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The Ex-Philes: Break-ups, Broken Hearts and Moving On

The Ex-Philes: Break-ups, Broken Hearts and Moving On

By Clair Lofthouse & Janice Formichella
Getting over a breakup? You’re in the right place! Ex-Philes is a weekly podcast all about healing a broken heart, building your confidence, and move forward in an empowered way. And, we know what it’s like. Not only are we both qualified life coaches, but we also have experiences with break-ups that will make you laugh, cry, and get inspired on your healing journey. We love to talk! Our favorite topics include healing from heartbreak, dating, ghosting, no contact, toxic relationships, communication, self-help, attachment styles and more.

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62. High-Conflict Coparenting with Katie

The Ex-Philes: Break-ups, Broken Hearts and Moving On

62. High-Conflict Coparenting with Katie

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62. High-Conflict Coparenting with Katie
There are a lot of moving parts to co-parenting. And when you are co-parenting with an ex that you don’t get along with, it can quickly become overwhelming for everyone involved. But there ARE ways to make it work, set a good example for your children, AND maintain your sanity. We are so pleased to welcome Co-Parenting Peacefully founder Katie Davie to Ex-Philes. Katie is a co-parenting coach who specializes in providing one-on-one support to individuals who want to find a solution to a co-parenting situation that isn’t working for them. She offers really practical tips and ways of thinking about your own behavior that can be game changers for your entire family. Some of what we cover: -how to limit contact with your co-parent -what are appropriate boundaries to set with your co-parent -what a parental agreement is and why everyone needs one -what to do when you are the only one trying to make things peaceful -How to make sure your kids don’t get caught up in the conflict This is a great episode for anyone who has to have contact with their ex. Katie is constantly dropping truth bombs on her awesome Instagram account, CoparentingPeacefully. To learn about what she is offering parenting visit her website at Coparentingpeacefully.com  What did you think of Katie's approach? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
50:41
September 14, 2021
61. I Have a Broken Picker!
🤷‍♀️🤷🏽🤦🏾‍♀️ Do you feel like you can’t quite get it right when it comes to selecting someone to go the distance with? Today’s episode is for you! Yeah, some of us may suffer from a broken picker. And it can cause us a bunch of grief! In today’s episode the Ex-Philes gals cover: -WHY some of us end up with a broken picker -WHAT it means to have a broken picker and WHAT it looks like -VERY personal stories and shares from Janice and Clair about the state of their pickers -HOW you can repair your broken picker Plus another edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic, or Empowering? More Ex-Philes episodes to help you strengthen your picker: Ep. 35: Chemistry vs Compatibility Ep. 45: Slow down! With Janice Ep. 49: Love Them But Let Them Go with Clair Want to get to know us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
59:03
September 7, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 10: Choose your own ending
⭐️Today’s affirmation:  I choose my experience. ⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. You’ve made it to day 10! YOU. ARE. AMAZING. Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
02:20
September 1, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 9: In the driver’s seat
⭐️Today’s affirmation: The universe is conspiring in my favor. ⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 9: Ep. 38: Loneliness and Breakups with Janice Bonus: Positive Affirmations for No Contact Ep. 29: Let’s Talk Rituals Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:52
August 31, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 8: Let it go
⭐️Today’s affirmation: I have the ability to release these emotions.⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 8: Ep. 26: Journaling with Janice Ep. 18: How to process emotions with Clair Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
02:21
August 30, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 7: Healing isn’t linear
⭐️Today’s affirmation: I see blessings all around me⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 7: Ep. 23: The healing power of crying Ep. 51: Words of Support for Your Breakup with Janice Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:52
August 29, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 6: Give yourself closure
⭐️Today’s affirmation: I have all the closure I need. I am the only one with the power to give myself closure.⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 6: Ep. 5: Got closure? Ep. 17: Why do I only think about the good times? Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
02:60
August 28, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 5: Design your life
⭐️Today’s affirmation: I am strong and each day I learn from this experience.⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 5: Ep. 25: The power of positive affirmations Bonus resource 1: Affirmations for your breakup Ep. 40: Unfinished Business with Clair Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
02:12
August 27, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 4: The next chapter of your life
⭐️Today’s affirmation: I am ready for the next chapter of my life. I am ready to become my new self.⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 4: Ep. 13: How to ask for help after a breakup Ep. 56: Was it a Waste of Time?
02:18
August 26, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 3: Embrace your future
⭐️Today’s affirmation: Today I will make a firm decision to walk away from what doesn’t serve me and towards the things that do.⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 3: Ep. 15: 10 breakup commandments Ep. 40: Unfinished Business with Clair Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
02:26
August 25, 2021
10 Day No Contact Challenge Day 2: Choose YOU
⭐️Today’s affirmation: These feelings will pass. It will get better.⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 2: Ep. 11: Social media after a breakup Ep. 42: Breakup Brain Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
03:34
August 24, 2021
10-Day No Contact Challenge Day 1: Welcome
⭐️Today’s affirmation: I love myself and make myself a priority⭐️ Thank you for joining the Ex-Philes 10-Day No-Contact Challenge. You have made a powerful commitment to yourself and your future. We are honored that you have chosen us to support you on your healing journey. For even more support please join our Facebook page at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On to talk about your experience or learn about coaching support. More resources for day 1: Episode 2: No Contact Ep. 31: The five best things we did after a breakup Love the challenge? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
02:34
August 23, 2021
60. I'm Still In Love With My Ex
❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 Breakups are opportunities for a new beginning. And that doesn’t mean that your feelings for the person disappear. Having feelings of love for a person you are no longer with is normal, natural, and even a part of what makes us human. We know how painful this breakup dynamic can be. We really do. Our goal with this episode is to provide insight, words of advice, a bit of hope, and above all, support. Remember: this is temporary. And we’ve got your back. More resources to help you heal: Ep. 19: Will I ever love like that again? Ep. 29: Let’s Talk Rituals Ep. 49: Love Them But Let Them Go with Clair And for a great cord-cutting episode check out Clair’s cord cutting meditation on Insight Timer: https://insig.ht/8MDwuOkrNib Cord Cutting Meditation  Did this episode help you on your healing journey? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
53:02
August 17, 2021
59. They Just Want To Be Friends
