaching frameworks can be applied to family. The conversation is valuable and full of practical experience-shares on how to build a successful family and marriage.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

  1. Always call out positive behaviour - in real-time - with your kids.
  2. Ask your wife every day how you can make her life better.
  3. Do not sacrifice your relationship for the kids.
  4. The greatest dad-hack: hold out on the mobile phones as long as you can.
  5. Drill the habits that you want to instill early.

To book Philipp as keynote speaker on how to build successful families, reach out on www.dadicated.com. Thanks for the support!

Enjoy, thanks for listening!

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Jan 13, 202158:11
56 "Divorce changed me from a father to a dad" with Ron Blair

56 "Divorce changed me from a father to a dad" with Ron Blair

“The best advice I can give myself as a dad is to stay present in the home,” Ron Blair on DADicated.com

Ron Blair is currently going through a divorce and has 100% custody. His marriage and family culture are a tale of 2 distinct families which has impacted his parenting style. His dad is his hero and he wanted to emulate that for his 3 teenagers (18, 15 & 12).

Ron is President and Chief Operating Officer of Century Group, an executive recruiting and professional staffing company.

In the session, he shares openly about the impact divorce had on him & his family-life; what changed and what benefits he gained. Ron talks about co-parenting, support from family and his relationship with his father. Explaining divorce to kids, communicating love and truth, and recognising loss are just some of the incredible topics we cover in this amazing session.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

  1. Our pasts are carried forward
  2. Being present is not merely a physical feature but also a mental one
  3. The truth must be confronted at some point

The best way to book Philipp’s keynote “The Dad Dilemma” is to reach out www.dadicated.com - thanks for your support.

“Those going through the throes of a divorce, there are some great things on the other side for the dads and their children and that relationship and bonding that can happen through this whole process,” Ron Blair, on DADicated.com

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Jan 06, 202150:29
55 Losing your child to a rare disease. Daniel DeFabio on Menkes Syndrome

55 Losing your child to a rare disease. Daniel DeFabio on Menkes Syndrome

“You may have a shorter life with your child but you still have a life with your child and some of this will be happy.” Daniel DeFabio on DADicated.com

Daniel DeFabio is married and a father of two boys, Alex and Lucas. Sadly Lucas quite recently passed away at the age of 11.5 due to Menkes Syndrome, a rare disease he had been diagnosed with at the age of 1.

Daniel shares how he adjusted his expectations of what raising a child might look like at the point of the diagnosis, his views and experiences as a rare dad, how he dealt with the loss, how the Lucas’s condition impacted the family and what helped him and his views on fathering a child that he knew he would lose.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

  1. Parenting advice is almost always future orientated.
  2. Live in the moment, be ready to change your own expectations.
  3. When dealing with rare disease parents give an extra effort to include them.

Hope you’ll like it, thanks for listening.

To book Philipp as a keynote speaker on empowering dads and building successful families reach out via www.dadicated.com.

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Dec 30, 202040:44
54 Growing up in a Persian single-dad home in the U.S.A. with Shadi Almassizadeh

54 Growing up in a Persian single-dad home in the U.S.A. with Shadi Almassizadeh

“The best advice I can give myself as a dad is enjoy every minute, you never get those back and don’t take them for granted.” Shadi Almassizadeh on DADicated.com 

Shadi is the VP of architecture and engineering at Disney, he was born in Iran and grew up in America from age 4. His parents had an arranged marriage that failed so from the age 7 he was raised by his single dad. He is married to Kristi, and they have two children, Kensi (5) and Logan (8). 

In the session Shadi shares his crazy life story and experiences that have moulded him into the dad that he is today. He talks about growing up in a single-parent Persian home in the US, and the impact this had on his youth decisions to ensure a lasting marriage. We talk about culture, exposing your kids to all religions and good principles, and how our partners enable us to be a better parent.

Shadi has an amazing story with so many pleasant outcomes and lessons learned - as a dad as well as an executive of 20+ years. 

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were: 

  1. Expose my children to as many different cultures and learnings as possible. 
  2. Make a point of using technology positively. 
  3. Create family traditions and break bread together often. 

“Children are smart. They are as smart as you will let them be so to enable them and let them make their own assessments and listen to them.” Shadi Almassizadeh on DADicated.com 

To book Philipp as a keynote speaker on “Empowering Dads & Facilitating Family Success” reach out via www.dadicated.com

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Dec 27, 202001:02:05
53 Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD) & Life Energy with Chris Jones

53 Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD) & Life Energy with Chris Jones

“The best advice I can give myself as a dad is to be present with an open heart.” Chris Jones on DADicated.com

Chris has been married to Yolanda for 22 years and they have two boys (16 & 13).

Chris shares about his son’s Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD) and how his condition has impacted him and the family. Chris’s insights on managing life energy (whilst being relentless) well are powerful. We talk about role clarity, family communication, being vulnerable with kids and life transitions.

Chris is a high-energy serial-entrepreneur. He led his last company into building 4 brands to #1 market share in Canada while scaling the business 7 times in revenue and transitioning to working 3 hours per month.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

  1. My wife needs to be my number one relationship – this in turn will make me a better dad
  2. If I do my best and come from a place of love it’s ok not to be perfect.
  3. I need to take care of myself to truly show up for my family

To book Philipp as a keynote speaker on “Empowering Dads & Facilitating Family Success” visit www.dadicated.com.

Hope you’ll like it, thanks for listening.

“Success is defined differently for me. One thing I have always held very close to my heart is the importance of family and I have always placed family at a higher value than money,” Chris Jones on DADicated.com

Chris Jones (guest)

Author Mentioned in Podcast:

Philipp Hartmann (host):

#EOS #entrepreneurdad #dad #athletedad #familypodcast #DCD

Dec 16, 202056:12
52 Steve Biddulph’s incredible insights into “The Father Wound” & raising kids

52 Steve Biddulph’s incredible insights into “The Father Wound” & raising kids

“The secret of family is to love what you have got. What you have got is better for you than what you would have made up for yourself.” Steve Biddulph on DADicated.com

Steve Biddulph is one of the world's best known parent educators and best-selling parenting author. A psychologist for 30 years, he is now retired but continues to write and teach. Steve is known for his ideas of a more affectionate and connected form of parenting.

Steve Biddulph is 67 years old, married for over 40 years, 2 children and grandchildren.

Steve explains ‘the father wound’ and how men can heal their relationship with their own fathers. There are true nuggets on raising boys and girls, toddler negotiation, the impact of men’s groups on dads and various key elements to successful fatherhood.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

  1. All learning is relational.
  2. Stop telling my kids not to cry.
  3. Ask myself daily: who is my child TODAY and where can we meet?
  4. For my sons – I need to teach them how to drive and steer their male bodies.
  5. For my daughters – I am their self-esteem department and example of male respect.

To book my remote keynote on how we can empower dads in an effort to help facilitate family success please reach out via dadicated.com or simply use my linkedIn (below).

Thanks for listening, if you like this one, please share the session.

“The secret of family is to love what you have got. What you have got is better for you than what you would have made up for yourself.” Steve Biddulph on DADicated.com

GUEST (Steve Biddulph):

Books by Steve Biddulph mentioned:

Other books Mentioned in Podcast

Links:

Philipp Hartmann (host):

#stevebiddulph #dads #raisingsons #raisingdaugthers 

Dec 09, 202001:01:26
51 Eric Naaman on dancing the stepfather-dance

51 Eric Naaman on dancing the stepfather-dance

“How do I become part of this child’s life, without alienating the father, but still in the sense we need to become a family?” Eric Naaman on DADicated.com

Eric Naaman, who grew up in war-torn Lebanon, is a leading entrepreneur, and loving stepdad to 12 year old Francois. He studied in the US, and is a successful entrepreneur now living in Canada.

In the session Eric shares about his upbringing in Lebanon, resilient family units, the unique role of a step-dad, and how to build a relationship with a child that’s not your own. Eric shares how he has approached discipline and influence, when to take a step back, and his relationship with Frank’s father. He has amazing insights into how to turn a difficult situation into something very positive.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

  1. As a step-dad don’t try to replace or disparage the father; never take away glory from him
  2. Be supportive of all your child’s endeavours
  3. I should always be working at the relationship with my wife and kids.
  4. Ask them about their dreams, share yours.

“Embrace our separate journeys. These journeys are at the root of our individuality but sharing in them is the cornerstone of life as a family.” Eric Naaman on DADicated.com

Visit www.dadicated.com to book Philipp as a keynote speaker on “Empowering Dads & Facilitating Family Success”.

