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The Ex-Philes with Janice Formichella: Break-ups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On

The Ex-Philes with Janice Formichella: Break-ups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On

By Janice Formichella

Getting over a breakup? You’re in the right place! Ex-Philes is a weekly podcast about healing broken hearts, building confidence and moving forward in an empowered way. Ex-Philes is the perfect balance between science, spirituality and sass. With a heavy dose of optimism, some laughs and somber moments, Janice shares what she's learned from personal experience and as a breakup coach to help you through this time! Topics include dating, ghosting, no contact, toxic relationships, communication, attachment styles, and more. Get extra content on Patreon. www.patreon.com/exphiles
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139: 🔛Past trauma, new relationships 🔛
139: 🔛Past trauma, new relationships 🔛
Trigger warning: domestic abuse, substance abuse A lot of us carry trauma, wounds, and “baggage” related to our past. Whether it be a relationship that went wrong or another life event that left us questioning everything, how we navigate relationships can sometimes be changed forever. The good news is that with a little awareness, we CAN prevent our past from destroying good things in our future. This week I am so pleased to have Katie Davie back to talk with me about accepting our previous wounds while committing to healing them. We discuss: -What trauma is -How trauma can be created in dating situations -The different types of trauma -Overcoming trauma before dating again -Recognizing when trauma is rearing its head in a new relationship and addressing it -Our stories with trauma and overcoming our pasts Please go show Katie some love, and get in touch with her if you want to learn about one-on-one support for navigating the co-parenting journey. You can find her on IG at CoparentingPeacefully. Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:15:58
January 31, 2023
138: 🛀 Self-soothing after a breakup 🛀
138: 🛀 Self-soothing after a breakup 🛀
I believe that we can all overcome loneliness and fulfill our own emotional needs, even with anxious attachment. This doesn’t mean that there are huge benefits to having a support network, but when we are able to look after ourselves these networks become stronger and more meaningful. Learning to self-soothe is one way that we can prevent loneliness and develop self-trust after a breakup. I have been on a personal journey with building this muscle over the last several years and know how life-changing it can be. In today’s episode, I discuss: -What it means to self-soothe -How self-soothing relates to your attachment style and moving from an insecure attachment to a secure attachment style -My experience learning how to self-soothe -How self-soothing strengthens your friendships -Beginner’s tips You’ve got this! Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
20:44
January 17, 2023
137: 🗣️ Talking to your kids about your breakup 🗣️
137: 🗣️ Talking to your kids about your breakup 🗣️
Breakups are part of life. Children are a part of life. But…the two don’t go together all that well, right? Well, I’ve called in the experts to help! This week I am joined by two of return co-hosts and friends of the show to take a deep dive into (almost) everything that has to do with discussing breakups with your children. Dating-after-divorce coach Brian Dunn and co-parenting coach Katie Davie join me for a powerful roundtable chat about this sticky circumstance. We cover: -Telling your children that you and their other parent are getting a divorce -The difference between telling children about divorce and other types of breakups -Age-appropriate ways to have these discussions -Looking after yourself while looking after your children -How much is too much as far as involving your children in your breakups -Introducing new partners to your children -Talking about your co-parent’s breakups -AND MORE PLUS: Listener questions! Please go show Brian some love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn AND Please go show Katie some love, and get in touch with her if you want to learn about one-on-one support for navigating the co-parenting journey. You can find her on IG at CoparentingPeacefully. Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:05:58
January 10, 2023
136: 💝 My Breakup Story: Vivian (new series!) 💝
136: 💝 My Breakup Story: Vivian (new series!) 💝
How amazing is it to have a client come on my podcast and talk about beating their breakup?! Today I am introducing a new Ex-Philes series: My Breakup Story. I am starting things off with a bang with a conversation with one of my very own clients and a major breakup success story. If you are ready to use your breakup as a new beginning push play now! Mentioned in this episode: -The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by  Mark Manson -Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
48:05
January 03, 2023
135: ❄️ Surviving the holidays after a breakup - part 2 ❄️
135: ❄️ Surviving the holidays after a breakup - part 2 ❄️
The holidays are meant to be joyful and jolly, but they can actually really suck when we are healing from a broken heart. So…considering they can’t be avoided, what should we do? I GOT YOU! I have some tried and tested tips to help see you through the next couple of weeks. So push play one part TWO of “Surviving the holidays after a breakup.” Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
19:42
December 26, 2022
134: ❄️ Surviving the holidays after a breakup - part 1 ❄️
134: ❄️ Surviving the holidays after a breakup - part 1 ❄️
The holidays are meant to be joyful and jolly, but they can actually really suck when we are healing from a broken heart. So…considering they can’t be avoided, what should we do? I GOT YOU! I have some tried and tested tips to help see you through the next couple of weeks. So push play one part one of “Surviving the holidays after a breakup.” Mentioned in this episode: Episode 23: The healing power of crying Quotes about the power of winter: "To appreciate the beauty of a snowflake it is necessary to stand out in the cold." - Aristotle "What good is the warmth of summer, without the cold of winter to give it sweetness." - John Steinbeck "I wonder if the snow loves the trees and fields that it kisses them so gently? And then it covers them up snug, you know, with a white quilt; and perhaps it says, 'Go to sleep, darlings, till the summer comes again.'" - Lewis Carroll "Winter forms our character and brings out our best." – Tom Allen Want one-on-one support? Find me on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
20:02
December 20, 2022
133: ✍️4 lessons to learn from your breakup ✍️
133: ✍️4 lessons to learn from your breakup ✍️
I love to talk about what a ripe time for personal growth a breakup is, but it can be hard to know where to start when we feel broken hearted, right? Today I am giving you FOUR places to start in this rich discussion with my friend Lena Ehrenberg. If you are having a hard time navigating your new reality you will love this dish session! It’s a deep dive into the possibilities a breakup presents. **Show Lena some Ex-Philes love! Please go follow her now on IG at HaveMoreLove ** What topics would you like me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:32:36
December 13, 2022
132: 💪Motivation to move on from your breakup 💪
132: 💪Motivation to move on from your breakup 💪
