Get Divorced Without Getting Screwed

Join me as we explore the complexities of blending families and step-parenting with today’s guest, Brittney Phillips, founder of Blending Bravely. Brittney, a certified professional coach, shares her personal journey and insights gained from her experiences in blended family dynamics. In her second marriage, she and her husband, both single parents, faced the daunting task of blending their families. Despite initial optimism, they encountered significant hurdles once they moved in together, particularly in fostering positive relationships between their children. Brittney offers invaluable advice on navigating such challenges, emphasizing the importance of communication, flexibility, and patience. Drawing from her own experiences and professional expertise, Brittney also provides advice for stepparents navigating this new terrain. Throughout the discussion, she shares her compassionate and empowering approach to coaching individuals in blended families, emphasizing the importance of self-care and resilience in navigating complex familial relationships. This episode is packed with valuable insights and guidance for those embarking on this challenging yet rewarding journey.

In this episode, we discuss:

✅ A reflection of Brittney’s toxic first marriage and how it impacted her daughter

✅ Dating as a single parent in modern times

✅ The challenges that arise when blending two families together

✅ Tips for creating a healthy blended family

✅ The advice Brittney would have given herself when she was first going through this

✅ The delicate balance of integrating a new parent figure into a child's life

✅ What to do about a stepchild in a loyalty bind?

✅ When and how to introduce your new partner to your kids

✅ The appropriate role of a stepparent within the family dynamic

✅ Tips for effective stepparenting

✅ The benefits of therapy for both children and adults in blended families

✅ Brittney’s approach to coaching individuals in blended families

✅ Understanding the difference between a coach and a therapist

And so much more!

You can learn more about Brittney and her practice at https://www.blendingbravely.com/

Connect with Brittney through Instagram and TikTok: @itsmebrittneyp

Stay tuned for more empowering conversations!

Hearing from divorced guys is always instructive. We always learn how these incredible men survived divorce and started the next chapter of their lives. But, we have a first on the podcast. A DIVORCED divorce mediator! Come find out how going through divorce can impact how a divorce professional's view on helping others through the divorce process:

In this episode, we discuss:

• How do you know it is time to get divorced
• The best way to get divorced
• How to approach custody disputes
• How to get your mindset positive when things get dirty
• How to hire the right attorney
• Dealing with a difficult spouse
• How the divorce mediation process works
• Putting together the right divorce team
• AND SO MUCH MORE!

You can learn more about Scott Orr by checking out his website:  https://www.tmolawfirm.com/attorney-orr 

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We had an amazing and deep conversation with a family Lawyer, Jennifer McCaskill. McCaskill’s practice has been devoted exclusively to family law since she graduated from law school in 2002.

She advises you to get a handle on the financials before you get divorced, look at your tax return and only sign an agreement after consulting a divorce lawyer. 

We discussed:

✅ Alimony.

✅ Stigma of genders during a divorce.

✅ Strategies that divorce attorneys use against the other attorney. 

✅ Things you should search for in a mediator if you don’t have an attorney. 

✅ When should you look for an attorney? 

✅ Things to do before telling your spouse that you want the divorce. 

✅ The relationship you need to have with your attorney during this process. 

✅ Custody 

AND SO MUCH MORE...

You can learn more about our guest by going to www.jjmccaskill.com.

While ensuring you get divorced the right way is important, be sure not to overlook all the other things you need to do as you transition to the next chapter of your life. Estate planning, both pre-and post-divorce, is so important. Too often, people ignore this essential process that everyone should do. In this episode with the incredible Lauren Bercik, Esq., we discuss:

✅ What is a Will, and why do you need one?

✅ The other documents you need in addition to a Will

✅ The process your loved ones will go through if you don't have a Will or have one that is done incorrectly

✅ The role of life insurance in estate planning and, in particular, securing support obligations in a divorce decree

✅ How where you live impacts Wills and other estate planning documents

✅ The importance of Living Wills, Advanced Directives, and Medical Powers of Attorney

✅ When and how you modify your Will during and after the divorce process

AND SO MUCH MORE...

