Welcome to the Embrace Fertility podcast I’m Naomi Woolfson, a therapist who specialises in supporting women through trying to conceive, fertility treatments and then pregnancy and birth following infertility. Having been through infertility myself and being fascinated with the mind-body techniques that led me from anxiety and depression back to myself again, I retrained as a therapist and now specialise in supporting others through infertility. Visitwww.embracefertility.co.uk for your free stress less fertility support pack and follow me on Insta and Facebook @embracefertility.
I am so wound up today that I have stuck my wellies on my feet and set off into the woods for the second time today as I know I need to shift my mood, shift my mindset, from one of frustration and anger to bring myself back to neutral and then set my intention of how I would like to feel and re-focus myself. This podcast is a live example of the shift you can experience in just a short period of time when you choose to embrace your emotions and take positive action to support yourself rather than allowing a negative mindset to put a cloud over a full day.
Episode 64: Very honest chat about how although infertility is not your fault there is a huge amount you may be doing that it’s not serving you and how taking radical responsibility for your own life can create shifts on a conscious, subconscious and energetic level. www.embracefertility.co.uk or @embracefertility to contact me.
Episode 63: One for the guys today. “It’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to feel disappointed, angry, devastated that you are not a dad yet.”
I’ve put together a free resource list for guys going through infertility which includes advice how to support yourself emotionally through infertility, information on how using visualisation can lower stress levels and work with your subconscious mind, how to overcome performance anxiety when you need to give a sperm sample, film suggestions and online support groups. Check it out here www.embracefertility.co.uk/partners if you have any suggestions of Insta accounts or resources you think I should include please comment below or message me @embracefertility.
Episode 62: On the podcast this week I am sharing one of my favourite visualisations where I guide you on a journey into your future to imagine being a family of three and you and your partner putting your child to bed and reading him or her a story.
I start by sharing the benefits of using visualisation and how to clear any emotional or energetic blocks that you may uncover by listening.
NOTE: Only listen to these MP3s when you can safely relax, do not listen whilst driving or operating machinery. This track is safe to use whilst trying to conceive and once pregnant however by choosing to listen you agree to take full responsibility for your own well-being.
Listen to this one with your partner if he/she is open to doing so and discuss what type of parents you intend to be afterwards.
For more info on the five steps of The Embrace Fertility Method visit www.embracefertility.co.uk/programs/
Something a little different this week. For those of you that attended my free masterclass on Tuesday you will know I lost my voice towards the end!
I don’t want to skip recording a podcast this week though so instead of walking in the woods and talking I’m simply walking in the woods and invite you to join me and imagine enjoying the sounds of nature around us as we walk in companionable silence.
I hope you are doing okay this week do you message me on Instagram or Facebook and let me know what you thought of this little time out in the bluebell woods.
Episode 60. Today I am talking about how we can get stressed about being stressed, worried about being worried and anxious about being anxious. I talk about how we can change our relationship with stress and how to tune in with your intuition. Come and join my free class on Friday to explore this further www.embracefertility.co.uk/freeclass.
Episode 59 Trigger or Happy?
In this episode I talk about what a trigger is in regards to mindset and your emotions.
I talk about:
- What happens when you are triggered by an external event.
- How you can recognise your own triggering internal thoughts.
- How to begin to work through triggers and clear them.
- How to minimise your chance of being triggered in the first place.
Do you come and join my mailing list to download the three minute reset MP3 I talk about in this episode. Www.embracefertility.co.uk
This is truly an amazing, inspiring and uplifting episode for everyone who is currently trying to conceive not just those who are considering donor conception.
Meta is a donor conception coach who helps family-focused, responsible, and thoughtful women and couples who have found themselves facing a journey to parenthood they had never imagined: using donor eggs, donor sperm or donor embryo.
Meta and her husband Michael went through their own infertility challenges and after four IUIs and three rounds of fresh IVF, they achieved their dream of a family through using donor eggs.
In this 50 minute interview Meta shares:
* How she felt when her doctor first suggested that they should move to donor eggs.
* How at that point she said “No I’m not going to do that.”
* She talks us through how she felt at each stage of the process; getting on the donor waiting list, being matched to a donor, going through the treatment cycle alongside their donor, finding out she was pregnant with twins, when she first saw her girls after giving birth and now she is a mum of two almost 5 years olds.
* Why she thinks we need to open up the conversation around donor conception.
* How choosing to use a donor is a big decision and you need to be in the right frame of mind to make that decision and how to do that.
Check out the podcast episode now just search for Embrace Fertility on your fave podcast player or watch on the Embrace Fertility YouTube channel. Both can be accessed via my website via link in my profile @embracefertility.
Meta has been featured in multiple podcasts, has spoken at the RESOLVE Midwest Family Building Summit and founded a community of families who used a donor.
Meta has a free, Essential Donor Checklist that you can download here: https://ae-collective.mykajabi.com/pl/259144
Follow Meta on Instagram at @metagetman
https://www.instagram.com/metagetman/ where she shares content daily and does a weekly Q&A where she answers any and all questions.
Through her ecourse, The Donor Downlow, Meta helps her clients go from isolation, loneliness, and fear of the donor process to hope, confidence and excitement for building their families, more info on that here:
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Head over www.embracefertility.co.uk/start-here sign up for your free '3 ways to stress less and enhance fertility using the mindbody link' ack which includes a powerful 3 minute Mindset Reset MP3 and the first chapter of my book and find relief from anxiety and repetitive negative thinking while enhancing your fertility.
Episode 57 Suffering is Subjective.
It’s National Infertility Awareness Week in the US and thousands are sharing their personal experiences of infertility, fertility treatments and pregnancy loss.
