Non-award-winning solo podcast hosted by a midwest raised, middle-aged generation X'er, selectively shy, attention seeking, introvert (but necessarily extroverted), former shock rock radio morning show host now a corporate marketing executive, energetic only child, with daddy issues, slight OCD, and adequately ADHD medicated grown ass man ranting into a microphone, from all over the world (but mostly from Downtown Kansas City, early in the morning daily.
Non-award-winning solo podcast hosted by a midwest raised, middle-aged generation X'er, selectively shy, attention seeking, introvert (but necessarily extroverted), former shock rock radio morning show host now a corporate marketing executive, energetic only child, with daddy issues, slight OCD, and adequately ADHD medicated grown ass man ranting into a microphone, from all over the world (but mostly from Downtown Kansas City, early in the morning daily.
My buddy Drew joins me on this episode of the podcast. The conversation starts by discussing a series I'm currently binge-watching on Showtime called Ray Donovan. Loving the show because the main character shares a Myers-Briggs personality with yours truly.
If Superman's weakness is kryptonite then my weakness is definitely overthinking. Overthinking has been a huge part of my successes in life but it has also been the central issue to the majority of challenges in my life. So how does one deal with overthinkers like me? I discuss the article 16 Things Know if you Love an Overthinker to bring some light to how my brain works.
Call-out Culture aka Outrage Culture is a form of public shaming that aims to hold individuals and groups accountable for their actions, by calling attention to behavior that is perceived to be problematic, usually on social media. A variant of the term, cancel culture, describes a form of boycott in which someone (usually a celebrity) who has shared a questionable or unpopular opinion, or has had behavior that is perceived to be offensive called out on social media is "canceled": they are completely boycotted by many fans, often leading to massive declines in celebrities' (almost always social media personalities) careers and fanbase. via Wikipedia
The place I work has created a great opportunity for our employees to go back to college. I've taken advantage of the opportunity and have been taking online classes with Rockford University. School for me in the past has been sort of a nightmare so enrolling at 44 years old still have me apprehensive. Do I have the focus and passion now later in life that I didn't have as a young man? I guess we are going to find out.
After a lot of encouragement and multiple attempts in recording a new episode, only to delete them, I finally have a new Everyone Needs a Little podcast episode. A lot has changed in 6 months. Let's catch up, shall we?
Podcasting still brings me happiness but I was feeling way too vulnerable when so of you that listen to this podcast would see me and bring up something I had talked about in an episode. Not your fault at all that I would die a little inside from embarrassment but it did make me nervous to realize there are a lot of people that listen to this podcast and know some pretty personal things about me. So I took a little step back.
Knowing how my mind works and how it has made me the person I am is extremely important to me. Especially when it comes to understanding my challenges. With this in mind, and a suggestion from my primary doctor, I went a saw a psychiatrist. Never at first going but it was the greatest decision I've made all year.
I don't know if it's just today, but that spark for getting up and recording a podcast episode keeps dimming more and more. That passion and excitement I made just isn't there every morning anymore. I find my brain blank with ideas to talk about and discuss. I find myself five out of six times not excited to turn on the microphone. Is this the end? Do I just need a break? Should I start recording at different time? Or do I need new brain meds?
Celebrating my mother's birthday with a special podcast episode thanking her for being a great woman and wonderful mom. I couldn't have raised a kid like me. I would have pulled my hair out, but she did and I grew up a decent person. No arrests, DUI's, children out of wedlock, etc. All and all she did a great job with what she had to work with. :) Happy birthday mom!
We all could use a daily dose of positivity and I was hoping that this podcast could provide that but I think I lost focus. My worries for constantly wanting to entertain changed what this podcast was supposed to be all about. So, I think it's time for a reset.
It takes my brain in overdrive to think about the first humans to do certain things. Normal things that aren't discussed that often. I'm not talking first to walk on the moon or the first to stand up to a cause, I'm talking about people that don't get any credit. Like the first person to drink cow milk. What in the hell was going on that someone took a sip of that stuff? Or the first person to eat eggs? That had to be a weird and culturally disgusting thing at the time. Who are these human superstars that don't have their names in history books?
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How can you truly explain a feeling? To provide an explanation for something that is felt, is an art form of its own – but, luckily language can serve as our palate, allowing us to paint pictures of these inexplicable moments through the imagination. Today's episode is a list of 23 emotions we have (almost) all certainly felt, and possibly didn’t have the word for.
Customarily there are three things you're not supposed to talk about to avoid an argument; Sex, Politics, & Religion. You can add a ton of social issues to that list as well, like abortion, immigration, vaccines, taxes, drugs, and much more. But how long have humans been divided and arguing about social issues, because I keep reading online that we're currently at a fever pitch? We've been at each other's throats since humans discovered fire and invented the wheel. Nothing is new.
After being humiliated by a Southwest flight attendant not once, but twice I've learned to watch what I say and what I do when around larger people on Southwest flights. I've lost 100lbs so my experience with being an extremely obese person on a Southwest flight is no longer an embarrassing experience I suffer. My flight to North Carolina last Friday put me in an extremely physically uncomfortable situation and I hope I handled it correctly.
Many people are in disbelief when they find out I'm not a huge fan of drinking alcohol. I get treated like I'm an alien from a different planet. And even at 44 years ago, most people turn on the peer pressure to get me to have a few drinks. This reaction has always dumbfounded me. Why do drinkers need others to drink with them?
Want to get hip with the youngsters' lingo? Check out UrbanDictionary.com, but a warning for the faint of heart out there. Plus, I really want to make a short movie. My idea of the non-porno but make you think its porno might be the worst or best idea yet.
I've never been a fan of society telling me what I need to do. I think each one of us can figure that out for ourselves. This is one of the reasons I'm not a fan of Valentine's Day. If your relationship is built on expectations and not communications, then I believe you are in an uphill battle.
When it comes to who is happier, parents or child-free people, most of the research up until now has concluded that it is the childless who are more satisfied with their overall lives. I don't know about that, only because its hard to compare. All I know it what I've experienced in life. I know I can do whatever I want, whenever I want to.
I'm turning 45 years old later this year, 2019. Turns out, 45 years old is just 45 years old. An age that means you are old enough not to feel young anymore, but not old enough to complain about it. It’s like the middle child of ages... no one is impressed or thinks you're turning 45 is a big deal but you. When I was 20 and thinking about the day I was going to be 45 I thought things would be completely different than how they really are.
I've kept a lot of memories in a 6x6x18 wooden box my father gave me years ago. The question can be fun, "What does a 44 year old man keep in his memory box?" Coins, handkerchiefs, photos, baseball cards, and more. Thanks for going on this trip down memory lane with me on this Sunday morning.
I am constantly seeking continuous improvement and renewal professionally and personally but I'm not very good at it. "Sharpening the Saw" means preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have--you. It means having a balanced program for self-renewal in the four areas of your life: physical, social/emotional, mental, and spiritual.
The people I would think that would get a ton of tattoos aren't always the ones doing it. I've never understood the connection between getting a tattoo and "therapy," aka "Tattoo Therapy." Although I have many tattoos, understanding how just getting a quick design idea on your body can bring happiness has never happened for me. Especially when those that are always spending their extra money on random tattoos are complaining, they're too broke to find adventure in their lives.
Men fight for survival, dominance, and personal gain, but they also fight just for fun. Anthropologists have found that the more conflict is culturally condoned, the more boys and men tend to fight, roughhouse, and engage in arguments simply because it feels good. Why? Maybe it's because making fun of or wrestling a friend is easier than telling him you love him, and sends a version of that same message.
Article recently describes a man, who was out jogging in Colorado being attacked by a Mountain Lion. Surprisingly, the man killed the Mountain Lion with his bare hands by choking it out. Apparently, there have been less than a dozen fatalities by Mountain Lions on humans in over 100 years but this won't stop people from freaking out that they will be attacked next.
We all have those things that bother us that other people do. Believe it or not people have a pet peeve of calling those things "Pet Peeves." Let's discuss the pet peeves from many of you, including myself on today's episode. I also admit that I am the the teacher of the world when it comes to things that irk me.
A buddy of mine texted me last night asking me if I was enjoying the boring Superbowl and after I responded that I wasn't watching it he told me I lost my man card. This morning I did some research to find out other ways men can lose their man card and the results and ridiculous.
These guys that are only friends with a woman because they want to date them or sleep with them call themselves "Nice Guys." They get friend-zoned and then bitch and moan that women only want to date assholes and not "nice guys" like them. These "nice guys" are bigger douchebags than the men they chastise. They're only nice to a woman because of something selfish they want and explode in anger when they don't get it because "Nice Guys Always Finish Last." What a bunch of bullshit.