GUEST (guest): Eric Naaman

Links:

Philipp Hartmann (host):

Nov 25, 202051:59
50 Hao Lam: Street Kid, Refugee, Leading Education Entrepreneur & Dad

50 Hao Lam: Street Kid, Refugee, Leading Education Entrepreneur & Dad

“The best advice I can give myself as a dad is to spend one-on-one quality time with each son,” Hao Lam on DADicated.com

Hao Lam’s story as a dad is powerful and super inspirational.

Hao Lam is a refugee and dad of two sons (23 AND 20) from Vietnam, now living in Seattle. He has been married to his wife Lisa, for 27 years.

As a youngster Hao spent 12 years trying to escape Vietnam, was a street kid and refused formal education from the country that held his dad as a prisoner of war. He eventually made his way to Canada, managed to graduate from High School and College and went on to create Best in Class Education Center, which is now one of the largest education franchises in the US.

In the session we discuss Hao’s journey, his upbringing and escapes from Vietnam to becoming an entrepreneur. Hao shares openly about fatherhood during hardship, his mistakes, his regrets and his learnings as a father.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

  1. If I’m not going to die, it’s probably not such a big deal.
  2. Am I treating my parents as well as I am treating my children?
  3. The more you push your children, the less they will want to come.
  4. Always tell your children that you love them & do make time for them.

To book Philipp as a keynote speaker on “Empowering Dads & Facilitating Family Success” visit www.dadicated.com or reach out via LinkedIn.

“Our children see us and copy us. Being a dad, we are our children’s model. They look up to us. I want my children to persevere, be resilient, and not be afraid of failure.” Hao Lam on DADicated.com

GUEST (guest):

Books:

Philipp Hartmann (host):

Nov 18, 202048:40
49 Don Britton sold his company to become a better Dad

49 Don Britton sold his company to become a better Dad

“The best advice I can give myself as a dad is finding as many different reference points to emulate becoming a better dad.” Don Britton on DADicated.com

Don Britton (2 daughters, 1 & 5) is an amazing entrepreneur with a wealth of life experience who recently sold his company in a quest to spend more time with his family.

Don grew up without his dad. He shares about his mother’s sacrifices and why (pre-kids) family seemed to be a competitive disadvantage. We discuss entrepreneur-dad challenges, family-positive workplaces, family values and mentorship for dads.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

  1. Have frank conversations with your kids about difficult topics.
  2. Never leave a question unanswered.
  3. Teach your children the value of work and that things in life don’t come for free.

Don is an adventurous guy with a wealth of life experience, I do hope you’ll enjoy the session! If you do, hit subscribe and share the podcast with another dad or to. Thanks for listening!

Don Britton (guest):

Books:

Links:

Philipp Hartmann (host):

Nov 14, 202055:60
44 Mark X Cronin on his son’s Down Syndrome & Spreading Happiness

44 Mark X Cronin on his son’s Down Syndrome & Spreading Happiness

“Stay humble and accept the humility that comes as a parent. There is so much we want to do for our children and there is so much we try to do, and in the end, they have their lives that they will lead and there is only so much we can do.”  Mark Cronin, on DADicated.com

Mark lives in Long Island and has been married for 38 years. He has 3 boys, Patrick (29), James (26), and John (24), who has down syndrome. Mark and John are the co-founders of John’s Crazy Socks, which was John’s idea. They sell crazy socks and employ dozens of employees with special needs. Their mission? To spread happiness!

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

  1. I truly found Mark inspiring because he is humble and real.
  2. Be positive, no matter what.
  3. I’ll think twice before I “soften” things for my kids who might struggle with something.
  4. If your children tell you they want something, be sure they understand what it takes to achieve it

“You want to set goals that people have to reach to attain. If they’re too easy, it is uninteresting, and if it is too far out there, you're going to quit, but if they make you stretch, and get outside your comfort zone and reach for something, that is the sweet spot, for all of us and for our kids.” Mark Cronin on DADicated.com

GUEST (guest):

Links:

Philipp Hartmann (host):

#dads #downsyndrome #family #crazysocks #fatherhood #specialneedsdads #specialneedsfamily

Nov 06, 202048:28
43 Truly staying connected & living purposefully with Jeff Neufeld

43 Truly staying connected & living purposefully with Jeff Neufeld

“The solutions will be simple, but the process is anything but.” Jeff Neufeld on DADicated.com

Jeff Neufeld lives in Calgary, Canada, with his wife and 3 children who are 8, 5 and 1.5 years of age.

Jeff once was a successful concert pianist performing in Europe and North America and now is the owner of a leading manufacturing company and an industrial racking company.

In this session, Jeff shares openly about the impact alcohol had on his life and family-life, what changes he made and the benefits gained.

Furthermore Jeff opens up about the hardest and best things he has done for himself and his family as a dad and how he allocates the 168 hours we all are gifted with every week. We discuss what it was like for him becoming a dad and how he learned to balance a blended life of work and family.

He also talks about having to challenge parenting gender roles and shares amazing insights into the importance of seeking mentorship, not only in business, but in life and parenting.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

  1. When you are not feeling connected, look at how you are spending your time.
  2. Humility makes you a better father.
  3. I don’t have to have all the answers as a dad.

“I don’t have to have all the answers and be everything to my children. What has changed is I view my role with my kids to teach them respect for themselves and others and imbue in them a sense of joy and awe and marvel astonishment about the world. That’s it. If I can do that, I think they will have pretty good lives!” Jeff Neufeld on DADicated.com

GUEST (Jeff Neufeld):

Books:

  • Why We Sleep, by Matthew Walker

https://www.amazon.com/Why-We-Sleep-Unlocking-Dreams/dp/1501144316

Philipp Hartmann (host):

Oct 29, 202052:56
42 Craig Rodney on Single-Dad-Hacks
Oct 19, 202001:02:15
41 Bruno Monteferri: Big Wave Surfer & Changemaker Dad

41 Bruno Monteferri: Big Wave Surfer & Changemaker Dad

“Do not take anything for granted and you will change the way that you live every day of your life.” Bruno Monteferri on DADicated.com

Bruno Monteferri (37) is from Peru, married to Christel. Together they have a 2 year old daughter.

Bruno is an impressive changemaker, conservationist, lobbyist, filmmaker and environmental lawyer. Talking to Bruno was like talking to a brother. We talk about big waves, family culture in Peru, our experiences during the birth of our children, Bruno’s conservation work and stories of his own upbringing.

Bruno is an Ashoka Fellow and has a Master in Philosophy in Conservation Leadership. He has published several books and has directed over 50 short videos including the award-winning documentary “A la Mar”.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

  1. Decide which of my acquired values I’d like to carry on with in my own family
  2. Make sure my kids experience nature as much as possible
  3. It is important to have a purpose and to follow your heart

Some of you know this already: I initiated a fundraiser called togetherforcapetown.com during lockdown here in South Africa. We aim to raise enough funds for 3.000.000 meals for kids in Cape Town’s townships before the year is out. If you haven’t yet, please do get involved and donate at togetherforcapetown.com. Thank you.

Alright, without any further adu, here is Bruno, please enjoy and thanks for listening!

Bruno Monteferri:

  1. Listen to Bruno on the Oceanriders Podcast: https://medium.com/@theoceanriderspodcast/meet-bruno-monteferri-big-waverider-filmmaker-and-environmental-lawyer-5e2eed79cc83
  2. Conservamos por Naturaleza : http://www.conservamospornaturaleza.org/
  3. Haz la por tu Ola : https://hazlaportuola.pe to support the funding of technical studies that complete the wave protection procedure.
  4. A La Mar, documentary : http://www.alamar.pe/
  5. Totnes: UK transition town leading the way in terms sustainability and circular economy : https://www.transitiontowntotnes.org/
  6. E.O Wilson “The Diversity of Life” : https://www.amazon.co.uk/Diversity-Life-Penguin-Press-Science/dp/014029161X
  7. Bruno on Ashoka: https://www.ashoka.org/en-za/fellow/bruno-monteferri 

Books mentioned:

Philipp Hartmann (host):

Oct 05, 202001:15:07
40 Don Lamont has 7 daughters & 20 grandchildren
Sep 23, 202001:16:57
39 Michel Kripalani on his wife’s brain tumor & superhero families. "Live as if you're dying."

