Mentor Of Life

Everyone acts as though procrastination is a character flaw, but in this video, not only do I show how it is not. I give you real strategies that will help you stop procrastinating.   Still need help?   Book a call and let’t talk.   bit.ly/atolima

Watch/Listen as I share my personal story of how I recovered from burnout (and how you can too!) Ten powerful steps that you MUST take in order to defeat burnout, I share my story in this week’s episode. To get on my calendar for a FREE Strategy Session that can start YOU on the road from burnout to freedom, book here! bit.ly/atolima

1. Take care of yourself  2. Stop feeling guilty  3. Set boundaries with your children   Want more?   Get my book:   https://www.amazon.com/FREE-BE-Empowered-Womans-Handbook/dp/B0B45DXH6W

* There are people who are committed to misunderstanding you.   * There are people who will argue with you even if you believe the same things (they are just contradictory and contrarian).  *  There are some people who will argue with you just because it’s you.   * Those same people when they hear from others,  they will not say  “pim” * There are some people whose worldview is vastly different from yours and you still have to co- exist with them * If logic did not get them there, logic will not get them out.   What to do?  * Step back  * Remove your own emotions from the situation  * Think about a bug, and that you are trying to teach it calculus.  * Ask yourself: can they receive what I am giving  * Last but not least, always remember that you can explain something to people, but you cannot understand it for them.

To buy my book Free To Be; The Empowered Woman’s Handbook, which has more on relationships…   Click here: https://www.amazon.com/FREE-BE-Empowered-Womans-Handbook/dp/B0B45DXH6W  To get on my calendar and see how I can help you uplevel your relationships and eliminate toxic ones,  click here. bit.ly/atolima

Maybe the reason you are burned out and don’t “have time” for your dreams is because you resort to Savior Behavior. Here are 7 signs of Savior Behavior you need to avoid. To buy my book Free To Be: The Empowered Woman’s Handbook. Click here: https://www.amazon.com/FREE-BE-Empowered-Womans-Handbook/dp/B0B45DXH6W To book a free call with me to find out how I can help you step up from Savior Behavior so that you can live stress free, and create your new CBV (Career, Business, and Vocation), click the link below. bit.ly/atolima

What happens when our “roles” in peoples lives change?        * Instead of trying to fit into someone else’s framework, just to keep the       peace and keep your relationship with them, it is better to be your authentic self and let the chips fall where they may.        * If you need to make changes necessary for your growth as a person, do it. It can be argued that anyone that doesn’t want you to grow and become better should probably be at the periphery of your life, and not at the center.        * Don’t remain angry when people’s attitudes toward the “New You” change. Instead of being angry and trying to force them to accept this better version of you, just re-direct your energy and emotions to the new crop of supporters that will inevitably come your way.       * Don’t over explain yourself. Remember, those who truly matter won’t mind and those who mind don’t really matter.       * Make your growth a priority. That way, you will not be distracted by other people’s attitudes.   *Don’t condescend. Just accept that some people will be ok with the NEW YOU and some people won’t.    To get to know how I can help you navigate changing roles, book a call with me here:  bit.ly/atolima

In these post pandemic days, people have found the need to pivot and transition to more suitable careers, businesses and vocations. Here are 5 things that you absolutely must consider when you are in that transitional phase Watch/Listen. Link to book a call with me: bit.ly/atolima

They say when the going gets tough, the tough get going. Well when life seems to have you in knots and you have more tasks and less time, here is what to do..   1. Remember you can only do one thing at a time. Worrying about all the things you have to do is not going to get them done.  2. Making a to do list is so that you don’t forget tasks, not something to beat yourself up with, when you “only” do 25 things out of 50.   3. Instead of working off a “to do list”, take the things from the list in order of urgency (deadlines) and importance, and assign them spots on your calendar.  4. Use a calendar/ schedule  5. Delegate, hire and outsource, and don’t micromanage.  6. Make peace with an imperfect life.  7. Do calming activities so that you don’t feel frantic (frantic feelings make you feel like everything is worse than it is)- meditation, breathing exercises, being out in nature etc.  8. Share your struggles with a close trusted friend.   My calendar bit.ly/atolima   My website: https://sholaezeokoli.com/  Coaching https://physicianhealyourself.life/

