Embrace Fertility offers inspiration, support and community to those struggling to conceive. Having been through infertility myself and being fascinated with the mindbody techniques that led me from anxiety and depression back to myself again, I retrained as a therapist and now specialise in supporting others through infertility. Visitwww.embracefertility.co.uk for your free fertility support pack and to join our free community.
Infertility for me was like the tiger in the room I would wake up and for a split second everything will be fine and then I’ll remember I am in theatre and the giant tiger would jump on my back and stay with me all day long. I was living in a chronic State of stress and it was only when I started having panic attacks on the London underground that I realised how bad it had got. In this episode I talk about why listening to my reset button MP3 for just 3 1/2 minutes a day can improve your quality of life and your chances of success.
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Funny isn’t it how synchronicities show up in our lives. Last Saturday I totally lost it and ended up sobbing on an Instagram live and it took me by surprise.
I decided to save it as an IGTV video and emailed it out to my entire mailing list! I did this because I want to show you that it is okay and normal to have big huge emotions.
It’s okay not to be okay.
The synchronicity was that on the following Monday my business coach challenged me to share with you the one thing I really don’t want you to know about me.
The one thing that makes my toes curl and heart race in my chest because I’m trying so hard to hide it.
Two things immediately sprang to mind, two things that made me feel physically sick and my mind shout “Don’t be ridiculous never tell them”
So I hit record and tell you about both of them in my latest podcast! The reason why I’m doing this is because the whole reason why I started Embrace was to share my own personal experiences of going through infertility and how using mindbody techniques such as mindfulness and emotional freedom technique were helping me navigate the rollercoaster of emotions I was experiencing.
It started out as a blog that very much was my journal and as the group grew and I started running fertility support meetings I knew that I wanted to be able to help more and in a deeper way.
I retrained as a therapist and for the past seven years this is what I have done. (Alongside creating and caring for two tiny ginger humans.)
If I stop being open and honest with you then I am not only doing you a disservice but doing myself a disservice because I will have forgotten that emotions are here to redirect us, to show us what is going on in our minds and bodies.
Some of you may listen to this and and unfollow me but some of you will listen and breathe a sigh of relief that it’s okay. We are human, we feel, we struggle, just because I’m a therapist, just because I’m a mum doesn’t mean that I’m living in this bubble of peace and harmony.
I’ve just come for a quick walk after a client session and I am feeling all the feelings. I’m excited and inspired and I feel so so grateful that I get to work with women in this way at such a deep level. That I get to facilitate the transformations that occur from looking at your thoughts, your beliefs and your habits. How these impact how you are feeling and your decision making and therefore your life. I’m so blessed that I get to do this work. If you would like to find out more about working with me then go to www.Embracefertility.co.uk/start-here, check out the techniques I share and then book a free 30 minute clarity call and we can chat about how I can support you further.
Mini episode on Father’s Day here in the UK, support for the guys, how the differences in how men and women deal with infertility based on my personal experiences and those of my clients and how that can impact your relationship.
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Check out www.embracefertility.co.uk for loads of free support/ideas/downloads.
Recorded at the beginning of June 2020 and sharing what I’m choosing to do at this time to add my voice to the anti-racism conversation. Follow any of my social media feeds for images, links and info on what you can do. @embracefertility on Insta and Facebook and embracefertile on Twitter. Check out this article https://www.motherpukka.co.uk/the-silence-was-deafening/, https://instagram.com/thesullivanslondon?igshid=18hykfjvapkd1 and https://instagram.com/courtneyahndesign?igshid=ptvv10amf92f
I’m walking today down the Ridgeway in Oxfordshire and it’s a raised winding footpath completely engulfed in trees. I feel very safe, very held and that is the topic of today’s podcast.
I created the Embrace fertility method as that is what I needed myself, the first version of the course was written and recorded while I was going through infertility and IVF myself.
At the time I wanted to be surrounded by other women who not just understood me completely and without judgement but wanted to support themselves and learn how they could do that.
I’m launching the new and improved Embrace fertility method next Monday, the 1st of June.
This course will run for 12 weeks and include bi-weekly group coaching calls alongside the Embrace Circle private support group.
