Date Night China
By Nathan and Rachel
Exploring life and love for better relationships in China. Every week we bring on diverse guests for hilarious, insightful, and in-depth conversations about dating, mental health, intercultural relationships, the LGBTQ+ community, and more. This podcast is not just about dating – it’s also about having healthy relationships with yourself, your partner if you have one, as well as the other people in your social circles that make life meaningful in China.
#7: Nico & Jack: Creative Couple Working Together in China
What’s it like working with your significant other? Nico and Jack, a content creator husband and wife duo from the U.K, join us to talk about their YouTube travel channel (Nico Films) and how building a brand together in China has strengthened their relationship. They also share about getting married in China, how they balance professional and personal time, and behind-the-scenes of filming their videos. Nathan and Rachel also share some of their experiences working together on Date Night China as a couple, and at the end the couples all play a couple’s edition of Who Is Most Likely! About our guests: Jack and Nico are a content creator husband and wife duo from the U.K. They have been living in China for 5 years making videos for their NicoFilms YouTube Channel about life and travel in China. They like to travel off the beaten path and create visually compelling stories about the places they have visited. They have been featured on CGTN, ITV and worked with many brands in and outside of China. 4:05 Getting married in China 8:30 Why they started NicoFilms 12:57 Their shared passion but different creative roles 20:10 Challenges of working together 25:00 Setting boundaries 35:59 Top tip for couples: travel together 39:00 What happens BTS with filming? 49:25 Why it’s just Nico - not Nico and Jack 52:00 Who is more likely
May 19, 2022
#6: Catfishing & Tinder Scams: Dating Online in China
This week 10 China daters join the DNC hosts to dive into the murky waters of catfishing, the art of misleading or lying about who you are online to pursue deceptive online relationships. We hear some crazy China catfishing stories, from encountering heavily filtered photos and online bots, to a Tinder tale of horror, a surprising “group catfish” experience, and more. We also discuss the more modern, yet equally baffling, “voice fishing”, a new phenomenon where people alter their accent, dialect or tone in an attempt to sound more sexy or desirable. Show Notes: 1:36 Catfishing Experiences in China 4:33 Filtered and edited photos online -Aleese 6:11 High pitched baby voices - Kelly 8:02 Codeswitching -Lebo 9:03 Fake bots online -Ian 10:25 Why people use animals or celebrities for their photo -Molly 11:40 Impressions of coming to China 17:14 Codeswitching vs Voice fishing 20:34 Nathan scamming other scammers 22:45 Six Catfishing Stories in China 48:51 Bonus: Which Chipmunk would you F*** Marry Kill? Write in to us if you have a catfishing story! And if you enjoyed the episode, please like, share, and leave us a review. We'll be interviewing a variety of people in China with diverse stories, so let us know what else you'd like to hear. Join our DNC community! Find Date Night China on WeChat by searching: datenightchina. You can also join our WeChat group by adding Rachel on WeChat: rachelweiss22
May 12, 2022
#5: Meet a “Yangxifu”: The Foreign Wife of a Chinese Man
This week we talk to Jocelyn Eikenburg, an American woman and writer who is married to Jun, a Chinese national from Hangzhou. We discuss her experience as a “yangxifu 洋媳妇” (the foreign wife of a Chinese man), stereotypes of being in a WWAM (Western Women Asian Men) relationship, and how she found community with other foreign women who are married to Chinese men. Show Notes: 2:30 How Jocelyn and her Chinese husband met 7:16 What it’s like being a “yangxifu 洋媳妇” (aforeign daughter-in-law) 9:33 Connecting with other WWAM (Western Women Asian Men) 12:07 Meeting her Chinese-in-laws for the first time 19:25 Bonding with her mother-in-law through cooking 21:19 Challenges of intercultural love 28:35: FAQ she gets about dating a Chinese man 30:00 Difference between culture and personality 34:25 Stereotypes about dating Asian Men 40:15 Cultural differences dating Jun About Jocelyn: Jocelyn Eikenburg is a writer and blogger. Her marriage to Jun, a Chinese national from Hangzhou, ultimately inspired her to blog on her site “Speaking of China”. She has been interviewed by the BBC about her blog and cross-cultural marriage and appeared on CCTV. You can find her writing in The Wall Street Journal, The Huffington Post, the anthologies "How Does One Dress to Buy Dragonfruit?" and "Unsavory Elements", and other publications. Jocelyn has blogged about topics such as being a yangxifu (the foreign wife of a Chinese man) in China, interracial/cross-cultural relationships (including related stereotypes and racism), and books and authors that appeal to her readership. Join our DNC community! Find Date Night China on WeChat by searching: datenightchina. You can also join our WeChat group by adding Rachel on Wechat: rachelweiss22