Ah friendship. It’s a beautiful concept, but it can sure get tricky when it comes to matters of the heart, right? Well you know we’ve got your back so this week we are doing a friendship and love tutorial. We discuss: -When your ex wants to stay friends -Unrequited love -Friends with benefits -Staying friends with someone you have the feels for -Staying friends with someone who has feelings for you Plus, Clair’s love of stick-shift cars and why the term “the friend zone” is sexist BS. AND - another edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic or Empowering? What song do you think we will analyze this time? It is always okay to look after your heart. This includes platonic relationships. Today’s episode will give you some great tools to make sure you always put yourself first.  Want to learn how to date without attachment? Check out episode 54: Buddhism in dating and breakups. Interested in Messy Path, the podcast we recommend in this episode? Check them out here or wherever you listen to podcasts. What would you like us to cover on Ex-Philes? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
46:25
August 10, 2021
58. Dating App Profile Pics! With Saskia Nelson
📸📸 Using a dating app is a lot about making a good impression so that you attract the people who will most want to connect with the REAL YOU. Matches and connections on apps only start after people swipe “YES,” so great photos will make sure that your brilliance is shining for potential matches to see. When we made a connection with Saskia Nelson, founder of the dating profile pic agency Hey Saturday, we jumped at the chance to have her tell us all about how to pick the best photos for your profile. Hint, hint - it pays to be intentional about them. Hey Saturday is an award-winning agency and Saskia has the knowledge to back it up. You will be amazed at how specific we get with our questions about profile pics without her skipping a beat. Want to know the most common mistake that men make with their dating app pics? Or the types of pics that get the most swipes? How old is too old for pics to be used? Or how to communicate your interests through a photo? Tune in! Book your Hey Saturday shoot today! They are fun, useful, and super affordable. EMAIL TO LET THEM KNOW YOU HEARD ABOUT THEM FROM EX-PHILES for 10% off your shoot! Head to Hey Saturday to schedule. And make sure to follow them on Instagram @HeySaturday for great info on creating great dating app photos. What episode topics would help you on your dating journey? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:08:01
August 5, 2021
57. The Dating App Mindset
Are you using dating apps while also saying how hard it is to meet people on them? Are you trying to get back out there after healing from a breakup and feeling like it’s slim pickings? The problem might be with your mindset! We want you to have FUN dating and to manifest the relationships you desire. And we see a lot of people trapped in some mindset patterns that keep them having a LAME time and even creating some self-fulfilling prophecies. Let’s do something about it! If you are dating or planning to date soon - click play. Here’s what we have in store for you: -why you might keep going on the apps even though you think it sucks -why dating apps are great for the jaded daters out there -the most common thought patterns that keep people stuck in unfulfilling online dating lives -the top things you need to know about using apps that will help you set positive and realistic expectations Want to have fun out there? Start with this fun chat. We might lose our train of thought a couple of times as we go along, but that’s how you know we are keeping it real and keeping it casual (just like you might want to do on the apps!). Make sure to get to the end of this zanny Ex-Philes episode before you start swiping again. Remember - we’ve got your backs! Interested in Messy Path, the podcast we recommend in this episode? Check them out here or wherever you listen to podcasts. Do you think that these are some dating tips that you can apply to your dating life? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:04:29
August 3, 2021
56. He’s Just Not That Into You - July Happy Hour
🥂🥂🥂 Pour a summer cocktail and settle in for this month’s happy hour episode! This time we take a major deep dive into another classic, and ten-year-old, romcom. He’s Just Not That Into You is a great movie for two breakup coaches to get tipsy and talk trash about. And this time - we do it in person - yay!  If you are struggling with a breakup and want a fun distraction this weekend - this episode is for you!  Some highlights:  -What we loved about it  -What we thought was weird, outdated, and cringy  -How sexy Ben Affleck is in this film  -Our favorite quotes from the film  -What "beef and broccoli" really means  -Whether or not you should take your leftovers with you on a first, second, or third date  Is there a movie you would like to have us analyze while we drink? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
02:03:59
July 31, 2021
55. Was it a Waste of Time?
Breakups can often come with a lot of sadness over losing love, but also sadness over the time spent on the relationship. This sadness can turn into regret and feeling as though you have “wasted” the time with the person. Not to mention that this isn’t the way you wanted your life to go, right? We REALLY get it. We’ve been there. We’ve supported others who have been there and we have an approach to this question that is sure to help. This episode has two parts: First - we will explore alternative ways of looking at the timeline of life and love and how to be thankful for the time spent, regardless of how bad the breakup was. Second - it’s pen and paper time! You know we love our tips. We give several exercises and coping suggestions if you are struggling with this thought right now. Plus: another edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic or Empowering? Interested in Messy Path, the podcast we recommend in this episode? Check them out here or wherever you listen to podcasts. Did you find this helpful? Is there another breakup bummer that you’d like us to explore on the show? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
43:04
July 27, 2021
55. Dating After Divorce with Jade
❤️ Dating again after a divorce can come with its own set of mindset challenges and a lot of questions about how to put your best foot forward. This is especially true if it has been a long time since you have been “out there.” Look no further. In this edition of our guest interview series, we are joined by dating coach and matchmaker Jade Bianca of Dating After Divorce to talk about how to OPTIMIZE dating apps to attract exactly what you are looking for at this stage of your journey. Jade is passionate about seeing people thrive and date confidently after divorce. She brought some great information to the chat. We covered: ✔️The number ONE thing that men do that hurts their chances of making connections online ✔️Overcoming negative mindsets around dating for the first time in a while ✔️How to use your knowledge of your “type” to attract a great partner ✔️Dating “rules” that keep some women stuck Make sure to tune in if you are ready to up your game and LOVE dating, no matter how rusty you feel. ❌SPECIAL OFFER FOR EX-PHILES listeners! Want to speak with Jade about her matchmaking or coaching support? Find her at www.datingafterdivorce.com. Use code #exphiles for 10% off any service. Join her matchmaking database for free to be potentially matched with a client at no cost HERE.  Other places to find Jade and get access to her wisdom: Instagram: @dating_after_div Facebook: @datingafterdiv Twitter: @after_divorce Did you find this helpful? What else would you like to know about your dating journey? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:15:25
July 22, 2021
54. Buddhism in Dating and Breakups