Dear doctor,    1. Take care of your health. Don’t pretend to be a superhero. Because, the day you crumble, everything you’re holding up will crumble too.  Also because you just need to.    2. Burnout is common, but not necessary. You do not have to fall prey to this scourge.    3. Develop a healthy identity that doesn’t involve you being a superman, a savior, a martyr, or a fixer.    4. If you suffered certain things on your path to becoming a doctor, it doesn’t mean that you get to subject Junior Doctors to the same suffering. Do better.    5. Get the best job you possibly can.   6. Don’t fall prey to the belief that there are no better jobs out there. Remember, there is a Physician shortage, not a patient shortage.    7. Do something that you love every day.    I am Dr. Shola Ezeokoli, Physician coach. I help busy physicians defeat and prevent burnout, as well as create options for themselves outside of traditional medical practice.   Watch a free Masterclass on burnout here.  https://physicianhealyourself.life/burnout-to-balance-masterclass-optin/

Meet Dr Saran Wells, Pediatrician, Infectious disease specialist and medical monitor! She  shares her experience of working with me in my Private Coaching program. If you want to work with me too… Book a FREE call with me to get started: bit.ly/atolima

How? Change your identity to a more confident, empowered one. Recognize and conquer confidence blockers Learn skills to build more confidence Learn how to be more confident at work Learn how to confidently face backlash and criticism Have your own confidence road map. In my newest program, I show you all these steps. Book a call on my calendar Link in comments

Might you be making some of these mistakes? Surrounding yourself with the wrong people Elevating the voice of your inner critic Diminishing your accomplishments and your virtues Basing your worth on your failures Overthinking Click this link to Join Empowered Womanhood where our theme of the month is confidence! https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredwomanhood Book a call for a FREE strategy session on confidence: bit.ly/atolima

In this episode you will learn: What confidence is What confidence is not Why you need confidence 5 Enemies Of Confidence 5 Confidence building tips! If you are a woman, needing a confidence boost, join me on the 29th of April in my facebook group: Empowered Womanhood for a conversation on confidence with Dr Otito Okpor Link to join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1564235207260468/?ref=share

Meet Dr Laura Suttin, Internist, Physician Coach, and Speaker She  shares her experience of working with me in my Private Coaching program. If you want to work with me too… Book a FREE call with me to get started: bit.ly/atolima

The Disempowered Identities: The superwoman: I am superior and I know what is best for everyone. The savior: I just want to help. The employee: mother may I The martyr: my self-worth lies in suffering for others The fixer: every problem is mine to fix The victim: there is nothing I can do about anything The pleaser: I just want everybody to be happy. The Empowered Identity- The Sovereign Has a domain Tight circle with limited access Trusted advisors and not all and sundry. Unafraid to do the unconventional. Remains in integrity. Join our free facebook group Empowered Womanhood for more! https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredwomanhood To book me to speak at your Women’s Empowerment Event, send an email to info@sholaezeokoli.com

Self care is a phrase that is thrown carelessly about and it has become something of a buzzword. But what is self care? A spa day? A pedicure? A day at the beach? All of these things are great, but this is not self care… Take a listen to find out what self care truly is. If you want to work with me too… Book a FREE call with me to get started: bit.ly/atolima If you would like me to speak at your organization, event, or conference send an email to info@sholaezeokoli.com to get started.

Self care is a phrase that is thrown carelessly about and it has become something of a buzzword. But what is self care? A spa day? A pedicure? A day at the beach? All of these things are great, but this is not self care… Take a listen to find out what self care truly is. If you want to work with me too… Book a FREE call with me to get started: bit.ly/atolima If you would like me to speak at your organization, event, or conference send an email to info@sholaezeokoli.com to get started.

Meet Dr. Dozie Anokwute, internist, angel investor and venture capitalist. He shares his experience of working with me in my 90-Day Private Coaching program. If you want to work with me too… Book a FREE call with me to get started: bit.ly/atolima If you are a doctor, you can join Burnout To Freedom: Total Physician Wellness CME here: www.burnout2freedom.com

You neglect yourself You embody a self hating identity. You live by the words of your inner critic You constantly feel unworthy of good things You constantly seek external validation even in trivial things (no self trust) If you want more support than this short teaching, you can book a call with me here to get started Book a FREE call with me to get started: bit.ly/atolima If you are a doctor, you can join Burnout To Freedom: Total Physician Wellness CME here: www.burnout2freedom.com