39 Michel Kripalani on his wife’s brain tumor & superhero families. "Live as if you're dying."

“To a child the word LOVE is spelled T-I-M-E.” Michel Kripalani on DADicated.com This session is one of my favourites and it’s very powerful. Michel Kripalani is the President & CEO of Oceanhouse Media, an app development company, ranked by Inc 500 as one the Fastest Growing Private Companies in 2013. Michel also founded a virtual reality, augmented reality and mixed reality company. He serves in EO as a regional chair and is a recognised coach in the Marshall Goldsmith 100 group. Michel is in his early 50s, he is married to Karen and has two daughters. In July 2011, his daughters were one and two, Michel’s wife was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor - a turning point in their life. In the session Michel shares his learnings from dealing with the brain tumor and how it strengthened and shapes his family. We discuss his own dad, intentionality and legacy; empowering and educating children and why the tumor came as a gift to them.. Michel has five family values which guide all their decisions: these are: “Family and others first”, “Choose extraordinary”, “Leave breadcrumbs”, “Healthy living” and “Gratitude”. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: “Live as if you’re dying.” "Shredd the ego." I have a responsibility to take care of my health towards my family. You can tell someone's priority by where they spend their time. Easiest value rule for all: if everyone in the world knew I am doing this right now, would I feel comfortable to still do this? If not, don’t do it. “It is so easy in life to live small. Always be asking yourself: am I living a big enough life right now?” Michel Kripalani on DADicated.com Michel Kripalani (guest): Twitter: https://twitter.com/mkripalani Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelkripalani/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelkripalani/ Email: mk@omapp.com Web: www.MichelKripalani.com Marshall Goldsmith 100 group: https://www.marshallgoldsmith.com/Welcome Philipp Hartmann (host): Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2
Sep 14, 202001:01:29
38 True masculinity & and authentic fathering with Craig Wilkinson aka the “Dad Coach”

38 True masculinity & and authentic fathering with Craig Wilkinson aka the “Dad Coach”

“My best advice to myself as a dad is to realise how valuable I am to my children and how much my presence is needed in their lives and just be present and engaged.” Craig Wilkinson on DADicated.com
Craig Wilkinson from South Africa is a powerful dad who has truly applied himself to his cause of being a dad and empowering other fathers. Craig has two kids (24 and 26), is a bestselling author, award winning social entrepreneur, sought after inspirational speaker and calls himself and is the “Dad Coach”. He is passionate about equipping men to be great fathers and leaders. Craig is the founder of Father a Nation (FAN), an NPO which restores men to true masculinity and authentic fatherhood. He believes that if we can heal men we can heal the world.
Craig shares his own journey as a dad and his parenting views. We discuss his divorce, what is means to be a man in todays world and how we can empower our sons and daugthers. Craig explains how woundedness manifests in children when there is no father figure around, we talk about Craig’s work sibling-led families in the townships, what surrogate fathers are and our own impact as men on other men around us.
“It’s much easier to bring up a healthy child than to heal a broken adult.” Craig Wilkinson on DADicated.com
The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

Pursue your daughters heart and set the standard this way.
Make sure your sons know they are real men and have what it takes.
Constant communication is key.
The four lies of masculinity are sex, power, money and big boys don’t cry
As a male use the strength you were given well. It’s about serving.


“Sometimes the poorest man leaves behind the most valuable legacy because it’s not what you leave behind for someone but all about what you leave in someone.” Craig Wilkinson on DADicated.com
Craig Wilkinson (guest):

Craig on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/craig-wilkinson
Craig’s Website: craigwilkinson.co.za/
Dad Coach: dadcoachonline.com/
Craig on Twitter: twitter.com/dadcoach
Craig’s facebook: www.facebook.com/DadCoachCraig


Books:

Craig’s book: thedadbook.co.za/
Raising Boys (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/204098.Raising_Boys) by Steve Biddulph
The Boy Crisis (https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/34196216-the-boy-crisis) by Dr. Warren Farrel

Philipp Hartmann (host):

Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2

Sep 03, 202001:03:38
37 Perspectives of an outlier dad. Arel Moodie’s journey from welfare to successful entrepreneur

37 Perspectives of an outlier dad. Arel Moodie’s journey from welfare to successful entrepreneur

Arel Moodie is a Jewish person of colour (white mom and a black dad) who grew up in the projects in New York witnessing gang violence and fatherlessness all around him. Arel has built a million-dollar company and made Inc. Magazine’s “30 under 30” list. President Obama has personally acknowledged him for his work.

Arel has two boys (7 and 5). Arel shares his own racial identities and personal identity struggles and how this has shaped him as a dad. We also discuss learnings from his dad, leaving behind our own trauma in parenting, effort and excellence, how Arel empowers his children, how to deal with bullying and preparing kids for a racial divide. Arel talks about playful parenting, owning emotions, non-actions, the importance of language, bonding and the power of routines.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

If nothing else, you can control effort
Seperate your own trauma from your parenting
Teach in peaceful moments.
Do roughhousing dads!
Appreciation dinner rounds with the family - I love this!
Maybe the most valuable learning: mom first, kids second. Don’t become two adults who are merely co-living and co-parenting.

If you love this session, please share it. Thank you and enjoy this episode with Arel Moodie.

Arel Moodie (guest):

Arel on LinkedIn:
www.linkedin.com/in/arelmoodie/
Arel’s Website: arelmoodie.com/
Arel on Twitter: twitter.com/arelmoodie
Arel’s facebook: www.facebook.com/arelmoodie

Books:
Arel co-wrote a book on how to stop tantrums and meltdowns with his wife The Peculiar Purple Penguin (http://purplepenguinbook.com)
“The Art of Likability” by Arel Moodie: www.artoflikability.com/

Philipp Hartmann (host):
Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2
Aug 27, 202059:35
36 A Christian “Arab Dad’s” perspective with Dr. Suhail Jouaneh from Jordan

36 A Christian “Arab Dad’s” perspective with Dr. Suhail Jouaneh from Jordan

“By profession I am a dental surgeon by profession I am a mental surgeon.” Suhail Jouaneh on DADicated.com

Dr. Suhail Jouaneh is a leader, coach and businessman from Amman in Jordan. He is a business facilitator and executive coach having organized thousands of workshops and trained more than 20,000 people from over forty countries. Suhail is well spoken, very witty and positive and the session is fun and very interesting.

Suhail is married to his wife Abeer and has two daughters Elisabeth 21, Christina 14. Suhail is Christian in a country where 98% of the population is muslim. He spent seven years in France during his studies and so I was very interested to hear his perspective as a “Arab Dad” with a Western understanding and mindset. Suhail did not disappoint.

In the session Suhail shares his own journey as a father; we discuss his family principles and values, Suhail contrasts Western family culture and Jordanian family customs, the role of daughters in Jordan and “Arab Dads” as Suhail coins it. Suhail explains how he empowers his daughters in a country where arranged marriage still exists and sons are often preferred over daughters. He also tells us how he applies his coaching techniques to family.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

  1. Investing in the relationship early is so important.
  2. Where required, talk to your daughters in the role of a male, not just as a dad.
  3. Don’t be distant or harsh, especially with your wife and daughters.
  4. Always be watchful and amend mistakes instantly.

“Whenever our daughters lie, they admit that they lie. They don’t know how to lie.”  Suhail Jouaneh on DADicated.com

If you love this session, please share it. Thank you and enjoy this session with Suhail.

Suhail Jouaneh (guest):

Philipp Hartmann (host):

Aug 17, 202057:11
35 Rich Mulholland on becoming a dad after divorce, winning the stepmom-lottery and “Chicken Shapoodles” #dadcepies

35 Rich Mulholland on becoming a dad after divorce, winning the stepmom-lottery and “Chicken Shapoodles” #dadcepies

“How is the most important job the one we have the least information for?” Richard Mulholland on DADicated.com

Richard Mulholland, an amazing entrepreneur, storyteller, insanely creative and of course a very interesting Dad. I love Richard. He is funny, intriguing and smart and his will to self-optimise is astonishing. I truly enjoyed listening to Richard’s perspective on being a dad.

Richard is the founder of presentation powerhouse Missing Link, as well as the co-founder of 21Tanks, HumanWrit.es and The Sales Department. He has written three books; Legacide, Boredom Slayer, and Story Seller. He was voted top 40 under 40, and top 300 South Africans to take to lunch. Mostly though he's a husband, father, son, brother, and uncle. Richard has spoken in over 30 countries on six continents and works with executives and speakers around the world, helping them deliver unforgettable presentations that activate audiences and generate income.

Richard is 45, he is married to Jess and has two children from his first marriage. His son Callum who is 17 and his daughter Bailey who is 12. Second marriage now 8 years.

In the session Richard shares his own journey and how ultimately his divorce helped him to become an involved and passionate dad, how he realised he needs to stop lying to himself and stop prioritising work over family. We discuss his time as a single dad and his family setting after he remarried. We talk about his own dad, the role of step-parents in the parenting eco-system, how we can help fathers owning being a dad and Richard’s life hacks and family systems.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

  1. If you want the year to be successful remember this: a day becomes a week, a week becomes a month, a month becomes a year. Bingo.
  2. I will start a “to-do-better-list; the one thing you could have done better yesterday.
  3. Moving forward is not the same as moving toward.
  4. Becoming a better dad and husband must be an intentional pursuit.
  5. My children did not enter a family structure, they created it.
  6. Kids don’t want more, they just want us more... in the house.

