Dear Shandy

It's Caller Day! Just how many unchecked boxes are *too* many? Today's conversation is a doozy and covers just about everything: different religions and cultures, socioeconomic class, a parent's approval, the pandemic, self-esteem, and coming of age. Our lovely caller, Jamie, is in a happy relationship but it isn't what she'd envisioned for herself. If you've ever been in a relationship you valued but knew deep down things weren't quite right, we guarantee you will relate to the crossroads at which Jamie finds herself.

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

Shandy is back with your recap of Episode 3 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette! Come join us to dissect Karl's behavior, the least fun Group Date of all time, Michael's 1-on-1, and of course, THOMAS. 

Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds. 

Check out a free chapter of Desiree Hartsock Siegfried's new book - The Road To Roses! https://bit.ly/3gR1awF

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

Today's Hot Topic episode is one of Sharleen's personal favorites. We're joined by the brilliant Dr. Uchenna Ossai, one of a handful of pelvic floor physical therapists in the world to also be certified in sexuality counseling. We polled you over on Instagram for your questions, and boy, you DELIVERED. Today's conversation covers everything from pain during sex, to post-natal issues, to incontinence, to orgasms (including Dr. UC's orgasm hacks!) There's something for everyone in this episode, even those with no pelvic concerns. Needless to say, the pelvic floor plays a serious role in all your down-there activity, and Dr. UC is a bottomless pit of wisdom, delivered in the most non-judgmental and positive way. Prepare to learn a lot, to have fun doing it, and to do lots and lots of kegels...

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Shandy is back with your recap of Episode 2 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette! Come join us to dissect Mike’s poem, Aaron versus Cody, the many kisses (good and bad), and of course, KARL.

Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Does texting style affect our perception of a person, and how good an indicator is texting compatibility for real-life compatibility? If your current flame ended an engagement a mere 3 months before you met, and won't commit for that reason, is he just not into you or does he really just need more time? (And on that note, had Andy met Sharleen only 3 months after his ended engagement, does he think they still would have worked?) How dirty is TOO dirty for a date's home, and is an unkempt home a dealbreaker? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!"

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Ask and you shall receive! You've asked us for ages to recap The Bachelor and its spinoffs, and we're finally obliging. Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down the premiere of Katie Thurston's season of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's happy couple is bonafide Bachelor royalty: Ben Higgins and his stunning fiancée, Jess Clarke! These two join us from their house in Denver, which they are currently renovating, to talk the ins and outs of their sweet relationship. We learn their first impressions of one another, the ways they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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More Ben & Jess
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/higgins.ben
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessclarke_
Generous Coffee: https://generouscoffee.com
Order Ben's Book: https://www.thomasnelson.com/p/alone-in-plain-sight/#preorder
Hope Still Wins Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hope-still-wins/id1568735974

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It's Caller Day! Our caller, Maya, may be in a happy, healthy relationship, but she's at a crossroads. If you've ever been in a longterm relationship and felt marriage should be a given, you just may relate to Maya's (all too common) situation. Just how long is *too* long to wait for a partner's certainty? This just might be our most heated caller conversation to date.

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Have you ever wondered what dating and relationships are like when you're a celebrity? How do famous folks meet these days, and when they do, what's different? Do they behave differently in dating than the rest of us, and do "civilians" stand a real chance with them? Our resident celeb is comedian, famed roaster, and podcast host Nikki Glaser! She is brutally honest in her assessment of dating at her (self-assessed) "B-list" level of fame, her own celebrity crushes (including some of Bachelor Nation's finest), and the do's and don'ts of sliding into the DMs of the rich and famous. In addition to being simply hilarious and her trademark unfiltered self, Nikki has poignant takes on love and "The One"—do NOT miss this one!

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More Nikki Glaser
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nikkiglaser
Twitter: https://twitter.com/NikkiGlaser
The Nikki Glaser Podcast: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-the-nikki-glaser-podcast-79573913/

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 If you have a crush on someone in their workplace, is it OK to ask them out? And if so, what are Andy's tried-and-true tips for making a move? Should you put off dating until you have your ducks in a row professionally? Just how much do straight men really care about a woman's occupation and professional success? And if you've been friend-zoned, is there any hope for rekindling that romantic spark? There are some STRONG opinions shared in this Q&A sesh—come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!"