It is easy to fall into the trap of comparing your own journey to others and even feeling jealous that “She only struggled for X months” or feeling guilty that others have been through so much more than you.
Suffering and pain however are subjective and cannot be measured by the amount of months someone has been trying to conceive or the number of failed treatment cycles they have had.
Even if someone has suffered multiple miscarriages the actual level of suffering they experienced we can never fully comprehend.
This is due to the fact that outside experiences cannot make us feel a particular way, even an event as emotive as pregnancy loss.
We only ever experience life through the lens of our own thinking.
It is not what is happening to us but how we perceive what is happening to us. So two women who on paper appear to have identical stories will each be experiencing their own reality through the lens of their beliefs, past experiences, mental state in that moment and their predictions of the future. Listen for more.
Getting beyond excited about new people joining The Embrace Fertility Method today. I am packing up the welcome boxes and they will be posted out tomorrow with our first group call on Tuesday evening. Www.Embracefertility.Co.Uk/embrace for all the details.
More of a news update than my regular podcast episode. Hope to see you at the class tomorrow. Www.embracefertility.co.Uk/start-here and Www.embracefertility.co.Uk/blog for list of resources when you are starting a fertility treatment cycle.
Episode 54 : Coping with Mothering Sunday Sharing some tips of how to get through this weekend when the whole of the UK has gone mothering mad! Here is the jealousy article I mentioned https://thefertilitytribe.com/blog/6-ways-to-deal-with-pregnancy-envy-during-infertility.
Based as many of my podcasts are on something which has happened in my own life and then reflecting on how I used mind-body tools or techniques to help the situation.
This one starts off with a story about my partner and I and how he allowed me a full seven minutes to be angry about a shocking situation before telling me to move on and let it go!
If you have listened to my podcast before I know I occasionally rant but this one I deliberately waited and recorded a week after the original incident so this is more of a reflection and I share four steps of positive actions you can take if your partner (or friend or family member) really doesn’t get what you’re going through right now. Www.embracefertility.co.uk/partner-doesn’t-get-it
Three powerful ways to use journalling while trying to conceive
Let me start by saying journalling is just a fancy word to describe using a pen and paper to write things down as part of your own personal development.
I have been journalling since I was eight years old! Writing plays a big part in how I express myself and get in touch with how I really feel about things.
Today on the Embrace Fertility podcast I share how to use journalling to support yourself and your fertility.
Number One : Use journalling to rant, pour out your heart, express anger. I mention the study that I’ve linked below on why this is so beneficial not just in the moment but for our ongoing emotional and physical health.
Number Two: Keep a gratitude journal to express love and gratitude for things that happened in your past or the present moment. Then connect in with what you want to bring into your life and use writing to help you raise your vibration and get yourself energetically aligned with what you want.
Number Three: Your journal can be yourUu very own fertility coach, ask yourself questions and then question your responses to your answers.
Good coaching questions to ask yourself are:
Is that true?
Who taught me that?
Is this helpful?
What do I really want?
Do I want to keep this belief?
What is beneath that?
Study I mentioned: Writing about emotions may ease stress and trauma
In the study it notes that writing in this way can make you feel worse which is why I suggest teaming it with EFT tapping. You can watch a tutorial video on how to do this over at https://embracefertility.co.uk/eft-tapping-for-infertility-and-fertility/.
For your freebies go to www.embracefertility.co.Uk/start-here.
A super short episode today talking about how you can start to recognise when you’re really not okay (enter impression of Ross on friends!) and three ways you can help yourself to reduce stress and feel better in the moment. As in right now today. Hop over to www.embracefertility.co.uk to download your freebies and then come and follow me on Instagram @embracefertility. Xxx
Continuing our interviews with fertility experts.
This week is Nicola Salmon, a fat-positive fertility coach and author of “Fat and Fertile”.
She helps fat folks navigate getting pregnant in a weight-obsessed world and advocates for change in how fat people are treated whilst accessing help with their fertility.
Nicola uses her unique fat positive framework to support people in finding their own version of health without diets, advocate for their bodies, relearn how to trust their body and believe in their ability to get pregnant.
In this interview we cover:
- Why our society deems fat to be unhealthy?
- How that impacts fertility and fertility advice
- How that impacts us on a personal level
- 3 things you can do to combat the issues around this
Connect with Nicola:
To follow Nicola on instagram: www.instagram.com/fatpositivefertility
To follow Nicola on facebook www.facebook.com/fatpositivefertility
Nicola's website www.nicolasalmon.co.uk
To learn more about Nicola's book http://nicolasalmon.co.uk/fat-and-fertile-book/
To sign up for The Fat Person's Guide to Getting Pregnant http://nicolasalmon.co.uk/guide
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Subscribe for weekly inspiration and regular fertility expert interviews then head over www.embracefertility.co.uk/start-here to sign up for your free 'Fertile Thoughts Activation Pack' and find relief from anxiety and repetitive negative thinking while enhancing your fertility.
THIS IS FOR YOU IF YOU
🍍Want to feel sure that you are doing everything you can to support yourself and your fertility
🍍Are feeling overwhelmed by the strength of the emotions you are experiencing
🍍Are looking for ways to feel good now even before seeing that positive pregnancy test
I’m on a mission to share the powerful techniques that can turn your fertility journey around.
Hit link in bio @embracefertility on Instagram now or go to www.embracefertility.co.uk to sign up and get instant access to day 1 straight to your inbox now.
Don’t let anyone tell you how you should be feeling this year, embrace those emotions, they are real, they are valid, they are yours, you need to feel them
know that you do not need to be controlled by your emotions, feel them, understand the message they are bringing to you and release them.
