Ep 12. How we carry dysfunctional family of origin roles into church and why change can be daunting.
As a continuation on the topic and response to Ep 11, I elaborate on the roles people play out in church communities. This list isn't exclusive and you may have heard the roles/archetypes in different ways but the outworking of them can be similar. Roles mentioned: Overly Responsible Member Acting Out Member Mascot Member Adjusting Member I also touch on church cultures, using Hillsong's ability to attract many volunteers, as an example. Find this on video at: https://youtu.be/bd_EK62k72k Resource: Book mentioned: https://www.amazon.com/Secrets-Your-Family-Tree-Healing/dp/0802476740 Check out Ep 11.
February 05, 2023
Ep. 11. How dysfunctional family backgrounds play out in our choice of church and why people defend their way of worship.
Research suggests there is a really big connection between your family of origin experience and the kind of worship / church service style you prefer. In this walk-and-talk I share specifically how the the DON'T FEEL and DON'T THINK rules of a dysfunctional home play out in charismatic and conservative evangelical church experiences. I also discuss my experiences with people who return from Bethel's School of Supernatural Ministry internships. Find this on video at: https://www.youtube.com/@DavidTensen/videos NOTES: Book mentioned: https://www.amazon.com/Secrets-Your-Family-Tree-Healing/dp/0802476740 Chart from book: https://www.dropbox.com/s/95lz8nlawpzk8su/from%20Secrets%20of%20Your%20Family%20tree.JPG?dl=0 *note, I couldn't remember the TRUST part of the chart but you can fill in the blanks, I'm sure.
February 03, 2023
Ep. 10. How and Why I engage with challenging commentary on socials.
I have had plenty of people shake their head at me saying "I don't know why you engage with some of the commentary you get on socials. I couldn't do it." Well, it's not by accident or because I'm looking for a fight. But I am doing my best to enter constructive civil dialogue. Find this filmed on Youtube too at https://www.youtube.com/@DavidTensen Book mentioned by Os Guinness: https://www.amazon.com/Case-Civility-Why-Future-Depends/dp/0061353434
February 02, 2023
Ep 9. Life after Pentecostalism Pt 2. The importance of remaining enchanted - even when you feel disenfranchised
Part 2 of a chat on the topic. Watch it on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DavidTensen Book referenced: https://www.amazon.com/Hunting-Magic-Eels-Recovering-Enchanted/dp/1506464653
January 29, 2023
Ep 8. Life after Pentecostalism Pt 1. Why reading Rohr and Manning helped.
A brief chat on how reading people like Richard Rohr and Brennan Manning opened my eyes to the gifts of brokenness. A stark contrast to what I had experience in the predominant messages of my early pentecostal-based teens and 20s.
January 26, 2023
Ep 7. The absurdity of absolute church unity & The necessity of denominations.
Find this on the Youtube here: https://www.youtube.com/@DavidTensen ..... Trauma Informed Church Podcast mentioned: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4rGRBJ32rtBcx7JcgLBsYF?si=57882e6a97464b12 ..... Find David on FB and Insta and his blog www.davidtensen.com
January 24, 2023
Ep. 6 The complexity of being a Pastor Church worker. Things you should know. Part 2
This is part 2 of a 2 part chat walk where I give a summary of a research and experience driven workshop I used to teach on the complexity of being a church worker. In this episode we cover the complexity around CLAN / KIN and COMPANY. audio here: https://anchor.fm/david-tensen
January 23, 2023
Ep 5. The complexity of being a Pastor Church worker. Things you should know. Part 1
This is part 1 of a 2 part chat walk where I give a summary of a research and experience driven workshop I used to teach on the complexity of being a church worker. In this episode we cover the complexity around CALLING and COMMUNITY.
January 21, 2023
Ep. 4 The importance of context in Church wounding
In this chat I discuss something that has helped me walk through church-based wounding.
January 21, 2023
Ep. 3 Parenting after deconstruction.
I have three children. Two teens and a tween. What has changed in my parenting and what do I want for my kids? I talk about salvation, sex and youth group under a different paradigm.
January 21, 2023
Ep 2. Beyond Hell. On salvation, love and restorative judgement .
Responses to questions and comments on social media. *note: at 17:50min I meant to say 'restorative' not retributive yes... the cicadas are loud... summer in SE Queensland Article's mentioned https://bradjersak.com/beyond-hopeful... George Macdonald https://www.ccel.org/ccel/macdonald/u... My links Insta @david_tensen Fb /davidtensen Web davidtensen.com
January 20, 2023
Ep 1. Moving away from unhelpful and harmful theology and ideology.
An open response to those who demand I change my LGBTQ+ affirming stance too An open chat about recent FB confessions, comments and conversations. I cover topics like popular/ common evangelical and pentecostal theology pertaining to salvation and hell. I also speak openly about social media boundaries, recent LGBTQ+ questions and other things. This was going to be a few tiny videos for instagram stories but I just kept talking 🤣 Thanks to all those who watched this already and reached out with the 'me too's and 'thank yous'
January 19, 2023