Richard Mulholland (guest):

  1. All of Richard’s websites: www.getrich.af

Books:

  1. “Microtrends: The Small Forces Behind Tomorrow's Big Changes” by Mark J. Penn, E. Kinney Zalesne: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1556580.Microtrends
  2. “Acta Non Verba” by Erik Kruger: https://books.google.co.za/books/about/Acta_Non_Verba.html?id=8sXnDwAAQBAJ&source=kp_book_description&redir_esc=y
  3. “A Calendar of Wisdom” by Leo Tolstoy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Calendar_of_Wisdom
  4. “The Boy Crisis” by Dr. Warren Farrel
  5. Legacide by Richard Mulholland: http://www.legacide.com/
  6. Boredom Slayer by Richard Mulholland: https://msnglnk.com/boredom-slayer/
  7. Story Seller by Richard Mulholland: https://storyseller.co.za/
Aug 10, 202001:05:35
34 Rorke Denver: Dad of two, U.S. Navy SEALs Officer & Trainer, assault team leader with 200+ combat missions

34 Rorke Denver: Dad of two, U.S. Navy SEALs Officer & Trainer, assault team leader with 200+ combat missions

"If you avoid pain you’re not inoculated for when hard things happen.” Rorke Denver on DADicated.com

Commander Rorke Denver is a highly decorated assault team leader with over 200 combat missions as a NAVY Seal. Rorke has run every phase of training for the U.S. Navy SEALs and led special-forces missions in the Middle East, Africa, Latin America and other international hot spots. As officer in charge of BRAVO Platoon of SEAL Team THREE in Iraq, he was part of the most combat-heavy deployments of any regular SEAL team since Vietnam.

Rorke has a Master in Global Business Leadership and is the founder and CEO of EVER ONWARD, a leadership and human performance brand.

As a Dad Rorke is married and has two daughters. My feeling was that Rorke lives in a permanent state of heightened intensity and is also able to live single purposefully. The session is very interesting, fun and I found it very motivational.

We talk about self-discipline, prepping kids for hard times and how parents who are being deployed manage to transition between family life and combat situations. Rorke shares his standpoints and values as a Dad and talks about his own father and upbringing. He also also shares lessons from the battlefield and SEALS training and how those are applicable for families. We talk about general parenting principles, how to keep your relationship strong and healthy, the importance of own pursuits, goal setting, operating at your highest point of contribution and holding your kids accountable whilst still supporting them. Not surprisingly Rorke is big on tangible over digital experiences in family.

“The fact that my daughters have learned how to shoot a gun, make a fire and play rough has helped them become resilient, self-reliant people.” Rorke Denver on DADicated.com

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

  1. Trust yourself
  2. Share your failures more than your successes with your kids and why
  3. Keep working towards an end-state
  4. Do hard things and do not avoid suffering and pain.
  5. Build resilient, confident children
  6. Never leave a question unanswered.
  7. Let them be kids as long as they can
  8. As a father of daughters the example I set as a man is a fundamental gift for their future.

“Basics for my kids: Respect for yourself and other people. Spend very little time on electronics. No phones. I try and let them be kids as long as they can.” Rorke Denver on DADicated.com

Rorke Denver’s books, TV and film appearances

  1. His first book, the New York Times Bestseller: Damn Few: Making the Modern SEAL Warrior (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/15818527-damn-few), takes you inside his personal story and the fascinating, demanding SEAL training program
  2. His second book Worth Dying For (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/27221344-worth-dying-for) speaks to leadership, service and the future of our nation
  3. Rorke starred in the hit film Act of Valor, which is based on true SEAL adventures
  4. Rorke starred in Season One of the FOX TV show “American Grit”

Rorke Denver (guest): 

  1. Rorke’s website: https://rorkedenver.com/
  2. Rorke on Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rorke_Denver
  3. Rorke’s twitter: https://twitter.com/RorkeDenver
  4. Rorke on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rorkedenverauthor/

Philipp Hartmann (host): 

  1. Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de 
  2. LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2


Please share DADicated.com with other parents and please leave a review as I truly love getting that feedback from you. Thank you!

Jul 29, 202056:53
 33 Arthur Gillis: learnings from a blended family by a seasoned entrepreneur dad & grandad

33 Arthur Gillis: learnings from a blended family by a seasoned entrepreneur dad & grandad

“As fathers we sometimes have to be benevolent dictators, even if our children are grown-ups, they are still children.” Arthur Gillis on dadicated.com If this podcast helps you being a better parent, please consider leaving a review and share it with another parent or two. I truly love getting feedback from you, in fact it makes my day! Arthur Gillis is married and lives in South Africa. He is a titan in the hospitality industry, maybe the most successful in Africa. He is a serial hotelier and proud dad of five. Three of those kids are his biological children and two came with the second marriage. However Arthur and his wife took the line of treating all kids as their own kids. All five are married and Arthur is a grandfather of three, soon four children. Arthur speaks from the heart and his experience shares are powerful & inspiring.  As entrepreneur and CEO Arthur grew the Protea Hotels Group from the initial four hotels to the leading hotel operating company in Africa consisting of 128 hotels in 19 countries with 16.000 employees. After 36 years, in 2014, Arthur facilitated the sale of Protea Hotels’ three brands and management company to Marriott International, Inc.. In our session Arthur shares his own journey of being a dad, a granddad, an entrepreneur and how he manages to blend the many family streams that make up his own family today. Arthur shares some amazing insights and very practical experience shares on building a successful family. Some of the shares are on positive conflict, family forum and family counsel, Arthur's estate planning, forging bonds with children, fathering the fatherlessness, treating children appropriately instead of equally, money and its energy, turning disadvantages into advantages. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Listen more to other Dads who have walked this path before. Be kinder to yourself. If you have no choice at least make the experience beautiful. In a blended family: never side with blood, ever. Show your children your vulnerability. It’s a strength and not a weakness. Find a project, like restoring a car or anything really, to do together with your boys to forge bonds. Have a psychologist or independent third party on call to act as family counselor. Quality time has to equate quantity time. Beautiful routine for all parents: “What made you glad what made you sad? What do you want to do tomorrow and what do you want to do right now? This is your time, you chose.” 45 minutes exclusive one on one time with your child. Please support www.togetherforcapetown.com. Our aim is to raise enough money for 3.000.000 meals for kids in Cape Town’s townships. Arthur:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/arthur-gillis-5540566/ Philipp:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2 Books mentioned in this episode: Life of Ludwig van Beethoven’s Biography. Raising Boys by Steve Bidulph https://www.stevebiddulph.com/Home.html https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_8th_Habit Good to Great https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Good_to_Great by Jim Collins https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_C._Collins
Jul 20, 202001:14:31
32 Dr. Mark Schillinger on boys to men initiation and how to be happier, healthier and holier

32 Dr. Mark Schillinger on boys to men initiation and how to be happier, healthier and holier

“As a dad I just didn’t want to go through the rest of my life not being whole with my son.” Dr. Mark Schillinger on DADicated.com
This is one of my favourite sessions so far.
Dr. Mark Schillinger is 67 years of age, has 2 kids, one son and one daughter and is based north of San Francisco. He refers to his family setup as “successful divorced family”. Mark is a physician, chiropractor, entrepreneur, community leader and awesome dad. Mark coaches parents and mentors young men on how to have more caring and cooperative relationships. As a neuroscientist he also specialises in stressmanagent teaching doctors how to calm down their patients - something we all can use in family life I guess.
Mark’s life’s purpose is to help people achieve their true potential by mentoring them to discover their own core values and transform those values into positive beliefs and productive behaviors. 20 years ago Mark realised that his relationship with his teenage son was failing and started a programme called the Young Mens’ Ultimate Weekend. A weekend that involves other men and aims to initiate boys into manhood. The aim is to help them to get rid of all their past pain, hurt and disappointment and move on to be able to fulfil their full potential of their life going forward.
Mark teaches us relaxation techniques, how to empower boys, covers mentorship and how not to be emotionally distant. Mark shares powerful insights from his decades -long work with teenagers and families. We dive into how he managed to reconnect to his teenage son himself, how he managed to achieve a healthy relationship with his wife after their divorce and his own journey as a dad.
The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

As a father find a mentor.
Be willing to relax and learn how to relax quickly. Stay calm and kind.
The powerful concept of both, and… two things can be true at the same time. For instance: you can be upset and collect yourself.
Don’t make your kids wrong but find them right.
If you can, find rites of passages to initiate your sons as men.
Working with virtues and values is powerful.
Take care of yourself first so you can take care of the family.

