The Death Dialogues Project

The Death Dialogues Project

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Conversations from the little red shed about death, dying & the aftermath. Help us bring the topic of DEATH out of the closet. You can find out more about our project at www.deathdialogues.net, www.facebook.com/deathdialogues & www.instagram.com/deathdialoguesproject .
25. Down to Earth Dying
Down to Earth Dying: Caroline Schrank became a Funeral Director after planning funerals for her parents 8 years apart.  Her goal is to educate and inform that death and funerals aren’t “one size fits all”, and that there are options - you just have to ask.  Caroline runs Down To Earth Funerals in New York City.  www.dtefunerals.com
57:50
May 19, 2019
24. To Die For— listening to our hearts & whispers from the beyond
Anne O’Boyle Vlahos resides in Vermont with her husband and near their two children. She is still inspired today by her mother’s love of gardening and cooking and her father’s curiosity and love of nature. Her dog Moose is usually by her side when she’s home. Death was never an event Anne’s parents sheltered her from as she grew up. They took her to a wake for the first time at the age of two. Though only one of two children, Anne is from a large family with an abundance of opportunities to see that many struggled with loss for many reasons. When Anne finally lost Baba, her maternal grandmother, it was the beginning of her journey to develop a personal understanding of death, spirituality, and life’s meaning. This event, when she was twenty and starting her junior year in college, started deep conversations with her friends, intensive reading, classes, and sessions with several spiritual teachers and intuitives. As Anne explored, she was also aware that her intuition and inner guidance grew, as well. The first time she connected with someone who had passed was in 1992 at the age of thirty, following the death of Evelyn Isadore. Though not with great frequency, she has, since then, been visited by close relatives upon and after their passing. She learned that anything from action to acceptance to stillness can allow you to see the gifts that only a loved one’s departure can bring. She welcomes you to explore what gifts you too may find in that loss. Anne was born in Pennsylvania and raised in New Jersey by her parents, along with her sister. She attended the University of Delaware and Hunter College, receiving a BS and MS in Nutrition, which led to a thirty-year career in sales, marketing, and business development in the food industry. You can connect with me here: www.ToDieForbook.com FB: To Die For book https://www.facebook.com/ToDieForbook/ YouTube: To.Die.Forbook https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCR0pACVuJde1YNzthtfISQA?view_as=subscriber Instagram: to.die.for.book https://www.instagram.com/to.die.for.book/
1:07:53
May 9, 2019
23. The Accidental Episode
Dan Ruderman (IG loveand_death_ because) agreed to be a guest on an episode of our podcast. But as we began to chat— he felt it was maybe too early. As you will hear, his wife’s death was on Thanksgiving Day November 22, 2018: very recent. We decided to go on and just chat and it happened to be recorded— this was the technology we were using. At the end, Dan decided he was okay if our conversation was used as a podcast. Thank you Dan for the generosity of sharing your heart and your unique and love-filled experience of walking your dear Ditte home and holding such a meaningful vigil for her. Apologies for the inconsistent audio since we were not considering this an episode recording.
39:55
April 29, 2019
22. Grief is . . . –with Heike Mertins
Heike Mertins is an author, blogger and speaker about grief, grieving and recovery. She is the author of “Grief is...Thoughts on loss, struggle and new beginnings” (2017) which chronicles her journey through the bizarre, frustrating and at times humourous world of incomprehensible loss. Following the death of her brother and husband, Heike began to document the process of loss, emotion and healing that accompanies a momentous life change. The Kirkus Review noted her work as compelling due to her adamant refusal to file the rough edges of her emotions in order to make readers more comfortable. In closing the reviewer wrote that the book will surely provide some comfort to those facing a similar loss. Heike likes to think of her writings as pulling back the curtain of one of the few experiences we still prefer to not think about. A taboo that leaves those who grieve isolated and those wishing to support them at a loss as to how to do so. A taboo it is her personal mission to help dismantle. Hers is a message of hope for those who grieve. Today, she is committed to improving how we perceive and manage grief. Doing so has become her heart work. Website link: https://heikemertins.com/ Blog: An eclectic life https://hmertins.wordpress.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heikeauthor/ Instagram: heikemertins-griefis.com When you order the book, if it says sold out— continue with the process and the book will arrive within 7-10 days.