If you have absolutely no idea how to do that then please do check out all the free resources I offer on my website, podcast and YouTube channel.
You can journal, you can use emotional freedom technique tapping, you can use meditation and hypnosis MP3s to shift the emotions that are not serving you and bring you relief.
I’ll be back in a few days with my response to the #infertilityisagift #infertilityisnotagift from the point of view of someone who experience post-traumatic growth following infertility, surgery, IVF and miscarriage BEFORE I fell pregnant and as a therapist who is now on a mission to share the techniques that can ease the pain and anguish of infertility during it so you don’t need to wait in order to feel relief.
My intention is to speak to the collective pain and anguish of a community who has arguably just lived the hardest year of their lives going through infertility during a global pandemic. 😷 add to this the fact that the run-up to Christmas is the hardest week of the year when you are struggling to conceive and or dealing with pregnancy and baby loss and the climate was primed for an outpouring of grief and anguish.
Sending so much love to each of you and for the last time if you haven’t yet watched my Coping at Christmas workshop and let yourself melt into the 30 minute deep relaxation and guided fertility visualisation at the end go and do so now xxxx Go to www.embracefertility.co.uk for instant access.
I have absolutely loved recording these fertility expert interviews and we are finishing the year strong with my friend and colleague the wonderful Sarah Holland the Fertile Mindset® Coach. Sarah will forever hold a very special place in my heart as she invited me to speak at one of her Fertility Summits when I was just starting out and it gave me such a boost of confidence.
Diving Deep into the Power of Fertility EFT
This interview is not your usual introduction to emotional freedom technique it is a deep dive into the potential of this powerful technique and we include examples from both our own lives and those of our clients.
Here’s a little taster of what we talked about:
- Why EFT is so valuable as a fertility support tool.
- The many ways EFT can be powerful at every stage of your fertility journey.
- How we've both felt and seen EFT work in action and the amazing outcomes.
- The important differences between self-guided EFT and practitioner-led EFT, and how you can get the best results.
- Quick and easy ways to start using EFT to bring big results for your mindset and emotional wellbeing.
All about Sarah
Sarah Holland is the Fertile Mindset® Coach and has a unique, effective and empowering approach to fertility support. Working in the world of fertility since 2001, and having experienced fertility challenges herself, she pioneered the use of EFT Tapping specifically for fertility support. With the Fertile Mindset® approach to coaching, support and emotional healing she has helped thousands of people negotiate the emotional rollercoaster of fertility issues. Sarah believes it is possible for anyone’s fertility journey to become a much more positive and fulfilling experience, and that by recognising and supporting the emotional aspects of fertility, the path to parenthood can become more successful in every way including creating a family.
Sarah is based in the U.K. and her support is available worldwide via zoom consultations and within her membership, the Fertile Mindset® Sanctuary which has both free and paid levels of support.
Having experienced her own fertility challenges Sarah is now a mum to two boys through both birth and adoption.
Join Sarah’s free membership
Begin our own Fertile Mindset® journey today by joining Sarah’s free membership in the Fertile Mindset ® Sanctuary here: www.fertilemindset.com/sanctuary
You can get in touch with Sarah at www.fertilemindset.com, on Facebook at www.facebook.com/FertileMindset and Instagram at fertile_mindset
Learn more about Emotional Freedom Technique in this EFT Tutorial
You can learn more about EFT in my article here and watch a tutorial video to get you started with this technique.
You can learn about my 12 week course here www.embracefertility.co.uk/embrace and 1 to 1 support here www.embracefertility.co.uk/coaching
First time visiting Embrace Fertility?
Head over www.embracefertility.co.uk/start-here sign up for your free 'Fertile Thoughts Activation Pack' which includes a powerful 3 minute Mindset Reset MP3 and the first chapter of my book and find relief from anxiety and repetitive negative thinking while enhancing your fertility. You will also receive an invite to:
Simone was already a yoga instructor when she had a miscarriage after trying to conceive for a year and a half. Yoga and meditation were a huge part of her healing process, so much that she became certified to teach yoga for fertility and miscarriage so that she could share this healing with others. Now she works online as a fertility coach, helping her clients become more resilient, empowered and connected to their authentic selves, using fertility yoga and meditation as tools, as well as mindset, breath work, and mindfulness techniques.
In this interview:
We talk about:
Healing your relationship with your body
Listening to your intuition as a powerful resource
Connecting to your womb
Understanding that everything is temporary
Feeling your emotions and pain in the present moment
Following your menstrual cycle - how you exercise, your feminine strengths
Having a positive relationship with your period
All about Simone
Simone L'Abbé is supports women on difficult fertility journeys so that they can cultivate resilience, empowerment, and self-connection. She uses a combination of mindset, meditation, mindfulness, intuitive movement, breath work, and fertility yoga to help her coaching and group program clients connect with their most authentic selves.
Dec 7-11, 2020 Simone is hosting a free event in her private Facebook group. The Resilience Retreat for Empowered Fertility Warriors includes 10 sessions with experts so that you can become more resilient and empowered on your fertility journey. You can learn more and register at https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/resilience-retreat-for-empowered-fertility-warriors-registration-129342437713
To access your free Fertility Journey Self-Care Bundle, visit http://feelfully.ca (The bundle includes a downloadable fertility visualization album, a guide to finding ease, and an intro to yoga for fertility poses)
Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweredfertilitywarriors
Website : http://feelfully.ca
First time visiting Embrace Fertility?