I love following those of you that listen to the podcast on Facebook and other social media sites. It gives me the opportunity to see what you're into or what's got your attention at the moment. Yesterday I saw an article shared by an Everyone Needs a Little podcast listener named Shalia. She had posted the article; "12 Old-Fashioned Dating Habits We Should Definitely Bring Back." I left her a comment telling her I was going to address the 12 things author Stephanie Reeds addresses. The first thing I noticed about the article is that it is amazingly sexist, towards men.
Don't worry Shalia, I don't think you're sexist but I do want to give you my perspective. :) And sorry I pronounced your name wrong during the entire episode.
My buddy Mike and I saw Peter Jackson's "They Shall Not Grow Old' last night at the downtown Kansas City Alamo Drafthouse. Using state-of-the-art technology and materials from the BBC and Imperial War Museum, the story of World War I is told in the movie by the men who were there. Life on the front is explored through the voices of the soldiers, who discuss their feelings about the conflict, the food they ate, the friends they made and their dreams of the future. I learned from the movie what tough is, and I don't have what those boys and men had inside them.
I think all couples should discuss who their "Celebrity Five" are. This conversation is an excellent opportunity to find out if you're with someone who is insecure or not. And is it weird not to have any fetishes or vices? How boring does that make someone? Doesn't everyone have at least something unusual that turns one on? After 44 years I've never found one for myself? Could that possibly make me the most boring man in the bedroom?
I have no idea why I behave the way I do when running into people in real life that I mostly know online. I become a bit distant, and I feel like I'd come across as an asshole. But I'm not trying to be that way. I honestly have no idea how to react. I know I get nervous because the person I know online whom I'm now face-to-face with gets to see the "Sonic Cheeseburger."
The amount of new listeners to the Everyone Needs a Little podcast is blowing my mind. People are listening, and they're coming back listening to more. That makes me incredibly happy. I don't want the original reason I started this podcast to go away because I feel like I need to entertain people now since there is a lot more of you. So in today's episode, I take a step back and explain why I started the Everyone Needs a Little podcast in the first place and the evolution of what it has become. This podcast is my tool to gauge my "4 Selves"; self-awareness, self-esteem, self-love, & self-worth.
It blows my mind to know that women were sending Ted Bundy love notes during his trial. Normal women being attracted to this piece of shit human being. Maybe not all humans are attracted to serial killers, but I've seen women and men date someone who is a complete piece of shit only to be blindsided when it didn't work out. What is it about the "bad boy"?
The final episode of the story of my life. Joining a startup with former colleagues was a scary situation but also fantastic, adventurous, and amazing at the same time. 2018 would turn our to be a turning point in my life and I starting to really accept that I am proud of myself and what I have accomplished.
My professional life was terrific. My new career in Kansas City at VinSolutions was incredibly fulfilling and exciting. I was working for amazing people that also were my new mentors. I was also developing a good name for myself in the automotive industry as a social media marketer & content specialist. But my personal life was suffering. Lonely and sad in Kansas City with no friends. I needed to change something, so I did, and The #LiveALittle Project was born.
Within two weeks of starting my new job in Kansas City I was on a plane to Las Vegas with the company for an industry convention. I knew absolutely no one at my company but that would change extremely fast while in Vegas. My professional life was exploding in an amazing way.
I needed to make $1500 and being jobless at the time was going to make this extremely difficult. Having the same name as my grandpa Joe and his enjoyment of playing the slots at the Prairie Band Casino was going to be a way to make that money. I put my discipline to the test and was hopeful of coming out victorious on the other end.
Joey Baggz was an extremely giant fish in an incredibly small pond. I was famous in Topeka. Really famous. The character I created for radio had almost wholly taken over who I was. My life consisted of free drinks, men wanting to be my friend, women wanting to sleep with me, and tons of attention. My challenge of wanting everyone to like me was being fueled but in all the wrong ways. One day soon it was going to end, abruptly. I wasn't ready for that moment, but I needed it to happen.
The world of Joey Baggz was wonderful. I created this character and now I got to be him every day. He was confident and adventurous. He was "Topeka's Bad Boy". Hell, I'd get emails from men asking me to have sex with their wives. It was crazy and I loved all of it. I never wanted it to end.
The nightlife was behind me, and my future was unsure. I knew working at my grandparent's construction company wasn't going to be my career. I had no idea what I was going to do in life. All I knew is that I had a fresh start and some time to get it figured out. When I got the call from Jeff Peterson at Topeka's Rock Radio V100, everything changed again for me. I was getting my shot and on a path that I dreamed of when I was a kid making little radio shows on an old reel-to-reel recorder my dad gave me.
A Sunday night in my mid to late twenties is when I snapped. Combination of working tons of hours, unbelievable stress of trying to make a business succeed, lack of sleep, and a ton of alcohol made me hit that breaking point. I needed a change, and my mind & body forced the shift for me in the most disgusting way ever. The past is the past & we must learn from it. I did learn from it, I'm not proud of it, and today I'm getting it off my chest.
Franklin "Bill" Patrick became my best friend while we were both working at Detours nightclub. He was the best bud any man could ask for. We were Batman and Robin. Our personalities were different enough that we complimented each other. Bill was the quiet type, and I was the loud center of attention type. Work was getting crazy for me at this time in my life too. Running a sports bar and still managing at the gentleman's club had me working 1000 hours a week. This schedule would soon catch up with me and my emotional well being.
Life was getting exciting in my early and mid-twenties with a newfound career in the nightclub world. Making a lot of money, meeting new friends, and naked women everywhere. The question wasn't, "Would I burn out?" but "When will I burn out?" The bar industry fueled me and made it my mission to learn every aspect of it.
Adulthood was hard, boring, and lonely. After buying a house at 20 years old and going to work at my parents' floor covering store I found a life but lonely life. I didn't know any kids my age and spent most of my time home alone or hanging out with family. My cousin Brandon Crocket changed all that when he invited me to a club called Detours in College Hill. Walking into that club would change my life and add action, adventure, and finally women.
My senior year of high school was exciting and full of drama. A significant football injury changed the course of what I thought my life was supposed to be. College became so depressing and couldn't wait to get out of it but dropping out wasn't the most excellent idea. Entering the adult world was confusing and scary AF. I was quick to learn about bills, cocaine, and how my laziness was now a huge problem.
My life was pretty exciting at 17 years old. I had no idea what I was doing but it was fun with my best friend John Wilhelm. At 17 I also met the first girl I would fall in love with and continue to love into adulthood. Michelle wasn't a girlfriend but a new friend I loved and I knew she loved me too. Just a bunch of crazy teenagers exploring adventures in Kansas.
In this second episode discussing the story of my life, I address the darkest time of my teenage years. Dealing with a close friend committing suicide at 17 years old does send one down a dark and confusing path. If it weren't for the fantastic new friend I would make my junior year in high school, I don't know what would have happened to me. John Wilhelm brought me out of the darkness and changed my life forever.
Whether it's for me for when I get older, my parents or old friends, new friends, or just the people that listen to the Everyone Needs a Little podcast to get to know me better; so I start telling the story of my life in today's episode. It's also a way for me to see how the stories of my life growing up have made me the man I am today. My philosophy is saying things out loud to help one own shit.
I confirmed with myself last night that I have absolutely zero fear of public speaking. Studies say that public speaking is one of humans' biggest fears and I happy with myself that it doesn't affect me but what are the other top fears humans have and do any of those affect me. One of them hits me kind of hard and inspires a future podcast episode.
An article I read 15 years ago sticks with me to this day when dealing with homophobic people. The article highlighted a study that showed a connection between being homophobic and having gay tendencies. The more homophobic you are the more likely you are a closeted homosexual or bisexual. It actually makes a lot of sense. Especially in the town I grew up in.
I will admit that I can be an immature little boy when it comes with not getting my way. Even as a middle-aged man I have to keep checking myself when I respond to things that I don't agree with. Reading an article today with data from the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin really puts this challenge I have in perspective. The article also helps me understand more about content being posted by some people in my network know as "Vaguebooking".
Article referred to in today's episode:
Have you taken the "Love Language" test? It outlines five ways to express and experience love that author of the book "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate" Gary Chapman calls "love languages": receiving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and physical touch. My love language is "Words of Affirmation," and I hate it. I hate that the way I feel love and appreciation is "using words to build up the other person" according to the definition in the book. I despise for me to feel appreciated is based on nice things said to me. Constantly seeking positive feedback is haunting. It is extremely tough, especially being a middle-aged man working in a male-dominated professional arena. Men don't tend to praise other men.
Kendall Jenner teased on her social media channels last week that she had a huge personal announcement and her fans got very concerned. Was Kendall Jenner going to reveal that she was sick, had her own #MeToo story, or something worse? Nope, Kendall Jenner, and her mom Kris Jenner trolled their fans by announcing something I found hilarious, but their fans did not.
I'm also discussing on the podcast episode today about lack of self-awareness on social media. Thanks to the First Amendment to the US Constitution you can say whatever you want, as long as you're not inciting violence, but you not free from consequences to your words. Some people still cannot grasp that concept.