Self neglect and Ignoring your wants: Do something that you love every day. Take care of your health. Don’t pretend to be a superhero. Because, the day you crumble, everything you’re holding up will crumble too.  Also because you just need to. Ignoring warning signs: Burnout is common, but not necessary. You do not have to fall prey to this scourge. Holding on to the wrong identity: Develop a healthy identity that doesn’t involve you being a superman, a savior, a martyr, pleaser or a fixer. Passing along your suffering: If you suffered certain things on your path to becoming a doctor, it doesn’t mean that you get to subject Junior Doctors to the same suffering. Do better. Settling for the worst: Don’t fall prey to the belief that there is nothing better out there. Book a FREE call with me to get started: bit.ly/atolima If you are a doctor, you can join Burnout To Freedom: Total Physician Wellness CME here: www.burnout2freedom.com

As I launch my brand new Community, Empowered Womanhood in 2022, here are some strategies to true empowerment for every woman. Stay tuned, we launch on 1/4/2022 Happy New Year!

1. At family gatherings, you don’t have to engage in discussions that leave you feeling unhappy. 2. At family gatherings, you don’t have to eat things that you would rather not “just to make other people happy”. 3. You don’t have to spend your holidays with toxic relatives. 4. Draw boundaries around your spending too: Don’t borrow money you don’t have, to buy things you don’t need, to impress people you don’t like. 5. Let peace of mind be your “guide“, as opposed to traditions that no longer serve you, your family, or anyone’s overall well-being. 6. Don’t over commit by saying yes to more things than you can handle. The sun will not fall out of the sky if you say no. Today, I share strategies for stress freedom during the holidays. If you want to work with me on a one-on-one basis, book a call here! https://calendly.com/drshola/freedom?month=2021-12

Thriving as an attending physician is a deliberate effort. Here are 4 out of 7 essential things that we all must know! If you would like to get on a Free Call to discuss your next steps, get on my calendar here:  http://bit.ly/drsholacoaching

Laurene Dougherty one of my many amazing clients! Working with me she did the following: 1. Made forward movement in her career 2. Developed more empowering thoughts around food and eating 3. Learn the potential that she has and what she is truly capable of She sat down with me to share her experience working with me as her coach. Here is her interview! To work with me, book a call here http://bit.ly/drsholacoaching

Dr Seema Harichand, one of my many amazing clients, shares about her work with me. Dr Seema Harichand, board-certified oncologist, Working with me she did the following: 1. Develop a workable strategy for chart completion 2. Achieve more with less overwhelm 3. Enjoy the life that she worked so hard to build. She sat down with me to share her experience working with me as her coach. Here is her interview! To work with me, book a call here http://bit.ly/drsholacoaching

Time is for you, not against you, listen in...

Dr April Renee-Md (Dr April Ruffin) board-certified internist, youth mentor, and speaker is one of my amazing clients. Working with me she did the following: Left a toxic work environment Started her speaking company Took specific steps to grow her 501 3c organization. She sat down with me to share her experience working with me as her coach. Here is her interview! (You can contact her here: reneehealth20@gmail.com) Or support her youth mentoring organization here youngdebsinc.org Link to view in comments To work with me, book a call here http://bit.ly/drsholacoaching

In my work as a coach, I come across people who don’t take the next step of life, career, or a business because of worry about what other people might think. Through coaching, I can actually help you to stop caring about what people think, especially if it is stopping you from living Your Optimum Life Now. I am still booking calls for anyone who wants to work with a coach who truly “gets it”. https://calendly.com/drshola/discovery-call?month=2020-11

Can you really take a vacation everyday? Listen in!

Dear Doctor, you do not have to suffer from Burnout. In the final part of this series, I talk about New Options, New Life. If you want to work with me as your physician coach to help you defeat/prevent burnout as well as creating other options for you so that it doesn’t happen again, book a call with me here: https://calendly.com/drshola/discover...

Dear Doctor, you do not have to suffer from Burnout. In part three of this series, I talk about how important it is to have a support system for your life. If you want to work with me as your physician coach to help you defeat/prevent burnout as well as creating other options for you so that it doesn’t happen again, book a call with me here: https://calendly.com/drshola/discover...

Dear Doctor, you do not have to suffer from Burnout. In part one of this series, I debunk myths around burn out that prevent doctors from getting the help they need.   If you want to work with me as your physician coach to help you defeat/prevent burnout as well as creating other options for you so that it doesn’t happen again, book a call with me here: https://calendly.com/drshola/discover...

