At age 65, I have varied and rich experience of leadership & management. 26 years in the army and about 18 in the corporate world. I have authored book - leadership for Colonels & Business Managers - which covers 6 themes of daily leadership. More details onwww.innovatorsandleaders.com/leadership/. Episodes of this podcast will summarize the different chapters of the book.
Leadership requires making the decision whether the leader is trying to be loved or respected. There is no absolute dictum on this. However, once you are able to clarify the situation your group is in presently, particularly in terms of Productivity, Satisfaction and Development, you can get a good answer to this question
Much more in my book - Leadership for Colonels & Business Managers - on Amazon