Buy my survive the holidays coaching package here.  Part of moving on from a breakup is releasin our ex, the relationship that once meant so much to us, and the life we thought we’d have. But while necessary, it is a painful part of the healing journey and it can sometimes take a lot of motivation to get to that point. Well, as always, I have your back! If you are looking for motivation to move on from your breakup hit play as I am sharing ten tips, concepts, and ways to look at things that are sure to help you kick ass during the next stage of your healing journey. Episodes mentioned in this episode: 117: Self-forgiveness and breakups 114: Five tips to help you heal from your breakup this week 108: A morning routine for your breakup 74: Self-care for breakups I believe in you! What topics would you like me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
18:26
December 06, 2022
131: 🤔Am I Dating a Narcissist? 🤔
131: 🤔Am I Dating a Narcissist? 🤔
Narcissism has become a topic of interest in the last few years, but what does it actually look like? Can we prevent ourselves from getting involved with toxic people? Buckle up, Jackie and I are taking a deep dive into our own experiences with narcissism and how to spot it. We cover: -Traits of narcissistic and toxic people -Why it is so easy to spot the red flags -Spotting narcissism on the first date -Our stories about dating some pretty scary dudes -How to get away from a narcissist Mentioned in this episode: Episode 63: Negging and toxic flirting More Ex-Philes resources: -Episode 110: I can’t get over how they treated me -Episode 68: Narcissism 101 with Chris -Episode 66: Am I in an abusive relationship? -Episode 52: Rescuer Syndrome PLEASE give Jackie some love! Follow her podcast That Girl The Podcast and find her on IG at https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlthepodcast/ and https://www.instagram.com/jackiebrubaker/ ____________________________________________________________________________ What topics would you like Jackie and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:06:30
November 29, 2022
Bonus track: Affirmations for jealousy
Bonus track: Affirmations for jealousy
Are you struggling with feelings of jealousy? I have created this affirmations track to help you make progress on processing and releasing this tricky emotion. However you choose to use this track I hope you will remember that you have the power to cope and learn from jealousy. Sending strength! -Janice What affirmations tracks would you like me to offer in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
03:37
November 28, 2022
130: Jealousy in relationships
130: Jealousy in relationships
Jealousy is a natural human emotion, but it is also one that can poison and ruin relationships. So, what to do? Friend and co-host Jessie Maree is back for a deep dive into the topic. We cover: -Our recent experiences with jealousy -What jealousy is -How fear and jealousy are related -Types of jealousy -Ways to handle jealousy and prevent it from ruining all of your relationships -The meaning of trust and how to do it -Using your single time to learn to release jealousy more easily Mentioned in this episode: -Episode 119: Processing Anger After a Breakup -Can’t Help but Fly by Climbing PoeTree -Fear inventory: https://emotionalsobrietyandfood.files.wordpress.com/2013/05/the-fear-inventory-is-done-in-columns-like-resentments.pdf -Multiamory podcast episodes 394 and 395\ 👉👉Please go show Jessie some Ex-Philes love! Follow her on IG at jessiemareeco And check out her website https://www.jessiemaree.com/. What topics would you like Jessie and me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:05:52
November 22, 2022
129: 📝 Identifying relationship patterns after a breakup 📝
129: 📝 Identifying relationship patterns after a breakup 📝
The time after a breakup is a POWERFUL one for reflecting on our relationship patterns and identifying where we want to grow and learn. In this week's episode guest co-host, Brian Dunn and I talk about HOW to do this in a way that creates lasting change and the foundation for joyful relationships in the future.  Grab a pen and paper and start up-leveling your relationships now!  Please go show Brian some love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn What topics would you like Brian and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:29:09
November 18, 2022
128: 🔭Rediscovering Yourself After a Breakup (in three steps) 🔭
128: 🔭Rediscovering Yourself After a Breakup (in three steps) 🔭
A breakup can be a shock to the system. Often, so much of our identity and plans for the future are tied up in our romantic relationships. When they end, we can feel lost. If we had neglected parts of ourselves during the relationship and had a future planned with someone, we can feel like we don’t even know who we are without the other person. Today I speak with special guest Sarah Mac about her 3-part process of rediscovering yourself after a breakup and why it is so important for healthy relationships in the future. Pleaae go show Sarah Mac some Ex-Philes love. Follow her on IG at Love.SarahMac: https://www.instagram.com/love.sarahmac/ Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving me a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
59:37
November 08, 2022
127: 🍒 Let’s Get Kinky! Kink 101. 🍒
127: 🍒 Let’s Get Kinky! Kink 101. 🍒
KINK is a beautiful way to explore your new single life or expand the possibilities for pleasure between you and your partner(s). And because it is a never-ending world of options it can be difficult to know where to start. Guest co-host and kink-expert Jessie Mare is back this week to make the world blush as we take a deep dive into KINK 101. Buckle your seatbelts as we discuss: -What kink is -What fetish is -What kink is NOT -Our own kinky beginnings -Types of kink -Safety as a single person exploring kink -Aftercare -And MORE Discussed in this episode: Episode 34: 50 Shades of WTF?!  What topics would you like Jessie and me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:15:10
November 01, 2022
126: 🔥 HOT Dating After Divorce 🔥
126: 🔥 HOT Dating After Divorce 🔥
Dating after divorce can be nerve-wracking and many people feel that they don’t know what they are doing. But the good news is that there are SO many resources available and so many people both paving the way and teaching others what they have learned. One of these people is my friend and colleague, Brian Dunn. Brian works specifically with people navigating the crazy world of dating and courtship following their divorces. He speaks from experience; he dated 100 people in the first 15 months following his divorce and felt more confident AND competent with each new experience he had. I think Brian is an inspiration to men who desire more confidence with women, especially after being out of the “dating game” for a long period of time. We all have to start somewhere, right? Please go show Brian some love. Follow him on IG at mrbriancdunn and TicTok at mrbriancdunn What topics would you like Brian and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:15:01
October 25, 2022
125: 🛑 Stop Victim Blaming 🛑
125: 🛑 Stop Victim Blaming 🛑
TRIGGER WARNING: Victim blaming, sexual assault, domestic violence Victim blaming occurs when the victim of a crime is held partially or fully responsible for the actions taken against them. It is particularly prevalent when it comes to domestic violence and sexual assault. The impacts on victims are often long-term and have devastating consequences. It is also one of the reasons victims keep things to themselves, stay in dangerous situations, and decide not to report. Victim blaming needs to stop. As part of the Ex-Philes commitment to Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I am partnering up with my good friend Christine to talk about the victim blaming that we have experienced, the impacts it had on our lives, and how YOU can become part of the solution instead of the problem. 👉Take a stand! Please share this episode on social media this month to help raise awareness about the impacts of victim blaming. Please go show Christine some love! Follow her on IG at fiftyshadesof_bullshit What topics would you like Christine and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
