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Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter

Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter

By Dr. Les Carter
Life with a narcissist is challenging, and Dr. Les Carter is here to assist. Whether you are feeling frustrated due to a narcissist's inability to blend well or you are feeling constantly invalidated by their need for control and their lack of empathy, Dr. C is your resource. He is committed to helping people become part of Team Healthy, which focuses on DRC: dignity, respect, and civility. In each of our episodes we will contrast the narcissistic patterns of life to the ways of Team Healthy.
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What Drives a Narcissist's Anger?

Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter

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How to Detect Covert Narcissism
Narcissists do not always show the full extent of their pathology in the early stages of a relationship.  They can seem pleasant, easy-going, supportive, and receptive...at least for a while.  But as you remain with that person, certain trends begin to emerge, leaving you to wonder about the viability of the relationship.  Narcissists are known for not having good self-awareness or for not taking responsibility for their flaws, so they will deny their problems.  Knowing this, Dr. Les Carter explains 4 categories of behavior that reveal the breadth of the covert narcissist's dysfunction.  They will gaslight you when you call them out, but as you learn to trust your interpretations, you will be less inclined to be pulled in by their manipulations. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/ If you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
29:31
September 27, 2022
The 3 D's Of Narcissistic Abuse, Featuring Dr. David Hawkins
In this episode, Dr. C is joined by Dr. David Hawkins of Seattle, Washington, who discusses his work with men and women trying to heal from narcissistic abuse. Dr. Hawkins gives his seasoned opinions about what is necessary for the narcissist to change and how the partner can also find hope. He zeroes in specifically on 3 primary components of the narcissistic pattern that have to change. This interview features two therapists who have much in common as they share words of healing and encouragement. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/ To learn more about Dr. Hawkins, you can visit his website www.marriagerecoverycenter.com or YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/c/drdavidbhawkins If you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
37:04
September 20, 2022
Healing Words from Surviving Narcissism's Team Healthy
A few months ago, Dr. C asked his YouTube followers to send in comments about how they had learned to heal from narcissistic abuse.  He was overwhelmed with many reflections of wisdom and sage advice.  In today's episode he shares some of the most poignant comments that he received.  Keep in mind that these nuggets of insight are from people just like you...those who have felt hurt, but are determined not to let the pronouncements of a narcissist to rob them of their strength and dignity. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/ If you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
30:48
September 13, 2022
Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, Featuring Dr. Ingrid Clayton
After repeated exposures to exploitative, manipulative narcissists, a person can experience identity confusion and emotional turmoil.  Dr. Les Carter has an enlightening discussion about this problem with clinical psychologist, Dr. Ingrid Clayton.   Drawing from her new memoir, Believing Me: Healing From Narcissistic Abuse and Complex Trauma, she explains the common trauma responses of fight, flight, freeze, and fawning.  Dr. Clayton makes it clear that even in the aftermath of trauma with a narcissist, healing can happen.  Hope is within reach as you learn to listen to your own voice. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/ If you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust. To learn more about Dr. Clayton, you can visit her website: IngridClayton.com You also can follow her on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/IngridClaytonPhD) and Instagram (@IngridClaytonPhD)
32:37
September 06, 2022
What Drives a Narcissist's Anger?
A natural byproduct of the narcissistic pattern is the perpetual struggle with anger.  Dr. Les Carter breaks down the ingredients of narcissism, showing you how they are easily predisposed to emotional dysregulation.  Then he describes six different elements at play that keeps the narcissist stuck in a dysfunctional rut.  All the while, you will be blamed for their tense state of mind.  But as you are enlightened about what is really inside the narcissist, you can become poised to opt out of their anger traps. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/ If you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
30:09
August 30, 2022
How Narcissists Are Held Back by Simplistic Thinking
Wouldn't it be nice if life could be reduced to a fixed formula that offers simple, ready solutions to any situation? That's the kind of thinking narcissists bring to their relationships. Being naturally self-absorbed, entitled, controlling, and exploitive, they want you to know how things ought to be according to their agenda, and there will be a price to pay if you do not conform. Dr. Les Carter breaks down this pattern so you can understand their strategies and motives. Then he challenges you to focus on a fuller mindset that leads allows you to manage diversity and nuances successfully. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/ If you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
31:05
August 23, 2022
Adam, Eve, The Serpent, And Narcissism
For millennia people have been trying to make sense of humanity's plight, often distilling their thoughts into stories. Virtually every major religion has a story about the origins of human struggle, whether it be the Jewish, Islamic, or Christian traditions. Likewise Hinduism, Buddhism, and many indigenous peoples have their stories. Since the characters, Adam and Eve, are so well known in Western culture, Dr. C has chosen to give an overview of 5 aspects of the Eden story that address the topic of the human condition and, especially, narcissism. Then he cites teachings from social psychologist Erich Fromm, who likewise had much to say about this seminal piece of literature. As you ponder such a story, it can prompt you to examine your own narrative, especially as it relates to narcissism...or its opposite. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/ If you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.