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Sydney Lotuaco (who you may remember from Colton's season of The Bachelor) and her sweet boyfriend, Nick Wehby. These two have a particularly unique meeting story that just might renew your faith in pandemic dating. Sydney and Nick share how the pandemic played a role in getting to truly know one another, how they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Nick also graciously shares a powerful story that transformed his view on life. Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Does being one of our "younger" couples work for or against these two?

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

It's Caller Day! Our caller, Kate, has a unique predicament that veers into discussions about mismatched Love Languages and our cultural expectations surrounding proposals. How much does a formal "Will you marry me" *really* matter, and does a man's reticence to deliver on this gender role tradition speak to a deeper problem?

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Have you ever watched a reality TV dating show and wondered what that poker-faced host is REALLY thinking? As Temptation Island fans and general admirers of its host Mark L Walberg's piercing commentary, we're thrilled he agreed to join us for a Confessions episode! Temptation Island brings on four straight real-life couples who are at crossroads in their relationships, separates them for a month, and has them live with (very forward) straight singles of the opposite sex. It originally debuted in 2001, at the start of the reality TV boom, and was rebooted in 2019.

As the host of a show with an obviously controversial concept, how does Mark navigate the usual trappings of reality TV "trash"? Does he make his own personal predictions about the couples and their outcomes? Does he pick favorites among them? How much does he really know when heading into a "bonfire"? How has Mark's own marriage informed his ability to spot and call out destructive relationship behavior? Mark is a very open and endearingly honest guest, and whether or not you're a fan of Temptation Island, his perspectives on relationships, love, and life are worth listening to.

In case you're interested in dipping your toe into Temptation Island, Sharleen's favorite season is Season 4 (or Season 1 of the reboot), and Andy's is Season 5 (or Season 2 of the reboot).  

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 How normal are growing pains when you and your partner first live together, and is it too harsh to deem your partner's living habits unattractive? If you think you're falling for your soon-to-be-roommate—who also happens to be 6 years younger than you—should you explore this or let it go? If you're "cloaked" by someone on a dating app, even after making plans, should you call out their rude behavior?

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's happy couple is downright iconic in Bachelor Nation: Desiree and Chris Siegfried! We recorded this after they were able to put their boys to bed on the West Coast, which resulted in a very late night and thus very delirious/loopy/giggly chat. Truthfully, this couple exceeded every (already high) expectation: they're refreshingly real and down-to-earth, and simply fun to hang out with. They share how they complement each other, how kids have transformed their relationship, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a particularly amusing Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better?

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More Desiree & Chris
https://www.instagram.com/desireesiegfried
https://www.instagram.com/desireehartsock
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/heart-of-purpose/id1511865029
https://www.chrissiegfried.com/

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It's Caller Day! Our caller, Elise, has a predicament that might resonate if you've ever lusted after a close friend. If you found yourself in love with your close friend-turned-roommate, what would you do? What if said roommate had a longterm girlfriend, yet simultaneously seemed to reciprocate your affections? Today's call went in a different direction than originally expected, which really shows the difference between a written email and a true conversation. 

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

Today we're joined by licensed family and marriage therapist, Elizabeth Earnshaw! There's something for everyone in this episode: If you're either single or in a happy relationship, but you're simply curious what a LFMT encounters in her office, the first half (our "Confessions" segment) is for you! If you have concerns about your own partnership (or your in-laws!) and want to hear a professional's take on our listeners' most frequently asked questions, the second half is for you. There are many helpful lessons in this episode, some of which might catch you by surprise...

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More Elizabeth Earnshaw
https://www.instagram.com/lizlistens
https://lovelessons.mykajabi.com/instagram-links
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/after-an-affair-staying-t_b_11044340

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it really a MUST that you and your partner live together before getting married? Just how important is a shared sense of humor in a forever relationship? Which famed statement is more true: "Absence makes the heart grow fonder", or "Out of sight, out of mind"? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's happy couple requires no introduction: Kaitlyn Bristowe and Jason Tartick! We had high expectations for this "double date" and Jaitlyn did not disappoint. They share their first impressions of each other (and how those have changed), how they complement each other, what early hurdles they overcame, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better?

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More Kaitlyn & Jason
https://www.instagram.com/kaitlynbristowe
https://www.instagram.com/jason_tartick

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It's Caller Day! Our first caller, Mel, was dumped for not being vulnerable enough. Is there a "vulnerability" timeline? Our second caller, Kate, is in a happy relationship but is perturbed by how little she misses for her partner when they're apart. Could this be a clue to a deeper relationship concern? 