Have you ever thought of using Buddhist principles and practices in your dating life? Today’s enlightened discussion is all about how some core tenants of the faith can help you accept a breakup and approach dating in a whole new way. Some of what we cover in the episode: -The philosophy of non-attachment and how it helps you be magnetic as a dater -How living in the moment can help you have the most fun while dating -How to approach dating without expectations -Buddhist principles to help you be a great partner -How the philosophy of impermanence can help you heal a broken heart -The Four Noble Truths of Dating -And MORE! What do you think of our approach? Leave us a review on Apple podcasts! Send us a screenshot and we will send you an Ex-Philes sticker in the mail! And would you like to check out our podcast recommendation, Messy Path? Get their latest episode here.  Want to connect with us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
52:34
July 20, 2021
53. Changing Unhealthy Relationship Patterns with Clair
You're not doomed to repeating the same unhealthy relationship patterns! On this solo episode, Clair talks about how unconscious bias is formed, how our subconscious beliefs change how we perceive the world, how that leads to repeating patterns in relationships, her own unhealthy relationship patterns and her tips for changing unhealthy relationship patterns. Did you love this episode? Leave us a review on Apple podcasts! Send us a screenshot and we will send you an Ex-Philes sticker in the mail! Want to connect with us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
33:58
July 15, 2021
52. Rescuer Syndrome
Have you ever put solving someone else’s problems ahead of your own needs or well-being? Or been in a relationship that had a significant focus on the other person’s struggles rather than being a give and take? Today’s episode on rescuer syndrome may help you to determine if this is an ongoing pattern for you, why being the “white knight” doesn’t lead to fulfilling relationships, and how you can overcome this tendency. We can’t rescue anyone or solve their problems. Change only happens in a person’s life when they commit to it themselves. However, some of us can get caught up in the dynamic of “being there” for someone we love and taking on the responsibility of helping them out of various life crises while we slowly lose ourselves. Even if you are coming from a place of love, rescuing is not the foundation of a healthy partnership. Grab our insight and tips to help you examine this tendency and begin to welcome in more abundant and satisfying relationships -- with yourself and others. Did you love this episode? Leave us a review on Apple podcasts! Send us a screenshot and we will send you an Ex-Philes sticker in the mail! Want to connect with us more? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
44:01
July 13, 2021
51. Words of support for your breakup with Janice
Sometimes we just need someone to tell us that what we’re going through is real and that things are going to be okay, right? Today’s solo episode is just a loving pep talk from a friend who has been there and who now dedicates herself to help others hurting from a broken heart. Feeling like the sadness around your breakup is just a bit much this week? Here’s some comfort to keep you going. Want more support? Here are some episodes to help: Episode 12: How to ask for support during a breakup Episode 23: The healing benefits of crying after your breakup Episode 25: Using affirmations during your breakup Episode 26: Journaling during your breakup with Janice Episode 31: The five best things we did after a breakup Episode 47: Black Girl in Love with Herself with Trey Anthony Episode 48: Regaining confidence after a breakup Would you like to get in touch with Janice? You can find her on Instagram @Janiceformichella. You can find Clair @clairlofthouse and the podcast @exphilespodcast  And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
11:12
July 8, 2021
50. Am I Ready To Date Again?
Are you wondering when you’ll be ready to date again after your breakup? Or are you wanting to get back out there and want some tips to get started? We want you to have FUN as you date and so we’ve put together a list of ten ways to know that you are (or are not) ready to meet someone new. Dating is best done when it is intentional. So it’s really great to look at where you’re at and what role your breakup is playing in your life before you start downloading the apps. For instance: -How comfortable are you being single? -What is your motivation for dating? -What is your mindset? -Have you processed your breakup yet? Make sure you’ve thought it all through with today’s fun MOVING ON episode. Do you have a question about dating again after a breakup? Did this episode help? Send us a DM and let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
57:48
July 6, 2021
49. Love Them But Let Them Go
Can you love someone and still break up with them? In this solo episode, Clair addresses this question and shares her experience with learning to let go-- even when you're still in love. Sometimes, love isn't enough of a foundation to build a healthy relationship on. Sometimes the kindest thing for both people is to say goodbye.  Listen in for a heart-to-heart on choosing yourself, healing after heartbreak, and writing your own story.  Did this episode help? Send us a DM and let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
29:14
July 1, 2021
48. Regaining Confidence
Breakups can cause us to have a slip in confidence, whether we realize it or not. And you know what they say: confidence is the sexiest quality! So it may pay to take our crash course in post-breakup confidence as a part of your healing journey. This episode is packed with great information on becoming magnetic no matter how broken-hearted you may be after your breakup. Some of what we’ve got for you: -How the stories we tell ourselves about the breakup impact how we re-enter the dating world -How mindfulness actually helps with self-worth and how you can start to use it today. -Journal prompts to build confidence -The power of desire in building confidence -Our favorite confidence-building affirmations We know that you are amazing and we want you to know it as well! Episodes to help you continue on your confidence journey: -Episode 25: The Power of Positive Affirmations Positive Affirmations for Breakups (bonus resource after episode 25) -Episode 38: Loneliness and Breakups with Janice -Positive Affirmations for No Contact (bonus resource after episode 41) Did this episode help? Send us a DM and let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
52:25
June 29, 2021
47. Trey Anthony: Black Girl in Love (With Herself)
When Trey’s partner of four years broke up with her via text right after they moved into a new condo together, little did she know what a journey of self-love and discovery she was about to embark on. She switched gears from writing a book on how she manifested a great relationship to one on her healing journey and how she got to the place she is today. The result is Black Girl in Love (With Herself), a beautiful book that meshes practical personal growth tips with personal insight into her life and the lessons learned along the way. We loved sitting down with Trey to talk about how her surprising, devastating breakup led to her re-writing the rules of pretty much every aspect of her life. Settle in! This is an interview to be savored! Some of what’s in store: -Why her book begins with being on the bathroom floor -How she decided to fully release her ex -Her journey to seek out counseling and mental health support during the pandemic -Ways she has learned to thrive as a single woman -Insights into lessons learned about friendships -And MORE! You WANT to read Trey’s book. Grab Black Girl in Love (With Herself) here.  You can learn more about Trey and her upcoming events on her website here. And check her awesome IG account out @BlackGirlInLove  What did you think of Trey’s story? Send us a DM and let us know. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:03:40
June 24, 2021
46. Long Distance Breakup
Long-distance relationships are in a league of their own, and ending them has complications and dynamics that are much different from relationships with people you see often. With the ever-growing prevalence of online love, they are happening more often with our audience. We want you to feel supported regardless of the type of relationship you are healing from, so we’ve got some long-distance specific advice for you today. First, the breakup gurus start out with the possible pitfalls of an online or long-distance relationship and why you may want to keep them in perspective as you heal your heart. Then, we offer some practical insight for putting this breakup fully behind you so that you can begin to thrive and love. Did our advice help to heal from your long-distance love? Send us a DM and let us know. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