55:47
October 18, 2022
124: 💔 Grieving a Breakup 💔
124: 💔 Grieving a Breakup 💔
Multiple studies have shown that we process the pain of a breakup in the same way that we process physical pain, and most of us know that a broken heart can be as debilitating as any tragic loss. So why isn’t there more support for people grieving their breakups? Today Anthony Canapi joins me again for a rich discussion about caring for a broken heart. This episode is your permission slip to lean into your grief and is also a resource to help you discover tools and methods for moving the grief through you and looking after yourself while you do. We cover: -Our experiences with grief -Why and how society brushes off the painful experience of a broken heart -The difference between grief and depression -Janice’s stages of breakup grief -Self-care for grieving a breakup We hope this episode will help you to embrace the space you need to grieve your breakup and grab a bit of hope that the process does come to an end. You’ve got this. Xo PLEASE go show Anthony some love! Follow him on IG at anthonycanapi. Need a matchmaker? DM him for all of your “set me up” needs. What topics would you like Anthonu and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.Anthony
50:01
October 11, 2022
123: 🔥 Possibilities for Pleasure 🔥
123: 🔥 Possibilities for Pleasure 🔥
Do you know how to access pleasure in each moment? With subtle shifts in our mindset, we can truly live a life full of sensuality, with or without a partner. Today I am welcomed by colleague Steve Oskard to talk about powerful reframes that we can all make to throw open the door on what is truly possible in regards to life satisfaction, in the bedroom and beyond. Steve is a BRILLIANT sexologist. We discuss: -Creating a pleasure practice -Developing a rich vocabulary for discussing desire -The power of soft touch -The truth about the “pleasure gap” -Exploring sexuality as a single person -And OH…so much more! **Please go show Steve some Ex-Philes love! Find him on IG at steve_oskard and on ClubHouse at Steve_Oskard** Want to work with me one-on-one? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:01:56
October 04, 2022
122: Have better sex - no matter what your relationship status (BONUS Sexual Health Awareness Month Episode)
122: Have better sex - no matter what your relationship status (BONUS Sexual Health Awareness Month Episode)
Let’s talk about pleasure! Sexual Health Awareness Month wraps with an interview that is truly a work of art! I am honored to have Melissa Louise on the show to talk about expanding our capacity for pleasure. You are going to be so glad you pushed play on this episode! NOTES! -Want to work directly with Melissa? Find her on IG at ThePleasureStudio and visit her website: https://melissalouise.mykajabi.com/ -Please sign up for Melissa’s upcoming Erotic Blueprints program: https://melissalouise.mykajabi.com/claim-your-eroticism -Want to buy *ethically sourced* stones and gems? Please visit https://www.sacredlotusyonisteam.com and https://www.instagram.com/sacredlotus.yonirituals/ Use code MELISSALOUISE for 20% of your order.
01:16:39
September 29, 2022
121: Co-parenting and Dating Advice
121: Co-parenting and Dating Advice
Dating is hard enough. Being a parent is hard enough. Being a co-parent is hard enough. Toss them all together and - wow - talk about the potential for a lot of stress and even heartache. It’s a good thing there are experts to call in! One of my goals for moving forward with Ex-Philes is to make it more and more inclusive and support as many people as possible. I am pleased to announce that co-parenting coach Katie Davie will be joining the show as a regular co-host. Today we are dropping our first episode together, a 101 guide to all things dating while co-parenting. Katie’s mission is to support parents in high-conflict co-parenting situations to thrive. Today we cover: Challenges that co-parents face when dating Things to consider when you are dating again after separating from your co-parent Navigating involving your new partner in your life Getting close to someone when your co-parent is toxic Dealing with co-parenting conflicts when your new partner is around Speaking with your kids about your dates AND MORE! Please go show Katie some love, and get in touch with her if you want to learn about one-on-one support for navigating the co-parenting journey. You can find her on IG at CoparentingPeacefully. What topics would you like me and Katie to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:10:56
September 27, 2022
120: 💪🏻 Let’s Destigmatize Herpes With Suz Bub (BONUS Sexual Health Awareness Month Episode)
120: 💪🏻 Let’s Destigmatize Herpes With Suz Bub (BONUS Sexual Health Awareness Month Episode)
What do you think of when someone says “herpes”? Do you have it? Do you know you might not know that you have it, AND you most likely haven’t been tested for it in the first place? The majority of the population has some form of herpes, yet the stigma surrounding it makes it nearly impossible to talk about in public, and even with partners. Today’s guest is on a mission to change all of that. Suz Bub is a sensua guide and herpes advocate who uses her *enormous* social media following to educate the public about the virus. She is joining Ex-Philes to fill the community in, tell her story, and let us all know what we can do to be a part of the movement to destigmatize herpes. ** PLEASE listen in, regardless of your herpes status.** Follow Suz Bub and let’s get her back on the show! You can find her on IG at SuzBubz and TikToc at SuzBub. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:07:51
September 23, 2022
Bonus track: Affirmations for releasing ANGER after a breakup
Bonus track: Affirmations for releasing ANGER after a breakup
Are you struggling with anger after a breakup? I have created this affirmations track to help you make progress on your healing journey this week. However you choose to use this track I hope you will remember that letting go of the past is a process that you are allowed to explore at your own pace. Also remember that no matter how you feel about your last relationship or breakup, you CAN heal and you CAN use what you have learned for happier relationships in the future. Sending strength! -Janice What affirmations tracks would you like me to offer in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
03:52
September 20, 2022
😡 119: Processing ANGER After a Breakup 🤬
😡 119: Processing ANGER After a Breakup 🤬
Is it healthy to get angry after a breakup, or is it better to move forward and not focus on the “negative” feelings that come along with a relationship ending? Push play, and start processing today! Today I am joined by close friend Christine Lalonde to talk about what to do when anger is hard to let go of after a breakup, and how you can transform it into something positive. Christine bravely tells her story of coping with anger and resentment after her divorce plus: -The benefits of anger -How anger protects us in relationships -Practical ways to release anger -Personal stories we each have of losing our cool Please go show Christine some love! Follow her on IG at fiftyshadesof_bullshit What topics would you like Christine and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:08:14
September 20, 2022
118: Sex After a Breakup with Dr. Kristie (BONUS Sexual Health Awareness Month episode!)
