Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella
By Janice Formichella
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice FormichellaNov 08, 2022
š Leaving an unhealthy relationship š
Trigger warning: Emotional abusive,domestic violence,Ā intimate partner control.Ā
If you or someone you know is in an unsafe or abusive relationship please reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.
Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.
What do you do when you end up in a relationship that is unhealthy, toxic, and abusive? Today I am joined by a close friend who recently went through it.Ā
Iāve been through it too. And today I get to chat with Kelsey about our stories and how we navigated situations no one ever wants to find themselves in. We talk about:Ā
-What attracted us to the men who ended up almost breaking us
-The early red flags that we ignored or didnāt recognize
-The moments we realized how bad our situations were (our āoh shitā moments)Ā
-Signs of an unhealthy relationship
-How we got out
-What helped and what hurt as we healed and moved on
If you feel that you are in an unhealthy relationship I hope this episode will help you find the information, strength, and courage you need to remove yourself and look toward a brighter future.Ā
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
š£Truth bombs for your breakup (196) š£
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Ready to put your breakup behind you? It may be time to examine your beliefs around your ex, your efforts, relationships, and breakups in general. Itās time to accept some hard truths.Ā
Hard truths can be confronting - but it is often the things that we find confronting that lead us to the most growth. Todayās episode covers 5 of the most important of these truths.Ā
Get ready - this might be the episode that finally changes things with your breakup.Ā
Episodes mentioned:Ā
163: MY recent breakup lessons
Resources from this episode:Ā
Thought Catalog: Hate to Break It To You But There is No Such Thing as āThe One.āĀ
Quotes from this episode:Ā
āHolding fast to ideas about how unfortunate our breakup is and how much we need or want our ex keep us holding on fast to the past.āĀ
āNo relationships end because they are working so well and serving both people. It was imperative that this breakup happen so that you could both go on to happier lives and better relationships in the future.ā
āYou already have everything that you need to be happy and whole right inside of you.āĀ Ā
āThe idea that there is āthe oneā or a āsoulmateā for us is destructive. It leads people to make poor decisions and to stay in unhealthy relationships. It prevents people from being their own soulmates and investing in building a life that is rich with or without a partner.ā
āThe more honest you can be with yourself and the more responsibility you can take over your healing the more success you will have.ā
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Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
News, news, news!
It's time for a change! Buckle up and get ready!
Beat your breakup in THREE hours or less. Click here to get started.Ā
I wanna hear from you!!!
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
š·How to date yourself (195) š·
Beat your breakup in THREE hours or less. Click here to get started.Ā
This week Julie and I are giving our favorite dating tips. And how do we know they work? Weāve used them - to date ourselves.Ā
You donāt have to wait around for anyone or anything to fall into place to have a vibrant, indulgent life filled with connection with self and new experiences.Ā
Dating yourself is a lifestyle that may be a learning curve but once you get over the hump there are so many opportunities to create the life you truly desire. In this weekās episode Julie and I discuss:Ā
-Why more people donāt take themselves on dates
-Getting over misgivings or discomfort around dating yourselfĀ
-The benefits of solitudeĀ
-What you will gain from dating yourselfĀ
-Tips for planning a great solo date
-Activites to try
Visit JulieĀ JulieDemsey.com and on IG at JulieDemsey
šGet her book, FOUND Swiping right on me to find love on Amazon here.Ā
Resources mentioned in todayās episode:Ā
Solo: Building a Remarkable Life of Your Own by Peter McGraw
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
š¬šøHappy hour!! Friends With Benefits (the movie!) (194) š¬šø
Pour a drink and get ready to talk shit about a **really** horrible rom-com! If you ever thought friends with benefits seemed impossible to pull off this movie will make you hate the idea, cringe, and think twice about even leaving the house again.Ā
I think this movie sucks. I am joined by friends Brian and Dessi to chat about what they think as well. Do Justin Timberlake and Mila have good chemistry? Is it permissible to keep socks on during sex? Relieve yourself in front of someone you want to have sex with?Ā
Weāve got opinions on it all.Ā
Want to hear the actual truth about friends with benefits? Check out episode 193 - āFriends with benefits.ā
Beat your breakup in THREE hours or less. Click here to get started.Ā
What movie would you like me to dish about in a future happy hour episode? DM me and let me know.Ā
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
š„ Friends with benefits (193) š„
Does friends with benefits actually ever work? My new (and FABULOUS) guest co-host says it CAN - and she has the experience to back up her claim. Welcome to the show Laura Grant!Ā
For our first episode Laura and I will be diving into the ins and outs of a friends benefits situation. We humorously cover:Ā
-Both our experiences with FWB
-Entering a FWB relationship
-Research around peopleās satisfaction with FWB
-Emotional and physical safety
-Communication
-The changing beast-And more!Ā
What topics would you like me and Laura to cover in future episodes? DM me on Instagram and let me know!Ā
Beat your breakup in THREE hours or less. Click here to get started.Ā
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
š§¼A patriarchy detox - part 2 š§¼
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Want to have better sex? Better communication? Better connections? Doing a patriarchy detox may be the answer!Ā
But what does it mean? Wellā¦it means decentering men in your life and focusing more on being the authentic YOU.Ā
Decentering men? What does that mean? Push play and get ready to learn how to completely change the way you operate.Ā
In part two Brian and I cover:Ā
-The ways that the patriarchy show up in our lives (for both men and women)-The ways that centering men holds all of us back-How to decenter men in your personal life-How to decenter men in the bedroom-How to decenter men in datingĀ
And some of Janiceās sorted dating stories.
