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Be Your Differentiated Self with Dr. Lorenzo Neal

Be Your Differentiated Self with Dr. Lorenzo Neal

By Dr. Lorenzo Neal
Author, counselor, educator, and pastor Dr. Lorenzo Neal discusses topics through the lens of differentiation of self and it's affect on our interpersonal lives. Family issues, religious expression, social justice issues, and politics are all engaged by how well self differentiated we are.
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The Self and Emotional Intelligence
All of us desire to have better interpersonal relationships. A big key to this is being emotionally intelligent. Dr. Neal discusses how emotional intelligence is a key ingredient to being a highly self-differentiated person.
April 9, 2021
Blossum Up the Self with Krisshundria James
On this episode of the podcast, I am joined by my niece the lovely Krisshundria James. She's an author, counselor, entreprenuer, and life coach. We discuss the trauma that impacted her self and put her on a trajectory of success in life. 
August 19, 2020
The Quarantined Self
In this long delayed episode of the BYDS podcast, Dr. Neal discusses his personal stressor response to the COVID-19 pandemic and the shelter in place quaratined life. Sometimes we need to escape from the negative stress responses to have an empowering existence in the present moment andin the days to come post quarantine life.
May 19, 2020
The Architect or Archetype
Dr. Neal introduces the concept of Jungian Archetype as part of the development of self identity for interpersonal and intra-personal growth
February 4, 2020
The I's Have It
The letter I is a simple letter but when seen within the broader scope of human existence, it can be one selfish letter. On this episode of Be Your Differentiated Self, Dr. Neal discusses how the I-Position in self-differentiation can be one that is empowering and liberating for the individual and the broader family or organization unit. Drawing from a number of sources, Dr. Neal takes us on a journey of exploration to developing a healthy I Position. Remember the Titans- Disney Movies 2000  (Fair Use) Music- Your Call by Kevin Macleod Research notes- Bowen Center Institute for Dialogical Research Two Months of Free Premium Skillshare
December 24, 2019
The Self and Belonging
Everyone wants to belong to something. There is a human need to be connected in various ways. Dr. Neal discusses how belongingness and the self are connected and serve as motivation towards creating a healthier emotional self and better, more fulfilling and rewarding relationships.  Get Two Months of Free Premium on Skillshare when you sign up Suppport on Patreon
December 16, 2019
The Differentiation of Self Inventory (DSI): Seeing Your Differentiated Self
Is there a way to measure Self-Differentiation? Of course there is and Dr. Neal walks us through the Differentiation of Self Inventory better known as the DSI. This self-taking inventory provides questions on a Likert scale instrument to help individuals assess where they are on the self-differentiation spectrum. The four categories of the DSI- Emotional Cut-off (EC) Emotional Reactivity (ER), Fusion with others (FO), and I-Position (IP) help individuals discover where they are emotionally in relations with family of origin members, spouses, and children but is also applicable for use in professional, organizational, and community relationship assessments.  Music by Kevin Macleod Sign up for Two Free Months of Skillshare Premium here:
October 25, 2019
Thinking in Systems: Anxiety, Emotions, and The Self
Differentiation of self begins with learning to think in systems. Systems thinkning is seeing the self from inter-related perspectives. Dr Neal disccusses how anxiety, emotions, and the self are inter-related and can lead to individuals being higher or lower differentiated selves.
October 11, 2019
So What is Differentiation?
This episode explains the concept of differentiation of self as part of Dr. Murray Bowen's Family Systems theory of family counseling. Dr. Neal explains the eight concepts of Bowen's Family Systems theory and the four sub categories of differentiation of self and how these concepts present a construct for interpersonal relationships across all spectrums of life. If you want to further explore Bowen's concepts vist here  Learn Something New and Get Two Free Months of Premium Membership // Support on Patreon and Paypal
October 4, 2019
Be Your Differentiated Self (BYDS) Podcast Introduction Show
In this short introdcution clip, Dr. Lorenzo Neal gives the initial introduction on what the BYDS podcast is all about.
September 30, 2019