118: Sex After a Breakup with Dr. Kristie (BONUS Sexual Health Awareness Month episode!)
Trying to get OVER someone by getting UNDER someone isn’t always a winning strategy. But embracing sex and your OWN sexuality as a way of exploring your new single life CAN be transformative. This week I am *stoked* to be joined by sexologist Dr. Kristie Overstreet to talk about using sex in brand new ways after your breakup (and psssst - it has nothing (necessarily!) to do with finding a new long-term romantic partner). And PSSSST again: I am a huge Dr. Kristie fan girl! Please, please go follow her now on IG @kristie_overstreet In this special Sexual Health Awareness Month episode Dr. Kristie and I chat about: -The benefits of casual sex -How to communicate about casual sex -Discovering your sexual needs after a breakup -The JOY of self-pleasure and how to get started -And more Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
44:59
September 15, 2022
Bonus track: Affirmations for self-forgiveness after a breakup
Bonus track: Affirmations for self-forgiveness after a breakup
Are you struggling with forgiving yourself after a breakup? I have created this affirmations track to help you make progress on your healing journey this week. However you choose to use this track I hope you will remember that letting go of the past is a process that you are allowed to explore at your own pace. Also remember that no matter how you feel about your last relationship or breakup, you CAN heal and you CAN use what you have learned for happier relationships in the future.  Sending strength!  -Janice  What affirmations tracks would you like me to offer in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
03:18
September 13, 2022
117: Self-forgiveness and breakups
117: Self-forgiveness and breakups
Are you mad at yourself or disappointed about how you acted in your last relationship or during your last breakup? Push play, and learn to let go. It is another special episode, but I guess I’m getting used to that! Today I welcome another guest co-host, Jackie Brubaker, who is joining me to talk about why some of us struggle to forgive ourselves more than anyone after a breakup and how to release anger, sadness, frustration, and resentment directed inward. Jackie has a counseling background and also informs her insight as an Ex-Philes co-host on her own dynamic experience with dating and relationships. We co-created this episode to allow anyone who listens to turn things around immediately. Remember, resentment and disappointment are natural parts of some people’s healing journeys. And they can also keep you stuck if not worked through. We are here for you! Want to jump-start your healing journey this week? Grab the bonus affirmations episode in the Ex-Philes feed. PLEASE give Jackie some love! Follow her podcast That Girl The Podcast and find her on IG at https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlthepodcast/ and https://www.instagram.com/jackiebrubaker/ ____________________________________________________________________________ What topics would you like Jackie and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:11:56
September 13, 2022
116: Is Polyamory Right for Me?
116: Is Polyamory Right for Me?
Welcome Jessie Maree to the show as my new guest co-host!  Show notes coming soon, I promise! I am dropping this episode from my fall vacation on the road so I need more time :)  What topics would you like Jessie and me to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:18:38
September 06, 2022
115: My Ex Texted - Should I Reply? 🤔 📵
115: My Ex Texted - Should I Reply? 🤔 📵
What does it mean when an ex texts? And more importantly – what is the right way to respond? As always, Ex-Philes has your back. I am SUPER excited to introduce my first guest co-host, Anthony Canapi (he/him) to the show. Today we chat about Anthony’s METHOD for dealing with texts from the ex. Grab a pen and paper! It’s a method that will help you to put that ex in your rearview mirror for good. 👉🏻 PLEASE go show Anthony some love! Follow him on IG at anthonycanapi. Need a matchmaker? DM him for all of your “set me up” needs. What topics would you like Anthony and I to cover in the future? You know where to find me: Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
50:45
August 30, 2022
114: 5 Tips to Help You Heal From Your Breakup This Week
114: 5 Tips to Help You Heal From Your Breakup This Week
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Healing from a breakup takes more than self-care and time, though those things definitely help. Sometimes it takes thinking outside of the box a bit and trying new things until something sticks or starts to help. Today I am sharing FIVE tips that I use with my breakup coaching clients to get out of a breakup slump, get unstuck, and start to see things turn around. Would you like information on breakup coaching or want to come on Ex-Philes to share your breakup success story? Send me a DM on IG at @Janiceformichella or email Exphilespodcast@gmail.com. Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
16:60
August 23, 2022
113. Janice's life lessons for your breakup PLUS Ex-Philes news
113. Janice's life lessons for your breakup PLUS Ex-Philes news
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles A lot has happened in Ex-Philes Land over the past few weeks! I am excited to share the recent changes with my amazing audience and to share what is in store for the next few months. PLUS - some takeaways from the same few weeks that you can use to inspire you along on your healing journey this week. I’d love to hear from you about the recent changes to the show and also what you think of my listener stories idea. Please send me a DM on the podcast IG @exphilespodcast or to my personal IG @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join my online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Thank you for your support and GOOD LUCK this week! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