Head over to https://embracefertility.co.uk/start-here/ to sign up for your free 'Fertile Thoughts Activation Pack' and find relief from anxiety and repetitive negative thinking while enhancing your fertility.
Two years into trying to conceive, after our first treatment cycle fail I was suffering from anxiety depression insomnia IBS and panic attacks. I knew that the stress I was experiencing was caused by the fact I was unable to get pregnant but was this stress now impacting my ability to conceive and causing infertility?
Determined to find out I started researching the link between stress and infertility. What I discovered was fascinating. In this 20 minute except from my workshop 'Fertility and Your Mind the Science' I share:
Why, once you decide to start trying to conceive, it feels like you are constantly surrounded by pregnant women and babies. PS this is due to your Reticular Activating System!
How the stress, anxiety and depression levels in women undergoing infertility treatment is the same as women who have cancer HI,V or heart disease.
The truth behind the impact of stress on your fertility.
The worrying reality of trying to stay positive and forcing yourself to relax that can actually backfire and lead to chronic anxiety and depression! Why we have negative emotions for a reason.
How thoughts create a physical reaction in the body. Ps If you would like to check out the slides that accompany this workshop this page happens to have a rather crude sketch of an erect penis to quite literally illustrate my point! Visit the Embrace Fertility YouTube channel to check out the video version of this podcast.
An explanation on how before a feeling there is always a thought.
And how our mind is like a massive library storing all of our past experiences and the beliefs we made in that moment that shape our decision-making and lives today.
How the body naturally resets itself to rest, digest, heal and reproduce but chronic stress can leave you living in freeze, flight or fight.
The trying to conceive stress cycle and how it can be so damaging to your fertility.
The missing piece of the fertility puzzle and how to break the cycle.
More about the studies mentioned in this podcast and to learn how to break the cycle then go to https://embracefertility.co.uk/embrace/ and get started.
Ps There is swearing in this episode and I already mentioned the willy!
A little love notes talking about embracing all emotions during Thanksgiving and Christmas this year and an invitation to my free coping at Christmas workshop this Sunday 29th of November 3pm EST / 8pm GMT. You can sign up here www.embracefertility.co.Uk/start-here. In this episode I quote the lovely @xojennijune Who was my podcast guest two episodes ago.
Fantastic interview talking all things mindset, thoughts and feelings.
All about Kezia
"Through my own journey through secondary (in)fertility I was introduced to therapy and then mindset work – both in their own ways changed my life and change my experience of infertility. Therapy helped me to see that there was a missing link between infertility and its impact on mental health. Mindset work helped me to put into practice what therapy describes in theory. I now use both in my work to help women through their journey of infertility.
I wrote Flipping the Script on Infertility to share what I discovered through my fertility struggles, I take you on a journey of self-therapy and mindset practices that will really help you to discover who you are and why infertility is impacting you in the way that it is.
I am a true believer that no matter the outcome every woman deserves to know she is worthy and find fulfilment in her life today and every day.
All the best
Connect with Kezia
Author of Flipping the Script on Infertility
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Every week for the next month I will be bringing you fantastic interviews with fertility experts.
This week is Jenni June and we are talking about healing after loss:
Jenni's words: I first discovered Reiki healing after my 2nd Ectopic Pregnancy. I was in the depths of my pain after losing a very wanted pregnancy and losing my last fallopian tube. Not knowing where to turn, I found a Reiki healer and was curious to try anything to help me move forward in my grief. What I was surprised by is how much that one decision changed my life… I walked out of my appointment with feeling like the heavy brick that I had settled on my chest after loss, lifted! I could take a full breath in for the very first time in a long time!
Reiki is the life energy that flows through all living things. It heals by flowing through the body’s energy field (aura) and charging it with positive energy. What’s so special is that energy has no physical boundaries, so while we are all stuck in our homes, you can receive a healing treatment from anywhere in the world!
We are all energy and our bodies hold onto stress and trauma is many different ways. I often see in my clients that their chakra centers are energetic blocked. In one particular case, it was blocked by ancestor trauma or trauma from a past life. Reiki healing works to break up the blocked chakras and clear them with positive energy that helps you move beyond- to heal and to live with a radical love for yourself again!Benefits of Reiki after loss or through Infertility:
Cleanse, balance and strengthen the energy body: clearing blocked or stagnant energy, restoring the normal flow of energy and reinforcing the body’s innate ability to heal itself.
Focus on the Sacral Chakra, the energy point just below the belly button that governs the reproductive organs.
Help you step off the stress rollercoaster and return to a place of mental and emotional peace while trying to conceive.
Release the negative energy of past events and emotional trauma that may be a barrier to conception.
Deeply relax the mind and body to let go of the stress and anxiety of trying to get pregnant.
Replace your doubts and fears with positivity and love for your amazing body.
All about Jenni
Jenni June is a Pregnancy Loss & Infertility Coach, a Reiki Practitioner and a Meditation Instructor. She supports those who have experienced an invisible loss- the loss of a pregnancy or the dream of having a child either through miscarriage or infertility. Guiding her community through all stages of the healing journey, she holds loving space for them to discover whole body healing, learn how to release fear & anxiety through mindfulness and the help of Reiki. When working with Jenni, her clients experience high levels of confidence, inspiration, growth and move into the next stage of life with a fierce love for themselves and a connection to their body after loss.
Connect with Jenni
Facebook: XO Jenni June Coaching
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The worry, the dread, I would feel especially during those treatment two week waits.
In this episode I talk about a neurolinguistic programming technique you can do yourself at home to help transform your worry to hope.
This is one I did have a client last week and it is so powerful.
