A Mighty Love - Dating and Relationship Advice
By Demetrius Figueroa
A Mighty Love - Dating and Relationship AdviceMay 14, 2018
Ep.165 - Let's answer some Dating Questions
I don't know about you, but I could use a distraction right now. In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) answer dating questions from Reddit.
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Ep.164 - Is There a Right Way to End Things?
There are tons of ways to break up with someone that are wrong. Leaving a relationship without saying a word comes to mind. But are there any right ways to end a relationship? In this episode Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) talk about the right ways to end a relationship. Is ghosting ever okay? (Especially during the pandemic). What sort of break up should in a phone call? Who gets to keep the dog? All those question, plus a surprise at the end of the episode if you listen all the way through.
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Ep.163 - Staying Connected
Hey listeners, welcome back. Did you miss us?
Now more than ever, staying connected to the people you care about is important. In this episode Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) return to the podcast to talk about how we're staying connected. Less dating advice, more relationships advice for those non-romantic, keep-you-sane-during-a-pandemic relationships.
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Ep.162 - Nice Guys vs Good Guys
Striving to be a good person, or even a nice person isn't a bad thing, so why do people complain about "Nice guys"? What makes a guy a "nice guy"?
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) try to answer those question. We dive into "Nice guy" behavior and how it's usually anything but that. We explore the difference between "Nice guys" and geniunely good dudes, the connection between Nice Guy behaviors and the slippery slope to misogyny, plus, we share what we love.
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Ep.161 - What does it mean that show up?
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Ep.160 - A Mighty Lust
Love is fine and all, but what about Lust? Can you tell the difference between liking someone or liking sleeping with them? Are the signs easy to spot?
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) discuss 7 signs that your connection has more to do with Lust than Love.
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Ep.159 - Don't be a dick
A good rule to live by, and the simplest answer to a lot of dating etiquette questions is "Don't be a dick". But what happens when an answer isn't clear. Sure, we all agree that ghosting is generally bad, but is it ever okay? Do you owe someone a rejection if you've never met, just messaged on a dating app? Do you need to break up in person if you've only been on a handful of dates?
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) wanted to answer those questions, and more, for a refresher on dating etiquette. When in doubt, remember to try not to be a dick.
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Ep.158 - What's the weirdest dating thing you've done?
If you don't think dating can be weird, have we got some stories for you.
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) get a little weird. What's the weirdest thing you've done on a date? What's the weirdest date you've been on? Want to hear ours?
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Ep.157 - The Lies We Tell Ourselves
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) wanted to talk about the lies we tell ourselves. Are we every negative thing we say we are? Even if we are those things, can't we change? Can we get past the lies we tell ourselves that hold us back?
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Ep.156 - How to be a Good Friend (with Benefits)
So few of us know how to be good friends, so how are we supposed to be good friends with benefits? With the lines blurring between traditional dating and casual dating, how do you manage to be a good friend, while also being a good partner to someone who you aren't committed to.
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) wanted to talk about what it takes to be a good friend with benefits, how to navigate these sorts of situations, and what to do when you're no longer interested in the benefits, and maybe even the friendship.
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Ep.155 – When Couples Fight
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) wanted to talk about what happens when a couple fights, how to have productive fights, and lay out some ground rules for how a couple can move on from the inevitable fights that will happen. If you liked this episode, subscribe on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, and Google Play Music or wherever you get your podcasts from.
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Ep.154 - Dealing with Disappointing Sex
You meet someone who you really click with. The chemistry is great, and you decide that you want to sleep with them. So you do, and it's a major disappointment. What do you do?
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) answer that very question. How do you deal with disappointing sex? Can you recover, and if so, how? What should you do if the sex was disappointing because of performance issues? If you want our answer to those questions and more, you know what to do.
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Ep.153 – Should I say something?
Let’s say you’ve got a friend who is dating someone you think is bad for them. Maybe they give you a bad vibe, maybe they treat your friend poorly, or maybe their relationship just seems toxic. Should you say something?
We were wondering the same thing. In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) ask “Should I say something if my friend is in a terrible relationship?”. What if they just rub you wrong way? What if you think they’re controlling? Are you willing to make a point and potentially risk a friendship? Listen for our answers.
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Ep.152 - Why can't we be friends?
It’s been 30 years since the film “When Harry Met Sally” asked “Can men and women ever just be friends?”, and we wanted to chime in. Inspired by a reader question, and the seminal film, we wanted to answer the question, with a more holistic approach to the answer.
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) tackle the spirit of the question, but update the question to better reflect the world today. Relationships between men and women are only one type of relationship out there, so maybe a better question would be “Can people who’ve dated go back to being just friends?” or “Can people who are attracted to each other ever be just friends?”.
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Ep.151 – Single Against My Will
Have you ever desperately wanted to not be single, but just can’t seem to find a relationship that works for you? We know what it’s like to feel like you can’t get the one thing you truly want, and we’re here to help.
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and Demetrius (@DemetriusSays on Twitter) talk about what it’s like to be single against your will, and how you can find a path toward joy and maybe, and end to being single. Plus, our first thing we love of 2019, and lots of positive energy to ring in the new year
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Ep.150 – The Man Behind the Microphone
PGS asks the hard-hitting questions: What advice would you give to your younger self? How did your family nurture creativity? Should we teach a class for men on social etiquette? What about witches? We give you a peek at the man behind the microphone, and the journey to A Mighty Love as it stands today.
We close out with some listeners shouting out their love: Allison (@allisona15), Mary (@NewYorkCliche), Bianca (@newgirllbianca), and more.
