Date Smarter. Sexier.

Summary

In this conversation, Andrea and Julia explore the topic of managing expectations in dating and relationships. They start by doing a tarot card reading to gain guidance on managing expectations. They discuss the importance of being open-minded and not getting stuck in patterns that haven't worked in the past. They also touch on the pressure to look younger and fit in the dating world. They emphasize the need for depth and shared values in relationships, rather than solely focusing on physical attributes. They conclude by highlighting the impact of physical fitness on a healthy sex life. In this conversation, Julia and Andrea discuss various aspects of sexual intimacy and communication. They cover topics such as navigating first-time experiences, giving and receiving direction, exploring new experiences, and understanding individual preferences. They emphasize the importance of open-mindedness, effective communication, and managing expectations in order to create fulfilling sexual relationships. Overall, the conversation highlights the need for honest and open dialogue to enhance intimacy and pleasure.

Takeaways

Focus on one area at a time when exploring sexual intimacy.

Communication and feedback are crucial for a satisfying sexual experience.

Be open-minded and willing to explore new experiences.

Understand that individual preferences and pleasure vary.

Effective communication and managing expectations are key to creating fulfilling sexual relationships.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Tarot Card Reading

03:23 Managing Expectations in Relationships

08:07 Interpreting the Tarot Card Reading

13:14 The Role of Tarot Cards in Dating and Relationships

16:01 The Importance of Being Open-Minded

21:12 The Pressure to Look Younger and Fit

28:34 Managing Expectations and Finding Common Ground

33:09 The Importance of Depth in Relationships

35:13 The Impact of Physical Fitness on Sex Life

37:06 Covering all the bases

38:29 Navigating first-time experiences

39:51 Communication and feedback

41:46 Giving and receiving direction

42:46 Importance of communication in intimacy

43:56 Exploring new experiences

45:17 Understanding individual preferences

46:33 The mental aspect of pleasure

48:23 Managing expectations

Summary

In this conversation, Andrea discusses the concept of the high value woman and addresses the debates and pushback she has received. She explores the definition of a unicorn and questions whether the high value woman can be considered a unicorn. Andrea then outlines the seven elements that make up a high value woman, including independence, the willingness to walk away, and self-awareness. She emphasizes that high value is subjective and encourages individuals to define their own value. Andrea also discusses traits that may not align with high value and the importance of self-reflection.

Takeaways

High value is a subjective concept and can be defined differently by individuals.

The high value woman is not a unicorn, but rather someone who possesses qualities such as independence, self-awareness, and the willingness to walk away.

Low value traits include lack of self-respect, over-dependency, dishonesty, manipulation, and unwillingness to communicate or compromise.

It is important to define value for oneself and focus on personal growth and self-improvement.

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Defining the HVW

• Wrote the book on it! My list are possibilities, there is no hard and fast rule

• This is how I define HV but someone else can define it differently, that’s the beauty of having choice and being able to think for ourselves 

• If he isn’t college educated does that mean he’s not high value? 

• Experts in the dating world are defining HVW by their status

Defining the Unicorn

• something unusual, rare, or unique.

• A person who is very attractive AND has a fabulous personality 

• YouTube video that went viral about the what a unicorn is 

Does that mean anyone else is of low value?

• Define a low value, it’s subjective 

• Does a woman who lacks self esteem and likes to pick fights a HVW?

• Lack of Self-Respect: This can manifest in many ways, like constantly putting oneself down, tolerating disrespectful behavior from others, or not standing up for one's own needs and boundaries. Gym pics or half naked selfies 

• Over-Dependence: While interdependence is healthy in a relationship, over-dependence, either emotionally or financially, without the effort to contribute or improve oneself, can be viewed negatively.

• Dishonesty and Manipulation: Consistently being dishonest, playing mind games, or manipulating others for personal gain can definitely be seen as "low value" traits.

• Lack of Ambition or Drive: Having no personal goals, ambitions, or the desire to grow can be a turn-off for many. This isn't about financial success per se, but more about having a passion and zest for life.

• Unwillingness to Communicate or Compromise: Relationships are a two-way street. An inability or unwillingness to communicate effectively, listen to a partner’s needs, or compromise can hinder the growth of a healthy relationship.

• Chronic Negativity: Constant pessimism, complaining, or seeing the worst in every situation can be draining and unattractive to potential partners.

• Irresponsibility: This could be in terms of finances, career, personal health, or other obligations. Consistently shirking responsibilities can be a sign of immaturity and unreliability.

• Hostility or Abusive Behavior: Engaging in verbal, emotional, or physical abuse is not only a "low value" trait but is entirely unacceptable in any relationship.