56:02
June 22, 2021
45. Slow down! With Janice
Janice is taking the coaching chair in today’s solo episode and speaking to your ears about why you might just want to learn how to take things slow in dating and relationships. New relationship energy is SO intoxicating and can quickly find us throwing life plans and caution out the window. But what if we told you that these feelings may be the perfect reason to gently put the brakes on rather than diving in headfirst? Well, you might be putting your future and the future of your relationship as a priority if you do. While there are exceptions, taking your time in dating is a rule of thumb Janice loves to encourage people to embrace. Why? In today’s episode, she will let you know the reasons. And if it sounds like a lot of good advice that lacks practicality, don’t worry. She also gives some tips on how to approach dating with a foot near the brake. Janice would love to connect with you if you would like coaching support around your dating life. You can find her on IG at @Janiceformichella. Or, join the Ex-Phile FB community at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  Find the show on IG at @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse. The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-indentify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
40:09
June 17, 2021
44. Should I Stay Friends with My Ex?
Should I stay friends with my ex? The question sure is a doozy and as you might expect, these breakup coaches have a lot to say about this breakup conundrum. We want you to thrive and if this is something you are struggling with, we’ve got things for you to consider, ways to approach it, when to approach it, and how we support our clients and community with whether or not to remain friends with the ex. Remember, this is real life, it’s not Friends or How I Met Your Mother. This is a decision that can impact your healing and happiness. So dive in, and see what the breakup gurus have to say about staying friends with your ex.  Do you have a burning breakup question? Send us a DM and let us know you would like us to answer it on the show. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
43:22
June 15, 2021
43. 500 Days of Summer Happy Hour
Grab a chilled glass, pour a beer, and settle in for this month’s happy hour episode. This month we welcome back friend of the show Brett McGinn of Love Fucking Sucks to chat about a movie full of relationship head-scratchers. 500 Days of Summer is full of things for three people who love talking about relationships. Do you think that we are team Summer or team Tom? You might just be surprised with our answers… We hope you have a great weekend and enjoy a bit of a distraction with our round table. Remember, we’re rooting for you! Want some cool gear to celebrate your breakup? Check out Brett's clothing line on IG at lovefuckingsucks  Do you agree with our take on 500 Days of Summer? Let us know! Or, do you have a burning breakup question to ask? Hit us up! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:31:04
June 10, 2021
42. Breakup Brain
Feeling like a hot mess after your breakup? Feeling like the “crazy ex”? You may be suffering from breakup brain. And we’ve got your back! Did you know that your IQ can lower as a result of a breakup? It can also manifest itself in physical and mental symptoms such as muscle aches, forgetfulness, rage, fatigue, and much more. We are on a mission to spread awareness about breakup brain so that there is more understanding for those who go through it. And we are also here to let you know that you aren’t actually losing it and that there are helpful ways to cope. Get out your pen and paper and listen to the breakup gurus break it down for you, including seven tips for coping. Do you have a story about breakup brain to share with us? Or an experience with a sleep deprivation chamber to tell Janice about? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:13:02
June 8, 2021
Positive Affirmations for No Contact (Bonus Resource!)
Listen to this bonus resource of positive affirmations to support yourself as you go no contact with your ex. For more about no contact, listen to episode #2. For more about positive affirmations, listen to episode #25. For positive affirmations for breakups, listen to our bonus resource between episodes #25 and #26. You've got this and we've got you! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
06:10
June 3, 2021
41. Why We Won't Help Get Your Ex Back
As breakup coaches, we LOVE supporting people to build their confidence, heal their hearts, and step with enthusiasm into their new futures. We work closely with people in a lot of different areas of life with the ultimate goal of putting a breakup behind them. But one area that we don’t cover as coaches is how to get an ex back. WHY? We break it down in today’s episode. Part of recovering from a breakup is being real about a situation, and we like to keep it real with this podcast. So we want to be upfront about our approach so that you all know what you’re getting into! And we know that the urge to get back with an ex can be a strong force. So today we give a huge spoonful of insight into the hows and whys of what we do and some words of wisdom for those who are focusing on the desire to get their ex back after a breakup. We would love to hear from you! Do you have a breakup question that you’d like us to answer on the podcast? Hit us up in the DMs and let us know! And if you are thankful for this show, head over to Apple Podcasts and leave us a five-star review. We appreciate you! Want more inspiration to get over your ex? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
39:23
June 1, 2021
40. Unfinished Business with Clair
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24:56
May 27, 2021
39. Getting Over A Crush
Ever been super into someone you couldn’t have a relationship with? A crush can lead to a broken heart just like a six-month or six-year relationship can. But healing and recovering from a “wasn’t-meant-to-be” can be a bit different from recovering from someone you have a romantic history with. Guess what? We’ve got your back! Today, we totally validate your hurt heart and how much it sucks to have a crush that doesn’t go anywhere. And...get your pen and paper because we’ve got the tips you need to lay this unrequited love to rest. You are allowed to be bummed out when you feel disappointed about a relationship not being able to go anywhere. And it can be a sexy opportunity to juice up your dating life. Feel the feels and go feel someone else! Did our tips help you get over a crush? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
51:59
May 25, 2021
38. Loneliness and Breakups with Janice
Loneliness can become a painful dynamic and emotion to cope with after a breakup. Not only might we really miss our ex and their company, but it can also be hard to get the person out of our heads and thus super challenging to spend time alone when a relationship ends. Today’s solo episode with Janice is all about how to make rocking time alone your superpower. And it comes from someone who knows what she is talking about! As part of this exploration of loneliness, Janice tells us about how she went from party girl to spending four months alone in Bali and how she learned so much from that time that she self-selected to isolate herself socially a couple of years later when shit hit the fan for her. She will tell you what she learned that she uses in her coaching practice today and provides a BUNCH of insight into how to cope with the early days of a breakup and beyond. It is not easy! And with a bit of determination and effort, you can tackle it. If you want to get in touch with Janice you can reach her at Janiceclientcare@gmail.com and on IG @Janiceformichella. To follow Ex-Philes find us Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
