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A Mighty Love - Dating and Relationship Advice

By Demetrius Figueroa
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Ep.165 - Let's answer some Dating Questions
I don't know about you, but I could use a distraction right now. In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) answer dating questions from Reddit. If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, or wherever else you get your podcasts from. If you’d like to support the podcast, you can become a sponsor on Anchor at for as little as $1 a month – anchor.fm/demetrius/support. Photo by Gui Spinardi from Pexels Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There
46:60
November 4, 2020
Ep.164 - Is There a Right Way to End Things?
There are tons of ways to break up with someone that are wrong. Leaving a relationship without saying a word comes to mind. But are there any right ways to end a relationship?  In this episode Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) talk about the right ways to end a relationship. Is ghosting ever okay? (Especially during the pandemic). What sort of break up should in a phone call? Who gets to keep the dog? All those question, plus a surprise at the end of the episode if you listen all the way through. If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, or wherever else you get your podcasts from. If you’d like to support the podcast, you can become a sponsor on Anchor at for as little as $1 a month -  anchor.fm/demetrius/support. Photo by Matilda Wormwood from Pexels Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There
01:00:33
August 19, 2020
Ep.163 - Staying Connected
Hey listeners, welcome back. Did you miss us?  Now more than ever, staying connected to the people you care about is important. In this episode Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) return to the podcast to talk about how we're staying connected. Less dating advice, more relationships advice for those non-romantic, keep-you-sane-during-a-pandemic relationships.  If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, and Google Play Music or wherever you get your podcasts from. If you’d like to support the podcast, you can become a sponsor on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support or Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Photo by Matilda Wormwood from Pexels Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There
01:16:14
July 22, 2020
Ep.162 - Nice Guys vs Good Guys
Striving to be a good person, or even a nice person isn't a bad thing, so why do people complain about "Nice guys"? What makes a guy a "nice guy"?  In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) try to answer those question. We dive into "Nice guy" behavior and how it's usually anything but that. We explore the difference between "Nice guys" and geniunely good dudes, the connection between Nice Guy behaviors and the slippery slope to misogyny, plus, we share what we love. If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, and Google Play Music or wherever you get your podcasts from.   If you’d like to support the podcast, you can become a sponsor on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support or Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There
46:08
August 16, 2019
Ep.161 - What does it mean that show up?
What does it mean to show up? To be there for someone you care for? To be accountable to a partner? In this episode In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) discuss what it means to show up. If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, and Google Play Music or wherever you get your podcasts from. If you’d like to support the podcast, you can become a sponsor on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support or Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There
30:44
June 21, 2019
Ep.160 - A Mighty Lust
Love is fine and all, but what about Lust? Can you tell the difference between liking someone or liking sleeping with them? Are the signs easy to spot?  In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) discuss 7  signs that your connection has more to do with Lust than Love.  If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, and Google Play Music or wherever you get your podcasts from. If you’d like to support the podcast, you can become a sponsor on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support or Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There
29:07
May 24, 2019
Ep.159 - Don't be a dick
A good rule to live by, and the simplest answer to a lot of dating etiquette questions is "Don't be a dick". But what happens when an answer isn't clear. Sure, we all agree that ghosting is generally bad, but is it ever okay? Do you owe someone a rejection if you've never met, just messaged on a dating app? Do you need to break up in person if you've only been on a handful of dates? In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) wanted to answer those questions, and more, for a refresher on dating etiquette. When in doubt, remember to try not to be a dick. If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, and Google Play Music or wherever you get your podcasts from. If you’d like to support the podcast, you can become a sponsor on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support or Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There.
52:36
May 10, 2019
Ep.158 - What's the weirdest dating thing you've done?
If you don't think dating can be weird, have we got some stories for you. In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) get a little weird. What's the weirdest thing you've done on a date? What's the weirdest date you've been on? Want to hear ours?    If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, and Google Play Music or wherever you get your podcasts from. If you’d like to support the podcast, you can become a sponsor on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support or Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There.
47:15
April 19, 2019
Ep.157 - The Lies We Tell Ourselves
You have a hard time dating because you're too much to handle. You suck at relationships because you don't know how to communicate. Ever tell yourself something like that? Maybe it's not even something you tell yourself on a conscious level. In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) wanted to talk about the lies we tell ourselves. Are we every negative thing we say we are? Even if we are those things, can't we change? Can we get past the lies we tell ourselves that hold us back?   If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, and Google Play Music or wherever you get your podcasts from. If you'd like to support the podcast, you can become a sponsor on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support or Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There.