Dear Doctor, you do not have to suffer with Burnout. In part one of this series, I debunk myths around burn out that prevent doctors from getting the help they need.   If you want to work with me as your physician coach to help you defeat/prevent burnout as well as creating other options for you so that it doesn’t happen again, book a call with me here:    https://calendly.com/drshola/discover...

This is from a facebook livestream series so it contains chatter. Also, the program in question was launched in February 2021.

This is from a facebook livestream series so it contains chatter. Also, the program in question was launched in February 2021.

This is from a facebook livestream series so it contains chatter. Also, the program in question was launched in February 2021.

If you are a people pleaser or a recovering people pleaser, you will want to listen to this! Saying NO is a radical act of self-love. Here are three advantages of saying no, and three mindset shifts that need to be made in order to be able to say no without guilt

This was a Three Day Livestream Series That was done on Facebook, so there is some chatter.  To book a call with me, get on my calendar here: https://calendly.com/drshola/discovery-call

How To Handle A Toxic Work Environment: Day 2 Of Three Day Livestream Series, Your Optimum Life Now This was a Three Day Livestream Series That was done on Facebook, so there is some chatter. To book a call with me, get on my calendar here: https://calendly.com/drshola/discovery-call

Day 1 Of Three Day Livestream Series, Your Optimum Life Now. This was a Three Day Livestream Series That was done on Facebook, so there is some chatter. To book a call with me, get on my calendar here: https://calendly.com/drshola/discovery-call

Looking to all and sundry for approval of your decisions. As a sovereign being over your own personal life, you don’t need the approval of everyone. No it behooves you to obtain advice, counsel, mentoring or coaching from the appropriate people. However, the approval of everybody and their grandmother is not needed. Taking advice from the wrong people: some people literally run away from the right people and take advice from the wrong people. What do I mean by the wrong people? People have an agenda beyond your own success. People who have disparaged you in the past. People who are typically not supportive. I think there’s something in it in people where we want our critics to approve of us. The truth is that this is why they are critics. Frequently, they will never approve. Seek advice from people who have your best interest at heart. Better yet, learn to trust your own intuition, and add counsel, as another layer. Being afraid to do the unconventional. How many times have you heard people say things like “I’ve never seen that done this way before“. The truth is unconventional does not mean wrong or bad. As a sovereign person over your own life, you are the only person, that knows the details and intricacies of your own life. Therefore there will be times when you will have to make decisions that are not popular, but our decisions for your own good. Not being in integrity: as a sovereign person, you need to walk your talk. In addition, your thoughts, feelings, and actions should pretty much line up. If you are pretending to be OK with being an employee just because everyone around you seems to be that way, you will never attain the heights of what you truly want. This is because your actions are out of integrity with your thoughts and feelings. What if do you want to own your own business? Also, the converse is true. Nowadays, in this gig economy, many people are starting businesses and it is causing a lot of people who don’t feel the need to do so to feel a bit left out. Don’t run off and start a business that your thoughts and feelings are not lined up with, simply because everyone is doing so, that is a lack of integrity. Giving away your personal sovereignty. There are things that you control, and there are things that you cannot control. A sure way to live a disappointed life Is trying to Control things you cannot, while simultaneously not controlling the things that you can. You can control what you eat, who you listen to, what do you think, what do you feel, who are you allowing in your life, how much time you spend on non-obligatory activities; the life you choose to create. You cannot control what the government does, the weather, the traffic, what specific illness what patient has; how many COVID-19 patients there are; and a myriad of other things. Make a distinction between the two and spend more time, money, and energy in the things that you can actually control.