If this podcast helps you be a better parent, please consider leaving a review and share it with another parent or two. Thank you so much. Enjoy this session with Dr. Mark Schillinger!
Links from this episode:

The ManKind Project: mankindproject.org/
MDI: www.mentordiscoverinspire.org/
Together for Cape Town, raising 3.000.000 meals for Cape Towns underserved kids by January 2021: www.togetherforcapetown.com

Dr. Mark Schillinger:

www.ChallengingTeenageSons.com
www.ymuw.org
www.Schillinger-Chiro.com
www.AdjustingTheMindSeminar.com
For stress management and personal growth contact mark@MarkSchillinger.com

Philipp Hartmann (host):

Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2

“Being Dad” on DADicated.com:

Podcast: www.dadicated.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/beingdad_official
Facebook: www.facebook.com/dadicateddotcom
Jul 11, 202001:11:01
31 Coley Harris left his 2 year old son Ahmarr David behind to serve a 16 year sentence

31 Coley Harris left his 2 year old son Ahmarr David behind to serve a 16 year sentence

In 1994 Coley Harris went to prison to serve a 16 year sentence; he left behind his 2 year old son Ahmarr Melton. The two were separated for 14 years and have since both been working on their relationship. Today both of them work with youth from underserved communities focussing on the issue of father absence due to incarceration. The session is very powerful and important.

Coley is 47, he is married, a father and grandfather. Coley shares his story of ending up in prison after a series of bad decisions in an environment of street culture surrounding drug dealing, drug usage and violence. Coley opens up about the pain and how he dealt with the unbelievable magnitude of the situation during the 14 year long separation. We also talk about his relationship with his own Dad and his upbringing.

Ahmarr is 29, he is also married and a father of three. Ahmarr is in finance and also works in the community helping children whose parents are incarcerated finding their way. Ahmarr shares how it was for him to grow up with his Dad in prison and the impact the situation had on him in the home, in school and in his community. Ahmarr said he did not feel anger, just confusion. And he also shares how his own past has shaped him as a father today. We touch on adoption, discuss the issue of incarcerated parents and their joint journey of healing that started with “Outh of the Ashes”.

“Out of the Ashes” is a dramatic expression of the real life journey of father and son who struggled while building the relationship they never had after their separation.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

  1. Continue to leave space for growth and dont be rigid in your own growth.
  2. Stay engaged, even if your circumstances do not allow for much interaction with your children.
  3. No matter how long you’ve gone as a father: take a shot. For the most part an adult child will want a relationship with a father.
  4. Fathers have a second chance as grandfathers.
  5. Forgiveness is key.

If this podcast helps you, please consider leaving a review and share if this podcast helps you in your parenting journey. It’ll take you only a few minutes but the impact for others might be huge. Thank you so much. Enjoy this session with Ahmarr and Coley!

Links from this episode:

  1. http://www.outoftheashesllc.com/
  2. Order “Out Of The Ashes: Where a Seed Finds Life [DVD+Discussion Guide]” here: https://store.fatherhood.org/out-of-the-ashes#product-reviews
  3. Missing Dad Podcast with Coley Harris & Ahmarr Melton: https://podcasts.apple.com/bw/podcast/missing-dad/id1493365898
  4. Together for Cape Town, raising 3.000.000 meals for Cape Towns underserved kids by January 2021: www.togetherforcapetown.com
Jun 21, 202001:01:14
30 Jason Goldberg on the role of fathering shaped by a biblical world view

30 Jason Goldberg on the role of fathering shaped by a biblical world view

Jason is a devout Christian, he is married and has one son. Jason is one of the best business strategists I know, he is also a successful venture capitalist, leader and entrepreneur. In business his mission is to create jobs and impact by scaling impactful firms. In the family sense his mission is to be living in the manifest presence of God so that that is palpable for his son.

Jason’s Dad left when he was ten and he grew up without a dad, raised by a single-mom with two sisters in a family with very little money. Jason and his Dad only connected two decades later and Jason opens up about his own healing journey stemming from having an absent father and thus not growing up emotionally whole.

It is powerful to hear Jason talk on how he found his Faith and how this has transformed himself, his life and his view on family in such a radical way. He shares how he has recently learnt to be a man and what being a Dad in the presence of God means for him and how this shapes his own life and his family life. When his son Elai was three he devoted a year to being a great father in terms of reading, praying and thinking. He refers to this as a faith driven revelation for him.

Jason finishes the session with powerful book recommendations on family, religion and becoming a better dad (links below).

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

  1. Switch on as a Dad. You need to choose this.
  2. An interesting concept Jason shares: Children first and foremost must feel safe with you, after that they must feel unconditionally loved, after that they must feel capable and after that they must feel responsible.
  3. Behaviour issues can sometimes be solved by healing the gut.
  4. Parenting with a higher purpose or energy in mind in beneficial for yourself and your children.
  5. Spending dedicated time on learning how to become a better father is powerful.

If dadicated.com helps you being a better parent, please consider leaving a review. It’ll take you only a few minutes but the impact for others might be huge. Thank you so much. Enjoy this session with Jason Goldberg!

The books Jason discusses in this episode (also see Jason’s parenting books airtable: https://airtable.com/shrsf8XkbHQpr3sF0):

  1. “Raising Men: Lessons Navy Seals Learned from Their Training and Taught to Their Sons” by Eric Davis
  2. “Raising Kingdom Kids” by Tony Evans
  3. “Discipline That Connects with Your Child's Heart” by Jim Jackson‎
  4. “The Well-Behaved Child” by Dr. John Rosemond‎
  5. “Raising Giant-Killers: Releasing Your Child's Divine Destiny Through Intentional Parenting” by Beni Johnson and Bill Johnson
  6. “Kingdom Man” by Tony Evans
  7. “Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High”, by Al Switzler, Joseph Grenny, and Ron McMillan
Jun 14, 202001:06:09
29 Sander Raeijmaekers a Dad’s view of postnatal depression (PPD)

29 Sander Raeijmaekers a Dad’s view of postnatal depression (PPD)

Sander is a dear friend of mine. He is 41 years old and has one daughter together with his partner Babiche. Sander has always been a big inspiration for me as a dad. His wife struggled with postnatal depression after Lou was born and it was very valuable for me to hear first hand how they managed that situation. Sander is a humble, warm man with a big heart. He has an awesome family and both our families have been friends for many years. We obviously speak about how his partner’s postpartum depression impacted Sander and Babiche as a couple, what it is and what he learned from the situation. We also cover each of our birth experiences and how to empower dads during birth, breastfeeding, not sleeping as young parents, unmet expectations and how to deal with that in a relationship. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Step up as a Dad. This is a decision you choose for yourself. Go to all the checkups be there for the Birth and make sure that you are being involved. Ask questions and apply yourself. Have a Doula present during Birth. Be flexible and do not hold on to expectations. Dads are able to empower their children by not minding but minding them at the same time. Lastly please do check out togetherforcapetown.com. Our aim is to provide 3.000.000 meals to children in Cape Town’s townships before the year is out and since our start three weeks ago we were able to raise 55.000 meals so far. You can find more under togetherforcapetown.com. If you like this episode, please leave a review. As always, I appreciate your time, thank you for listening in. Enjoy this session. Links from this episode: Book: “Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams”, by Matthew Walker: https://www.google.com/search?rlz=1C5CHFA_enZA883ZA883&q=why+we+sleep+matthew+walker
May 31, 202001:09:15
28 Eric Fox on his daughter’s coma & his wife’s cancer

28 Eric Fox on his daughter’s coma & his wife’s cancer

“You never really know how much people are willing to do or are prepared or want to help until it’s needed.” Eric Fox on DADicated.com (Eric’s daughter went through a long coma, wasn’t breathing on her own for the first five weeks and she had a 3% chance of survival).
Eric Fox is a stay-at-home Dad of two, married since 1999, living in Dubai. In 2015 his wife Krysta was diagnosed with breast cancer but has now recovered. In November 2017, right after Krysta’s chemo, Chloe, his daughter, was involved in a near fatal road accident resulting in a coma for weeks on end with a 3% chance of living. Luckily she is well on the way to recovery.
In our session Eric opens up about the strain the situation brought to their marriage and how they managed to turn their relationship around. Eric shares how he managed to deal with the feelings and fears throughout his wife’s and daughter’s fight for recovery. We talk about his situation as a stay-at-home dad, how the family deals with all of this. Eric also shares how Matthew, his son, dealt with his sister’s accident at the time.
The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

Always oblige when your kids want to spend time, you can’t get that opportunity back.

Make sure your children understand that they can never disappoint you. No matter what happens.

Check-in on the best, worst and funniest every night over dinner with everyone.

Schedule important conversations with your wife and don’t try them when you’re exhausted or the kids are screaming.

If your friends need your help, be the first to raise your hand.