35:19
May 20, 2021
37. Faking It
Why are we talking about faking it on a podcast about breakups? Well….listen in and see! Hehe. For starters, a breakup is a clean slate and a time to learn about what you like, who you are, and how to show up differently in your next relationship. Focusing on sensuality and pleasure are beautiful hobbies for the single days and may lead to a more fulfilled and happier sex life whether or not you partner up again. Learning how to communicate about our sexual needs and desires improves our relationships in and out of the bedroom. And it may start with how open and honest you can be about something as universal as orgasm. We want you to have all of the pleasure the world and human body can offer! So let’s take a deep dive into the world of faking it and what it might mean for your sex life. PLUS: another edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic or Empowering? Resources from the show: Communication is the Bedrock to Make Your Bedroom Rock by Laurie Mintz PhD Sex With Emily podcast  Sex With Emily Masterclass Dipsea: sexy audio stories Audio Desires: Erotic Stories for Women and Couples What do you think about the connection between breakup healing and faking it? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:02:58
May 18, 2021
36. Needs, Wants, and Desires with Whitney Oppenhuizen
Want to know if your current relationship is right for you? Or are you getting ready to date again after your breakup? Well grab a notebook and settle in! This DYNAMIC guest interview not only includes a bad-ass, extreme-sports breakup story, it includes encounters with charging wildlife, a cross-country move, and expert advice on how to evaluate whether or not a relationship is working for you. Intrigued? You should be! Whitney Oppenhuizen is an intuitive relationship coach who is using what she has learned from her own life experience, plus a BUNCH of wisdom and training to help women listen to their inner voice and have a more fulfilling love life. She does it from a place that helps those who work with her relate to her as a person as well as a coach and has some pretty juicy details from her own romantic journey to share. Did you love hearing Whitney’s story and wisdom? Find her online at beingoppen.com and on IG @whit_beingoppen. And want to connect with Clair and Janice? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:22:39
May 13, 2021
35. Chemistry vs. Compatibility
Have you ever been so caught up in the excitement of a new relationship that you threw everything you had planned out the window? Ignored red flags because it felt so good to be around the person? Gone through a painful breakup only to realize later that the relationship probably wasn’t the right relationship for you anyway? Being attracted to someone and having chemistry doesn’t necessarily mean that you are compatible as partners. Unfortunately, the initial spark between two people can quickly erase our ability to think rationally about moving forward together. But don’t worry, we’ve got your back. Today we take quick a deep look at: -The difference between chemistry and compatibility -Why so many of us lose sight of compatibility factors when we meet someone we are attracted to -The triangle of love and how to use it in your dating life -Tips for keeping an eye on compatibility factors when dating -What it means to “be compatible” You might not look at dating the same after this episode! And you might find that you end up in happier, longer-lasting relationships! Have you ever mistaken chemistry for compatibility? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:28:18
May 11, 2021
34. 50 Shades of WTF Happy Hour
Pour a drink and settle in for another Clair and Janice happy hour full of girl talk and making fun of pop culture. This month we explore the 50 Shades of Gray franchise and our horror and amusement watching it from the perspective of two breakup coaches who value equal, healthy relationships. Buckle your seatbelts, this conversation takes a few twists and turns! Some highlights: Did you like the 50 Shades books or movies? Or, did we go too far in our critique? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
02:05:08
May 6, 2021
33. Pets in Breakups
In a breakup, you may not have the luxury of only thinking about yourself. If you have a shared pet, it can add a whole other layer of emotion on top of an already hard time. In this episode, we share our tips for managing all the situations that can come out of having a shared pet in a breakup. We also share how to responsibly enter pet ownership with a partner and more.  Both of us have experienced having pets and a breakup, and Clair has worked in an animal shelter helping rehome pets, where she gained a lot of experience counseling those adopting or rehoming pets.  What role does pleasure play in your life? Or, what holds you back from giving yourself all that you get from a partner? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:26:43
May 4, 2021
32. Heal your gut, heal your heart with Paddy
Is gut health and diet related to your breakup healing journey? Our firecracker guest Paddy Then thinks it may be! Paddy is an autoimmune coach who has accepted our invitation to come on the show to chat with us about her journey with relationships and mysterious health issues and how it led her to coach others on how to tackle their own nutrition challenges once and for all. Before becoming a coach Paddy struggled with shyness, a cheating partner, insecurity, unwanted advances from a colleague, and more. Each of her challenges taught her about what she really wants out of life and she now supports others to make the connection between health and happiness. In addition to her very cool story she also answers some of our personal questions about diet and addressing food issues during a breakup. Is ice cream and wine an acceptable meal plan in the early days? See what Paddy has to say about it! Paddy is a wealth of knowledge and would love to hear from you about what you thought of the episode or what autoimmune challenges you are facing. You can find her at www.myhealinggut.com and on IG at myhealinggut.co What did you think of our interview? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:07:55
April 29, 2021
31. The Five Best Things We Did After a Breakup
We love to caution people against some missteps that we took after our breakups in order to perhaps prevent you from having the unpleasant experiences that we did. And we sprinkle in a lot of wisdom from our experience and training as coaches AND some of the great things we have done and learned from our own relationships and life. Today, we are going to discuss such things and how you might incorporate some of what we have done RIGHT. We’ve got a bit of sexy experiences to share, some insight into how to “find yourself” during this time, making sure your health doesn’t suffer, how we have actually use social media after a breakup, and more. And we also reassure you that you don’t necessarily have to have a threesome to heal a broken heart. PLUS - another old school edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic or Empowering. What did you think of our shares? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:18:49
April 27, 2021
30. Dealing with Frustration in Breakups
In this episode, Clair talks solo about how to keep a positive perspective when dealing with frustration in relation to breakups. Frustration can be found in a few different dynamics: frustration with yourself; frustration with your ex; frustration with others and how they are/aren't supporting you; and then after a breakup, feeling frustrated with people who don't see breakups the same way you do from your newly evolved and empowered state. Have you been dealing with frustration of any type during your breakup? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
25:54
April 22, 2021
29. Rituals for Breakups