Cold and Rainy in Los Angeles last couple days with a brief relief of sunshine yesterday afternoon while visiting the Getty Center. I thought the name J. Paul Getty (for whom the Getty Center gets its name) sounded familiar, so I Googled him. Yup, he's the guy who didn't pay the ransom to his grandson's kidnappers back in the '70s.
Also talking first cars, getting hit by a drunk driver, people running into me while walking, and crazy LA weather this weekend.
Had a great time driving around Southern California today but had some surreal moments when passing by the fire devastation that has happened recently. Seeing entire Mountains burned out and many homes destroyed was difficult. Fortunately, I had an amazing personal highlight while on Airforce One. Yes, the POTUS plane.
"It's been a wild ride.
A lot of miles. A road sometimes smooth, sometimes hard and ugly.
And I guess I could tell you that if you look hard enough, that just next door is just as interesting as the other side of the world.
But ... That's not exactly true.
If I do have any advice for anybody, any final thought, if I'm an advocate for anything, it's to move.
As far as you can, as much as you can.
Across the ocean, or simply across the river.
The extent to which you can walk in somebody else's shoes--or at least eat their food--it's a plus for everybody.
Open your mind. Get up off the couch. Move."
- Anthony Bourdain
Heaven is a place man has created to answer one of life's biggest questions, "What happens when you die?" I've had my theory for many years now, and it sounds far-fetched, but I have the chance of being right just as much as the next schmuck. Many holes in my theory but who knows?
My love/hate relationship with social media continues. I feel like I can't unplug from it, but sometimes I want to. Especially when I see posts from people I thought were smart, but they continue to post bullshit stories, facts, and misinformation. I used to call them out or do the research for them showing what they are spreading online is just complete nonsense but feel like it's just not worth the work anymore.
Also, WTF is up with the Trump GOT poster he had laid out on the table during his first cabinet meeting for 2019 and why did zero reports ask him why it was there? I'm mind boggled.
Megan sent me a Facebook post titled "Rules for Sons" and thought it might be a good topic to discuss for the podcast. Right away I noticed a huge change I would make along with a lot of suggested changes throughout the list. Need to title it "Rules for People" not just rules for sons.
RULES FOR SONS:
1. Never shake a man’s hand sitting down.
2. Don’t enter a pool by the stairs.
3. The man at the BBQ Grill is the closest thing to a king.
4. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.
5. Request the late check-out.
6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
7. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.
8. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas.
9. Play with passion or not at all…
10. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look them in the eye.
11. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.
12. If you need music on the beach, you’re missing the point.
13. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.
14. You marry the girl, you marry her family.
15. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.
16. Experience the serenity of traveling alone.
17. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.
18. Never turn down a breath mint.
19. A sport coat is worth 1000 words.
20. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.
21. Thank a veteran. Then make it up to him.
22. Eat lunch with the new kid.
23. After writing an angry email, read it carefully. Then delete it.
24. Ask your mom to play. She won’t let you win.
25. Manners maketh the man.
26. Give credit. Take the blame.
27. Stand up to Bullies. Protect those bullied.
28. Write down your dreams.
29. Always protect your siblings (and teammates).
30. Be confident and humble at the same time.
31. Call and visit your parents often. They miss you.
32. The healthiest relationships are those where you’re a team; where you respect, protect, and stand up for each other.
New Year resolutions never worked for me. Too many changes I wanted to make at the beginning of the year stacked on top of each other. No wonder I couldn't complete or finish any of them. This year I'm taking advice from a chapter of Grant Cardone's book "10X". 2019 will be the year of successions for me.
2018 was a good year. This podcast has allowed me to grow more than I ever expected. I'm heading into 2019 with so many positive thoughts and actions. No New Year resolutions for me, but I am going into 2019 with a plan for more happiness and adventure. One part of that plan is learning how to make amazing Gumbo, amongst a lot of other fun things.
After a challenge we had at the hotel in Cumberland, MD Megan said I would be the perfect person in our group to talk with the General Manager to fix the problem. This statement made me curious, and I ask her more about her suggesting me to be the one to handle a lousy customer experience challenge.
And after spending Christmas day with my father, I realized it is me that hasn't changed. I still carry a grudge with him, and that needs to change. Time to forgive and move forward. No more excuses about "daddy issues."
My list of favorite diners for breakfast in America:
Visiting Monticello yesterday had me leaving with a different opinion of Thomas Jefferson. The former POTUS and founding father that was once my favorite historical character have now my brain thinking he was a complete dick that raped a young slave girl named Sally. Sure Jefferson gave some fantastic things to humanity and Americans, like the Declaration of Independence and the University of Virginia, but fathering four children with a slave and then burying the fact is a horrible taste in my mouth. This Jefferson realization has me now thinking of other "celebrities" & "leaders" that have disappointed me after learning of shitty things they have done as well.
Today I woke up 10 minutes away from Thomas Jefferson's home in Charlottesville, VA. Jefferson has been my favorite POTUS my entire life, and I have no idea why. Maybe my visit today to Monticello will help me figure it out.
Megan tells the story of how her parents had challenges with Hello Fresh meals. No fault to Hello Fresh at all, this was entirely user error. And it's hard to believe with all my travels that I finally popped my Airbnb cherry last night in Virginia
When it comes to having a passion for something my new friend Nicholas takes the cake. Nicholas is the absolute frontrunner for knowledge and understanding of the television show Survivor. This 15-year-old had seen every episode of every season at least ten times, even the seasons that were on the air before he was born. Nicholas and discuss his passion and love for the tv show, and I encourage him to take it to the next level. Podcasting has brought me so much joy, so I wanted to give Nicholas suggestion and the basics to get started with his own "Survivor" themed podcast. Great interview with Nicholas, even with the constant distractions from his aunts just wanting to pinch his cheeks in happiness for him figuratively.
As part of my mother's Christmas gift, and because I love her, I attended Christmas Eve Church services with her. I've done this a few times with her in the past couple months and noticed it brings her happiness. But after a night of staying out too late, being lazy all day, and a big dinner it became a challenge to not pass out in the pew at 10 pm Christmas Eve services.
And can we talk about the murder mystery television shows on HLN and MSNBC? I encountered a few episodes during my lazy day yesterday that had me cracking up.
"It is your duty and obligation to find happiness." That quote is continually coming up in my life. But what does that mean and how do you start the journey to find happiness? This question often comes up in real life conversations I have with people that want to be happier. I am a constant work in progress and will continue on the happiness finding journey for my entire life but what was the situation for me that started the journey. Who I was to who I am today in night and day, so what was it that sparked my fire? I still have my down days, but nothing like I used to.
A "holiday" the majority of us know about because of the television show "Seinfeld", but what exactly is Festivus and is it a real thing?
I'm having some interesting conversations with old friends while I'm back in my hometown for the holidays. A lot of them wanting to get out of this town and into a new life. Got me thinking, can you MacGyver your existing life instead of uprooting?
I'm in my hometown of Topeka, KS for the Christmas holiday weekend and staying at my parents'. This morning when I noticed my mother was up early like me I saw the perfect opportunity to sit down and record a podcast episode with her with us drinking coffee sitting at her kitchen table. Using a list of questions I found on the internet titled "50 Questions To Ask Your Mom If You Want To Know Who You Really Are" my mother had a wonderful hour long conversation and I got to know more about myself and her.
Link to the questions mom and I discussed: https://thoughtcatalog.com/holly-riordan/2017/07/50-questions-to-ask-your-mother-if-you-want-to-know-who-you-really-are/
I don't know what has overcome me but I'm feeling the holiday spirit in a positive way. Shit, I even listened to some Christmas music this morning before work. Talking about resolutions today on the podcast and ways I'm going to keep the positive vibes flowing over the holidays and in the new year.
Here's the link to the Buzzfeed quiz in today's episode:
"Answer These Christmas Questions And We'll Give You A New Year's Resolution"
If you haven't seen an episode of Cheers, then you don't know who Cliff Clavin is, but let's say that this mail carrier is the master of knowing all things odd and interesting. This is exactly what this episode is going to do for you, make you the master of knowing all things Christmas that is odd and interesting. You can thank me later after you walk away from your holiday party as the most popular person ever.
Articles referenced in this episode of the podcast:
"10 Weird Conversation Starters for Holiday Parties"
"The 12 Days Of Christmas: A secret code for persecuted Catholics?"
I'm so proud of my buddy Mike and I, and not because we pulled off filming the first video in a new series I'm putting together. I'm proud of us because we got along and didn't bicker like the two middle-aged grumpy, stuck-in-their-ways, stubborn men that we are. We had a great time, and I'm looking forward to editing the video.
Christmas is coming very soon, and for the first time in years, I'm happy and excited for the holiday to come. I'll tell you why in today's podcast episode.
