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The Ex-Philes: Break-ups, Broken Hearts and Moving On

The Ex-Philes: Break-ups, Broken Hearts and Moving On

By Clair Lofthouse & Janice Formichella
Getting over a breakup? You’re in the right place! Ex-Philes is a weekly podcast about healing broken hearts, building confidence and moving forward in an empowered way. Ex-Philes is the perfect balance between science, spirituality and sass. With a heavy dose of optimism, some laughs and somber moments, co-hosts Janice and Clair share what they’ve learned from personal experience and as coaches to help you through this time! Topics include dating, ghosting, no contact, toxic relationships, communication, attachment styles and more. Get extra content on Patreon. www.patreon.com/exphiles
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109. Writing Your Breakup Story with Kate from About Face

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113. Janice's life lessons for your breakup PLUS Ex-Philes news
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles A lot has happened in Ex-Philes Land over the past few weeks! I am excited to share the recent changes with my amazing audience and to share what is in store for the next few months. PLUS - some takeaways from the same few weeks that you can use to inspire you along on your healing journey this week. I’d love to hear from you about the recent changes to the show and also what you think of my listener stories idea. Please send me a DM on the podcast IG @exphilespodcast or to my personal IG @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join my online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Thank you for your support and GOOD LUCK this week! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
12:10
August 16, 2022
112. Slow dating and micro dating. Does it pay to take your time?
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Do you think it pays to take your time when meeting someone new? Let us know in our DMs! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:18:13
August 09, 2022
111. Why are you STILL single?
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider! https://www.patreon.com/exphiles It may seem like a compliment, but it’s not! Being single has lot’s of advantages and is an important time for healing and growth after a breakup. Yet our society sure likes to stigmatize it. Today we are chatting about the pervasiveness of “singleism”, why being single is so awesome, how to enjoy it, and how to address this well-intended but problematic question. Get inspired for your own single adventure! Check out episode 71: Solo Travel with Kelly. What do you think is the best part about being single? What have you learned? Let us know in our DMs! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On. We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community
59:08
August 02, 2022
110. I can't get over how they treated me
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider! https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Bad breakup? This is something that many people have struggled with and a position that anyone has the possibility of finding themselves in. Whether your relationship was abusive or it was the kind of breakup that brought out of the worst in your ex, it can be really hard to cope with the bad memories and move on after being mistreated. It may be difficult, but you can overcome this. Today we share our own stories about being treated unfairly in our relationships and how it impacted us long and short term. We then give tips for healing that you can start to use today to continue to move on and put the icky past behind you. Remember: if you'd like one-on-one support all you have to do is reach out to one of us directly. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On. We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community. #abuse #breakups #brokenheart
55:26
July 26, 2022
109. Writing Your Breakup Story with Kate from About Face
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles What are you struggling to come to terms with when it comes to your breakup or the relationship? Have you considered that re-writing the narrative you are telling yourself may be the key to closure? We are tickled PINK to be joined by a fan of the show today! Kate Marlene is (besides Janice’s twin) a content creator who also works one-on-one with people to heal through narrative therapy and storytelling. She is a WARRIOR who has used her breakups to learn about herself and grow. Kate’s premise is one that can help all of our listeners: YOU have the ability to write an empowering story about your breakup and about the relationship. The narrative you create can help you to get into the diver’s seat in life. PLUS - we throw in a dash of the positive outcomes of Kate’s no contact journey. 👉🏻 Please go and follow Kate’s work. She is doing incredible things to support her continued healing and healing for others. Find her on IG @katemarlenelove and check out her podcast and cool projects on Facebook here.  #breakups #healing #nocontact #divorce  Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:02:47
July 19, 2022
108. A morning routine for your breakup healing
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles A morning routine sets the vibe and stage for the rest of your day. But what if you are struggling to get out of bed because of a recent breakup and a broken heart? There are ways that you can use your morning to jump start your healing, even when it feels like each day is a challenge. This week we are talking about WHY it is so important to sprinkle your mornings with some self-care after a breakup and some simple steps to creating a supportive routine NOW, no matter how miserable you feel. We cover: -How a positive morning relates to putting your breakup behind you -The power of a five minute routine -Adding ONE thing to your morning to form a routine -The MOURNING morning -Easy ways to create a “VIP” vibe each day -Self-trust and morning routines -AND MORE! Rub your sleepy eyes and push play! Mentioned in the episode: Gassho Meditation Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
53:15
July 12, 2022
Ex-Philes Trailer
Getting over a breakup? You’re in the right place! Ex-Philes is a weekly podcast about healing broken hearts, building confidence and moving forward in an empowered way. Ex-Philes is the perfect balance between science, spirituality and sass. With a heavy dose of optimism, some laughs and somber moments, co-hosts Janice and Clair share what they’ve learned from personal experience and as coaches to help you through this time! Topics include dating, ghosting, no contact, toxic relationships, communication, attachment styles and more. Get extra content on Patreon. www.patreon.com/exphiles
01:13
July 11, 2022
107. The truth about the Love Languages
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles What’s your love language? Acts of service? Words of affirmation? Bring brought food after a busy day? There is a lot about the love languages that people get wrong, and it can sometimes cause more harm than good. But when used as intended by author Gary Chapman, they might help you to have longer-lasting relationships that you have in the past. This week we are breaking down the truth about the love languages and talking about how you can use them to build better connections with everyone in your life, romantic or not. PLUS - we break each of the five love languages down and talk about how you can learn to speak each, whether or not you are in a relationship. We love words of affirmation! If you love this episode please consider leaving us some in a five star rating and review on Apple podcasts.  Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:07:00
July 05, 2022
106. What if I have to see them every day?
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Cutting ties with an ex is an effective way to heal from a breakup, but what if you have to see them every day? From being co-workers to co-parents, there are situations where the standard no-contact advice doesn’t apply. But don’t worry! There is now an episode for that! The Ex-Philes gals have got your back this week with tips, tricks, and troubleshooting around one of our most commonly received questions. PLUS tons of words of support to help you navigate this painful and tricky circumstance. Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
53:22
June 28, 2022
105. Am I too picky?
Last week we spoke about settling in relationships, what it looks like and how to know if you are doing it. We’re flipping things around this week and talking about another common dating question: “am I too picky?” If you are recovering from a breakup you could be asking yourself this, especially if you are struggling with regret over ending things and second-guessing your decision. Or, if the relationship fell apart because one of you was unhappy, you could be wondering if you should have been more accepting of certain things. OR, you might be listening to this episode because you are single and would rather not be and wondering if your selection criteria is to blame. Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
48:22
June 21, 2022
104. Am I settling?
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles We all deserve to have the best in relationships, and that means feeling fulfilled and getting what you specifically want. So, how do you know if you’re settling? Or compromising? Or fearing intimacy? Or avoiding getting close due to trauma? Or struggling with relationship anxiety? Today we explore the concept of settling in relationships and why you should never settle for less than you deserve. We cover: -Disappointment in relationships -What settling actually looks like -Janice and Clair’s stories and experiences with settling -Why settling is toxic for relationships -Why settling is unfair and unkind to your partner -WHY people do it Remember: nothing is worth being in an unhappy relationship for. It is better to build a single life ttat you LOVE than to settle. This episode is about helping you get there. If this episode helps you with your dating life we would love you to let us know by leaving us a review on Apple podcasts! Happy PRIDE month! Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:06:47
June 14, 2022
103. Stages of Grief for Breakups
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles We’ve all heard it. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. The stages of grief that are applied to nearly any loss a person may experience. But do they apply to breakups? We know that the grief surrounding the loss of a relationship is truly unique and that it may be more helpful to talk about breakup grief and healing in a new way. In this week’s episode, we are outlining alternative stages of grief for breakups based on our experience as coaches and humans who have been through breakups. We are also providing tips and suggestions for coping with each one and using it as an opportunity to advance your healing. Rememeber; healing isn’t linear and you have the right to your own experience. These are just suggestions to help you on your way. If this episode helps you with your breakup healing we would love you to let us know by leaving us a review on Apple podcasts! Happy PRIDE month! Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
55:22
June 07, 2022
102. No Contact Q&A Bonus Episode
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles BONUS EPISODE! How are you going with your no contact goals? Do you have a specific question about how to make it work for YOU? Well…the Ex-Philes gals have GOT YOUR BACK! In today’s bonus episode we are going over DOZENS of questions about how to make the no contact rule work for people from all different backgrounds and in ALL different phases of healing. If our no contact episodes have helped you with your breakup healing we would love you to let us know by leaving us a review on Apple podcasts! Happy PRIDE month! Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:14:50
June 02, 2022
101. We Harp On About No Contact
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Today we are revisiting one of our most popular topics AND one of the things that we think can make the biggest difference in your post-breakup healing journey. What is it? The no contact rule! As effective as the no contact rule can be, it is also very, VERY difficult to start and stick to, especially when you are getting used to the end of a relationship. As difficult as it is, we have seen this technique make enormous differences in people’s ability to move on and heal. That is what we want for all of our listeners, so we are excited to recognize our achievement of 100 episodes by providing more resources for our community on using no contact to put your breakups behind you. This episode is jam-packed! We cover: -The logic behind no contact -The SCIENCE of no contact -Our stories with no contact -Quotes and stories from clients and listeners about their no contact experience -What it really means to “go no contact” -HOW to do it -How to stay strong -Dealing with slip-ups Tune in Thursday for a special bonus episode: “Questions About no Contact.” You’ve got this! Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:00:29