34:36
April 5, 2019
Ep.156 - How to be a Good Friend (with Benefits)
So few of us know how to be good friends, so how are we supposed to be good friends with benefits? With the lines blurring between traditional dating and casual dating, how do you manage to be a good friend, while also being a good partner to someone who you aren't committed to. In this episode,  Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) wanted to talk about what it takes to be a good friend with benefits, how to navigate these sorts of situations, and what to do when you're no longer interested in the benefits, and maybe even the friendship.  If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, and Google Play Music or wherever you get your podcasts from. You can support the podcast on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support and Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There.
39:15
March 20, 2019
Ep.155 – When Couples Fight
Fights are bound to happen in a relationship. Whether it’s big arguments about how to raise or family, or something as small as debating who did the dishes last, a fight between a couple is a normal thing. Until it isn’t, until fighting becomes a fixture of your relationship. In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) wanted to talk about what happens when a couple fights, how to have productive fights, and lay out some ground rules for how a couple can move on from the inevitable fights that will happen. If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, and Google Play Music or wherever you get your podcasts from. You can support the podcast on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support and Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There.
42:08
March 7, 2019
Ep.154 - Dealing with Disappointing Sex
 You meet someone who you really click with.  The chemistry is great, and you decide that you want to sleep with them. So you do, and it's a major disappointment. What do you do? In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) answer that very question. How do you deal with disappointing sex? Can you recover, and if so, how? What should you do if the sex was disappointing because of performance issues? If you want our answer to those questions and more, you know what to do.  If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, and Google Play Music or wherever you get your podcasts from. You can support the podcast on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support and Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There.
34:11
February 20, 2019
Ep.153 – Should I say something?
 Let’s say you’ve got a friend who is dating someone you think is bad for them. Maybe they give you a bad vibe, maybe they treat your friend poorly, or maybe their relationship just seems toxic. Should you say something? We were wondering the same thing. In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) ask “Should I say something if my friend is in a terrible relationship?”. What if they just rub you wrong way? What if you think they’re controlling? Are you willing to make a point and potentially risk a friendship? Listen for our answers. If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, and Google Play Music or wherever you get your podcasts from. You can support the podcast on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support and Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There.
35:40
February 8, 2019
Ep.152 - Why can't we be friends?
 It’s been 30 years since the film “When Harry Met Sally” asked “Can men and women ever just be friends?”, and we wanted to chime in. Inspired by a reader question, and the seminal film, we wanted to answer the question, with a more holistic approach to the answer. In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) tackle the spirit of the question, but update the question to better reflect the world today. Relationships between men and women are only one type of relationship out there, so maybe a better question would be “Can people who’ve dated go back to being just friends?” or “Can people who are attracted to each other ever be just friends?”. If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, and Google Play Music or wherever you get your podcasts from. You can support the podcast on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support and Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There.
41:47
January 25, 2019
Ep.151 – Single Against My Will
Have you ever desperately wanted to not be single, but just can’t seem to find a relationship that works for you? We know what it’s like to feel like you can’t get the one thing you truly want, and we’re here to help. In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) talk about what it’s like to be single against your will, and how you can find a path toward joy and maybe, and end to being single. Plus, our first thing we love of 2019, and lots of positive energy to ring in the new year   If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, and Google Play Music or wherever you get your podcasts from. You can support the podcast on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support and Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There.
34:44
January 9, 2019
Ep.150 – The Man Behind the Microphone
In this episode, we celebrate 150 episodes with a new spin. Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) interviews Demetrius (@DemetriusSays) about life, starting a blog, the podcast, life and love. PGS asks the hard-hitting questions: What advice would you give to your younger self? How did your family nurture creativity? Should we teach a class for men on social etiquette? What about witches? We give you a peek at the man behind the microphone, and the journey to A Mighty Love as it stands today. We close out with some listeners shouting out their love: Allison (@allisona15), Mary (@NewYorkCliche), Bianca (@newgirllbianca), and more. You can support the podcast on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support and Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There.
51:59
December 5, 2018
Ep.149 - What can you learn from Pop Culture Relationships
If you can't tell, we're a big fan of looking at the confluence of pop culture and modern romance. We love thinking of the impact of what we see in pop culture and how it informs how we love, who we date, and what bad behaviors we're willing to let slide. To that end, we wanted to take a look at 4 fictional couples and treat them the way we would if they were real. Honest advice about fictional couples that, hopefully, can help you with your own love life if you recognize any parallels. What would you say to a couple like Don and Betty Draper? What could you learn from a couple like Morticia and Gomez Addams? What can Ross and Rachel teach us about defining and continuing to define a relationship? How true to life is a relationship like Miranda and Steve's? Listen to this episode and find out. You can support the podcast on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support and Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There.