Watched Bo Burnham's movie "Eighth grade" last night and I thought it was a fabulous movie. The film is about Kayla's awkward life in her last week in junior high. A lot of Kayla's situations in the movie brought back my memories of junior high and all of the awkwardness it had. Need to give a quick disclaimer for this podcast episode, it includes the awkward, terrifying but funny telling of my experience of my first orgasm as a 13-year-old in a whirlpool bathtub. Glad I can look back on it now and laugh my butt off.
Articles referenced in today's podcast episode:
Eighth Grade | Official Trailer HD on Youtube:
"8 Things I Know for Sure About (Most) Middle School Kids"
Creative ideas to spark my passion are always coming into my mind. I love making new stuff, whether its videos, recipes or adventures. The challenge I have is that I can go too far down that rabbit hole when doing these projects. Adding more and more ideas to my existing plan and that can burn me out rather fast. This time, as I bring back a creative idea I had seven years ago called Masterpiece Meatloaf (a video series where I film myself preparing original, exciting and unusual meatloaf recipes) I need to keep myself in check and keep it simple. I've made another promise with myself like I did when starting this podcast, to keep it smooth and exciting & not get burned out.
Link to "The Coffee Buzz" podcast hosted by Brad Brumley:
Link to some of the old videos, including the original Masterpiece Meatloaf episodes:
Insecurity is the opposite of motivation. Most, if not all insecurities we have are just bullshit stories we tell ourselves. My insecurity is coming across as a creepy middle-aged bearded man to strangers, especially with women. I know these thoughts and insecurities are all in my head, but with the #MeToo movement, it seems difficult to overcome it.
The article referred to in today's episode:
"10 Things Extremely Creepy People Do (Usually Without Realizing)"
Christmas is for kids and people like my mother so who am I to ruin that from them with my actions in the past as a Scrooge? Even though I'm not a fan of the holidays doesn't mean I can act like an asshole to those that that love this time of year. So, to get me in more of the holiday spirit let's talk about fun interesting facts about Christmas, Hanukkah, and Kwanza in today's episode to see if the Holiday spirit enters my body and pushes me to the point of enjoying the Hallmark Channel's holiday movies (fat chance but you never know.)
The articles used in today's podcast episode:
"50 Random Facts About The Holidays"
"The Man Who Invented Christmas Trailer (2017) Charles Dickens Biopic Movie"
Months ago I promised to address why a lot of people, mostly men, hate Nickelback. I never got around to explaining, but I received a message from Florida cussing me out for never revealing the reason for the massive dislike of Nickelback. Today's episode is the day to put it all out there about Nickelback.
Also addressed in today's podcast episode the unfair dislike by many towards Guy Fieri. That guy is getting a bad rap, but I love that he doesn't seem to give a shit.
Finding personal happiness is extremely hard, especially if we keep listening to the bullshit stories we tell ourselves. I came across a blog today from 2012 that a nurse named Bronnie Ware. For many years Bronnie worked in palliative care. Her patients were those who had gone home to die. She was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives and asked them the hard question, "What do you regret?"
Here is Bronnie Ware's original blog post from 2012:
"REGRETS OF THE DYING"
Something has been wrong in my brain for the past week and instead of talking about it on today's episode let's take a Buzzfeed quiz instead. I'm sure I'll address this weirdness happening with me soon, but I'll instead take the "Are These Things Actually Rude?" quiz and avoid it, at least for now.
There's a man named Ron who has always been in my life, and he is like an uncle to me. When I worked with Ron at my family's construction company back in my teenage years Ron's repetitive nature and personality used to scare me. I didn't want to become repetitive in my own life. I wanted every day in my life as an adult to be different and exciting. I'm 44 years old now, and half of my life is adventurous and exciting, the other half of my life is reclusive and repetitive with zero excitement.
It's hard to look back in 2018 and recognize the fantastic & positive things that have happened because we live in a 24-hour news cycle where negative stories monopolize the headlines. There were so many amazing things that happened, and I point them out in today's podcast episode; Not all the news was about President Trump.
Also in today's episode, I give my simple tip on how you can keep the holidays from stressing you out. It comes down to one word/action: Communication.
The article used in today's podcast episode:
"20 Positive Trends That Will Make You Feel Good About The World In 2018"
Adventure and learning new things is fuel for my soul personally. I always want to try new things and visit many different locations. I've never had a written bucket list but maybe its time to put on together. The act, of putting together a bucket list might also give the opportunity to meet new friends. I found a website online that allows you to network with others while creating and executing a bucket list and I'd for you to join me.
Website to create and network with your bucket list (find & connect with me. My username is "EveryoneNeedsaLittle":
Article about creating a bucket list:
"How to Make a Bucket List: 5 Easy Steps to Create a Great One"
Doctor Emoto's experiment on water can teach us a lot about ourselves. Know it continually reminds me to not be so hard on myself but its hard to stop. I've always claimed to be an asshole, and that thinking is probably affecting me negatively. We're also checking out "19 Things You Know if You're an Asshole" to help me determine if I am genuinely an asshole or at least what percentage of my personality is.
The articles used in today's episode:
"Emoto’s Water Experiment: The Power of Thoughts"
"19 Things You Know If You're An Asshole"
Learning new things every day excites and fuels me, this includes learning the stories of others. Part of my job is interviewing employees at my company for an internal podcast to learn about them. I look forward to sitting down with people with a microphone or video camera recording our conversation. I need more of this in my personal life; broadcasting the loves, passions, and challenges of people in this world.
Link to the "Your Story" videos I did 10 years ago:
Recording the podcast in Irvine, California this morning at my office in southern California. My Southwest flight that got me here yesterday gave me enough points to receive Companion Pass status. That means I can pick someone to fly with me for free for a year with Southwest. That sounds amazing, but it is entirely bittersweet.
The first question to ask yourself is if you want to be happier or are you sabotaging your happiness? The second question is, do you accept that being happy is your duty and obligation? If you're ready to be happy then let us discuss "15 Habits of Incredibly Happy People": https://www.sparringmind.com/be-happy/?fbclid=IwAR3i2PKj1-eZjoi4_BWgjjyigYpbY51Nxrr5AVmazVt01qY8DLMcPlu6wf4
Despite the reason that took me to my hometown over the weekend, my heart was full of joy. I spent Saturday evening with the three guys I consider my brothers having drinks, telling stories, and just loving the fact we were all together living the moment. The joy in my heart continued into Sunday morning when I met my mother at her church. As a non-Christian, this is out of my comfort zone, but I know it brings happiness to her when I join her.
Overall, my weekend had a lot of joy and love.
Warning, here comes the vulnerability again. When people close to me or if public figures die I always take a look at my mortality. In this case, the question of "Who will my Mom contact to be pallbearers at my funeral if I died today" has been on my mind following the death of my friends Mike & Bill's mother and the news of former President Bush passing away last night. I honestly don't know, out of maybe three people who my mom would call on to carry me to the afterlife. My brain is telling me that my challenge of needing most people in this world to like me is keeping me from having more friends. Have my mind telling myself to require people to like me has been a personal challenge my entire life. It's time for a change.
The thought of my opinion on gifts for grown ass men would be so popular with listeners of the podcast is mindblowing. Thank you lady listeners for reaching out and telling me that my gift guide episode for grown ass men is helping and encouraging me to record a part two & part three soon so shopping can start. Thus, by popular demand, here is part two assisting confused women everywhere with shopping for the grown ass man in their lives.
Link to the Everyone Needs a Little Grown Ass Man Gift Suggestions on Amazon: http://a.co/haHljAr
Middle-aged men have been receiving shitty gifts ever since the time of Jesus and the birth of Santa Claus. Today's episode is part of a three-part series to help you put a real smile on the grown ass man in your life's face. It's time to get to know your man and do him a solid this holiday.
The article/list referred to in today's episode:
"70 Best Christmas Gift Ideas for Men"
Every day I get a Facebook alert that Nas Daily has posted a new video, and every day I love watching that video. The videos that Nas Daily put out daily are inspirational, motivational, full of adventure & positivity. The group of friends that travel the world recording and producing these videos seems to be the type of people all of us need in our lives.
Check out & Like the Nas Daily Facebook page here:
More about Nuseir Yassin:
Rake, from Australia, is an excellent series on Netflix currently and in this episode I mention a few more I enjoy. Also in this episode, I address the multitude of opinion journalism articles being spread throughout social media by leftist and right leaning people. It doesn't seem like it's about spreading news anymore, it's about spreading whatever you want to believe and fits one's narrative. Fake news on the internet is an epidemic. Everyone wants to be right, and no one wants to learn or step outside their comfort bubble. Life would be different if we spent more time seeking our happiness passion stimulation instead of artificial stimulation.
Articles referred to in today's episode:
"FACT CHECK: What's Happening On The U.S.-Mexico Border?"
