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Common Sense Conversations With Dr Bobby Armstrong

Common Sense Conversations With Dr Bobby Armstrong

By Dr. Bobby L. Armstrong, PhD
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Common Sense Conversations With Dr Bobby Armstrong

Tuesday Tips : Pojections , Are You Taking It Too Far ?
We've all heard of projection, but what exactly is it? And how far are you taking it? Projection is a defense mechanism that allows us to transfer our own thoughts, feelings, and impulses onto others. This can be a helpful way to cope with our own inner struggles, but only if we're aware of it.  Otherwise, we can end up taking our projection too far. Here are some signs that you might be projecting: 1. You're quick to judge others. Do you find yourself judging others for their actions or thoughts, without really knowing them? This is a sure sign that you're projecting. When we project, we tend to see the worst in others, because we're really afraid of what we might see in ourselves. 2. You're always right. If you find yourself If you find yourself constantly judging others, it's a good sign that you're projecting. When we project, we tend to see the worst in others while overlooking our. own flaws. 3. You're always the victim. Do you find yourself feeling like the victim in every situation? This is another common projection. When we project, we tend to see ourselves as innocent and blameless, while everyone else is out to get us. 4. You have a hard time seeing your own faults. Do you have a hard time admitting when you're wrong? This is another sign of projection. When we project, we tend to see our own faults as minor and insignificant, while everyone else's are huge and unforgivable. 5. You're quick to anger. Do you find yourself getting angry at others easily? This is yet another sign of projection. When we project, we tend to transfer our own anger and frustration onto others. If you find yourself exhibiting any of these signs, it's a good idea to take a step back and examine your behavior. Are you really seeing the whole picture, or are you just projecting your own fears and insecurities onto others? Only you can answer that question.
August 16, 2022
Mind Control
There's a lot of talk these days about the mind-gut connection. And for good reason: the two are intimately connected, with each impacting the other in profound ways. The gut is sometimes referred to as the "second brain" because it houses approximately 100 million neurons - that's more than the spinal cord! This extensive network of neurons is responsible for a variety of functions, including processing and responding to information from the brain, producing and releasing neurotransmitters (chemicals that relay messages between cells), and regulating the immune system. The gut-brain connection is a two-way street: not only does the brain influence gut function, but the gut also has a direct impact on brain health. This is due in part to the enteric nervous system (ENS), which is a collection of neurons that line the gastrointestinal tract from the esophagus to the rectum. The ENS is responsible for relaying information between the gut and the brain, and vice versa. This mind-gut connection is thought to play a role in a variety of conditions, including gastrointestinal disorders like irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), inflammatory bowel disease (IBD), and celiac disease; mood disorders like anxiety and depression; and even neurodegenerative diseases like Alzheimer's and Parkinson's. So how can you support a healthy mind-gut connection? There are a few key things you can do: - Eat a healthy diet that includes plenty of fiber, fermented foods, and omega-3 fatty acids. - Manage stress with relaxation techniques like yoga, meditation, or deep breathing. - Exercise regularly. - Get enough sleep. - Avoid smoking and excessive alcohol consumption. By following these simple tips, you can help keep your mind and gut healthy and connected.
July 19, 2022
Tuesday Tips : Emotional Awareness
If you're struggling to cope with your emotions, don't be afraid to seek professional help. A therapist can provide you with tools and support to help you better understand and manage your emotions. The ability to be emotionally aware is a key part of being a well-rounded person. It allows you to better understand yourself and others and can help you navigate through life's challenges with more grace. If you're not sure how to become more emotionally aware, don't worry - it's not as difficult as it may seem. Here are some tips: 1. Pay attention to your emotions. This may seem obvious, but it's important to take the time to really notice how you're feeling. Don't just go through the motions of your day without taking stock of your emotional state. If you can't identify how you're feeling, take a few deep breaths and focus on what's going on around you. 2. Identify your triggers. What are the things that tend to set off your emotions? Once you know what these triggers are, you can be better prepared to deal with them when they come up. 3. Learn to manage your emotions. If you find yourself overwhelmed by your emotions, take a step back and try calming yourself down. This may mean taking some time for yourself, or it may mean talking to someone you trust about what's going on. 4. Be honest with yourself. Part of being emotionally aware is being honest with yourself about your feelings. If you're feeling sad, angry, or scared, don't try to bottle it up. Acknowledge your emotions and allow yourself to feel them. 5. Seek help if needed. #psychology #blackmaletherapist
June 21, 2022
How Men Can Overcome Feelings of Shame
Today we discuss 5 ways men can overcome feelings of shame .
June 14, 2022
Which Do You Experience ?