“It felt like I turned the splodge of worry I had that was stopping me from feeling any kind of hope or excitement into gravity boots, that could help keep me grounded but that I could also choose to take off and allow myself to fly.” *
FREE ‘Fertile Thoughts Activation Quick Start Pack’ sign up now for instant access and find relief from anxiety and repetitive negative thinking while enhancing your fertility. or go to www.embracefertility.co.uk/start-here
The stories we tell ourselves while we are trying to conceive go something along the lines of this; I’m not getting pregnant and that means X, I don’t have a baby and that means X I’m not a mother yet and that means X.
The end of these sentences can be things like
* I’m broken
* My body has failed me
* I am worthless
* Maybe I don’t deserve to be a mother
These stories torment us and cause sadness, anxiety and depression. In my latest podcast episode I share how I have been telling myself my own stories in regards to my recent 'failed' launch of the Embrace Fertility Method 12 week course.
I talk about how I set the intention to welcome a group of 10 into this new round of the course and when towards the end of the launch it look like that was not going to happen I started telling myself lots of stories about my worth, about my ability as a therapist, my ability to market and communicate the service I offer.
So many stories that simply are not true, my worth is not dictated on how many of you decided to join the course this time round.
But it’s so hard when you work in a field that is so emotive and important to me.
* I want to serve
* I want to share what I know and
* Help the women who need my support.
Once I could detach my worth with the outcome I was hoping for I was able to regroup and see the opportunities that had arisen from what I was viewing as a “failed” launch. Yes I haven’t had the number signup that I had hoped for but I have:
* Connected with so many of you amazing women over the past month.
* Created the five day fertility mindset coaching workshop which has had such amazing feedback from so many of you. (Thank you xxx)
* I have learnt so much about myself and what my true values are.
* And the best bit, I am now putting together unique transformation 1 to 1 coaching and therapy packages for those women who feel that the course wasn’t right for them at this time but know they want to move forward from where they are today.
You can visit my coaching page here: https://embracefertility.co.uk/coaching/
Unique transformation packages
If you benefited from watching the fertility mindset coaching videos and feel like you want to explore what is possible for you when you decide to put yourself and your well-being first, if you are one of those women who feels ready to move forward from where you are now then please do you reach out, my one-to-one support is as unique as you are, take a look at my coaching page and then book in for a free 30 minute chat.
"Even though we only spoke for half an hour I found it hugely beneficial. It was also lovely to have a proper chat and feel your passion and energy live and for real!" - Heather
Book your free clarity call now:
In our 30 minute video call together, we’ll get crystal clear on what you are struggling with at the moment, how you would prefer to be feeling and how to move you towards that goal. At the end of the call, if it makes sense we can have a conversation about working together. Check out my coaching page here https://embracefertility.co.uk/coaching/ with information on:
* What fertility coaching and therapy is
* How it can help support you during this time and
* more testimonials from previous and current clients.
“It was a real relief to be able to get some of the stuff off my chest to someone who completely understands and always has tools to hand to help. I like the range of techniques – it’s so helpful to have a mix of things to return later to depending on what feels right at the time.” - Beth
“A few years from now the spot on your chest, which throbs with pain, will be the same place where your kids will fall asleep. & at that moment, your heart will be at peace.” This made me cry as resonates so much with how much pain I was in while going through infertility. After seeing this post from @Prayhopewait I have recorded a rather impassioned podcast talking about it. The weight of the longing and the depth of my desire to be a mother when faced with year after year of nothing but negative results.
It hurt so much as the discord between life I wanted and the life I had just seemed so unfair and illogical.
In the podcast a talk about how although it feels like the only way you’re ever going to be okay is when you have your children I know that it’s possible to feel better NOW in the waiting.
I’ve decided to go live on Instagram at 8pm Tuesday evening to talk about this in more depth and how to allow yourself to feel. I’m not just feel better but really feel all of the emotions that are raging inside of you. I’m going to talk about how embracing those emotions is the key to releasing them and moving through them to a place that is far more empowered and soothing.
Thank you to @fertilityconversations for sharing the original image. Join me at 8pm @embracefertility Instagram.
In the fifth video of my five day fertility mindset series I talk about creating and how I went down the rabbit hole of trying to manifest a baby after watching the film 'The Secret'. I ended up manifesting ovarian cysts, massive arguments with my partner and depression!
Once I had trained as a therapist and was devouring psychology texts I understood how films and books like 'The Secret' just scrape the surface of what is going on for us consciously, unconsciously, physically and energetically.
In this podcast introducing the video I talk about:
🦄 Toxic positivity and the importance of understanding how the unconscious works
🐴 Why using visualisation IS so powerful to create the life you want once you understand the science behind it
🦓I then take you through a guided visualisation for you to feel into the energy of what you want to create and what you want your life to look like one year from today.
You can catch up with the videos on replay now.
And if you are interested in really diving into this come and join us for 'The Embrace Fertility Method' my 12 week mind-body course that starts again on 12th of October.
Link to both in bio.
"For me, this course felt more scientific and effective. The practices give an immediate feeling of relief and get straight to the point. We spend so much time working on and trying to control our bodies in the pursuit of fertility and sometimes this is actually at a detriment to the mind. It seems the mind is the most ignored organ in the fertility struggle. Other things I have tried I wasn't sure I believed in, this worked for me in providing relief from the pain and releasing that sense of constant battle." - Becky
What if it was that easy to feel better right now? What if you could release the tension you feel in your throat or your chest or your stomach when you think about your fertility?
In todays video of my free five day fertility mindset coaching workshop I’m going to be teaching you how to not click but tap your fingers in order to change how you feel both emotionally and physically.