Rake on Netflix
Stuck in North Carolina for 24 hours as I wait for the Kansas City airport to reopen. While in tar heel country I'm reminded of Adam Ruins Everything for absolutely no reason.
Plus Megan is heading to Wichita for her first time. Business travel, because why else would someone go to Wichita?
The articles referred to in today's episode:
"12 Things I Learned On "Adam Ruins Everything" That Made Me Want To Punch A Wall"
The moment I completed accepted that I have been a selfie asshole for the majority of my life has truly metaphorically punched me right in the face this week. A punch so hard that I am going to change that horrible personality trait now, no waiting. I'm tired of being a selfish prick.
Before leaving for vacation I was nervous that I would have to deal with thousands of non-self-aware people getting in my way and being a huge annoyance to me, but now five days into this trip it's becoming aware to me that I'm the asshole. I haven't got in anyone's way but I have stereotyped 3000 people on this cruise ship unfairly. The majority of people on this vacation with us are pretty enjoyable. It's time for me to check myself and become more self-aware instead of worrying about everyone else.
In a recent episode, I talked about why I'm ok not spending Thanksgiving with my family. I hate that my mother thinks I was talking about her, which isn't true. True or not the fact that I have hurt & disappointed my mother makes me incredibly sad. Even though I don't show it, and I probably should more, my mother means the world to me. I need to show her more love and appreciation. I also need to show that love and appreciation to other family members as well, but mom comes first. I never want to disappoint her, I love her way too much.
Spent an entire day on a Jamaican foodie tour in Ocho Rios, Jamaica but the best part of the adventure wasn't the food. The jerk chicken, goat stew, pumpkin rice, rasta pasta, and all of the other dishes I consumed today were fantastic, but it was the chance to meet two Jamaicans that gave me a great perspective to what it was like growing up and living in Jamaica. I took the opportunity to talk with Sashanie on today's podcast episode. Sashanie is born and raised in Jamaica and has never left the island. Not because Sashanie doesn't want to travel outside Jamaica, she doesn't leave because it's just not that easy to get a visa.
Cruising through the Carribean during Thanksgiving week is one of the best adult decisions I've made. As a man who is not a fan of Thanksgiving and Christmas, vacationing during the holidays may end up being a personal tradition. No more Christmas lights, no more awkward conversations with family, no more gift giving anxiety. This idea sounds like heaven .
Its been almost 24 hours we've been on our cruise vacation and we have our pros & cons so far. Spoiler: it has been better than I was expecting and I'm loving it. If you're interested in taking a cruise your pals Megs & Bacon have some great tips, not only for cruising but traveling in general.
I like people but only on my terms, and I believe that makes me an asshole. I hate being an asshole, but it seems that my challenges are ingrained in my personality. Unself-Aware people are my Lex Luther, my Joker, and overall they are my nemesis. Cruise ships and Unself-aware people go together like peanut butter & jelly. Pray for me.
Money can't buy you happiness, but it can make finding your stimulation and passion easier in some situations. But I am 100% sure making excuses to stop yourself from seeking your happiness is the worst thing anyone can do, and in my world, most people I know that give up on finding their joy and stimulation blame it on their kids and family. That breaks my heart. I know there is an excellent middle place in happiness journeys that money or excuses don't have to live. Let's find that place together in today's episode.
I hate going to the grocery store, and I believe I have facts to back up why it is a horrible place. I recognize that most of my points aren't facts but stories I tell myself. Grocery stores bring unwanted anxiety that drives me crazy as I wander around a food store listening to shitty overhead music avoiding as much eye contact as I can.
It's a scenario everyone has thought of, "if I could talk to the younger version of me what, would I tell me?" It's a great exercise to think about your self-awareness enough to want to give your younger version life advice but are we missing something right in front of our face when we imagine talking to our younger version? Are we taking our own advice now? If you think that's deep, wait until you listen to today's episode.
The article referenced in today's episode:
"52 Things I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self"
Being a man can be tough. Don't get me wrong, being a man is fantastic but some things come with being a man that sucks, especially when it comes to relationships with women. On today's episode, I hope to bridge the gap between men and women by spilling secrets about men that women probably don't know. Not deep into in like discussing masculinism, but just simple things men secretly wish women would understand about the gender with a penis.
The articles referenced in today's podcast episode:
"25 Secrets Men Really Don't Want Women to Know"
"7 Secrets About Men Most Women Don’t Know"
You have to wait 30 minutes before you back to swimming after eating, sugar before bed would keep you up, eating your carrots would make you see better, all examples of lies told to children kids by parents. Those falsehoods shaped many of us, and I don't think many parents knew they were telling bullshit to their kids because it was the same bullshit their parents would lay on them. Let's talk about more of the fun lies we were told as kids.
Articles used in today's episode:
"SIX THINGS YOUR MOM TOLD YOU THAT AREN’T TRUE"
"17 lies your parents told you as a kid (that you still kinda believe)"
Interesting article about author Rachel Hollis, author of the trendy self-help book "Girl, Wash Your Face" has me deep thinking again about the people in my Facebook feed portraying bullshit lives for whatever reason. Men and women both are guilty of this destructive power of marketing themselves falsely online. Why do they do it? Do I do it at some level? Do we all?
The article referenced in today's podcast episode:
"Girl, Wash Your Face” Is A Massive Best-Seller With A Dark Message"
Fun conversation with Lauren, a 13-year-old girl that has been in my life since she was born. Lauren and I talk about the future, popularity, sports, and advice she would give her parents. Plus I teach Lauren one fundamental fact about all middle school kids.
I've been overweight most of my life. Struggling with being fat has just always been in my life. Always worried about others judging me for my size is a constant, even today with all the weight loss I've had recently. Over 400lbs has been my top weight, and to think I wasn't miserable as hell at that size would be a bald-faced lie. But when we are miserable and we accept that misery, we are literally killing ourselves.
The article referenced in today's episode:
"An Imperfect Human's Guide To Body Positivity"
This morning started with me not wanting to record an episode of the podcast, but it quickly turned into the longest solo episode in the history of the show. My passion for creative vs. data type people came out today. This topic sent me down a road of explaining how every single person is different. Labeling and putting people in different metaphoric camps is ridiculous. No two people are the same, but a lot of society is still slapping labels on people that don't deserve them.
I've always sweated a lot. When I work out, there is usually a puddle under me but its when I sweat when I'm not working out that haunts me. Sweating is my true tell/tell sign, and massive anxiety has taken over my body. I can stop it, and trust me I've tried. Sweat pours out of me, and that gives me even more anxiety which makes me sweat more.
I think we grow a lot when someone close to us dies. We either grow, or we die a little ourselves depending on how we cope with the tragedy. MY best bud called me last night to tell me his mother died yesterday. I immediately wanted to step in and start fixing things but recognized I should focus more on providing empathy and also give feedback that I am here to do anything he needs to help with any arrangements. Attempting to work it all out on today's episode and remind myself that it is not about me.
Sometimes I need a reminder of all the excellent advice and best practices I have received from books, videos, and regular conversation from friends and family to help me on my life journey. Putting all that info into a book will be the perfect tool for me and give me the opportunity to share with others.
I also need to send significant kudos to four Southwest Airlines' flight attendants that are merely beautiful, friendly people.
Every 5 or 7 years I tend to reinvent myself, but my reasons for changing in the past was probably for people to accept me more. Had to be someone I thought people wanted me to be. At least the people I thought meant something to me or I desired their friendship and acceptance. Now at 44 years old its time to reinvent again but now for my self-happiness and personal quality of life entirely.
Link to the book Megan mentions in the episode:
"Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life"
Megan and I are talking about micro-adventures poolside in San Diego. Does your location have anything to do with your adventure level? Can an adventure just be going to the park to eat lunch outside or does there need to be more to it? Plus we get into Megan'isms in the episode today discussing the difference between showers verses rinses, and snacks verses meals.
Wikipedia's definition of micro-adventure:
My travels have me broadcasting the podcast from Corona, CA this morning reflexing on all the places and experiences I've had since last Friday. Cleveland, Buffalo, Boston, and now southern California. The amazing advice I've tried to live my life on came from Andrew Zimmern, celebrity chef, business owner and widely known from his television show "Bizzare Foods". I caught his wonderful words, "I try everything twice" and it amazingly changed my life.
Great dinner and conversation with my friend Sara in the North End of Boston. Sara is a motivating person with an inspiring story of moving from the middle east to Boston when she was just 18 years old with no job lined up, no place to live, and couldn't speak English. Our last night dinner conversation was wonderful as we spoke of challenges and successes in our lives, along with how social media has made it easy to appear like one cares but truly does not.
Book referred to in the episode:
"The Power of Your Subconscious Mind: There Are No Limits to the Prosperity, Happiness, and Peace of Mind You Can Achieve Simply by Using the Power of the Subconscious Mind"
Great episode today as I take the podcast with me as we venture to downtown Boston for the Red Sox World Series parade. Talked to two Bostonians about 15 years old straight winning, and I make a promise to myself.
