We're finishing up THE MONTH OF THE MAN with none other than the best man I know, my husband Robert Vearnon. He and I sit down for a no holds barred discussion where we allow you to be a fly on the wall as we talk very candidly about our experiences and perspective as Black people, both individually and as a couple.
If you died today, what would be your biggest regret? Inspired by his Instagram Live about REGRET, I wanted to continue the discussion on my Enough Factor Podcast with none other than, Licensed Therapist and Life Coach Jason Phillips
· Peer pressure extends to adulthood
· What fuels regret
· Regret-proofing your life
· When things go wrong even after you’ve done things right
· Having to start over
…and much more
Happy Father's Day to all the fathers, father figures, and father surrogates who love us, lift us, give it to us straight and remind us what true strength looks like. As I interviewed men for this month set aside to amplify the voices of Black Men, I reserved Father's Day for none other than Dr. Undrai Fizer. He speaks to my bone marrow, I'm telling you. And he brings a dignity to spirituality that is seldom seen. It's deeply human and profoundly Divine at the very same time.
After a history in this country of being heard but not listened to, Sean Rodgers says “Enough is enough! LISTEN TO US!” Sean, a husband, father and advocate for healthy marriages reverberates the cry of Black Men who are fastly becoming an endangered species.
Sean shares his perspective about:
White People who adopt Black children
God-fearing Bible-believing Bigots
…and much more.
Sean’s final takeaway is “We can’t stop!” Sean encourages everyone to take a stand and refuse to allow distractions to lull them back to sleep.
Continuing “The Month of the Man” is speaker, author, and certified life and relationship coach and “Reality Expert” Troy Spry. Troy stopped by Enough Factor Podcast to have a no holds barred conversation about what it’s like to be a Black Man in Corporate America. What he shared was surprising even for me! We started the conversation with a thought-provoking question: what is your soul crying for?
What does a man look like? June is “The Month of the Man” and it’s my pleasure to welcome John A. McDonald II to Enough Factor Podcast. Described as a tie-loathing adventurer, philanthropist & entrepreneur who turns ideas into reality, it’s hard to believe that he spent so much of his life not knowing who he was. He resented his mom and was angry with his dad for it. To this day, he doesn't know who his father is. His story sadly is one that is shared by so many Men of Color in this country.
Her name says it all! Courage Molina is a force of Good-God in a pint size frame! With an unapologetic message about God’s love and the courage it takes to live an authentic spiritual life, Courage is shaking up religiosity of taking notes from someone else’s sermon to inspiring others to open the Word of God for themselves!
Continuing our focus on mental health is host of Dope and Damaged Podcast, Nes Reign. Nes was a happy, optimistic woman with dreams and aspirations in the entertainment business until her life got turned upside down. Her sister was tragically murdered! This episode takes us into her experience and her continued struggle to accept a life without her sister. Sometimes anxiety and depression overwhelm Nes, yet her faith, her family and her relationship with herself continue to be a source of strength. She's proof that you can be dope (brilliant) and damaged.
Despite loving what you do, being constantly told how to sit, how to stand, whether you’re wearing the right lip color or if you’re too dark for a role can take its toll.
Continuing our Mental Health Awareness Series is none other than Theatre and Film Actress Germôna Sharp. In our honest talk, Germôna talks about her journey of enoughness and how she learned it’s okay to not be okay.
If you’ve been hesitating in launching a product, investing in yourself, or raising your hand to answer the question, Roshanda Pratt has one question for you: Why? Why are you waiting for somebody to give you permission when you’ve already been given it.
Known as a Digital Media Pioneer with 20 years experience as a News Producer on the frontlines of history, Roshanda is on a mission to raise up messengers who will shape the narrative through media. She is a respected News Producer, Live Stream Expert, Speaker, Storyteller and First Lady of Visibility. Roshanda uses her passion for media to spread the empower brands to be seen, heard and paid. She has been featured on CBS’ The Talk and The Tamron Hall Show. Roshanda is the Author of CEO of Live Video, a number one Amazon bestseller. She produces and host a Facebook live show every Monday night called "The Rosho Live".
Welcome to May, Mental Health Awareness Month and our New Normal! I gotta tell you, riding this wave of COVID-19 has had some chills, spills and wipe outs. It hasn’t been pretty. I think we all agree that our mental state is being affected. So, it’s so timely that my guest, Teaching Artist and Wellness Advocate Tara Whitney Rison is offering easy-to-implement strategies to maintain our wellness not just to get through the daily challenges of this pandemic but for the life that awaits.