Check out www.embracefertility.co.uk/embrace and if any part of you feels drawn to learn more come and join us for the next three weeks for just £49 and see if it’s for you and if not I will refund your money.
Just relax. Stay positive. Just don’t think about it. One of my most read blogs is on this very subject and involves swearing!
In this episode I talk about how trying to stay positive can actually have a detrimental impact on your well-being. I share how I ended up going down a rabbit hole of fertility visualisations, affirmations and law of attraction teachings and how instead of getting pregnant as promised I got more and more anxious.
When I trained as a cognitive hypnotherapist I learnt the science behind how techniques such as visualisations and affirmations work and why they hadn’t worked for me in regards to getting pregnant.
You need to use them as the last step in a five step process. I talk about this process and how you can start practicing today.
Go to www.embracefertility.co.uk after listening.
Today I talk about creating big picture vision and then focusing down on how you would like to be feeling and why.
I get a bit passionate and I go a little David Attenborough in this one.
You can get instant access to your FREE ‘Fertile Thoughts Activation Quick Start Pack’ and find relief from anxiety and repetitive negative thinking sign up here: https://embracefertility.co.uk/start-here/
I’ve done it, my 20,000 word Embrace Fertility book proposal is done and I hit send.
In this quick update I talk about why I am writing a book and why I held off publishing that first draft seven years ago.
I invite you to share what your biggest achievement is this week, that might just be getting out of bed and having a shower each day. but acknowledging what we are doing empowers us to do more.
Visit www.embracefertility.co.uk/mindbodysectets for free workshop mentioned.
How’s everyone feeling about week two of lockdown? I am putting together this free mini course to share the techniques that I am finding indispensable at the moment.
Join to learn simple ways to calm your mind and body. We start today.
These powerful techniques, that range from 20 seconds to 20 minutes, will not only allow you to feel so much better in the moment but will bring your body out of stress response therefore building your resilience.
Join group now: https://www.facebook.com/groups/5dayscalm
Just a quick note to say I’m running a free online workshop tomorrow Wednesday 25th of March at 8 pm sign up to my mailing list at https://embracefertility.co.uk/free-online-workshop/ I’ll be sharing more coping and comfort techniques and we will do you a beautiful grounding meditation to bring us to a place of calm. I hope you are all well.
I published a blog yesterday which includes my self-soothers video of simple acupressure techniques you can use to soothe your mind and body during this time. These techniques are very easy to do and have the added bonus of boosting your immune system. Check out the blog for the free video and link to sign up to the emotional freedom technique tapping video. https://embracefertility.co.uk/coping-and-comfort-in-troubled-times/
The importance of mothering yourself while trying for baby.
Starts with a behind the scenes at how and why I record the Embrace Fertility podcast as I filmed this episode for IGTV. You can go check out that episode now follow me on Instagram @embracefertility.
In today’s episode I ask ‘When did you last do something that was purely to bring you pleasure and joy in this moment?’ No ulterior motive, no ‘I’m doing this because I’m going to increase my chances of getting pregnant’? When was the last time you really did something that was just for you?
I talk about how on my own journey through infertility I got to the point where everything I did was in the pursuit of getting pregnant. I was meditating, doing fertility yoga, acupuncture, I was doing ALL THE THINGS in the hope that this would then reach saturation point and I would become pregnant.
It also meant that any time I did something that was purely to have fun it was tinged with guilt that maybe I should be doing one of the conception enhancing techniques instead.
On previous blogs and podcasts I’ve talked about how if you want to get pregnant and become a mum because you imagine it will make you feel happy, fulfilled and content when it happens then surely allowing yourself to feel those feelings now is just as important.
Stop putting your life on hold. It is possible to not only live your life whilst waiting for your baby but love your life. I know because I did it.
In this episode I talk about the difference between desperately wanting to get pregnant and feeling empowered and impassioned on your journey to motherhood.
I discuss how desperation has negative connotations - imagine a friend desperately wanting a boyfriend or desperately wanting a job and how that would impact their behaviour.
I explain how you don’t need to dial down your desire for a baby but you instead dial down your fear that you may never get to have a baby. These are two very different things and this is where Embrace Fertility steps in, this is where I step in and say this is possible for you. www.embracefertility.co.uk
For me it was 15 minutes ago.! I decided to record this podcast to share about the unexpected outburst I just experienced and the learning I took from it as well as the benefits of everyone allowed themselves to have a really good cry.