Resources mentioned in this episode:Ā
-No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert A. Glover
Please go show Brian some podcast love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
š§¼A patriarchy detox š§¼
This week I am doing something a bit different - I am taking a deep dive into the societal constructs that create unbalanced relationships and hold women back from living the lives of their dreams. Buckle up and get ready for an impactful discussion with return guest co-host Mr. Brian Dunn.Ā
Note: this is a two-part episode! If you are curious about what it means to de-center men or take a patriarchy detox you are going to love what we have for you this week.Ā
Beat your breakup in THREE hours or less. Click here to get started.Ā
I am so excited for this one! In part one Brian and I will explore:Ā
-What is the patriarchy? -How men benefit from a patriarchy detox-What a patriarchy detox IS-The real meaning of feminism -Hidden stereotypes about gender roles that rob all genders of their humanity
-AND MORE!
Please go show Brian some podcast love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn
Resources mentioned in this episode:Ā
Episode: Stop victim blaming (125)
Documentary: Victim/Suspect (Netflix)
Book: The Patriarchs: The Origins of Inequality by Angela SainiĀ
More Janice/Brian episodes:Ā
-šAm I undatable? (183) š-šØāā¤ļøāšØš©āā¤ļøāšāšØDifficult conversations - 177 šØāā¤ļøāšØš©āā¤ļøāšāšØ-š¬I feel triggeredā¦š¬(175)- š£ļø Talking to your kids about your breakup š£ļø(137)
My favorite quote from this episode: āPatriarchy robs women and men of their humanity.ā -Brian Dunn
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
š»Ghosting vs. Caspering š»
Ghosting: the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.
Caspering: Named after the fictional child phantom, itās a friendly alternative to ghosting. Instead of ignoring someone, youāre honest about how you feel, and let them down gently before disappearing from their lives.
This week I am joined by wise and beautiful co-host Julie Demsey to talk about various ways of communicating in the early days of dating someone. Will have chemistry with some people and not with others, and that is fine. But there are ways of letting the other person know that are fine and others not so fine. Welcome to the stage ghosting and Caspering!Ā
Beat your breakup in THREE hours or less. Click here to get started.Ā
Today Julie and I cover:Ā
-What ghosting is and is NOT
-How ghosting impacts the people on the receiving end
-Tips for coping with ābeing ghostedā
-How Caspering is an alternative to ghostingĀ
-Ways to Casper
-Responding to CasperingĀ
Enjoy - and be a part of a trend to communicate better with each other.Ā
Other helpful episodes:Ā
-183: Am I datable?
-161: People pleasingĀ
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
š§Affirmations for the early days of a breakup (free meditation track) š§
Beat your breakup in THREE hours or less. Click here to get started.Ā
The first days and weeks after a breakup are HARD. Affirmations and guided mediations can help.Ā
I have created this track to help you out and give you a bit of hope on those dark days. If you love it please be in touch and let me know.Ā
Want to schedule a free intro call with me?Ā
Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule it now.Ā
Affirmations for the early days of a breakup:Ā
I am healing each day.Ā
I love how healed my heart feels.Ā
I am amazing and doing so well.
This new chapter oh my life is so magical.Ā
I am aware of my strength and act with confidence.
I rejoice in the process of creating positive change in my life.
I am capable and worthy of love.
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
Ā āļøJournal prompts for your breakup āļø
Journaling sure is having a moment, isnāt it? Want to know how it can actually help with your breakup? In this weekās episode I cover:
-The mental health benefits of journaling
-How writing directly helps with the pain of a breakup
-Ways that I have used journaling in my life and in my breakups
-3 powerful journal prompts to get started
Grab a pen a paper - if youāre serious about healing your heart this episode is for you.Ā
And as promised, hereās how you can schedule a free intro call with me:Ā
Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.
Resources mentioned in this episode:Ā
Playlists:Ā
Breakups: Itās time to kick ass
Breakups: itās okay to grieve
Breakups: Youāre going to make it
Journaling: University of Rochesterās Health Encyclopedia
Healthline: 6 Journaling Benefits and How to Start Right Now
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
š§Iām single. Now what?? š§(188)
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Being single can be a big adjustment. And it can also be a big blessing. But how do you get used to it, much less learn to love it?Ā
I GOT YOU. In todayās dose of breakup medicine I am covering:Ā
-Things to keep in mind about your single journey and the concept of being single
-What being single has taught me
-The hard parts about being single and why you should move forward giving yourself grace
-The benefits of being single
-The social lives of singlesĀ
-Ways to get used to being singleĀ
-More resources for leaning into your single journeyĀ
Resources mentioned in todayās episode:Ā
Solo: Building a Remarkable Life of Your Own (Dr. Peter McGraw)
Episodes:Ā
-184: Love addiction with Kate Marlene
-Living a Remarkable Lifeā¦Solo (Bonus episode)
-176: What does it mean to move on?
