Mentor Of Life

When you live a Balanced Life, you are better equipped to handle what life throws at you. Why do I prefer to talk about the balanced life, instead of self-care. Self-care conjures up pictures of a spa day, Massage, exercise, and sometimes people throw in meditation. The balanced life, however prioritizes total care for your spirit soul and body. It is divided into five pillars, which I call the five pillars of balance. Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and relational. When “self care” is seen from this perspective, it becomes more than just one spa day every few months. It is a way of life. It is realizing that unless you take care of yourself consistently, you are no good to anyone. Contrary to what seems to be popular belief, a balanced life does not mean giving equal amounts of time, energy, and focus to everything in your life. That is not possible to do. Somethings in your life are more important than others, and some things in your life are more important at certain times than others. Of course, true emergencies are most important, and most urgent. For example, a burst appendix, is always going to be more important than a  therapy session, simply because it is a life threatening emergency. I will now break down the five pillars of balance, and how to be practical about taking care of the whole you.

When you live a Balanced Life, you are better equipped to handle what life throws at you. Why do I prefer to talk about the balanced life, instead of self-care. Self-care conjures up pictures of a spa day, Massage, exercise, and sometimes people throw in meditation. The balanced life, however prioritizes total care for your spirit soul and body. It is divided into five pillars, which I call the five pillars of balance. Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and relational. When “self care” is seen from this perspective, it becomes more than just one spa day every few months. It is a way of life. It is realizing that unless you take care of yourself consistently, you are no good to anyone. Contrary to what seems to be popular belief, a balanced life does not mean giving equal amounts of time, energy, and focus to everything in your life. That is not possible to do. Somethings in your life are more important than others, and some things in your life are more important at certain times than others. Of course, true emergencies are most important, and most urgent. For example, a burst appendix, is always going to be more important than a  therapy session, simply because it is a life threatening emergency. I will now break down the five pillars of balance, and how to be practical about taking care of the whole you.

FacebookTweetPin Whatever your long-term goals are, without the following three qualities below, you will very likely fizzle out before you get to your goals. The unstoppable trio comprises perseverance, Patience and Passion.

Do You Truly Rest? No, I am not talking about working yourself into the ground and falling asleep, stuporous on your sofa. I read a book on leadership by Reverend Nolan McCants and ironically, the first chapter is on rest! In today’s crazy world, with busy schedules, school, work, home, marriage, children, church, volunteer commitments etc, how do we get ourselves some rest?

 Every three months I go on a one day personal retreat. I save up a few dollars each month, and I use this to book a hotel room within a 30-40 minute distance from my home and I take off. I usually stay for 10 to 12 hours and I have no agenda. As someone who plans out every single minute of her life, this is a refreshing change of pace. I pray, sleep, swim, exercise, eat, read, and do very little by way of work. Since I started taking these personal retreats, my life has moved to a new level. I have become more creative, more productive, more efficient and more peaceful. Here is the power of a personal retreat when done properly...

How  you handle negative or critical people is key to your growth, and key to living a life of and harmony. Here are eight simple keys to handling haters. 

How you handle negative or critical people is key to your growth, and key to living a life of and harmony. Here are eight simple keys to handling haters. 

Today I will be writing about about choices, challenges and change. These are three things the we are faced with, everyday of our life. We cannot escape these three things and it is vital to a balanced life for us to be able to handle the “C” triplets....

In 2005, we tied the knot. Sealed the deal. Got hitched. Jumped the broom. A year later, we moved to Chicago. From then on, it was an endless cycle of offenses, silent treatment, outbursts, and make up sex. The next three years of our marriage were rather rocky. Fast forward to 2019, our marriage is thriving, we have helped many people’s marriages not only survive but thrive; we have counseled scores of people getting married, and we have our own marriage charity. So the question is: how did we get from there to where we are now? Listen in for 5 actionable tips for a thriving marriage

If you are having trouble with limiting mindsets, procrastination, meeting your goals, and getting organized, you may need to take it a step further- hiring a life coach. What can a coach do for you?

Have you ever felt overwhelmed? Okay, don’t answer that. Everyone at some point in their life has felt overwhelmed with their circumstances. Something we don’t realize, however, is that we do not have to feel that way.... Listen in for the keys to banish overwhelm from your life!

Power is defined as the ability to do something or act in a particular way. Another definition is the capacity to direct or influence.  Yet another definition is the right or authority that is given or delegated to a person or body. Other definitions include physical strength, and energy. What power do you as an individual actually have? The answer is, a lot!

Discover your purpose in this podcast, that breaks down finding your purpose into actionable steps!

In this episode, Dr. Shola shares practical strategies on how you can set achieve your goals in 2019!

In this (test) episode of the Mentor Of Life podcast learn practical tips and strategies to prevent holiday stress once and for all!