“Bring clarity to discussions. Say what it is that you want to say and also work out how you want to receive information.“


On a personal note: South Africa’s Covid-19 lockdown has brought the economy near collapse and people are starving. If you, as many, love Cape Town and its people, please do check out our initiative www.togetherforcapetown.com and donate. Our aim is to provide 3.000.000 meals to children in Cape Town’s townships before the year is out. Thank you!
Beautiful quote by Eric Fox: “When things became extremely difficult communication or the lack thereof became crucial.”
Thank you for listening and sharing this episode of dadicated.com. If you like it, please consider leaving a review, truly appreciated.
Links from this session:

Help us to reach our goal of feeding 3.000.000 kids in Cape Town’s townships before the end of 2020: togetherforcapetown.com/

Dadicated.com Website: www.dadicated.com
May 24, 202058:53
27 Conrad (“Caveman”) Stoltz: 3x Visualisation-Ninja DAD, 7x World Champion, 2x Olympian athlete and multiple African Champion

27 Conrad (“Caveman”) Stoltz: 3x Visualisation-Ninja DAD, 7x World Champion, 2x Olympian athlete and multiple African Champion

“The hardest thing I have ever tried to do was to truly, truly emotionally connect.” Conrad Stoltz, 7x world champion, 2x Olympian Athlete, 5x African Champion, 5 Times South African Champion - DAD of three!
Conrad Stolz, aka the “Caveman” is an exceptional triathlete from South Africa. He’s a powerful man and humble dad of three kids, Sina 4.5, Zander 2.5 and Zoe 5 months.
In my mind Conrad is the definition of hardcore. He is a 7x Cross Triathlon World Champion, 10x XTERRA USA Series champion, 2x Olympian athlete and so many more amazing results…
The first ten years of his career he lived hand to mouth, sleeping on park benches or in police stations as he came straight out of Apartheid and without a sponsor he actually couldn’t afford to compete on that level globally. Conrad told me he had to win to be able to eat!
He says his own Dad, an Afrikaans cattle Farmer and proud, hard man, was a true icon for him and ultimately he learned the essential life-lessons for his success from his father.
Through visualisation Conrad is able to disassociate his mind from physical pain and enter flow or peak state during competition. In the session we explore how this ability can be applied to being a parent. Conrad opens up about his own upbringing, his personal fears and struggles as a dad, athlete and husband and his journey and struggles of retirement from competing after 34 years when his child was born and becoming an entrepreneur
The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

Being a Dad is an endurance sport all by itself.

Have more patience.

Be vulnerable, show emotion.

Nobody told us it’s going to be hard.

Prepare outcomes. Visualise. Have a pre-prepared outcome of what you want to happen for any given situation. You have to also visualise the failure.

What you put in is what you get out: Perseverance, Suffering, Connecting with people.

“If you follow your passions it’s very easy to commit, suffer and succeed.”

Teachable moments: during play if a teachable moment arises, stop everything (in a playful way), explain what you need to explain, carry on playing.


Another amazing quote from the Caveman: “Racing is even harder if you’re being chased.”
On a final note: many of you know that I am based in Cape Town and we are currently in one of the hardest lock-downs globally. The result of the lockdown is that the economy has collapsed and COVID-19 has brought hunger and, sadly in some cases, violence.
Together we have started an initiative called
www.togetherforcapetown.com. Our aim is to raise enough money for 3.000.000 meals for underprivileged kids before the year is out.
Conrad's website: www.conradstoltz.com/
Conrad on Wikipedia: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conrad_Stoltz
May 17, 202001:13:04
26 Being a single dad, step dad & entrepreneur with Todd Palmer

26 Being a single dad, step dad & entrepreneur with Todd Palmer

“First I was a boy raising a baby. Then I was a man raising a boy on my own while raising and growing a business. Sometimes that overlap was great, sometimes it was quite messy.” Todd Palmer, entrepreneur, single-parent dad and now also step-dad, on dadicateddotcom. 

Todd Palmer became a single-parent at the age of 24 in a time where chances for getting custody for fathers was around 1% in his hometown Detroit, Michigan. Having brought up his son as a single dad, today, in his fifties, Todd has become a step-father to a ten year old girl. He filed for personal bankruptcy at the age of 25 as he had spent all his money on the custody court case. He started his business at 28 and went from struggling entrepreneur on the brink of bankruptcy with $600,000 debt to making the INC 5000 as one of America’s fastest-growing companies 6 times. 

Todd opens up about his journey as a single parent, a dad and step-dad, male bonding between father and son, his own experiences with divorce, bringing up a child on his own and how he was able to overcome imposter syndrome for himself. 

The session is fun and it’s meaningful on many levels. Todd’s shares are powerful and it’s interesting to hear him opening up as a father and businessman. 

The most powerful takeaways for me a a dad where: 

There’s no perfection in parenting and therefore failure doesn’t exist if we allow failure to be a learning opportunity. 

Have self-compassion and kindness for yourself. 

“ATV (authenticity, transparency, vulnerability) with spouses and children.” 

Show up and be fully present. 

Have tenacity and resilience. 

Memories over money. 

Set aside self-care time every day. 

Have genuine, authentic conversations.

May 10, 202040:59
25 Dr. Michael Trautmann’s fatherhood journey & one life changing day and night with his own Dad

25 Dr. Michael Trautmann’s fatherhood journey & one life changing day and night with his own Dad

Michael Trautmann is a strong man with the ability to inspire and lead people to success. He is a serial-founder, entrepreneur and Dad who has two sons, Oskar and Moritz, 21 and 24.  The session is meaningful, powerful and moving and we both had a good cry together towards the end. Michael truly leads with vulnerability as he shares deep personal experiences about his own journey as a father, husband and his relationship with his own Dad who died of cancer last year. We talk about our roles as entrepreneurs and businessmen. Michael shares his own learnings and insights gained from business in relation to being a Dad, what he learned from the Hoffmann process and one very powerful, life changing day and night he experienced with his father. Michael is one of the most important and successful heads in the German advertising landscape (global ex-CMO Audi, ex-MD of Springer & Jacobi, founder of kempertrautmann and founder of thjnk). Michael also co-founded upsolut Sports which initiated and runs HYROX. Together with Christoph Magnussen, he runs one of Germany’s leading podcasts #OnTheWayToNewWork. They kindly invited me towards the end of last year (link below). The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: Quality over quantity of time. Michael and his father once where gifted a unique 8 hours together that changed his life and that of his children forever. What if we can look out for those opportunities with our kids? Allow myself to reflect back and improve. This implies that I have to accept where I made mistakes. Lead with vulnerability. Time together is bonding. Values form the foundation. As always I am hoping that these sessions do help you in your journey as a parent. If they do, please do share this with others and leave a review. Highly appreciated. Enjoy! #fatherhood #advertising #onthewaytonewwork #otwtnw #beingdad #dadicated #familyadvice #hoffmannprocess Links of this episode: My episode with Michael and Christoph on their podcast #OTWTNW: https://soundcloud.com/onthewaytonewwork/163-podcast-mit-philip-hartmann-agenturunternehmer-remote-worker The Hoffman Process: https://www.hoffmaninstitute.org/ HYROX: https://hyrox.com/en/ thjnk: https://www.thjnk.de/en/
May 03, 202056:45
24 David Bacon was born a great uncle (in case you are trying to figure that one out: his sister was already a grandmother when he was born)

24 David Bacon was born a great uncle (in case you are trying to figure that one out: his sister was already a grandmother when he was born)

As we do this session I am in lockdown with four three year olds and two four and a half year olds, so times are interesting.

Dave Bacon is an amazing man and Dad. Dave’s thoughts about Being a Dad are remarkable and his own story is remarkable as well - for instance each his dad, himself and his son were all born in a different century.

Dave and his wife Heather have 3 children who are 11 and 7 - he also has twins. Dave is the Founder & CEO of Better With Bacon, recognised as ‘Best Places to Work’, ‘Top 50 Colorado Companies to Watch’ and he has been on the Inc. 5000 fastest growing companies three times. He is an avid skier and very active and holds numerous board positions in altruistic and charity causes.

Dave’s father, Ernst Bacon, was a famous composer who had 6 children, 11 grandchildren, 1 great grandchild. Dave was born in 1973. At that time his dad was 45 years his mom’s senior. He was born a great uncle because his sister was already a grandma and of course his niece was older than him.

The session is really fun and beautiful. Dave opens up on his own upbringing and all the different perspectives and viewpoints he grew up with in such a unique family setting - think about a 85 trying to parent a ten year old. The overarching theme of his upbringing was always the arts and the beauty of all things.

We cover the amazing gift Covid has given us - which is having more time together as families and we talk about how we each handle COVID as families.

Dave shares some amazing tips on how he manages to improve his relationship with his children and I have to say he seems like an extraordinary human. For instance the one time his 8 year old had the idea of climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro for a fundraiser for a local school, two years later they did just that - and raised USD 103.000. A simple idea became something amazing.

