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The Truth about Emotions with Deborah McPhilemy

The Truth about Emotions with Deborah McPhilemy

By Counsellor / Therapist | Author | Speaker
This podcast is all about the one thing we all have in common;- emotions. We all have, and feel emotions:- good and bad, positive and negative, comfortable and uncomfortable. Join me for candid discussions about emotions and the role they play in every day life and being human. To book a slot and get some free advice, click here
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How to Set Boundaries with Family and Clients
On this episode I speak to Elaine who struggles to say no to her son as it makes her feel bad. She also struggles to say no to her husband and her clients. I give her some ways to change her perception and some strategies to be assertive in a way that suits her. To book a slot on my podcast, please click here
May 05, 2022
How my sister's suicide drastically changed my life
In this episode Kelli Melissa Hansen talks openly about the way her life was affected by her sister's suicide and previous suicide attempts. She shares what she learnt from it and why she started a non-profit to help people to be more suicide aware.  Kelly can be found via this website or via Social Media as mentioned during this episode.
September 28, 2021
STOP doing so much for others and put Yourself First!
STOP doing so much for others and put Yourself First!
June 27, 2021
The Reason You Need To Help Someone GET OUT Of An ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
Eman Elhalies was trapped in an abusive relationship with diminishing self-esteem. Now she is living her dream life, and explains how she used manifestation to create it.   If you need help, or want to help someone else, to get out of an abusive relationship then you need to read this: (free step-by-step guide to getting out of an abusive relationship included)  You can also find help here:  To contact Eman: Website:
May 31, 2021
The Reason You Are Being BULLIED
Nicola Date tells us how to be the square in a group of circles, and why being different is the best possible thing you can be.  If you need help because you are being bullied, find yourself bullying others or want to prevent bullying, then click here: If you want an easy way to help your child deal with bullying then click here:  Abby and The Gaggle of Geese : A book to help children to deal with bullying.   Follow us on Facebook: @eqforyou Follow us on Instagram: @eq_for_all Follow us on Twitter: @eq_for_all
May 31, 2021
Is it possible to UNLOCK your Authentic IDENTITY And Purpose?
Do you ever feel that you have lost yourself in between the stress of work and managing a family? Kelly Turner had this feeling; she explains what steps she took to re-discover herself, and how she ended up finding her purpose in the process.  If you want to change your life the way Kelly did, then sign up for our FREE online event here:  sign up for our upscale your life event here:  (The event will be held from the 17th -19th of May 2021)  To contact Kelly: Instagram -  Website -
May 21, 2021
Pamela Marinelli started listening to her body and found the answer she had been waiting her whole life to hear. She now uses art to help people connect, and restore their mind-body connection. We are all capable of healing from within, we just have to learn how.  Deborah McPhilemy explores the power of the mind in her book The Relationship Magnet (Available here: ).  You can contact Pamela here:  Website: Instagram: @pamgogh_art Facebook:
May 21, 2021
Is SUCCESS really a choice?
Kirstin O'Donovan is the example of someone who consciously decided to stop doubting and rather reach for success. She actively participated in achieving the life of her dreams, and now looks back at how she did it.  If you want to build the life of your dreams then visit or find us on Facebook @eqforyou or Instagram @eq_for_all.  You can find Kirsten here:
May 21, 2021
I met my EARTH ANGEL! Because of him I was able to start healing.
Susan Schwartz brings Deborah McPhilemy to tears while sharing her story. Susan explains why she wakes up every morning with a smile on her face, despite having gone through past physical and emotional trauma. There is so much power in a shared story, but there is more power in living in the present.   We need to live in the present because that is where happiness lies.  Our destination is right here right now. Stop giving your happiness to someone else, someone you may not have even met yet; rather source happiness from within yourself ... that is the secret to eternal happiness.  FREE online event Upscale Your Life Link:   To contact Susan: Facebook :
May 21, 2021
My INTUITION Saved My Life!