• Lack of Empathy: Being unable or unwilling to understand or share the feelings of others can be a major red flag in relationships.

• Superficiality and Materialism: Focusing solely on surface-level attributes such as looks, money, or social status, while neglecting deeper values and connections.

Who decides what to value?

The idea of High Value has spiraled 

• Why we label as HVW because men have been saying how they are attracted to strong independent women, which could be defined as HV

• We don’t like labels 

• The fight around HV is about saying that if you’re not HV then you must be low value

• Not every thing is black and white 

Summary:

In this thrilling episode of "Date Smarter Sexier," we delve into the shadowy world of romance scams, a digital-age Cupid’s arrow gone awry. Imagine this: 70,000 heartbreaks and a staggering $1.3 billion lost in 2022 alone! We unravel the devious 'Pig Butchering' scam, where charmers turn into financial butchers, and share bone-chilling real-life tales, from a fake surgeon to an oil rig Casanova. Our experts arm you with red flags to watch for and lifesaving tips like reverse image searches and consulting a love "board of advisors." It's not just about the scams; it's about staying smart, sexy, and above all, safe in the perilous quest for love. Tune in and learn how to protect your heart and your wallet in the world of modern dating.

Chapters:

•  Understanding Romance Scams

•  Pig Butchering Scams: A Deep Dive

•  Spotting the Red Flags

•  Real Stories of Victims

•  Navigating Out of Scam Webs

Dave Cooke is a seasoned business consultant and communication expert with a focus on improving listening behaviors.

With over forty years of experience in sales, relationship development, and strategic advising, Dave excels in helping organizations and leaders enhance communication and problem-solving through his Selfless Listening program. This program aids in building trust, fostering better relationships, and promoting effective teamwork and collaboration.

Additionally, Dave has successfully applied these techniques in assisting parents with children facing substance abuse challenges.

His guiding principle, "open your eyes, ears, heart, and mind," underpins his belief that effective listening can transform interactions and relationships. Dave is also an accomplished podcaster, author, speaker, and executive coach

Summary

In this episode, Andrea and David Cooke discuss the importance of listening in effective communication. They explore the difference between listening and hearing, and the impact of technology on listening skills. They also discuss the power of nonverbal cues and the importance of silence in communication. Additionally, they share insights on effective communication in relationships and navigating communication challenges. The conversation explores the importance of creating a safe space for authenticity and active listening. It provides insights on improving listening skills in a Zoom era and being an active listener without a mirror. The conversation also discusses the significance of flipping the phone over as a signal of attention and the importance of being authentic in communication.

Takeaways

• Listening is a key element in effective communication and building trust.

• Nonverbal cues, such as eye contact and facial expressions, play a crucial role in active listening.

• Technology can be a distraction in communication, and it is important to create boundaries to stay present in conversations.

• Internalizing information and demonstrating understanding are essential in effective listening.

• Effective communication in relationships requires understanding and respecting each other's communication styles and setting clear expectations. Create a safe space for others to be authentic by being authentic yourself.

• Practice active listening in virtual meetings by focusing on the other person's face and body language.

• Improve listening skills by avoiding distractions like phones and watches.

• Flipping the phone over can signal to the other person that you are giving them your full attention.

• Be authentic in your communication and don't try to be someone you're not.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Importance of Listening

04:04 The Importance of Listening and Building Trust

05:11 Recognizing Active Listening

06:19 Nonverbal Cues of Active Listening

08:06 Understanding Facial Expressions

09:20 Dealing with Distractions

11:12 The Impact of Technology on Listening

13:34 The Difference Between Listening and Hearing

14:55 The Power of Internalizing Information

18:40 Balancing Body Language and Verbal Affirmations

21:28 The Importance of Silence in Communication

25:10 Effective Communication in Relationships

28:01 Understanding Differences in Communication Styles

30:42 Setting Clear Expectations in Communication

34:25 Navigating Communication Challenges in Relationships

38:03 Creating a Safe Space for Authenticity

40:20 Improving Listening Skills in a Zoom Era

41:23 Being an Active Listener without a Mirror

43:49 Flipping the Phone Over as a Signal of Attention

45:30 Being Authentic in Communication

50:12 Creating a Safe Space for Authenticity

For more information: 

dave@thecookegroupllc.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidcooke/

https://www.thecookegroupllc.com/

Summary

Get ready for a rollercoaster of an episode with Andrea and Chris on "Date Smarter Sexier"! They're diving deep into the mysterious world of modern dating. Ever wondered why men vanish without a trace? They're tackling the intriguing reasons behind ghosting and unraveling the complex art of breadcrumbing. 