As Mental Health Awareness Month comes to an end, we want to remind everyone that taking care of your mental health is important all year round! Here are some ways you can continue to support your mental health: -Talk to someone you trust about how you're feeling - Seek professional help if you're struggling - Practice self-care - Be mindful of your thoughts and emotions - Check-in with your friends and family members to see how they're doing We hope everyone has a happy and healthy rest of their year!
May 31, 2022
Overthinking and How To Stop IT !
Do you overthink things? If so, this video is for you! I talk about the psychology of overthinking and offer some tips on how to stop it. This is a great video for anyone who wants to learn how to control their thoughts and emotions.
April 26, 2022
5 Ways Social Media Affects Children's Mental Health
Social media is a double-edged sword. On one hand, it can be an amazing way to connect with friends and family across the globe. But on the other, it can have some serious negative impacts on children's mental health. In this video, we explore how social media impacts kids' self-esteem, body image as well as relationships with peers and adults. This video discusses the 5 ways that social media affects children's mental health, including things like cyberbullying, image-based body dysmorphia, depression, and anxiety.
April 12, 2022
Dealing with Uneasy Emotions
In this podcast, we explore the psychology of uneasy emotions and how to deal with them. We discuss the different types of unease and their causes, as well as strategies for managing them effectively.
March 29, 2022
Tuesday Tips : What To Say When Helping a Loved Get Through
You know the feeling. You have a loved one who needs help and you don't know what to say or do.  Here are some important things to remember when trying to help your loved one:  -Be patient with them, they're going through a difficult time.  -Don't try to fix everything for them, give them space and let them take care of themselves as much as possible.  -Try not to judge their decisions (even if you think they're bad ones). Give options that might be better for their situation rather than telling them what they should do.
March 22, 2022
Emotional Regulation
Today we discuss 4 ways to Regulate Emotions
March 10, 2022
Improve Your Mental Health
In this video, I'm going to share with you some of my best tips for improving your mental health and getting yourself back on track.  Hey there, in this video I'm going to be talking about how to improve your mental health. A lot of people don't really know where to start or what to do when they're feeling down, but I'm here to help. So if you're ready, let's get started.
March 04, 2022
Co-Existing Behaviors
Today we Co-Exisiting Behaviors and how they can at times be a "Yin & Yang existence 
February 15, 2022
Tuesday Tips: Suicide In The Black Community
Today we discuss the suicide rate in the black community and tips on how to prevent it .
February 01, 2022
Are You Living In The Past, Present or Future ?
How you live your life is all about perspective. Are you living in the past, present or future?  In this video, I talk about how to shift your perspective so that you can start living a more meaningful and fulfilling life.
January 25, 2022
Tuesday Tips : Self Boundaries
I've thought about boundaries a lot lately . Boundaries are important for everyone . but it's especially important for people who want to start true to themselves and their values . One of the best ways to set up boundaries and is by making sure you have the time to maintain them ! This video shares some of the tips I feel are very useful in maintaining them , and ways to create healthy limits .
January 18, 2022
Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
Here are 7 ways to overcome imposter syndrome ! 
January 11, 2022
Tuesday Tips Happy New Year
Happy New Year !!!!!
January 04, 2022
Holiday Communication
Leaving communication styles can help ease holiday Tennyson !
December 21, 2021
Tips to Get Through Holiday Blues
Here are a few tips to get through the holiday blues .
December 08, 2021
Tuesday Tips: Be Careful of the Relationships You FOrm
What Type of Relationship Are You In 
November 30, 2021
Tuesday Tips: Sure Fire Way To Beat Yourself Up !
Today we discuss the Behavior of Perfectionism !!!
November 09, 2021
Tuesday Tips: Toxic Friendships , Get Out of Them !
Toxic Friendships , Get Out of Them !
October 26, 2021
Socialize The Right Way !
Today we discuss social media usage 
October 05, 2021
Tuesday Tips: Toxic Positivity
Today we discuss Toxic Positivity and why its harmful !
September 21, 2021
Tuesday Tips: 3 Factors That affect Depression
Today we discuss the 3 factors that affect a person with Depression, which are Biological Environmental Psychological 
September 14, 2021
Tuesday Tips Finding Closure
Today Dr. Armstrong discusses Very Powerful Ways to find Closure 
August 17, 2021
Tuesday Tips: Does Social Media Affect Your Behavior In A Good or Bad Way ?
Today we focus on how social media has an influence over our behaviors .... How Does It Affect You ?
August 10, 2021
Are We All Family ?
The family dynamic can be a positive functioning setting or a negative dysfunctional setting , it is always best to create a boundary to protect yourself in any toxic environment. 
July 27, 2021
You're Not The One !
Today we discuss Savior's Complex !
July 20, 2021
Are We Being Our Best Self ?
Today we look at self reflection and self comparison .
July 13, 2021
Stop The Sabotage
Today we discuss why we Self Sabotage 
July 06, 2021
Tuesday Tips ! Responsibility and Accountability
Here are tips on what you should hold yourself accountable for !