Kathy Walden talks to Deborah McPhilemy about what happened after she surrendered herself to a greater power: her intuition. Kathy's whole outlook on life changed for the better, and she found joy and happiness from within herself. Watch this episode to learn about the importance of self love and the power of intuition.  To Upscale Your Life you can join the FREE event being held between the 17th and 19th of May 2021 here:  To contact Kathy: Instagram: @kathywaldenspiritualcoach Facebook: KathyBlackburnWalden or KathyWalden
May 21, 2021
Teenage ALCOHOL abuse. How I dealt with my son's problem.
Kim Muench was the first in her social circle to become a parent. She explains how she had to figure everything out on her own, and shares the lessons she learnt on her journey.   Watch this interview if you:  - feel shame because of how you are/are not parenting - want to learn how to prioritise child connection over child obedience  - your child is misbehaving If you are struggling with any of the above then book a family session with one of our coaches to help take the stress out of parenting here:   We need to stop raising children and start raising adults. Remember that how you parent will influence who your grandchildren will become and that sometimes to guide is more important than to guard.  To contact Kim: Facebook:
May 21, 2021
The truth behind real COMMITMENT
Jacqueline Kent is proof that sometimes an unhealthy relationship is the only thing holding you back from the life of your dreams. Deborah gives you an unpredictable way to identify whether you are in an unhealthy relationship or not, and reveals who the only person is that you need commit to.  If you want to attract the right person into your life then read THE RELATIONSHIP MAGNET here:   You can contact Jacqueline here:    Flip The Script:  Instagram:
May 21, 2021
Be YOUR OWN Medicine! You know what is best for you!
Jenny-Lynne Sessions (Jen-ix) speaks about the power of intuition and the choosing to inhabit her body. She explains the power behind becoming more aware of when you are being driven by your head and your heart.  The most powerful part of this interview was listening to Jen-ix chant and sing, which sent shivers down my spine! You can listen to her chant by jumping here 31:50.  Our emotions are energy in motion, and understanding that energy is one of the ways you can improve your emotional intelligence. To find out more, sign up for our FREE Upscale Your Life Event here:   Contact Jen-ix to learn how to listen to your heart, become your own medicine, turn trauma to treasure, and help heal the earth!
May 21, 2021
I gave up my life of ROYALTY and RICHES to Escape the Abuse
Frida Bruhn wanted to live as many lives as possible, so she became an actress. The one role she was not ready to play was that of an abused wife. Frida explains the thoughts of someone in an abused relationship, and shares the lessons she has learnt now that she is out. Please find Deborah McPhilemy's 10 step plan to getting out of an abusive relationship available for download here:   Always remember that you are not alone!   You can contact Frida here:    Website:
May 21, 2021
I used NATURAL remedies to cure my CANCER
Adrienne Potter discusses her journey through cancer, and how she used natural remedies to fight the disease! Her good mental health played a role in her success, and now she is ready to share her secrets and story with us!  If you need emotional support while you fight Cancer or any other illness, please reach out on  You can contact Adrienne here:  Website: Facebook: @adriennpcoach Instagram: @adriennepcoach
May 21, 2021
STOP being strong! It's not your JOB and helps no one!
