Divorce Cowboy

Men are often shocked by the separation. It's because we're living in a world with a false narrative teaching men to be "Male Mules".

Hi, I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach.

70%-80% of separations are initiated by women. Here's my take on why.

Hi, I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach.

How do you risk manage a separation, and what are anchor statements.

Hi, I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach.

A few years ago I was going through separation. One of the things I've tried was equine therapy. Guess I liked it as now I'm an equine therapist.

Hi, I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach.

I share another piece of my journal from June 2020 (Said May in the recording) . How angry and sad I feel. Still on the emotional rollercoaster. Appreciating what I've achieved and how far I came in the last 4 years.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

I share another piece of my journal from May 2020. How I communicated my boundaries, changed my people pleasing default and found I'm good enough.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

Daniel shares his separation journey and experience in the Divorce Cowboy program, including how he was when we first met, what it takes to succeed in the program and where he's now.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

Me having enough. Taking ownership. Creating boundaries. Done with people pleasing.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

Covid time is bringing me to think about my boundaries. I start thinking about my future and develop an understanding of self-care.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

First connection/date brings up some questions about my ex.

How much am I still connected to her? What will I do if she find someone?

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

Separation was the most challenging thing I've ever went through.

It was also one of the biggest gifts I've received.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

Lawrence shares his journey and experience in my program, going from lost to clear, from pain to gratitude, from sadness to excitement. It was a pleasure working with you mate, great to chat and all the best!

My name is Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

Clear communication is essential for an healthy separation. Check your ego, emotions and listening skills.

I'm Tamir Berkman and I'm a relationship and separation coach for men.

Expanding on Identity crisis, anger, fight or flight, three pain points of separation, three stages of the work.

I'm Tamir Berkman and I'm a relationship and separation coach for men.

Here's how I found my freedom, my abundance and my momentum.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

How do I start voicing my wants and needs? How do I talk about my emotions? Here's a script.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

Money is just an excuse. You're not getting support because you don't put yourself as a priority.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

Separation is an emotional challenge. Emotions are guides. The pain points of separation. Understanding the grief cycle.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

Hold your beliefs in court and ask for evidence: are they really true or false? Use Socratic questioning to expose values and beliefs that frame and support what you think and say.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

Denial, Anger, Acceptance, Responsibility, Growth, Forgiveness, Self love.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

Asking myself: Does it serve me? What is the feeling? What is the thought? What is the opposite from these feelings and thoughts?

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

What is your mission? What are your values?

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

The three main pain points of separation are: The emotional rollercoaster, The blame game, The identity crisis.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

Men support and empowerment:

Book: Rebuilding your life when your relationship ends.

Men support and empowerment: 

Four years ago, I was sitting with my fear. Here's what I wrote.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

Awareness. Work. Physical change.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

Why we believe that we're right even when being "right" isn't what we need, what does it rally mean to "put your kids first", and what's the biggest advice for dads? In this episode, Andy Heller , a successful businessman, talks about his separation story and the book that came after: Take the High Road.

Andy Heller is not a divorce professional such as a divorce attorney, mediator, therapist, co-parenting counsellor, or the host of other professionals that support and service those going through divorce. 

Among his professional accomplishments, Andy co-authored two best selling real estate investment books in the 2000s. While the books were well received, Andy had no interest in writing another book.

That decision changed after his own divorce.

While navigating through his own divorce Andy read countless support books to help him navigate through the process. While helpful, Andy identified a crucial hole in the self-help space for men and women navigating through divorce. Andy’s book “Take the High Road, Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family” is his give back with a stated goal of making the divorce process easier for those who are considering or who are on the divorce path.

Several factors make his book truly groundbreaking. 

First, Andy brings a businessman’s objective perspective into his counsel. Andy interviewed attorneys, divorcees, therapists, co-parenting counselors, mediators, special masters, and others to arrive at advice and guidance from the leading industry experts. Andy presents the guidance in 46 strategies, tools, and tips that armed with the experience and counsel of these experts, the readers can themselves, hopefully their former spouses, and most importantly their children land in a healthier place in the months and years after the conclusion of their divorces.

Shortly after the launch of his book Andy was asked what he is most proud of upon releasing his book.

Andy highlighted the varied glaring reviews from other divorce book authors and expert therapists that serve the divorce community. Such accolades and reviews validated the 8-year project and hours of research that went into the creation of “Take the High Road, Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family”.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

What's it like "being on the fence", why we believe "others have it all" and being single after separation.

In this episode, James Grima , a Life and Business Coach for Men, talks about his personal story through separation.

In a genuine, revealing and accurate way, James paints a picture of what's it like being the one initiating the divorce, what was the process he went through before making the decision and why he finally made the choice to leave.

Another separation story, showing courage through vulnerability.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

In this episode, John Oliffe, Professor and Canada Research Chair in Men’s Health Promotion at The University of British Columbia, talks about the insights from his latest research into men and relationships. Talking with hundreds of men that experienced divorce and separation, and listening to practitioners that are involved in this field, John shares insights, anecdotes and his own reflections.

A must listen to any men who wants to know more about how men do relationships.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

In this episode, Gabby McDonald, a divorce coach, and a practitioner at Simple Separation, explains what a divorce coach is, what is the process of working with a divorce coach and why it's so important to self development an future growth.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

There's a better way to separate! 👇

In this episode, Marguerite Picard, Director MELCA, a one-stop-collaborative divorce centre, and owner Smart Separation, talks about the court system, why is it wrong, the elements in the mediation process and what we can do to separate better.

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When first going through separation it's easy to fall into thinking there's only one way to go about it. 

In this episode, Alina Kleiman from Bayside Mediation explains about the mediation process, the mindset required and why it's better for everyone, especially the kids! Alina is helping couples separate amicably, evolve the relationship and establish a good co-parenting routine. 

A cowboy is someone who falls down, gets up and tries again. The men I interview decided to survive, overcome and thrive after separation, making all of them divorce cowboys.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

A cowboy is someone who falls down, gets up and tries again. The men I interview decided to survive, overcome and thrive after separation, making all of them divorce cowboys.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

MKP (The ManKind Project) is a significant part of my life. During my separation I found this organisation, it's programs and men circles to be so valuable, it became my "church" - A place where I go to share, hold space, grow and be inspired. The experiences and men I have met there changed my life. I was honoured to speak with my friend Peter Lustig, who is shedding some light on what’s happening inside the circles, every week. I hope many men will find this episode useful.

A cowboy is someone who falls down, gets up and tries again. The men I interview decided to survive, overcome and thrive after separation, making all of them divorce cowboys.

These are the stories of men that overcame separation, divorce and break up. It is meant to serve as an inspiration, documenting the emotions, vulnerability and truth.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

These are the stories of men that overcame separation, divorce and break up. It is meant to serve as an inspiration, documenting the emotions, vulnerability and truth.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

These are the stories of men that overcame separation, divorce and break up. It is meant to serve as an inspiration and to document these men emotions, vulnerability and truth.

I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.