May 06, 2022
#4: Black Expats and Building Communities in Beijing
This week we have a round table chat with 3 black expats / entrepreneurs about their media platforms and businesses in Beijing. They share how building a community is integral to their lives here, how COVID has made them more intentional with relationships, and they share about their love lives. Our guests discuss dating and one person reveals how they survived a kidnapping attempt in China - can you guess who it is? Listen to find out! Our guests: Kindall Tyson is a licensed therapist from Texas, owner of Aspire Counseling and Wellness Center, and host of the Black & Abroad web series. Dr. Shannon Evans (Dr. Baby) is from the Commonwealth of the Bahamas, has a PhD in Counselor Education Supervision and hosts the Brown Girl in Beijing Podcast. Shagi Defoe is from the Commonwealth of Dominica, has been a Beijing expat for 16 years, and works in F&B and Marketing in Beijing (LARRY THE BIRD, etc.) Show Notes 5:15 Meet Kindall, Shagi, and Shannon 8:47 How do you find like-minded communities in China? 18:33 Has COVID changed your communities in China? 23:34 What it’s like being Black in China 25:50 Understanding the China environment 27:41 Interesting China encounters 30:42 Being more intentional with relationships 37:13 Finding what drives you 41:37 Dating as a Black expat in China
April 28, 2022
#3: Would You Discuss Mental Health On A First Date?
Is talking about mental health on a first date a red flag or green flag? This week we’ve asked several China daters to tell us how they would feel if their date mentioned they were seeing a therapist on a first date. And on top up that, we’ve brought in a licensed therapist to respond! Xiaojie is a therapist who founded CandleX, an organization dedicated to bringing knowledge, awareness, and support on mental health to the international community in China. We'll discuss how to bring up mental health you’re dating and also ask Xiaojie what it's like dating as a therapist. 1:58 Meet Xiaojie, licensed therapist and founder of CandleX in Beijing 2:38 How would you feel if someone brought up mental health on a first date? 3:18 Three positive responses to sharing about mental health 9:55 One response on why it’s not good to share on a first date 11:44 Going step by step with a relationship, vulnerability vs oversharing 15:27 What’s the intention behind sharing information? 18:14 Therapy used as a buzzword or status 23:48 Knowing when and how to share about mental health 27:56 What’s it like dating as a therapist? Join our DNC community! Find Date Night China on WeChat by searching: datenightchina. You can also join our WeChat group by adding Rachel on Wechat: rachelweiss22
April 22, 2022
#2: Chinese Women & The Stigma of Being Single
Traditionally in China if you were female and unmarried by the age of 27, the term "leftover women" (shèngnǚ 剩女) was used to describe your social status. But nowadays, many Chinese women have more economic independence without the same pressure as before. In this episode we talk to 3 Chinese women about the pressures single women face and how the term "leftover women" has changed. We also discuss beauty standards, how Chinese women are portrayed in media, and how to fight the stigma of being single. 3:45 Cultural Differences Dating in China 6:00 The term “Little sister” (mèimei 妹妹) 10:25 The slang word Aquaman (hǎiwáng 海王) 12:20 Pressures Chinese Women Face 20:55 Leftover Women (shèngnǚ 剩女) 24:50 Beauty Standards & Báifùměi (白富美 ) 31:30 Economic Status of Women 38:20 Model Backlash with Cài Niángniáng (菜孃孃) 43:02 Stereotypes of Chinese Women 48:25 How Women Fight The Single Stigma Join our DNC community! Find Date Night China on WeChat by searching: datenightchina. You can also join our WeChat group by adding Rachel on Wechat: rachelweiss22
April 15, 2022
#1: Expats Dating in China in 2022
