A Muslim Mom

Episode 01 : You are an AWESOME Muslim Mom!

An episode of A Muslim Mom

By Farhat Amin
A Muslim podcast series about the messy intersection of life + business and the humanity that leads us as we grow, and fail, and adapt throughout every new season of motherhood.

Farhat Amin is a proud Muslim mum and entrepreneur. She designs positive Islamic parenting resources. A Muslim Mom Podcast & blog is about helping Muslim mothers understand their Islamic identity through discussion. Surah Asr inspired Farhat to begin a Muslim podcast.

"By Time. The human being is in loss. Except those who believe, and do good works, and encourage truth, and recommend patience.”
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Do you need help, getting your kids off their smartphones?
Are you worried that your child spends more time on their devices than with you? Do you think they’re obsessed with their (or your) smartphones: your little one’s watching YouTube cartoons or playing games non-stop, and the older one is looking at it every few minutes, texting friends all the time, checking to see how many “likes” they’ve got after they’ve posted on social media, refusing to put their phones to one side round the dinner table? Well, I share your concerns – and so do many other parents. Too often, we have no choice but to accessorise our children with laptops and smartphones in this gadget-filled world, so we have to take responsibility for their disciplined behaviour and moderation in their use as well. We buy our kids gadgets to keep them safe, help them with their homework and to keep them out of our hair but we probably didn’t foresee all the problems they can cause. As parents, we can definitely take steps to change this situation. Will it be hard? Yes. Is it impossible? No. In this weeks podcast I give practical advice to help you curb your child’s smartphone addiction You can purchase the accompanying book here: How To Manage Your Child's  Smartphone Addiction If you have any questions or suggestions for future episodes send me an email, I love getting feedback please email info@farhatamin.com
October 10, 2019
Why does Islam have so many rules?
Have your kids ever asked you: Why is everything haram? Why is Islam so strict? Is this something that you have heard? Let's explore why Muslim youth can view Islam as a burden. Where are these ideas coming from? We need to understand the source, then we can address them and provide a convincing answer and help our teenagers who are feeling disgruntled. How to answer the question: Why does Islam have so many rules? So, here is the way I would answer this question. Inshallah, please read it carefully, once you have understood it, adapt it to your child, then have a calm discussion with them. You’ll probably have several discussions and that’s a good thing. Begin with some questions: Do you go to school? Do you line up in the canteen for lunch? Do you dress in a certain way? i.e. school uniform or socially accepted clothes Do you stop at a crossing when the traffic lights turn green? Do you follow social codes when you interact with people? Do you pay for items you buy at the shops? These are all actions you carry out. Rules that you follow routinely without thinking about it every day. Do you think they are restrictive? Do's and don'ts that are preventing you from having fun? Maybe you do think they are a pain, but you do follow the rules because deep down you know if you want to get ahead in life and function in society you have to abide by these rules. Imagine a school without rules: learning would not happen. Imagine a country without laws: chaos would ensue, criminals would go unpunished. Imagine a family without rules: individualism and disrespect would prevail. If you think about it, your whole life is governed by rules and laws for example: school rules, exam rules, coursework deadlines, specific school holiday dates. workplace rules, answering to a boss, work dress code. Do you have a choice when it comes to obeying rules? We all have a choice whether we obey the rules or not. If we do not obey the rules in society, there are consequences and punishments. Every society has laws and rules, that they have decided to organise society. If you choose to disobey the rules you will be classed as a criminal. When we think about these rules placed on us by our local council and government, we think they are necessary, useful, they ensure everything runs smoothly. So why do you feel that the rules you have to follow in Islam are strict, but the rules you follow socially and at school, they are not authoritarian? Read the full article with links and references: Why does Islam have so many rules? Email your comments: info@farhatamin.com BELIEF IN ALLAH, THE QURAN AND PROPHET MUHAMMAD (SAW) Book mentioned in the podcast If you have any questions or suggestions for future episodes send me an email, I love getting feedback please email info@farhatamin.com
October 1, 2019
Kamala Khan: Muslim Superhero?