It may come as a surprise that women undergoing infertility treatment experience the same level of stress, anxiety, and depression as women who have cancer, HIV, or heart disease.
I can identify with that statement; while infertility is not life threatening it does threaten your life. The future you have planned that includes being a parent and a grandparent may not be possible and that realisation is terrifying.
Enter Emotional freedom technique - EFT tapping which has been proven to significantly reduce stress.
Tapping is the perfect tool when faced with infertility and can be used to control anxiety, as pain relief – both physical and emotional, for clearing limiting beliefs about your body, conception, pregnancy, childbirth and parenthood and for installing new positive affirmations to make you feel empowered.
When we consciously slow down and check in with our bodies, our thoughts and our feelings by using EFT we open ourselves up to a wider perspective.
Go to www.embracefertility.co.uk/start-here and receive a video on how to get started with this technique and another with a guided visualisation to uncover conscious and unconscious blocks to conception.
Totally getting goosebumps about sharing #allthethings with you. Today at 5pm my free fertility mindset coaching workshop begins, make sure you are part of it, go to www.embracefertility.co.uk/start-here. In this episode I share why this course is NOT just a mindfulness course.
I woke up today and for a split second everything was okay. Then the anxiety hit me. My stomach felt tense and knotted, my shoulders were up around my ears and I haven’t even sat up yet and I felt slightly nauseous.
The list of things that needed to be done or changed or eradicated was immense. I got up and after a few moments remembered that my experience is not created by what is going on in the world around me but by the thoughts I am having about those things.
This made me feel slightly better and reminded me that I have the power to choose. I could choose to continue living in the reality of needing to:
* get to the end of my to do list
* eradicate COVID-19 and infertility
* Get the right results back.
It reminded me that I could choose to step out of my negative thought loop and so I reached for a technique from my mental tool kit.
This morning I chose Rise Up a new techniques that I created for an Embrace Fertility Method member as she was struggling with the Drop Through version that I share in the course.
I didn’t even sit down or close my eyes to work through this technique I just talked myself through it as I went about my day and after a few minutes found relief. The tension dropped from my body, my mind cleared and my breathing became full and unrestricted.
In this podcast I talk you through the technique and I will be creating a full guided visualisation video of this technique as part of my free five day fertility coaching workshop that I’m running for the 21st of September. Come to www.embracefertility.co.uk to sign up.
When push comes to shove and the shit seems to be flying at you from all directions do you:
A. Decide it’s all just too much so crumble and get flattened by all the shit or
B. Decide that you can and will ride through this and prioritise the things you know you need in order to be able to do that?
To be completely honest I have not been prioritising the things I know I need because it’s just felt too much, too many other things seem more important in the moment so I stick myself on the bottom of the list and push on through.
This is not acceptable and if I let even just a few days go by where I’m not prioritising the space and time I need for me then I easily feel overwhelmed and vulnerable in the face of the flying shit.
I have to choose time
and time again that I am important and I need what I need.
What do you KNOW that you need in order to keep yourself balanced and happy even in the face of the flying shit?
If you have absolutely no idea or maybe you know but don’t know how to actually make it a sustainable part of your everyday life then come and join my free five day fertility workshop where we were talking about how to ensure you are nurturing and nourishing not just your fertility but your well-being and happiness.
We get started on Monday 21st of September, sign up at www.embracefertility.co.uk to ensure you receive the daily videos.
A 10 minute episode today discussing the way talking or even thinking about having a baby can become a trigger for anxiety, grief and anger in the same way seeing pregnant women or babies can.
The deeper you go into infertility the more painful your own thinking can become and your unconscious mind may begin to try to protect you from pain by encouraging you to turn away from bumps, babies and allowing yourself to even imagine yourself being pregnant or a mum.
You are in essence turning away from what you most want.
I talk about how to drop through these feelings and tune into a place of being open and receptive to what you want.
I share a mini desensitisation exercise that you can do in the comfort of your own home to help reprogram your unconscious mind from saying no to what you want to saying yes.
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It’s my habit to listen to guided meditation recordings or hypnosis recordings as I like the structure, direction and intention behind them. However there is part of me that craves sitting with myself, craves silence. I go through periods of avoiding it though as my mind can be so busy, so loud. I have to re-cultivate that habit of giving my mind time to settle.
If you’ve never just sat before then start off with my four minute Reset Button MP3 to get you started but then after listening for seven days try setting a time on your phone for just four minutes and just sit. (You can download this for free from www.embracefertility.co.uk.)
Your mind may wonder, you may need to bring it back to your breath every split second but that’s okay it’s called mindfulness practice for a reason.
Infertility for me was like the tiger in the room I would wake up and for a split second everything will be fine and then I’ll remember I am in theatre and the giant tiger would jump on my back and stay with me all day long. I was living in a chronic State of stress and it was only when I started having panic attacks on the London underground that I realised how bad it had got. In this episode I talk about why listening to my reset button MP3 for just 3 1/2 minutes a day can improve your quality of life and your chances of success.
💣TRUTH BOMB TIME💣
Funny isn’t it how synchronicities show up in our lives. Last Saturday I totally lost it and ended up sobbing on an Instagram live and it took me by surprise.
I decided to save it as an IGTV video and emailed it out to my entire mailing list! I did this because I want to show you that it is okay and normal to have big huge emotions.
It’s okay not to be okay.
The synchronicity was that on the following Monday my business coach challenged me to share with you the one thing I really don’t want you to know about me.
The one thing that makes my toes curl and heart race in my chest because I’m trying so hard to hide it.