1:05:42
April 21, 2019
21. Surviving Siblings: Kellyn Shoecraft
Coming upon Kellyn’s “surviving siblings” Instagram account and our ensuing conversation felt like a breath of fresh air. You’ll have to listen to hear the analogy Kellyn made that struck my heart and soul with a deep sense of knowing — and relief— that someone else “got” it. Kellyn, drawing on her experience of surviving her dad and sister, founded Here For You, a company that changes the way people support each other during difficult life transitions. She lives in Boston, Massachusetts with her husband and daughter. You can find her company at www.hereforyou.co and at her Instagram page of the same name. Also on IG find survivingsiblings , surviving parents & survivingchildren.
57:31
April 13, 2019
20. Rob Hamill— The Power of Ceremony & Symbolism
Olympian, Rowing Champ, Master Griever. Many New Zealanders are familiar with Rob Hamill and his story. Or stories. Well known as a highly esteemed elite athlete— excelling in rowing was precipitated by hugely traumatic grief. When Rob was 14 his older brother went missing on a sailing adventure. It was later discovered that Kerry had been captured by the Khmer Rouge & tortured for months before his murder. Hear Rob’s heartfelt journey that led him to go back to the space his brother spent his last days and make an award winning documentary: Brother Number One. You’ll also hear the unfolding of grief over other losses as his family’s lives are forever changed. Experiencing tragic deaths has given Rob a refreshing perspective on living life in the moment as he & his wife & children go off grid & live on a sailboat. You can find links to those adventures, Rob’s work as a motivational speaker & his movie all at www.robhamill.co.nz Follow their adventures on their FB page called The Cruising Kiwis.
58:24
April 5, 2019
19. Loss of a soul sister— a life transformed
Meet today’s guest: EMILY HOLODY whose life was forever changed after her journey to the end of life with her soul sister and the family deaths that followed. A Peninsula, Ohio, native, Emily Holody is a stay-at-home mother and freelance writer with a degree in sociology from Kent State University. She has a background in mental health and social work, and finds joy in sharing her story of life and loss with others. Emily loves all things outdoors, and lives in Euclid with her childhood sweetheart and their family. Emily shares her stories at: https://storiesfromasoulsister.wordpress.com/. She contributes to the online publication: https://wishcleveland.com/. And runs a Facebook grief group: The Fire and Rain Grief Group, an Anchor of Hope in the Sea of Loss. Emily hopes others will learn from her life lessons, and join the conversation. The human connection, and helping each other journey through this life, fuels her soul.
57:39
March 29, 2019
18. Guided by Grief: Lisa Bovee
Meet this episode’s guest, author of Guided by Grief/Guided by Now— Lisa Bovee: Badass Author. Speaker. Mama. MiMi. Friend. Human. When Lisa's son Conner died in a tragic car accident, she was running a successful freelance writing, editing, and book publishing business. After her loss, in an attempt to regain her footing, she began to search for grief writings that might help her. She wanted stories that sounded like hers, something that would offer guidance, inspiration, and encouragement and also a way to honor her son. None of what she found truly spoke to her heart. More importantly, when she connected with others, she heard the same sentiments about the gap in grief narratives. That’s how Guided by Grief & Guided by Now the Vision, the Mission, the Movement (and the book) were all born. Lisa has been Guided by Grief to repurpose her life and to share her story and help others do the same -- together we are changing the conversation about grief from private, ugly & uncomfortable to OPEN, NORMAL & SUPPORTIVE. Her book Guided by Grief: Always Remember is combination memoir, self-help and compilation. It’s real and raw with surprising injections of humor. Her talks about life, hope, and happiness after loss, are encouraging, sometimes funny, and always inspirational. She confirms that you are NOT doing grief wrong and helps you to realize there can be joy after loss. Lisa was Guided by Grief, but she wants you to be Guided by Now. WEBS + SOCIAL LINKS: Lisa Bovee (Guided by Grief The Movement) Facebook LisaBovee.com Lisa@lisabovee.com @Guidedbynow on Insta @GuidedbyGrief on Twitter Join Lisa’s PRIVATE Guided by Grief Facebook group (The Guide Tribe) where you’ll find other loving, supportive, understanding and compassionate folks.