How do expats feel about dating in China in 2022? Since COVID began, the dating landscape in China has changed, with many expats stuck outside China or deciding to leave for good. The expats who stayed through COVID might be approaching dating and relationships differently. In this episode we’ve asked 7 expats in Beijing how they feel dating has changed in China, if people are being more intentional with dating, and what they predict for their dating lives this year. 1:00 Welcome back to Date Night China! 5:45 How has the dating landscape changed in China since COVID? 6:10 Expat Circles in Beijing 16:00 Are people more intentional with dating in China now? 16:20 “Fight or flight or fuck” – Lebo 17:20 Be upfront about who you are - Kelly 22:55 Expat lifestyle being transient China – Aleese 25:02 COVID makes us realize our volatility of life in China - Mark 28:28 Relationship changes during COVID 32:00 What people predict for their dating lives this year in China 32:05 Being okay with silence – Cale 32:45 Focus on the now but have conversations about the future – Kelly 34:20 Building connections here in China - Mike 35:18 Figure out your hobbies and like – Valentine 36:49 “Don’t date in China” – Aleese 37:39 Aiming for stillness -Mark Join our DNC community! Find Date Night China on WeChat by searching: datenightchina. You can also join our WeChat group by adding Rachel on Wechat: rachelweiss22
April 08, 2022
Date Night China Season 3 PROMO
Date Night China is back with Season 3! China is such an international melting pot, and at Date Night China we’re all about exploring how expats and Chinese people alike connect here. This podcast is not just about dating – it’s also about having healthy relationships with yourself, your partner if you have one, as well as the other people in your social circles that make life meaningful in China. Find Date Night China on WeChat by searching: datenightchina. You can also join our WeChat group by adding Rachel on Wechat: rachelweiss22
April 01, 2022
Episode 12: The Best of Season 2!
It’s been an incredible season and it was difficult to decide what to discuss for the last episode. We wanted to remember the good times and share some golden moments from season 2. We’ve covered so much this season so if you’ve missed out on a few episodes don’t worry, this will catch you up and you can always go back and listen to the full episode. Also, hear some bonus material from the hosts, reflecting on the guests and the topics covered this season! Episodes covered in this special episode are No.2, No.4, No.5, No.7, No.8 & No.10. To listen to these individual episodes in full, scroll down to listen to the full story! Thanks for supporting DNC and you'll hear from us in Season 3, in the meantime, check out our platforms and events to keep in touch with the dating and relationship community in China!
February 08, 2021
Episode 11: Crazy Sex Scandals in China
Date Night China invites China Untold podcast host Matt Bossons to reveal China's craziest sex scandals! From public masturbation and changing room f***ing to beastiality and online voyeurism - they discuss it all! The hosts also reveal who's a member of the mile high club and how much money they'd charge to pimp themselves out for Chinese Spring Festival.
February 01, 2021
Episode 10: Dating to Marriage in 11 Years
On this episode we speak to Shagi and Ully Defoe who have been together for a whopping 11 years. And the cherry on top is they met right here in Beijing! During the episode we hear their secrets on keeping the spark alive, lessons from their dating journey, maintaining a long-term relationship, how to get past cheating, and advice for China daters looking for lasting love! Follow Date Night China on our Official Wechat Account for the latest articles and upcoming events! Search "datenightchina" on Wechat.
January 25, 2021
Episode 9: Ethical Non-Monogamy
Are nonmonogamous relationships just an excuse to sleep around? Or are there misconceptions surrounding these types of relationships? Our guest this week is Osaka, who has lived abroad for 10+ years and has had several types of nonmonogomous relationships in China. Osaka shares about ethical nonmonogamy, boundaries with a primary partner, and why it's important to be introspective and honest about what you're looking for when dating. El also tells us which Pokemon she'd like to f#@! Add Rachel on Wechat to join the DNC Wechat group or share a story: rachelweiss22
January 18, 2021
Episode 8: Beauty Standards & Dating as a Female Expat
Do beauty standards affect how people date in China? Eleanor, Rachel, and Boitha discuss prevalent beauty standards in China and the pressures expat women face because of them. We also read out responses from other China female daters and dig into the question: is it more difficult for expat women to date in China than expat men?