Two things immediately sprang to mind, two things that made me feel physically sick and my mind shout “Don’t be ridiculous never tell them”
So I hit record and tell you about both of them in my latest podcast! The reason why I’m doing this is because the whole reason why I started Embrace was to share my own personal experiences of going through infertility and how using mindbody techniques such as mindfulness and emotional freedom technique were helping me navigate the rollercoaster of emotions I was experiencing.
It started out as a blog that very much was my journal and as the group grew and I started running fertility support meetings I knew that I wanted to be able to help more and in a deeper way.
I retrained as a therapist and for the past seven years this is what I have done. (Alongside creating and caring for two tiny ginger humans.)
If I stop being open and honest with you then I am not only doing you a disservice but doing myself a disservice because I will have forgotten that emotions are here to redirect us, to show us what is going on in our minds and bodies.
Some of you may listen to this and and unfollow me but some of you will listen and breathe a sigh of relief that it’s okay. We are human, we feel, we struggle, just because I’m a therapist, just because I’m a mum doesn’t mean that I’m living in this bubble of peace and harmony.
I’ve just come for a quick walk after a client session and I am feeling all the feelings. I’m excited and inspired and I feel so so grateful that I get to work with women in this way at such a deep level. That I get to facilitate the transformations that occur from looking at your thoughts, your beliefs and your habits. How these impact how you are feeling and your decision making and therefore your life. I’m so blessed that I get to do this work. If you would like to find out more about working with me then go to www.Embracefertility.co.uk/start-here, check out the techniques I share and then book a free 30 minute clarity call and we can chat about how I can support you further.
Mini episode on Father’s Day here in the UK, support for the guys, how the differences in how men and women deal with infertility based on my personal experiences and those of my clients and how that can impact your relationship.
For fab podcasts and accounts to follow hosted by blokes check out @ittakes_three @pursuingfatherhood
Check out www.embracefertility.co.uk for loads of free support/ideas/downloads.
Recorded at the beginning of June 2020 and sharing what I’m choosing to do at this time to add my voice to the anti-racism conversation. Follow any of my social media feeds for images, links and info on what you can do. @embracefertility on Insta and Facebook and embracefertile on Twitter. Check out this article https://www.motherpukka.co.uk/the-silence-was-deafening/, https://instagram.com/thesullivanslondon?igshid=18hykfjvapkd1 and https://instagram.com/courtneyahndesign?igshid=ptvv10amf92f
I’m walking today down the Ridgeway in Oxfordshire and it’s a raised winding footpath completely engulfed in trees. I feel very safe, very held and that is the topic of today’s podcast.
I created the Embrace fertility method as that is what I needed myself, the first version of the course was written and recorded while I was going through infertility and IVF myself.
At the time I wanted to be surrounded by other women who not just understood me completely and without judgement but wanted to support themselves and learn how they could do that.
I’m launching the new and improved Embrace fertility method next Monday, the 1st of June.
This course will run for 12 weeks and include bi-weekly group coaching calls alongside the Embrace Circle private support group.
Check out www.embracefertility.co.uk/embrace and if any part of you feels drawn to learn more come and join us for the next three weeks for just £49 and see if it’s for you and if not I will refund your money.
Just relax. Stay positive. Just don’t think about it. One of my most read blogs is on this very subject and involves swearing!
In this episode I talk about how trying to stay positive can actually have a detrimental impact on your well-being. I share how I ended up going down a rabbit hole of fertility visualisations, affirmations and law of attraction teachings and how instead of getting pregnant as promised I got more and more anxious.
When I trained as a cognitive hypnotherapist I learnt the science behind how techniques such as visualisations and affirmations work and why they hadn’t worked for me in regards to getting pregnant.
You need to use them as the last step in a five step process. I talk about this process and how you can start practicing today.
Go to www.embracefertility.co.uk after listening.
Today I talk about creating big picture vision and then focusing down on how you would like to be feeling and why.
I get a bit passionate and I go a little David Attenborough in this one.
You can get instant access to your FREE ‘Fertile Thoughts Activation Quick Start Pack’ and find relief from anxiety and repetitive negative thinking sign up here: https://embracefertility.co.uk/start-here/
I’ve done it, my 20,000 word Embrace Fertility book proposal is done and I hit send.
In this quick update I talk about why I am writing a book and why I held off publishing that first draft seven years ago.
I invite you to share what your biggest achievement is this week, that might just be getting out of bed and having a shower each day. but acknowledging what we are doing empowers us to do more.
Visit www.embracefertility.co.uk/mindbodysectets for free workshop mentioned.
How’s everyone feeling about week two of lockdown? I am putting together this free mini course to share the techniques that I am finding indispensable at the moment.
Join to learn simple ways to calm your mind and body. We start today.
These powerful techniques, that range from 20 seconds to 20 minutes, will not only allow you to feel so much better in the moment but will bring your body out of stress response therefore building your resilience.
Join group now: https://www.facebook.com/groups/5dayscalm
Just a quick note to say I’m running a free online workshop tomorrow Wednesday 25th of March at 8 pm sign up to my mailing list at https://embracefertility.co.uk/free-online-workshop/ I’ll be sharing more coping and comfort techniques and we will do you a beautiful grounding meditation to bring us to a place of calm. I hope you are all well.
I published a blog yesterday which includes my self-soothers video of simple acupressure techniques you can use to soothe your mind and body during this time. These techniques are very easy to do and have the added bonus of boosting your immune system. Check out the blog for the free video and link to sign up to the emotional freedom technique tapping video. https://embracefertility.co.uk/coping-and-comfort-in-troubled-times/
The importance of mothering yourself while trying for baby.
Starts with a behind the scenes at how and why I record the Embrace Fertility podcast as I filmed this episode for IGTV. You can go check out that episode now follow me on Instagram @embracefertility.