12:10
August 16, 2022
112. Slow dating and micro dating. Does it pay to take your time?
112. Slow dating and micro dating. Does it pay to take your time?
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Do you think it pays to take your time when meeting someone new? Let us know in our DMs! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:18:13
August 09, 2022
111. Why are you STILL single?
111. Why are you STILL single?
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider! https://www.patreon.com/exphiles It may seem like a compliment, but it’s not! Being single has lot’s of advantages and is an important time for healing and growth after a breakup. Yet our society sure likes to stigmatize it. Today we are chatting about the pervasiveness of “singleism”, why being single is so awesome, how to enjoy it, and how to address this well-intended but problematic question. Get inspired for your own single adventure! Check out episode 71: Solo Travel with Kelly. What do you think is the best part about being single? What have you learned? Let us know in our DMs! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On. We want to know you and for you to know us! Love Ex-Philes? Please help others find it by leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community
59:08
August 02, 2022
110. I can't get over how they treated me
110. I can't get over how they treated me
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider! https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Bad breakup? This is something that many people have struggled with and a position that anyone has the possibility of finding themselves in. Whether your relationship was abusive or it was the kind of breakup that brought out of the worst in your ex, it can be really hard to cope with the bad memories and move on after being mistreated. It may be difficult, but you can overcome this. Today we share our own stories about being treated unfairly in our relationships and how it impacted us long and short term. We then give tips for healing that you can start to use today to continue to move on and put the icky past behind you. Remember: if you'd like one-on-one support all you have to do is reach out to one of us directly. Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On. We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community. #abuse #breakups #brokenheart
55:26
July 26, 2022
109. Writing Your Breakup Story with Kate from About Face
109. Writing Your Breakup Story with Kate from About Face
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles What are you struggling to come to terms with when it comes to your breakup or the relationship? Have you considered that re-writing the narrative you are telling yourself may be the key to closure? We are tickled PINK to be joined by a fan of the show today! Kate Marlene is (besides Janice’s twin) a content creator who also works one-on-one with people to heal through narrative therapy and storytelling. She is a WARRIOR who has used her breakups to learn about herself and grow. Kate’s premise is one that can help all of our listeners: YOU have the ability to write an empowering story about your breakup and about the relationship. The narrative you create can help you to get into the diver’s seat in life. PLUS - we throw in a dash of the positive outcomes of Kate’s no contact journey. 👉🏻 Please go and follow Kate’s work. She is doing incredible things to support her continued healing and healing for others. Find her on IG @katemarlenelove and check out her podcast and cool projects on Facebook here.  #breakups #healing #nocontact #divorce  Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:02:47
July 19, 2022
108. A morning routine for your breakup healing
108. A morning routine for your breakup healing
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles A morning routine sets the vibe and stage for the rest of your day. But what if you are struggling to get out of bed because of a recent breakup and a broken heart? There are ways that you can use your morning to jump start your healing, even when it feels like each day is a challenge. This week we are talking about WHY it is so important to sprinkle your mornings with some self-care after a breakup and some simple steps to creating a supportive routine NOW, no matter how miserable you feel. We cover: -How a positive morning relates to putting your breakup behind you -The power of a five minute routine -Adding ONE thing to your morning to form a routine -The MOURNING morning -Easy ways to create a “VIP” vibe each day -Self-trust and morning routines -AND MORE! Rub your sleepy eyes and push play! Mentioned in the episode: Gassho Meditation Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
53:15
July 12, 2022
Ex-Philes Trailer
Ex-Philes Trailer
Getting over a breakup? You’re in the right place! Ex-Philes is a weekly podcast about healing broken hearts, building confidence and moving forward in an empowered way. Ex-Philes is the perfect balance between science, spirituality and sass. With a heavy dose of optimism, some laughs and somber moments, co-hosts Janice and Clair share what they’ve learned from personal experience and as coaches to help you through this time! Topics include dating, ghosting, no contact, toxic relationships, communication, attachment styles and more. Get extra content on Patreon. www.patreon.com/exphiles
01:13
July 11, 2022
107. The truth about the Love Languages
107. The truth about the Love Languages
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles What’s your love language? Acts of service? Words of affirmation? Bring brought food after a busy day? There is a lot about the love languages that people get wrong, and it can sometimes cause more harm than good. But when used as intended by author Gary Chapman, they might help you to have longer-lasting relationships that you have in the past. This week we are breaking down the truth about the love languages and talking about how you can use them to build better connections with everyone in your life, romantic or not. PLUS - we break each of the five love languages down and talk about how you can learn to speak each, whether or not you are in a relationship. We love words of affirmation! If you love this episode please consider leaving us some in a five star rating and review on Apple podcasts.  Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:07:00
July 05, 2022
106. What if I have to see them every day?
106. What if I have to see them every day?
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Cutting ties with an ex is an effective way to heal from a breakup, but what if you have to see them every day? From being co-workers to co-parents, there are situations where the standard no-contact advice doesn’t apply. But don’t worry! There is now an episode for that! The Ex-Philes gals have got your back this week with tips, tricks, and troubleshooting around one of our most commonly received questions. PLUS tons of words of support to help you navigate this painful and tricky circumstance. Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
53:22
June 28, 2022
105. Am I too picky?
105. Am I too picky?
Last week we spoke about settling in relationships, what it looks like and how to know if you are doing it. We’re flipping things around this week and talking about another common dating question: “am I too picky?” If you are recovering from a breakup you could be asking yourself this, especially if you are struggling with regret over ending things and second-guessing your decision. Or, if the relationship fell apart because one of you was unhappy, you could be wondering if you should have been more accepting of certain things. OR, you might be listening to this episode because you are single and would rather not be and wondering if your selection criteria is to blame. Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