1:02:44
March 22, 2019
17. Reimagining Death: Lucinda Herring
LUCINDA HERRING has worked at the cutting edge of the green funeral movement for more than twenty years, beginning with others in the 1990s to quietly care for loved ones after death. Today she is one of the leading voices for more healing and ecological ways to care for our dead. Her book, Reimagining Death: Stories and Practical Wisdom for Home Funerals and Green Burials, has just been published by North Atlantic Books, and is available at your local independent bookstore or online. Herring is a home funeral/green disposition consultant and guide, an interfaith minister, and a licensed funeral director in the state of Washington. She speaks regularly about her work, and through her company Limina LLC--Thresholds Consulting and Ministry, she offers Advance After-Death Care planning, home funeral/green disposition education and trainings, and celebrant/ministerial services for families and communities who are reclaiming their innate right to care for each other and the earth at the end of life. Lucinda is also a storyteller and festival maker, committed to bringing art, beauty, ritual and celebration to all of life's thresholds. She lives on an island in the Puget Sound, amongst people who love exploring and creating new paradigms and ways of being that can be of service to all. Lucinda’s website is: www.lucindaherring.com
1:01:06
March 14, 2019
16. Jane Cunningham: where death has taken me
Jane Cunningham, from the Northland of New Zealand, discusses her experiences with death and how it’s affected her living. Jane understands that the world is hungry for a return to Spirit. She paints, prays, plays and tends to her soul and the souls around her knowing that the Numinous is present everywhere and comes alive whenever we tend to it. You can find Jane’s work at www.numinousjane.com You can find the tool for facilitating conversations about end of life at www.gentle-conversations.com
55:31
March 5, 2019
15. Anything goes? personal thoughts on after-death-care
Join Becky for a chat about what her journey has illustrated to her about making decisions about the care of her own body after death. Always remember there are death doula services and alternative funeral supports available to support you/your family after death. Stay tuned for our next episode as our guest gives us deeper exploration and a free resource to prepare for our end life & post-death journey. Subscribe to our podcast so you can be informed of new episodes & to show your support.
31:23
March 1, 2019
14. from cardiologist to caregiver: lessons on dying
Today we speak to Stephen Jennison, a cardiologist turned caregiver. Stephen shares lessons he’s experienced professionally and personally interfacing with death. Stephen is an integral member of The Death Dialogues Project team. Please subscribe and follow us on Instagram and Facebook. Your support helping to spread our work is invaluable and we thank you. (the photo shows Stephen, his son & mother-in-law,he helped care for, just a couple of weeks before her death)
1:05:44
February 20, 2019
13. Bradley Cooper & Yoga Girl & Death & me
Vulnerability alert: This feels raw as I share some of my own story precipitated by a lady-with-her-big-girl-pants-on-taking-a-road-trip and listening to two very poignant podcast episodes kinda experience. You can hear the meaningful conversations I refer to as well. Check out Bradley Cooper’s interview on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday and check out Yoga Girl’s episode on Death— you can see the exact titles in this episode’s photo. Musical artist responsible for the song referred to is Julien Baker. 🖤 Peace & love— Becky of TDDP
46:45
February 9, 2019
12. Part 2– a date with death: a love story
In this episode we explore Jana Buhlmann’s experience of walking beside her partner from stage four cancer diagnosis to his assisted death. This conversation is so deep and wide we are serving it up in two parts. You can find out more about Jana at www.bringthejoy.blog. And you can find her on Instagram and twitter @baldgrrl A big thank you to Jana for giving us insight into the choice of assisted dying.
59:48
February 3, 2019
11. Part 1— a date with death: a love story
In this episode we explore Jana Buhlmann’s experience of walking beside her partner from stage four cancer diagnosis to his assisted death. This conversation is so deep and wide we are serving it up in two parts. You can find out more about Jana at www.bringthejoy.blog. And you can find her on Instagram and twitter @baldgrrl A big thank you to Jana for giving us insight into the choice of assisted dying.