28:29
August 16, 2022
Negotiating with the Narcissist, Featuring Rebecca Zung
Dr. Les Carter interviews noted family law attorney, Rebecca Zung, who discusses her approach to negotiations with a narcissist. Using what she refers to as the SLAY method of negotiation, her primary emphasis is to teach the one leaving a narcissist to find inner strength, making decisions based on insight into the narcissistic pattern and belief in oneself. Her ultimate goal is to guide individuals to a place of personal freedom and confidence. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/ If you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist.  As the need is there, please seek the help you deserve: https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust. To learn more about Rebecca, please visit her website: https://www.rebeccazung.com/ You also can visit Rebecca's YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/c/RebeccaZungEsq/videos
37:48
August 09, 2022
Mind Games Narcissists Will Play With You
In this episode, Dr. Les Carter highlights two of the most common aspects of narcissism:  control and manipulation. Narcissists actually believe you should filter your way of life through them. So, when you act, think, or prioritize differently, they are not bashful about bringing you under their controlling agenda. And true to their nature, they will use all sorts of gaslighting tactics to accomplish their purposes. In this episode, Dr. C identifies eight of the most common mind games they use. Knowledge is power, and as you are able to see in real time how you are being manipulated, you will be poised to stay out of their clutches. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/
30:29
August 02, 2022
Growing Up In A Narcissistic Family Featuring Julie L Hall
For healthy personality development, is essential for children to have a home that emphasizes trust and empathy.  Unfortunately, in homes dominated by a narcissistic parent, that is a lost luxury.  Dr. Les Carter is joined by Julie L. Hall, author of the book, The Narcissist In Your Life.  Drawing from her own personal journey, Julie describes how kids are impacted by a narcissistic family. Then she describes how as an adult, adjustments can be made in the effort to find wholeness and personal freedom. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/ For more information on Julie, you can visit her website at https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/
34:48
July 26, 2022
Why You Need To Understand Narcissistic Injury
How often has a seemingly simple disagreement with a narcissist turned into a big production?  Narcissists are known for out-of-proportion anger in response to circumstances that could otherwise be managed cleanly.  Dr. Les Carter describes the phenomenon called "narcissistic injury."  Narcissists carry a great deal of emotional pain inside, but because they are committed to maintaining a False Self, they are unable to discuss problems logically.  When they are triggered by you, that pain rises to the surface, prompting the narcissist to attack in the same way a wounded animal does.  Your task is to understand what is in play so you don't become engaged in their unresolved inner tensions. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/
28:12
July 19, 2022
Lies The Narcissist Wants You To Believe
With narcissists, the name of the game is mind control.  They have convinced themselves that they are on a higher plane than you, and it is therefore your duty to prop up their vaulted ego.  Of course, you know that their distorted thinking is not accurate, yet they can persist in the effort to keep you subordinate.  In this crucial discussion, Dr. Les Carter identifies eight of the most common lies the narcissist wants you to believe.  But as you become keenly aware of their game, you can opt out.  Simply put, you cannot allow a narcissist's lies to become your truth. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/
57:21
July 12, 2022
12 Ways to Identify a Sociopathic Narcissist
There is a form of narcissism that is especially difficult: the sociopathic narcissist.  Sociopaths are known for their lack of a moral compass, their lack of compassion, and their strong tendency toward punitive anger.  Dr. Les Carter highlights twelve ways to identify a sociopathic narcissist.  As you become aware of their tendencies and how they wish to take over your distinctions, you can become poised to stay away from their clutches, seeking a life of dignity, respect, and civility instead. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/
29:28
July 05, 2022
How Narcissists Toy with Truth
For any relationship to thrive, trust has to be paramount. And for trust to be established, honesty is essential. Narcissists, however, live behind the wall of the False Self. They have an exploitative agenda as they make connections, which means honesty is little more than a commodity that can be twisted to suit their immediate desires. A narcissist's "truth" is not truth at all, but an attempt to advance their ever-shifting agenda. Dr. Les Carter describes what to watch for when engaging with a narcissist, and he discusses the necessity of you being the person of integrity that the narcissist cannot and will not become. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/
30:23
June 28, 2022
15 Off Label Patterns That Reveal Narcissism
Academia tells us that narcissists are identified by an attitude of entitlement, the need for control, willingness to exploit, low empathy, and more.  Drawing upon his 40+ years of speaking with individuals in his therapy office, Dr. Les Carter expands upon the academic definition by highlighting 15 of the most common "off-label" indicators of narcissism.  As you see the many ways that a narcissist will reveal their disorder, you can become more confident as you learn to trust in your own balanced approach to life. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/
31:16
June 21, 2022
Why Are Narcissists So Resistant To Change?
