Transforming Your Life with Dr. Malaika is a weekly podcast that explores various topics from a social and personal level and focuses on helping you live your best in every season of life. Dr. Malaika is a mental health clinician, educator, motivational speaker and author who uses her personal experiences, social situations and education to help challenge others to be the best version of themselves.
Suicide affects all demographics of people. Every year, about 41,000 people die by suicide, 1.3 million adults attempt suicide, 2.7 million adults have had a plan for suicide and 9.3 million adults have had suicidal thoughts. This doesn’t even include numbers for the youth. We need to have This conversation and we need to have it often.
The beginning of a new school year brings many positives but also challenges for the child and parent. These challenges can impact mental health of not attended to properly. Let’s discuss things to be aware of and tips for how to deal with stressors as they occur.
Youth are often the forgotten group when it comes to mental health issues. They are often disregarded and have their issues minimize. Let’s discuss how you can better understand their issues and become an advocate.
Singleness is often viewed as a deficiency socially. Many question why they are still single, especially if they are over a particular age. Let’s talk about the myths of singleness and why you could still be single.
Two mass shootings in a span of thirteen hours in El Paso, TX and Dayton, OH committed by white Americans, one believed to have a white nationalist agenda, shows that there is a problem in America. The challenge is this problem has always been here. Radicalized racism is a cancer and we need to talk about it so change can occur.
With headlines like Nicole Murphy and Antoine Fuqua being caught in a compromising position in Italy, Prince William and Jay Z admitting to infidelity, cheating is a topic that needs to be discussed. What happens in the mind of a person that causes them to cheat?
When it comes to love, could your cognitive biases be keeping you from finding "the one"? “Use your head, not your heart." Many of us have been told that our brains will lead us down the right path. But are our brains really so wise in matters of love? Or do they lead us astray?
Many high achievers share a dirty little secret: Deep down they feel like complete frauds–their accomplishments the result of serendipitous luck.
This psychological phenomenon, known as impostor syndrome, reflects a belief that you’re an inadequate and incompetent failure, despite evidence that indicates you’re skilled and quite successful.
Holding on to pain doesn’t fix anything. Replaying the past over and over again doesn’t change it, and wishing things were different doesn’t make it so. In some cases, especially when it comes to the past, all you can do is accept whatever it is you’re holding on to and then let it go. That’s how everything changes. You have to let go of what is hurting you, even if it feels almost impossible.
Religion and spirituality are both rooted in trying to understand the meaning of life and, in some cases, how a relationship with a higher power may influence that meaning. While religion and spirituality are similar in foundation, they are very different in practice. Let’s discuss how both impact your overall health and wellbeing.
Extensive research shows why you should forgive people who have offended or hurt you, even if they never ask. But what if there offense is extremely egregious? Is there a limit to what should be forgiven. Let’s discuss how freedom comes with forgiveness, and not to the forgiven.
People have developed various rituals around ending important life periods. They get together for a last meal, throw a good-bye party, or see their visitors off at the airport.
Why would people go through this effort in finding a round ending rather than moving on right away to what is coming next? Most research on life transitions has focused on the new beginning and on what helps once people have started their new life period. Ending a phase in a well-rounded way causally promotes positive affect and a constructive transition.
Instead of getting visibly angry, some people express their hostility in passive-aggressive ways designed to hurt and confuse their target. Most people will have to deal with passive-aggression from others in their personal and professional lives at one time or another. Let’s talk about it!
Being a control freak seems to be annoying yet harmless, but that isn’t the case. Control freaks experience consequences ranging from constant irritability to uncontrollable anger. In addition to wreaking havoc on your mental health, being a control freak also wastes time and energy, both of which are finite resources. Let’s identify the symptoms and talk about ways to improve.
Do you know a toxic person? Even if you don't now, at some point in your life you're bound to have come across a person who fits the description. Dealing with such an individual can be difficult and draining, to say the least. In fact, it may challenge what you know about yourself and push you to the limits.
In everyday life, we all wear masks. It’s part of the reality of living that we have different “masks” or personas we project to the public.
But what’s important is having some conscious awareness of what we’re doing and being able to see if the masks we wear interfere with healthy living.
The rise of social media has meant that we as a global population are more connected than we have ever been in the history of time. However, our reliance on social media can have a detrimental effect on our mental health, with the average person checking their accounts a minimum of 28 times per day. Let’s talk about how this impacts mental health and changes that can be made.
The untimely and tragic death of philanthropist, activist and rapper Nipsey Hussle has caused widespread grief for many who did not know him personally, not had a connection to the area he was from. Today we talk about him and the concept of mass grief, also known as mourning sickness.
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” — Lewis B. Smedes
Forgiveness does not erase the past, but looks upon it with compassion. To withhold forgiveness keeps alive emotions of hurt, anger and blame which discolour your perception of life. To forgive, avoid ruminating on thoughts of being wronged. Rather, trust the power of forgiveness to heal the hurt and pain.
Addiction is usually associated with excessive and harmful behavior or substance abuse. The word addiction conjures up weakness and dependency. And the same can be said about emotional addiction. An emotional addiction, not only colors our world with its shades, but can also be our crutch. So it’s crucial to our mental and emotional wellbeing to examine how we feel most of the time and assess our negative emotional dependency.
"Victims" deal in judgments and "shoulds" in interactions with others. They operate on the basic assumption that the world should be fair: "I should have been loved by my parents." "My children should call me or write to me." "After all that I've done for her, the least she could do ..." This type of preoccupation with "rights" and "shoulds" is irrelevant to the real problems that we are all faced with. Let’s talk about ditching the victim role and playing the victim game and becoming accountable and adaptive in our behaviors.
No matter how big or small, almost all of us experienced some kind of trauma as children. Inner child work is a vital component of inner work because it reconnects us with a wounded element of ourselves: the child within. When we reconnect with this fragmented part of ourselves, we can begin to discover the root of many of our fears, phobias, insecurities and sabotaging life patterns.
‘Practice makes perfect.’ ‘If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.’ There are so many more quotes that make us believe perfection is attainable but as Voltaire said ‘the best is the enemy of the good.’ Aiming for or expecting perfection is a trap with serious emotional consequences. Let’s discuss how to get out of or avoid the perfection trap.
Who is there for the friend that is always there for everyone else? How do you know when they even need help? Let’s talk about how to support the strong friend in the group and maybe even give some strong friends advice on when they need to seek support.
When did telling the truth become a lost virtue? It seems like in this country honesty is no longer respected or better yet demanded. What changes need to be made to get back to living in truth in real life?
Many don’t understand why blackface is such a big deal. About 1 in 3 Americans surveyed stated that blackface is always or sometimes acceptable. Let’s discuss the real issues around this controversial topic. Are we hurting one another by ignoring the impact of this practice?
Many have expectations and ideas about what a relationship should or shouldn’t be. Join me and my special guest, my husband Sharod, as we tackle some of those beliefs and have a little fun while talking about relationship good, bad and ugly.
For over four decades, research has been done to try an identify if racism stemmed from a mental illness. Recent events bring this question back around again. Let’s explore and discuss if racism is in fact a mental illness.
Let's examine the case of R. Kelly and the allegations against him and what it means to the African American and church communities. There are issues within this case that need to be addressed and we dive into some of them during this episode.