Halloween is an exciting holiday. I love it, but you couldn't tell from today's episode. I think things a lot of things, activities, holidays are fantastic but a minority of people f*ck them up & make them unenjoyable for the rest of us. Halloween is one of those holidays/activities that has been f*cked up for me because of dumb uncreative people.
And on a serious note, can we stop calling women "whores"?!
The article referred to in today's episode:
"Critic's Notebook: 'Frontline' Doc 'The Facebook Dilemma' May Scare You Off Social Media"
Today I turn 44 years old. When I was 20 years old, 44 sounded like an old man. Now I am that "old man," but I feel wonderful. Today is also another special "megs & Bacon" episode where Megan joins me on the podcast before she flys back to North Carolina, and I continue my adventure onto Boston where I will experience the Red Sox World Series Championship parade!
History is made with the first podcast episode being recorded in the car driving. Meg's & Bacon are heading to Buffalo, NY in celebration of Joey's birthday on October 29th. While driving Meg takes the "How Stereotypically White Are You" test. Meg also educates us all on Eris, PA, covered bridges, hot apple cider, and all other white people things Joey and she are about to experience.
Here's the "How Stereotypically White Are You?" quiz:
With all the negativity in the world, it's nice to step back and look at the positives we can create to not only make our lives better but make the lives of others in our world fantastic. Megan joins me again for a special "Megs & Bacon" episode in Cleveland.
The article referenced in today's podcast:
"17 Things To Keep In Mind The Next Time You Get Annoyed With, Uh, Everything"
I love when I can look back on situations and laugh. I'm not sure my mom can do the same because I have truly put her into some embarrassing situations. Including the time I had an extremely attractive lady doctor doing an ultrasound on my testicles.
I begin my 10 day trip around the country today. Starting in Cleveland and ending in San Deigo. Excited to have the podcast on tour again. Plus new episodes of "Megs & Bacon" coming this weekend.
As a middle-aged white dude who is a registered Republican just slightly right of the middle from the midwest a lot of people in the media would like for you to think I'm a Neo-Nazi, racist, woman-hating, fear mongering, white pride Nationalist. I know that I'm not and if you've been listening to this podcast, you know that I'm not, but I have to be very careful about what I say because that label is too easy to stick on people like me even though it's wrong.
People of all cultures need to have more conversations about race & culture. I want to have more conversations about race & culture. I'm going to start with this episode.
The article referenced in the episode:
17-year-old in Independence charged after disturbing Facebook video surfaces
I personally know people that are living lies online through social media sites like Facebook & Instagram. They are putting out personal content for what they want to project to people to see about them. IMO it's 100% for ultimate validation from friends and strangers online because the person lying with their social media content is suffering from extremely low self-esteem, self-love, and/or self-worth. I recognize these people because I used to be that person at the highest level of posting bullshit content online for validation from others.
The opportunity to find something that made me different than everyone else in my childhood was essential to me. At an early age, I recognized that I didn't want to be like everyone else. I found my individualism in becoming a Boston Red Sox fan. Living in Kansas, there were no other Red Sox fans anywhere and picking the MLB team my little league team got it its name from was just a gift from the baseball Gods.
It all started with half-price tickets on LivingSocial for the Junior League Holiday Mart at the Downtown Kansas City Convention Center, aka Bartle Hall. I asked my mom to join me to an event, that turns out to the perfect for women just like my mother. Christmas stuff, wine culture items, lady clothes, jewelry, and snacks everywhere. I know my mom had a wonderful time with me, but I wonder if she knows that I had a fantastic time with her? It was a great day. Time to talk about it.
Websites mentioned in today's episode that you should check out:
Time zones really screw me up. Something simple as a 2-hour change can really screw with me. I woke up after a 10-hour sleep feeling like I had been throw out of a van but what happened at 6:04 am this morning really helped overcome the feeling like hell. It has helped me narrow down thoughts about the 3 things I need in my life currently to improve my happiness. Maybe others need more of the 3 things as well? Let's discuss.
My travels in the past eight years have taken me everywhere but Las Vegas is the city I have experienced more than any other. Today's episode I give the "Joey Little Guide to Visiting Vegas". Its everything you need to know if you want to holiday to the city in the dessert that never sleeps.
The lightbulb went off recently that a lot of my loneliness and sadness the recent years could be from a complete lack of community in my life. After seeing first hand a community group together, I realized how thirsty I am for a sense of belonging that I currently do not have in my life, nor have had for over a decade.
It is now part of my life mission to understand how belonging to a community is essential and need to create that sense of belonging again.
The article(s) referred to in today's episode:
"The Psychology of Communities – 4 Factors that Create a “Sense of Community”"
The podcast is on the Las Vegas strip from the Bellagio Hotel & Casino. Thank you to my friend Alaina for an incredible experience Sunday and introducing me to something different & something I knew nothing about. The experience might be the right direction for me dealing with my disappointment in organized religion and parttime Christian, Jews, and Muslims that try to tell the rest of us how to live our lives.
Today's show also allowed me the platform for expressing one of my great brand new analogies with "Philosophy Buffets."
Plus my Joey Little travel tips on how you can visit Las Vegas exceptionally inexpensively but still have a great time.
Spent a lot of time this week watching lady movies with my friends. These particular friends happen to be beautiful women. Holly and I are a lot closer but it doesn't take away from the fun I have with Lauren. My macho male friends naturally think I should be sleeping with both of them, and can't believe I'm not. But I've learned to love the woman and not the package. It has changed my relationship with women overall. Learning and accepting the friendzone, men don't have to fuck everyone.
It's widely known in the midwest that the West Bottoms in Kansas City has some of the best haunted houses in the country, but I won't find out for myself due to my overactive fight or flight response, also called hyperarousal, or the acute stress response. Fight or Flight is a physiological reaction that occurs in response to a perceived harmful event, attack, or threat to survival.
In other words, if something jumps out and scares me, I will beat the shit out of it.
Articles referenced in today's episode:
"A Man Was Stabbed At A Haunted House After Another Man Handed His Friend A Knife"
"Taming the Fight or Flight Response"
I hate getting gifts for people and it's not because I don't like spending money on people I like & love. To me, gift giving has become lazy, at least my perspective on gift giving. The norms of just "have to grab something" is stupid. I give my philosophy on gift giving in today's episode and tell the funniest story of a gift-giving prank my grandmother played on my grandfather one Christmas.
It is so much easier to make excuses than actually to face accountability for our happiness. But why do we ignore the journey that will change our lives for the better? Why do we think it will be a difficult journey to seek out what mentally stimulates us passionately? What in the f*ck are we so afraid of? Being happy?? It's time to stop making excuses and telling ourselves bullshit stories. Now is the time to start or increase the time spent focusing on the journey to positive mental stimulation and finding our passions.
The article referenced in today's episode:
"Eight ways to find the true passion in life that has eluded you."
Nothing like significant death and tragedy in the news that has me looking at my own life (which seems like a daily thing when watching the news). Death is on my mind every day and some days it's easier to keep the thoughts of my demise under control. I've taught myself to start focusing on discovering my and implementing my passions when the fear of death hits. On the episode this morning distracting myself with the three simple questions to ask yourself to start discovering your passions.
Articles from today's podcast episode:
"20 People Died In A Limo Crash While On Their Way To A Birthday Party"
"The Owner Of The Limo Company Involved In The Deadly New York Crash Was An FBI Informant"
"Eight ways to find the true passion in life that has eluded you"
"5 Ways to Find a Personal Passion That Has Nothing to Do With Your Kids"
It seems like I can't relax and watch a television show or movie without my brain working overtime to find all the challenges with the plot or parts that don't make sense. But after watching the movie Venom or the weekend with friends, I learned something positive about myself and my gift for picking movies and shows apart.
And how many Russians died in World War II?! Whoa.
The article used for stats in today's podcast:
"Research Starters: Worldwide Deaths in World War II"
Alissa and I never got along for the longest time. We are exact opposites when it comes to our personalities and what stimulates us. Alissa is a quiet, go-with-flow, indecisive, introvert that is everything I am not. In the last year, Alissa and I have learned more and more about each other and have become better friends. And even the thought of being on a podcast was extremely uncomfortable for her but we sat down to breakfast and Alissa buried that anxiety the best she could. We have a wonderful conversation to get to know each other's personality better and how we both ticked.
I am a self-admitted attention whore. It's not as bad today as it once was. My challenge is that I want people to like me, I do actually give a shit. Part of that plan to make sure everyone likes me is I want them to find me funny. How can you not like funny people, right? Facebook is way too mainstream for me because I constantly worry who is seeing my stuff and how are they judging me. I'm sure Snapchat will give me anxiety one day but now it's extremely fun! Let's connect on Snapchat, I'm "YouNeedaLittle"!