Judith Quin explains how our strength can also be our burden. Judith was always the 'strong one' in her family and friendship group, which made her feel responsible for the happiness of those around you her. As a result she felt she could never go to anyone for help with her own suffering, as she would be showing weakness and negating her 'responsibility'.  If you are not ready to go to your loved ones for support, but need to reach out for help, you can join our Emotique group. Here you will have 24/7 access to psychologists and Emotional Intelligence Master Coaches who will be able to help you start your journey to a healthier mental space. Join here:   We are also hosting a FREE upscale your life online event! Book your spot here: To listen to Judith's podcast with Deborah McPhilemy click here: or   You can contact Judith here:  Her Book:  Website:  Online Courses:
May 21, 2021
EXCLUSIVE! Deborah McPhilemy's Children Reveal HOW It FELT To Be Raised Without And Then With EQ
Deborah McPhilemy's children speak candidly about how their lives changed after she became Emotionally Intelligent. Deborah revisits the state of mind she was in before discovering Emotional Intelligence, and how her relationship improved with her children after becoming Emotionally Intelligent.   Deborah McPhilemy is now an EQ Master, and wants to help other parents re-connect with their children. If you would like to find out more then click here:   EQ For All is offering a free live training session, where you can learn how to become EQ! Limited spaces available so make sure you sign up today!  Sign up here:
May 21, 2021
You DON'T Need A Partner To Make You Whole + FREE Guide to Getting Out of an Abusive Relationship
Karen Bashford  shares what to do when you are in a relationship with the person who is destroying your confidence. She discusses what can happen when you start to listen to what that voice in your head is saying.  To find out how to attract your perfect partner you can read The Relationship Magnet here:   You are also invited to our FREE online event to discover your true self! Sign up here:  For Deborah McPhilemy's 10 step guide to get out of an abusive relationship, click here:  To contact Karen:  Pick up Karen's book 'How To Be Imperfectly Perfect A Practical Spiritual Guide to Becoming YOU' here:  To connect with your inner child click here:   Website: https://.karenbashford.comFacebook:
May 21, 2021
I committed SUICIDE and divine INTERVENTION saved me!
10 Years ago empowerment coach & speaker Jason Archdale felt as though he was living in hell, along with his three companions: fear, anxiety and depression. The night he tried to commit suicide he lay on his couch holding his daughters picture, and whispered "sorry darling, I love you, but I have let you down".   Jason managed to pull himself off that couch and changed his life's purpose in the process. He is proof that our reality is our decision, and that we just have to believe in what we decide. Jason changed his responses to his emotions and has been living an emotionally intelligent life ever since. He has prevented himself from lapsing back into that dark space he was in all those years ago. His strategy is simple: Instead of asking "why me?", he rather asks "what does this mean?". This enables him to find out what he needs to do to change his situation. Jason reiterates that the universe does not give you what you need, it gives you what you are. You have to put the work in. "Everything is created twice, firstly in your mind and then secondly in reality". So if you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change. You have the potential to learn how to tune into the frequency of the life you want to live, and you can do this through Emotional Intelligence.   Simply put, a mindset is based on your beliefs, which adjust your frequencies, and therefore determine your reality. When you change your beliefs, you will also change your story. Energy and mind are all linked, and we have the science and skills to help you create a healthy mind and your dream reality.   Always remember that everything starts with a decision, and there is always a way!  To find our more about Emotional Intelligence and how it can change your life then visit . You can join our Emotique self-help group, for a temporarily radically discounted rate, so that we can help you get through your dark days here: To contact Jason you can find him on:  Facebook - Website -
May 21, 2021
My Transition From WE To ME
Heather Prince opens up about getting divorced at 50. She explains how the hardest part was letting go of the the life she had spent 34 years envisioning.   Heather explains how a person going through heartbreak needs to do 3 things in order to heal: 1. Acknowledge the part they played in the ending of the relationship. 2. Reconnect with their sense of self. 3. Rebuild their relationship based on what they still have in common with their partner: their mutual love for their children.  Only once these three things have been successfully achieved can the heart truly start to heal. Heather learned to see the bigger picture, and used that foresight to help her go from being the victim to being the victor.  To learn how to heal after heartbreak you can read 'The Relationship Magnet' available on Amazon here: or sign up to our Emotique service where you can get advice 24/7 at the touch of a button here: To contact Heather you can find her on:  - Website:
May 21, 2021
STOP People Pleasing!