170: My breakup story: Emma
166: Your post-breakup vacationĀ
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
āļø Why is no contact so hard? (187) āļø
Beat your breakup in THREE hours or less. Click here to get started.Ā
Youāve heard me say it before: no contact is one of the most effective ways to heal from a bad breakup. But why is it so hard? Lena is back to talk about why we struggle to do something we know in our heads is so good for us.Ā
Contact Lena at www.lenaehrenberg.com
Weāve both got some pieces of GOLD for you today to get started or stay strong on your no-contact journey.Ā
We discuss:Ā
-WHAT no contact really means
-How it has hurt or helped our breakups
-Why it is SO important for your break up healingĀ
-The false intimacy that maintianing contact with your ex can create
-WHY itās so hard
-The science behind why breakups and no contact hurt so much
-HOW to stop engaging with your ex
-And MORE!Ā
This is a great chat between coaching and friends about setting yourself free after a breakup. Remember: no contact is a radical form of self-love and it WORKS.
Do it for you.Ā
More episodes to help:Ā
164: Breakup healing and routines
167: Talking about your breakup
168: The no-contact rule: 5 tips for success
-And the affirmations track right after -Ā
173: A tough love alert for your breakup and dating patterns
179: Breakup? Walk it off.Ā
174: How to cope
172: A letter to your ex
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
š£ļøThe hurtful things your ex said (186) š£ļø
Beat your breakup in THREE hours or less. Click here to get started.Ā
OUCH words hurt, donāt they? What to do? You can get over whatever bullshit your ex said to you during your relationship or breakup. You can put the past in the past. I go you.Ā
In this weekās episode, I dive into:Ā
-WHY people say hurtful things during a breakup
-Why you may be holding onto the past
-MY recent lessons about breakups and hurtful words
-Coping with hurtful words in the early days after a breakup
-HealingĀ
-How to put the past in the past
Episodes mentioned in this episode:Ā
117: Self-forgiveness and breakups
163: MY recent breakup lessons
167: Talking about your breakupĀ
172: A letter to your ex
Quotes from this episode:
āDonāt get hung up on letting your ex know the impact of their words or actions. It is done with. It is not important to have the last word.ā
āBlaming yourself keeps you trapped. Learn to forgive yourself. Commit to moving on. Commit to learning from this experience rather than torturing yourself over it.ā
āRumination causes us to identify with our thoughts. When we ruminate over painful words we start to think that they are true.ā
āOur thoughts are not our reality. They are just thoughts.ā
āDo you love yourself enough to set yourself free by releasing this person?ā
āRepeating words outloud causes us to identify with them more and more and more. The words that were spoken to you were negative and hurtful. Repeating them spreads that negativity. It gives fuel to them. It keeps them in your system rather than allowing them to start to leave your system.ā
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
šŖ¢BDSM 101, baby (185) šŖ¢
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Exploring BDSM can be transformative. And it is an often misunderstood practice that can seem to some to be intimidating to begin. Well donāt worry, Christina and I have got your back.Ā
In this weekās episode we are providing a beginning primer into the world of BDSM, as we know it, at least. Buckle up while we explore:Ā
-Our individual entries into BDSM
-What attracts us to the practice
-The neuro-science of BDSM
-Different ways that people practiceĀ
-How to get started
-Things to keep in mind and ways to protect yourself
-Aftercare
-And as always, more!Ā
Referenced in this episode:Ā
BDSM Test - take it and let me know what you discover!Ā
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
Holiday/New Yearās coaching (special news)
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I am popping in with a quick announcement about my once-a-year support package. I love connecting with my listeners and am here to help make your holiday or new year more powerful and help you feel more supported than ever.Ā
The package includes:Ā
-One 75-minute Zoom call (THIS week if you need it)
-Holiday/new year action planĀ
-30-minute follow up call
-Texting support.Ā
The bundle is only $250 and available only this week. Get in now!
You can purchase it here. DM or email me privately to discuss sliding scale options.Ā
I canāt wait to connect with you!Ā
šLove addiction (184) š
Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.
We are all told to look for it and even chase after it. But love and the hope of the āhappily ever afterā can hurt and even destroy us in some cases.Ā
Today friend and narrative therapist Kate Marlene is joining me to share her experience of accepting that she is a love addict and her brave journey to recover and learn from it. This is a vulnerable, courageous chat on the part of Kate and I know you will all get so much out of it.Ā
We cover:Ā
-The signs of love addictionĀ
-Kateās story
-How the media and those around us perpetuate unhealthy dating behaviorsĀ
-The impacts of love addiction
-Recovering from love addictionĀ
-Finding and keeping TRUE intimacyĀ
Resources from todayās episode:Ā
Codependent No More: Melody Beattie
Codependent No More Workbook: Melody Beattie
The Language of Letting Go Daily MeditationsĀ
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Lindsay C. Gibson
Facing Love Addiction: Pia MelodyĀ
**Follow Kateās work and learn about her restorative therapy work. It is great for those healing from a breakup.Ā
Visit her website here: restoryatherapy.com
And check out her great podcast here: aboutfacepodcast.com
Affirmations from todayās episode:Ā
I take care of myself.
