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It’s not Normal, It’s Toxic-rid your life of toxic people

It’s not Normal, It’s Toxic-rid your life of toxic people

By It’s not Normal, It’s Toxic-ri
As a toxic relationship specialist my mission is to bring hope, healing, and FREEDOM to those whose lives have been affected by toxic relationships and emotional abuse. Living in environments that are not healthy for you can cause this type of abuse to be accepted as “normal”. TRUTH IS...ITS NOT NORMAL... ITS TOXIC! “ Learn to not only recognize a red flag when you see one but also have the courage to choose yourself and and move forward in a life that is free from the control of others.
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Toxic does not discriminate...

It’s not Normal, It’s Toxic-rid your life of toxic people

Toxic does not discriminate...

It’s not Normal, It’s Toxic-rid your life of toxic people

Toxic Relationship Amnesia
What is it that keeps us there? Lots of things, but one of them is because we develop toxic relationship amnesia. Meaning we forget the bad things in order to survive within it!
March 1, 2021
Back to back popular episodes!
Why the silent treatment and why is no contact so important?
February 25, 2021
A Letter to You-From the Trucker from Down Under!
This man has had quite the journey, he has changed his life by learning how his toxic past has affected him. He wrote this letter for all who are still struggling.
January 29, 2021
Does Co-Parenting Even Exist?
Trying to raise children with a Toxic Former Partner? I don’t have all the answers but I can tell you what to expect and suggest a few things that may help!
January 22, 2021
Relationships are Work...UUGG
We are told over and over the “relationships are work” but are you working towards the same goal? Because if you are not you are working in vain.
January 14, 2021
Forward motion for 2021!
Worried that you are going to spend yet another year in a place that is not healthy for you? Listen now for some tips on how to move forward to a happy healthy you before another year quickly disappears.
January 6, 2021
2020 Year End #1 Most Popular Podcast Replay: Emotional Abuse Fatigue
Are you finding that your health is declining? Living in environments with chronic stress will cause the human body to adapt to keep itself going. Learn what the signs and symptoms are so that you can identify if your toxic situation could be affecting your health at a deeper level than you may realize. Dr Heidi has a full adrenal fatigue recovery program available and has walked many back to a healthy balance after living in emotionally unhealthy situations. Listen Now.
December 28, 2020
2020 Year End 2nd Most Popular Podcast Replay: Trauma Bonding Explained
Listen now to the 2nd most popular podcast of 2020. Why is it so hard to leave, cut off, or distance ourselves from toxic environments? Why is it that the happy free feeling I thought I would have is not there?
December 22, 2020
2020 Year End 3rd Most Popular Podcast Replay! Why can’t I just walk away?
Why does it seem so hard to walk away from those we know are unhealthy for us. Logically it should be easy.... however it is anything but easy.
December 17, 2020
Replay! Happy Holiday Season Strikes Again
This is a replay of one of the most popular podcast episodes. The Holiday season brings with it some of the hardest days of the year to those involved with or dealing with people who carry toxic personalities. Listen again to prepare yourself for the upcoming weeks. If you know it is coming and know why it is happening it is not as hard to deal with when the erratic holiday behaviors present themselves.
December 8, 2020
Accepting vs Settling
What is the difference between being accepting in a relationship and settling in a relationship? A bit cloudy but there is definitely a difference.
December 1, 2020
Why do I keep waiting for just “one more thing”?
Why do we need so much validation that a relationship is not healthy for us? There are many reasons... Listen and see if you can relate.
November 18, 2020
Stepping back into the dating world with Kimberly Seltzer
Many of you have asked how to start back to dating again after the toxic teardown. Today on the show we have an expert to give us some forward steps you can take to get yourself back out there. Welcome to Kimberly Seltzer, another woman who has turned her past into her passion by helping others move forward with confidence in their dating lives.
November 10, 2020
Why is it so hard to find Peace?
It should be simple right? Why do we not feel the peace we expect waiting for us after leaving a toxic environment?
November 6, 2020
With Friends like These...