Lorraine Davies was a people pleaser. Her anxiety stemmed from her basing her self-worth on her achievement's. Once she developed her intrinsic sense of self worth she managed to overcome her anxiety, and is now helping others to do the same.   Since then Lorraine has prioritised her Emotional Intelligence and highlights why it is so important for teachers to teach EQ at school.   To learn more about Emotional Intelligence and how it can HELP YOU, click here:  You can contact Lorraine here: Facebook -
May 21, 2021
I Met the Man Who Raped Me, and Then FORGAVE Him
Lois Wagner opens up about her rape story, and why her story was not well received. Lois wrote a book to help other people understand rape. She explains how there is now so much confusion about how to behave, how to be a gentleman, and what defines rape. Lois explains that we need to take a positive and productive attitude towards one another and work on communication.  Men need to understand femininity, and women need to understand masculinity. Only then will we be able to really relate to one another. How do we start understanding each other, and start letting people be who they are meant to be?  We must develop SELF-AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING OUR EMOTIONS and MANAGING OUR EMOTIONS.   YOU HAVE GOT TO START WITH YOU! Becoming self aware will ensure that we learn to forgive ourselves, and can then forgive others. We need to break the bonds holding us back so that we can fly free.   To hear Lois' full rape and forgiveness story you can listen to it on Deborah McPhilemy's Podcast here: You can find Walking Without Skin here:  IF YOU NEED HELP learning how to forgive yourself then please contact us on , or click this link to join our Emotique group where you can speak to EQ experts about how you can learn to love yourself again:
May 21, 2021
How To FIND PURPOSE After Trauma
Yonason Goldson talks about dealing with pain, the power of kindness, and the importance of communication.   Yonason was 10 years old when his mother contracted a rare blood disease. Only one doctor refused to give up and not let her die; and he succeeded in saving her life after 2 months in hospital. Yonason discusses the impact his parents actions had on him when he was a child, and how being raised by the "Greatest Generation" affected his outlook on the world. Yonason is a Jewish Rabbi who rebuilt his confidence, overcame his suicidal thoughts, reimagined his identity and escaped the 'norm'. He has empowered  his followers to connect with one another as a means to overcome life's challenges, and in the process become stronger as individuals and a community.  To pick up your copy of Yonasons book click here: If you want to learn the EQ skills Yonason uses to connect with others in a meaningful and constructive way, then sign up for our Emotional Intelligence course here:
May 21, 2021
Inside the Mind of an Addict
Leigh Weltman opens up to Deborah McPhilemy about her battle with depression and addiction. Leigh weighs in on the importance of raising emotionally intelligent children and how emotional intelligence helped her deal with her addiction.   Once Leigh started to believe that she was capable of anything she began to heal. The biggest reason for suffering is not allowing yourself to be yourself. Leigh feels like she is still unable to be herself, but she is more herself than she has ever been before. She is in the process of being herself by herself.
May 19, 2021
Why EMOTIONAL Men Are MORE Attractive!
Karl Smith, an ex military man, opens up about why men need to start talking about their emotions.   On August 4th 2006 Karl was having a beer when a car crashed into the side if his house. He went outside to help the driver, who was high on drugs, and ended up getting trapped under the car while trying to get the driver out. The driver reversed 60 yards while Karl was stuck under the car.   Karl explains how his physical body was healing, but his mental health was worsening. He had post traumatic stress after the accident, causing him to feel angry and eventually become suicidal. Karl discovered hypnotherapy, and used it to recover from the accident.  Hypnosis causes a kinaesthetic feeling within Karl, helping him release his emotions  Men often feel as though they cannot share their emotions, and we need this to change! Men who do not share their emotions are holding themselves back in their personal and work lives. Deborah and Karl discuss the importance of making men feel safe to share their emotions, and how to get men to release their feelings in the future. If you need to speak to a professional Emotional Intelligence coach you can sign up to our Emotique service here or contact one of our coaches here:   To find out more about Karl you can visit his website:
May 17, 2021
Your Body Is The VOICE Of Your Unconscious Mind
In this episode Alison Gifford speaks to Deborah McPhilemy about acknowledging and accepting that she has anxiety. Alison had many symptoms of anxiety but shrugged them off for months. She never listened to what her body was trying to tell her, but if she had, she believes that she would have been able to prevent her anxiety from getting as bad as it did.   Alison felt better after learning that it was okay to feel anxious, and developing a 'wind down' process she could use at the end of every day. Alison has overcome the worst part of her anxiety and now knows how to better manage her emotions. She is happier and healthier than she has been in a long time and that is because she has finally started listening to what her body was trying to say. Please never hide your anxiety, always acknowledge it to yourself and others, and get the help you need to recognise your emotional symptoms. You are not alone!  If you are suffering from Anxiety then please reach out so that we can help you get through it  on   Or contact Alison on If you are asking any of the following questions:  How do I know if I have anxiety? Do I have anxiety? What is the cure for anxiety? Is there a cure for anxiety? Will I every feel normal again? Then please urgently contact join our Emotique group where you will be able to find the answers:
May 13, 2021
I got Over My Depression while Helping my Son deal with his Anxiety
Hayley Wheeler opens up about having a child with anxiety, and how she taught her child to understand and deal with anxiety. She discussed how she noticed her son attaching emotions to past events, and explains how she taught him to let them go. Her son no longer has panic attacks and is living a with much less anxiety.  Hayley tells Deborah how she pulled herself out of her depression, without medication!  She also opens up about her depression and how she learnt to appreciate who she is. Hayley draws our attention to the importance of spending quality time with those we love, even if it is just for 30 minutes a day.  To find out more about Hayley please visit or follow her on social media @hayleytwheeler   Please always remember that you are not alone. If you need help getting through anxiety and depression then please reach out on . The service is currently running at a radically reduced rate to make it accessible to as many people as possible.