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We brought the big guns to tackle your sex and intimacy questions: Sex Therapist Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy! There's something for everyone in this episode: If your sex life is great but you've always been curious about the things a sex therapist has heard and seen, the first half is for you. If your sex life is something of a work in progress, the second half is for you. This episode also includes one of Shandy's own most mind-blowing discoveries... can you guess what it is? 

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More Dr. Lauren Forgel Mersy
https://www.instagram.com/drlaurenfogelmersy

Dr. Mersy's recommended reading: "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski - https://amzn.to/39pWx97

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it wise to stay connected with your ex via Instagram? Is it a dealbreaker if a guy flakes on your first date at the last minute? Is opening up a 10-year relationship too risky to consider? And if you and your ex broke up due to his lack of relationship experience, is it acceptable to circle back one day, to see if he's changed/matured? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by one of Bachelor Nation's happiest (and most iconic!) couples, Ashley Iaconetti and Jared Haibon! These two got married in 2019 and have been very generous with sharing their relationship with the world, but we promise you'll still learn ins and outs about their marriage you didn't know before. Today they share how they think they defied the odds in ending up together, how they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! 

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More Ashley & Jared
https://www.instagram.com/ashley_iaconetti
https://www.instagram.com/jaredhaibon

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It's Caller Day! If you've been in a relationship throughout this pandemic, our first caller's predicament just might resonate: How do you reason with a partner who just doesn't see eye to eye with you on COVID safety? Is this potential dealbreaker material? Our second caller's issue is on the other end of the spectrum: If you were dating someone exclusively (to your knowledge), what would you do if you found their dating profile actively being updated? Is it what it looks like? Watch on for the Shandy take!

PS—Our first caller, Rebecca, attended an Ivy League school but wanted to keep the school name private, so that's what the bleeps are. (We know this from our previous interaction with her, not because she brought it up!)

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

Jealousy is a beast of a topic, so we thought long and hard about who to help us tackle it. Shandy brought the big guns: who better to talk jealousy than the woman who quite literally WROTE THE BOOK on open relationships? We're thrilled to welcome Janet W. Hardy, the co-author of The Ethical Slut, the iconic guide to polyamory that was first published in 1997 and is now on its 3rd edition. As someone experienced in both monogamy and non-monogamy, Janet is no stranger to the jealousy trap. We ask Janet: Why do we feel jealous, what do those feelings often represent, and how can we navigate them? Can jealousy be a good thing for a relationship, and is there such a thing as not being jealous enough? Finally, we pick Janet's brain about open relationships and her personal experiences with polyamory. Can non-monogamy work if it's only one-sided, and do open relationships reflect an inability to commit? Janet is an incredibly frank and honest guest, so Shandy invites you to listen with an open mind and enjoy.

"The Ethical Slut" by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton - https://amzn.to/39pWx97

The referenced Rolling Stone article - https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-features/the-ethical-slut-inside-americas-growing-acceptance-of-polyamory-112319/

More Janet on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jhardyauthor/

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It's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, ready to answer more of YOUR burning questions. 🔥 What are Shandy's tips to help to keep the spark alive in long term relationships? How soon should you know if the person you're with is "The One", and how much do age and experience play a role in "Knowing"? If you're unhappily married, and if divorce is Door #1 and a life of unhappiness is Door #2, is there such a thing as Door #3? Finally, if you have a massive secret that many would judge you for, should you bury it or tell your new partner? You asked for our honest opinions on your tough situations, so come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by newly engaged lovebirds Derek Peth and Saffron Vadher! These two are on the private side, so we're thrilled they agreed to come on and share their relationship with us in true double date fashion. Derek and Saff can usually be found in NYC, but today, they join us from their house in Iowa. They share the serendipitous story of how they met (spoiler alert: Shandy plays a key role!), how they complement each other, what early hurdles they overcame, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better?

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More Derek & Saff
https://www.instagram.com/pethderek
https://www.instagram.com/saffron/

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It's Caller Day! If you were at dinner and your date left abruptly, claiming illness, would you read into it? At what point is showing concern too generous? And, is there such a thing as being too young to consider marriage? Does wanting a big wedding—one you'd need to save up for—mean your marital priorities are all wrong?

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

We wanted to do something a little different to celebrate New Year's Eve (and the end of 2020!). So today, inspired by Episode 1 (How We Met), we're doing another throwback: we're going back in time to 2014, to what happened after Shandy met, and how (and when) Andy eventually proposed. Watch on to hear his thought process, how he chose the ring (and whether or not Sharleen liked it!), and Andy's "stroke of genius" idea in ensuring the proposal would be a true surprise! 

