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Dirty Chai Chats

Dirty Chai Chats

By Tufts Sex Health Reps

Dirty Chai Chats is a podcast series all about sexual health, love, and relationships at Tufts. This podcast was founded and produced by Florence Almeda and Giovana Torres-Lorenzotti in collaboration with the Tufts Observer and Tufts Sex Health Reps (SHR) in March of 2021. Since then, Dirty Chai Chats has become an integral part of SHR's platform to discuss relevant topics related to sex health. To learn more about SHR visit @TUFTSSHR on Instagram.

Cover art by Paige Duff and Sofia Pretell.
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S4 Ep6: Peeling Back the History of HIV/AIDS and Queer Sex Health
S4 Ep6: Peeling Back the History of HIV/AIDS and Queer Sex Health
In this episode of Dirty Chai Chats, join sex health rep Henry in discussing and debriefing the history of HIV and AIDS. Once labeled the “gay disease,” HIV/AIDS fundamentally changes how we look at queer sex health of present. He’ll dive into the politics of HIV/AIDS, how the legacy of the virus impacts modern queer life, and the basics of HIV prevention. 
10:40
November 29, 2022
S4 Ep5: Make Me CUM!
S4 Ep5: Make Me CUM!
In this Dirty Chai Chats episode, "Make Me CUM!", join sex health reps Zora, Julia, Gio, and Sofie in a round table conversation on sexual exploration, pleasure, and the struggle for orgasm for people with vulvas. Our recent Hump Day question inspired this episode, "I'm a cis woman. I can orgasm alone, no problem, but I always struggle when I'm with a partner. What can I do?" Topics include factors in arousal, performance anxiety, masturbation, the pleasure gap, and tips and tricks. Please note that this episode focuses primarily on the experiences of cis women. This episode was produced by Zora Dyer, Gio Torres-Lorenzotti, Sofie Lasko, and Julia Gonzalez. This episode was edited by Julia Gonzalez. To learn more about Tufts Sex Health Reps Visit: Sex Health Reps Instagram  SHR's linktree  Join Our E-list
39:57
November 15, 2022
S4 Ep4: Relationship Violence: a talk with Emma Cohen
S4 Ep4: Relationship Violence: a talk with Emma Cohen
As a part of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, we’re welcoming back Emma Cohen, Associate Prevention and Response Specialist with the CARE office. She’s here talking with one of our reps Lucy Morison about what relationship violence looks like in young adult relationships, what to watch out for, and where you can go if you need help. The CARE office is an amazing Tufts resource — you can reach out to them if you want to talk about an experience in an unhealthy relationship, or anything to do with sex and/or relationships. This episode was produced by Lucy Morison and Paige Duff, and edited by Gio Torres-Lorenzotti. To make a confidential appointment with CARE, click here: To access the Power and Control wheel, click here:  To access the Equality Wheel, click here:  *CONTENT WARNING: This episode will be discussing domestic violence.*
18:06
October 27, 2022
S4 Ep3: Dirty Té Chats
S4 Ep3: Dirty Té Chats
In collaboration with the Latinx Center, Sex Health Rep Julia González chats with 4 special guests: Audrey, Liani Astacio, Alan Veloz, and Angel Cruz-Salvador, to celebrate Latine Heritage month and have an open conversation about sex, love, and relationships in the Latine community. Topics include dating while latine, queerness, fetishization, family dynamics and gender roles, and more. This episode was edited by Sex Health Rep Jessica Lomasney.  . . To learn more about the Latinx Center visit:  Latinx Center Student Life Website  Tufts Latinx Center Instagram  Tufts Latinx Center linktree  To learn more about Tufts Sex Health Reps Visit:  Sex Health Reps Instagram  SHR's linktree  Join Our E-list
38:32
October 13, 2022
S4 Ep2 pt.2: Polyamory Explained with Dr. Eli Sheff
S4 Ep2 pt.2: Polyamory Explained with Dr. Eli Sheff
In part one, Polyamorist expert Dr. Eli Sheff discussed what polyamory and nonmonogamy are on a foundational level. In the second part of this episode, Dri. Eli Sheff delves deeper into polyamory. Some of the questions that are explored in this episode are: Can anyone mold themselves into a polyamorous relationship? If an individual is in a long-term relationship, how can they go about negotiating the terms of their monogamy? Is there a way to determine how well we bond with others? -------------  Learn more about Dr. Eli Sheff and her work linked below! Linktree Bonding Project Sheff Consulting Website Psychology Today Blog Twitter Facebook
25:05
October 03, 2022
S4 Ep2 pt.1: Polyamory Explained with Dr. Eli Sheff
S4 Ep2 pt.1: Polyamory Explained with Dr. Eli Sheff
What is polyamory? What distinguishes polyamory from other practices of nonmonogamy? How does one go about navigating relationships shifting from monogamy to polyamory? Leading polyamorist expert Dr. Eli Sheff delves into these questions to establish a foundation of polyamory and practices of nonmonogamy and how individuals can explore this in their own life. Tune in next week for part two of this conversation. Learn more about Dr. Eli Sheff and her work linked below! Dr. Eli Sheff's Consulting Website Linktree Psychology Today Blog Bonding Project Twitter Facebook LinkedIn
24:08
September 25, 2022
Sex & Disability Miniseries Ep 3: Learning from Love on the Spectrum with Jennifer Cook
Sex & Disability Miniseries Ep 3: Learning from Love on the Spectrum with Jennifer Cook
Casey is back with the final episode of the Sex & Disability Miniseries. Today, they share a conversation with Jennifer Cook, best-selling author and autism expert on Netflix’s Love on the Spectrum. They talk about navigating college and dating with autism, supporting friends and partners who are on the spectrum, and coaching strategies from the show. Content warning: this episode does include mention of eating disorders, sexual violence, and abusive relationships. Here are links to all the resources discussed in the podcast, and feel free to visit the CARE office in the Campus Center to check out Jennifer’s books: The Asperkid’s Secret Book of Social Rules, Sisterhood of the Spectrum, and Autism in Heels. Jennifer's Instagram Jennifer's Website The Chicklist Checklist Here is a link to the full transcript for this episode.