Toxic relationships are not only found in intimate settings. Friendships are relationships too and many of them are not what you think they are.
October 27, 2020
Are they in-laws or out-laws?
Married into the bliss of a toxic family? Every family had different dynamics but maybe just maybe you can get some tips.
October 20, 2020
Why didn’t I see it coming?
How did I end up here? It seemed to be good in the beginning, or at least seemed like something that had the potential to get better. Now here I am wondering how I got here.
October 13, 2020
You Asked!
Answers to questions that have been submitted by listeners and support group members.
September 7, 2020
I Dedicate this episode to......
To be the person that I needed when I was going through it is my mission. I dedicate this episode to the person in my life who did that for me. I Love You!
September 1, 2020
Toxic Identity Theft
Toxic People are identity thieves. The less you are in tune with yourself the easier it is for them to remain in control
August 19, 2020
Trauma Bonding Explained
Why is it so hard to move forward once we leave, cut off, or distance ourselves from toxic environments. Why is it that the happy free feeling I thought I would have is not there?
August 11, 2020
Life beyond Illness and Trauma
Join me and my guest Lesley, Host of the Mighty Talks Podcast, as she talks about her recover from life trauma and a chronic illness. She talks about the strength she gained as she turned her healing into a mission to help others.
August 6, 2020
Our Trucker from Down Under
Join me and my guest who has not only disconnected from the toxic people in his life but also found the strength and motivation to change his whole perspective on how he lives his life. He is now in the driver’s seat! He is free!
July 29, 2020
Emotional Abuse Fatigue
Are you having symptoms of emotional abuse fatigue/adrenal fatigue? Listen now to hear the symptoms that you may be having that are caused by living in the chronic stress of a toxic relationship.
July 15, 2020
I cut them off!!! NOW WHAT?
This is dedicated to a listener who has had to go no contact with her mother. She is struggling on how to deal with it moving forward as it is still causing her to struggle with her past.
July 7, 2020
The Words That Come Out of Their Mouths
We are emotional beings, we want to believe what others say. Be aware that toxic people say and do whatever they need, to get what they need, when they need it.
June 23, 2020
“Taylor Made”
Listen as Dr Heidi visits with her first ever Toxic Relationship Client. Taylor was a huge inspiration and validation that I move forward with this work. Thank you Taylor for Sharing your Story.
June 16, 2020
How can it go from so good to so bad so fast?
We call it moody but this is a whole different type of moody. How can they be nice one minute, then awful, and the next day nice again.
June 10, 2020
Why are we so resistant to change?
CHANGE! YIKES!! Who doesnt like the thought of change? If so why are we so resistant to actually making it?
June 2, 2020
Is Blood Really Thicker Than Water?
Raised to feel that you have to be loyal to those who have mistreated you? Is Blood Really Thicker than Water?
May 22, 2020
Something about Security
How security and insecurities play a role in relationships.
May 13, 2020
Confusion Infusion
How and why does it go from so good to so bad so fast?
May 3, 2020
How did I do It?
I get asked all the time how I did it. How I was able to leave, heal, and move forward? Truth be told....... I don’t truly know, all I know is that I did not stop.
April 21, 2020
What about you?
We spend much time looking at the toxic people in our lives wondering if they are really toxic or not. This episode lets look at you and how toxic prat is of others may be or have affected you, how you feel, how you act, how you see yourself.
April 10, 2020
High Conflict During Pandemic
Are you experiencing higher than normal conflict with your toxic person. There is a reason for that. The situation in the world is out of everyone’s control including the toxic people. They need control to feel secure so if you are one that is feeling the increase in the heat...... here is why.
April 3, 2020
Why can’t I just walk away?
Trauma Bonding explained and why it is so hard to understand the difficulty in leaving unhealthy situations.
March 27, 2020
Quarantined with Toxic?
This state of national emergency has my heart going out to those who are in toxic situations. This is going to be a tough couple weeks. You can do it!
March 16, 2020
Are you a stick fetcher?
We are trained by repetition and reprimand to accommodate to the toxic personalities needs. How do we untrained?