May 31, 2022
100. Got Closure Revisited!
Got Closure? Revisited Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles This week we are doing things a little differently. Due to unforeseen circumstances, we are putting off dropping our 100th episode and instead of dropping an Ex-Philes oldie but goodie! We know how challenging the matter of closure can be after a breakup and we hope you will enjoy this episode again or for the first time! *** The need for “closure” is something that a lot of people struggle with during and after a breakup. From not understanding why a relationship has ended to not feeling that you have all of the answers to things left unsaid, the urge to sort things with your ex can be strong. But it is also an opportunity to learn how to provide for yourself emotionally, own that the breakup has taken place, and take ownership over your life. You can give yourself closure, and we have a lot of tips and tricks for empowering ways that you can do it. You’ve got this! Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
40:03
May 24, 2022
99. Heal Your Heart with a Social Media Detox
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Blocking your ex on social media is a common bit of breakup advice, but what about taking it a step further by doing a complete digital detox? HOW and WHY might taking this bold step into the present moment help you heal from your breakup? Push play to find out! The episode includes our personal stories about turning off social media after our breakups, Clair’s recent digital detox, and of course, tips for making a digital detox a success. Some additional episodes to help: -11: Social media after a breakup -31: The best things we did after a breakup -90: To block or not to block Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
51:27
May 17, 2022
98. Defining the Relationship with Brian Dunn
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles It can be easy to be uncomfortable using your voice after a relationship. And when you are catching the feels for someone but not sure how they feel. Welcome to defining the relationship! This week we are thrilled to be joined for a chat with dating and relationship coach Brian Dunn to talk about his extensive background with using healthy, open communication in his post-divorce dating life and how that led to him supporting others to do the same. Don’t miss out on this interview! We cover: -How to know you are ready to date after a divorce or a long-term relationship -Online dating tips that win -Keeping a relationship casual or making it long term. -And more Follow Brian at https://briancdunn.com/ and https://www.instagram.com/mrbriancdunn/?hl=en Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community. ***Notes for Brian’s: He says “No More Mr. Nice Guy” is the male form of codependency— we acknowledge that codependency is not gendered and that any person can be codependent.
01:11:27
May 10, 2022
97. Building Self Trust
97. Building Self Trust
01:10:18
May 03, 2022
96. Hookup Culture with Aditi Paul
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles What is going on with Gen Z and sex? What is the state of hook up culture? Talk about a deep dive! In this week’s episode we are joined by researcher Aditi Paul to discuss her extensive research on the topic and what she has learned about the in’s and out’s of the Gen Z hook up scene. This is a juicy one! Some highlights include: -What is soaking? -Is Gen Z really more open about talking about sex? -What does safe sex look like for Gen Z? -What are some misperceptions about Gen Z and their sexual activity? -Where are Gen Z individuals meeting each other? -Sexting! -The orgasm gap! And more! Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:16:48
April 26, 2022
95. Working on yourself after a breakup
Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Today, we get really, really real… Breakup? Take advantage! Use this time to work on yourself and emerge stronger than ever. But what does that actually mean?? Platitudes are great, but what are the practical ways that you can use this moment in life to better yourself? We got you!, In this episode we cover six areas of personal development that are especially ripe for the picking after a breakup and how to go about getting started. More episodes to support your journey: 87: Should I forgive my ex? 85: This might sound a little woo-woo 85: Our 5 favorite healing practices 78: Use your breakup to manifest a new beginning Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:12:48
April 19, 2022
94. 😴 WHY am I dreaming about my ex? 🤔
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles GAH! Dreaming about an ex when you’re trying to heal from the breakup doesn’t just KINDA suck, it REALLY sucks! It is confusing, painful, and has the potential to send you into a major tailspin. BUT - dreaming about an ex is pretty darn normal. It is often the story we write about WHY we are dreaming about the person that causes the most harm. PSSST: we both still dream about our exes. And a bunch of other weird stuff. And we got your back! Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
58:02
April 12, 2022
93. Trauma bonds, fantasy bonds, and moving on
*Trigger warning: domestic violence, addiction, abuse* The dynamics of a relationship can often play a huge role in how we heal. This week we are talking about two types of toxic dynamics: trauma bonds and fantasy bonds. We go deep into: -The real meanings of trauma bonds and fantasy bonds -What does a trauma bond feel like? -How do I break a trauma bond? -Fantasy bond v real love -Preventing trauma bonds and fantasy bonds -Recovering from a toxic relationship -Developing healthy bonds Remember: you CAN overcome even the most overwhelming of breakups and have an amazing future. We believe in you! More episodes to help you heal: Ep. 16: Co-dependence with Janice Ep. 52: Rescuer Syndrome Ep. 65: Domestic Violence Awareness with Ruth Glenn Ep. 66: Am I in an abusive relationship? Ep. 67: Am I in a healthy relationship? Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
56:49
April 05, 2022
92. First Dates! Do's and Do Not's
Ah first dates…they are “supposed” to be fun but…they can also be a real doozy. After a breakup it can be easy to feel like you don’t know what the HELL you’re doing. The Ex-Philes gals have got your back! Listen to this episode before you swipe next. Talk about a deep dive into dating. We cover: -What made our BEST first dates memorable -What made our worst dates the worst -The perfect formula for a successful first date -Topics to avoid on a first date -Why you should shoot for NOT clicking with people -Getting dressed best practices Plus: a lively debate over whether or not asking for a doggie bag is a best or worst practice. We want to help you heal, grow, and evolve. If you’d like information on coaching support please send us a DM to our IGs and we will be in touch. Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:26:03
March 29, 2022
91. Being the breaker-upper
A lot of the conversation around healing from a breakup focuses on being broken up with, but breaking up can hurt just as much if you are the one to end things. Breaking up with someone can involve a lot of grief and a long, difficult process of getting to the point of making the decision. And no matter what "side" of things you are on, things that happen during a breakup can be incredibly challenging to recover from.  We know from personal experience how heartbreaking it can be to end things. If this is your situation you deserve to be seen and supported. Today's episode is for you.  We want to help you heal, grow, and evolve. If you’d like information on coaching support please send us a DM to our IGs and we will be in touch. Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
53:49
March 22, 2022
90. To Block or Not To Block
To Block, or Not to Block…That IS a big question after a breakup! It can lead to a LOT of closure and open a new chapter in life that is about you and your new life separate from your ex. But although we love to talk about the benefits, we also know that a lot of people struggle with taking the leap. Well today we are taking a leap with you, into a rabbit hole of all things BLOCKING. We cover: -the reasons why people struggle with blocking their ex -HOW and WHEN to block an ex -coping with your ex blocking you (and what it really means) -the reasons we love blocking so much -what to do if you co-parent with your ex -mindfulness techniques to use if you keep thinking about what your ex is up to Plus: how to stay strong Resources from this episode: You Are Not Your Brain: the 4-step Solution for Changing Bad Habits, Ending Unhealthy Thinking, and Taking Control of Your Life by Jeffrey M. Schwartz We want to help you heal, grow, and evolve. If you’d like information on coaching support please send us a DM to our IGs and we will be in touch. Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
49:16
March 15, 2022
89. Rebound Relationships
“Rebound relationships” get a bad wrap— But what if a “rebound” is exactly what helps you get to the next phase of your breakup? And if you decide to date soon after a breakup but don’t WANT a rebound, how can you consciously go about connecting with people? And what if you want to avoid them altogether and simply DO YOU? We are taking SUCH a deep dive into rebound relationships today, including our very personal and very sorted experiences with rebounding and being rebounded with. PLUS - a bunch of stories from the awesome Ex-Philes community. We want to help you heal, grow, and evolve. If you’d like information on coaching support please send us a DM to our IGs and we will be in touch. Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
49:10
March 08, 2022
88. BONUS! Virtual Valentine's Live Q&A
Our live is LIVE!!! Today's bonus episode is the recording of the Q&A segment of our Virtual Valentine's event. We hope you enjoy hearing that whatever your questions are, you're likely not alone. We explore: - Why the apps aren't leading to more than a couple dates if that - How is the best way to break up with someone, especially if they're struggling with their mental health - If you break things off over text message - How to find emotional support, especially as a man, when your ex was the person who you went to when sharing your feelings - What the difference is between actually processing or using personal development to bypass your grief - How to know you're dating for the "right reasons" not just because you're lonely - How to cope and heal when you still love your ex, but it's not a compatible match Want some support on your healing journey? DM us for coaching info.  Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