29:11
August 19, 2022
Sex & Disability Miniseries Ep 2: Sexual Self-Advocacy with Frank Vaca
Sex & Disability Miniseries Ep 2: Sexual Self-Advocacy with Frank Vaca
Casey is back to share an excellent conversation with Frank Vaca, an ELEVATUS peer educator and support coordinator for the Michigan Disability Rights Coalition. In this episode, we talk about sexual self-advocacy, the overlap of queerness and neurodivergence, and strategies for inclusive peer education. Check out Frank’s website and the resources/organizations discussed in the podcast: Frank's Blog Michigan Disability Rights Coalition End Abuse of People with Disabilities @able.tufts on Instagram @tuftsdiverseminds on Instagram @crehanlab on Instagram Massachusetts Advocates Standing Strong Rainbow Groups Here is a link to the full transcript for this episode.
10:17
August 12, 2022
Sex & Disability Miniseries Ep 1: Sex Education Accessibility with Katherine McLaughlin
Sex & Disability Miniseries Ep 1: Sex Education Accessibility with Katherine McLaughlin
CARE summer intern Casey Weaver shares an incredible conversation with Katherine McLaughlin, the founder and CEO of Elevatus Training, an organization that creates and delivers sex education curriculum to people with intellectual and developmental disabilities. In this informative episode, Katherine speaks from her 25 years of experience as a sexuality educator and provides personal anecdotes, giving insight on increasing social media accessibility and dismantling ableism within our culture of dating, hookups, and sex ed. Here are some resources Katherine mentions in the podcast: ELEVATUS Training Podcast: Cripping Up Sex with Eva Disability After Dark Plain Language Checklist Here is a link to the full transcript for this episode.
18:52
August 05, 2022
S4 Ep 1: A Conversation with Justine Ang Fonte
S4 Ep 1: A Conversation with Justine Ang Fonte
Outgoing co-host Flo Almeda and Sex Health Rep Nikki Peters share a wonderful conversation Justine Ang Fonte, M.Ed, MPH, an internationally recognized intersectional sex health educator, speaker, consultant — and creator of an instagram account called @_good.byes_ in which she writes and posts scripts for how to respectfully set boundaries within relationships. In this episode, Justine talks about the evolution of this account, trends she’s seen around boundary setting in the digital age, and more. Be sure to follow Justine’s work on IG: @imjustineaf, her ghostwriting account, @_good.byes_ and her website https://www.justinefonte.com/
33:32
July 22, 2022
S3 Ep5: Emma From CARE Discusses Navigating Sex With Triggers
S3 Ep5: Emma From CARE Discusses Navigating Sex With Triggers
As part of sexual assault awareness month, we have invited Emma, Associate Prevention and Response Specialist from the CARE office, to discuss navigating sex with triggers. To learn more about this topic, you can head over to CARE’s Instagram @CARETUFTS and read their post on “Navigating Sex With Triggers.” The CARE office is an excellent confidential resource to talk about sex and relationships, whether around a sexual experience, assault, or concerns about a relationship, and learn more about this topic. To make a confidential appointment with CARE, you can head over to: https://care.tufts.edu/ *Content warning: This episode will discuss the topic of sexual assault and triggers.*
20:27
April 25, 2022
S3 Ep4: Grindr and Protecting your Personal Well-Being
S3 Ep4: Grindr and Protecting your Personal Well-Being
What is Grindr? How does it work differently than other dating apps? What things should I consider during and while using the app? Sex Health Rep Henry delves deeper into protecting your safety and well-being while using Grindr. You can check out SHR’s recent Sexy Saturday post on this topic by going to our Instagram @TuftsSHR
08:44
March 09, 2022
S3 Ep3: The Basics of Sexual Aftercare
S3 Ep3: The Basics of Sexual Aftercare
What is aftercare? Why is it important? How can I practice aftercare? Inspired by a recent “Sexy Saturday” post on SHR’s Instagram, Tess delves into these questions surrounding aftercare. To read this Sexy Saturday, visit SHR’s Instagram page @TUFTSSHR
08:41
March 03, 2022
S3 Ep2: Field trip to Good Vibrations, a local sex shop
S3 Ep2: Field trip to Good Vibrations, a local sex shop
Have you ever wondered what it is like to go to a local sex shop? In this week's episode, Sex Health Reps Julia, Nikki, Tess, Sofie, Gio, and Flo, take a field trip to Good Vibrations in Harvard Square. Tasked to explore different sections of the store, they came back to the studio to reflect upon the accessibility, selection, and price ranges in the shop.