I define and enforce healthy boundaries.
I am in touch with what is going on right now, including how I feel about it.
I accept 100 percent responsibility for my own happiness, security, and other needs (which means I know how to ask for appropriate support).
I recognize and celebrate my strengths, while remaining humble about my weaknesses.
Connect with me!
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
IG: breakupspodcast
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
šLiving a remarkable lifeā¦solo (BONUS!!) š
My favorite co-hosted episode ever! Want a look inside the solo movement and how an entire community of people are living their best life without the end goal of having a relationship? Push play!Ā
Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.
I am honored to drop this cross-dropped episode with someone who is no less than a hero of mine, Dr. Peter McGraw. Dr. McGraw is a thought leader and one of the people paving the way for the solo community.Ā
Not sure what the solo community is? Tune in an get educated :)Ā
Go show Peter some podcast love! Check out his website, PeterMcGraw.org
*Please also follow his podcast: Solo: The single personās guide to a remarkable life - wherever you listen to podcasts.Ā
Connect with me!
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
IG: @breakupspodcast
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
šAm I undatable? (183) š
Do you feel like you strike out over and over again? Do you feel that there is something about you that makes it hard for you to connec with people? Do you wonder if you are doomed to be alone?Ā
Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.
Do you feel insecure about your looks? Do you feel insecure about your quirks?
Today Brian Dunn and I are talking about what makes people feel āundatableā and what ANYONE who feels this way can to turn this around and get out there with *confidence* and swagger.Ā
We discuss:Ā
-What makes some people feel unattractive or undatable -Our personal stories with limiting beliefs-Common limiting beliefs that keep people stuck in dating-Common areas where people feel self-conscious or insecure-Breaking patterns-Geting what you want out of dating-Confidence building tips
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Connect with me!
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Quotes from this episode:Ā
āWant confidence? Set small goals and keep promises to yourself.ā -Brian Dunn
āFeeling secure enough to go out into the wild on your own is a sure-fire way to build confidence.ā -Janice Formichella
āSmiling at people not only builds your confidence, it is very magnetic.ā -Janice Formichella
āTalking to a stranger and prove to yourself that it didnāt blow up in your face.ā -Brian Dunn
āIf you donāt know what you want, itās easy to keep repeating the same patterns and accepting anything that comes your way.ā -Janice Formichella
āAttachment styles are not encoded on us.ā -Janice Formichella
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
182: šHolidays after a breakup š
Yikes! The first holidays after a breakup - memories, triggers, hope, not-so-much-hope, and everything in between.Ā
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It is also an opportunity to really make your breakup and your no-contact commitment STICK.Ā
This episode is about how to do it. Iāve got four tips to help you survive this tricky time. In this episode I talk about:Ā
-What to do about friends and familyĀ
-What to do if your exās family reaches out to you
-Gifts you meant to give to your ex
-Dealing with memories of your ex
-Avoiding pesky questions from family about your ex
-AND MORE!
Quotes from this episode:Ā
āAllow yourself the gift of not thinking too much about your ex. The holidays only come once a year. Let yourself enjoy it even if your heart is still healing.ā
ā Imagine how great it will feel to look back on this holiday season and remember not your ex but all of the things from this year that had nothing to do with them.āĀ
āWhen you put yourself first everything else falls into place.ā
āWhen we are trying to go no contact or really put our ex behind us it is about creating as much space with the person as we can. Talking with their parents is not creating more space, it is closing the gap.ā
āDonāt let your ex invade your phone by texting with them. Donāt let it be used as a source of temptation. Let the holidays be a time when you really make no-contact stick by not having one sliver of contact with this person.āĀ Ā
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
š”Flings! š” (180)
Flings can be a fun way to get back out there after a breakup, have an adventure, learn about ourselves and create memories. Iāve had some I remember fondly and so has my amazing guest co-host Julie Demsey.Ā
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Today we are talking about all things flings :) We cover:Ā
-How/why flings can be GREAT
-Our HOT fling stories
-Ways to avoid catching the feels
-Safety measures to take
Quotes from this episode:Ā
āFlings help us stay present in the moment.ā
āWhatās your flavor of fling?ā
āThereās not wrong way, thereās only your way.āĀ
Visit JulieĀ JulieDemsey.com and on IG at JulieDemsey
šGet her book, FOUND Swiping right on me to find love on Amazon here.Ā
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
š¶šBreakup? Walk it off! (179) š¶š
Want to know one of the simplest tools for healing that is RIGHT at your fingertips?Ā
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Itās walking.Ā
Donāt believe me? Push play, baby, and start healing today.Ā
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AND/OR JaniceFormichella
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
178: āļøMorning affirmations for your breakup āļø
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Breakup? Are the mornings a bit rough for you? One way to make them easier is to select an affirmation or two to set the stage for your day.Ā
In todayās mini-episode I am sharing a track with 11 of my favorite morning affirmations.Ā
The more positive you can make your mornings the better your day, week, and month will be.Ā
Remember - youāve got this. And Iāve got your back.Ā
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
BONUS šStop Victim Blaming š
TRIGGER WARNING: Victim blaming, sexual assault, domestic violenceĀ
In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month I am re-dropping a VERY important episode that I did last year with one of my closest friends and fellow survivor Christine Lalonde on the ongoing abuse that is *victim blaming.ā
Christine is a powerful advocate for survivors and a great content creator. Please go follow her now: fiftyshadesof_bullshit
Victim blaming needs to stop. As part of the Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On commitment to Domestic Violence Awareness Month I am partnering up with my good friend Christine to talk about the victim blaming that we have experienced, the impacts it had on our life, and how YOU can become part of the solution instead of the problem.Ā
šTake a stand! Please share this episode on social media this month to help raise awareness about the impacts of victim blaming.Ā
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Main points from this episode:Ā
-WHAT is victim blaming?
