Damn! This is Hard.
By Rudy & Nicole
It’s hard balancing adulting, parenting, and a social life all while trying to remain zen. Join Rudy &; Nicole two friends navigating through. We’re 80’s babies raised in the 90’s, so you can only imagine what’s in store. It’s basically a like your favorite old school sitcom depicting friends going through life. We'll discuss parenthood, dealing with family, significant others, state of the country, politics, doing it for the culture, all while giving you somes major laughs.
BIZZZACK-Soft girl Era
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Hey y’all it’s me; Rudy. So please be kind to me. This is a solo episode, but I figured because it was me, who was dragging production, let me start us back off. This is our first episode since October 2022. I really hope you enjoy it. I poured out a lot of emotion and love. I hope you can embrace your soft girl era. Will you remind that you are that bitch and will see you in 2024
Dec 14, 202347:34
It’s Been Four Weeks! What the Fu******k!
Let’s get back to it!
Welcome back everyone to Damn This is Hard Podcast.
Thank you so much for your patience with our delay in posting our episodes. It’s been a hectic couple of weeks. But we as moms are trying to figure this thing called life and responsibility out. Today, we will be discussing our children returning back school and how everyone is adjusting to there new schedules and things!
Oct 11, 202255:52
Side Hustle Pro; we Multi-hyphenate Yo!
Good Morning y’all you see us dropping back to back episodes. So remember we were telling y’all about how life has been life-ing. We’re out here being multi-hyphenated, melanated pros. We dove deep in self care, solo trips, just talking about living life.
Sep 22, 202245:16
Vacation Where?
Y’all we really discuss everything regarding our recent vacation to Ocean City Maryland. Dating and life with children. We pose a question in this episode you for or opposed to dating someone with children?
Aug 03, 202255:32
Is Roe about to Go?
As Many of you should be aware of now the Supreme Court is lobbying to overturn the historical ruling of Roe v. Wade. Nicole and I discussed what this means as to black woman in the USA. Rudy is a Philly area Doula and definitely get a bit passionate on this episode. But we want to know your opinion on this topic? Let's discuss.
May 17, 202242:12
Justice Scales, or Twitter Fails
* Please excuse the audio, not exactly sure what happened*. On this episode we really get into racial constructs in America. We discussed the uptick of shootings, Black Chyna in court, And the upcoming voting season
May 02, 202201:01:27
Autism Awareness and so much More
Y’all this is why Rudy should not watch TEDTalks. No, but we really dive deep into so many topics. Please be sure to tune in.
Apr 26, 202241:26
O. S. C. A. R. S - Opinions, Start , Conversations, And, Releases, Strife
Nicole and I dive deep on this episode. There were so many wins that occurred for the African American community, it is sad that some events overshadowed that. We discussed the slap heard around the globe, and our conversation got a bit heated. But looking at the acronym that we came up with for Oscars, opinions start conversation and release strife or discord.
Apr 06, 202201:05:02
Estates, Probates, checkmate
Y’all in these ever changing times it’s imperative that we have all of our affairs in order. Grief is such a complex time why not make it less of a hassle on your loved ones by planning your wishes out. And I know you might question do I need a will? If you’re over the age of 18 then a whale is a must, regardless of financial aspects.
Mar 29, 202201:00:22
Profess, Provide, Protect….. Is that enough?
On this episode we really dive deep into topics that really affects the culture today. On a recent podcast celebrity Steve Harvey and Tank were discussing gender roles within marriages and parenting Nicole and I dive deep into our thoughts and perspectives on this topic
Mar 17, 202201:11:05
Babies, Bronny, Black history
Y’all this is our black history conclusion, and we hit all the hot topics. Whew Chile’ it’s gets crazy this week
Mar 01, 202253:59
Black Love! It’s a Beautiful thing
Black History Month each February, celebrating the achievements and contributions of Black people throughout American history. And you’re likely equally familiar with Valentine’s Day, universally acknowledged as the day of love.
But have you heard of Black Love Day? Based on five tenets — love toward the Creator, love for self, love for the family, love within the Black community and love for Black people
But have you heard of Black Love Day? Based on five tenets — love toward the Creator, love for self, love for the family, love within the Black community and love for Black people
Feb 14, 202201:07:36
Black AF ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾
OK y’all we’re back and better. And it is Black History Month!!!! We’re talking all things black in this episode, from our favorite brands, to this bath and this whole Bath & Bodywork’s topic.
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But did you know the origins of black history month? In a 1927 Negro History Week circular, Woodson underscored: “We should emphasize not 'Negro History,' but the Negro in history. What we need is not a history of selected races or nations, but the history of the world void of national bias, race hate, and religious prejudice. There should be no indulgence in undue eulogy of the Negro. The case of the Negro is well taken care of when it is shown how he has influenced the development of civilization.”
Feb 04, 202235:30
Taking The Reigns.... Confidently
The pandemic has caused millions of men and women to lose their jobs, but a large subset of the population not returning to the American workforce are women. Y'all we discuss salaries, accommodations, flexibility. The main denominators when considering an offer.