Dave also shares how his kids and the family deal with death, how he tried to solidify his kids' impact on himself and how the arts and music impacts their lives on a daily basis.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

  1. Mandate your children to participate in the arts.
  2. Keep a field note for each child, don’t date the entries, give it to them later in life. This way they will know the impact they had on you and the world around them in a powerful way.
  3. Show your vulnerability to your kids. Make sure they understand you, too make mistakes, all the time.
  4. 1.000.000 seconds are 11 days, 1.000.000.000 are 31 years. Our children are multiple time billionaires which is a lovely concept!
  5. Kids must know that their ideas matter and also that their ideas are actionable.
  6. Allowing my kids ideas into my life is a great excuse to celebrate our relationship.
  7. Get everybody to write down three things they are grateful for and read it out over dinner.
Apr 28, 202058:23
23 Dr. Malik Mohammed a journey from homeless child to “Scholar Warrior Dad” on a mission is to improving the human condition

23 Dr. Malik Mohammed a journey from homeless child to “Scholar Warrior Dad” on a mission is to improving the human condition

This next session truly left me in awe. It is powerful and inspirational.
Dr. Abdul-Malik Muhammad is a father, husband, educator, transformational leader, entrepreneur and author. He has been married to Christina for 25 years and became a dad at the young age of 20, a second time at 25. Interestingly his step-father and his wife’s father stay with them as well. Malik’s story really is powerful and amazing.
Born into a womb of trauma, Malik’s father died during his mother’s pregnancy. He was homeless from five well into his teenage years and spent quite some time in juvenile correction facilities. Malik describes this period as a time of transition, instability and dysfunction - yet he shares amazing insights from that time that helped him as a Dad later in life. Today he has a BA in International Affairs, an MA in Educational Leadership and a Doctor of Education in Educational Leadership.
Always working with the underserved in urban and rural areas, he has focused on the development of boys to men, establishing a tutelage for oppressed youth, and building progressive organizations. He is the founder and CEO of Akoben LLC and Transforming Lives Inc. so he is in the fields of education and mental health. Malik trains people on how to develop restorative relationships with adults and children to bring positive transformation.
The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

We have to be truth-tellers.

Build resilience and perseverance in our children to create an inner fortitude and strength.

Don't do things for them or to them, do things with them.

Be a man of honour and work hard.

It’s all about impact. Explain to your children how their behaviour or not meeting their responsibilities makes you feel.

Make sure you stand in your power of moral authority. Model a manifestation of your values to your children.

It is mission critical that we make sure the world sees our children through the same beautiful lens that we see them through. We have to fight hard for this!

Fathers of boys cannot solely raise their sons. As fathers we have a responsibility to reach many and give them the opportunity to show other boys what fatherhood looks like.

Allow myself to be changed by my children as I change them.


If you feel that podcasts help and inspire you to be a better parent I am asking you to share two podcasts you love with two dads or moms you love today.
Enjoy the session!
Links from this session:
Malik’s first book The Restorative Journey – Book One: The Theory and Application of Restorative Practices, inspires to think and act differently in leadership, relationships and service to others:
akobenllc.org/products/the-restorative-journey-book-one/
Apr 13, 202001:02:01
22 Marc Rousso on being a dad during personal bankruptcy

22 Marc Rousso on being a dad during personal bankruptcy

Marc Rousso has two children; his shares are uplifting and practical and they are very important as we are stuck in a downturn economy caused by the explosive global deceleration we are currently experiencing.
Marc built his business from nothing to a decent property company. As Marc and his wife had their first child, Lehman Brothers hit, he went bankrupt, lost his business and was left with $2.500.000 personal debt. Without a paycheck for five years Marc doubled down a new start, his family and being a Dad.
It’s amazing to hear how Marc managed to separate the huge anxiety he felt during this time and his role as being a Dad. The session is really powerful and Marc shares beautiful and important insights and tips.
Marc wants to create a life without regrets and be the best dad he can be - regardless of the situation. This was amplified by the sudden death of a dear friend who told him he wished he had spent more time with his kids.Having felt more of a nuisance to his father Marc is trying to be the dad he never had.
As a family man and entrepreneur Marc has driven a lot of intentional choices such as creating a family friendly business or ritualising routines that have worked for him and his children.
The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

When times are tough, there is always that one part of life I can control: being a good dad.

A successful life - and being a good dad for that matter - stems from the ability to wake up the next day and be a better version of yourself.

Life has a time expiration. Learn to live a life without regret.

Every night before bed they play GIN - a card game. For 15 minutes. An amazing way to connect on an ongoing basis.

Carve out a dedicated stretch of intentional time with the kids every day where you are present and engaged.


If you feel that podcasts help and inspire you to be a better parent I am asking you to share two podcasts you love with two dads or moms you love today.
Enjoy the session!
#bankrupcy #dads #entrepreneurship #fatherhood #lifeafterbankrupcy #familygoals
Apr 05, 202045:08
21 Dr. David Zelman: parenting & living in the present for the future

21 Dr. David Zelman: parenting & living in the present for the future

Dr. David Zelman is 72 years old, married for 40 years, three children and two grandchildren. David has been doing “Transcendental Meditation” for 50 years. Through his work in the last four decades David has achieved enlightenment. David is a behavioural psychologist and received his PhD back in 1976. He has done extensive work with families and children. David has coached thousands of people nationally and internationally, including billionaires, royalty, industry leaders, entrepreneurs, executives, professional athletes, and performers. David is the founder and CEO of Transitions Institute in Dallas, Texas. His process guides people on a powerful journey of self-discovery and freedom. David feels that individuals are most effective when their intentions and actions are aligned toward a future they deeply desire, and to which they make a deliberate commitment. David says clarity, purpose, and self-expression need to become the guiding principles for living happily and living successfully. In this session we talk about the Transitions model, powerful concepts of parenting and communicating with our children. David shares valuable insights from his forty years of working with people and particularly families and children. The session was truly powerful and there are so many valuable and amazing, positive learnings. The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where: To be a better Dad I have to be a better self. Live in the present but with a future mindset. Nothing I’ve ever accomplished in my life did I do on my own. Look for opportunities to celebrate your relationship with your kids. My actions and feelings are perfectly correlated to whatever my internal conversations are. Promote a growth mindset in your kids. Kids need to have a say. Teach them to be other-oriented. The capacity to communicate with others is fundamental to their success in life. So is mine. Be present to their being present. Be conscious of their awareness. Be conscious of who I am as a provider in my different roles. Listen, listen, listen to them and their world around them. Don’t hurt them, guilt them or make them afraid of me. Don’t make them choose sides. Please do get involved in our mission to facilitate family success. If you feel that podcasts help and inspire you to be a better parent I am asking you to share two podcasts you love with two dads or moms you love today. Enjoy the session! Links from this episode: Dr. David Zelman’s book: “If I can, you can. Transformation made easy”: https://books.google.co.za/books/about/If_I_Can_You_Can_Transformation_Made_Eas.html?id=zRaNCwAAQBAJ&redir_esc=y
Mar 20, 202001:00:11
20 Balancing life in business, family & personal growth (and dealing with an eight year old daughter) with Jeremy Ames

20 Balancing life in business, family & personal growth (and dealing with an eight year old daughter) with Jeremy Ames

Jeremy Ames is 42, married and has 2 kids. He lives in Idaho in the U.S. and is a serial entrepreneur. Jeremy’s current business, Guidant Financial, has helped over 18.000 entrepreneurs put more than 4 billion USD to work, mainly in small businesses or franchises. In 2007, Jeremy was honored as the National Young Entrepreneur of the Year by the Small Business Administration.
I like this session a lot because it’s mainly just an honest chat between two dads.
Jeremy says his main challenge as a dad is balancing his time to feed personal growth, his desire to build businesses and spend quality one-on-one time with his friends and family. I was intrigued to hear his strategies and experience shares coming from such a high-paced, driven individual. Jeremy is a brave man at heart and we had a powerful and valuable conversation about love, family, relationship and self. Jeremy opens up about his own family challenges and how he manages to keep his marriage healthy.
The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

Do not let your own ego and sense of validation get tied up in how others perceive your kids.

Do an annual trip with only one of the kids and yourself - kids decide where to go.

It’s difficult to engage with kids over activities outside of your own bias.

Keeping appointments is a superpower.