You can learn more about our guest by going to berciklaw.com. 

Join me for an extraordinary conversation about Tips & Strategies from Divorce Coaches: Tips to Move Forward.

Our Special Guest, Jennifer Warren Medwin, is a Divorce Coach, Family Mediator, and marital mediator. Her private practice in Pinecrest, Miami, is called Seeking Empowerment: Clarity Through Partnership. Jennifer specializes in working alongside individuals and couples who are contemplating divorce and are fearful of high conflict and with those who hope to save their marriage. She partners with clients to develop the clarity, confidence, courage, conflict management, strategies, and communication skills they need to move through the process. 

She advises you to be the boss of your process during a divorce, don't give away your power to the professional because they won't be with you when this is settled; you should follow your intuition.

In this episode, we discuss the following:

✅   Divorce Coaching 

✅   Four Quadrants of Divorce

✅   Mediation

✅   Ways of Communication during the mediation and divorce process 

✅   Attorney and Divorce Coach. Differences and reasons to have both.

...AND SO MUCH MORE...

For more information about our free men's divorce community, go to https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceshieldtribe/.

For more information about our guest Jennifer Warren, contact her on:

Email:

Jen@seekingempowerment.com

Website:

www.seekingempowerent.com

Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn: @jenseekingempowerment

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Join me for an inspiring conversation about how to have a GOOD divorce.

Our special guest Sarah Armstrong, good divorce proponent and author of The Mom's Guide to a Good Divorce, is vice-president of global marketing operations at Google and proud mom of Grace. She was seven years old when Sarah divorced. Grace is now entering her sophomore year in college. Sarah is a mentor to other women and men in business and a longtime volunteer at various nonprofit organizations, including the Jack & Jill Late Stage Cancer Foundation, Georgetown Alumni Admissions Program, and soup kitchens.

Sarah shares with us how the mindset could be crucial during a divorce and post-divorce and that if you're divorced doesn't mean that you cannot be happy or your kids. She also wants to let you know that when you go through a divorce, you must take it one step at a time. There will be a better and happier phase in your life, but you have to realize that divorce is tricky, but you get over it.

In this episode, we discuss the following:

✅   Post-Divorce Life

✅  Society and divorce 

✅  New relationships after divorce. 

✅  Writing the next chapter of your life. 

✅ How you must think about kids' schedules during-after divorce, so it doesn't impact them.

✅ How to deal with emotions

✅ How Kids can suffer collateral damage 

...AND SO MUCH MORE...

For more information about our free men's divorce community, go to https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceshieldtribe/.

For more information about our guest Sarah Armstrong, contact her on:

LinkedIn:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-madden-armstrong-5432887

Email:

sarah@gooddivorce.guide

This is a great conversation that John had with Erin Brueche, Esq., the host of Legal Breakdown. They discuss the role of a divorce coach in a divorce. They also go into all of the ways you can get divorced without going to court, including mediation, arbitration, and collaborative divorce. 

Join me for an inspiring conversation about overcoming mental and physical obstacles. 

Our special guest Jorge Vasquez (@i.am.j.v.coaching), author of the book "Success is Standing" will tell you all about how to overcome physical and mental obstacles without losing balance in life; Jorge has a powerful life story of how during a stage of his life he was homeless and going through a divorce during the same time, but he overcomes these obstacles. As he says, Focus on yourself; if you get better, you will start attracting better things in your life. 

In this episode, we discuss the following:

✅  How to improve your confidence. 

✅  How to work on your mindset.

✅  How to work on your Body (fitness and nutrition)

✅  How to work on your spirit. 

✅ Managing changes in your life and people's perspective. 

✅ Managing the energies in your life and handling toxicity. 

✅ Personal Development. 

...AND SO MUCH MORE...

For more information about our free men's divorce community, go to https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceshieldtribe/.