January 11, 2021
Episode 7: New Year's Kiss
Bringing in the New Year hosts Nathan, Rachel and Eleanor hear some funny, tragic and embarrassing stories from the DNC fans. Nathan shares about the only time he's worn eyeliner, Eleanor tells us how many clothes she left at a bar on NYE in Nanjing, and Rachel tries out her British accent. Follow Date Night China on our Official Wechat Account for the latest articles and upcoming events! Search "datenightchina" on Wechat.
January 04, 2021
Episode 6: The All-Guy Episode!
Dick pics, best first date for a guy, sex acts and dealing with toxic masculinity - the guys discuss all this and more in DNC first all-guy episode!
December 28, 2020
Episode 5: Interracial Dating & Kinks in Beijing
This week the DNC hosts are joined by Mark, a Kenyan man who has lived in Beijing for 3 years. Mark shares why he and his partner moved to China together and the challenges they faced here as an interracial couple. We also discuss racial preferences and fetishes with dating in China, and Mark tells us about some niche kinks in Beijing involving white sneakers!
December 21, 2020
Episode 4: Dating A Friend’s Ex
Would you date a friend’s ex? Boitha, Rachel and Nathan discuss the very tricky situations people find themselves in when they blur friendship lines with matters of the heart. For some China daters who live in this country of 1.5 billion people, the dating pool can still feel quite small, so is all fair in love and war… or is dating a friend’s ex a betrayal? China daters share their own stories and impart their wisdom.
December 14, 2020
Episode 3: Catfish Me Not
Ever met a date who isn’t as they seemed online in China? Being catfished isn’t just done by looks nowadays, but also personality, morals, and demeanor. The hosts share stories from China daters who have been catfished and discuss how they feel about people who post heavily filtered photos on Tinder and Tantan. Follow our official Wechat Account for more articles and fun! Search "datenightchina" on Wechat.
December 07, 2020
Episode 2: How 2 Become 1
How do you make space for a partner in a new relationship? How do you hold on to your individuality whilst making room for someone new in your life? In this episode we discuss new relationships and navigating past the “honeymoon” period in China. Follow our official Wechat Account for more articles and fun! Search "datenightchina" on Wechat.
December 07, 2020
Episode 1: Second Dates
We are back!! We are starting season 2 with "Second Dates." The hosts discuss what kind of 2nd dates are best and share stories from listeners about their 2nd date experiences. Also: what do you do when your dates has a whole smurf village back at their place?! 😂😳 Join Rachel, Nathan and Eleanor and our brand new season 2 guest host, Boitha as we get stuck in! Follow our official Wechat Account for more articles and fun! Search "datenightchina" on Wechat.
December 07, 2020
Date Night China Season 2 TRAILER
Date Night China is back with season 2! Are you ready to get stuck in? Join the Date Night community through our podcast and events, and catch up on the latest stories on our official WeChat account.
November 01, 2020
Episode 20: The Break Up
Episode 20: The Break Up. Join Rachel, Eleanor and Nathan one last time this season as we explore the highs and lows of break ups with our guest Morag. We discuss being the dumpee and being dumped. We also talk about how to navigate dating and break ups in China.
June 19, 2020
Episode 19: Personality Types and Love: Where to Meet Your Next Date in China
Does your personality type play into how and where you date in China? If you’re not a crazy party animal, where do you go out to meet people? In this episode we’ll discuss different types of personalities and daters in China, and also some tips for approaching people when you’re out in China – whether you’re looking for a date or meeting new people.
June 08, 2020
Episode 18: Kissing - The Hao, The Bu Hao, and The Chou
When was the last time you had a perfect kiss? Is kissing important? Does a first bad kiss ruin the rest of the date? This week we share some funny and tragic stories from our listeners about their most memorable kisses: the good, the bad, and the ugly! Follow our official Wechat Account for more articles and fun! Search "datenightchina" on Wechat.
June 01, 2020
Episode 17: Love, Laughs & LGBT in China
Ever wondered what the LGBT community in China is like? Would you marry someone from a different culture? Well-known Beijing comedian Nick Cheng (aka Long Hu the Comedian in Heels) joins the podcast this week to share his story, and as a bonus his Chinese husband Gong came along as well! We discuss Nick's dating life when he first arrived in China, how he met Gong, what the gay community in Beijing is like, and how you can thrive in the LGBT community in China. Subscribe to Date Night China's official WeChat account! Search "DNC Podcast" or "datenightchina" on Wechat!