42:41
November 21, 2018
Ep.148 - Closure
What do you do when the closure you want just isn't there? When all you want is for your ex to be truly honest with you about what went wrong, and you know you'll never get it? We wanted to talk about Closure, and how to make it for yourself, so in this episode we touch on: -Why it's a good idea to mourn the end of a relationship -How talking (or writing!) about your breakup can be cathartic -The importance of being kind to yourself
33:16
November 7, 2018
Ep.147 - Our Best BAD Advice
There's a lot of good to great dating and relationship advice out there, but there is a ton of it that's bad. Don't get me wrong, we love bad advice...when it's satirical. Inspired by the Bad Advice Column on The Establishment, a reader question, and questions pulled from Dear Prudence and Savage Love, we bring you our best Bad Advice.  What does a boyfriend who is reluctant to have period sex, a middle-aged virgin who wants to lose their virginity, a mother who wants her son's fling to keep their love child, a woman burned by a dishonest polyamorous partner, and someone afraid to lose their girlfriend have in common? Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I answered all their questions with some of our best bad advice before giving them honest to goodness real advice. In addition to our bad dating advice, we tackle a reader submitted question with real, honest dating advice. Plus, we recommend a drop cloth for sex, discuss why bad dating experiences should make you hopeful, and talk about what we loved and hated this week. You can support the podcast on Anchor at anchor.fm/demetrius/support and Patreon at patreon.com/amightylove. Thank you for listening and Good Luck Out There.
53:23
October 24, 2018
Ep.146 - 10 Ways to Lose Someone
As hard as it is to find someone you like, sometimes it’s just as hard trying to keep them. There are so many ways to lose someone, we wanted to highlight 10 ways to lose someone. We took a half humorous, half serious approach to look at 10 ways you can lose someone, inspired by the classic rom-com How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days. Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I came up with 10 ways we've either lost someone or were made to want to leave. Don't worry, we've got some good advice mixed in with the humor, tangents, and anecdotes. What better way to learn than from our past mistakes? PLUS, what we loved this week, which we 
44:43
October 10, 2018
EP.145 – Dating Trends you NEED to know
Remember when someone first told you about the dating trend we call ghosting? So simple, so easy to understand, and very relatable. Then things went off the rail. Ghosting I get, but Breadcrumbing? Orbiting? Gatsbying? Freckling!?!? What do those even mean? So we thought, instead of hating on the clickbait, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I figured we’d lean into the b.s. and come up with our own Dating Trends you’ve never heard of, no one will ever actually use in conversation, but somehow you NEED to know. So the next time someone talks about Appnesia, or Stream Swapping, you can tell them you learned all about these trends from this very episode! PLUS, what we loved and hated this week, one correction from the last episode, and we extol the virtue of NYC Public School free breakfast and lunch.
33:23
September 26, 2018
Ep.144 - Milestones
Figuring out the appropriate gift or action to take to celebrate milestones can be tough. You want to find a balance between acknowledging a milestone, not overdoing it, all while making sure what you do is thoughtful. A tough balancing act for sure. In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) talk all about Milestones, and how best to celebrate them with a partner. How do you celebrate Valentine's Day when you've only been dating for a month? What's the best way to celebrate an anniversary after 10 years of being together? PLUS, we talk about the favorite things we love and why it might be a good idea to get proposed to at a Firestone Tire Center.
55:21
September 12, 2018
Ep.143 - Love Languages
Do you know about Love Languages? The five ways to express and experience love that Gary Chapman proposed in his book "The Five Love Languages": receiving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service (devotion), and physical touch? It's a topic that we find interesting, so we set out to tackle it. In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) talk all about love languages. We share the results from our own quick Love Language test, our experiences dating people with varying primary love languages, what to do when your partner has a love language that they place a lot of emphasis on that may not resonate with you, and finally, we propose some new love languages for the modern dating world. PLUS, our favorite things we love, hate, or both.
43:27
September 5, 2018
Ep.142 - Let's talk about Baggage
People say that you shouldn't bring the baggage from your previous romantic experiences into a new relationship, but is that possible? Can people ever really get over the baggage they might have and move on, or are we all doomed to keep making the same mistakes? Do we all have baggage? In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I wanted to talk about Baggage. We have a frank conversation about baggage from a ton of different angles. If you've ever wondered what it's like to date someone with baggage they refuse to address, or whether or not we think everyone has baggage, you'll find answer to these questions (and some questions you probably weren't even thinking of asking) in this episode. Plus, our favorite things (from about a month ago).
54:28
September 5, 2018
Ep.141 - How do you stop a relationship from fizzling?