From the moment of my heartbreak, my relationship with Love changed. It went from something that I welcomed with ease to something I no longer trusted. Love, in my mind, had failed me.
Heartbreak changes you. There is no avoiding it. You will never be the same.
Yet, while you can't go back and do Love over, Suzette makes the case that Love never fails. It breaks you open to an experience of you greater than you would have experienced otherwise.
You gave the performance of a lifetime! You sit with baited breath waiting to see if you got the Oscar. Your heart beats so loudly you can hear it as they call out the names. “And the Oscar goes to…”, you gasp, YOU! As you mount the steps to the stage, you are filled with exhilaration until you realize you’ve been the star in somebody else’s dream. It wasn’t yours!
From the projects to next level exceptional, Global Publicist and CEO of Epiphany Public Relations, LLC Terry Spicer's destiny was written in the stars! The stars that a young Terry looked up at and the women in her life told her she’d be among. She was built for it. Yet, like many twinkling stars, others saw the benefit in what she could produce for them but could not see the benefit of her vision. This was a burden she carried until she had an epiphany!
Our second Queen of Unstoppable is “The Business Plug” Linda Murray Bullard. Linda comes through with business strategies for grown entrepreneurs. If you are still sweating the small stuff, this interview will help you get out of your own way!
She tells you why you need to:
Erase needy people from your calendar to make room for customers
Increase your value instead of lowering your price
A fail-proof formula for determining the price of your products and services
Stop the bargain shopper mentality and start investing in your business
If you’re a Baby Boomer female who wants to leave Corporate America in the dust and reinvent yourself, today’s your lucky day. Reinvented Woman Margo Lovett is serving up the inspiration for the woman who says, “I ain’t done yet!” This 65 year old creator of Her Business Her Voice Her Conversation Podcast has taken the podcasting world by storm! She’s appeared in Marketing Insiders, Influential Leaders in Marketing & Huffington Post, graced the cover of Vercay Magazine twice and a monthly contributor to WomELLE Magazine.
Participating in Suzette's twist on the game Truth or Dare, Margo reveals a Truth that Life required her to confront and a Dare to take a risk at what seemed like the worst time.
Season Two is all about multiplicity: going from enough to more than enough. In true deeper dive fashion, Suzette looks back at her mindset shift that occurred between Season One and Season Two: from losing a major contract to headlining at a 600-seat auditorium. A look back at a journal entry she wrote on the 4th of July revealed gems that were a precursor.
Like many who work for themselves, she had grown accustomed to wearing two hats. One might even call it duplicitous, not in a bad way but in the two-fold way. She was the one doing the job. She was also the CEO of the company. While that dualistic role is common in the early years of entrepreneurship, there comes a time (several times, actually) when its viability requires the leader. After almost a decade, she finally got it. She had to let go of the “worker” to be the “leader”.
Daily, we are being bombarded with social distancing, self-isolating, and images of worried looks and conflicting information. That's the reason I felt it necessary to interrupt my scheduled Season Two launch schedule to speak to the greater pandemic than the coronavirus: Forgetting who you are!
In this special episode, Life Coach & Relationship Solutionist Suzette Vearnon pumps the brakes on all the noise, fear-mongering and reports of impending doom and reminds you that you are more than enough not just to "get through this" but to be better as a result of it.
Do you feel compelled to defend yourself when you feel you've been done wrong? When you enter a new situation, do you feel you need to prove yourself? In this, her 24th episode, Suzette concludes Season One with an honest examination of what motivates our responses.
Sharing from her own experience, Suzette raises the most important question: WHO ARE YOU? Not the you who feels threatened or the you who feels he or she has something to prove, but the you whose presence requires no validation.
For a long time, Tandee Salter felt she wasn't enough and she didn't deserve success. She was bullied for being a nerd, preferring to go the library over going to recess and it went down from there. Her confidence suffered with one devastating rejection after another culminating with going through a divorce.
At the time of this interview, there had been a lot of suicides and accidental deaths in the entertainment world. Kristoff St. John was one of them. Tandee expressed a willingness to share about her own bouts with grief and depression in hopes of helping others struggling in silence.