1:05:23
February 3, 2019
10. Yoga & Grief: a match made in heaven
Listen to our conversation with Sandy Ayer creator of Yoga for Grief Support. Hear how experiencing her own tragic loss catapulted Sandy into action to create her own gentle answer to providing grief support. And listen closely for the discount code for 20% off of her 8 week online program. We highly recommend engaging in this act of radical self care if you are experiencing loss. You can find out more about the program at www.yogaforgriefsupport.com and find Yoga for Grief Support on Facebook and Instagram. (And Becky’s original teacher she referred to, Nancy Long’s work can be found at www.timelessgentleyoga.com. She has a lovely restorative yoga book and cd available)
1:00:43
January 25, 2019
9. ghost stories: love never dies
Have you ever felt a connection or seen or heard something that you feel was communication with someone who had died? We are finding this is a common element in the stories we are collecting. Today, Becky shares her first experience with that phenomenon when three people witnessed a hello from her father a day after his death. Book referenced in the podcast was “Hello from Heaven” and podcast mentioned was WE DON’T DIE. You can find them online. Do you have a story to share? Contact us deathdialogues@gmail.com See you next time!
16:36
January 18, 2019
8. So you walk into the New Year and there’s an empath, a medium, a ritual— and no bar . . .
Join us for a chat from the little red shed about how our grief may be standing in the way of welcoming the New Year and a few helpful resources. And here are the links promised: www.judithorloff.com/top-10-traits-of-an-empath ; www.livingsober.org.nz/saying-goodbye-to-2018 ; www.shanegadd.com . It would be most helpful if you would subscribe to this podcast! Thanks!
15:07
January 7, 2019
7. Travelling with Grief: a young widow’s story.
On this episode Dawn Picken shares the story of her husband of 10 years sudden illness and tragic death which left her to redefine her life with two young children. Dawn has written a memoir—Love, Loss & Facebook: my year of grief on the run. Listen to how grief led Dawn on a unique journey. You can find Dawn at www.dawnpicken.com snd on Instagram and Facebook.
1:12:08
December 23, 2018
6. To Embalm or Not to Embalm: a story of choosing the old fashioned way
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is not by a mortician or an expert in those sciences. This is the story of a family who stepped back in time and cared for their loved ones in their home after their deaths. More and more we hear about the possibility of not having our loved ones embalmed. Clearly, there are times that the circumstances of a death prevent us from having a choice in the matter. That is a given. On this episode you will hear the personal experience of choosing to not have loved ones’ embalmed and having an extended in-home vigil. Hopefully this episode may help to inform you on the topic from a personal perspective. For your reference— the movie spoken about in this piece is Zen and the Art of Dying. You can find it on iTunes. Please follow The Death Dialogues Project on Instagram, Facebook and our blog at www.deathdialogues.net. Please subscribe to this podcast! See you next time!
23:43
December 12, 2018
5. Grief & the Holidays: how to make your experience not suck
Our guest, Stephanie Sprinkel, shares her experience of a less than optimal Thanksgiving and its affect on how she will rethink “celebrations” in the future. She also imparts some beautiful wisdom from her grief experience, including her continuing connection with her deceased husband. You can find Stephanie on Instagram at Surviving the Loss where there are links to her blog as well. You can follow The Death Dialogues Project on Facebook, Instagram & www.deathdialogues.net
50:13
December 4, 2018
4. Post-Mortem of the debut production of The Death Dialogues Project.
Have a listen if you want to get the vibe of what if was like at the event. Becky shares the “about” the project from the debut and then she and Svenja unpack the evening (including the possible attendance from the other side).
1:00:37
November 27, 2018
3. Traumatic Grief & Healing
In our last podcast, traumatic grief was briefly touched upon. Today we unpack that concept a bit further because, in fact, understanding the dynamic behind why difficult memories revisit us is the first step to healing. Also on this episode, we share a short healing visualisation. As promised, the elephant journal article can be found at: https://www.elephantjournal.com/2018/10/how-ayurveda-helped-me-bridge-the-gap-between-grieving-living/ . You can find us on www.facebook.com/deathdialogues, www.instagram.com/deathdialoguesproject & www.deathdialogues.net . Drop us a line at deathdialogues@gmail.com
21:45
November 14, 2018
2. The Wisdom of a Child
A 14 year old talks death, dying & grief. Hear thoughts from a young man who experienced the death of a dear uncle and 3 grandparents within an 18 month period—one death being supported within his home. Within this conversation, several aspects of death and grief are observed.
19:00
November 12, 2018
1. Intro to The Death Dialogues Project podcast.
Welcome! Hear a short overview of the who, what, why behind The Death Dialogues Project.
07:16
November 8, 2018
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