48:22
June 21, 2022
104. Am I settling?
104. Am I settling?
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles We all deserve to have the best in relationships, and that means feeling fulfilled and getting what you specifically want. So, how do you know if you’re settling? Or compromising? Or fearing intimacy? Or avoiding getting close due to trauma? Or struggling with relationship anxiety? Today we explore the concept of settling in relationships and why you should never settle for less than you deserve. We cover: -Disappointment in relationships -What settling actually looks like -Janice and Clair’s stories and experiences with settling -Why settling is toxic for relationships -Why settling is unfair and unkind to your partner -WHY people do it Remember: nothing is worth being in an unhappy relationship for. It is better to build a single life ttat you LOVE than to settle. This episode is about helping you get there. If this episode helps you with your dating life we would love you to let us know by leaving us a review on Apple podcasts! Happy PRIDE month! Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:06:47
June 14, 2022
103. Stages of Grief for Breakups
103. Stages of Grief for Breakups
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles We’ve all heard it. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. The stages of grief that are applied to nearly any loss a person may experience. But do they apply to breakups? We know that the grief surrounding the loss of a relationship is truly unique and that it may be more helpful to talk about breakup grief and healing in a new way. In this week’s episode, we are outlining alternative stages of grief for breakups based on our experience as coaches and humans who have been through breakups. We are also providing tips and suggestions for coping with each one and using it as an opportunity to advance your healing. Rememeber; healing isn’t linear and you have the right to your own experience. These are just suggestions to help you on your way. If this episode helps you with your breakup healing we would love you to let us know by leaving us a review on Apple podcasts! Happy PRIDE month! Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
55:22
June 07, 2022
102. No Contact Q&A Bonus Episode
102. No Contact Q&A Bonus Episode
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles BONUS EPISODE! How are you going with your no contact goals? Do you have a specific question about how to make it work for YOU? Well…the Ex-Philes gals have GOT YOUR BACK! In today’s bonus episode we are going over DOZENS of questions about how to make the no contact rule work for people from all different backgrounds and in ALL different phases of healing. If our no contact episodes have helped you with your breakup healing we would love you to let us know by leaving us a review on Apple podcasts! Happy PRIDE month! Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:14:50
June 02, 2022
101. We Harp On About No Contact
101. We Harp On About No Contact
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Today we are revisiting one of our most popular topics AND one of the things that we think can make the biggest difference in your post-breakup healing journey. What is it? The no contact rule! As effective as the no contact rule can be, it is also very, VERY difficult to start and stick to, especially when you are getting used to the end of a relationship. As difficult as it is, we have seen this technique make enormous differences in people’s ability to move on and heal. That is what we want for all of our listeners, so we are excited to recognize our achievement of 100 episodes by providing more resources for our community on using no contact to put your breakups behind you. This episode is jam-packed! We cover: -The logic behind no contact -The SCIENCE of no contact -Our stories with no contact -Quotes and stories from clients and listeners about their no contact experience -What it really means to “go no contact” -HOW to do it -How to stay strong -Dealing with slip-ups Tune in Thursday for a special bonus episode: “Questions About no Contact.” You’ve got this! Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:00:29
May 31, 2022
100. Got Closure Revisited!
100. Got Closure Revisited!
Got Closure? Revisited Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles This week we are doing things a little differently. Due to unforeseen circumstances, we are putting off dropping our 100th episode and instead of dropping an Ex-Philes oldie but goodie! We know how challenging the matter of closure can be after a breakup and we hope you will enjoy this episode again or for the first time! *** The need for “closure” is something that a lot of people struggle with during and after a breakup. From not understanding why a relationship has ended to not feeling that you have all of the answers to things left unsaid, the urge to sort things with your ex can be strong. But it is also an opportunity to learn how to provide for yourself emotionally, own that the breakup has taken place, and take ownership over your life. You can give yourself closure, and we have a lot of tips and tricks for empowering ways that you can do it. You’ve got this! Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
40:03
May 24, 2022
99. Heal Your Heart with a Social Media Detox
99. Heal Your Heart with a Social Media Detox
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Blocking your ex on social media is a common bit of breakup advice, but what about taking it a step further by doing a complete digital detox? HOW and WHY might taking this bold step into the present moment help you heal from your breakup? Push play to find out! The episode includes our personal stories about turning off social media after our breakups, Clair’s recent digital detox, and of course, tips for making a digital detox a success. Some additional episodes to help: -11: Social media after a breakup -31: The best things we did after a breakup -90: To block or not to block Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
51:27
May 17, 2022
98. Defining the Relationship with Brian Dunn
98. Defining the Relationship with Brian Dunn
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles It can be easy to be uncomfortable using your voice after a relationship. And when you are catching the feels for someone but not sure how they feel. Welcome to defining the relationship! This week we are thrilled to be joined for a chat with dating and relationship coach Brian Dunn to talk about his extensive background with using healthy, open communication in his post-divorce dating life and how that led to him supporting others to do the same. Don’t miss out on this interview! We cover: -How to know you are ready to date after a divorce or a long-term relationship -Online dating tips that win -Keeping a relationship casual or making it long term. -And more Follow Brian at https://briancdunn.com/ and https://www.instagram.com/mrbriancdunn/?hl=en Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community. ***Notes for Brian’s: He says “No More Mr. Nice Guy” is the male form of codependency— we acknowledge that codependency is not gendered and that any person can be codependent.