Jan 14, 202245:57
2022 we in here boo
Y’all we back, refreshed. And happy to start this new year and new season off with a bang.
Jan 10, 202251:23
Five Love Languages; how can you love someone else right if you aren't loving yourself?
When most people hear the phrase 'love languages', their first thought goes straight to how the languages fit into our romantic relationships. BUT, your love language is also important in understanding how you can love yourself. We get so caught up in considering someone else's love language in order to be a better partner to them, that we don't always use our own love language to practice self-love for ourselves.
Dec 05, 202154:08
Pumpkin Spice
We wanted to drop this bonus episode talking about all things fall related. If you’re like us and live in an area with clear and distinct seasonal changes FALL is always a welcomed change
Nov 16, 202130:36
Scared Money Don’t Make no Money
We dive deep into looking at how to truly secure the bag, and one great way is to ensure we have passive income coming in. I mean it’s the dream, right? There are many ways to make that happen, like through contributing to a 401K or a Roth IRA. You can invest in the stock market too. Any good financial planner will tell you to diversify, and one great way to do that is to buy real estate if you can.
Oct 16, 202101:14:55
Michael K Williams
“We’ve been taught success means leaving the communities that made us, but this is the only place in the world where I feel free.” -Michael K Williams • We dive deep in this episode, do people ask for help? What are your thoughts on this untimely loss?
Sep 21, 202134:47
CATCHING UP
Y’all, I don’t know how many of you guys can relate, but with back to school, summer ending, and holidays right on the horizon, it’s hard to catch up with friends, but Nicole and I finally were able to catch up and discuss what’s been going on.
Sep 13, 202130:47
New Beginnings
We dive into new goals, changes, and all the things. How are y’all navigating the gray area?
Aug 30, 202147:32
Bored in the House, and Im in the house bored. Naw not us!!
A wise person once said, "Make a habit of trying new things." There are several reasons why this can prove to be so beneficial. Trying new things can increase your confidence levels. Trying new things can make you less fearful. Trying new things can expand your perspective when it comes to how you see the world. Trying new things can encourage you to try other new things. And yes, trying new things can definitely be a great cure for boredom.
Jul 12, 202152:03
Its Time For The Percolator
We encourage all of y’all to have a simple barbecue this summer. It will change ya life peridot. Rudy had a simple birthday cookout for her mother this past weekend and it was simply amazing
Jul 01, 202156:14
When I Grow Up....
Who else can relate to this sentiment; I always felt like I was reaching for validation. I always felt like I had to prove something to somebody.” Y’all in this episode were talking about career aspirations, societal pressures, and trying to figure it out. Is 30 too late to start over? We drop the tea in this episode
Jun 11, 202158:04
CELEBRATE HOOD TIMES
This episode with celebrating one of our host birthdays, as well as discussing anniversaries, and how celebrations change as our family structure is changed.
Jun 10, 202157:18
Rona’, Food, Family
Y’all this episode was recorded the beginning of April; it was lost in the sauce. Please be mindful that Covid-19 is still serious. Unfortunately COVID-19 has affected my household again in a tragic way
Apr 29, 202101:44:43
MOMMA a Title We Don’t Take Lightly
Y’all we deep dive into Motherhood & Mother’s Day. What gifts do we really want? Are we even celebrating this year? How has Motherhood changed us?
Apr 26, 202101:01:14
Don’t do it girl
Y’all, this episode is lit’; after the viral TickTock sound has been recreated so many times, it got us thinking what some things we have regretted doing are. We are spilling the tea, from bank loans, giving up the yams, and so much more.
Apr 12, 202101:00:09
Recap; Just like that we’re back
Damn! This is hard; sheesh this week or shall we say past few weeks embody our podcast name. During this weeks long episode we touch on grief, women’s history month, getting back into the workforce, traveling in 2021, and so much more.
Mar 12, 202101:35:04
Heaux Tales, Jezebels, we discuss the Details
It's about unity. It's about boldness. It's about ownership and confidence and also about vulnerability and self reflection. It's about a woman deciding how she wants to present herself to the world and not being told or influenced by anyone but her gotdamn self.
Feb 07, 202101:00:53
Heaux Tales, Jezebels, we discuss the details
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It's about unity. It's about boldness. It's about ownership and confidence and also about vulnerability and self reflection. It's about a woman deciding how she wants to present herself to the world and not being told or influenced by anyone but her gotdamn self.
Feb 06, 202101:04:20
Humble Abode, Let’s crack the Code
Ok y’all we had the honor of chatting with Jazmyn Owner of Abode Above Interiors. Even though the country is opening back up, a lot of us are still choosing to mostly stay at home. Just because you can technically dine in at many restaurants now and return to having a drink at your favorite bars, doesn’t mean that safety precautions should just go out the window. The way some of us are staying safe may just be to still stay home. Why not elevate your estate.
Jan 23, 202101:02:55
2021 Be Good to Us
Between Covid, motherhood and just the average day to day we’re excited to have made it to 2021. Y’all we’re in season 2, consistent as ever, and excited to continue on this journey with you.