-The impacts of victim blaming - both long term and short term
-Our personal experiences with victim blamingĀ
-How victim blaming *perpetuates* domestic violence and sexual assaultĀ
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
š Domestic Violence Awareness w/ Ruth Glenn, NCADV (bonus) š
Trigger warning: gun violence, stalking, partner violence, suicide
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. To begin to close things out I am sharing a conversation I had in 2021 with Ruth Glenn, President of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Ruth's story is one of survival, inspiration, and information for us all to use and share.Ā
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Domestic violence is a prevalent and misunderstood issue impacting individuals and families in every community in this country. It is estimated that nearly 20 people per minute are being physically abused in the United States, with life-altering non-physical violence just as common but less recognized.Ā
Yet as pervasive an issue as it is, there are myths and misunderstandings that make things even less safe for victims and survivors. In this re-drop Ruth and I share:
-Her story of being abused by her husband
-Why āwhy didnāt you leave??ā misses the point and puts the blame on the abused person
-How you can provide hope and support to someone in your life who may be being abused
-How to recognize abuse in your relationship
-How to be an advocate for victims and survivors
Plus: how to get involved with the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and join the movement against intimate partner violence.Ā
The NCADV is 100% reliant on grassroots support and donations, not funded by government grants. Please visit them today at https://ncadv.org/ to learn about the various ways to get involved.Ā
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
ā Abusive relationship: what I learned ā (178)
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence please take note of the following resources:
America: 800-799-3224
Eurpoe: 116 016
Australia: 1800 737 732
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Did you know that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month? Today, I am going to tell a portion of my story about being in a physically and mentally violent relationship and what I learned from coming out on the other side.
I discuss:
The signs of toxic people and abusive relationships
My story in a nutshell
8 lessons I learned as part of my recovery
Quotes from todayās episode:
āAll stories are as unique as the people who tell them.ā
āYour relationship may be toxic if itās characterized by behaviors that make you feel unhappy, including disrespect, dishonesty, controlling behaviors, or a lack of support.ā -Healthline
āI had very, very limited experience with what a healthy relationship looked like. In many ways, I didnāt know any better. I give myself grace for that.ā
āLove bombing is an emotional manipulation method that often points to the beginning of an unhealthy, toxic, or abusive relationship. Someone who uses this tactic usually does so to quickly gain the favor of a potential partner so they can more quickly and easily control them. Those who love bomb their potential partners often display narcissistic traits.ā -WebMD
āThe deeper you get, the harder it iw to think objectively.ā
āIt is a huge, HUGE red flag when someone pressures you to move in early in the relationship. This demand on the level of commitment so early is not only a red flag but a deal breaker.ā
āAbusers are sly, sleek, calculated people who ease their way into your life in ways that seem normal and sweet at first.ā
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." Maya Angelo
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
šØāā¤ļøāšØš©āā¤ļøāšāšØ Difficult conversations - 177 šØāā¤ļøāšØš©āā¤ļøāšāšØ
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Conversations can either be a portal to greater intimacy or a portal to separation and resentment. Today Brian Dunn and I are sharing a method to use in your relationships when difficult issues come up as well as our own stories about learning to communicate better as we date and grow close to our partners.Ā
We discuss:Ā
-The ATTUNE method of speaking and listening inside of your relationship
-The difference between intention and impact in conflicts
-How to be an active listener
-Structuring things in your week to connect via conversations
-Journaling exercises to help you uncover the root of your triggers
-And more!Ā
Please go show Brian some podcast love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn
Quotes from todayās episode:
āEmbody and lead by example with more empathy, understanding, and compassion.ā -Brian Dunn
āBe a good apologizer.ā -Janice Formichella
āAn apology may be a good band-aid for a wound but if you donāt address the wound it will keep festering and you can make it worse.ā -Brian Dunn
āThink of your last big relationship and three big fights that you had - how did you show up?ā -Janice Formichella
Continue to up-level your communication game! Check out these resources:Ā
Seven Principles for Making Marriage WorkĀ
Episodes for further learning:Ā
-156: Nonviolent communication 101
-152: Maslowās hierarchy of needs in dating and relationships
139: past trauma, new relationships
129: Identifying relationship patterns after a breakup
-161: People pleasingĀ
Want to connect?