I've been torn between telling my personal story of sexual assault and continuing to stay quiet as I have been for nearly 30 years. The sexual assault Kavanaugh stories in the news are shaking the world up and creating more tribalism. But when Trump mocked Dr. Ford, one of Kavanaugh's accusers, in front of a massive crowd of his supporters and doubting her because of her "memory," I decided I could not stay quiet any longer.
This episode is one of the hardest things I have ever done. Bare with me.
Fred Rogers was a significant influence on my life, and he'd probably be disappointed with how a lot of us are acting in 2018. I'm becoming more and more frustrated every day with the hardcore Trump supporters and with the over the top entitled leftists. Everyone seems to be a "victim" nowadays. A lot of people are true & real victims, but others have become self-made victims. Today's episode includes "14 Signs Someone Is Always Playing The Victim."
The article referred to the episode:
14 Signs Someone Is Always Playing The Victim
I've got nothing against charities with great marketing to get their cause out to the people, but I do have a problem with companies using those charities to sell more goods & services. I'm referring to the businesses that say; "For every product or service purchased we will donate small dollar amount to the name of the charity here." Why not just donate the money instead of attempting to guilt me into purchasing from you?
Also on the episode today, I brainstorm for the first "Kids Sales Training Conference." It's going to be huge!
October is my birthday month, and every year on October 1st I start getting deep into my head about age and mortality. Turning 44 this has me asking, "Am I where I wanted to be 20 years ago?" There have been some factors in my life that has kept me from actually feeling my age or even being reminded of it, & I think not having kids is one of those factors.
Saw a beautiful movie yesterday I've wanted to see for a while called Black 47'. The film takes place in 1847 Ireland; an Irish Ranger returns from war to find that his mother has died in the famine and his brother is sentenced to death by the British. When his plan to emigrate to America fails, he starts a vendetta against the establishment in Ireland.
Trailer for Black 47': https://youtu.be/q1W1DLwg3lk
A bizarre story in the news this morning about a death in a Jack in the Box drive-thru got my brain triggered again on my biggest fear, dying. Not the actual act of being dead but the moments leading up to it. To fire my wild imagination up some more I'm sharing more unusual, bizarre, and freak death stories in today's episode.
Articles referenced in the today's episode:
Bizarre Jack in the Box drive-thru accident kills a man in St. Louis:
Fatal Freak Accidents That Befell People In The Wrong Place At The Wrong Time:
London Beer Flood:
Did you know there is a theory that says there is a cap on the number of friends you can have an actual real social connection? Discussing the Dunbar Number theory today and if social media has any effect on the method since Facebook wasn't around when anthropologist Robin Dunbar published the approach in the 1990's.
Wikipedia's Dunbar Number description:
There's no doubting that I suffered from FOMO hardcore as a young adult. Anxiety would fill me full of bullshit stories I would tell myself when I thought everyone else was having a glorious time or an excellent & adventurous life in general while I was being left out. Nowadays, thanks to the Internet I can now enjoy the fruits of JOMO in my mature years.
The article referred to in the podcast:
Saying "Kansas" triggers most people from outside the state to think of the Wizard of OZ. Never could go on a vacation where that reference didn't get old telling people where I was from. Who can blame them? What other things are top-of-mind for people when they think of Kansas?
Articles used in today's episode:
18 Signs You're From Kansas
10 signs you were born and raised in Kansas
The show is back in Kansas City after a short North American tour just in time to see Bill Cosby get sentenced for the horrible things he has done. Should they take it easy on him because he's old, blind, and his philanthropy work? I say hell no. And while we're at it, f*ck CNN contributor Jason Miller too.
Articles referred to in today's episode:
Jason Miller article:https://www.thecut.com/2018/09/jason-miller-departs-cnn-abortion-pill-drugging-allegation.html
Bill Cosby: https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-45521190
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Meet Megan, Casey, Jill, the man whose name changes throughout the episode along with Joey as they discuss left lane drivers, Orioles games, zombie apocalypse, National Parks, marathon super fans, and more. Last night I tried something outside the normal solo podcast episode you would expect. This episode experiments with five friends sitting around the dinner table in North Carolina having conversation over wine, beer, and Coke Zero.
The Ol' West Wing is a great place for those in Ontario looking for cold beer, hockey on the tube, and tasty chicken wings available in over 50 different sauces, but it's not the place to send a Kansas native when he's looking for a little taste of Canada.
Also discussing the results from the "Do you avoid confrontation?" poll on Facebook.
Ol West Wing website: https://www.olwestwing.com/
Broadcasting from just outside Chicago and made a huge rookie mistake getting here. Hard to swallow for an experienced traveler. 85 Year Irish man doesn't give AF when the place he's chilling in gets robbed, Marco Rubio being a hypocrite, and my issues with Buzzfeed continues to grow. I hate that I'm turning into a grumpy old man.
Articles referenced in today's episode:
Old Irish Man Doesn't Give a Shit: http://www.asiaone.com/world/caught-video-85-year-old-man-ireland-fights-3-armed-robbers
Salt Bae Hugged Venezuelan Leader Nicolas Maduro So Marco Rubio Doxxed Him: https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/davidmack/salt-bae-maduro-marco-rubio-doxx?origin=thum
Feel Better About Yourself With BuzzFeed's "Horror Story A Day" Newsletter: https://www.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeedpromotions/horror-story-a-day-newsletter
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Buzzfeed is such a horrible website. Why do I keep going to it for show topics, I need an intervention. With my growing hatred, I searched for a Buzzfeed like website but for Gen X'ers like myself since Buzzfeed is built for Millennials. That search had me stumbling across an interesting article about what the American dream is for different generations. The article showed me there is something Gen X'ers and Baby Boomers can learn from Millennials.
Article about the American dream referenced in today's episode: https://www.businessinsider.com/millennials-baby-boomers-gen-x-define-the-american-dream-2018-7
Early Saturday morning episode from my office in downtown Kansas City because my mom is literally staying across the street at the Marriott with my step-dad in town for a bank convention. Going to meet my mom this morning, take her to breakfast and other fun things in the city today.
Triggered this morning apparently after the "dumb" shit I see in my Facebook Newsfeed almost daily. Facebook can be such a powerful and incredible tool but I keep getting reminded on how it can also be a dangerous tool as well. People see what they want to see, a platform like Facebook gives people the opportunity to experience other perspectives but there's growing number of users that use it to increase tribalism & bullshit fake outrage that just continues to separate us.
Episode 101 starts out smoothly discussing Mark Wahlberg's weird daily schedule he recently posted on Instagram. But as that moves me toward talking about the old saying, "Idle Hands are the Devil's Workshop" I catch myself needing to check myself, and the show goes down a whole different path. My confession about continually making personal disclaimers with people before conversations, my OCD when it comes to text message communication, and admitting to a horrible thing I did when I was dating in my 20's.
Article to Mark Wahlberg's daily schedule: https://www.buzzfeed.com/lyapalater/i-cannot-wrap-my-head-around-mar-wahlbergs-daily
100 episodes was the goal starting this podcast cast back in May. I needed discipline and to finish a personal project that started, for at least once in my life. Today I can say Mission Accomplished. Episode 101 will be coming but changes to the podcast need to be made.
I like my television shows semi-believable if not based on fantasyland. So I'm having a challenge with the show Ozark on Netflix.
Also, another dumb white guy in the news being racist towards four young black men in Florida. The white guy made some entirely wrong choices, but if one thing was different would he have chosen the same actions? What about you?
Article on the incident in Florida: https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/briannasacks/famu-students-gun-white-resident
At what age can I start using old people excuses? You know, doing stuff that is completely not ok and getting away with it because one reason and one reason only, you're old. Also on the show today, a valuable lesson from Elon Musk about people, when you think there's nothing but shitty people around you try using this technique I learned from the billionaire.
The article used in the episode: https://www.homehero.org/blog/opinions/9-things-seniors-can-get-away-with
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New location for the recording the show today, welcome to my bedroom on this lazy Sunday morning. This episode I explain why I have to get a new bathroom trash can thanks to one of the listeners of this podcast. Also, start down the road of how my dad became a MAGA man and how the POTUS can do nothing bad in his eyes - why are people talking shit on Elon Musk - and why Nike doesn't give a damn of what you think all of you old people like me.
Last night was supposed just be a Netflix & Chill alone kind of night. Found a Bill Murray movie I had not seen called "The Razor's Edge." I enjoyed this 1984 movie and it had me questioning my own journey in life so far, but when the line "That is your reason, but what is the intention" was said my whole night changed. Currently obsessed with the word "Intention" and how I need to understand it fully.
What's the difference between successions and goals? This podcast needs a succession plan. My friend Kim has a podcast now, inspired by this one. Do you want to start a podcast? I've got your back fam. Plus addressing a listener's request that I give my view on "kids these days."