May 12, 2021
The TRUTH About White Privilege and Racism
Megan Choritz helps white people in South Africa take responsibility for their white privilege. Megan explains how we can empower people of colour by becoming empathetic towards them. It is the responsibility of white people to understand people of colour, so that they can start to see white privilege and white supremacy through the eyes of the oppressed. If you are white it is your responsibility to lean into the discomfort, so that you can invite transformation into the world for yourself and others.  Becoming EQ will help you see other people with empathy, and ensure that you become part of the solution to white privilege and help end systemic racist and white supremacy. All human beings need to be treated equally, and there is no better way to start than by becoming emotionally intelligent.  To learn more about Emotional Intelligence you can visit our website or read Deborah McPhilemy's latest book 'Emotional Intelligence in a Nutshell' now available on Amazon here:  Facebook: @meghanchorits              Instagram @meganshead               Blog:
May 10, 2021
Why I No Longer FEAR Death!
Jon Boyes discusses how Emotional Intelligence helped him overcome his fear of dying. He had a heart attack at 65 and developed an acute awareness for life, and the importance of living without fear.   Jon explains how we need to differentiate between feelings and reality in order to live without fear. Anxiety is a result of fear, and we can only overcome anxiety by letting go and living consciously. We need to accept that thoughts let feelings  in, and then we need to let those feelings out. We need to discriminate between thoughts that are useful and thoughts that we need to let go.  If you want to learn how to become EQ so that you can start living without fear, then order your copy of "Emotional Intelligence in a Nutshell" here:  If you would like to contact Jon then visit or find him on Facebook here:
May 07, 2021
Judith Quinn about Your Whole Voice
Deborah McPhilemy talks to Judith Quinn about Your Whole Voice
May 06, 2021
May 06, 2021
How to NOT Re-Traumatise Victims of Trauma
Saya Pierce-Jones speaks to us today about her experience in journalism and how she has learnt to approach victims of trauma in a way that will not make them relive their pain. Saying explains how the justice systems lacks empathy, and how journalists have the responsibility to tell a traumatic story without re-traumatising the victim. Saya also delves into victim blaming, and how society often protects the abuser. She says, "the amount of false accusations about sexual violence pales in significance when compared with the truths that are being told, and truths that are not being believed".  This is such an important discussion that needs to be started. Please leave your comments about this episode below, we will love to hear your opinion on this topic.  If you need help dealing with emotional trauma, or learning how to love yourself again after experiencing trauma, then please reach out.  You can join our Emotique group where you will have access to EQ coaches and psychologists here: If you would like more personalised one-on-one coaching then please book your session with one of our qualified EQ coaches here:  not to re-traumatise, victim blaming, how to empathetically speak about trauma end re-empower those who have been abused. specialised courts. let justice prevail .