June 22, 2021
Tuesday Tips ! Ways Therapy Can Help You
Here are the ways that therapy can help you !!!
June 15, 2021
5 Things To Say
Here are a few phrases to use to help support someone facing Mental Health Challenges 
June 08, 2021
Tuesday Tips: Staying Positive !
Today we discuss ways to stay in a positive frame of mind !
May 18, 2021
The Signs of Emotional Healing
Here's how to tell when the healing starts.
May 11, 2021
Tuesday Tips: Managing Covid-19 Stress
Today we discuss ways to manage the stress around Covid -19  #stress
April 27, 2021
Tuesday Tips: Learn How To Love
Here's something all couples need to do ! Keep it inside the house !
April 13, 2021
The Benefits of Therapy
The benefits of therapy of many , Here are several of the benefits that can make a great impact in your life !
April 06, 2021
What it feels like coming out of a depressive episode ! *TT*
Today we discuss what it feels like to come out of a depressive episode ! 
March 30, 2021
Tuesday Tips: Spring Cleaning ! Psychologically !
Now is the time to do psychological cleaning of the mind ! Lets Get It Done !!!
March 23, 2021
What Kills A Relationship
Don't Be The Killer !!!  Be The Savior !!!
March 16, 2021
Tuesday Tips ! 12 Ways To Conquer Depression and Anxiety
Ask Yourself The Question Can I Do This !
March 09, 2021
Tuesday Tips : Trauma Response
Here are a few signs to look out for especially when you see a change in behavior of a loved one !
March 03, 2021
5 Stages of Grief
Today we discuss the 5 most natural ways one grieves ...remember it's a natural process .
February 23, 2021
Manipulation is a Beast
Here are the sign to watch for !
February 16, 2021
What PTSD Really Looks Like
Today we discuss what PTSD really looks like .
February 09, 2021
Tuesday Tips 4 Types of Boundaries
Today we discuss setting the boundaries that keep us safe !
February 02, 2021
Tuesday Tips : Proactive vs. Reactive
Today we discuss being proactive or reactive , Which Are You ?
January 26, 2021
Tuesday Tips: Healing From Traumatizing Events
Today we discuss healing ! Yes You Can Heal !
January 19, 2021
Thursday Conversation: A Resilient People
The realness of racial trauma has shown itself once again to be a force of devastation , the wounds are deep but there is a healing balm , an oil of soothing and most of all a resilient mind and spirit.
January 14, 2021
Tuesday Tips ! It's Ok to say It's Ok
Learning to put yourself first and focus on your mental , emotional and spiritual health should be our number goal , certain affirmations help aid in this process today we discuss  several.  Listen In ! And That should say 2021 !!!!
January 12, 2021
Conversations with Dr Armstrong
What a way to start 2021 !
January 07, 2021
Tuesday Tips: Intentional Effort In 2021
What needs attention the most ? Are you comprehending what needs  your thought ? In 2021 will you be the same as you were in 2020 ? Can you hear the voice inside asking for self reasoning ? Let's be "Intentional" and make time to focus on the aspects of your healing that need the most "Effort".
January 05, 2021
2020 Is Almost Gone , 2021 Do The Right Thing
In 2020 we have gone through so much in 2021 make sure to do the right thing and that is take care of yourself.
December 29, 2020
Tuesday Tips: Compassion at the Holidays
Let's use the trait that Christ taught us and that's having compassion.
December 23, 2020
Tuesday Tips: Be There For Yourself !
Today we discuss another aspect of being there for yourself and taking care of yourself !!
December 08, 2020
Stepping out of your comfort zone ! Tuesday Tips !
Today we discuss stepping out of a very familiar place the COMFORT ZONE !  Listen in to find why its so important 
December 01, 2020
Tuesday Tips Invest In Yourself .....Mentally
Therapy only works with what you put into it and into yourself ! Start making that investment today ! 
November 24, 2020
Get Back To Normal !
Get to being your normal self !!!
November 17, 2020
Don't Hold Back !
Don't Let Perfectionism Hold You Back !!!!!!
November 10, 2020
You Might Lose Them !
When you begin to change you may lose friends who are stuck on the "Old You" Don't let that hold you back !!!
November 03, 2020
Tuesday Tips To Self Improvement
Today we discuss 6 Steps to Self Improvement !
October 27, 2020
Tuesday Tips ! Know Your Worth 7 Tips !
Today we're discussing 7 Tips and attainable goals to use and reach before years end ! #youcandoit
October 20, 2020
Tuesday Tips !
Today we discuss when to start therapy , don't put off today for tomorrow !
October 13, 2020
Tuesday Tips !
Today we discuss how to pick yourself when your feeling down !