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
176: šWhat does it mean to move on? š
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How will I know I have moved on? How will I know I am ready to date again? These are questions I hear all of the time. āMoving onā is a fairly abstract concept, so today I am giving you som measurable benchmarks to monitor your progress.
I share:Ā
-Why it is important to know what āmoving onā looks like
-How not fully moving on from a breakup prevents us from enjoying the momentĀ
-My stages of breakup grief
-The importance of acceptance
-What your day will look like once you move on from your breakup
-How to know if youāre ready to date again
-Will you still think about your ex after youāve moved on?Ā
Quotes:Ā
āWhen you stop dwelling on regret and instead become grateful for the lessons you have reached an important benchmark on the moving on journey.ā
āYou deserve to enjoy the moment and to let joy grow in your life. When you feel easily triggered by memories of your ex it is very hard to do this.āĀ
āIn my book, the no contact rule includes any space that your ex has in your phone, including pictures, texts, and yes, social media.ā
āThere is a period of time after a breakup that you will likely find it hard to see into the future. This is okay.ā
āDating from a place of having āmoved onā alsbolutely means not going on dates or chatting with people and comparing them to your ex. Nothing good can come of this and it means you have a strong attachment to the good days of your last relationship still.āĀ
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āWe all heal at our own pace.ā
I know you can do it :)Ā
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
175: š¬I feel triggeredā¦š¬
Ah triggersā¦they come up when we least expect them to, and we often react so quickly that it can cause ruptures in our relationships. Preventing these ruptures is an intentional, ongoing practice.
Inside of a healthy, committed relationship both people can play a part in working through it. But it is our personal responsibility to make that happen.
Welcome back to the show Brian Dunn! This week we are talking about:
-The definition of a ātriggerā
-What happens when we feel triggered
-How our past relationships affect what we respond to
-What can happen in a relationship when triggers go un-addressed
-The part that each person in a relationship plays in addressing and preventing future rifts that are caused due to past shit
Please go show Brian some podcast love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn
Quotes from the episode:
āGet specific. Saying you āfelt triggeredā does not describe your experience.ā
āIf someone has ātriggersā and is not working to resolved them, you do have the option to consider if it is something you want to take on.ā
āBoth perspectives can be true.ā
āIt is not about whoās right and whoās wrong. Itās about āWe have this problem. How can we fix it together?āā
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IG: @breakupspodcast and @janiceformichella
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
174: š§ How to cope š§
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Breakup? Want to know how to cope? Iāve got you.Ā
Today I am sharing five tips/practices/strategies for coping when your heart is so broken that you can barely think straight.
Remember - it is okay and healthy to set your grief aside while you allow your system to adjust to your new reality. This episode will give you ideas on how to do it.Ā
Quotes:Ā
āIt is okay to have bad days and hard moments during a breakup.āĀ
āThere is a crucial grieving process to any breakup, have faith that it is temporary, and donāt spiral.ā
āAs much as we may try to put on a brave face, interactions with others can be really hard when we are hurting so much.ā
āTime does do a lot to help a person heal. But so does intention and showing up for yourself.ā
āRemember, it is always, always better to be single than in a relationship that isnāt working.ā
Episodes for more support:Ā
164: Breakup healing routines
159: How to stop thinking about your ex
157: Breakup? Youāll get through this. Hereās why.Ā
And please go look between episode 156 and 154 for a bonus affirmations track that you can play on your hard days.Ā
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IG: @breakupspodcastĀ
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____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
173: šŖA tough love alert for your breakup and dating patterns! šŖ
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Feeling stuck in your breakup or dating journey? It may be time to take a super close look at whatās not working and consider new ways of doing things. This week youāve got two coaches here to lay it all out for you.Ā
Buckle up!Ā
We want you to be happy! So weāre here to point out your blindspots and help you to uncover where you may be able to make changes and TURN YOUR HEALING and DATING JOURNEY AROUND.Ā
Mentioned in this episode:Ā
165: Breakup? Find your happy place
171: The dating app mindset
Show Lena some podcast love! Please go follow her now and ask her about coaching on IG at HaveMoreLove
Quotes from this episode:Ā
āWhat someone did to hurt you isnāt your fault but the pattern is your to take responsibility for.āĀ
āIf your life were a science experiment you would be the only constant.ā
āDo not compromise yourself for the sake of the relationship.ā
āMaybe itās not about āWHO do I date..?ā itās about āHOW do I date?āā
āYou donāt always get what you deserve but you do often get what you expect.ā
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
172: š§A letter to your exā¦ š§
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Want to get over your breakup?
