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Exploring Life and Work with Patti - From Chaos to Calm!

Exploring Life and Work with Patti - From Chaos to Calm!

By Exploring Life and Work with Patti - From Chaos to Calm!
Welcome to Exploring Life and Work with Patti - From Chaos to Calm. This podcast is for you if you are a manager or supervisor who focused on your career for years and now wants to live a more purposeful and balanced life outside of work. I am your host Patti Oskvarek, a Leadership, and Work-Life Balance Coach. These mini-podcast episodes inspire life and work strategies to maintain sanity within your busy day, from chaos to calm.
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Episode 3 - The Pressure of Perfection on Managers and Supervisors
Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How's it going? In this podcast episode, I will talk about the pressures of perfection on managers and supervisors. As Managers and Supervisors, we put a lot of expectations on ourselves as well as others. So why do we feel we have to be perfect? Are we putting those expectations on ourselves, or do people expect us to be perfect with our attitude, appearance, decisions, and performance? It appears that perfection is expected and pressured onto Managers and Supervisors, which trickles down to the employees — the appearance of being perfect and pointing out other people's mistakes and faults accompanied by harsh judgment has become the norm in workplaces. In this type of environment, there is a lack of focus, creativity, and willingness to try new things. As a result, people don't grow, nor do the products, services, and revenue. It's okay to make mistakes as long as we learn from them and not continually repeat them. How feedback is delivered can make or break a person, whether at work, home, volunteering, or among friends. Too much nitpicking and micromanaging is why good employees leave. A good leader will let employees try new and different processes, especially if the current approach isn't working, outdated, or becoming mundane. Listening is essential to know what is working and what is not. Being approachable and welcoming is the first step to building trust, hearing what people feel and new ideas, and realizing that mistakes happen. Finally, good leaders are flexible — having a crucial conversation on what happened and working together on how to fix the situation—talking about what worked and what didn't and coming up with a plan to make it better with an agreeable resolution. What if you are a manager or supervisor who doesn't like conflict? Overcoming the fear of conflict will reduce anxiety, strengthen courage, and promotes better communication skills. Start by responding to emails, voicemails, and texts, even short and the point. Something is better than nothing. Meet with employees, listen, and be engaged. As you address complex situations, it does get easier as time goes on. Communication skills are an essential part of becoming a better leader. Managers and Supervisors are the hardest on themselves. When projects fail, they take it to heart and feel awful and embarrassed. Here are some Self-Reflect Questions to ponder when a mistake or failure happens. What did I learn? What will I do differently next time? What areas do I need to improve? What did I learn about myself, customers, clients, superiors, and employees from this experience? An Affirmation to recite to get you through during or after a mistake or failure: I will not let mistakes from the past carry on into today. Pretty much everyone wants to do a good job and wants to please their superiors, customers, employees, and clients. So when mistakes happen, knowledging them by taking action steps to rectify them. By doing this, it will reflect, you are an honest person with integrity. This imperfect world sure does need more managers and supervisors like this. Letting go of perfection and being authentic changes the workplace from chaos to calm. Until next we meet again! #managers #supervisors #perfection #leadership #leaderscoaching #affirmation #leadershipexpectations #worklife
October 4, 2021
Episode 2 - Exploring Self-Talk and Emotions of the Manager and Supervisor
Today, we will explore self-talk and emotions as a manager or supervisor when everything seems not to be going right in the workday, from employees to yourself, and how to change the chaos to calm. Have you ever felt so underappreciated at work? You try so hard, and it just doesn't seem to go as you planned. Others don't seem to get the big picture no matter how many times you think you communicated it. You feel like everyone doesn't seem to care. So why don't they get it? It can be chaotic to a Manager or Supervisor; heightened emotions and frustration levels escalate towards others. I felt this way many times.  Thinking I was communicating clearly and later realizing that was not the case.  How does the communication style change from chaotic to calm? Here are some possible questions that may be going through your mind during these times of frustration: Did I communicate what I wanted correctly? I feel I didn't handle my disappointment and frustration very well? How, as a supervisor, do I handle this situation in a calm manner? What happened to people's passion for their work or careers? Have people lost their sense of purpose? Why are so many people just going through the motions towards their jobs? Is there no sense of pride anymore? What happened? Stop, take a deep breath, and pause. What positive affirmations can you recite to shift your perspective towards yourself and others to communicate better? How about reciting these affirmations to get you started and through the day? I am a good communicator! I am a confident leader! When you believe you can make a shift, you usually do! Being a manager or supervisor, you may have encounter situations throughout your day and get very frustrated. However, I believe most people are not doing what they want to be doing. They may have outgrown the job and may not be pursuing their true calling or career path in life. So they dread getting up every day to a job that brings no satisfaction or purpose in life.  