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

It's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, ready to answer more of YOUR burning questions. 🔥 How necessary is compromise in relationships, and where's the line between loving yourself and being too set in your ways? Is it a dealbreaker if your partner doesn't seem to take your biological clock seriously? And is it possible to salvage a new relationship if you had sex "too soon", and at what point is this concern unto itself concerning? Your questions continue to deliver, so come join us in our living room for our unbiased (and brutally honest) answers. 

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by married lovebirds Rachel Lindsay and Bryan Abasolo! These two met and got engaged on Rachel's season of The Bachelorette (Season 13) and married in 2019. They are currently bicoastal as Rachel has recently moved to LA for her job as an Extra correspondent, while Bryan remains in their home in Miami, where he maintains his chiropractic practice. They join us from their respective locations to take a walk down memory lane, sharing their first impressions of one another and how those have changed (if at all). We learn how they complement each other, how they "Knew", and of course, the all-important question, how they FIGHT! We also cover every topic in between, from navigating the public eye to useless skills to cat plates (you'll understand when you get there). Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? 

More Rachel & Bryan
https://www.instagram.com/therachlindsay
https://www.instagram.com/thebryanabasolo
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RkaXD4zyR5Q

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Today's call is a bit of an anomaly in that the question asked is not the question answered. What starts out as an innocent relationship gripe turns out to be a red herring or sorts, and as Shandy overturns each stone, a greater concern is exposed. When do you know it's over? And how long is too long to hold out for what could be, versus what is? We thought this would be a quick and lighthearted call, but as we learn, not everything is as it seems. 

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

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Ask and you shall receive! You've been requesting that we talk MONEY for awhile now, and we brought in the very best to help us do it: Bola Sokunbi of Clever Girl Finance! You guys asked great questions and we grilled Bola: Which is better, joint or separate bank accounts? What are the “must” financial conversations you should have before moving in together? Should expenses be split proportionately based on income? And of course... PRENUPS! 😱 Money and finances are treacherous and are one of the leading pitfalls for couples, so hopefully today's conversation sheds some light on this minefield! 

More Bola
https://www.instagram.com/clevergirlfinance
https://www.instagram.com/bolasokunbi
https://www.clevergirlfinance.com

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It's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, ready to answer a whole slew of YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it a bad sign if a guy isn't "obsessed" with you? How do you know your "league", and has online dating rigged the system against women? Is there such a thing as having sex too early, and if so, how soon is too soon? Your questions are wonderfully honest, so gear up for a healthy dose of honesty in return.

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by the hotly requested Lesley Ann Murphy and her fiancé Alex Kavanagh! Lesley is a travel blogger and yoga instructor (who you may remember from Sean Lowe's season of The Bachelor, as well as 2018's Bachelor Winter Games), while Alex is a drone pilot and creative director. This dynamic duo works and travels together constantly, but today they join us (on their original wedding date, postponed due to COVID) from Lesley's parents' house in Little Rock, AR, where they have just moved to from LA. They are also pregnant! We learn the serendipitous story of their meeting, whether or not there were cultural differences to overcome (Alex is Australian!), and what kind of impact working together has on their relationship. (Of course, Sharleen asks if they believe in The One, while Andy asks how they fight!) Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? 

More Lesley & Alex
https://www.instagram.com/lesleyannemurphy
https://www.instagram.com/drone.pilot
https://theroadlestraveled.com/

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

Today's call touches on an interesting moral dilemma that many have likely considered, but far fewer have acted on. As "the other woman", which is more ethical: To tell your ex-lover's girlfriend about his cheating ways, or to stay out of their relationship and let her learn those tough lessons on her own? How far does "Do Unto Others" extend, or is it better to trust in karma? And in playing a role in the indiscretion, does one surrender the right to moral high ground? Shandy definitely wants your take on this one!

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

Today's episode is the first in our new "Confessions" series! If you could ask a recently divorced man ANYTHING, what would it be? We polled you over on Instagram and you delivered with fantastic questions. Our guest, Dov Davidoff, is a talented comedian, actor, and real estate developer. But most importantly, he's one of Andy's closest friends and was a groomsman in our wedding! He so graciously joins us today to talk the personal struggles of divorce, whether or not he saw it coming, and what he has learned. Open your mind and prepare yourself for brutally honest life lessons... 