Do you have things left unsaid?Ā
Do you feel angry?Ā
Are you spinning and staying stuck?Ā
It may be time to tell your ex how you feel - energetically. Letter writing can help.Ā
Today I am talking about one of my favorite healing exercises: the handwritten letter to the ex.Ā
I cover:Ā
-Why letter writing is therapeutic-Why not sending it is the best way to move on-How writing a letter to your ex helps with closure-The practical aspects of writing a letter to your ex that you will never send-Anger and letter writing
Processing a breakup takes a lot of intention. This exercise can help you to heal and gain closure while leaving your ex out of the equation. You will gain learn to emotionally support yourself and blow off some major steam.Ā
Episodes for extra learning:
168: 5 tips for no-contact success
165: Breakup? Find your happy place.Ā
159: How to stop thinking about your exĀ
29: Rituals for breakupsĀ
Good luck!
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
Want to pay attention to red flags? Slow down! (Holiday re-post)
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Today I am re-posting one of my favorite episodes from the first year of the podcast so that I can focus on my long holiday :) I hope you'll learn from and like it.
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
171: š¤³The dating app mindset š¤³
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Dating apps are a great place to meet people and even find long-lasting love. But as with most things in life, your success depends on your mindset. Todayās roundtable discussion is a powerhouse of coaches and mindfulness experts who are here to help you adjust your thinking and get results on the apps.Ā
Barry, Julie, and I discuss:Ā
-How breakups can impact our dating app mindset
-Why the apps are great
-Seven different mindsets to set yourself up for a pleasurable time meeting people onlineĀ
Connect with Barry and Julie!Ā
Visit Barry at BarrySelby.com and on IG at TheRealBarrySelby
Visit JulieĀ JulieDemsey.com and on IG at JulieDemsey
šGet her book, FOUND Swiping right on me to find love on Amazon here.Ā
Want support for your breakup?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
IG: @breakupsodcast
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
170: ā¤ļøMy Breakup Story: Emma ā¤ļø
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Todayās chat is a true inspiration. I am speaking with former client Emma about her journey to leave a toxic cycle she had with a man and to truly come to love herself and use her breakup as a catalyst to create a new beginning in life. This is my goal with all of my clients, to take shit and spin into into gold.Ā
I want you to pay attention to:Ā
-Emmaās realization that the pattern she was in with her ex was predictable and far from romantic
-How little emotion she now feels about the person she once sacrificed so much for
-How thankful she is for the lessons she learned from her breakup
-How SEXY her life is now
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
169: š¤ Am I ready for a relationship? š¤
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It can be hard to know if you are prepared to have a healthy relationship, especially after a breakup. It can also be hard to know if a relationship is right for you. Today I am chatting with relationship educator Christina Morelli about learning about yourself and the people you are dating before making a commitment. We chat about:Ā
The neuroscience in the early days of a relationship
Conversations with yourself that will help you determine if you are ready to date
Five key chats to have with someone to determine compatibilityĀ
How to know if you are over your ex enough to date again
And more!Ā
Please show Christina some podcast love You can find her at Christine Morelli.com and on all social media platforms:Ā
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Episodes mentioned for further learning:Ā
156: Preventing breakups with Non-Violent CommunicationĀ
152: Maslowās Hierarchy of Needs in dating and relationships
128: Rediscovering yourself after a breakup
50: Am I ready to date again?Ā
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
IG: @breakupspodcastĀ
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Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
š No contact affirmations (bonus resource!) š
Affirmations for no contact. These affirmations are helpful when working to cut off contact with an ex and call in the abundance and peace that awaits you. I encourage you to listen once a day if this is something you are struggling with right now. I will read each twice, giving you time in between to say each to yourself.Ā
Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.
168: šµ The no-contact rule: 5 tips for success šµ
I believe in no-contact! AND I also know how hard it is. It is challenging for almost everyone and for different reasons. Regardless of why you find it difficult, I have FIVE tips to help you make it a success. Get a pen and paper! Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to find ONE thing from todayās episode to apply to your no-contact journey.
More episodes to help:
160: The psychology of breakups
159: How to stop thinking about your ex
115: My ex texted. Should I reply?
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
IG: @breakupspodcast
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.
____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
167: šTalking about you breakup š
Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.
Yeahā¦itās bound to come up ā but how do you deal with it? Talking about your breakup can be super tricky. It can also help or hurt. Today I am taking a deep dive into the inās and outās, the doās and donāts, and the how-toās when it comes to communicating about the fact that your relationship has just blown up. And I'm doing it with one of my favorite gal pals. We cover:Ā
-The reasons people may keep things to themselves
-The differences between talking about being ādumpedā compared to being the ābreaker upperāĀ
-How to ask for support
-What definitely not to do when talking about your breakup
-How to lean on your friends without leaning too much
-How to talk about your breakup in a way that leaves you feeling that you are WINNING the breakupĀ
Mentioned on this episode:Ā
Talking to your kids about your breakupĀ
The way you breakup is the way youā¦
***Show Lena some podcast love! Please go follow her now on IG at HaveMoreLove
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
IG: @breakupspodcastĀ
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
166: šŗļø Your post-breakup vacation šŗļø
Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.
Solo travel has a TON of benefits, especially after a breakup. Today I am joined by solo travel enthusiast Kelly Saavedra to talk about our recent post-breakup adventures, how it helps with healing a broken heart, and HOW to DO IT. Plus-advice on dealing with the naysayers.Ā
**Please** go show Kelly some podcast love! Follow her on IG at kellyannexplores
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
IG: @breakupspodcastĀ
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
165: š Breakup? Find your happy place š
Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.