01:11:27
May 10, 2022
97. Building Self Trust
97. Building Self Trust
97. Building Self Trust
01:10:18
May 03, 2022
96. Hookup Culture with Aditi Paul
96. Hookup Culture with Aditi Paul
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles What is going on with Gen Z and sex? What is the state of hook up culture? Talk about a deep dive! In this week’s episode we are joined by researcher Aditi Paul to discuss her extensive research on the topic and what she has learned about the in’s and out’s of the Gen Z hook up scene. This is a juicy one! Some highlights include: -What is soaking? -Is Gen Z really more open about talking about sex? -What does safe sex look like for Gen Z? -What are some misperceptions about Gen Z and their sexual activity? -Where are Gen Z individuals meeting each other? -Sexting! -The orgasm gap! And more! Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:16:48
April 26, 2022
95. Working on yourself after a breakup
95. Working on yourself after a breakup
Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles Today, we get really, really real… Breakup? Take advantage! Use this time to work on yourself and emerge stronger than ever. But what does that actually mean?? Platitudes are great, but what are the practical ways that you can use this moment in life to better yourself? We got you!, In this episode we cover six areas of personal development that are especially ripe for the picking after a breakup and how to go about getting started. More episodes to support your journey: 87: Should I forgive my ex? 85: This might sound a little woo-woo 85: Our 5 favorite healing practices 78: Use your breakup to manifest a new beginning Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:12:48
April 19, 2022
94. 😴 WHY am I dreaming about my ex? 🤔
94. 😴 WHY am I dreaming about my ex? 🤔
Join our new Patreon! Become an Ex-Philes insider!  https://www.patreon.com/exphiles GAH! Dreaming about an ex when you’re trying to heal from the breakup doesn’t just KINDA suck, it REALLY sucks! It is confusing, painful, and has the potential to send you into a major tailspin. BUT - dreaming about an ex is pretty darn normal. It is often the story we write about WHY we are dreaming about the person that causes the most harm. PSSST: we both still dream about our exes. And a bunch of other weird stuff. And we got your back! Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
58:02
April 12, 2022
93. Trauma bonds, fantasy bonds, and moving on
93. Trauma bonds, fantasy bonds, and moving on
*Trigger warning: domestic violence, addiction, abuse* The dynamics of a relationship can often play a huge role in how we heal. This week we are talking about two types of toxic dynamics: trauma bonds and fantasy bonds. We go deep into: -The real meanings of trauma bonds and fantasy bonds -What does a trauma bond feel like? -How do I break a trauma bond? -Fantasy bond v real love -Preventing trauma bonds and fantasy bonds -Recovering from a toxic relationship -Developing healthy bonds Remember: you CAN overcome even the most overwhelming of breakups and have an amazing future. We believe in you! More episodes to help you heal: Ep. 16: Co-dependence with Janice Ep. 52: Rescuer Syndrome Ep. 65: Domestic Violence Awareness with Ruth Glenn Ep. 66: Am I in an abusive relationship? Ep. 67: Am I in a healthy relationship? Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
56:49
April 05, 2022
92. First Dates! Do's and Do Not's
92. First Dates! Do's and Do Not's
Ah first dates…they are “supposed” to be fun but…they can also be a real doozy. After a breakup it can be easy to feel like you don’t know what the HELL you’re doing. The Ex-Philes gals have got your back! Listen to this episode before you swipe next. Talk about a deep dive into dating. We cover: -What made our BEST first dates memorable -What made our worst dates the worst -The perfect formula for a successful first date -Topics to avoid on a first date -Why you should shoot for NOT clicking with people -Getting dressed best practices Plus: a lively debate over whether or not asking for a doggie bag is a best or worst practice. We want to help you heal, grow, and evolve. If you’d like information on coaching support please send us a DM to our IGs and we will be in touch. Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:26:03
March 29, 2022
91. Being the breaker-upper
91. Being the breaker-upper
A lot of the conversation around healing from a breakup focuses on being broken up with, but breaking up can hurt just as much if you are the one to end things. Breaking up with someone can involve a lot of grief and a long, difficult process of getting to the point of making the decision. And no matter what "side" of things you are on, things that happen during a breakup can be incredibly challenging to recover from.  We know from personal experience how heartbreaking it can be to end things. If this is your situation you deserve to be seen and supported. Today's episode is for you.  We want to help you heal, grow, and evolve. If you’d like information on coaching support please send us a DM to our IGs and we will be in touch. Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
53:49
March 22, 2022
90. To Block or Not To Block
90. To Block or Not To Block
To Block, or Not to Block…That IS a big question after a breakup! It can lead to a LOT of closure and open a new chapter in life that is about you and your new life separate from your ex. But although we love to talk about the benefits, we also know that a lot of people struggle with taking the leap. Well today we are taking a leap with you, into a rabbit hole of all things BLOCKING. We cover: -the reasons why people struggle with blocking their ex -HOW and WHEN to block an ex -coping with your ex blocking you (and what it really means) -the reasons we love blocking so much -what to do if you co-parent with your ex -mindfulness techniques to use if you keep thinking about what your ex is up to Plus: how to stay strong Resources from this episode: You Are Not Your Brain: the 4-step Solution for Changing Bad Habits, Ending Unhealthy Thinking, and Taking Control of Your Life by Jeffrey M. Schwartz We want to help you heal, grow, and evolve. If you’d like information on coaching support please send us a DM to our IGs and we will be in touch. Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
49:16
March 15, 2022
89. Rebound Relationships
89. Rebound Relationships
“Rebound relationships” get a bad wrap— But what if a “rebound” is exactly what helps you get to the next phase of your breakup? And if you decide to date soon after a breakup but don’t WANT a rebound, how can you consciously go about connecting with people? And what if you want to avoid them altogether and simply DO YOU? We are taking SUCH a deep dive into rebound relationships today, including our very personal and very sorted experiences with rebounding and being rebounded with. PLUS - a bunch of stories from the awesome Ex-Philes community. We want to help you heal, grow, and evolve. If you’d like information on coaching support please send us a DM to our IGs and we will be in touch. Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
49:10
March 08, 2022
88. BONUS! Virtual Valentine's Live Q&A
88. BONUS! Virtual Valentine's Live Q&A
Our live is LIVE!!! Today's bonus episode is the recording of the Q&A segment of our Virtual Valentine's event. We hope you enjoy hearing that whatever your questions are, you're likely not alone. We explore: - Why the apps aren't leading to more than a couple dates if that - How is the best way to break up with someone, especially if they're struggling with their mental health - If you break things off over text message - How to find emotional support, especially as a man, when your ex was the person who you went to when sharing your feelings - What the difference is between actually processing or using personal development to bypass your grief - How to know you're dating for the "right reasons" not just because you're lonely - How to cope and heal when you still love your ex, but it's not a compatible match Want some support on your healing journey? DM us for coaching info.  Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