February 25, 2020
What is “LOVE”
Put the cloudy thoughts away and put LOVE into perspective.
February 16, 2020
She is making her own music now!
How one determined person persists in her struggle to understand toxicity in relationships and in the importance of finding and living for oneself.
February 4, 2020
What can we NOT control!
Pop up Podcast with Dr Heidi talking off the cuff and answering listeners questions.
January 29, 2020
Turning Past into Passion-all types of toxic.
My guest today has a podcast of his own, he is an ever growing dream of leadership and direction, but he also has experience with toxicity in many areas of his both business and personal life.
January 17, 2020
Are your spiritual or religious beliefs keeping you trapped?
Join us for a look into the religious/spiritual angle of riding your life of those who are unhealthy for you.
January 10, 2020
Part 2 JUMP into the NEW YEAR
What is your life satisfaction rating?
January 8, 2020
JUMP into the NEW YEAR!
What do you want your life to look like 366 days from now. How do you move forward when you feel so stuck? Episode #1 using your strength to move you forward!
January 3, 2020
Yep it is the Joyful Holiday Season again!
Why is it that what are supposed to be the happiest of times end up being some of the worst memories we have. How is it that every holiday season ends up in disappointment? There is a reason that toxic people and holidays do not mix.
December 22, 2019
Listeners Question: Am I ever going to “heal”?
When will this what seems to be a struggle end? I feel like I have served my time!!! Truth is you are on a journey and you have already been healing. You have already survived everyday that you thought you wouldn’t . You are already moving and growing!
December 15, 2019
Listener question: What do I do when they are not “doing well”?
When you hear or see that the are not doing well, out of control, or reckless, what is your responsibility.?
December 6, 2019
Listener question: Why is it that I feel like the toxic one?
There are many reasons that you ma be feeling like you are the one who is bringing toxic traits to the relationship. We are all capable of being toxic but we are not all “toxic”
November 27, 2019
A few tips on dealing with the toxic coworker.
Dr Heidi featured in Forbes:
November 23, 2019
“Love Yourself More”... what does that even mean?
We hear it all the time, “you really need to love yourself more” ..... easy to say hard concept to grasp. Let’s talk about ways you may not be owing yourself so you have a place to start!
November 20, 2019
Why the Silent Treatment?
Many experience the silent treatment when they are in unhealthy environments. What does it mean and why does it happen?
November 6, 2019
Why “No Contact”?
Many wonder why no contact is so important when removing yourself from a toxic situation. Here are a few of the reasons why I stress the importance of the concept.
October 29, 2019
And the award goes to....
Triggers pop up at the most inconvenient times.
October 22, 2019
I Remember....
I have been blessed to help others through the fire of toxic relationships, in doing so I am coming from a place of understanding. Why because I was there and I remember..
September 27, 2019
Nothing feels as good as letting go.
Your letting go you are to loosing, you are not giving up and you are not weak. Let go!
September 17, 2019
Who were you before someone else told you who you should be?
The only person you are destined to become is the person that “you” decide to be!
September 9, 2019
Am I “In Love”?
Why do I feel like I am “in love” with someone that I know is not good for me?
August 28, 2019
Change and the fear that goes with it
Making changes in life is exciting but I found that changes in my life were also very scary. Why do we resist change.... usually the fear factor!
August 16, 2019
Changes in your social circles?
How to digest the changes in the social circles and friends when leaving a toxic environment.
August 9, 2019
Dr Heidi is winging this one....Surprise!
Today I am talking off the cuff. I felt the need to let out whatever decided to come our today! Not to bad! Let me know what you think!!!!
August 2, 2019
Standing Strong....
Dr Heidi and her ideas ....
August 2, 2019
Toxic does not discriminate...
Today you will here from Joe, a male who has stepped out of his past of repetitive unhealthy environments and into healing himself by discovering who he was really meant to be. Toxic relationships do not discriminate and Joe has made it his mission is to take a stand for the males who may be struggling in this area.