When you ask Laci An McLean how she has powered through not having all the tools to becoming a leader in the virtual assistance industry, she'll say these three words: It starts within. Everything starts within. Jamaican born, Laci credits her work ethic and can-do attitude to her father who modeled for her the values of business, something she is just as passionate about imparting to her children.
With over 2000 courses created, she is clear about her intention and her purpose.
Spend 5 minutes with LaDawn Townsend and you can't help feel your inner badass rise up and say "YES!" She's bad to da bone: every bit the Boss and every bit the Lady! And she's unapologetic about it! That struck me! For you see, LaDawn and I share the belief that you don't have to give up one for the other. She can give straight no chaser advice to a Fortune 100 CEO yet appreciate it when a gentleman opens the car door for her.
For the woman who wants to be respected in the boardroom without betraying herself, this episode is a must listen!
Has your life become boring, regular, predictable? Does your 9 to 5 pay the bills, but leave little time for you? While having predictability in my life makes me feel safe, I have had to admit that "comfortable" is becoming uncomfortable. There's a longing in my heart for more!
Rachel Gilmore had a longing in her heart. She wanted to travel the world. But, like many, she didn't have the money. Yet, so deep was that longing, she created a vision board with Bali and Thailand on it. Imagine the shock and awe she felt when she won $10,000 in travel money! That was four years ago! Since that time, Rachel has traveled to Bali multiple times, Thailand and other places she use to dream of. And get this, she now takes others with her on Earth and Soul Adventures.
Am I stuck in grief? This was the question Catherine McNulty asked herself when someone told her she was. It had been 2 years since her infant son died yet sadness and depression were her constant companions. Grief had become her new normal.
Normally, I don't walk around thinking about grief. In fact, I honestly try to avoid it. But within the last two weeks, at least three people I know have buried a parent. And within the last couple of years, I've gone to more funerals than I've ever wanted to. Though my conversation with Catherine was taped some time ago, it could not be more timely.
What got broken? This was a question I asked podcast guest, Chatela Monae, as we talked about why she is in the process of divorcing her husband. What struck me was her determined intention to take care of herself during the process, first. Something that many women don't do and as a result come out of their divorces bitter, fractured and afraid to trust a man again.
In this, the last in our Recovering From Divorce Series, Chatela tells us a story all too common. The story of rushing into marriage thinking that the same smarts you bring to books will translate to relationships. That, because a man asks you to marry him, he recognizes your value and wants to marry you for all the right reasons. The belief that if you pray long and hard that somehow God is going to fix what's broken and save your marriage.
Good girls don't, bad girls do? Guess again! Good girls talk about sex. In fact, good girls want to enjoy sex too! This episode is all about sexual freedom a topic near and dear to our guest's heart. For Leah Carey spent 42 years mired in shame, laying on her back during intercourse, staring up at the proverbial ceiling waiting for it to be over. She didn't know she could ask for what she wanted so she endured what she didn't want.
Joining in our Recovering From Divorce Series is none other than Co-Host Dating Commentator Troy Vaughan. In their old school meets new school style, Troy and Suzette go in the ring to go round for round about this question: Why do folks exchange the wedding vows, "for better, for worse...til death us do part" and, with all that said, still get divorced?
Tiffany Green and her husband were the picture perfect couple: smart, attractive and, by all intents and purposes, the quintessential couple. Even, their families adored each other. Theirs should have been the ultimate happily ever after story! Yet after 3 1/2 years of marriage, Tiffany called it quits. Up until this point, she had never failed at anything but here she was with a failed marriage and had no idea how to overcome this failure! This third episode in our Recovering From Divorce Series chronicles Tiffany's journey to the real answers she was seeking and the real resolution her soul required.
According to Pew Research, the number of fathers who do not work outside the home is on the rise. It was up to 2 million in 2012 in fact! In this special Father’s Day episode, I’m talking with one of those unsung heroes. He’s music producer and stay-at-home dad Derrien Hinton aka “DH The Composer”. In our candid conversation, Derrien talks about the realities of parenting twin boys, how brand building and legacy building are intertwined, and the new definition of provider he's adopting...one diaper at a time.
For years, Altovise Pelzer carried around a secret that she had kept concealed from everybody. No one knew, not even her mother. It wasn't until she felt compelled to share it with her daughter that Altovise went from silence to finding and loving her voice. In this, our second episode in the Recovering From Divorce Series, Altovise shares her story of molestation, being evicted from her home, going through a divorce and being a people pleaser. But most of all, she shares her journey of enoughness and the unexpected full circle that brought her face-to-face with her ex-husband.