46:52
March 03, 2022
87. Should I forgive my ex?
Forgiveness. It means something different to every single person. It's held up as this crucial part of healing, and yet how do you forgive someone for doing unforgivable things?  In this episode, we dive into questions around forgiveness:  - Does not getting to forgiveness mean you won't heal?  - Should you forgive your ex?  - What if you're having trouble forgiving yourself?  - Why is forgiveness so hard to define?  Want some support on your healing journey? DM us for coaching info.  Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
49:34
March 01, 2022
86. This might sound a little woo-woo...
An episode about all the woo things that we do to make ourselves feel good and keep the positive vibes flowing. And it’s infused with numerology goodness - recorded on 2/2/22 and dropping on 2/22/22. WOO-WOO! Our woo practices help us to add a bit of the sacred into each day, making the entire week special and helping us to stay focused on our goals and supporting others to heal their hearts. Many of the things we are sharing today are things that we discovered after breakups and while not everything may resonate with everyone, we hope you might find a thing or two that you are excited about exploring and maybe even shaping into a practice of your own. We want to help you heal, grow, and evolve. If you’d like information on coaching support please send us a DM to our IGs and we will be in touch. Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:17:14
February 22, 2022
85. Our 5 Favorite Healing Practices
Being proactive is a huge part of healing. Just as with any injury, when we take efforts to heal our heart we see it strengthened, little by little, day by day. Being proactive about our healing also allows us to build self-trust, which in turn helps to build confidence. When we are in the midst of a stressful, painful, or otherwise intense situation in life it can be very hard to see the forest for the trees, and the practices or healing modalities that might be the most effective can be really hard to see. It can be helpful for others to point out to us places where we might start. Breakups often open the door to new ways of living and walking through the world. So many people begin to experience a desire for more in their life. Healing practices are a great way to add depth, meaning, joy, and manifesting to this new chapter. These practices have helped us both to heal from breakups and other challenging situations in life. So grab a notebook and let’s get started. Want some support on your healing journey? DM us for coaching info.  Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
57:56
February 15, 2022
84. Valentine's Day Happy Hour (Re-Release) 🥂
Register for our live Valentine’s show:  https://www.eventbrite.com/e/virtual-valentines-ex-philes-live-qa-show-tickets-249747500497 Surprise! In honor of Valentine’s Day we are dropping TWO Ex-Philes episodes this week! This is a very special episode in the history of the podcast: our first-ever happy hour episode! We hope that you will join us for our live show next week and that you will enjoy this lively discussion about 2010’s Valentine’s Day. Do you have tickets for the Ex-Philes Valentine’s LIVE SHOW? Grab them now HERE.  Are you loving Ex-Philes? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:03:14
February 10, 2022
83. ❤️ Single on Valentine's Day (Re-Release) ❤️
Register for our live Valentine’s show:  https://www.eventbrite.com/e/virtual-valentines-ex-philes-live-qa-show-tickets-249747500497 We have been on a mission to help our listeners love Valentine’s Day since the beginning of the podcast. Today we are releasing an oldie but goodie: one of our first Ex-Philes episodes all on the topic of being single on Valentine’s Day. Why is this so important to us: We don’t think it is fair that our society tries to tell us that it is better to be in a relationship than to be single. We don’t think that it is fair that this cute holiday is set up to hurt people who don’t have romantic love in their lives! We don’t think that it is fair that anyone should feel pain on a day that is sort of imposed on them (it’s not our choice that this happens on Feb. 14th, right?) We don’t want any of our beloved listeners to be sad on this day. If you agree we would love for you to join us for our Valentine’s LIVE show happening on February 14th at 8pm EST. Get your tickets here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/virtual-valentines-ex-philes-live-qa-show-tickets-249747500497
38:51
February 08, 2022
82. 🌈 LBTQ+ Loving and Dating with ELLA Global Community 🌈
We are thrilled to be partnering with ELLA Global Community to bring support and resources to queer women and non-binary individuals. Today we speak with Danielle Siqueira and Laila Van Rijswijk from their amazing team about the unique breakup and dating challenges facing their community, hear about their own breakup stories, AND answer questions from their audience. ** ELLA Global Community works ALL OVER THE WORLD to provide a platform through which queer women and nonbinary people can feel inspired to strengthen their community and raise awareness about their identity and challenges faced as a result of discrimination and inequality. Their app, ELLA, instantly connects queer women and nonbinary people with support, friends, resources, and a TON of events. Find them at the Apple store here.  ** If you identify with their mission and would like the support of a global network of queer women and non-binary people, we encourage you to connect with them: Learn about their projects here Connect with them on IG here Download the app here *** 👉🏻👍🏽 Do you have tickets for the Ex-Philes Valentine’s LIVE SHOW? Grab them now HERE.  Are you loving Ex-Philes? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:11:57
February 01, 2022
81. Cheating
There are MANY opinions about what constitutes cheating, WHY people do it, how to respond to it, and how to recover from it. But one thing is universally accepted: cheating HURTS. Cheating is extremely difficult to move on from for most people. But just like any other type of breakup you can not only move past it, but you can learn from it. We start this week’s episode with a light-hearted discussion about what cheating is, and demonstrate perfectly how much diversity of opinion there is on the topic. For instance: is sitting on someone else’s lap cheating? And of course, we have your back if you are struggling with this in your breakup. We go deep into how to regain your confidence if you have been cheated on and how to take back your power when you decide to date and trust someone again. Want tickets to our Valentine’s Day hang-out? Grab them here. Resources from the episode:  “Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free” by Wednesday Martin “Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships” by Christopher Ryan "The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity" by Esther Perel #cheating #relationships #breakups Do you think that sitting on someone’s lap is a no-no in relationships? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:02:16
January 25, 2022
80: The Anxious/Avoidant trap TRAP
Attachment style theory is a powerful lens through which we can view the way that we show up in relationships and can empower us to explore how we want to develop as individuals and partners. And yet they are just one lens. And with any lens, there can be a risk of identifying with it in a way that stunts your growth or clinging to it in a way that blinds us from seeing the full picture, especially in relationships. Remember: your attachment styles (or attachment “tendencies” as Janice refers to them) are VERY fluid and can change with circumstance and can change for the better with a bit of awareness and effort. We want to EMPOWER our listeners and arm you all with the tools and information that we know to be helpful in breakups and when looking to up your self development game. #breakups #dating #anxiousattached #attachmentstyle #attached What did you think of our take on attachment styles? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community. self-development
54:35
January 18, 2022
79. Thoughts that keep you STUCK after your breakup 🧠
Our minds and our thoughts play a huge role in how and when we recover from a breakup. From simply dwelling on missing your ex to continuing to cycle the same ideas about why the breakup happened and why it hurts so bad, we can end up staying in the same place with things. OR - we can turn things around by taking back control over the conversations we have with ourselves and stopping these unproductive messages in their tracks - NOW! There are a handful of thoughts that we hear a lot from people struggling to move past their breakup. Today we are going to break down four of them in the hopes that you will end the episode feeling supported, empowered, and maybe even a little wiser. Thoughts we discuss: -I want them to come back to me! -I have regrets about how I acted/I could have prevented the breakup -I want to keep in touch with them to be nice or not make them mad -I thought they were the one! As hard as it may seem, you DO have control over your thoughts. Ready to whip them into shape? Push play now :) #breakups #dating #brokenhearty Want one-on-one coaching support to beat your breakup? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
46:21
January 11, 2022
78. Use your breakup to manifest a new beginning