It's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it sketchy if your boyfriend follows his ex's erotic accounts, and how much does it matter whether or not he tells you about it? Do longterm friends-with-benefits relationships ever lead to actual relationships, and what should you do if you find yourself developing real feelings? And how important is sexual exploration before settling down? Your questions are getting REAL and we're here for it! 🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♂️ Watch on for the Shandy take...

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by engaged lovebirds Astrid Loch and Kevin Wendt! These two met on Bachelor in Paradise (Season 5) and got engaged a year later, in 2019. They join us from their new house (which is currently undergoing renovations!) to share their first impressions of each other and whether or not TV played a role. We discuss their thoughts on The One, what their (hilarious) peeves are about each other, as well as housework, handbags, and Dominos. (Unrelated: We also learn what happens to Andy's retired V-neck tees.) Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

More Astrid & Kevin
https://www.instagram.com/astridloch
https://www.instagram.com/kevin.c.wendt
https://www.instagram.com/thewendtgang

If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com

Just how honest should you be in your dating profile? If you never drink, would it hurt your dating chances to share that? And if you're in your mid-20s and have never been in a romantic relationship of any kind, how can you take control of your love life? Today's episode is all about hard truths and tough love. Watch on for the Shandy Take! 

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How familiar are you with the Enneagram? Have you ever considered how your type plays into your relationships? Today we are joined by certified Enneagram coach Stephanie Barron Hall. The Enneagram of Personality, rooted in psychology, is a typology of nine interconnected personality types. With Stephanie's guidance, we learn more about our own types (Sharleen's a 4; Andy's a 5) and how they play a role in our compatibility, how we feel loved, how we communicate, and yes, how we fight. Reflections and confessions lie ahead! 

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We're back to answering YOUR questions! You guys came at us with some tough topics this time around: Should you and your partner talk about your pasts? What should you do if you and your ex are in the same friend group? Do you only seem to want what you can't have? And after having been on The Bachelor, what was dating in the real world like for Sharleen? Our answers to your burning question lie ahead... Can you handle the truth? 

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It's Love Fest time! Today we're joined by Vanessa Grimaldi and her then-boyfriend (but now-fiancé!) Josh Wolfe. (Josh proposed 3 days after we recorded this!!) We learn the unique way in which these two got to know each other, how they complement each other, and the hilarious hurdle Josh had to overcome. We also talk housework, Canadian snacks, and Squatty Pottys (#notsponsored.... we wish). Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better?? Watch on to find out...

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You've definitely been there: On a date, and the onus feels like it's on you to ask questions and keep the conversation moving. Is your date self-absorbed, or is there more to this? Could you be accidentally contributing to this dynamic? This caller conversation went in a very different direction than expected, but we loved how it brought us (sooner than intended!) to Nervous Energy. We then segue into a couple of our big first date Dos and Don'ts. Do YOU commit any of these early dating crimes??

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Can you REALLY be friends with an ex? We're joined by Margie, Andy's ex-fiancée, who conveniently happens to have a PhD in clinical psychology. We go for a stroll down memory lane to learn about their history together. Then we discuss how they came to be friends today and what the key components are to true friendship post-romance. Finally, we get Margie's professional input: What are the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to dating and relationships? Warning: You WILL see yourself in these!

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Today is all about YOUR questions... the broader ones, that is. What are our thoughts on prenups, and do we have one? How should a woman deal with a man who doesn't satisfy her? After our meeting, did Andy go on dates with anyone else, or did he immediately close down the shop? And did Sharleen play it cool? Find out the answers to your burning questions in our first ever Q&A sesh!

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For our inaugural Love Fest episode, it's only fitting to be joined by dear friends (and engaged couple!) Caila Quinn and Nick Burrello. We dive deep on first impressions (and how those might have changed!), specific traits they value in each other, and relationship hurdles. Andy and Nick also bond over Instagram-husbandry. 😉 PLUS, we have our first ever Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better??

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Can you have a genuine connection but still get played? Is age a factor in the likelihood of a guy being a player? And how old was Andy at his most "player-y"? Our caller's story has a magical start but a confusing end that left her wondering what she could have done differently. Listen on to hear the Shandy take!

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We recorded this on a whim, not sure if it'd ever see the light of day. We weren't sure how best to introduce ourselves and kick off a podcast, but since it's our most frequently asked question, we ultimately decided to recap (and reminisce!) about how we met. Watch on to hear how two diehard skeptics who don't believe in fate, serendipity, or The One, somehow found themselves believing in something (almost).

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