Dear Little One

Remember that if you feel like you need to remind yourself who you are, you can. There are so many opportunities to do that. Gather all your pieces and hold them together tightly. Get control of your actions and emotions, and get your ducks in a row. I could go on and on with more idioms, but I won't. Though, I will say this. You were not born to mope; you were born to cope.

You know that feeling when you feel like you've been carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? You feel heavy as if someone or something is weighing you down. When we are overwhelmed with responsibilities and opportunities, we are most likely to experience massive amounts of pressure. At moments like this, we feel like our lives need unloading. When the pressures of life become too much to handle, it's easy to fall and get knocked over. Les Brown said, "When life knocks you down, try to land on your back. Because if you can look up, you can get up. Let your reason get you back up."

We tend to worry a lot, and it turns into a cycle. When we worry, we focus on what will happen when we fail. Unless you've reshaped your thinking of failure as a way of learning, you will continue to focus on what could go wrong in your life. Matthew 6:34 says, "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." This week, take time to set aside your worries. Don't give in to the cycle of everything that went and could go wrong.

As much as we'd like to, we can't change events, especially the ones that are beyond our control. The best thing to do is really to accept what's happening and try to adapt in whatever way you can to the change that's taking place. There's a quote that says, "forward is forward, no matter what pace." In this episode, my good friend Joey Angsingco opens up about how she's been able to pace herself through change.

Not everything seems so clear right now, but eventually, it will all come together, and you'll see why some things didn't work out, most especially if it's what you planned and what you wanted. Know that when God doesn't give you the answers and the life that you want, He gives you what is necessary, in ways that you least expect. Accept that you're not always going to get the answers that you want to sew your ease in life together. You don't need to have everything figured out for you to continue living your life.

You have a great life to live. Give it breath. It's not too late for you. This week, remember that when we think positively toward life, it changes how we see the world and how we end up living every day. Get a taste of each moment, no matter how brief.

Growth is a universal principle that helps us recognize the meaning of life. We all need to grow and become something more than what we are. We involve ourselves in projects and passions that are sometimes even bigger than ourselves. This week, tell yourself this: "As I focus on good things, good things will happen for me. I am thankful for what I have because it's what I have now. I am grateful for experiences that help me grow, and life is full of them."

"It's not working. It's taking a long time. I'm not enough of what I want to be, and I'm not where I expected to be by now." Before you start making another long list of why it can't and won't work out, recognize where you are now and how much it took to get there. You are strong, and you're not about to throw away everything you've worked hard to get.

It takes a change in perspective to find comfort in uncertainty. We don't know what the world holds for us. There are a lot of things we would love to try, but we are afraid to take the plunge. Christopher Lamzon had a great career ahead of him. When he left a job he loved, he thought everything would work out for him right away. Unfortunately, things didn't quite go as planned. In this episode, he talks about how he embraced uncertainty, welcomed opportunities, and learned more about himself and his personal growth.

We often hate it when life becomes complicated. We want the beautiful beginnings and the empowering endings. Can't we skip through the mess in the middle? If only it were that easy.
In the middle, we become demotivated and experience pressure and burnout. Take time to revisit your goals and go back to why you started in the first place.

We're not always going to wake up with a winning attitude, but that doesn't mean we've given up. We all struggle to stay on track, but you don't have to skim your way through life. You have so much to look forward to even beyond your goals and the finish line. Here's a cliché: when you feel like quitting, think about why you started.

We often give up too early in the situation because we feel like we're probably just not cut out for it. Imagine if you allowed everything wrong in your life to become the reason why you won't challenge your potential, or allowed every mean comment to determine that you're not "cut out" for something. Give yourself a chance and see where life takes you.

We've all once started something but quickly lost interest and motivation throughout the journey. In this episode, my dear friend Iana Ilaya talks about how living life with intention has helped her keep up with her job and business with her partner.

The good thing about a "no" in life is that there are so many opportunities for growth. There is always an upside to anything if you're willing to see it. If something doesn't work out for you, that doesn't disqualify you from all the other chances you can take. Sometimes a "no" means a "not right now," a "not for you," or a "not this time."

Remember to give yourself a reason every day on why you are capable! You are stronger and bigger than the circumstances. Instead of feeling crushed, decide that you're going to crush it, and allow life to touch you.

This week, it might be tough, but try to let go of situations you can't manage. Focus on how you take them in, and how you react to them instead. We miss out on so many opportunities to let loose and grow if we're stuck overthinking and overanalyzing circumstances that are beyond our control.

Each day, we have a chance to make things better. In many aspects, a chance to do better, feel better and live better. Changing and reframing your mindset can help make it happen.

What do you do to create space for yourself? I asked one of my good friends Ynna Vistal about how she commits time for herself through her love of spoken poetry amid the pandemic. Creating space doesn’t only apply to the physical location and environment. It could also mean ways of creating emotional security within ourselves when we feel like things are too much handle.

The very moment you wake up, what is it that you say to yourself? What do you tell yourself as you begin another shift at work? How do you speak to yourself when you encounter an unexpected problem or challenge? Sometimes we may feel sad, frustrated, lonely, and heartbroken, and we may also have all the reasons to feel that way. The question is, how do we not allow negativity to become an infestation? The first word I associated myself with was optimism. Positive self-talk can teach you to see the possibility instead of the problem. There is a heart in the hurt, grit in the grind, and faith in the failure.

Welcome to Dear Little One, the podcast. My name is May Anne Deseo and I have to admit I don’t always have my emotions in check. Some people express and handle their emotions a lot better than others.
One thing that’s helped me is positive self-talk – it’s how “Dear Little One” started. The Dear Little One podcast is meant to help start your week on the right foot with words and quotes of inspiration that will encourage you to live life with positive self-talk and self-compassion.