July 25, 2019
How to process the”feelings”...
There are so many feelings to processs when leaving a toxic environment it can become overwhelming. How and why we have them!
July 16, 2019
Your time starts tomorrow! 13 minute challenge!
taking care of ourselves goes by the wayside when we are involved with toxic people. It is easier to put ourselves last on the list than to have conflict of fight for ourselves.
July 9, 2019
How do I do this?
Removing yourself from a Toxic environment is easier said than done. We all know that there are people around us who do not understand, they just don’t get it! I do!!! I was there. Looking back on my journey to freedom....Wow is would not want to do it again but what I have learned and knowing who I am now makes it total worth it!
June 30, 2019
Toxic Love!
How does someone who says they “love” me treat me this way? Toxic people do not love the way we do.... the end!
June 21, 2019
Cheater, Cheater....
Have you felt the pain, the panic, the numbness after learning of infidelity in your relationship? Remember toxic people get what they need at the expense of others.
June 13, 2019
What is it about $$$...???
Intertwined in the many types of abuse is the control and often withholding of the financial resources. Why is this apparent in most all types of abuse? Control!!!
June 10, 2019
Resources here at Coaching with Dr Heidi
Full list of all the resources that Coaching with Dr Heidi has available. Toxic Relationship Awareness and Healing in our number one mission.
June 4, 2019
The Common Threads in Toxicity...
Toxic relationship in our lives can be with things other than people. The guest on todays podcast can tell you why. Addictions of any type are toxic relationships in hiding.
May 31, 2019
The Devastation of Betrayal
Have you been betrayed with no way to recover? Betrayal is devastating because it can only happen with someone you trust. What now?
May 25, 2019
Decisions, Decisions, Decisions...
Oh the dreaded decisions, who want to be the one to make a decision? Not me! It is easier to allow others to make them for me so I don’t have to worry that it is the wrong one. Making decisions is a part of life, it gives you independence. Toxic people steal your decision making ability as a form of control. Take it back.
May 22, 2019
To the Mothers.........
Mother’s Day... Ugg.... is it Happy?
May 12, 2019
What to expect to feel when leaving a toxic situation.
Everyone is different but many struggle with the aftermath of leaving a toxic situation. Learn a few tips that a may help you through the transition.
May 10, 2019
Quick relationship check....
IF you have been feeling that “something is wrong” or “something is not right” here is a quick relationship scan that may get you to thinking about your situation.
May 3, 2019
She’s got this.....
Join me and my guest for an encouraging perspective of healing from a toxic relationship and how at a young age she was able to see clearly the damage it was causing.
April 25, 2019
Survivor Island....
This episode features a group of those just getting ready to finish up the group coaching program here at Coaching with Dr Heidi.... you should have seen the transition that I was able to see between the first class and today. They know now that if someone is not healthy for you, you are allowed to vote them off your island.
April 24, 2019
What will people think if...?
Are you listing reasons or making excuses. There is a fine line between the two.
April 17, 2019
Run towards the Roar
What are we running from? Recap of the 2019 It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic Conference. What a perfect group of people!!!!
April 9, 2019
How abuse Escalates....
How is it that abuse grows within a personal relationship? Join us to understand what is truly violent and abusive behavior.
March 29, 2019
Then & Now
Walk through a journey with someone who knows how difficult the struggle is to move on from what is “normal” to what is truly normal.
March 26, 2019
Do you miss Laughing? I did...
Laughing is the best medicine.....
March 25, 2019
Looking in the Mirror!
Who do you see when you look in the mirror? Who would you like to see?
March 19, 2019
Triggers......UUUGGG Can You Please Go Away?
Triggers!!! Yuck... How do we get rid, over, around and through them?
March 13, 2019
What if I am lonely?
Being lonely is a fear that keeps many in and causes many to go back to toxic relationships. Why is it so scary?
March 3, 2019
Made me tear up!!!
Surprise testimonial!
February 25, 2019
Coparent? Ha... That’s a good one!
Join me in an interview with a client that has great insight on what to expect while raising children with a Toxic person!