Let’s talk rituals! Rituals are a way to make the everyday sacred or significant. They can also be used to celebrate and process transitions. After a breakup, they can help you embrace the finality of the relationship ending, make an energetic cut with your ex, embrace your power, and welcome the start of your new life. So, where to begin? In today’s episode, Janice and Clair share some of their own experiences with breakup rituals, give suggestions on how to design your own, and different ways to design a ritual depending on what you are ready to release or welcome in. AND - we invite ourselves to your next breakup party! Plus - another edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic or Empowering? Get ready to create some magic in your life and beat your breakup with rituals! Have you done a ritual around your breakup that you found helpful? Or would you like to tell us about your breakup party? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:13:53
April 20, 2021
28. Love F*cking Sucks with Brett
Guest interview time! This week we welcome Brett McGinn from the apparel line Love Fucking Sucks -- yay! Brett has a clothing line that is focused on the different phases of a relationship and the fact that anyone has known love also knows the pain of a broken heart. But he didn’t start there - he brings to the table a background in relationship consulting and continues to support customers with this service. In today’s chat Brett tells us about his interesting story getting started with relationship consulting, the beauty of the honeymoon phase and tips on conscious dating. And as an extra special treat we put Brett on the hot seat to answer questions about dating and relationships from our audience. Brett has an awesome business concept and great products. You can buy your own gear at www.lovefuckingsucks. Follow his awesome IG account at Love Fucking Sucks. What did you think of Brett’s insight or our chat? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:02:50
April 15, 2021
27. Why Did They Move On So Fast?
Finding out that your ex is dating someone new can be a doozy! It can bring up so many emotions, questions, and pain. It is really easy to get stuck in the thought trap of “why have they moved on so fast?” We want you to know that these feelings are normal and that there is a way to look past what your ex is up to and refocus on your own amazing future. (And don’t worry -- we will also explore why an ex may start dating so soon.) As always, we are telling our personal experiences. We each talk about dating after a breakup, our relationship with our ex’s current life, and reactions to finding out an ex is with someone new. We know what this is like and hope you will relate to some of our breakup ups and downs. AND - we give some tips on how to cope and move forward when this tricky, icky, situation finds its way into your life. Plus: another edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic or Empowering? This week we analyze one of the most famous breakup songs of all time. Did what we say help you with your own healing journey? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:12:10
April 13, 2021
26. Journaling During Your Breakup with Janice
Journaling can be a powerful way to get your thoughts, questions, and feelings out of your body and into a healing space. It can also be an effective way to give yourself closure, uncover the truth about a relationship, and release someone from your life. During a breakup, journaling can help you learn how to take back your power, process something heavy on your own, and embrace your new future as a single person. That sounds great, right? But what does it mean to “journal,” and what are you supposed to be writing about? In today’s solo breakup coach episode, Janice talks about why journaling is especially useful during a breakup and talks about three different prompts that she has used in her own breakups and now uses with her breakup coaching clients. So, grab a pen and your journal, and dive in! Committing to even one of these exercises may help you to leap to the next phase of your healing journey. Want to connect with Janice and let her know what you think? Find her on IG @Janiceformichella. And you can also connect with us @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
23:37
April 8, 2021
Positive Affirmations for Breakups (Bonus Resource!)
Affirmations are one way to embrace your power and heal a broken heart. We have put together a list of our favorite affirmations that can help with a breakup, all to help you on the path toward a beautiful future. Play this track each day to reduce stress, accept your brilliance, and take back your power. We would love to know if this track helped you or what other resources you would like to see us provide. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
06:38
April 6, 2021
25. The Power of Positive Affirmations
A lot of people talk about and post on social media about affirmations, but can they really help with with a broken heart? We say ‘yes!’ because we have both used them during breakups and continue to use them as a part of our mindfulness practices. But there is a lot more to it than just saying you’ll do it. Did you know that there is a TON of science to backup the benefits of affirmations? Or that there are a bunch of different ways to get started? In today’s episode, we make a great case for using this powerful tool on your healing journey, along with a big inside look at how we both work with affirmations. Please tag us if you post affirmations around your home after listening! Did what we say help you with your own healing journey? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
49:36
April 6, 2021
24. Dark Night of The Soul with Sacha Van G
Today's podcast guest is Sacha Van G who is now an expert in connecting to your true self and finding your purpose... but it wasn't always that way. Sacha's journey has taken years, a breakup, intercontinental moves, and a dark night of the soul to get here. She shares her stories to help inspire you and remind you that there is a light at the end of the tunnel; and that you also have that same light within you.  Sacha helps multi-passionate women find their core purpose with "cool shit they weren't taught in school", as Sacha describes it. You can find Sacha on Instagram @sacha.enlivened and listen to her podcast Enlivened on Apple or Spotify.  Are you in your "Dark Night of The Soul" right now? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:16:29
April 1, 2021
23. The Healing Power of Crying
We talk a lot about the healing journey on our podcast and the fact that a breakup is an opportunity for a new beginning. And while we love to spread positive vibes, grieving is an important part of the process that we want to make sure to give attention to. Don’t hold back the tears, use them to help move the sadness out of your system! Crying is a unique part of what makes us human. During a breakup, it can help with everything from physically accepting the finality of the loss to relieving stress. We get sensitive and scientific in this week’s episode, as well as give you a green light for letting the tears flow. Plus - another edition of Breakup Ballads: Toxic or Empowering? Looking for some tear-jerking music? Check out our playlist: Ex-Philes: It’s Okay to Grieve on Spotify. Did what we say help you with your own healing journey? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:11:22
March 30, 2021
22. Twilight: Tipsy and Talking Sh*t
Pour a drink and settle in for another Clair and Janice happy hour full of girl talk and making fun of pop culture. This month we explore the first two movies of the Twilight franchise and our horror and amusement watching them from the perspective of two breakup coaches who value equal, healthy relationships. Buckle your seatbelts, this conversation takes a few twists and turns! Some highlights: We discuss the messaging that the plot and characters send to young women, how relationships should be based on more than sex (or smell) appeal, and of course Jacob’s abs. With drinks in hand, we take a deep dive into Twilight and New Moon, two films that were all the rage earlier in the century, yet are problematic, to say the least. And we don’t hold ANYTHING back (for better or worse!). And spoiler alert: we don’t think Bella and Cullen are a good example of a healthy relationship.  Did you like the Twilight books or movies? Or, did we go too far in our critique? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