In this episode, Dr. Carter takes you inside the mind of a therapist, discussing the patterns he would identify in his patients.  He focuses on 4 universal truths (and more) that we each need to come to terms with, then highlights the healthy alternatives.  Then he focuses on the mind of a narcissist, describing how they tend to respond when confronted with the need for growth and change.  Narcissists have multiple barriers to overcome if they are going to mature, and most are so entrenched in their dysfunctions that they sabotage the process altogether.  It's important for you to understand how this works so you will not be thrown off course in your own maturation goals. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/
32:17
June 14, 2022
Once You Realize You Can’t Get Through to a Narcissist
One of the finest qualities you can have is the desire to grow and learn. You know yourself well enough to understand that you can always improve, so that is part of the mindset you bring to your relationships.  But when you are engaging with narcissists, it eventually becomes apparent that they don't share the same eagerness to grow and learn. Instead, they think competitively, meaning they are constantly vying for the upper hand. And what is worse, when you eventually pull away, your adjustments will come with a high price. Dr. Les Carter addresses this matter with compassion, as he reminds you of what you can and cannot change. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/
30:02
June 07, 2022
Narcissism and the Problem of Phoniness
If you're trying to manage life honestly, your entanglements with a narcissist can prove to be especially difficult.  One of the defining features of narcissism is phoniness...the commitment to living behind the shield of a False Self.  In this episode, Dr. Les Carter offers multiple ways of identifying how narcissists illustrate their phoniness, then he goes behind the scenes to describe how and why this develops.  Once you are able to spot what is happening, you can develop the objectivity necessary for a much better way of managing your relationships. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/
32:03
May 31, 2022
Haughty Comments From Narcissists
In an effort to convey how narcissists think in real time, Dr. Les Carter draws upon testimonials from members of Team Healthy who have received haughty comments from narcissists.  Not only do these comments reveal egotism, but they also illustrate how illogical (to the point of ignorant) narcissists can be.  As you are able to see through their entitled attitudes, you will be poised to make the necessary adjustments so you will no longer be ensnared by their efforts to find control over you. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/
30:19
May 24, 2022
Narcissists Can't Grasp That Control Is An Illusion
It should come as a shock to no one that narcissists have a pervasive need to control people and circumstances, and in this episode Dr. Les Carter describes how it plays out.  But as you pull back and reflect upon the effectiveness of a controlling approach to relationships, you can quickly conclude...it doesn't work.  Control is an illusion.  Even as narcissists seem to score "victories" in their efforts to control, over time, their influence wanes greatly.  Simply put, most people who are on the receiving end of a narcissist's controlling agenda eventually seek the exit.  So what if you decided not to participate in the narcissist's control illusion?  What would that look like?  Join us as we zero in on practical ways to unhook from a narcissist's ill-advised strategy of control.  There is a much better path that you can take. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/
26:59
May 17, 2022
Here's How Covert Narcissism Works
Narcissism is defined by the need for control, a lack of empathy, an attitude of entitlement, self-absorption, and more.  Overt narcissists leave little to the imagination, and you can spot them rather quickly.  Covert narcissists have the same defining features, but they are much more deliberate in hiding their inclinations.  Over time, however, their real colors will eventually surface, and it can be a great disappointment to you.  Yet, as you learn to spot the indicators, you can become positioned to protect yourself with necessary boundaries. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/
54:58
May 10, 2022
So, Exactly What Is Narcissism?
Narcissism is definitely a hot topic in the world of psychotherapy, and as such, the word "narcissist" is prone to being misused or misunderstood. Dr. Les Carter gives you a solid working definition of narcissism so you can know what you're dealing with as you encounter individuals on the spectrum. The more clearly you understand this pattern of life, the more successfully you can plan to overcome the difficulties it presents. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Talk charge of your mental health and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at:https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter's NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://survivingnarcissism.tv/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website:  https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter:  @SNarcissism101 Instagram:  @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life   https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Surviving Narcissism YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/SurvivingNarcissism Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/
30:59
May 03, 2022