Happy New Year! Ready to make it a great year, put your breakup behind you, and write a beautiful new chapter in your life? This week we have a fun and light episode to fill you in on exactly how to make it happen using our personal manifesting hacks and practices. We often say that a breakup is an OPPORTUNITY for a new beginning in life, if you let it be. The best way to let it be a new beginning is to take intentional steps to create a new reality. This is where the joy of manifesting comes in. Even if your breakup was a bummer, you can turn things around and not only come out on top, but with a brand new life that looks and feels more magical than you thought possible. Ready to get started? This week the Ex-Philes gals share: -What the Law of Attraction really means and how it can help you heal from your breakup -An affirmation practice perfect for the new year -Janice’s vision board method -How to start using desire to guide your new life -How to mix up your environment to start manifesting -What your morning routine has to do with manifesting what you want in life -Why you need to CUT TIES with your ex to call in your new beginning (and HOW to do it) -Reclaiming your weekends for powerful manifesting We are so excited for you and your new beginning and look forward to being with you this year as you make great things happen! #lawofattraction #manifesting #visionboard #affirmations What would you like us to talk about in 2022? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:10:25
January 04, 2022
🌟 Day 12: New Year’s Intentions (Move On in 12 Days Holiday Miniseries) 🌟
A breakup is a blessing, even if it’s in disguise. Why? Because it is an opportunity for a new beginning and the chance to freshen up your life. We only get this opportunity a handful of times in our life, so why not take advantage of it? If a breakup wasn’t enough of a chance to start a new chapter in life, a new year is! Today, we invite you to combine the two factors and embrace the possibilities that are waiting for you. Don’t take the pain and stress of your breakup with you into the new year. Instead, take hope, plans, desires, and audacity. The road ahead will be unpredictable and hard at times. But it will also be magical, if you let it be. Some affirmations to use to open up the new year: -I am ready for a powerful year. -I am capable of great things. -I have an amazing, exciting life. PLUS: journal prompts to help you SPARKLE Episodes for more support: Ep. 4: So, you want to get over your ex Ep. 29: Let’s Talk Rituals Ep. 48: Regaining Confidence _________________________________________________________________________ Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
03:56
January 01, 2022
🌟 Day 11: Rocking Your Single Holidays (Move On in 12 Days Holiday Miniseries) 🌟
An affirmation to use today: -I am better off being single than in a relationship that isn’t working. PLUS: journal prompts to help you SPARKLE Episodes for more support: Ep. 20: Holistic sensuality with Emma Pleasure Ep. 38: Loneliness and Breakups with Janice Ep. 54: Buddhism in dating and breakups _________________________________________________________________________ Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
04:23
December 31, 2021
🌟 Day 10: New Year’s Mindfulness (Move On in 12 Days Holiday Miniseries) 🌟
An affirmation for you to use today: -Today, I offer myself love. I choose which thoughts to attach to. I choose to think about this differently. PLUS: journal prompts to help you SPARKLE Episodes for more support: -Ep. 25: The power of positive affirmations -Bonus resource 1: Affirmations for your breakup (right after ep. 25) Ep. 72: Your five biggest breakup questions, answered _________________________________________________________________________ Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
04:54
December 30, 2021
🌟 Day 9: New Year’s Future Vision (Move On in 12 Days Holiday Miniseries) 🌟
An affirmation for you to use today: -I have a magical life. PLUS: journal prompts to help you SPARKLE Episodes for more support: Ep. 35: Chemistry vs Compatibility Ep. 36: Needs, wants, and desires with Whitney Ep. 69: Boundaries are us _________________________________________________________________________ Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
05:43
December 29, 2021
🌟 Day 8: New Year’s Gratitude (Move On in 12 Days Holiday Miniseries) 🌟
An affirmation for you to use today: -I see blessings everywhere I look. PLUS: journal prompts to help you SPARKLE Episodes for more support: Ep. 25: The power of positive affirmations Ep. 54: Buddhism in dating and breakups Ep. 75: Meeting people IRL _________________________________________________________________________ Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
03:59
December 28, 2021
🌟 Day 7: New Year’s Confidence (Move On in 12 Days Holiday Miniseries) 🌟
Welcome to day 7 of the Ex-Philes Move on in 12 Days holiday series. For the past six days we have walked you through the tricky aspects of navigating the holiday season after a breakup. We know how hard it can be and want you to have tools and guidance to help you cope if it starts to feel heavy. And for the next six days we will be talking about making your holidays sparkle even in the midst of some sadness. Let’s get started! An affirmation for you to use today: -I love creating new traditions. I’ll remember this year as the start of my own traditions. PLUS: journal prompts to help you SPARKLE Episodes for more support: Ep. 31: The five best things we did after a breakup Ep. 48: Regaining Confidence Ep 71: Solo travel with Kelly _________________________________________________________________________ Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
04:35
December 27, 2021
🎁 Day 6: Holiday Break Downs (Move On in 12 Days Holiday Miniseries) 🎁
Questions covered: -I feel like I’m doing good and then out of nowhere the sadness/shock comes back. Am I doing it wrong? An affirmation to use today: - I honor my messiness. PLUS: journal prompts to help you process your emotions Episodes for more support: Ep. 13: How to ask for help after a breakup Ep. 17: Why do I only think about the good times? Ep. 23: The healing power of crying _________________________________________________________________________ Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.: Move On in 12 Days Holiday Miniseries
06:26
December 26, 2021
🎁 Day 5: Holiday Loneliness (Move On in 12 Days Holiday Miniseries) 🎁
Questions covered: -Everyone around me seems so happy. This is really hard. What should I do? -I don’t want to be alone for the holidays and can’t get past that. Tips? An affirmation to use today: -I love my own company. I am my own soulmate. PLUS: journal prompts to help you process your emotions Episodes for more support: Ep. 9: Single on Valentine’s Day Ep. 19: Will I ever love like that again? Ep. 38: Loneliness and Breakups with Janice _________________________________________________________________________ Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
06:47
December 25, 2021
🎁 Day 4: Holiday Breakup Brain (Move On in 12 Days Holiday Miniseries) 🎁
Questions covered: -I can’t stop thinking about them. How can I be in the moment? -Nothing feels the same without them. How can I stop comparing? Affirmations to use today: -One step at a time. I don’t have to figure it all out at once. -Some people are made to only be in our lives for a chapter or two. There will be love in my life again. PLUS: journal prompts to help you process your emotions Episodes for more support: Ep. 42: Breakup Brain Ep. 74: Self-care for breakups Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. _________________________________________________________________________ Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
07:33
December 24, 2021
🎁 Day 3: Holiday Self-Care (Move On in 12 Days Holiday Miniseries) 🎁
Questions covered: -How do I deal with questions from my family? -My holiday plans have totally changed because of my breakup, how can I adapt? Affirmations to use today: - I deserve to be the star in my life -Everything is working out the way it is supposed to PLUS: journal prompts to help you process your emotions Episodes for more support: Ep. 4: So, you want to get over your ex Ep. 74: Self-care for breakups Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. _________________________________________________________________________ Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
06:59
December 23, 2021
🎁 Day 2: Crushed Holiday Dreams (Move On in 12 Days Holiday Miniseries) 🎁
Questions covered: -I imagined this holiday differently and now I don’t know what to do? -I can’t stop thinking about the past years or how I imagined this year would be. Affirmations to use today: -My holidays are magical -My future is brighter than I can imagine -This is making way for something even better -I can create the future I want for myself PLUS: journal prompts to help you process your emotions Episodes for more support: Ep. 5: Got closure? Ep. 15: 10 breakup commandments _________________________________________________________________________ Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
05:09
December 22, 2021
🎁 Day 1: No Contact Over the Holidays (Move On in 12 Days Holiday Miniseries) 🎁
Welcome to the Ex-Philes Move on in 12 Days holiday series! This series is designed to give you an introduction to valuable advice, practices, and reminders that over time will help you move on in a healthy way. We’ll start the first 6 days addressing common issues/questions/advice for healing your heart in 2021, and the second half we will focus on creating a happy, healthy, and healed 2022! Questions covered: -Should I send my ex a gift? -Shouldn’t I send them holiday well-wishes? -What if they send a gift or get in touch? Affirmations to use today: -My future is better than my past -My only obligations are to my healing -No contact is a form of radical self-love PLUS: journal prompts to help you process your emotions Episodes for more support: -Ep. 2: No contact -Bonus: Positive Affirmations for No Contact (After Ep. 40) -Ep. 73: Nothing is helping me get over my ex _________________________________________________________________________ Is our Move on in 12 Days series helping you survive the holidays? We would love you to let us know by leaving us a review at Apple Podcasts. Want to connect with the Ex-Philes gals? Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  🌈🌈 The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