My visit to the doctor yesterday reveals that I have way too much stress in my life and it is killing me. Changes have to be made or I will die a lot earlier than I currently want. Understanding that my personal life needs to get better and become as important to me as my professional life is not a problem, but my lack of wanting to make friends or leave my place during the week is the huge deterrent.
Read an article, my friend Mabel posted online recently titled, "12 Old-Fashioned Dating Habits We Should Definitely Bring Back". The article did not sit well with me so I told Mabel I would give my response with a podcast episode. Here is that episode. Little fired up today.
Link to the original article: http://www.songhanhphuc.org/12-old-fashioned-dating-habits-we-should-definitely-bring-back/
Just finished "The Keepers" on Netflix & my mind is confused and trying to understand everything I took in watching the series. Physically sick to my stomach learning how the Catholic church in Baltimore handled priests accused of sexually assaulting children.
If I was Catholic I'd be so angry at the leadership of the church. What else in the world is full of lies hidden by old white dudes?
"Quiet Time with Mike": Saturday morning breakfast podcasting time at First Watch with my buddy Silent Mike joining the episode. Two grown miserable men discussing festivals, cookbooks, zoos, loneliness, depression, dementia, and lemon ricotta pancakes.
Giving my view on the Glamour article "50 Things Men Are Afraid to Ask for (but Really Want Super-Duper Badly)" on today's episode. I agree with some but think some are absolutely stupid.
Link to the article: https://www.glamour.com/gallery/50-things-men-are-afraid-to-ask-for-but-really-want-super-badly
Late night has me worried that the listeners might think I'm having a stroke on the show today. Fantastic dinner at my new favorite restaurant in Kansas City last night with friends from my professional world. Also got into a Facebook debate after getting home last night about DUI checkpoints with a stranger online and against the standard Facebook protocol of arguing with strangers on the platform we didn't call each other horrible names. I thought civil debating on Facebook was a myth? Apparently not, and that gives me hope in you people.
And no plans for the coming up Labor Day weekend except adding a few more people to my DTM list.
There isn't a better way to get right down into your soul trying to understand your id and your ego then taking a Buzzfeed.com online 30 question quiz. When you can't afford therapy, just use Buzzfeed quizzes. *Sarcasm* . On today's episode, I take a Buzzfeed quiz to discover how judgemental or pretentious I really am.
Link to the Buzzfeed quiz: https://www.buzzfeed.com/natalyalobanova/pretentious-checklist-quiz?utm_term=.tpb6jqv8W3#.mtVbdzm7Xq
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Overnight backyard camping sleepover at Danny Jacobs house in 1988 (I refer to 1986 in the episode but the correct time was fall of 1988) changed my life entirely in the world of music but also brought on a life of secrecy and hiding that love because of my fear of being judged by white & black people. Hip Hop & Grunge saved me from shitty music.
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I've unfriended, unfollowed, blocked, and I believe about everything I can do to keep my digital sanity up to this moment. Its just been a constant daily bombardment of a thousand opinions of the news, politics & pop culture from people I know and people I do not, it is becoming too much. I believe myself & others are losing empathy. I miss the days where I didn't have to know about my friends & family's inner thoughts. Not knowing what everyone thought all the time about everything was so peaceful. That an old friend is a racist, a cousin being a self-proclaimed victim, a former coworker a liar, or a new friend being bat-shit crazy. Facebook and the Internet, in general, is just dumping way too much information on me. Is it time to unplug, or drain more opinion information on you all, the listeners of the Everyone Needs a Little podcast? :)
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Megan is back on the podcast after flying into Kansas City for a weekend visit. Saturday Morning "Megs & Bacon" special episode gets inside our individual perspectives of the world of MLM, multi-level marketing.
AdvoCare, Amway, Avon, Beachbody, doTerra, Herbalife, Isagenix, Longaberger, LuLaRoe, Mary Kay, Nature's Sunshine, Pampered Chef
Rodan + Fields are just a few mentioned in the episode today. Expecting a lot of middle-aged white women to not be happy with me after this episode. But I'd love to have any MLM advocates on a future episode.
We sure live in the past when it comes to a lot of the things we do for being a technologically advanced progressive society . There are so many old dumb traditional everyday things we do that don't make sense in today's world. Shaking hands, men taking their hats off, yelling "bless you" to someone who just sneezed are a few of the weird things we are programmed to do "to be polite" but have no rhyme or reason behind them.
While we're on that topic, instead of the term "Gentleman" can we substitute it with "decent human being" and drop some of the dumb stuff that has been labeled as "requirements to be a gentleman?"
Is it 2018? I think so.
Today's episode starts out strong with proving my old junior high math teacher completely wrong. We then move into a world of why you should be using Google more, maybe some aha moments in there for you (I fucking hope for my happiness) and how Google Home is one of the most significant amazing purchases I've made.
But then the episode takes a weird turn where I confess that I don't trust any of you, not one bit. But I still love you, want you to have a great day and keep smiling.
Since the beginning of civilization, there have always been people bitching that the current generation and world we know it is going up in flames. As lives progress, while some things change for the better and some change for the worse, loss aversion means that we pay much more attention to the bad stuff. So overall, people think life as we know it is getting worse & they blame it on the current generation. Spouting off about how things were so amazing "back in the day." This way of thinking is called declinism, and it is complete bullshit false "fake news" way of thinking. Complaining about the current generation is tacky AF. If you suffer from declinism chances are you are pumping a low octane fuel into your self-worth tank. Thank God I'm here to save you & myself.
There are a few personalities I don't get along with at all. A lot of time it's me, I'm the asshole. Two of characters I don't do well with clashed right in front of my eyes at the pool area last weekend where I live. The drunk annoying stranger conversation forcer in his late forties who doesn't wear a shirt and entirely should be wearing a shirt while he sits out on his balcony playing annoying classic rocks songs that are great songs but we all don't need a fucking DJ at the "luxury apartment complex" catches a young millennial 22-26 year old fake alpha male with a Napolean complex drinking Michelob Ultra with his two bro friends taking a piss in public at the complex's pool right there on the sidewalk. What would follow in this situation with drunk disrespectful bro poolside & drunk talkative old man balcony-side was hilarity, confusion, and drama.
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Taking a trip down memory lane this morning with glimpses in my past thoughts & childhood experiences of McDonald birthday parties were back in my day as a kid, the 1980's My mushy adult brain remembers them as excellent, especially when the Kim brothers would show up with a box of Russell Stover candy, but were they really that cool?
Also in today's episode, I give previously unreleased personal tips on what a cool uncle brings as gifts to his nieces' birthday parties AND where you can purchase those gifts, it's entirely genius if you want to be remembered as the fantastic, exciting uncle.
I thought Brandon Kenig and I were complete opposites but after having breakfast with him Saturday morning, I learned that we are a lot alike. We're going through a lot of the same challenges when it comes to our faith in people. Brandon and I have a great discussion about dating, friendship, adventure and may have just created the Everyone Needs a Little Adventure club. Check out the episode for more.
Check out "2 Men in the Middle", the political podcast Brandon co-hosts: https://2meninthemiddle.com/
Maybe my purpose in this world was to bring men and women closer together with this podcast. Could I by airing my dirty laundry and profound dark emotional unstable admissions can help others take a better look at themselves and become more self-aware & increase their self-worth, self-love & self-esteem at the same time? Fuck yeah I can. I'm just trying to change the world one miserable son of a bitch at a time, starting with myself! :) In today's episode, I help women understand men more. We're not all stereotypical Ron Swansons, John Waynes, or Denzel Washingtons. We have some surprises for you.
The article referenced in today's episode: https://thoughtcatalog.com/lorenzo-jensen-iii/2016/11/27-things-women-need-to-know-about-men-but-dont/
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It's no secret that a minority of people will admit that they are addicted to drama, but studies show that so many more are. What is it about drama addiction? I think I have the answer, its all about self-stimulation. What kind of metaphorical fuel do you need for stimulating yourself? Because if you don't know what it is, you will use other bullshit for fuel, like drama. Ride along as we go through the "10 Signs You're Addicted to Drama".
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If you asked my mother or most of my long-term friends they would say I was full of shit if I told you I was an introvert. Being able to fake being an extrovert was, and continues to be very convincing for me to others. What personality do you connect with more? Being an introvert or an extrovert? Have you had to fake it? I've spent 30 years pretending. An honestly it has worn me the fuck down.
Social media is a bittersweet thing. On one hand, we can share amazing things and also learn so much about our friends and other great things. On the other hand, it also gives us a chance to look into the shitty world of people we would never have known about nor known anything about their thoughts. See the garbage in the world, like racist old white people. They used to be shitty in their private world behind closed doors, and now these fuckers are posting their shitty views and opinions online. Today's podcast rant is sparked by a fat old white man from my hometown (that I don't know personally) who thought it was ok to call our former first lady a monkey on Facebook.