Hold on, as they use the fishing analogy to explain why some men keep their options wide open, and dissect the fear of commitment that haunts many. It's a wild ride through the challenges of dating multiple people and the intense pressure to build an empire.

Brace yourself for an honest conversation about the struggle to express emotions and the tempting escape of ghosting. They're not shying away from the hot topic of entitlement and the pursuit of a higher 'rating' in the dating game.

The episode reaches a thrilling climax with a bold discussion on the pitfalls of Facebook groups and the fear of being exposed in the digital age.

But that's not all! Chris and Andrea also delve into the magnetic allure of feminine energy, the delicate timing of sexual activity, and the profound impact of sex on bonding. They're bringing mindfulness into dating, urging us to savor the journey and cherish the age-old art of courting.

This episode is a treasure trove of insights on love, relationships, and everything in between. Tune in for a mesmerizing exploration of the heart's deepest desires and fears. Don't miss this electrifying episode of "Date Smarter Sexier"!

Contact:

Chris Gillis:

IG and TikTok: @ConsultantChris 

Website: www.ConsultantChris.com 

For more information: www.datesmartermatchmaking.com

Chapters

00:00 Introduction

01:35 Why Do Men Ghost?

04:32 The Lure of the Unicorn

07:48 Fear of Expressing Emotions

10:26 Taking Ownership of Ghosting

14:16 The Entitlement Issue

19:08 The Independent Woman Dilemma

25:15 The Disappointment of Settling

30:26 Making Him Feel Appreciated

37:20 The Fear of Being Exposed

40:11 The Attraction of Feminine Energy

41:06 The Timing of Sexual Activity

45:07 Being Mindful in Dating

47:28 Appreciating the Courting Process

47:52 Closing Remarks and Contact Information

For more information go to: www.datesmartermatchmaking.com

In this insightful and engaging episode of "Date Smarter Sexier," we delve into a topic that's both crucial and often tiptoed around: the use of condoms in the dating world. Joined by the ever-charismatic Canaan, we embark on a frank discussion about the importance of condom usage for safe and responsible dating.

The episode kicks off with a light-hearted yet informative exploration of the basics of condom use, emphasizing not just the 'how' but the 'why' behind this essential practice. Canaan, with his unique blend of humor and expertise, and your show host, Andrea LaRosa, help demystify misconceptions and apprehensions surrounding condom usage.

As we dive deeper, the conversation shifts to address some of the challenges and obstacles people often face. We talk about the awkwardness that can arise in conversations about condoms with new partners, the myths versus facts about pleasure and sensitivity, and how to navigate situations where opinions about condom use differ.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the modern dating scene, offering a perfect mix of lighthearted banter and serious, thoughtful discussion about an issue that impacts everyone in the dating world.

For more information go to: www.datesmartermatchmaking.com

Summary

Get ready for a brand new season of "Date Smarter Sexier" with your fabulous host, Andrea LaRosa! This season kicks off with a bang as Andrea dives into the exciting and often overlooked world of dating in life's golden years. 🌟

In this must-listen episode, Andrea shares eye-opening insights from her experience watching "The Golden Bachelor", shedding light on the unique challenges and adventures faced by mature singles in the quest for love. It's a fascinating journey into the heart of the dating scene for older individuals.

But wait, there's more! Andrea doesn't just explore the hurdles; she celebrates the incredible benefits of dating later in life. Get ready to be inspired by her expert tips for successful and joyous mature dating. She's talking about embracing technology with a zest for life, the art of patience in love, and the absolute necessity of open, honest communication.

And here's the heartwarming part: Andrea's passionate call to appreciate and support older adults as they navigate their dating journeys. This episode isn't just informative; it's a heartfelt tribute to the timeless nature of love and romance.

So, grab your headphones and prepare to be enlightened, entertained, and inspired. This episode of "Date Smarter Sexier" is an absolute game-changer for anyone interested in the rich tapestry of mature dating. Tune in now and join Andrea on this remarkable journey! 

Takeaways

• Dating in the later stages of life can present unique challenges, such as navigating technology and family dynamics.

• However, there are also benefits to dating later in life, including a depth of experience and clear priorities.

• Tips for successful mature dating include embracing technology, staying patient, and maintaining open communication.

• It is important to appreciate and support older adults in their dating journeys.

  
  

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to a New Season

02:05 Dating in the Later Stages of Life

06:02 Challenges of Dating When You're Older

12:17 Benefits of Dating Later in Life

15:24 Tips for Successful Mature Dating

For more information go to: www.datesmartermatchmaking.com