May 06, 2021
The Other Side of Suicide
In todays episode of The Daily EQ Show, Deborah McPhilemy speaks to her brother Roland Rennie about his attempted suicides, and how he learnt to live in peace again.   Roland explains why he became suicidal, what his warning signs were, and the guilt he felt about having suicidal thoughts. Roland opens up about his depression, and how not seeing his children affected him mentally. He discusses the pressures and responsibilities of being a man, dealing with failure and disappointment, and how men have been programmed to define success.  If you are suffering from fear, anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts then please reach out. You are not alone, and we are here for you. Our ears are yours, and we promise to hear you, and give you the support you need. You can subscribe to our Emotique services where you will have access to qualified Emotional Intelligence coaches 24/7 here:  (This service normally costs £99.99 pm, but we have discounted it to £9.99 pm for this month only!)  Often we are ashamed to feel self-pity, but that is because we have low self worth . Learning to love yourself again starts with realizing your value. Every singe person is important, and the sooner we all accept this, the better our relationships will be with ourselves. There is no shame in feeling depressed, it is a natural human emotion. We need to normalise speaking about difficult emotions ,so that we can create a safe space for anybody to reach out and ask for help if they are struggling. Once we have created this safe space we no longer need to fear rejection, and our mental health issues will have the freedom to be voiced and resolved.
May 02, 2021
I Healed my Asthma when my Doctor Couldn’t.
Jen Tiller opens up about being born into an abusive home, and how her physical & mental health were affected in the womb. She explains how she cured her asthma in 4 weeks by learning how to breathe better. This sparked Jen's passion, and desire to show the world how to breathe.  She reveals that learning to breath properly will help physical and emotional pain - no prescription needed!  Jen says "how we think is a choice, once we realise we have one". Learning to breathe properly is key to taking back ownership of your body and your emotions. Lets choose to breathe, lets choose to think clearly and without stress, lets choose to be emotionally intelligent.   You can find out more on or contact Jen here Jen is offering a FREE half hour consultation this week!  Book here:
April 28, 2021
Do All Comedians Struggle with Mental Health?
Chantal Jax opens up about using humour as a coping mechanism, and the impact that it has on our ability to deal with the root cause of our mental health issues.   Socially we all have the same issues, but just on different spectrums. Jax discusses why we are all scared to admit that we actually all have the same problems. She points out that we can only deal with our struggles once we start normalizing conversations about them. However there is always a dark side as "the person who says it first, when people are not ready to hear it, will always be the person who gets the most flak for it; but that doesn't make the statement untrue". Jax discusses the new post-Covid19 reality, and why we are so scared of facing ourselves. She explains that when we avoiding talking about our problems, we can develop anxiety disorders and mental illnesses. You can find out more about Jax and her comedy show on her @jaxxjustice social media pages.  Always remember that you are not alone, and if you need help you can subscribe to our Emotique services for advice and support with mental health issues:
April 23, 2021
How do men really feel?
Men often feel like they can't speak about their emotions. Roland Rennie opens up about religion and growing up being indoctrinated with toxic masculinity. He discusses how your childhood moulds your emotional response to relationships and determines whether you succeed or fail. Roland reveals what he has learnt from raising 4 kids, and how raising them with love was the best thing he could have done. Please share this video to help normalise men speaking about their emotions.  To find out more you can visit or join our Emotique group for emotional advice.
April 21, 2021
Stop Thinking Ahead
On this episode of The Daily EQ Show Deborah McPhilemy interviews David Pope about male emotion, and living up to his parents standards. David opens up about how his upbringing exacerbated his anxiety and depression from the age of 6. Children who feel anxiety and depression often do not know how to deal with these emotions. David believes that if his teachers had simply asked "how can I be there for you?" he would have been able to better deal with his anxiety and depression. David shares what has helped him get through his anxiety and how he hopes to help others.  To contact David and find out about his course you can visit  If you suffer from anxiety, fear or depression then please reach out on We offer one-on-one emotional intelligence training so that you can learn to master your emotions and take back your life.