Kicking off my Recovering From Divorce Series is Voice Actor, International Public Speaker and The World's #1 Master Trainer on Relationship Sales Dynamics™, Spike Spencer. In this episode, Spike shares his heartbreak at discovering his then-wife with his best friend, moving past the anger and internal blocks, to learning to cook with the right ingredients to attract the right partner. Listen as Spike explains the something that has to click so heartbreak doesn't become a life sentence.
You're really feeling this person and think that they might just be "the one," but they tell you they are bipolar. What do you do? May is Mental Health Awareness Month and continuing the discussion is none other than my cohost, Dating and Relationship Commentator and Atlanta native Troy Vaughan. In this episode, Troy and I get real and talk about dating and mental health, the normalization of unhealthy mental health in the Black community, myths versus reality, and the importance of seeking a mental health professional at all stages of life.
Have you ever felt uncomfortable being around people, avoided or cancelled appointments at the last minute or your mind “bugging” as if it’s on hyperdrive? In this episode, Cynthia White, a Speaker, Entrepreneur, Coach, Mentor, and Mental Health Advocate joins Suzette as they talk about how mental health should be acknowledged as an important issue in our society. Cynthia and Suzette share their thoughts on what healthy habits should be incorporated into our routine for us to live our life by design and not by default. Tune in as Cynthia shares her personal battle with mental illness and how she became her own advocate.
In the middle of abuse and violence, Veronica Pryor-Faciane decided enough was enough! In this episode, she shares her compelling story of triumph over incest and sexual abuse and how she found the strength to break free. If you've ever wondered if you'll ever break free from the guilt and shame of abuse and violence, Veronica's story will awaken you to your true worth and help you go from worrier to warrior.
Why does it seem so hard for some to leave a toxic situation behind? In this episode, Suzette discusses why it is important for high achieving women to recognize when life offers them an out and to take it without hesitation. Suzette also shares, in the most honest possible way, how changing your mindset is key to overcoming the question, “Am I enough?” when something holds you back from leaving. Wait for her to reveal that one thing that can finally set you free.
Taking his virtual seat at the podcast table is none other than Dating and Relationship Commentator and Atlanta native Troy Vaughan. In this episode, old school meets new school as Troy and Suzette offer their unique perspectives on the question, "Can you afford to date your expectations?" Listen as Troy makes his debut as co-host, giving a man’s perspective on some controversial issues about dating and relationships while bringing to the table viable solutions and advice.
Taking her virtual seat at the podcast table is none other than the heart and soul of 50+ Women of Color, Class, Confidence and Style, Zelda Cookie Wade. Zelda shares how her heart, once isolated and lonely, is now filled by over 29,000 women from all over the world. She reveals her secret sauce and the transformation that can happen when women are revived, empowered and celebrated.
When was the last time you were brave--not for everybody else, for you? In this episode, Suzette brings to light the subtle yet impactful ways Life offers us opportunities to be brave. She gets to the heart of where lack of self trust can come from and your Inner Visionary who must take her place as boss of your life. Her insights are certain to amplify your voice, your value and your vision. This podcast is a must-listen for those you need to take a bold step in their own direction.
In this episode, we get the great privilege to hear from the incredible Public Speaking Strategist, Joi Worthy Johnson! Joi is not only a force of intention when it comes to speaking but is passionate about setting an intention for living. Whether keynote speaking at a conference or communicating with your spouse, Joi teaches the power of your voice, your intention and your investment.
In this powerful episode, Master Life Strategist Andrenee Boothe goes underneath the skin of why women over-give. She deconstructs the inner workings of your inner critic. She tells you how to change the conversation so your inner critic recognizes who's in charge. And she gives you tools to reconstruct the you--the real you--who will choose you...first.
Do you bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan and never never let him forget he's the man? While that might work for the Enjoli perfume commercial, it doesn't work for your relationship. Doing too much too early in your relationships, though a common mistake of the high achieving, seldom gives you what you really really want. This episode cuts through the denial and gives a compelling argument for why you should stop doing so much!
Because we all struggle with the question, "Am I enough?", that's why! And rather than talk about it, we get busy trying to prove to ourselves and others that we are. One problem though. Seldom if ever is that ever enough. That's why we're here. To help you to write your own definition - yours alone - of what makes you enough so you can have a brand new experience of living and loving.