07:04
December 21, 2021
77. Love Hard Happy Hour (Catfishing, Compatibility and Drugs, Oh My!)
Happy Holidays! Let’s hang out and talk about a brand new holiday rom com: Love Hard. Pour a drink and settle in for a happy holiday hour. This time we talk about a new movie that explores the wide world of online dating, developing a relationship with someone you haven’t met in person, trying to make someone fall for you, and of course, being cheesy and over the top as only rom coms allow you to be. Warning: we get pretty silly and don’t hold much back. But hey, isn’t that what it’s all about? Did you like Love Hard? Or, did we go too far in our critique? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:56:38
December 20, 2021
76. Getting to Know Us Q&A
Today we share the things that make us US. We have had an amazing first year as a podcast and we thought for one of our celebrations it might be fun to do a feel-good episode and chit chat about some of the interesting parts of our personal backstories and what make us the women and breakup coaches that we are today. We love learning about our listeners and look forward to continuing to build the connection by continuing to share our stories. But not everything that has created us has to do with our love lives and various breakups! In today’s chill episode we talk about: -Clair’s cats! -The many places Janice has lived -Clair’s current love life -Did growing up Mormon turn Janice into a wanna-be sexologist? -Our very unique hobbies -Why an introvert and an extrovert make great podcast co-hosts Learn more about Janice’s crazy journey out of Mormonism by listening to her episode “Cut Off From Mormonism with Janice Formichella" on the great podcast Bitches, Witches, and Queers: On Spotify or Apple. Would you like us to do more “getting to know us” content? What would you like to know? Send us a DM with your query and we will do our best to fill you in on the juicy details. If you have loved the first year of Ex-Philes content, please leave us a review on Apple podcasts. Send us a screenshot with your review and we will slide into your snail mail with Ex-Philes stickers and a thank you. Interested in coaching? Send us a message on IG @ExPhilesPodcast And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:17:05
December 14, 2021
75. Meeting People IRL (Off the Apps)
Today’s episode is a fun “moving on” chat. Are you feeling ready to get out there and date again, but want other options but the apps? Get out your notebook and dive in! PSSST - it’s not just about where to GO to meet people, but also how to make connections - with our secrets on how to be a magnetic dater. Today we talk about: -How to be approachable in public -The right attitude to have to meet great people -Tips, tricks, and hacks to help you be magnetic -How to adjust your life to allow for more opportunities to meet people -Where to go and what to do to meet more people -What to do if you actually click with someone Have fun out there and don’t forget to let us know how it goes! Want to see what we are up to out in the wild? You can follow Janice on IG @janiceformichella and Clair @clairlofthouse Interested in coaching? Send us a message on IG @ExPhilesPodcast Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:05:31
December 07, 2021
74. Self-Care for Breakups
Focus on your self-care...right? Well, when your heart is broken and you can’t seem to stop thinking about your breakup that is easier said than done (right?). We get it. Self-care is a great idea. A great, feel-good concept. But what does it really mean when you are healing from a broken heart? How can you get started when nothing sounds good and the last thing you want to do is just go get a massage? As always, we have GOT YOUR BACK. Want to feel better but not sure where to start? In Today’s episode we gab about: -Our own definitions of self-care -Physical self-care to help a healing heart -Sleep and breakups -How to address the extra stress experienced after a breakup -The power of saying “NO” during your healing journey -How to use movement to process emotions -How to plan a wellness weekend AND MORE. We want you to beat your breakup. Putting yourself first can help you get there. Dive in and pick one thing from today’s episode to commit to for the next week and let us know how you go! Want more support? Check out the episodes mentioned in the show: 32: Heal your Heart, Heal Your Gut with Paddy 23: The healing power of crying 26: Journaling with Janice 29: Let’s Talk Rituals **** Want some fun dating podcast content? Check out our podcast buddies, Unhinged and Bumbled Up. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:05:52
November 30, 2021
73. Nothing Is Helping Me Get Over My Ex 💔
Are you struggling with a breakup and despite REALLY wanting to beat it finding that nothing is working? Has it been ages and you still miss your ex? BIG HUG. We know that this can be a really frustrating place to find yourself and we want to help. Healing a broken heart takes a combination of time AND effort. There is a lot of intention involved, despite what so many people may say about time healing all wounds. Sometimes, it can be useful for someone to point you in the right direction...that’s what breakup coaches are for! This episode can be a fresh start for your healing, if you let it. Today we chat about: -The 10 Breakup Commandments -What you may be doing to hold yourself back from healing -How holding onto a relationship may be aiding in the story we are telling about the breakup -Our own experiences with breakup devastation -Steps you can take NOW to add power to your healing journey Plus words of support for your breakup. **** Want some fun dating podcast content? Check out our podcast buddies, Unhinged and Bumbled Up. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
50:05
November 23, 2021
72. Your Five Biggest Breakup Questions Answered
Struggling with your breakup? We have GOT you covered this week with a loving overview of the most asked questions that we hear from our listeners, FB community, and clients. Get motivated to beat your breakup beginning now with our most tried and true tips and advice on healing a broken heart. Want to take a DEEP DIVE into one of the topics we touch on in this episode? Check out the following episodes mentioned: -Ep. 5: Got closure? -Ep. 15: 10 breakup commandments -Ep. 27: Why have they moved on so fast? -Ep. 29: Let’s Talk Rituals -Ep. 45: Slow down! With Janice -Ep. 50: Am I ready to Date Again? We’ve got your back! Use this episode to be your fresh start and let our advice take you to the next phase of your healing journey. Want some fun dating podcast content? Check out our podcast buddies, Unhinged and Bumbled Up. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
44:22
November 16, 2021
71. Solo Travel with Kelly
We've talked about going on a solo date night— how about solo travel? This episode features travel blogger Kelly (Instagram @kellyannexplores) whose story of living as an expat, beginning solo travel after divorce to solo road-tripping across America has us fired up to start exploring again! We talk about: Kelly's first solo trip right before filing for divorce How solo travel can be a tool for healing Safety tips for traveling alone How to work up to solo travel Building confidence after a breakup We mentioned some resources in the show, including Helene In Between, One Girl Wandering and Rick Steves' Audio App. PLUS - a very special giveaway opportunity for YOU, our beloved listeners. We want to celebrate a great 2021 as a podcast with you. We are holding our first listener giveaway to thank you for the support and do something fun to show how thrilled we are with our community. We are doing so by giving away high-end products from: Illuminate Space Womanizer Fossil Fuel Collective Want 15% off your first Fossil Fuel Collective order? Use code FuelUp15 at checkout. We want to party with YOU. Head to our Instagram @Exphilespodcast to get the juicy details. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:12:36
November 09, 2021
70. Sudden Breakup Trauma
It came out of nowhere. But everything was fine! I didn't see this coming. If you've said or thought these words, you're not alone. Feeling blindsided by a partner calling it quits is extremely painful and may feel harder to overcome. Today, we are providing guidance and support for this tough circumstance and help to reframe and reclaim your breakup. PLUS - a very special giveaway opportunity for YOU, our beloved listeners. We want to celebrate a great 2021 as a podcast with you. We are holding our first listener giveaway to thank you for the support and do something fun to show how thrilled we are with our community. We are doing so by giving away high-end products from: Illuminate Space Womanizer Fossil Fuel Collective Want 15% off your first Fossil Fuel Collective order? Use code FuelUp15 at checkout. We want to party with YOU. Head to our Instagram @Exphilespodcast to get the juicy details. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
39:17
November 02, 2021
69. Boundaries R Us
Knowing what our boundaries are is one of the foundations of a happy dating life and of a healthy relationship. This month we have talked a lot about relationships gone wrong, and we want to prevent our listeners from getting in that situation by talking about one of the ways to build trust and respect with someone. . But what ARE boundaries in the first place? How do we know what ours are and how do we let those around us know? And what does it mean to have a boundary crossed? We are breaking it ALL down for you today - including letting the world know OUR top boundaries in dating.  . This month we are supporting the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Please take a few minutes to check out their website and consider supporting them in a way that feels great to you: https://ncadv.org/ And to purchase one of the beautiful survivor necklaces that we spoke about in the episode visit Angelika Koch's jewelry line at https://iwillthrivewellness.com/ Did our advice help you think about setting better boundaries? Send us a DM and let us know. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:02:22
October 26, 2021
68. Narcissism 101 with Chris
There sure seem to be a lot of narcissists out there today, right? The number of people who have been affected by narcissism appears to be skyrocketing, but are we missing the point when we put labels on behaviors rather than describing them? We have looked forward to covering the topic of “narc abuse” and the reality of how narcissism shows up in relationships since the beginning of the show and today we have a great expert to open the conversation with. Welcome to the show, Chris Gritti! Chris Gritti is a certified Cognitive Behavioral Therapist and mental health coach who supports people in taking a proactive approach to moving beyond pain and trauma to thrive, especially in recovering from toxic relationships. He has a great TickTock channel where he discusses both relating to the toxic person in your life and healing from relationships with them. And while Chris has intimate experiences with more than one narcissist in his life, he focuses on moving past trying to diagnose someone and toward healing. And he doesn’t hold back! Buckle your seatbelt - this interview is a wild ride! We discuss: -How a toxic person gains a hold on someone -The different types of narcissism -Why labeling people or trying to diagnose them distracts us from healing -Why it’s easy to stay stuck in talking about how narcissistic an ex is keeps us stuck -How to take our power back after a toxic relationship -Why being too nice or feeling sorry for a toxic person sets us up for a TON of misery Chris is a lot of fun and has a great approach to relationships. Want to see him in action? TickTock: https://www.tiktok.com/discover/Chris-Gritti Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_nittigritti/ Website: https://thenittigritti.com/ Want more Ex-Philes action? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:17:39
October 19, 2021
67. Am I in a Healthy Relationship?
Do you know how to spot a healthy relationship? When you say you want a healthy relationship, do you know the specifics of what you’re after? We are continuing our DV Awareness Month discussion with a feel-good chat about what makes a partnership a truly functional and joyous one. Knowledge is power! It is easy to say that a healthy relationship is one in which both partners feel loved, respected, and seen, but what does it look like day-to-day? Set the bar HIGH with the information included in this episode. What do you think about our DV Awareness Month episodes? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