For more information about our guest Jorge Vasquez, contact him on:

Instagram: @i.am.j.v.coaching

Email: CoachJorge@JVCC.com 

Facebook Profile: https://www.facebook.com/J.V.Coaching.consulting

Tiktok: @jv_coaching

Coming to the terms with yourself that divorce is the right decision, is never easy. Sometimes, the road to that happy ending that we’ve all dreamed of takes a few wicked turns along the way—but choosing your happiness and your children’s wellbeing, above all else, will always be an act of bravery. In this final episode of 2021, I’d like to give our listeners an update on the divorce process that I’m currently going through, as well as share all of the ways that I've been able to put to use all of the crucial and valuable information that has been discussed since the beginning of this podcast.

In this episode, we discuss:

✅ Identifying if getting divorced is the best decision
✅ Throwing your excuses out the window
✅ Understanding divorce is a personal decision that no one else can make for you
✅ Overcoming the fear of divorce
✅ You’re entitled to be completely happy!
✅ Components that can and can’t be fixed in a marriage
✅ Divorce is not a failure
✅ Signs that the relationship isn’t working for you anymore
✅ What happens next? The first step in the divorce process
✅ The key to a better divorce process
✅ The first person you should reach out to
✅ How to keep your emotions in check
✅ Mediation is the best option in most cases
✅ Making the best of your life
....AND MUCH MORE.....

Divorce Mediation. What is it? Why should you use it? Can you really have a better divorce? Sound too good to be true? Come find out all about divorce mediation and what YOU NEED TO KNOW from special guest Judith Weigle (@theamicabledivorceexpert).

In this episode, we discuss:
✅ What is Divorce Mediation?
✅ Who is a good candidate for mediation?
✅ How does mediation work?
✅ Mediation stories from two experienced divorce mediators.
✅ Honesty and trust to get to an amicable divorce.
✅ How mediators help resolve all types of disputes.
✅ The ways in which support is determined through mediation.
✅ Taking personal responsibility during a divorce.
✅ Divorce is not a failure.
✅ The journey to come to terms with the divorce.
✅ Our host makes a big personal announcement.
...AND SO MUCH MORE...

For more information about our free men's divorce community, go to www.mensdivorcenetwork.com

For more information about our guest Judith Weigle, go to www.divorceresourceinc.com

Did you know that the way we deal with our children can be directly traced to our own childhoods? When you go through a divorce, children can get caught in the middle, making your ability to be the best parent of them even more important. Come learn how you can be the parent that your children need with special guest Janet Philbin, LCSW. (@janet_philbin_lcsw)

Our special guests, Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond, from @ourhappydivorce, share their divorce story and how they became a STRONGER family AFTER divorce. Yes, you read that right! Come find out how their divorce had such a successful outcome and receive great co-parenting advice. In this episode, we discuss:

✔ What led to their divorce
✔ First step after learning that divorce is happening
✔ Keeping your emotions in check
✔ Communication with your ex
✔ Having an amicable divorce
✔ The importance of the right approach to divorce
✔ Keep your children front and center
✔ Moving onto the next chapter of your life while staying friends

....AND MUCH MORE....

Come check out our conversation with “Paul from St. Paul” (also known as Divorced Dad Anonymous). We discussed:

- His marriage
- How the divorce started
- What bad habits he ended when the divorce started
- How his children were caught in the divorce and how he and his ex-wife handled it
- His desire to help men tell their divorce stories to give strength to others
- His perception of the divorce system
…AND SO MUCH MORE…

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Divorce is scary without children. Add children into the mix and it is downright terrifying for many men. Should you be concerned? Do men really get screwed in divorce? 

In this episode, we discuss:
- The different kinds of custody
- How parenting time schedules are put together
- The best way to get divorced for the children
- Fighting now versus fighting later
- Not turning your custody fight into a math problem
- Taking personal responsibility for your own decisions
...AND MUCH MORE...

Come join our divorce support community for free at www.mensdivorcenetwork.com

How should men handle getting divorced? Come find out from @_jamesbastian_ how you need to handle your children and yourself when you go through a divorce.

In this episode, we discuss:

✅ Lack of resources for men going through divorce

✅ Need for mental health help surrounding divorce

✅ The thoughts that men have during divorce

✅ Putting kids first

✅ Making sure kids know that the divorce has nothing to do with them

✅ How divorce impacts your children’s view on marriage

✅ Being honest about why the marriage ended

✅ Books and resources for children

✅ Children need happy parents, not married parents

✅ Leave your children out of the divorce process!