Yes I know, when I first found this out I was like WTF!
Everyone tells us to relax and stay positive while we are trying to conceive but trying to do so can actually have a very detrimental effect on your well-being and physical health and therefore a knock-on impact to your fertility and chances of conceiving.
I’m going to be talking more about this along with the science behind your fertility and your mind in my free masterclass on Wed 12th Feb.
If you are listening after that date then come and join my mailing list and I will send you the replay of the masterclass. Www.embracefertility.co.uk
Our minds are powerful and are unable to distinguish between real or imagined. I demonstrate this with a simple exercise at the beginning of the podcast where I ask you to imagine cutting open and then biting into a lemon.
I talk about how many of us going through infertility can wake up and immediately start thinking thoughts like “What if I never get pregnant?” “What if I never get to be a mother?”
I talk about how this takes your body into stress response and then discuss simple techniques you can start to utilise to counterbalance this and bring your mind on board to support you in conceiving and carrying the baby you long for.
My next free masterclass is on Wednesday, the 12th of February at 8 pm come and join my mailing list for your invite. Www.embracefertility.co.uk.
This week something happened that completely threw me. I was in floods of tears, feeling overwhelmed and shook up. I turned to the mindbody techniques that served me so well while going through infertility and the ones that I keep coming back to time and time again to rebalance and find comfort.
In this episode I talk about how we can take charge of our emotions in our lives through simple decisions and actions. I suggest ways you can do that too.
At the end of the podcast I invite you to email me and let me know what you think about this topic. You can do that by signing up for your free fertility support pack at www.embracefertility.co.uk and hitting reply when you get my email or by emailing me directly at email@example.com
Yes you. You dipping into podcasts looking for…......... What are you looking for? The answer? A distraction? Connection?
When it comes down to it we are all just looking for, no scrap that, desperately longing for connection.
Connection with ourselves, our partners, our purpose.
When we don’t have connection we are lost, stunted, diminished.
When we have it we are in powered inspired uplifted.
I made a conscious decision to leave my much longed for children for you. http://www.embracefertility.co.uk/
It’s so tempting at this time of year to set ourselves a massive list of new years resolutions of all the things we want to change about ourselves.
Instead bring a new habit to your daily life, ask yourself before each decision you make “Is this nourishing or depleting?”
While I was trying to conceive I pushed myself at work as a way of coping with infertility and it lead to burnout. As I started to tune in to my body I learnt how to nurture myself rather than deplete my energy.
I spent 15 minutes making myself a delicious pot of porridge with fresh berries, nuts, seeds and cinnamon and I set out into the woods to eat it. I got chased by a huge dog and now the porridge has no flavour.
In this episode I talk about the emotional and physiological changes experience by our bodies when we go into stress response and how this can impact our experience of infertility.
Go to www.embracefertility.co.uk for your free fertility support pack and mindful meditation.
Now it’s December I thought I would share some tips for coping at Christmas while trying for a baby. In this episode I talk about how it’s okay to decide on short notice if you want to attend Christmas parties or gatherings. I talk about simple mindbody techniques that you can use to overcome overwhelm and bring your body back into rest and relaxation.
The blog I mention is ‘Happiness on hold ‘which can be found at https://embracefertility.co.uk/ill-be-happy-when-im-pregnant-vs-what-can-i-do-to-feel-better-right-now/.
The IVFbabble article ‘10 ways to respond to ‘When are you having a baby?’ will be added once it goes live on their site.
Signup at https://embracefertility.co.uk/mindbodysecrets/ to join me for my free masterclass ‘Coping at Christmas while trying for a baby’ which will be on the 8th of December at 8pm GMT London time. In this free online masterclass I’ll be sharing simple yet powerful mindbody techniques to bring your body out of stress and how to take care of yourself both emotionally and physically during this season.
Introducing the mindbody techniques that brought me back to myself after hitting rock bottom due to infertility. I was suffering from anxiety, panic attacks and depression. For you free fertility support pack visit www.embracefertility.co.uk.