How do you keep a relationship from fizzling? Why does the spark start to fizzle in relationships, and what can you do to stop it? If you've ever asked any of these questions, I think we have an answer for you.  In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I wanted to tackle these questions. We share what it's like when you're in a relationship that seems to be fizzling, what you can and should do, what you absolutely should never do if you hope to revive the spark in your relationship. We get into what we loved and hated this week, good and bad celebrity sightings, the importance of being intentional with time spent with your partner, and why it's never a good idea to email your grievances to your partner.
34:33
July 19, 2018
Ep.140 - Let's talk about Sex
Sex and dating often go hand in hand, so what would a podcast about love be without an episode on Sex. In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I wanted to talk about Sex. The rules we create around sex, whether it's possible to get past bad sex, how to show someone you're interested in sex, and a whole bunch more. We get into what we loved and hated this week, our thoughts on Pride Month, Steve Harvey's mustache, and how mediocre sex can be like cold pizza.
01:09:51
June 29, 2018
Ep.139 - Let's make your dating profile better
We know a thing or two about what makes for a good dating profile, you should let us tell you how to make yours better! In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I give some tips on how to make your dating profile better, more appealing to the people you want to attract, and more importantly, how to date use dating sites in a way that works for you. As always we spotlight some things we love, some things we hate, and give you advice we think will work for you.
52:54
June 13, 2018
Ep.138 - Pop Culture and Love
If you're a fan of the podcast, you know that we're big pop culture heads and obviously love and relationships, and this episode is a great blend of those two themes. Do you ever go back and re-experience something you experienced when you were younger, whether it's a song, movie, or other form of pop-culture, and realize just how poorly it's aged. You know what seems to age even more poorly? Depictions of love, dating, and relationships in Pop Culture. Of course, there are some examples that stand the test of time, so we wanted to show those pieces of pop culture a bit of love too. In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I talk about some depictions of love in pop culture that we love and like a little less. Sorry in advance if we ruin your childhood. As always we spotlight some things we love, some things we hate, and give you that sweet, sweet banter you’ve been waiting for. Plus, a special shout out to Mary Lane of New York Cliche.
49:19
May 23, 2018
Ep.137 - What do your racial preferences in dating say about you?
The second episode of the relaunch may ruffle some feathers, but that's okay. We wanted to tackle preferences in dating, specifically racial preferences in dating, with as much nuance and  as possible. It's worth a listen, if for no other reason than to have your beliefs challenged a bit. Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and talk about what your racial preferences in dating say about you, society as a whole, how people use race as shorthand for culture, and so much more. We spotlight some things we love, some things we hate, and give you that sweet, sweet banter you've been waiting for.
55:28
May 14, 2018
Ep.136 - Are your dating rules hurting you?
Welcome to the first episode of the relaunched podcast. I think you'll like it. If you didn't hear, I've got a new cohost. She's Polyam Gal Seeks  (@Polygalseeks on Twitter). She's an awesome cohost who bring a different perspective on life and love. If you aren't already, and catch up on previous episodes we've recorded together (Ep.114, Ep.126, and Ep.127).  In this episode we wanted to discuss the role that self-imposed dating rules can play on your dating life. Are they helping you, are they hurting you, are they worth holding onto? We tackle that, and more, in this episode, plus a whole bunch of segues, and tangents.
01:02:05
May 7, 2018
Ep.135 - It's never too late to change your love life
It's never too late to change your love life. Something I hope you know is true, and the theme of this episode. It might feel like you're stuck with your lot in your (love) life, but I promise you, you're not.
10:44
May 21, 2017
Ep.134 - 7 Red Flags To Watch Out For When Dating
This week, I wanted to talk about Red Flags. What red flags to look out for before and during your relationship, and how to spot them. I wanted to focus on red flags that are pretty common, because while there will always be red flags that are specific to your wants and needs, there are many that should be universal red flags. Here’s what you can expect in this episode: - 7 Red flags and how to spot them - Why I won't date non-readers - A Scottie Pippen trivia factoid
14:35
May 13, 2017
Ep.133 - How do you find the right person for you?
Today I wanted to talk to you about how to find the right person for you. We're all looking for different things in a partner, or our romantic searches, but how we go about finding what we're looking for can be the same. Whether you're looking for someone for right now, or the rest of your life, I believe that these tips will help.
13:06
May 7, 2017
Ep.132 - How to bounce back from a Rejection
In this week's episode, I wanted to talk about bouncing back from rejection in a way that focuses on what you can do to bounce back, with a focus on changing how you view rejections. Basically, focus on the internal, how you feel, versus the external. Instead of strategies that rely on actions, like looking for rebounds, I want to focus more on changing how you think about rejections. Here’s what you can expect in this episode: -How to give yourself perspective after a rejection -The importance of seeing the silver lining in a rejection -Why rejections have nothing to do with your self-worth -How to tell if it's a good time to take a break from dating
13:18
April 29, 2017