43:56
October 12, 2021
66. Am I in an Abusive Relationship?
Trigger warning: verbal abuse, financial abuse, intimate partner violence. Domestic violence is an often misunderstood topic that society often whittles down to whether or not a person in a relationship is beaten by their partner. Other types of abuse often go undiscussed, unrecognized, and unvalidated, causing a lot of people to live in fear and unhappiness. Today, we are continuing our conversation about domestic violence with a talk about non-physical partner violence and its consequences. We hope the information given in this episode will help to promote more awareness and understanding of domestic violence. No one deserves to live in fear of their partner, regardless of the level of physical violence. Become an advocate. Please visit the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence to learn how to get involved. If you are struggling in a relationship in which you feel abused or lacking control you are not alone. You do not need to justify ending a relationship to anyone, including your partner. If you would like to reach out to someone for support, please consider the following organizations: The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) www.ndvh.org National Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474 www.loveisrespect.org National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 (TALK) www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 (TALK) www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org INDIGENOUS WOMEN National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center 855-649-7299 www.niwrc.org National Gay and Lesbian Task Force 1-202-393-5177 www.ngltf.org LEGAL Battered Women’s Justice Project 1-800-903-0111 www.bwjp.org What do you think about our DV Awareness Month episodes? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
55:08
October 12, 2021
65. Domestic Violence Awareness with Ruth Glenn, NCADV
Trigger warning: gun violence, stalking, partner violence, suicide October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and we are honored to be kicking it off with a conversation with Ruth Glenn, President of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Ruth's story is one of survival, inspiration, and information for us all to use and share. Domestic violence is a prevalent and misunderstood issue impacting individuals and families in every community in this country. It is estimated that nearly 20 people per minute are being physically abused in the United States, with life-altering non-physical violence just as common but less recognized. Yet as pervasive an issue as it is, there are myths and misunderstandings that make daily life even less safe for victims and survivors. In today’s interview, we speak with Ruth about: -Her story of being abused by her husband -Why “why didn’t you leave” misses the point and puts the blame on the abused person -How you can provide hope and support to someone in your life who may be being abused -How to recognize abuse in your relationship -How to be an advocate to victims and survivors Plus: how to get involved with the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and join the movement against intimate partner violence. The NCADV is 100% reliant on grassroots support and donations and not funded by government grants. Please visit them today at https://ncadv.org/ to learn about the various ways to get involved. Help us spread awareness this Domestic Violence Awareness Month by using the hashtag #weareresilient in your posts. Want to get to know us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:19:44
October 05, 2021
64. 🚩🚩 Dating app profile RED FLAGS 🚩🚩
It’s true: online dating is a lot about weeding out the “not-so-likely-to-be-a-match” profiles. But how do you know? Today we are having the experts, including the Ex-Philes gals, weigh in about the profile red flags that you can go ahead and avoid. The red flags that we discuss are common enough to make us scratch our heads and hilarious enough to make us lose it a few times. And yes, it includes fish pics and “ain’t my baby” discussions. Plus, why asking for “no drama” is a sure sign that drama follows you wherever you go. We want you to have fun out there! Up your chances by taking notes on this episode. Resources mentioned in this episode: Episode 35: Chemistry vs. Compatibility Episode 59: Dating App Profile Pics! With Saskia Nelson We would love to continue this topic. If you have a funny story or experience with a dating profile high on the “red flag” or “sounds like a winner” spectrum, please join our Facebook group and share. Want to get to know us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:07:04
September 28, 2021
63. Negging and toxic flirting
We want you to have happy, healthy relationships, and those start with flirting that leaves you feeling JUICY, not icky or doubting yourself. Regardless of what you (or they) call it, there are toxic, predatory flirting behaviors that are used in today’s scene. No amount of “I’m just kidding” makes them okay. We want to start a movement of sorts: dating is only worth it when it’s fun and feels good. So the Ex-Philes gals and here to give you permission to spot and call out this shit when you see it. Are you single and ready to mingle? In today’s episode we will chat about: -What negging looks like -Why it is ALWAYS wrong -Our personal experiences facing negging and toxic flirting behaviors -What to do when someone negs you -How to make you that you don’t engage in toxic flirting behavior Remember: you are not “too sensitive.” If it feels wrong, don’t put up with it. Want to get to know us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
59:06
September 21, 2021
62. High-Conflict Coparenting with Katie
There are a lot of moving parts to co-parenting. And when you are co-parenting with an ex that you don’t get along with, it can quickly become overwhelming for everyone involved. But there ARE ways to make it work, set a good example for your children, AND maintain your sanity. We are so pleased to welcome Co-Parenting Peacefully founder Katie Davie to Ex-Philes. Katie is a co-parenting coach who specializes in providing one-on-one support to individuals who want to find a solution to a co-parenting situation that isn’t working for them. She offers really practical tips and ways of thinking about your own behavior that can be game changers for your entire family. Some of what we cover: -how to limit contact with your co-parent -what are appropriate boundaries to set with your co-parent -what a parental agreement is and why everyone needs one -what to do when you are the only one trying to make things peaceful -How to make sure your kids don’t get caught up in the conflict This is a great episode for anyone who has to have contact with their ex. Katie is constantly dropping truth bombs on her awesome Instagram account, CoparentingPeacefully. To learn about what she is offering parenting visit her website at Coparentingpeacefully.com  What did you think of Katie's approach? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
50:41
September 14, 2021
61. I Have a Broken Picker!
🤷‍♀️🤷🏽🤦🏾‍♀️ Do you feel like you can’t quite get it right when it comes to selecting someone to go the distance with? Today’s episode is for you! Yeah, some of us may suffer from a broken picker. And it can cause us a bunch of grief! In today’s episode the Ex-Philes gals cover: -WHY some of us end up with a broken picker -WHAT it means to have a broken picker and WHAT it looks like -VERY personal stories and shares from Janice and Clair about the state of their pickers -HOW you can repair your broken picker Plus another edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic, or Empowering? More Ex-Philes episodes to help you strengthen your picker: Ep. 35: Chemistry vs Compatibility Ep. 45: Slow down! With Janice Ep. 49: Love Them But Let Them Go with Clair Want to get to know us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
59:03
September 07, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 10: Choose your own ending
⭐️Today’s affirmation:  I choose my experience. ⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. You’ve made it to day 10! YOU. ARE. AMAZING. Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
02:20
September 01, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 9: In the driver’s seat
⭐️Today’s affirmation: The universe is conspiring in my favor. ⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 9: Ep. 38: Loneliness and Breakups with Janice Bonus: Positive Affirmations for No Contact Ep. 29: Let’s Talk Rituals Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:52
August 31, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 8: Let it go
⭐️Today’s affirmation: I have the ability to release these emotions.⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 8: Ep. 26: Journaling with Janice Ep. 18: How to process emotions with Clair Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
02:21
August 30, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 7: Healing isn’t linear
⭐️Today’s affirmation: I see blessings all around me⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 7: Ep. 23: The healing power of crying Ep. 51: Words of Support for Your Breakup with Janice Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:52
August 29, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 6: Give yourself closure
⭐️Today’s affirmation: I have all the closure I need. I am the only one with the power to give myself closure.⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 6: Ep. 5: Got closure? Ep. 17: Why do I only think about the good times? Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
02:60
August 28, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 5: Design your life
⭐️Today’s affirmation: I am strong and each day I learn from this experience.⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 5: Ep. 25: The power of positive affirmations Bonus resource 1: Affirmations for your breakup Ep. 40: Unfinished Business with Clair Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
02:12
August 27, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 4: The next chapter of your life
⭐️Today’s affirmation: I am ready for the next chapter of my life. I am ready to become my new self.⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 4: Ep. 13: How to ask for help after a breakup Ep. 56: Was it a Waste of Time?