✅ Importance of “date night”

✅ Talking about marital problems with your guy friends

✅ Making a choice of how to handle divorce

✅ The benefits of divorce

✅ Being blindsided by divorce

✅ Weak marriage will easily lead to divorce

...AND SO MUCH MORE...

For more information, visit www.thedivorceshield.com

Fear. 😰 It drives so many of us in the wrong direction. When it comes to divorce, fear can move down the wrong path. We discussed fear with Nancy Burger (@nancyrburger) and how it impacts so many people.   

In this interview, we discuss:
✅ What is a fear strategist?
✅ Helping people deal with fear
✅ What is fear?
✅ Real versus imagined fears
✅ Finding the genesis of a fear
✅ Fear Strategist versus Mental Health Professional
✅ Raising a child and fear
✅ Facing your fears
✅ How your approach to divorce can be rooted in fear
...AND SO MUCH MORE...  

Learn more about Nancy @ nancyrburger.com
Learn more about Divorce Shield @ thedivorceshield.com

What do REAL MEN need to know about divorce? Find out from the author of "The Real Man's Guide to Divorce." We discuss the entire journey, from beginning to end, that men go through in divorce.

We discuss:
- Getting your mindset in the right place
- Concentrating on your children
- Parenting plans
- Mental Health and men
- The U.K. court system and its bias towards women
- Taking care of your body
- Dressing and grooming for success
- Dating!
...AND SO MUCH MORE...

Find out more about James at easyonlinedivorce.co.uk
You can purchase his book "The Real Men's Guide to Divorce" here: https://www.amazon.com/Real-Mans-Guide-Divorce/dp/1916141803

Deciding whether or not to get divorced is one of the hardest decisions you can make. Kim Bowen, the founder of The Marriage Place, teaches us how to figure out if you should get divorced or whether you should just take your marriage in a new direction.

We discuss:
- Figuring out if marriage is the right move
- Referring out clients to collaborative divorce
- Working through the past, present, and future
- Doing the hard work of looking inward
- Discernment therapy
- Therapy v. Coaching
- Narcissism
- The options that people have in counseling
- Marriage saving therapy
- The need for structure in discernment therapy
- Not deciding about your future
- Unrealistic reasons to want a divorce
- Impact of social media on marriage
- How porn impacts marriage
- Compatibility
...AND SO MUCH MORE...

To learn more about Kim, visit themarriageplace.com.

Ever wonder what children think about custody? Come hear from seven year old Sydney on what she thinks about divorce and children living in two different houses. The conversation is eye-opening!

Divorce does not have to be all bad. There are many divorces that open up your eyes to new possibilities and a life you never considered before. In this episode, we talk to James Bastian about his divorce and co-parenting with his ex in the years since the divorce process.

We discuss:
- Signs that a marriage is on the rocks
- Should you regret a marriage that didn't work?
- Hurtful comments during divorce
- Being guided by an attorney during a divorce
- Dual citizenship and marriage with children
- End of marriage does not make you a failure
- How does Mormonism impact marriage and divorce
- Perceptions of others in divorce and how to ignore the noise
- Processing being told that the marriage is over
- Red flags that the divorce is on the rocks
- How the divorce process can get nasty and heated
- Documents during divorce can be very hurtful
- You can choose whether you want an amicable divorce or War of the Roses
- The high cost of fighting in divorce (and afterward)
- Every day you choose how to view the world post-divorce

Find out more about us at www.thedivorceshield.com 

Divorce is never easy. You are destroying the vows you took at your wedding to love, honor, and cherish your spouse forever. After divorce, many question themselves, the choices they made, their value, their needs, and their worthiness. Join Allyson Fusella as she takes us through the choices you can make after divorce.