𝕋𝕙𝕖𝕣𝕖 𝕒𝕣𝕖 𝟜 𝔹𝕀𝔾 𝕞𝕚𝕤𝕥𝕒𝕜𝕖𝕤 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕕𝕠𝕔𝕥𝕠𝕣𝕤 𝕞𝕒𝕜𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕞𝕒𝕜𝕖 𝕓𝕦𝕣𝕟𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕨𝕠𝕣𝕤𝕖 𝕎𝕙𝕚𝕔𝕙 𝕠𝕗 𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕤𝕖 𝕞𝕚𝕤𝕥𝕒𝕜𝕖𝕤 𝕒𝕣𝕖 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕞𝕒𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕘? 𝕄𝕀𝕊𝕋𝔸𝕂𝔼 #𝟙: ℕ𝕠𝕥 𝕥𝕖𝕝𝕝𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕥𝕣𝕦𝕥𝕙 𝕒𝕓𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕨𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕣𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕝𝕪 𝕨𝕒𝕟𝕥. 𝐌𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐬 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐳𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐨𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐰𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐬, 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐢𝐭. 𝐖𝐞 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞. 𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧, 𝐰𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐝𝐦𝐢𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐦𝐚𝐲𝐛𝐞 𝐰𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐚𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐞. 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐨𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐱𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞. 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐨𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐚 𝐧𝐨𝐧-𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐮𝐢𝐭. 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐨𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤, 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝, 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐚 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬! 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐨𝐤!! 𝕄𝕀𝕊𝕋𝔸𝕂𝔼 #𝟚: 𝔹𝕖𝕝𝕚𝕖𝕧𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 “𝔹𝕦𝕣𝕟𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕔𝕠𝕞𝕖𝕤 𝕨𝕚𝕥𝕙 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕥𝕖𝕣𝕣𝕚𝕥𝕠𝕣𝕪” 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐡𝐮𝐠𝐞 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐬 𝐝𝐨𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐬, 𝐰𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐟𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐩𝐡𝐲𝐬𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐌𝐨𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐲𝐬, 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐧 𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥, 𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐚𝐝𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐬, 𝐞𝐭𝐜. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐚𝐬 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐮𝐭, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐦𝐚𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐪𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞, 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐛𝐞 𝐟𝐮𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡! 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞. 𝕄𝕀𝕊𝕋𝔸𝕂𝔼 #𝟛: ℍ𝕒𝕧𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕟𝕠 𝕠𝕦𝕥𝕝𝕖𝕥 𝕒𝕡𝕒𝕣𝕥 𝕗𝕣𝕠𝕞 𝕞𝕖𝕕𝕚𝕔𝕚𝕟𝕖. 𝐖𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐚𝐦 𝐎𝐬𝐥𝐞𝐫 𝐬𝐚𝐢𝐝: “𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐠 𝐝𝐨𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 𝐡𝐢𝐦 𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐩𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬” 𝐎𝐧𝐞 𝐤𝐞𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐞𝐝 𝐦𝐞 𝐝𝐞𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐲 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞, 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐮𝐩 𝐰𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧. 𝐀𝐬 𝐈 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐞 𝐈 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐦 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐠𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐲 𝐰𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐢𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐬, 𝐰𝐞𝐛𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐫𝐬, 𝐜𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐦𝐬, 𝐞𝐭𝐜. 𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐚 𝐰𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞𝐫, 𝐢𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐞𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐣𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐞. 𝕄𝕀𝕊𝕋𝔸𝕂𝔼 #𝟜: ℕ𝕠𝕥 𝕘𝕖𝕥𝕥𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕤𝕦𝕡𝕡𝕠𝕣𝕥 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕟𝕖𝕖𝕕. 𝐃𝐞𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐧𝐨𝐧-𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐡 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐦 𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭. 𝐍𝐨 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐠𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞! 𝐈 𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐝𝐨𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬-𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐚 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐯𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐞𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐢𝐫𝐞 𝐚 𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐞𝐫, 𝐥𝐞𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐨𝐦 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐚 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞, 𝐢𝐭 𝐃𝐎𝐄𝐒 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 “𝐠𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞”

There is nothing magical, spiritually significant, or special about the first day of January except the significance that we ourselves attach to it. I like to remind myself that the Gregorian calendar is man-made and was a reform of a previous calendar( the Julian calendar) which was itself a reform of the Roman calendar. There are also in use many different calendars( the lunar calendar, Igbo calendar, Hebrew calendar, the Chinese calendar, etc) in use, side by side with the Gregorian. The point I am making is that you do not have to “make new year resolutions”; you do not have to fall into despair at the end of the year, and you do not have to wait until the first of January to make the changes that you need to make in life. The first of January is, however, a convenient time to set goals, and, the span of a year is a good time to review those goals you set( depending on what they were). However, new year resolutions are a total waste of time.