A breakup can make us feel so powerless. We feel things that we canāt necessarily control. What to do? How about finding your HAPPY PLACE?
Today I discuss:Ā
-Why the concept of the happy place is useful for breakup healing.Ā
-The meaning of touchstone/happy place
-The emotional scale
-Ten of my own touchstones/happy places
-How you can discover your happy place to heal from your breakupĀ
And of course, MORE š
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
164: ā°Breakup healing and routines ā°
Breakup? Feeling DISCOMBOBULATED? Breakup brain and grief can cause us to feel so out of sorts, but developing new routines and habits can help turn things around. Plus - it will make you feel like a badass.Ā
Today I discuss:Ā
-Why routines are important as tools to recover from breakups
-The general health benefits of routines
-Creating a powerful morning routine that will directly help with your breakup
-And other daily routines and how to stick to them
Bonus: what to do on those hard days when you donāt feel like doing anything.Ā
Iāve got you!Ā
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
IG: @breakupspodcastĀ
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
163: š MY recent breakup lessons š
Breakups happen to all of us - breakup coaches included. This week I am talking about things I have recently been reminded of about the process of a breakup and what I think you can learn from my heartbreak as well.Ā
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
IG: @breakupspodcastĀ
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
162: šSexual aftercare for expanded intimacy š
We all know about sexual foreplay, but what about after-play? This week I am taking a juicy deep-dive into the topic of sexual aftercare with friend and sex educator Steve Oskard. We discuss:Ā
-Why aftercare is important for couples
-How aftercare can expand intimacy and trust
-Ways to ask for what you desire after sex
-Ideas for sharing aftercare
-The post-sex blues
-And more
šWant to work with Steve to improve your possibilities for pleasure? Email him directly at steve@theremedyonline.com
You can also find Steve on IG at steve_oskard
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
IG: @breakupspodcastĀ
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
161: š¤·People pleasing š¤·
Are you living your most joyful life, or adjusting yourself to fit the joyful life of someone else? People pleasing can leave us numb to our desires AND to the things that donāt serve us. Weāve been there! Today I welcome back good friend and fellow coach Jessie Maree for a deep dive into people pleasing. We discuss:Ā
-Our personal histories with people pleasing
-The difference between people pleasing and co-dependence
-How it prevents us from having flourishing relationships
-Signs that we may be people pleasing
-How to start to CHOOSE YOU
Plus a few affirmations and a dash of Mexican food :)Ā
ššPlease go show Jessie some Ex-Philes love! Follow her on IG at jessiemareeco
And check out her website https://www.jessiemaree.com/.Ā
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
IG: @breakupspodcastĀ
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
160: šµāš« The psychology of breakups šµāš«
Breakups can really mess with the mind, but why? If you are struggling to put your breakup or ex behind you I want you to know that it is so normal and almost healthy, because the human brain is designed to process it in a way that really sucks. Today I share some of my research on the topic, along with what you can do about it.Ā
Iāve got you!
Mentioned in this episode:Ā
Episode 157: ā¤ļøāBreakup? Youāll get through this. Hereās why. ā¤ļøā
Episode 13: How to ask for help after a breakupĀ
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
IG: @breakupspodcastĀ
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
159: š§ How to STOP thinking about your ex š§
A breakup unsettles us. It is a shock to our system that leaves us with racing and obsessive thoughts. But the good news is, we can gain control over our thoughts and use this new skill to change our lives. Today I am joined by certified hypnotherapist and mindset coach Julie Demsey to talk about practical and scientific ways to STOP THINKING ABOUT YOUR EX.Ā
You got this! And we got you.Ā
Please go show Julie some podcast love!Ā
Visit her website to learn about her work at JulieDemsey.com
Get her book, FOUND Swiping right on me to find love on Amazon here.Ā
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
IG: @breakupspodcastĀ
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
158: šForeplay for everyone! š
Todayās episode is HOT, HOT, HOT! Buckle up, but be ready to take notes as well.Ā
Foreplay is the oft-underappreciated part of sex and intimacy, but Steve and I believe that means we are missing out on SO many opportunities for pleasure, with ourselves and others. Today we discuss:Ā
-WHAT foreplay is
-How foreplay applies to our self-pleasure routines
-The MANY ways that foreplay benefits couples
-How foreplay builds trust with ourselves and others
-HOW to do itā¦
šWant to work with Steve to improve your possibilities for pleasure? Email him directly at steve@theremedyonline.com
You can also find Steve on IG at steve_oskard
Want to connect?
Email: breakupspodcast@gmail.com
IG: @breakupspodcastĀ
Love Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
____________________________________________________________________________
Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
157: ā¤ļøāBreakup? Youāll get through this. Hereās why. ā¤ļøā
The pain of a broken heart is temporary. If you are struggling with a broken heart right now, I want you to know that you WILL get through this. From science to things that are probably in your blind spot right now, today I break down all of the proof that I have that brighter days are ahead.Ā
Want to connect?
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Love Ex-Philes? Let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts.Ā
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The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.