February 20, 2019
The Effects of Living in Chronic Stress
Your body is adaptable and just like adapting to a stinky room your body adapts to stressful situations which make them seem not so stressful. Why because they become normal to us. What effects on your health may be from living in a chronically stressful environment?
February 8, 2019
What to expect when finding yourself in the middle of a smear campaign and what you should do about it.
February 2, 2019
Let’s Talk about you...
Last week when Melissa and Angela asked me questions that made me think about myself I realized how much we don think about ourselves. This is a fun interactive podcast to get you thinking about yourself and your life. Have fun!
January 29, 2019
An Interview with Dr. Heidi
Many have asked to know a little bit more about Dr Heidi so here your go! Melissa and I (Angela) cornered her for an interview.
January 21, 2019
Learn the Lingo
Have you done research on toxic relationships, emotional abuse and narcissistic behavior and found that you had to then do research on words and phrases within your research? It is VOCAB time!!!
January 15, 2019
What’s with the LOGO?
My logo is a representation of the 4 steps that I moved through in my own healing process. It is also the 4 steps that program presents.
January 8, 2019
2018 you made it, 2019 watch out!
Thinking about you and your life goals, values and dreams is not easy when you are in a toxic relationship. Let’s start building you from the inside out!
December 29, 2018
Live recording of Ho Ho Hopeful Webinar
This is the live recording of the HO HO Hopeful Webinar if you were not able to attend. Long awaited Announcement Revealed!!!
December 17, 2018
Free Webinar- Ho Ho Hopeful surviving the holidays with a toxic person
to Register
December 12, 2018
Listener’s question
Should I call the toxic person out on being toxic? What do I do about the anger I have? Are the toxic people in my life aware they are this way?
December 2, 2018
What I am grateful for....
Looking back there are so many things that I am grateful for that may not make a whole lot of sense to others. I am grateful for everything that my past has lead me through. As it turns out the years I thought I was struggling I was actually in training to help others experience in the same or similar situations. I am grateful for the listeners who have shared my podcast with others who are struggling to heal and remove form toxic relationships.
November 23, 2018
“Hijacked” Hear what others have to say.
Hear what others have to say! Hi this is Angela, Dr. Heidi’s administrative assistant/general badass. I hijacked the podcast platform today because I think you all need to hear some of what Dr Heidi’s clients are saying about the work she does and her dedication to it. She is actually quite amazing!
November 15, 2018
Parental Obligation
Welcome back Melissa! Your questions about obligation and guilt answered here.
November 14, 2018
Control... and why am I feeling so out of it?
How do we decide what is in our control and let go of what is not?
November 11, 2018
What is it that Really Scares you?
Why do we stay in an environment that is unhealthy for us?
October 30, 2018
What does Healthy Look Like
Toxic relationships warp our sense of what a healthy relationship may look like, listen to get an idea of how it may be different than one that is not healthy for you.
October 23, 2018
Country Roads Take Me Home
Improve with Melissa on our way back after visiting her home in Ohio
October 14, 2018
Feel the Freedom
Take the feel the Freedom challenge today. Stand in your power
October 9, 2018
Meet the Team
Introducing the team at coaching with dr heidi ... we are here for you!
October 2, 2018
Are you too sensitive?
September 25, 2018
Instagram Reflection
A stroll down Instagram lane
September 18, 2018
Peace is Possible
My guest Dr Morgan
September 11, 2018
Love Bombing
To good to be true?
September 4, 2018
What to Expect
August 18, 2018
Easier Said than done.
July 31, 2018
A little about HOOVERING
July 24, 2018
July 3, 2018
Am I just sensitive?
May 29, 2018
May 22, 2018
May 15, 2018
New beginnings: Education & Self Discovery
May 8, 2018
April 17, 2018
Public vs Private
Why do they act nice in public and mean at home?
April 6, 2018
How to deal with lying
They make me doubt myself, how do I deal with that?
March 31, 2018
Are they toxic or not?
March 27, 2018
Mar 24, 2018
March 24, 2018