Jan 19, 202101:01:34
Modern Belle? Do tell!
OK y’all on this episode we have the Modern Belle herself Diedre. she is the founder of the blog The Modern Black Belle! The blog was created to indulge in all of the wonderful + unique qualities each of us possess while still celebrating what makes us women. motherhood, being a wife, parenting, can look very different in these modern times of millennial woman. Diedre is a visionary because she is showcasing the three of us (myself, Deshawnna, and herself) together to show the good, bad, and beautiful. Please bear with me when talking to your best friend it does turn more into a gab session then an interview
Dec 05, 202001:16:21
Holidaze 2020
With the way this year is going we’re all probably in a daze, but how are y’all feeling about the upcoming holiday season? Are you celebrating? Do you know any black owned businesses? Let us know y’all!
Nov 21, 202032:60
I’m a BAWSE
We had the luxury of interviewing a couple of bosses; black entrepreneurship is on the rise and now more then ever people are venturing into business. If you count yourself among them, you know what we mean. You grab opportunity by the horns and don’t let go. You lose yourself in the hustle and flow.
Nov 09, 202001:00:29
Far Away Bae; feat Shae and Evin
All relationships take work, but long distance relationships take a bit more effort in the way of communication, compromise, and understanding. Statistics show that an estimated 2.9% of US marriages were considered long distance, with 1 in 10 marriages reported to have included a period of long distance within the first 3 years. If you are currently in a long-distance relationship first, bravo, and second, listen to these suggestions to help keep the spark alive, over hundreds of miles!
Oct 25, 202058:58
Self Care: not a luxury; it’s essential
Mental health issues affect everyone, but people of color — Black, Latinx, Asian and Native American people — have higher rates of some mental health disorders and face greater disparities in getting help. We discuss why now more then ever you put yourself first
Oct 10, 202058:17
Politician’ and Stuff
Ok y’all so we had to discuss our thoughts after the current presidential debate.
Oct 06, 202057:28
It’s the Disrespect for Us! Cheating!!!!
We discuss why is cheating the norm? It seems that cheating is all to common, so we put our two cents in on this topic.
Sep 29, 202059:13
Home Repair..... Despair?
Key reason why adulting is crazy, we discuss home repairs, renovations, and oh so much more.
Sep 22, 202031:15
Let’s Talk Black Love
Chile this is the episode you don’t want to miss, we discuss standards, expectations, being equally yoked, dating as a single mom, LEGACY, and so much more. What do you think the epitome of black love is?
Sep 12, 202050:48
Furloughed & Fun
Welp Furloughed has hit home we discuss and recap what’s been going on
Sep 11, 202001:06:02
Insence & Two Cents
Y’all we deep dove into so many topics from vacation plans, Father’s Day, forgiveness, and a whole lotta whole lotta
Jul 02, 202001:02:29
In the house bored
Y’all so sorry for the delay, @Rudy was planning the services for her uncles memorial. He unfortunately passed away from Covid
Jun 24, 202058:16
In the house part: Duex
Well y’all we’re still in the house, of course where else would we be. But seriously we dive deeper into how we’re adjusting to quarantine and all of that. Mental Health, Self care, and homeschooling.
Apr 30, 202058:08
Quarantine Chat
We’re all staying at home, but we dive deep into our feelings and concerns. Childcare, travel, will life ever be normal again???
Apr 18, 202056:32
Chat & Chew; The Catch up
Catch up session, our schedules have been all over the pace so it was nice to catch up
Mar 08, 202056:19
Please Don't TOUCH our HAIR
We remember when India Arie’s song, “I Am Not My Hair,” first came out. I am not my hair, I am not this skin
I am not your ex-pec-tations no no
I am not my hair, I am not this skin
I am the soul that lives within. You may not even realize it but there is a constant battle of us always trying to make our hair do what it wasn't meant to do.” We give it a job, help me fit in at work, find a man, be accepted by society. We discuss it all.
I am not your ex-pec-tations no no
I am not my hair, I am not this skin
I am the soul that lives within. You may not even realize it but there is a constant battle of us always trying to make our hair do what it wasn't meant to do.” We give it a job, help me fit in at work, find a man, be accepted by society. We discuss it all.
Mar 01, 202055:44
Love: Our “Valentimes” episode
LOVE IS DOPE because when you connect to someone's soul, you learn to understand the world they are living in. It's not the same as yours, but that's ok, because you can respect a different perspective.
LOVE IS DOPE because it doesn't cost a cent. You don't have to make change for love. When you surround yourself with a community that sees your worth, your potential is priceless.
LOVE IS DOPE because growth comes from sprinkling seeds of positivity, watering fields of friendships, and feeding hearts with joy. Be the one to spread love, motivate those around you and enhance someone else's life.
LOVE IS DOPE because it doesn't cost a cent. You don't have to make change for love. When you surround yourself with a community that sees your worth, your potential is priceless.
LOVE IS DOPE because growth comes from sprinkling seeds of positivity, watering fields of friendships, and feeding hearts with joy. Be the one to spread love, motivate those around you and enhance someone else's life.
Feb 14, 202043:16