46:52
March 03, 2022
87. Should I forgive my ex?
87. Should I forgive my ex?
Forgiveness. It means something different to every single person. It's held up as this crucial part of healing, and yet how do you forgive someone for doing unforgivable things?  In this episode, we dive into questions around forgiveness:  - Does not getting to forgiveness mean you won't heal?  - Should you forgive your ex?  - What if you're having trouble forgiving yourself?  - Why is forgiveness so hard to define?  Want some support on your healing journey? DM us for coaching info.  Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
49:34
March 01, 2022
86. This might sound a little woo-woo...
86. This might sound a little woo-woo...
An episode about all the woo things that we do to make ourselves feel good and keep the positive vibes flowing. And it’s infused with numerology goodness - recorded on 2/2/22 and dropping on 2/22/22. WOO-WOO! Our woo practices help us to add a bit of the sacred into each day, making the entire week special and helping us to stay focused on our goals and supporting others to heal their hearts. Many of the things we are sharing today are things that we discovered after breakups and while not everything may resonate with everyone, we hope you might find a thing or two that you are excited about exploring and maybe even shaping into a practice of your own. We want to help you heal, grow, and evolve. If you’d like information on coaching support please send us a DM to our IGs and we will be in touch. Keep up with the Ex-Philes gals! Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:17:14
February 22, 2022
85. Our 5 Favorite Healing Practices
85. Our 5 Favorite Healing Practices
Being proactive is a huge part of healing. Just as with any injury, when we take efforts to heal our heart we see it strengthened, little by little, day by day. Being proactive about our healing also allows us to build self-trust, which in turn helps to build confidence. When we are in the midst of a stressful, painful, or otherwise intense situation in life it can be very hard to see the forest for the trees, and the practices or healing modalities that might be the most effective can be really hard to see. It can be helpful for others to point out to us places where we might start. Breakups often open the door to new ways of living and walking through the world. So many people begin to experience a desire for more in their life. Healing practices are a great way to add depth, meaning, joy, and manifesting to this new chapter. These practices have helped us both to heal from breakups and other challenging situations in life. So grab a notebook and let’s get started. Want some support on your healing journey? DM us for coaching info.  Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
57:56
February 15, 2022
84. Valentine's Day Happy Hour (Re-Release) 🥂
84. Valentine's Day Happy Hour (Re-Release) 🥂
Register for our live Valentine’s show:  https://www.eventbrite.com/e/virtual-valentines-ex-philes-live-qa-show-tickets-249747500497 Surprise! In honor of Valentine’s Day we are dropping TWO Ex-Philes episodes this week! This is a very special episode in the history of the podcast: our first-ever happy hour episode! We hope that you will join us for our live show next week and that you will enjoy this lively discussion about 2010’s Valentine’s Day. Do you have tickets for the Ex-Philes Valentine’s LIVE SHOW? Grab them now HERE.  Are you loving Ex-Philes? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. We recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As podcast hosts, we are dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in our content. We welcome feedback around our efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.
01:03:14
February 10, 2022
83. ❤️ Single on Valentine's Day (Re-Release) ❤️
83. ❤️ Single on Valentine's Day (Re-Release) ❤️
Register for our live Valentine’s show:  https://www.eventbrite.com/e/virtual-valentines-ex-philes-live-qa-show-tickets-249747500497 We have been on a mission to help our listeners love Valentine’s Day since the beginning of the podcast. Today we are releasing an oldie but goodie: one of our first Ex-Philes episodes all on the topic of being single on Valentine’s Day. Why is this so important to us: We don’t think it is fair that our society tries to tell us that it is better to be in a relationship than to be single. We don’t think that it is fair that this cute holiday is set up to hurt people who don’t have romantic love in their lives! We don’t think that it is fair that anyone should feel pain on a day that is sort of imposed on them (it’s not our choice that this happens on Feb. 14th, right?) We don’t want any of our beloved listeners to be sad on this day. If you agree we would love for you to join us for our Valentine’s LIVE show happening on February 14th at 8pm EST. Get your tickets here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/virtual-valentines-ex-philes-live-qa-show-tickets-249747500497
38:51
February 08, 2022
82. 🌈 LBTQ+ Loving and Dating with ELLA Global Community 🌈
82. 🌈 LBTQ+ Loving and Dating with ELLA Global Community 🌈
We are thrilled to be partnering with ELLA Global Community to bring support and resources to queer women and non-binary individuals. Today we speak with Danielle Siqueira and Laila Van Rijswijk from their amazing team about the unique breakup and dating challenges facing their community, hear about their own breakup stories, AND answer questions from their audience. ** ELLA Global Community works ALL OVER THE WORLD to provide a platform through which queer women and nonbinary people can feel inspired to strengthen their community and raise awareness about their identity and challenges faced as a result of discrimination and inequality. Their app, ELLA, instantly connects queer women and nonbinary people with support, friends, resources, and a TON of events. Find them at the Apple store here.  ** If you identify with their mission and would like the support of a global network of queer women and non-binary people, we encourage you to connect with them: Learn about their projects here Connect with them on IG here Download the app here *** 👉🏻👍🏽 Do you have tickets for the Ex-Philes Valentine’s LIVE SHOW? Grab them now HERE.  Are you loving Ex-Philes? Head over to the podcast Instagram @exphilespodcast and follow Clair @clairlofthouse and Janice @Janiceformichella. And if you’d like to join our online community, find us on Facebook at Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.  We want to know you and for you to know us! ____________________________________________________________________________ The Ex-Philes is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. We believe that love