Lastly: please do get involved in our mission to facilitate family success: share two podcasts - any podcasts - that inspire you to be a better parent with two parents you love today.
Enjoy this session!
#dad #dads #entrepreneurship #entrepeurdad #fatherhood #parenting #relationship #supportsystem #father
Mar 10, 202054:09
19 Warren Farrell the father of the men's movement & author of “The Boy Crisis”

19 Warren Farrell the father of the men's movement & author of “The Boy Crisis”

Warren Thomas Farrell is 77. He is an American educator, activist and author of seven books on men's and women's issues. All of his books are related to men's and women's studies, including his March 2018 publication “The Boy Crisis”.
Farrell initially came to prominence in the 1970s as a supporter of second wave feminism; he served on the New York City Board of the National Organization for Women (NOW). Although today he is generally considered "the father of the men's movement" he advocates for neither a men’s nor a women’s movement but a gender liberation movement. Warren chairs the Coalition to Create a White House Council on Boys and Men amongst other things to influence change.
In the session Warren opens up about his own family set-up and his experiences and challenges as a step-dad of 2 girls. His one daughter was adopted by his wife before they got together and the other daughter is a biological child from his wife and her previous partner. Warren also shares amazing insights and learnings from a few decades of research.
We talk about adoption, mom-style parenting and dad-style parenting and the effects, father involvement - or the lack thereof - and the consequences. Fir instance: Warren told me the single biggest predictor of suicide for boys is a lack of father involvement.
Another topic he elaborates on is how much can be gained simply by making sure dad and mom are both aware and honour the contribution dads make by means their intuitive actions.
The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

Structured family dinner nights help everybody in the family feeling heard and fostering positive ties.

Roughhousing leads to children being more empathetic and understand the difference between assertiveness and aggression - so keep on going dads.

The single biggest predictor of success is postponed gratification

“Moms can’t hear what dads don’t say.”


Please do get involved in our mission to facilitate family success by sharing any two parenting two parenting podcasts that have inspired you with with two dads or moms you love.
Enjoy!
Links from this episode:

www.dadicated.com

Warren Farrell on Wikipedia: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Warren_Farrell

Coalition to Create a White House Council on Boys and Men: whitehouseboysmen.org/
Warren’s official website: warrenfarrell.com/

#warrenfarrell #boycrisis #feminism #dads #fatherlessness #absentfathers #sons #daughters #whitehouseonfamilies #adoption #moms #couplescommunication
Mar 10, 202051:54
18 Alan Haefele on being a dad of a child with autism

18 Alan Haefele on being a dad of a child with autism

Alan Haefele is an entrepreneur from South Africa. He has been married to Christy for 14 years and together they have four children. Three boys and one baby girl. Alans oldest son has autism.
Alan’s shares, explanations and insights were truly valuable and personally I learnt a lot from his experience shares. Alan takes us through his own journey as a dad, his initial denial phase, his learnings, his son’s symptoms and the stigma attached to autism. I love Alan’s practical advice on the topic and it is obvious that he has gone through some healthy introspection and applies himself with this.
Alan shares how the autism affects his relationship and the rest of the family and how they deal with it as a family. In short Alan opens up and allows us a beautiful insight into a family affected by autism in a very positive and approachable manner.
The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

Seeking perfection as a dad is not sustainable. Humour helps - mostly.
The spectrum is wide and fluid and I realise now that more people are actually on the spectrum than I ever thought.
Take it one symptom at a time.
It’s important to make boundaries clear for outsiders when it comes to your own family matters.
Ritualising solutions that have proven successful is a very powerful strategy.


If you haven’t yet, please support the project and hit subscribe. Also, please share this episode with others who need to hear this.
Thank you! Enjoy! Correction: Following the podcast, Alan messaged me just to wrap up his incomplete comments on SMA that he couldn’t recall in the recording (around 46 minutes in). He wrote: “..SMA is the childhood onset of ALS, both debilitating motor neuron diseases. Apologies for blanking Philip, I was also confusing Christopher Reeves with another actor, Christopher doesn’t suffer from ALS although his ALS-like paralysis symptoms threw me in the moment. Stephen Hawking, of course, is a memorable case of the debilitating effects of ALS. Apologies for my confusion!”
Mar 10, 202001:03:13
17 Richard Walton "Being Dad" in the jungle

17 Richard Walton "Being Dad" in the jungle

Not only is Richard a successful serial entrepreneur and dad of 4 kids - three girls and one boy. I could tell immediately that Richard has done some deep introspection about being a father, family and values in his life.

Richard is a man who follows his heart and therefore seems to make really good decisions in his life when it counts. At one stage in his life Richard decided to move to the jungle in Costa Rica - at a time when his first baby was 7 months and his wife pregnant with their second child - they were going to stay six months and ended up living there for 8 years.

The result of this was that Richard was able to literally spend and live the first 8 years of his childrens lives together with them.

In this episode, Richard and myself speak about some of the challenges we face as an entrepreneurs and dads. We chat about education, travelling and how - within a mere 4 years - Richard built a company with over 120 employees growing at insane rates all because he watched his son playing soccer on his own through the kitchen window. And of course the ups and downs of that journey.

Enjoy!

Mar 03, 202001:02:32
13 “The Iron Cowboy” James Lawrence on parenting, Birth & natural consequences

13 “The Iron Cowboy” James Lawrence on parenting, Birth & natural consequences

My next dad, James Lawrence aka “The Iron Cowboy”, is truly inspirational. James holds numerous world records and has achieved some pretty mind blowing results with his body and his mind. He is best known for doing 50 consecutive full Iron Mans in 50 American States. 50!
What many people do not know is that James has always made a point of including his family in his adventures and world records. For instance, during the ‘50’, his daily appointment to run 5 ks with his daughter kept him going.
James has five kids, four daughters and a son. Him and his wife are very young parents and he has a very healthy and inspiring take on being a dad and parenting. I love his ways of dealing with the fact that he is outnumbered by his kids in the positive manner he does.
James opens up on his views as a Dad, he shares valuable, and very practical experiences and tips on how we can prepare our kids for adulthood. We talk about natural consequences that can aid parenting, chores, grit, failure and allowing yourself to laugh often.
We then move on to talk about how we experienced the births of our children as dads (we have 10 between the two of us) and how dealing with energy in the right way can lead to emotional connection and emotional healing.
The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

Communicate at an early age and make that the expectation.

Emotions and how we vibrate in families and beyond is very real and often attached to a physical element.

Natural consequence often brings great teaching moments. Don’t forget to enforce the natural consequence.

Allow kids to be.

Put a moral compass over sound principles to allow your kids authentically who they are as unique individuals.

I have scheduled one-on-one birthday dates until the end of time with my kids.


As always, if you like this session please do subscribe to the podcast and leave me a review. Please share this episode with others who need to hear this.
Please enjoy another session of
DADicated.com with James the “Iron Cowboy”.
Links from this episode:

James’s website: www.ironcowboy.com/

James on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/jamesandrewlawrence

James on facebook: www.facebook.com/IronCowboy/


#SouthAfrica #Canada #dad #dads #fatherhood #Birth #homebirth #naturalbirth #childbirth #triathlon #dadgoals #mom #moms #ironcowboy
Feb 20, 202045:13
16 'Who' over 'what' with Brandon Dempsey

16 'Who' over 'what' with Brandon Dempsey

Brandon Dempsey is a super-passionate Dad of two kids. He had 13 siblings growing up. He’s a serial entrepreneur currently running two companies. Brandon is also an Iron Man, author, speaker, professor, a non-profit leader, an adventurer and he runs a couple of nonprofits.
All of this is only possible because Brandon his truly highly focussed and has clarity of vision on who he wants to be. He is a gifted strategist who is able to execute.
In this session Brandon shares his own learnings and his key-strategies on teaching his kids intentionality and being present. We talk about his value-set as a dad and how he himself applies intentionality and accountability to family life. One very powerful concept Brandon shares is the “who” over “what”.
The most powerful takeaways for me as a Dad where:

I want to be 100% present at home, phone off, watch off.

My interaction with strangers has a huge impact on how my children interact with others, too.

Take intention on how I can become the person I want to become and put guardrails in place where necessary.

The concept of “building a better who” is more powerful than focusing on “what I want to do”.


Please check out my wife’s podcast “On the run moms” (https://open.spotify.com/show/2XeAyRUVo3rWsiZd7MElcs) where she speaks about her life and learnings as a mom of twins and triplets. The link is in the show notes.
If you haven’t yet, please get involved and support the project by subscribing.
Enjoy!
Links from this episode:

My wife’s podcast “On the run Moms”:
open.spotify.com/show/2XeAyRUVo3rWsiZd7MElcs

Brandon’s latest TedX talk: “A Cheat Sheet To Turning Dreams Into Reality”: www.ted.com/talks/brandon_dempsey_a_cheat_sheet_to_turning_dreams_into_reality

Brandon’s book: “Shut up and Go”: www.amazon.com/Brandon-Dempsey/e/B01D8WH88I%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share


Brandon’s marketing agency: gobrandgo.com/
Jan 26, 202053:33