02:18
August 26, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 3: Embrace your future
⭐️Today’s affirmation: Today I will make a firm decision to walk away from what doesn’t serve me and towards the things that do.⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 3: Ep. 15: 10 breakup commandments Ep. 40: Unfinished Business with Clair Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
02:26
August 25, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 2: Choose YOU
⭐️Today’s affirmation: These feelings will pass. It will get better.⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 2: Ep. 11: Social media after a breakup Ep. 42: Breakup Brain Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
03:34
August 24, 2021
10-Day No Contact Challenge Day 1: Welcome
⭐️Today’s affirmation: I love myself and make myself a priority⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 1: Episode 2: No Contact Ep. 31: The five best things we did after a breakup Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
02:34
August 23, 2021
60. I'm Still In Love With My Ex
❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 Breakups are opportunities for a new beginning. And that doesn’t mean that your feelings for the person disappear. Having feelings of love for a person you are no longer with is normal, natural, and even a part of what makes us human. We know how painful this breakup dynamic can be. We really do. Our goal with this episode is to provide insight, words of advice, a bit of hope, and above all, support. Remember: this is temporary. And we’ve got your back. More resources to help you heal: Ep. 19: Will I ever love like that again? Ep. 29: Let’s Talk Rituals Ep. 49: Love Them But Let Them Go with Clair And for a great cord-cutting episode check out Clair’s cord cutting meditation on Insight Timer: https://insig.ht/8MDwuOkrNib Cord Cutting Meditation  Did this episode help you on your healing journey? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
54:24
August 17, 2021
59. They Just Want To Be Friends
Ah friendship. It’s a beautiful concept, but it can sure get tricky when it comes to matters of the heart, right? Well you know we’ve got your back so this week we are doing a friendship and love tutorial. We discuss: -When your ex wants to stay friends -Unrequited love -Friends with benefits -Staying friends with someone you have the feels for -Staying friends with someone who has feelings for you Plus, Clair’s love of stick-shift cars and why the term “the friend zone” is sexist BS. AND - another edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic or Empowering? What song do you think we will analyze this time? It is always okay to look after your heart. This includes platonic relationships. Today’s episode will give you some great tools to make sure you always put yourself first.  Want to learn how to date without attachment? Check out episode 54: Buddhism in dating and breakups. Interested in Messy Path, the podcast we recommend in this episode? Check them out here or wherever you listen to podcasts. What would you like us to cover on Ex-Philes? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
46:25
August 10, 2021
58. Dating App Profile Pics! With Saskia Nelson
📸📸 Using a dating app is a lot about making a good impression so that you attract the people who will most want to connect with the REAL YOU. Matches and connections on apps only start after people swipe “YES,” so great photos will make sure that your brilliance is shining for potential matches to see. When we made a connection with Saskia Nelson, founder of the dating profile pic agency Hey Saturday, we jumped at the chance to have her tell us all about how to pick the best photos for your profile. Hint, hint - it pays to be intentional about them. Hey Saturday is an award-winning agency and Saskia has the knowledge to back it up. You will be amazed at how specific we get with our questions about profile pics without her skipping a beat. Want to know the most common mistake that men make with their dating app pics? Or the types of pics that get the most swipes? How old is too old for pics to be used? Or how to communicate your interests through a photo? Tune in! Book your Hey Saturday shoot today! They are fun, useful, and super affordable. EMAIL TO LET THEM KNOW YOU HEARD ABOUT THEM FROM EX-PHILES for 10% off your shoot! Head to Hey Saturday to schedule. And make sure to follow them on Instagram @HeySaturday for great info on creating great dating app photos. What episode topics would help you on your dating journey? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:08:01
August 05, 2021
57. The Dating App Mindset
Are you using dating apps while also saying how hard it is to meet people on them? Are you trying to get back out there after healing from a breakup and feeling like it’s slim pickings? The problem might be with your mindset! We want you to have FUN dating and to manifest the relationships you desire. And we see a lot of people trapped in some mindset patterns that keep them having a LAME time and even creating some self-fulfilling prophecies. Let’s do something about it! If you are dating or planning to date soon - click play. Here’s what we have in store for you: -why you might keep going on the apps even though you think it sucks -why dating apps are great for the jaded daters out there -the most common thought patterns that keep people stuck in unfulfilling online dating lives -the top things you need to know about using apps that will help you set positive and realistic expectations Want to have fun out there? Start with this fun chat. We might lose our train of thought a couple of times as we go along, but that’s how you know we are keeping it real and keeping it casual (just like you might want to do on the apps!). Make sure to get to the end of this zanny Ex-Philes episode before you start swiping again. Remember - we’ve got your backs! Interested in Messy Path, the podcast we recommend in this episode? Check them out here or wherever you listen to podcasts. Do you think that these are some dating tips that you can apply to your dating life? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:04:29
August 03, 2021
56. He’s Just Not That Into You - July Happy Hour
🥂🥂🥂 Pour a summer cocktail and settle in for this month’s happy hour episode! This time we take a major deep dive into another classic, and ten-year-old, romcom. He’s Just Not That Into You is a great movie for two breakup coaches to get tipsy and talk trash about. And this time - we do it in person - yay!  If you are struggling with a breakup and want a fun distraction this weekend - this episode is for you!  Some highlights:  -What we loved about it  -What we thought was weird, outdated, and cringy  -How sexy Ben Affleck is in this film  -Our favorite quotes from the film  -What "beef and broccoli" really means  -Whether or not you should take your leftovers with you on a first, second, or third date  Is there a movie you would like to have us analyze while we drink? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
02:03:59
July 31, 2021
55. Was it a Waste of Time?
Breakups can often come with a lot of sadness over losing love, but also sadness over the time spent on the relationship. This sadness can turn into regret and feeling as though you have “wasted” the time with the person. Not to mention that this isn’t the way you wanted your life to go, right? We REALLY get it. We’ve been there. We’ve supported others who have been there and we have an approach to this question that is sure to help. This episode has two parts: First - we will explore alternative ways of looking at the timeline of life and love and how to be thankful for the time spent, regardless of how bad the breakup was. Second - it’s pen and paper time! You know we love our tips. We give several exercises and coping suggestions if you are struggling with this thought right now. Plus: another edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic or Empowering? Interested in Messy Path, the podcast we recommend in this episode? Check them out here or wherever you listen to podcasts. Did you find this helpful? Is there another breakup bummer that you’d like us to explore on the show? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
43:04
July 27, 2021
55. Dating After Divorce with Jade
❤️ Dating again after a divorce can come with its own set of mindset challenges and a lot of questions about how to put your best foot forward. This is especially true if it has been a long time since you have been “out there.” Look no further. In this edition of our guest interview series, we are joined by dating coach and matchmaker Jade Bianca of Dating After Divorce to talk about how to OPTIMIZE dating apps to attract exactly what you are looking for at this stage of your journey. Jade is passionate about seeing people thrive and date confidently after divorce. She brought some great information to the chat. We covered: ✔️The number ONE thing that men do that hurts their chances of making connections online ✔️Overcoming negative mindsets around dating for the first time in a while ✔️How to use your knowledge of your “type” to attract a great partner ✔️Dating “rules” that keep some women stuck Make sure to tune in if you are ready to up your game and LOVE dating, no matter how rusty you feel. ❌SPECIAL OFFER FOR EX-PHILES listeners! Want to speak with Jade about her matchmaking or coaching support? Find her at www.datingafterdivorce.com. Use code #exphiles for 10% off any service. Join her matchmaking database for free to be potentially matched with a client at no cost HERE.  Other places to find Jade and get access to her wisdom: Instagram: @dating_after_div Facebook: @datingafterdiv Twitter: @after_divorce Did you find this helpful? What else would you like to know about your dating journey? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:15:25
July 22, 2021
54. Buddhism in Dating and Breakups
Have you ever thought of using Buddhist principles and practices in your dating life? Today’s enlightened discussion is all about how some core tenants of the faith can help you accept a breakup and approach dating in a whole new way. Some of what we cover in the episode: -The philosophy of non-attachment and how it helps you be magnetic as a dater -How living in the moment can help you have the most fun while dating -How to approach dating without expectations -Buddhist principles to help you be a great partner -How the philosophy of impermanence can help you heal a broken heart -The Four Noble Truths of Dating -And MORE! What do you think of our approach? Leave us a review on Apple podcasts! Send us a screenshot and we will send you an Ex-Philes sticker in the mail! And would you like to check out our podcast recommendation, Messy Path? Get their latest episode here.  Want to connect with us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
52:34
July 20, 2021
53. Changing Unhealthy Relationship Patterns with Clair
You're not doomed to repeating the same unhealthy relationship patterns! On this solo episode, Clair talks about how unconscious bias is formed, how our subconscious beliefs change how we perceive the world, how that leads to repeating patterns in relationships, her own unhealthy relationship patterns and her tips for changing unhealthy relationship patterns. Did you love this episode? Leave us a review on Apple podcasts! Send us a screenshot and we will send you an Ex-Philes sticker in the mail! Want to connect with us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
33:58
July 15, 2021
52. Rescuer Syndrome
Have you ever put solving someone else’s problems ahead of your own needs or well-being? Or been in a relationship that had a significant focus on the other person’s struggles rather than being a give and take? Today’s episode on rescuer syndrome may help you to determine if this is an ongoing pattern for you, why being the “white knight” doesn’t lead to fulfilling relationships, and how you can overcome this tendency. We can’t rescue anyone or solve their problems. Change only happens in a person’s life when they commit to it themselves. However, some of us can get caught up in the dynamic of “being there” for someone we love and taking on the responsibility of helping them out of various life crises while we slowly lose ourselves. Even if you are coming from a place of love, rescuing is not the foundation of a healthy partnership. Grab our insight and tips to help you examine this tendency and begin to welcome in more abundant and satisfying relationships -- with yourself and others. Did you love this episode? Leave us a review on Apple podcasts! Send us a screenshot and we will send you an Ex-Philes sticker in the mail! Want to connect with us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
44:01
July 13, 2021
51. Words of support for your breakup with Janice
Sometimes we just need someone to tell us that what we’re going through is real and that things are going to be okay, right? Today’s solo episode is just a loving pep talk from a friend who has been there and who now dedicates herself to help others hurting from a broken heart. Feeling like the sadness around your breakup is just a bit much this week? Here’s some comfort to keep you going. Want more support? Here are some episodes to help: Episode 12: How to ask for support during a breakup Episode 23: The healing benefits of crying after your breakup Episode 25: Using affirmations during your breakup Episode 26: Journaling during your breakup with Janice Episode 31: The five best things we did after a breakup Episode 47: Black Girl in Love with Herself with Trey Anthony Episode 48: Regaining confidence after a breakup Would you like to get in touch with Janice? You can find her on Instagram @Janiceformichella. You can find Clair @clairlofthouse and the podcast @exphilespodcast  And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