When you live a Balanced Life, you are better equipped to handle what life throws at you. Why do I prefer to talk about the balanced life, instead of self-care. Self-care conjures up pictures of a spa day, Massage, exercise, and sometimes people throw in meditation. The balanced life, however prioritizes total care for your spirit soul and body. It is divided into five pillars, which I call the five pillars of balance. Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and relational. When “self care” is seen from this perspective, it becomes more than just one spa day every few months. It is a way of life. It is realizing that unless you take care of yourself consistently, you are no good to anyone. Contrary to what seems to be popular belief, a balanced life does not mean giving equal amounts of time, energy, and focus to everything in your life. That is not possible to do. Somethings in your life are more important than others, and some things in your life are more important at certain times than others. Of course, true emergencies are most important, and most urgent. For example, a burst appendix, is always going to be more important than a  therapy session, simply because it is a life threatening emergency. I will now break down the five pillars of balance, and how to be practical about taking care of the whole you.

When you live a Balanced Life, you are better equipped to handle what life throws at you. Why do I prefer to talk about the balanced life, instead of self-care. Self-care conjures up pictures of a spa day, Massage, exercise, and sometimes people throw in meditation. The balanced life, however prioritizes total care for your spirit soul and body. It is divided into five pillars, which I call the five pillars of balance. Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and relational. When “self care” is seen from this perspective, it becomes more than just one spa day every few months. It is a way of life. It is realizing that unless you take care of yourself consistently, you are no good to anyone. Contrary to what seems to be popular belief, a balanced life does not mean giving equal amounts of time, energy, and focus to everything in your life. That is not possible to do. Somethings in your life are more important than others, and some things in your life are more important at certain times than others. Of course, true emergencies are most important, and most urgent. For example, a burst appendix, is always going to be more important than a  therapy session, simply because it is a life threatening emergency. I will now break down the five pillars of balance, and how to be practical about taking care of the whole you.

FacebookTweetPin Whatever your long-term goals are, without the following three qualities below, you will very likely fizzle out before you get to your goals. The unstoppable trio comprises perseverance, Patience and Passion.

Do You Truly Rest? No, I am not talking about working yourself into the ground and falling asleep, stuporous on your sofa. I read a book on leadership by Reverend Nolan McCants and ironically, the first chapter is on rest! In today’s crazy world, with busy schedules, school, work, home, marriage, children, church, volunteer commitments etc, how do we get ourselves some rest?

 Every three months I go on a one day personal retreat. I save up a few dollars each month, and I use this to book a hotel room within a 30-40 minute distance from my home and I take off. I usually stay for 10 to 12 hours and I have no agenda. As someone who plans out every single minute of her life, this is a refreshing change of pace. I pray, sleep, swim, exercise, eat, read, and do very little by way of work. Since I started taking these personal retreats, my life has moved to a new level. I have become more creative, more productive, more efficient and more peaceful. Here is the power of a personal retreat when done properly...

How  you handle negative or critical people is key to your growth, and key to living a life of and harmony. Here are eight simple keys to handling haters. 

How you handle negative or critical people is key to your growth, and key to living a life of and harmony. Here are eight simple keys to handling haters. 

Today I will be writing about about choices, challenges and change. These are three things the we are faced with, everyday of our life. We cannot escape these three things and it is vital to a balanced life for us to be able to handle the “C” triplets....

In 2005, we tied the knot. Sealed the deal. Got hitched. Jumped the broom. A year later, we moved to Chicago. From then on, it was an endless cycle of offenses, silent treatment, outbursts, and make up sex. The next three years of our marriage were rather rocky. Fast forward to 2019, our marriage is thriving, we have helped many people’s marriages not only survive but thrive; we have counseled scores of people getting married, and we have our own marriage charity. So the question is: how did we get from there to where we are now? Listen in for 5 actionable tips for a thriving marriage

If you are having trouble with limiting mindsets, procrastination, meeting your goals, and getting organized, you may need to take it a step further- hiring a life coach. What can a coach do for you?

Have you ever felt overwhelmed? Okay, don’t answer that. Everyone at some point in their life has felt overwhelmed with their circumstances. Something we don’t realize, however, is that we do not have to feel that way.... Listen in for the keys to banish overwhelm from your life!

Power is defined as the ability to do something or act in a particular way. Another definition is the capacity to direct or influence.  Yet another definition is the right or authority that is given or delegated to a person or body. Other definitions include physical strength, and energy. What power do you as an individual actually have? The answer is, a lot!

Discover your purpose in this podcast, that breaks down finding your purpose into actionable steps!

In this episode, Dr. Shola shares practical strategies on how you can set achieve your goals in 2019!

In this (test) episode of the Mentor Of Life podcast learn practical tips and strategies to prevent holiday stress once and for all!