If so, they would love to get up every morning and be excited to go to work every day instead of hitting that snooze button numerous times and dragging themselves out of bed with no purpose or passion. Getting to know the person you are talking to, their learning style, and personality traits is a good start in connecting and communicating better. How can you help bring some spark back in the workplace and assist your employees in igniting some passion for their job? Ask the employee is there a project, task, or something they would like to learn within your department.  Could you give, teach or mentor them on a particular project?  Some employees don't want to learn anything new; they want to do their job and go home.  That's okay by asking the employee you know if they do or don't want to learn something new. Talk with them about what aspects they like about their job, and this will give you some ideas for future tasks or assignments to give them in the future. Listen to them talk about their aspirations in life. Help them set attainable work goals. Schedule training classes with them for self-development or new skills they would like to learn. Delegate different job assignments to them. Get their feedback on what they liked and what they didn't like about the work. Give them some variety in their job duties, so they don't become complacent and unhappy. Self-Reflect - What keeps me motivated and encouraged to get through my workday?
September 23, 2021
Episode 1 - How to Stop Ignoring The Hard Stuff and Go From Chaos to Calm
In today's episode, I will discuss - How to Stop Ignoring the Hard Stuff and Go from Chaos to Calm. Have you ever had something to do at work, and you didn't want to do it? There are things as a manager or supervisor you don't want to do, but it is an essential part of the job.  You know what I mean, and not addressing it can cause more havoc in the workplace. Let me give you some examples: Not having crucial conversations with an employee about poor performance Prolonging a discussion with the team about not making goals An email you are told to write by your boss Calling back an angry customer or client Not participating or wanting to go to mandatory leadership meetings Delivering bad news, for example, no bonus, no raises, or possible layoffs within the company I am sure all of us at one time or another has put something off that might be uncomfortable or didn't want to do but was loading us down with it continually there, whether in worry, thought, or others depending on it. Wouldn't it make life and work more enjoyable if it was no longer in front of us but completed? Getting it completed takes off a heavy burden, and then you can focus on the other things you want to do. One of the ways to tackle the hard stuff is to do it first thing in the morning and get it out of the way.  If it is a massive project, break it down into tasks. Then, as you complete a portion of the project, you will feel like you are moving forward on getting it done. Checking that section off your to-do list, spreadsheet, or Trello board feels like an achievement and inspiration. Putting off the hard stuff or undesirable tasks doesn't contribute to becoming successful. However, once finished, you can move on to more enjoyable tasks and have a great sense of accomplishment. How to Break Free of Ignoring the Hard Stuff: Identify it is happening and Recognize it and decide to Focus on the task until completed Celebrate when finished Take control of all distractions such as responding immediately to email notifications, incoming voice mail messages, texts, instant messages, social media notifications. Set specific times and limits for these activities. Block off your calendar for the task.  Concentrate by tuning out or turning off all distractions and commit to that particular task. If working in the office, let others know you are working on something with a deadline or need to finish with no distractions if they could wait on questions.  By blocking the time on your digital calendar can help with limiting distractions. Halt any negative self-talk and replace these thoughts with positive Affirmations. I get things done!  By telling yourself, I can do this, and pray for strength to continue and remove all obstacles in the way; it will inspire you to keep going.  There were many times I would be sitting at my desk and thinking I can't do this, and I would pray, journal, and recite positive affirmations to get me through the task, situation, or sh*t storm happening around me. Sometimes getting started is the hardest, but the rewards are endless. First, setting your goal, coming up with a plan of action, and the most important thing is putting the plan into action. Here are some Self Reflections to ponder: What are some key factors which are enabling you to put off the hard stuff? What have you been putting off? How will it change your circumstances by getting them completed? Until next time!
September 22, 2021