We discuss:
- Choosing to face your fears
- Not ignoring or denying your feelings surrounding your fears
- Choosing to be grateful for the lessons from your divorce
- You control how many times you repeat the same unhealthy behavior
- Choosing to forgive what you can't forget
- The importance of worthiness
- Learning how to learn who you are and your own inner beauty
- Choosing to dream again

To find out more about Allyson, visit foundationscoach.com

To schedule a FREE Discovery Call with Divorce Shield, visit divorceshield.as.me

What do men need to know about approaching a custody dispute? Turns out, there is a lot! Join my guests Adelola Dow (aka Ade) and Stephanie Hunnell as we discuss this complicated topic. They are both divorce attorneys and the co-hosts of the "Undoing I Do with Stephanie and Ade" Facebook Show. 

In this show, we discuss:
- What to look for in hiring an attorney
- Setting expectations for how a custody case will turn out at the beginning of a case
- Dos and Don'ts of Communication with your attorney
- How courts are proceeding in the age of ZOOM
- Make sure your attorneys isn't a dinosaur when it comes to technology
- Gender bias in custody cases
- Using custody positions as leverage in the financial part of the divorce
- How women feel about men getting more custody
- Importance of getting involved in your children's lives
- Don't lie or withhold information from your attorney!
- How drugs and alcohol impact custody
- Making arguments in divorce that are not consistent with how you acted during the marriage
- The importance of calendaring
- Stay off social media when you start a divorce
- Take the emotion out of your divorce
...AND SO MUCH MORE...

You can learn more about Ade at adelolalaw.com, and more about Stephanie at hunnelllaw.com.
To join the Divorce Shield TRIBE, a free Men's Divorce Support Community, go to www.portal-thedivorceshield.com/tribesignup

Sex. What a loaded word! What mistakes in intimacy lead to divorce? How can you correct them for your next relationship? Join Certified Sexologist Beverly Perryman as we discuss: 

- What is a sexologist?
- How to build intimacy
- Special room just for you and your spouse
- The issues that people have with sex and intimacy
- How to help people rekindle the flame
- How working with a sex coach can help you
- Sex is not a bad word that you need to be ashamed of
- Communication is the top killer of sex
- How to get your groove back in the next relationship.
.....AND MUCH MORE  

You can learn more about Beverly at www.spiceislandgirl.com 

You can learn more about Divorce Shield and our FREE Men's Divorce Support Community at www.thedivorceshield.com

There are many reasons why people get divorced. At its core, unhappiness leads people to make the decision to end a marriage. Often, we later look back at our marriage and realize there were many signs that it was not a healthy relationship. It is always easy to Monday-Morning-QB. Join our guest Dadvocate (he prefers to not have his real name public as he has young children), as we discuss:

- Deciding when to leave a marriage
- Living with a narcissist
- Co-Parenting after divorce
- Settling your custody dispute
- The fight for your children never ends
- The inequity of the family court system
- Looking back at signs the marriage should have ended sooner
- Gaslighting and its impact on marriage and children
- How love bombing can make you fall for a narcissist before you know who they are
....AND SO MUCH MORE.....

For more information about our guest, check out dadvocate.co.uk

To join our free Facebook community for men thinking about or going through divorce, check out facebook.com/groups/divorceshieldtribe

Join our guest Christina Previte, Esq., as we discuss the common mistakes that men make when going through a divorce. 

We discuss:
- Making sure you get an attorney that understands your goals
- You do not have to go directly to court when you start a divorce
- Tips on hiring an attorney
- Keeping things civil with your wife
- Make sure your attorney is managing your EXPECTATIONS!
- Communication with your wife during a divorce is good
- Making sure you have healthy communication with your wife that does not turn into a domestic violence situation
- The use of audio recordings in divorce
- Using the children as a sounding board for your divorce
- Everything to write, do or so is potential evidence
- Get a real therapist
- Hiding assets
- Whether you must follow Order
.....AND SO MUCH MORE.  

If you want more information about us, visit www.thedivorceshield.com 

If you want more information about Christina, visit her on Instagram @theprev 

For more information about the law firm, visit centraljerseyfamilylaw.com

Is Divorce on the horizon? No one wants to get divorced. But, when that situation becomes a reality in your life, you need to make a decision. Do not be paralyzed. In this episode, we go into detail about how you make the decision to get divorced, and what your first step should be.