April 19, 2021
I’m so Grateful that my Parents take Pride in my Joy instead of my Success
Natasha opens up about her experience with emotional intelligence and why she feels she is emotionally intelligent. She shows that you can develop emotional intelligence at any age, but also how beneficial it can be to develop emotional intelligence at a young age.  Natasha was raised by parents with a very high EQ, who let her play a part in how she was raised. As a result she developed a special outlook on the world, and learnt life's most valuable lesson: do everything from a place of joy.  To learn how to raise your child in an EQ way you can purchase our coaching sessions here: Lets create a generation of EQ children, so that we can fill the world with joy.
April 16, 2021
No Means NO! Rape redefined.
Nicola Date bravely opens up about her experience with rape and how we need to redefine what rape means. We have been hypersexualised and raised with toxic masculinity, but once we change how we are raised, we can end sexual suppression. Teaching children to understand the power of sex is how we can protect them from having non-consensual sex. Comment below to join the conversation, or book an interview with Deborah McPhilemy to be on The Daily EQ Show if you have an empowering story to share. You can find out more at   Please note that this interview is for sensitive viewers and the topic discussed may be found disturbing or offensive.
April 15, 2021
What it Felt like to be Coloured with them all being White.
Deborah speaks to Eve Kelly about her experience as a coloured woman living in post-Apartheid South Africa.   Eve was one of only 15 children admitted to a whites-only school in 1994. In this interview she explains how she felt anxiety because of the colour of her skin, and how she felt pressure from the coloured community to "set the right example".   She discusses how she lived in fear because of how she looked on the outside, and how becoming Emotionally Intelligent has helped her deal with this fear and anxiety.
April 14, 2021
EQ for All, Meet the team
Welcome to The Daily EQ Show, and thank you for tuning in to the first episode. In this episode we discuss why being EQ (Emotionally Intelligent) is important to the  EQ for All team, offering a cross-generational perspective on Emotional Intelligence. You can find out more on or follow us on Instagram @eq_fo_all or Facebook If you are in the UK you can find us on you would like to find out more about our brand ambassadors you can visit our Bears of Blueberry Forest website  Meet the team: Deborah McPhilemy - Founder of the organization who has been a qualified EQ coach for the past 2 decades. Deborah is in her 50s, has many years of experience in life and with EQ, and she will host the show.  Natasha Campbell  - In her 20s, she has a high EQ and Gen Z perspective on emotions and their impact on her interaction with the world. Nicola Date  - Nicola is in her 30s and has always felt emotions deeply. She is learning how to understand and use her emotions to her advantage, and offers a millennial perspective on mental health and raising an EQ daughter. Eve Kelly  - Eve is in her 40s, and has been working in the Emotional Intelligence field for more than a decade. Eve has a very high EQ, she offers a Gen X perspective and insight into raising an EQ son. Roland Rennie - Co-Founder of the organization, Roland is in his 50s and offers insight into the male emotional mind. Roland has worked in the Emotional Intelligence field for the past two decades and has a passion for teaching men how to speak about their feelings.
April 13, 2021
Breaking free from Relationship Abuse
So many people are unaware that we all have an invisible 'magnet' that attracts us to people. A force so strong that it will at times override your intuition, your common sense, and your voice of reason. For 18 years I kept getting back into the same types of relationships over and over again. Relationships that were disempowering, abusive and at times  violent. It was only when I became aware that my own personal magnetism  was creating this vicious cycle, that I was able to change it. In this podcast with Marissa F Cohen and Rob  I discuss what that magnet is and how I broke the cycle. My book The Relationship Magnet is available as an e-book here or as a print book on Amazon. If you can't find it on Amazon, do a search under my name Deborah McPhilemy and you will find it:-) Join my Advice Membership group
March 30, 2021
Feeling Trapped, I can so relate to Meghan Markle
Oprah Winfrey's interview with Meghan Markle and Prince Harry brought up so many of my own feelings of when I moved to the UK ten years ago.  I too felt incredibly trapped, the culture shock was overwhelming, not feeling that I fitted in or was even wanted when I had so much to offer.  What became evident over the years was realising that a lot of my feelings of 'feeling trapped' was having an old belief of having to submit to my husband, that I was not in charge of my own life and decisions, which came from the era I was brought up in.  It took a lot of courage opening up to my husband talking to him about all of this and actually getting him to understand.  Today he is my biggest champion, my supporter my rock.  Today I live in total freedom with him by my side 100%.