In today’s episode I ask ‘When did you last do something that was purely to bring you pleasure and joy in this moment?’ No ulterior motive, no ‘I’m doing this because I’m going to increase my chances of getting pregnant’? When was the last time you really did something that was just for you?
I talk about how on my own journey through infertility I got to the point where everything I did was in the pursuit of getting pregnant. I was meditating, doing fertility yoga, acupuncture, I was doing ALL THE THINGS in the hope that this would then reach saturation point and I would become pregnant.
It also meant that any time I did something that was purely to have fun it was tinged with guilt that maybe I should be doing one of the conception enhancing techniques instead.
On previous blogs and podcasts I’ve talked about how if you want to get pregnant and become a mum because you imagine it will make you feel happy, fulfilled and content when it happens then surely allowing yourself to feel those feelings now is just as important.
Stop putting your life on hold. It is possible to not only live your life whilst waiting for your baby but love your life. I know because I did it.
In this episode I talk about the difference between desperately wanting to get pregnant and feeling empowered and impassioned on your journey to motherhood.
I discuss how desperation has negative connotations - imagine a friend desperately wanting a boyfriend or desperately wanting a job and how that would impact their behaviour.
I explain how you don’t need to dial down your desire for a baby but you instead dial down your fear that you may never get to have a baby. These are two very different things and this is where Embrace Fertility steps in, this is where I step in and say this is possible for you. www.embracefertility.co.uk
For me it was 15 minutes ago.! I decided to record this podcast to share about the unexpected outburst I just experienced and the learning I took from it as well as the benefits of everyone allowed themselves to have a really good cry.
Yes I know, when I first found this out I was like WTF!
Everyone tells us to relax and stay positive while we are trying to conceive but trying to do so can actually have a very detrimental effect on your well-being and physical health and therefore a knock-on impact to your fertility and chances of conceiving.
I’m going to be talking more about this along with the science behind your fertility and your mind in my free masterclass on Wed 12th Feb.
If you are listening after that date then come and join my mailing list and I will send you the replay of the masterclass. Www.embracefertility.co.uk
Our minds are powerful and are unable to distinguish between real or imagined. I demonstrate this with a simple exercise at the beginning of the podcast where I ask you to imagine cutting open and then biting into a lemon.
I talk about how many of us going through infertility can wake up and immediately start thinking thoughts like “What if I never get pregnant?” “What if I never get to be a mother?”
I talk about how this takes your body into stress response and then discuss simple techniques you can start to utilise to counterbalance this and bring your mind on board to support you in conceiving and carrying the baby you long for.
My next free masterclass is on Wednesday, the 12th of February at 8 pm come and join my mailing list for your invite. Www.embracefertility.co.uk.
This week something happened that completely threw me. I was in floods of tears, feeling overwhelmed and shook up. I turned to the mindbody techniques that served me so well while going through infertility and the ones that I keep coming back to time and time again to rebalance and find comfort.
In this episode I talk about how we can take charge of our emotions in our lives through simple decisions and actions. I suggest ways you can do that too.
At the end of the podcast I invite you to email me and let me know what you think about this topic. You can do that by signing up for your free fertility support pack at www.embracefertility.co.uk and hitting reply when you get my email or by emailing me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org
Yes you. You dipping into podcasts looking for…......... What are you looking for? The answer? A distraction? Connection?
When it comes down to it we are all just looking for, no scrap that, desperately longing for connection.
Connection with ourselves, our partners, our purpose.
When we don’t have connection we are lost, stunted, diminished.
When we have it we are in powered inspired uplifted.
I made a conscious decision to leave my much longed for children for you. http://www.embracefertility.co.uk/
It’s so tempting at this time of year to set ourselves a massive list of new years resolutions of all the things we want to change about ourselves.
Instead bring a new habit to your daily life, ask yourself before each decision you make “Is this nourishing or depleting?”
While I was trying to conceive I pushed myself at work as a way of coping with infertility and it lead to burnout. As I started to tune in to my body I learnt how to nurture myself rather than deplete my energy.
I spent 15 minutes making myself a delicious pot of porridge with fresh berries, nuts, seeds and cinnamon and I set out into the woods to eat it. I got chased by a huge dog and now the porridge has no flavour.
In this episode I talk about the emotional and physiological changes experience by our bodies when we go into stress response and how this can impact our experience of infertility.
Go to www.embracefertility.co.uk for your free fertility support pack and mindful meditation.
Now it’s December I thought I would share some tips for coping at Christmas while trying for a baby. In this episode I talk about how it’s okay to decide on short notice if you want to attend Christmas parties or gatherings. I talk about simple mindbody techniques that you can use to overcome overwhelm and bring your body back into rest and relaxation.
The blog I mention is ‘Happiness on hold ‘which can be found at https://embracefertility.co.uk/ill-be-happy-when-im-pregnant-vs-what-can-i-do-to-feel-better-right-now/.
The IVFbabble article ‘10 ways to respond to ‘When are you having a baby?’ will be added once it goes live on their site.
Signup at https://embracefertility.co.uk/mindbodysecrets/ to join me for my free masterclass ‘Coping at Christmas while trying for a baby’ which will be on the 8th of December at 8pm GMT London time. In this free online masterclass I’ll be sharing simple yet powerful mindbody techniques to bring your body out of stress and how to take care of yourself both emotionally and physically during this season.
Introducing the mindbody techniques that brought me back to myself after hitting rock bottom due to infertility. I was suffering from anxiety, panic attacks and depression. For you free fertility support pack visit www.embracefertility.co.uk.