11:12
July 08, 2021
50. Am I Ready To Date Again?
Are you wondering when you’ll be ready to date again after your breakup? Or are you wanting to get back out there and want some tips to get started? We want you to have FUN as you date and so we’ve put together a list of ten ways to know that you are (or are not) ready to meet someone new. Dating is best done when it is intentional. So it’s really great to look at where you’re at and what role your breakup is playing in your life before you start downloading the apps. For instance: -How comfortable are you being single? -What is your motivation for dating? -What is your mindset? -Have you processed your breakup yet? Make sure you’ve thought it all through with today’s fun MOVING ON episode. Do you have a question about dating again after a breakup? Did this episode help? Send us a DM and let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
57:48
July 06, 2021
49. Love Them But Let Them Go
Can you love someone and still break up with them? In this solo episode, Clair addresses this question and shares her experience with learning to let go-- even when you're still in love. Sometimes, love isn't enough of a foundation to build a healthy relationship on. Sometimes the kindest thing for both people is to say goodbye.  Listen in for a heart-to-heart on choosing yourself, healing after heartbreak, and writing your own story.  Did this episode help? Send us a DM and let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
30:36
July 01, 2021
48. Regaining Confidence
Breakups can cause us to have a slip in confidence, whether we realize it or not. And you know what they say: confidence is the sexiest quality! So it may pay to take our crash course in post-breakup confidence as a part of your healing journey. This episode is packed with great information on becoming magnetic no matter how broken-hearted you may be after your breakup. Some of what we’ve got for you: -How the stories we tell ourselves about the breakup impact how we re-enter the dating world -How mindfulness actually helps with self-worth and how you can start to use it today. -Journal prompts to build confidence -The power of desire in building confidence -Our favorite confidence-building affirmations We know that you are amazing and we want you to know it as well! Episodes to help you continue on your confidence journey: -Episode 25: The Power of Positive Affirmations Positive Affirmations for Breakups (bonus resource after episode 25) -Episode 38: Loneliness and Breakups with Janice -Positive Affirmations for No Contact (bonus resource after episode 41) Did this episode help? Send us a DM and let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
52:25
June 29, 2021
47. Trey Anthony: Black Girl in Love (With Herself)
When Trey’s partner of four years broke up with her via text right after they moved into a new condo together, little did she know what a journey of self-love and discovery she was about to embark on. She switched gears from writing a book on how she manifested a great relationship to one on her healing journey and how she got to the place she is today. The result is Black Girl in Love (With Herself), a beautiful book that meshes practical personal growth tips with personal insight into her life and the lessons learned along the way. We loved sitting down with Trey to talk about how her surprising, devastating breakup led to her re-writing the rules of pretty much every aspect of her life. Settle in! This is an interview to be savored! Some of what’s in store: -Why her book begins with being on the bathroom floor -How she decided to fully release her ex -Her journey to seek out counseling and mental health support during the pandemic -Ways she has learned to thrive as a single woman -Insights into lessons learned about friendships -And MORE! You WANT to read Trey’s book. Grab Black Girl in Love (With Herself) here.  You can learn more about Trey and her upcoming events on her website here. And check her awesome IG account out @BlackGirlInLove  What did you think of Trey’s story? Send us a DM and let us know. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:03:40
June 24, 2021
46. Long Distance Breakup
Long-distance relationships are in a league of their own, and ending them has complications and dynamics that are much different from relationships with people you see often. With the ever-growing prevalence of online love, they are happening more often with our audience. We want you to feel supported regardless of the type of relationship you are healing from, so we’ve got some long-distance specific advice for you today. First, the breakup gurus start out with the possible pitfalls of an online or long-distance relationship and why you may want to keep them in perspective as you heal your heart. Then, we offer some practical insight for putting this breakup fully behind you so that you can begin to thrive and love. Did our advice help to heal from your long-distance love? Send us a DM and let us know. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
56:02
June 22, 2021
45. Slow down! With Janice
Janice is taking the coaching chair in today’s solo episode and speaking to your ears about why you might just want to learn how to take things slow in dating and relationships. New relationship energy is SO intoxicating and can quickly find us throwing life plans and caution out the window. But what if we told you that these feelings may be the perfect reason to gently put the brakes on rather than diving in headfirst? Well, you might be putting your future and the future of your relationship as a priority if you do. While there are exceptions, taking your time in dating is a rule of thumb Janice loves to encourage people to embrace. Why? In today’s episode, she will let you know the reasons. And if it sounds like a lot of good advice that lacks practicality, don’t worry. She also gives some tips on how to approach dating with a foot near the brake. Janice would love to connect with you if you would like coaching support around your dating life. You can find her on IG at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse. The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
40:09
June 17, 2021
44. Should I Stay Friends with My Ex?
Should I stay friends with my ex? The question sure is a doozy and as you might expect, these breakup coaches have a lot to say about this breakup conundrum. We want you to thrive and if this is something you are struggling with, we’ve got things for you to consider, ways to approach it, when to approach it, and how we support our clients and community with whether or not to remain friends with the ex. Remember, this is real life, it’s not Friends or How I Met Your Mother. This is a decision that can impact your healing and happiness. So dive in, and see what the breakup gurus have to say about staying friends with your ex.  Do you have a burning breakup question? Send us a DM and let us know you would like us to answer it on the show. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
43:22
June 15, 2021
43. 500 Days of Summer Happy Hour
Grab a chilled glass, pour a beer, and settle in for this month’s happy hour episode. This month we welcome back friend of the show Brett McGinn of Love Fucking Sucks to chat about a movie full of relationship head-scratchers. 500 Days of Summer is full of things for three people who love talking about relationships. Do you think that we are team Summer or team Tom? You might just be surprised with our answers… We hope you have a great weekend and enjoy a bit of a distraction with our round table. Remember, we’re rooting for you! Want some cool gear to celebrate your breakup? Check out Brett's clothing line on IG at lovefuckingsucks  Do you agree with our take on 500 Days of Summer? Let us know! Or, do you have a burning breakup question to ask? Hit us up! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:31:04
June 10, 2021
42. Breakup Brain
Feeling like a hot mess after your breakup? Feeling like the “crazy ex”? You may be suffering from breakup brain. And we’ve got your back! Did you know that your IQ can lower as a result of a breakup? It can also manifest itself in physical and mental symptoms such as muscle aches, forgetfulness, rage, fatigue, and much more. We are on a mission to spread awareness about breakup brain so that there is more understanding for those who go through it. And we are also here to let you know that you aren’t actually losing it and that there are helpful ways to cope. Get out your pen and paper and listen to the breakup gurus break it down for you, including seven tips for coping. Do you have a story about breakup brain to share with us? Or an experience with a sleep deprivation chamber to tell Janice about? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:13:02
June 08, 2021
Positive Affirmations for No Contact (Bonus Resource!)
Listen to this bonus resource of positive affirmations to support yourself as you go no contact with your ex. For more about no contact, listen to episode #2. For more about positive affirmations, listen to episode #25. For positive affirmations for breakups, listen to our bonus resource between episodes #25 and #26. You've got this and we've got you! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
06:10
June 03, 2021
41. Why We Won't Help Get Your Ex Back
As breakup coaches, we LOVE supporting people to build their confidence, heal their hearts, and step with enthusiasm into their new futures. We work closely with people in a lot of different areas of life with the ultimate goal of putting a breakup behind them. But one area that we don’t cover as coaches is how to get an ex back. WHY? We break it down in today’s episode. Part of recovering from a breakup is being real about a situation, and we like to keep it real with this podcast. So we want to be upfront about our approach so that you all know what you’re getting into! And we know that the urge to get back with an ex can be a strong force. So today we give a huge spoonful of insight into the hows and whys of what we do and some words of wisdom for those who are focusing on the desire to get their ex back after a breakup. We would love to hear from you! Do you have a breakup question that you’d like us to answer on the podcast? Hit us up in the DMs and let us know! And if you are thankful for this show, head over to Apple Podcasts and leave us a five-star review. We appreciate you! Want more inspiration to get over your ex? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
39:23
June 01, 2021
40. Unfinished Business with Clair
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24:56
May 27, 2021
39. Getting Over A Crush
Ever been super into someone you couldn’t have a relationship with? A crush can lead to a broken heart just like a six-month or six-year relationship can. But healing and recovering from a “wasn’t-meant-to-be” can be a bit different from recovering from someone you have a romantic history with. Guess what? We’ve got your back! Today, we totally validate your hurt heart and how much it sucks to have a crush that doesn’t go anywhere. And...get your pen and paper because we’ve got the tips you need to lay this unrequited love to rest. You are allowed to be bummed out when you feel disappointed about a relationship not being able to go anywhere. And it can be a sexy opportunity to juice up your dating life. Feel the feels and go feel someone else! Did our tips help you get over a crush? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
51:59
May 25, 2021