March 09, 2021
How to recover from loss
We've all experienced loss in our lives, a loved one, a dream, belongings.  This episode offers you some insight, tips and tools to overcome that loss so that you can move forward.  You can find the link to join my 30 Day Emotional Freedom Challenge here.
August 01, 2020
Whose Voice is in Your Head?
Are you being you?  How will you know?  Find out here
July 17, 2020
The Secret Code to You
If you've ever wanted a crystal ball to tell you more about who you are and what you're meant to do, then you will love this episode!  I speak to Anita Smit, an Intuitive Coach who has a unique talent of being able to read your energy to help you uncover your life path, your soul purpose and more.  I asked Anita in this interview if she would be willing to do a mini introductory workshop and she agree :-).  If you would like to attend, then please join my Facebook Group as I will be announcing when and where it will take place.
May 23, 2020
Deb on Radio 786 re EQ and BEarKind Campaign
We are currently on tour in South Africa with The Bears of Blueberry Forest on a BEarKind anti-bullying campaign. This interview explains what emotional intelligence is and how it can help to put an end to bullying. However, developing emotional intelligence is not only key to combat bullying, it is the foundation to everything in life.  More meaningful relationships, fun-filled friendships, improved grades at school, success at work.  A life filled with more happiness in general.
February 10, 2020
When doing TOO much for others causes YOU to burnout
What I loved most about this chat most was how Linda shares some fantastic tips on how to treat ourselves with the same love and attention as we do others.  Moms, caregivers and entrepreneurs give so much of themselves to others and often we forget about giving to ourselves.  I know that personally I have found it hard to give myself the same love, time and attention that I give to my children, my spouse and the rest of my family.  Linda's tips help you to put this into perspective and helps you to shift your mindset. Linda can be contacted via her website
January 14, 2020
The incredible POWER of Forgiveness
I've personally experienced the power of forgiveness, but never before have I met anyone who has done this!  Lois Wagner was raped and left for dead!  Not only did she forgive the perpetrator, but she did so in person! Listen to Lois' incredible story of strength, courage and grace.  How her act of forgiveness not only freed her but healed her. If you've experienced something similar and need some help healing from it, please get in touch with Lois via her website or find her on Linked In - or
December 16, 2019
You have 5 years to live! What would you do if it was you?
5 Months pregnant, Leanne got up for a pee and passed out landing on her  belly.  When she woke up, she discovered that she was paralyzed. After  months of testing, doctors told her she had 5 years to live! Leanne  shares how this experience led her to re-connecting with herself and  re-creating her life. Leanne can be contacted via her website
December 10, 2019
What is your Reason to Breathe?
This podcast interview literally took my breath away.  Sarah Ross made a decision to end her life, she set her expiry date and went about her life with that in mind, ticking off items on her bucket list along the way.  Little did she know that one of those bucket list items would change her life forever and give her a 'Reason to Breathe'.  Sarah can be contacted via her website or Facebook or Linked in.
December 02, 2019
And they said there was no cure!
Within one year Brenda's life changed from having a successful, busy exciting career and social life to what felt like to her, a living death.  Bed-bound for 8 years, unable to walk, talk, watch TV, listen to radio or even bear sunlight or the slightest noise.  The medical profession told her there was no cure.  She tried every alternative and conventional cure until finally after she retrained her brain, she was cured in 3 days!   Within weeks she was driving around Europe, skiing, skydiving, walking over the top of O2 and has recently Wing Walked on a vintage plane You can contact Brenda via her Facebook Page
November 23, 2019
When having it all does NOT bring happiness
Melissa Howard had it all. Looking from the outside in, you would say she had the dream life, a fantastic job that paid well, a place of her own, a car, no stresses, no worries.  But..... Melissa did not feel happy.  We speak to her about her 'aha' moment, the moment she decided that her life had to change and when she realised that she was the only person who could make that change. You can connect with Melissa here
November 16, 2019