May 14, 2020
Episode 16: Going the Distance In Relationships
Have you ever wondered if you’re in the right relationship? Is long distance a red flag for you? Would you move across the world to be with someone? In this episode we talk to Michelle and Carl, a couple living in Beijing, about their relationship - from their long-distance romance to their new life in China. How have they made it work and has their relationship become stronger because of it? Find out by listening to this real love story! *Special announcement made at the end of the episode!
May 07, 2020
Episode 15: How to Build Your Dating CV
This week the hosts invite Beijing social butterfly Stephanie Stone to talk us through the ins and outs of how dating is a lot like going for a job interview. We also discuss how you can update your dating skills and experiences to really nail your "interview"! Subscribe to Date Night China's official WeChat account! Search "DNC Podcast" or just "datenightchina" on Wechat!
May 01, 2020
Episode 14: The Male Gaze
New Episode is out! Are men changing with the times? In this episode we look at dating in China from a male perspective. To help us do that, our guest Sam talks us through his approach to relationships, the MeToo movement and how to foster positive masculinity, from his personal experiences. Scan the QR code to listen now! Subscribe to Date Night China's official WeChat account! Search "DNC Podcast" or just "datenightchina" on Wechat!
April 15, 2020
Episode 13: Hosts Strip Bare!
The hosts get back to basics as they grill each other on their own dating lives! Listen to this episode to find out secrets about the hosts and how their lives have changed since starting the podcast! Are you subscribed to Date Night China's official WeChat account? If not, search "DNC Podcast" or just "datenightchina" on Wechat!
April 09, 2020
Episode 12: Cross-Cultural Relationships
How do you approach cross-cultural dating? What do you know about someone's background and cultural history before you date them? Date Night China invites Jiayin onto the show to deep-dive into those questions and share her experiences dating people from different cultures. Jiayin also took this opportunity to ask some of her Chinese friends about their concerns and questions about dating foreigners - so this week the tables are turned and the hosts are in the hot seat! Get in touch and share your dating stories with us! Email: email@example.com Subscribe to Date Night China's official WeChat account! Search "DNC Podcast" or just "datenightchina" on Wechat! We'd love your feedback! Take our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/FYQV7XK FB/IG/TW: Date Night China
March 26, 2020
Episode 11: Sexcapades
In this episode we share your best embarrassing stories and hilarious sexual anecdotes! Eleanor, Rachel and Nathan invite Frankie, Beijing's queen of the night (#yasqueen), on to share stories on what it's like to have a fun sex life in China and to not take things too seriously! Get in touch and share your dating stories with us! Email: firstname.lastname@example.org Subscribe to Date Night China's official WeChat account! Search "DNC Podcast" or just "datenightchina" on Wechat! Website: https://datenightchina.wixsite.com/datenightchina FB/IG/TW: Date Night China
March 16, 2020
Episode 10: Let's Talk About Sex Baby!