12:33
February 14, 2022
S3 Ep1: Intro to Love Languages
S3 Ep1: Intro to Love Languages
What are the five different love languages? What do I do if I have a different love language than my partner? In this episode, Gio, one of SHR’s coordinators, explores how to navigate conflicting love languages with useful tips and examples.
11:22
February 04, 2022
S2 Ep3: SHR takes on LDR
S2 Ep3: SHR takes on LDR
The topic of long-distance relationships (LDR) is one that Sex Health Reps get asked about frequently. As Tufts is now on winter break and people may be studying abroad during the spring semester, there could not be a better time to try and tackle LDR. In this episode, Julia, Zora, Hana, and Gio share valuable strategies to navigate some of the difficult things that come up in a LDR.
29:42
December 24, 2021
S2 Ep2: A Dating Profile Makeover
S2 Ep2: A Dating Profile Makeover
In Episode 2, Gio and Flo take apart their friend's dating profile. 
14:01
November 29, 2021
S2 Ep1: Our Takes on Dating Apps
S2 Ep1: Our Takes on Dating Apps
In our first episode of the semester, Gio and Flo invite Sex Health Reps Maeve and John for a lively round table discussion on dating apps. We discuss our takes on our personal favorites, what we think different apps are used for and why, and our experiences using them on a college campus.
18:28
October 26, 2021
S1 Ep3: Relationships and Dating During Covid (Part 2)
S1 Ep3: Relationships and Dating During Covid (Part 2)
In the final episode of the first season of Dirty Chai Chats, Gio & Flo dive into their personal experiences of navigating relationships during the pandemic. From the idea of the “bubble” to dating apps, to campus hookup culture and testing, they touch upon several ways in which this year has reshaped the way in which we communicate and relate to one another.
17:36
May 22, 2021
S1 Ep3: Relationships and Dating During Covid (Part 1)
S1 Ep3: Relationships and Dating During Covid (Part 1)
In Part 1 of the Relationships and Dating During Covid episode, Gio & Flo answer questions about from our listeners about coming up with creative, Covid-safe date ideas, managing fears, and coping with loneliness. Stay tuned for Part 2 where we will be talking about our personal experiences navigating relationships in the time of Covid.
17:45
April 23, 2021
S1 Ep2: Smut Slam, Where Storytelling Meets Sexy
S1 Ep2: Smut Slam, Where Storytelling Meets Sexy
Welcome to the Smut Slam episode! The Smut Slam is traditionally an annual open mic held by the Tufts Sex Health reps where students submit their funniest, freakiest, most embarrassing sex stories. This year, we’re excited to be hosting this event in the form of a podcast episode. We’ve invited a few anonymous readers to narrate some of the best story submissions that were received.  Instructions: You’ll hear 20 stories over the course of this episode, each of which will be introduced with a number. At the end, you’ll be able to vote on favorite stories so be sure to take notes on the number that correlates to your top 3 choices. Voting will take place from Friday April 9th-Sunday April 11th on Sex Health Rep instagram story @TUFTSSHR. Winning stories will be announced Monday April 12th and the slammers will have an opportunity to collect their prizes. On the SHR instagram you’ll also find a post with a bingo board that you can use to organize a safe listening party with you and your friends. Check out the time stamps below if you want to relisten to any of your favorite stories. 1- 1:40  2- 2:17  3 - 5:30  4 - 5:55  5 - 7:55  6 -11:49  7 - 12:53 8 - 13:43  9 - 15:08  10 - 16:15  11 - 16:36  12 - 17:03  13 - 20:29  14 - 21:28  15 - 23:17  16 - 25:07  17 - 28:18  18 - 28:45  19 - 31:20 20 - 32:20 
35:41
April 09, 2021
S1 Ep1: Pleasure and Communication
S1 Ep1: Pleasure and Communication
For our very first episode, we're talking all about pleasure, communication, consent, and self advocacy. Listen to an interview with Ariel Watriss, Nurse Practitioner at Tufts Health Services and Sex Health consultant to CARE (Center for Awareness, Resources, and Education) to get her take on what pleasure and communication look like at Tufts.
34:04
March 15, 2021