Want to join our free divorce support community called Divorce Shield TRIBE? Check out www.portal-thedivorceshield.com/tribe

When you start down the road toward divorce, it is easy to forget about the most important person in your life....YOU. There is no planning for divorce that doesn't include working on you. Join our guest Bonnie Miller Ladds, LCSW, as we discuss:

- What is therapy?
- How do you find a therapist?
- How do men and women differ when it comes to approaching therapy?
- What does therapy do in a man's life to help him manage divorce?
- How therapy can work for anyone.

To learn more about us, visit www.thedivorceshield.com

To learn more about our guest Bonnie Miller Ladds at www.focus-forward.com

Happiness. It is something that many men do not really think about. When a marriage ends, there is usually an absence of happiness in a man's life, whether he wants to admit it or not. Did you know that there are specific methods you can use to figure out what you want out of life and to help you find happiness? Join our guest Allyson Fusella, as she discusses:

- Why marriages end
- Learning to mirror back to your spouse (and your kids)
- Elevated emotion and how it can be the cornerstone of a healthy and happy relationship
- How our sense of self-worth plays a big role in our relationships and our happiness
- Heart Math and how it can provide proof to men that emotion impacts health
- What steps men should take to learn lessons from their failed marriage so that they can move forward into a happy relationship

To learn more about us, visit www.thedivorceshield.com

To learn more about our guest Allyson Fusella, visit www.foundationscoach.com

Divorce is hard on your body. Want to learn how you can eat healthy even in the most stressful of times? Come join our guest Irslan Ali, the creator of the FHIT Training Method, as he discusses:

- How you must learn to de-stress before you can start on the road to being healthy
- Figuring out if your body is in "fight or flight" mode?
- The techniques to calm your mind before building health habits
- Accountability is King!
- The foods that can make or break your health when stress is in the air

You can find out more about Irslan here: https://www.facebook.com/irslan.ali.7

You can find out more about Divorce Shield here: https://www.thedivorceshield.com/

We all learn so much from those who have gone through the divorce process. What lessons do they learn? What would they do differently if they would do it all over again? 

In this episode, we talk to Michael about his divorce, his post-divorced life, and what lessons he has learned. We discuss with him:

- Why his marriage failed
- How divorce impacted his relationship with his child
- What signs of divorce he noticed
- Finance stress of marriage and divorce
- When he started the legal process
- Crafting an agreement
- Not rushing through the process
- Disputes post-divorce and how decisions made or not made during divorce made all the difference
- Finding happiness after divorce

If you need help to plan and prepare for divorce, check out the Divorce Preparation Bootcamp at www.portal-thedivorceshield.com/dpa

If you want to join our Divorce Shield TRIBE and get help from men who are going through divorce, check out www.thedivorceshield.com/tribe 

Did you know that divorce can be influenced by your diet and exercise? A big part of protecting your sanity is making sure that your mind and body are right. In this episode, we discuss things you can do to keep your mind in top shape as you approach divorce.

For more help, visit www.portal-thedivorceshield.com/dpa 

Deciding whether to get divorced is one of the most difficult decisions that you will make in your life. It will have an impact on you, your spouse, and your children. So, should you get divorced? What are the signs to look out for? What do you need to know? 

In this episode of the Get Divorced Without Getting Screwed Podcast, we look at 12 signs that your marriage may be at its end. These include:
✔ Always having to win arguments
✔ Never fighting
✔ Having the need to provoke your spouse
✔ Your spouse and annoyance
✔ Hiding your "real self" from your spouse
✔ Exaggerating on social media
✔ Is your spouse your "go to" person?
✔ Putting things and people before your spouse
✔ No more "we"
✔ The "exit strategy"
✔ Always thinking about divorce

If you have signs that your marriage is in trouble, do not despair. It is not the end of your life. Just take a deep breath and know that we are here for you. Check out the Divorce Preparation Academy by going here: www.portal-thedivorceshield.com/dpa