October 06, 2020
Cut Off The Labels
Today we discuss self sabotage by attaching labels that do not define us !
September 29, 2020
Your voice matters ! #vote
September 25, 2020
How Are You Today !
September 15, 2020
Maintaining Strong Boundaries !
Today we discuss how to maintain Strong Boundaries !!!
September 01, 2020
Choose People Who Choose You !!!
Learn to have positivity and positive people around you !
August 18, 2020
Tuesday Tips
Self Care Tips !!!!
August 11, 2020
Tuesday Tips !
Today is a little different !
August 04, 2020
Creating A Healthy Mental Space
Today we discussed creating healing Mental Space
July 28, 2020
Knowing how to push through triggers !
This week we discuss triggers and how to push through !
July 21, 2020
Tuesday Tips !
Today we discuss Racial Trauma and it's effects on culture .
July 07, 2020
The Impact of Racism on Mental Health
Today we discuss the cultural impact of Racism on Mental Health , the Impact is perfume Tuesday one last often ask, why am I here ? #LetsTalk
June 30, 2020
12 Steps To Self Care on Tuesday Tips !!!
Yours we discuss 12 Steps to self care as we love in very tumultuous times ! Remember to love yourself !
June 23, 2020
Race and Therapy
Today we discuss race and therapy as well as some of the psychology behind it . This is a great episode and hopefully it will shine light onto some of the current events .
June 16, 2020
Tuesday Tips !!!
Today we explore the Anatomy of an Emotion !!!
June 09, 2020
Tuesday Tips !
Systematic Racism and the Psychology of a people
June 02, 2020
Tuesday Tips !
Today we discuss pride and how it can be positive or negative!  There's a difference folks!
May 26, 2020
Just A Conversation
Today I speak on using common sense while states are reopening........
May 20, 2020
Tuesday Tips !!!
Today I've invited my wonderful to join me on this segment of Tuesday Tips , we are discussing happiness in a relationship! Something that's sometimes missing in so many relationships, I encourage all couples find what makes you happy in your relationship and love it !!!!
May 19, 2020
Tuesday Tips
Today we discuss being uniquely YOU !!!! Learn to look at your own uniqueness and not compare yourself to others , be your own booster !!!!
May 12, 2020
Tuesday Tips Mental Health Awareness Month
Today we talk about reaching out to our loved and friends , it only takes a minute to check on someone , use one minute out of the 24 hours we have today to bless somebody !
May 05, 2020
Mental Health Awareness Month
A New Month , A New You !
May 01, 2020
Tuesday Tips
Using Common Sense With Covid19
April 21, 2020
Tuesday Tips on Self Care During Covid 19
Tips on Taking Care of You !
April 14, 2020
Covid 19 psychology !
During these difficult times let's use compassion and empathy for our fellow brothers and sisters
March 31, 2020
Tuesday Tips !
This Too Will Pass !
March 24, 2020
Tuesday Tips !
Relieving Anxiety During Covid 19
March 17, 2020
Tuesday Tips
Social Anxiety !!!! Help Someone !!!
March 10, 2020
Tuesday Tips !!!
Today we talk about Marriage !!!!
March 03, 2020
Tuesday Tips !!!
Toxic People ! How Do You Deal With Them
February 25, 2020
Tuesday Tips !
Depression ! It's Real ! Today we focus on the different types of Depressive Disorder ! Listen in !!!
February 18, 2020
Tuesday Tips
Family Matters !
January 21, 2020
Wellness Wednesday !
Today we talk about good self care tips and techniques !
January 15, 2020
Tuesday Tips for 2020 !
Do This For You !
January 07, 2020
Tuesday tips
Cognitive distortion with an emphasis on personalization and other distortions that may be of interest.
December 17, 2019
8 Tips for 2020
Simple things you can do for now peace of mind
December 10, 2019
Tuesday Tips , Finding Your Purpose !
What is Your Purpose , What's behind the reason for which you do certain things ?
December 03, 2019
Being Involved !
Get Out There
November 26, 2019
Teenage Suicide Attempts
The is an alarming hike in the attempts of teens looking to take their own life. Parents just be active in their child life !!!!
November 21, 2019
Blended Family and Parenting Skills
On this episode I'm happy to be joined by my lovely wife Denelle E Armstrong as we discuss our parenting skills .
November 19, 2019
Boundaries We All Have Them , Now Enforce Them !
Today we speak about boundaries and the importance in having them and setting them .
November 11, 2019
Caring For Yourself !
Dr. Armstrong gives his tips on caring for yourself ! A Must Listen !
November 06, 2019
Saying Hello !!!
Here is a little introduction of myself ! I look forward to you listening !
November 04, 2019
Introduction !
Thanks for taking time to listen , this will be the first of many Podcast to Come !
November 04, 2019