This week we're joined by Beijing local and aspiring author Cat who shares her approach to dating in Beijing and the importance of having good sex. Also, when would you share some of your more kinky habits? The team reviews some juicy topics and get a little bit more intimate than usual! Get in touch and share your dating stories with us! Email: email@example.com Subscribe to Date Night China's official WeChat account! Search "DNC Podcast" or just "datenightchina" on Wechat! Website: https://datenightchina.wixsite.com/datenightchina FB/IG/TW: Date Night China
March 10, 2020
Episode 9: Difficult Conversations
How do you deal with difficult conversations? Do you avoid them or do you confront them head on? In this episode the team discusses some of those moments in relationships that make us squirm. The hosts are joined by special guest Tim, a freelance photographer in Beijing who shares his experiences dating as an expat in many different countries. Together we try to rip the band aid off and show that difficult conversations need not be that difficult! Get in touch and share your dating stories with us! Email: firstname.lastname@example.org Website: https://datenightchina.wixsite.com/datenightchina FB/IG/TW: Date Night China
March 04, 2020
Episode 8: Valentine's Day in Beijing
Happy Valentine’s Day! This week the hosts discuss where to celebrate Valentine’s Day in Beijing and what their perfect date looks like. This episode also features special guest Vincent, a DJ and social media promoter for many bars in Beijing. He shares about dating as a DJ and what it’s like being Chinese and involved in the LGBTQ community in Beijing. Get in touch and share your dating stories with us! Email: email@example.com Website: https://datenightchina.wixsite.com/datenightchina FB/IG/TW: Date Night China
February 10, 2020
Episode 7: Love In The Time of Coronavirus
Your hosts are trapped in Beijing, quarantined due to the current global pandemic thanks to the coronavirus. This week - how do you plan a perfect date when you cannot leave your home? Get in touch and share your dating stories with us! Email: firstname.lastname@example.org Website: https://datenightchina.wixsite.com/datenightchina FB/IG/TW: Date Night China
January 31, 2020
Episode 6: Chinese New Year and Traveling Romances
Happy Chinese New Year China Daters! We're back with a special holiday episode covering the weird and the wonderful from WeChat flirting to sleeping with C-list celebrities. This week, hosts Eleanor, Rachel and Nathan answer some of our listener's questions and share some stories from their checkered pasts! Happy New Year! Get in touch and share your dating stories with us! Email: email@example.com Website: https://datenightchina.wixsite.com/datenightchina FB/IG/TW: Date Night China
January 24, 2020
Episode 5: New Year, New You?
The hosts reunite after their Christmas break to look at love in 2020 and what lessons you can learn from old relationship and rejection. The hosts also may have dropped the most popular hashtags of 2020 so it's an episode not to miss! Get in touch and share your dating stories with us! Email: firstname.lastname@example.org Website: https://datenightchina.wixsite.com/datenightchina FB/IG/TW: Date Night China
January 14, 2020
Episode 4: The Christmas Special
Dating in the holidays: the Do's and Don'ts to make sure your festive season is fun, flirty and full of Christmas cheer! Get in touch and share your dating stories with us! Email: email@example.com Website: https://datenightchina.wixsite.com/datenightchina FB/IG/TW: Date Night China
December 16, 2019
Episode 3: Ghosting and Rejection
Have you ever ghosted someone? Have you been ghosted? How do you let someone down if you didn't feel any sparks? What do you do if a date just wants a one night stand- is honesty always the best policy? This week, Rachel decided to bring one of her Tinder matches on the show as a first date. Our special guest is comedian Eric Selley; he speaks to us about his own dating life and how comedy helps... and hinders your love life. Get in touch and share your dating stories with us! Email: firstname.lastname@example.org Website: https://datenightchina.wixsite.com/datenightchina FB/IG/TW: Date Night China
December 09, 2019
Episode 2: Flirting, Chat-up Lines and Perfect Openers
Nathan and Rachel invite special guests Nick and Lauren to the hot seat to demystify the subtle art of flirting. The guests share their own methods of seduction as well as their thoughts on the cringe-worthy and cute lines people use in real life and online. Download and listen and hopefully you'll feel much better about using wordplay to get some foreplay. Get in touch and share your dating stories with us! Email: email@example.com Website: https://datenightchina.wixsite.com/datenightchina FB/IG/TW: Date Night China
December 01, 2019
Episode 1: How Do You Get a First Date?
In this episode we dive into the best places to meet someone and go on a first date in Beijing, as well as the red flags, deal breakers and things that you love on a first date. Get in touch and share your dating stories with us! Email: firstname.lastname@example.org Website: https://datenightchina.wixsite.com/datenightchina FB/IG/TW: Date Night China
November 15, 2019
Episode 00: First Dates
In our first episode hosts Rachel and Nathan invite special guest Eleanor to talk about first dates, bad dates and whether Tinder really is a good place to find love in Beijing. Every week we’ll bring on a guest and share about different topics related to dating in Beijing: first dates, bad dates, breakups, and everything in between. We’ll also have read in stories and want YOU our listeners to get involved! P.S. This is a soft launch so please be patient with us... it's our first time after all. ;) Get in touch and share your dating stories with us! Email: email@example.com Website: https://datenightchina.wixsite.com/datenightchina FB/IG/TW: Date Night China
November 05, 2019