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Ep.149 - What can you learn from Pop Culture Relationships
What would you say to a couple like Don and Betty Draper? What could you learn from a couple like Morticia and Gomez Addams? What can Ross and Rachel teach us about defining and continuing to define a relationship? How true to life is a relationship like Miranda and Steve's? Listen to this episode and find out.
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Ep.148 - Closure
We wanted to talk about Closure, and how to make it for yourself, so in this episode we touch on:
-Why it's a good idea to mourn the end of a relationship
-How talking (or writing!) about your breakup can be cathartic
-The importance of being kind to yourself
Ep.147 - Our Best BAD Advice
What does a boyfriend who is reluctant to have period sex, a middle-aged virgin who wants to lose their virginity, a mother who wants her son's fling to keep their love child, a woman burned by a dishonest polyamorous partner, and someone afraid to lose their girlfriend have in common? Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I answered all their questions with some of our best bad advice before giving them honest to goodness real advice.
In addition to our bad dating advice, we tackle a reader submitted question with real, honest dating advice. Plus, we recommend a drop cloth for sex, discuss why bad dating experiences should make you hopeful, and talk about what we loved and hated this week.
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Ep.146 - 10 Ways to Lose Someone
Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I came up with 10 ways we've either lost someone or were made to want to leave. Don't worry, we've got some good advice mixed in with the humor, tangents, and anecdotes. What better way to learn than from our past mistakes? PLUS, what we loved this week, which we
EP.145 – Dating Trends you NEED to know
So we thought, instead of hating on the clickbait, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I figured we’d lean into the b.s. and come up with our own Dating Trends you’ve never heard of, no one will ever actually use in conversation, but somehow you NEED to know. So the next time someone talks about Appnesia, or Stream Swapping, you can tell them you learned all about these trends from this very episode! PLUS, what we loved and hated this week, one correction from the last episode, and we extol the virtue of NYC Public School free breakfast and lunch.
Ep.144 - Milestones
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) talk all about Milestones, and how best to celebrate them with a partner. How do you celebrate Valentine's Day when you've only been dating for a month? What's the best way to celebrate an anniversary after 10 years of being together? PLUS, we talk about the favorite things we love and why it might be a good idea to get proposed to at a Firestone Tire Center.
Ep.143 - Love Languages
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) talk all about love languages. We share the results from our own quick Love Language test, our experiences dating people with varying primary love languages, what to do when your partner has a love language that they place a lot of emphasis on that may not resonate with you, and finally, we propose some new love languages for the modern dating world. PLUS, our favorite things we love, hate, or both.
Ep.142 - Let's talk about Baggage
We have a frank conversation about baggage from a ton of different angles. If you've ever wondered what it's like to date someone with baggage they refuse to address, or whether or not we think everyone has baggage, you'll find answer to these questions (and some questions you probably weren't even thinking of asking) in this episode. Plus, our favorite things (from about a month ago).
Ep.141 - How do you stop a relationship from fizzling?
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I wanted to tackle these questions. We share what it's like when you're in a relationship that seems to be fizzling, what you can and should do, what you absolutely should never do if you hope to revive the spark in your relationship.
We get into what we loved and hated this week, good and bad celebrity sightings, the importance of being intentional with time spent with your partner, and why it's never a good idea to email your grievances to your partner.
Ep.140 - Let's talk about Sex
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I wanted to talk about Sex. The rules we create around sex, whether it's possible to get past bad sex, how to show someone you're interested in sex, and a whole bunch more.
We get into what we loved and hated this week, our thoughts on Pride Month, Steve Harvey's mustache, and how mediocre sex can be like cold pizza.
Ep.139 - Let's make your dating profile better
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I give some tips on how to make your dating profile better, more appealing to the people you want to attract, and more importantly, how to date use dating sites in a way that works for you. As always we spotlight some things we love, some things we hate, and give you advice we think will work for you.
Ep.138 - Pop Culture and Love
Do you ever go back and re-experience something you experienced when you were younger, whether it's a song, movie, or other form of pop-culture, and realize just how poorly it's aged. You know what seems to age even more poorly? Depictions of love, dating, and relationships in Pop Culture. Of course, there are some examples that stand the test of time, so we wanted to show those pieces of pop culture a bit of love too.
In this episode, Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and I talk about some depictions of love in pop culture that we love and like a little less. Sorry in advance if we ruin your childhood. As always we spotlight some things we love, some things we hate, and give you that sweet, sweet banter you’ve been waiting for. Plus, a special shout out to Mary Lane of New York Cliche.
Ep.137 - What do your racial preferences in dating say about you?
Polyam Gal Seeks (@Polygalseeks on Twitter) and talk about what your racial preferences in dating say about you, society as a whole, how people use race as shorthand for culture, and so much more. We spotlight some things we love, some things we hate, and give you that sweet, sweet banter you've been waiting for.
Ep.136 - Are your dating rules hurting you?
In this episode we wanted to discuss the role that self-imposed dating rules can play on your dating life. Are they helping you, are they hurting you, are they worth holding onto? We tackle that, and more, in this episode, plus a whole bunch of segues, and tangents.
Ep.135 - It's never too late to change your love life
Ep.134 - 7 Red Flags To Watch Out For When Dating
Here’s what you can expect in this episode:
- 7 Red flags and how to spot them
- Why I won't date non-readers
- A Scottie Pippen trivia factoid
Ep.133 - How do you find the right person for you?
Ep.132 - How to bounce back from a Rejection
Here’s what you can expect in this episode:
-How to give yourself perspective after a rejection
-The importance of seeing the silver lining in a rejection
-Why rejections have nothing to do with your self-worth
-How to tell if it's a good time to take a break from dating