So you want to re-seduce your partner. That’s a good plan. Now just exactly how are you going to go about doing that?
If money was no object, then you could fly them some place fantastic for a wonderful dinner and the have them fall into your arms thanking you for the best night of their life. Ok, now let’s get back to reality. You not only have limited financial resources, but also limited time and probably a whole other bunch of limitations. So what are you going to do?
Well guess what, one of your most powerful seduction tools is waiting for you to make use of it. It’s free, you’ve used it in the past, and with a little time and attention it could play a major role in your next seduction – kissing.
When we are trying to seduce our partner once again, we often have a goal in mind. We’ll know that we’ve been successful in seducing them if we can find a way to get them into bed. Fantastic – I like having a clearly stated goal just as much as the next person.
Umm, however, there may be a problem here. The problem pops up when you think that the way that you see the world is the same way that your partner sees the world. In order to seduce them, they have to eventually want to be seduced. In order to get them into bed, they eventually want to get into bed.
What are you going to do if they don’t see the world the way that you do?
So shall we talk about your sex life?
I don’t mean to get to personal, but how is it going? Lots of us can think back to when our relationship with our partner was new and we have very pleasant memories of having sex with them – the first time, the first time that we did something new, the first time we did it in a new place, etc.
However, then things changed.
Ah, the bed. So much promise is contained by it when we go to bed each evening; however, how often is that promise fulfilled?
Consider my situation just a while ago. I found that when my wife and I were going to bed, we’d both do the normal evening toiletry stuff and then we’d crawl into bed on our own sides, perhaps read for a bit, then turn the lights off and the evening was over.
Nice, but not what I’d really call intimate.
When I think about sex, I think about things like cuddling, kissing, stroking and the intertwining of body parts. There always seems to be a soft light glowing on the scene that I’m picturing and pleasant music playing in the background. This is what sex is to me.
However, I’m willing to admit that perhaps I’m missing a part (perhaps a big part) of the overall picture. I’ve read about those ladies who get paid to tie up and abuse guys and I’ve always sorta wondered what was going on there – do people really like this stuff?
Lately I’ve started to realize that there might be a middle ground here that could be interesting to me – sexual power dynamics.
When we think about what it’s going to take to relight the fire of passion in our relationship we often feel ourselves getting tired. I mean, this sure seems like it’s going to take an awful lot of work. Go buy a bunch of candles, make a dinner reservation at a fancy restaurant, get rid of the kids / turn off the phones, etc. This is not something that you can just do at the snap of the fingers.
However, is it possible that we might be getting this all wrong? Could it be possible to restart the flames of passion in just 10 minutes?
Would you like your relationship with your significant other to be better? I’m willing to bet that the answer to that question is a “yes”. Ok, so we can both agree that that would be a good thing. However, now comes the hard question – just how important is making your relationship better to you?
I’m pretty sure that this question gets a quick “it’s very important” response from you, but are you being completely truthful? What is your relationship priority?
So here’s an interesting question for you: just how important is laughter when you want to seduce your mate? I think that we can all agree that humor and laughter are very powerful emotions. It takes a lot to make us laugh and when we do, it can be quite difficult for us to stop. However, does any of this have anything to do with seduction?
I can’t say that a single podcast can change the whole world, but just maybe this one can change a few lives — like yours. Look, I think that I know what the problem with our relationships is — and even better, I think I know what needs to be done to fix the problem.
It turns out that a relationship between two people is a magical thing when it first starts — we can think of almost nothing else. Every moment with the other person is magical and we eagerly anticipate when we’ll be able to spend more time with them. Then time passes.
Look, we still love them and we think that they still love us. However, life gets busy and we find ourselves spending our time doing a lot of other things and all of sudden one day we wake up and realize that the relationship that we are in is not so magical any more. Is it time to ditch the relationship and go looking for love somewhere else?
Hmm, as naughty and as exciting as seduction sounds, do any of us really know what it is. I mean, if I was to ask you for a definition of what seduction was, what would you tell me? Would you say that it’s a way to get somebody into bed? Well ok, that’s one possible outcome, but do you really think that that’s all there is to it? What is this thing that we call seduction?