02:04:28
March 25, 2021
21. Why Is It Taking So Long To Get Over Them?
Who gets to say what is “normal” as far as grieving a relationship goes? Messages like “move on” or “you’re better off” can leave us feeling like there is something wrong with the fact that we are still feeling pain from our breakup. But guess what? We are brought up in a society that does not provide the time and support that most people need when they end a relationship. This can leave us feeling as though there is something wrong with us rather than comforted. We want you to embrace the healing journey that you are on and accept your experience. You deserve it. Struggling with lingering pain over a breakup? Grab a drink of choice and listen as we discuss: -What “moving on” really means -Our own experiences with leaving exes behind -Why society sucks when it comes to letting people heal from breakups -Expectations about time to grieve -Sex and the City and the rule about taking half the time of the relationship to recover from it PLUS  - we introduce a brand new segment: Breakup Ballads: Toxic or Empowering? Were you encouraged to move on from a relationship before you were ready? Or, does our take help? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
56:19
March 23, 2021
20. Holistic Sensuality with Emma Pleasure
This week we bring on another one of our fabulous coach friends to talk about one of our favorite topics: pleasure! Pleasure and sensuality make life joyful and even easier. Emma Pleasure has made experiencing pleasure in each moment a foundation of her life and is on a mission to support other women to integrate it into their lives. This conversation was just as juicy as it sounds. Some of what we discussed: -How a sip of water can be a pleasurable moment -Getting started with sensuality as a single person -Communicating about sexual needs inside of a relationship -Self-care practices that can become sensual in our everyday lives, if we let them -The problem with faking it You deserve to have rich and satisfying experiences every day! Emma Pleasure is a coach who supports women to experience fully aligned, fully embodied pleasure in life and bed, so they can create a life that truly sustains them and lights them the fuck up even if they're currently in overwhelm. If you would like to see what she is up to or learn more about her work you can find her on IG at @emma.pleasure.  What role does pleasure play in your life? Or, what holds you back from giving yourself all that you get from a partner? Let us know! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:05:04
March 18, 2021
19. Will I Ever Love Like That Again?
Breakups wouldn’t hurt if there hadn’t been feelings for the other person. And in the early days or a breakup, our minds are flooded with happy memories in addition to intense emotions such as grief and stress. This combination easily lends itself to the question of all breakup questions: “will I ever love like that again?” Just because this is a common way to think doesn’t mean that it is easy to cope with or that it’s not scary or painful. We have a lot to say on why we think this way, how to love yourself when you feel this way, and why you are amazing and WILL manifest the love you want and deserve. Have you worried about loving again after a breakup? Did you get over the fear? Or, what did you think of our take on this breakup conundrum? Let us know what you think! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
44:22
March 16, 2021
18. How to Process Emotions with Clair
How do you process the emotions that come after a breakup? In this episode, Clair dives into the popular RAIN mindfulness technique as a way to gain acceptance of a breakup and the emotions that come with that loss. She also shares a tool for when you're all processed out and need to interrupt a rumination spiral that you can't seem to shake. Yes, we need to process our emotions and not avoid them, but we also need to continue to experience life because life is beautiful and that doesn't change even after a breakup! We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!
26:49
March 11, 2021
17. Why Do I Only Think About The Good Times?
If the relationship wasn’t working and needed to end, why do we often dwell SO much on the good times after a breakup? Well, our minds can play tricks on us during the grieving process, and remembering the good times doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship itself was good. From science to our own personal experiences and a couple of acronyms along the way, we will let you know why this common breakup dynamic occurs. More importantly, we will let you know what you can do to speed up this phase of your healing journey. A lot of people go through this and we want to support you in recognizing that it is normal and okay and learn some positive ways forward. And, we want to hear what you think of our take on remembering the good times or an experience you have had with it. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. If you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
30:18
March 9, 2021
16. Codependence with Janice
Solo episode time! Today, Janice touches on her past relationships and how she discovered that she has codependent tendencies after leaving an abusive relationship. She explains what codependence really looks like (and what it doesn’t), some signs of being codependent, what has helped her to work on her less-than-positive relationship patterns, and some tips for learning and recovering from codependent relationships. She also shares how she has seen codependency show up outside of her love life and what she learned from that discovery as well. Remember, you are not alone. If you are struggling with codependency we highly recommend Codependents Anonymous and the works of Melody Beattie. We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
23:23
March 4, 2021
15. 10 Breakup Commandments
This week, we talk about our top ten breakup recovery tips, AKA the 10 Breakup Commandments. If you follow these 10 rules, we think you’ll be creating the best conditions to get over your ex quickly and healthily. We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!
26:41
March 2, 2021
14. Human Design in Dating and Divorce with Kristina Michaelis
Our second guest interview is with the shiny and sparkly Kristina Michaelis, who shares her experience going through a divorce last year and what she has learned since. Kristina has thrived as she has started her new life and has used the tools of Human Design and astrology to navigate the dating game out in the wild and online. We were SO inspired by her determination and by the self-loving way that she has gone about things and know you will be too. Want to find out more about what Kristina is up to? Find her on IG here.  AND - we are excited to be partnering with the podcast Human Design Delight in sharing this episode with their community as well. Human Design Delight is a podcast collaborative of 5 amazing female business owners who come together to talk about life, personal growth, and their interest in Human Design. To check out more of their episodes, find them on your favorite podcatcher here. We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us!
56:35
February 25, 2021
13. How To Ask for Help After A Breakup
We became breakup coaches because we don’t want anyone to feel alone during a breakup. Getting positive support can make SUCH a difference in your healing journey and putting things behind you in a positive way. And there are ways that you can go about asking for support that honors your loved one’s time and allow you to get exactly the type of support you need. This can even be an opportunity to strengthen a friendship if you approach things in the “right” way. We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:10:45
February 23, 2021
12. Dating, Breakups and the Polyamorous Lifestyle with Guest Jessie Rolton
We are so excited to begin our guest interview series! We are looking forward to chatting with real women about what they learned from their breakups and what they want to share with you about their healing journey. We are starting with Jessie Rolton, a life coach who transformed her life after one of her breakups. Today, she works with women to explore their sexual power, transform their self-love & ignite their passions. To learn more about her work find her on her website at www.lovemetrue.co.nz and on IG @lovemetrue.nz. We always love to hear from you! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:02:22
February 18, 2021
11. Social Media After A Breakup
Breakups and social media - it’s a hot topic and we have a lot to say about it! From how to avoid hurt on the various platforms to what NOT to post after ending a relationship, we don’t leave any opinion on the table. And we’ve also got some helpful tips, a bit of motivation, a dash of tough love, and some advice on how to make things easier on yourself during this time. We want you to beat this breakup! Some of our thoughts on social media are sure to help. We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:01:55
February 16, 2021
10. Happy Hour - Valentines Day Movie
For our very first happy hour episode, Janice and Clair review a 10-year-old movie because... Valentines Day! Happy Hour episodes are relaxed and fun hangouts with a shot of relationship coaching perspectives, shaken-- not stirred.    We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!
01:02:03
February 12, 2021
9. Single on Valentine’s Day: How to rock it
Valentine’s Day is for everyone! Don’t let not being in a romantic relationship keep you from having fun on this most pretty and pink of holidays. In today’s episode, we will share some fun and positive ways to reclaim Valentine’s Day for YOUR own. From some of its dark history to sexy succulents, we have you covered! We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!
37:05
February 9, 2021
8. Meet The Breakup Doula aka Janice!
In our second solo-episode, Janice is grabbing the mic to talk about how being a lifelong feminist led her to become a breakup coach and how acting as a doula for women experiencing a broken heart helps all women to show up stronger in the world. We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!
12:52
February 4, 2021
7. Our Biggest Breakup Mistakes
Do as we say, not as we have done! One reason we both became breakup coaches is that we have learned so much from our own breakups and relationships. In this episode, we each identified five specific things that we would have done differently and things that we would advise others to avoid. Want to beat your breakup and heal your broken heart? Start with these loving guidelines. We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!
47:10
February 2, 2021
6. The Anxious/Avoidant Attachment Dynamic with Clair
In this solo episode, Clair shares her personal experience with what the dynamic can look like when a person with an Anxious Attachment style is with someone with an Avoidant Attachment style. These two Attachment styles tend to bring out the worst in each other in crisis, and this story is a way to illustrate how that dynamic can play out.  We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!
22:12
January 28, 2021
5. Got Closure?
The need for “closure” is something that a lot of people struggle with during and after a breakup. From not understanding why a relationship has ended to not feeling that you have all of the answers to things left unsaid, the urge to sort things with your ex can be strong. But it is also an opportunity to learn how to provide for yourself emotionally, own that the breakup has taken place, and take ownership over your life. You can give yourself closure, and we have lots of tips and tricks for empowering ways that you can do it. You’ve got this! We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!
37:33
January 26, 2021
4. So, You Want To Know How To Get Over Your Ex?
A broken heart is a difficult thing to navigate. It can sometimes feel that it will last forever and it can be hard to cope with the pain. The good news is that there are actions you can take early on to ease the hurt, start the healing, and begin to embrace your new life. We have both learned a lot from a couple of really rough breakups. AND - we have taken what we have learned through a bit of misery and combined it with what we have learned from training and experience as breakup coaches to support others through this tough time. So, get ready to kick this breakup in the butt with our top ten tips for getting over your ex. We want to hear what you think of our tips or if you have tips of your own. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. We want to know you and for you to know us!
47:24
January 19, 2021
3. Boo, Ghosting.
Boo, ghosting. Everyone's least favorite buzzword. Been ghosted? Guess what? It happens to everyone. And guess what? It’s not about you! We all have different approaches to dating and communication, though that doesn’t make it hurt any less, does it? We are excited to share with you our view of why people do it, why it hurts, and how not to take it personally (plus insights into our experience with it!). What do you think about our view of ghosting? DM Janice @Janiceformichella or Clair @Clairlofthouse and let us know! The Ex-Philes is a podcast about break-ups, broken hearts and moving on. Breakup coaches Clair and Janice talk about healing from heartbreak, dating, ghosting, toxic relationships, communication, self-help, attachment styles and more.
20:45
January 12, 2021
2. No Contact
No-contact with an ex is the name of the game right now when it comes to breakup advice. This week we chit chat about why it is such a popular approach right now, how to make it work, and how you can benefit from no contact in the early days after a break-up. Ready to heal your heart? Get cozy and ready to set some positive boundaries. We want to hear from you! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella
44:50
January 4, 2021
1. Introducing The Ex-Philes
Welcome to episode one of Ex-Philes! We are so glad that you are here and have so much to share with you! Our goal is to support those going through a breakup or dealing with a broken heart. With a bit of positive support, your healing journey will launch you forward into your new life. We are excited to get to know you, and want you to know us! So in true episode one style, we are each taking a few minutes to tell you why we became breakup coaches and a few things we have learned from our past relationships. It’s time to get raw and real! We want to hear from you! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella - Getting over a breakup? You’re in the right place! Ex-Philes is a weekly podcast all about healing a broken heart, building your confidence, and move forward in an empowered way. And, we know what it’s like. Not only are we both qualified life coaches, but we also have experiences with break-ups that will make you laugh, cry, and get inspired on your healing journey. We love to talk about relationships and break-ups and can’t wait to share this with you. You’ve got this, and we’ve got your back!
41:26
January 2, 2021