Farhat Amin explores whether Kamala Khan is a positive role model for impressionable young  Muslim girls? Marvel Studios recently announced that the character Kamala Khan also known as Ms. Marvel will have her own TV series on Disney Plus. When Marvel first unveiled Kamala Khan, she was met with widespread positive reactions online. “She “normalizes this idea of the American experience as Muslim. " Al Jazeera America  This type of optimistic reaction occurs because Muslims think it’s good that a Muslim character is being positively represented in mainstream media. Whilst Muslim women tend to feature more in the media than our male counterparts, this phenomenon is not limited to one demographic. Throughout modern history, many minority groups have sought prominent positions of leadership or fame to increase their influence and acquire acceptance. It is based on this idea that Muslims, especially visibly Muslim women, are encouraged to seek out and embrace platforms that will let them be seen by millions as “normal” people, to defuse hatred and fear. qarawiyyinproject.com Who Created Kamala Khan? Created by editors Sana Amanat and Stephen Wacker, writer G. Willow Wilson, and artists Adrian Alphona and Jamie McKelvie. Who Is Kamala Khan? Kamala is a Muslim-American teenager growing up in Jersey City. What Are Kamala Khan’s Powers? Kamala Khan gained shape-shifting powers when a strange Terrigen Mist descended upon the city, awakening her Inhuman genes. How Old Is Kamala Khan? Kamala Khan, a 16-year-old from Jersey City. Is Kamal Pakistani? Kamala Khan is a Pakistani-American, the daughter of Yusuf Khan and Muneeba Khan. Her parents are originally from Karachi. Why Has Marvel Created A Muslim, Female Superhero, Now? In her Ted Talk, Amanat stated that “the big idea behind Ms.Marvel [was] very much about minority representation, the bigger idea was about finding your authentic self”. While creating the comic, she drew on her own experience as the child of Pakistani immigrants in the New Jersey suburbs in hopes that the next generation will not experience identity rejection as she did through a relatable superhero. Numerous young and ethnic letter writers were excited to see Kamala Khan who looked like them and came from a similar background. wikipedia.org I don’t doubt Amanat’s intentions however Marvel is in the business of making money. They made $5 billion in 2019. They are constantly looking for new untapped audiences to exploit not ‘represent’. Talk of “minority representation” and “authentic self” is perfect PR for Marvel. They understand how lucrative it is for them globally to tap into all ethnic and cultural markets. In 2018, they saw the success of making a movie with a black superhero. ‘Black Panther’ Becomes Top-Grossing Superhero Film So now they want to see if they can cash in on the “Muslim Pound” by creating a relatable Asian Muslim superhero. How Authentically Muslim Is Kamala Khan? How does creating a secular, sexualised burkini clad, superhero, who behaves just like an average non-Muslim American teenager honestly represent Muslims?    Continue reading https://farhatamin.com/kamala-khan/ Email your response to info@farhatamin.com
August 30, 2019
How to help your child be a successful Muslim student
"Not alike are the dwellers of the Fire and the dwellers of the Paradise. It is the dwellers of Paradise that will be successful." (Quran 59:20) Allah tells us in the Quran that the people of the fire and the people of the garden are not alike. It is those who live in the garden that are the successful ones. A beautiful end that finishes in an eternal home of happiness is the reward for a successful life. Bearing this ayah in mind, how then do we understand what a successful life is? Do we achieve success by doing well in our exams and getting a high paid job? As mothers what understanding of success are, we giving our children? Just how does Islam define success? Nowadays, we are persuaded to think of success as a spacious house, an overseas holiday or fame, and fortune. People work hard for these small successes and they are not to be belittled. There's nothing wrong with wanting a 1st class degree or well-paid job however we need to teach our children that such successes are temporary. The only things you can take with you to the grave are your deeds. Anas ibn Malik reported Prophet Muhammad said, "Three things follow the dead person to his grave, two of which return and one of which remains with him. His family, money, and deeds accompany him [to the grave], then his family and wealth return and his deeds stay with him." Sahih al-Bukhari Read the full blog post here www.farhatamin.com Sign up to the VIP CLUB Today!
August 23, 2019
What's causing Muslims to have doubts about Islam? Part 2
In part 1, I explored the reasons why Muslim teenagers lose their connection to Islam due to their parents/grandparents emigrating from a Muslim country. The detrimental effects of ‘immigrant assimilation’ on our kids, can easily go undetected, I only realised it when I began studying the topic. In this post, I want to explore some other factors that are contributing to making our kids think and behave more liberally. A Lack Of Muslim Friends Or Good Muslim Friends Alhamdulilah, globally the Muslim population is enormous. According to a study in 2015, Islam has 1.9 billion adherents, making up about 24.8% of the world population. www.pewresearch.org. This data is four years old, as you know, we Muslims love having babies, so the figure is probably 2 billion now! Although we are huge, in Europe and the US, we are a minority. If you don’t live near a masjid or have a Muslim community nearby then your kids can’t attend Quran classes/ Islamic studies classes where they can become friends with other Muslim teenagers. Whether you like it or not your teenager’s friends have a bigger influence on them then you do. Hadith About Friends Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, (saw), said, “A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends.” Tirmidhī Abu Musa reported: The Prophet, (saw), said, “Verily, the parable of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell. As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes, or you will notice a bad smell.” Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhāri As a high school teacher, I noticed the different cliques that formed in year groups. These friendship groups would have the same ‘look’, speak the same, go to the same parties, listen to similar music. Basically, follow a set of unwritten rules, if you wanted to be part of the group you would have to conform. But I think we all know this; we’ve watched the movies and once upon a time we were teenagers. So, if our kids don’t have good Muslim friends then unfortunately, they end up mimicking (in varying degrees) their non-Muslim friends’ behaviour. i.e. gossiping, dating, swearing, disrespecting their parents and teachers, dressing immodestly, experimenting with marijuana. Our kids are under a lot of pressure to behave like an average non-Muslim teenager. Maybe you’re thinking, my child doesn’t do that, and inshallah I hope you’re right, and I am wrong. However, again as a high school teacher I witnessed the chameleonic behaviour of Muslim teenagers when they came to parents evening with their family. It would be funny if it wasn’t so tragic... Read the full blog post here www.farhatamin.com If you have any questions or suggestions for future episodes send me an email, I love getting feedback please email info@farhatamin.com
August 9, 2019
What causes Muslim teenagers to doubt Islam? Part 1
As a Muslim parent, we teach our kids about their deen. We do the best we can to create an Islamic atmosphere in our home. We send them to madrasah or Masjid to learn Quran. Things generally are ok until they become teenagers: that's when the problems start. As kids become older and go through puberty it's natural for them to be curious and ask questions. They begin to think independently and question everything.  Why do I have to study so much? Why do I have to tidy my room? What's wrong with being on my phone till 1 a.m. in the morning? Some questions will also be about Islam. Why do I have to wear hijab? I don't think it's fair that I should have to fast when I have exams. Why can't I sleepover at my non-Muslim friend's house? I don't think it is a problem that Muslim teenagers ask these questions. I think it's a problem when we can't give them a clear answer which is based on Islam.   www.farhatamin.com info@farhatamin.com Messages from awesome listeners Salam, I have listened to a ‘Muslim Mum podcast’ and just wanted to say it was really refreshing to hear someone talk about cultural and Islamic heritage. As a Pakistani, I understand there are some Pakistani traditions that originate from Indian/ Hindu practices, however, a lot of the traditions we choose to have are in line with Islam. So it was really nice to hear someone else make a link between Islam and traditional practices, for example Shalwar kameez is traditional but I would consider them a lot more modest than the clothes our youth wears today (skinny jeans, short tops etc). So just wanted to say thank you, and I’m really enjoying the content! Rida Love this article. We are all Muslim first but Allah swt created us in different tribes and races and we should celebrate that too, it’s a gift to us but in the west sometimes our teenagers feel the need to suppress their actual racial identity to fit it. Racism / colourism also has a part to play too bubbling away in the background. Shan
July 31, 2019
Season 2: Trailer
Asalamualaikum friends and welcome to "A Muslim Mom Podcast". I am your host Farhat Amin and this series is all about the joys and challenges of life as a muslim mom, and the teachings of Islam that leads us as we grow, and fail, and adapt throughout every new season of motherhood. Listen to all the Muslim podcast episodes https://farhatamin.com/a-muslim-mom-podcast-blog/ Read the Muslim parenting articles on my blog  https://farhatamin.com/a-muslim-mom-podcast-blog/
June 30, 2019
Episode 06 : Ramadan Podcast 2
Salams!  This is a 3 part episode Part 1: Ramadan moon sighting, why we don't need to disagree Part 2: Hadith on Gratitude: Take advantage of five blessings before you are deprived Part 3: Ertugrul : why you should watch it! You can listen to previous episodes and take a look at my parenting resources at www.farhatamin.com Get in touch, info@farhatamin.com
May 10, 2019
Episode 05: Ramadan Podcast 1
Salams!  This is a 3 part episode Part 1: What is your Ramadan mindset and how to get in the mood for Ramadan?  Part 2: How to be organized and productive this Ramadan Part 3: Why I created the course: Ramadan Made Easy for kids You can listen to previous episodes and take a look at my parenting resources at www.farhatamin.com Get in touch, info@farhatamin.com
May 3, 2019
Episode 04: Muslim role models: who's yours?
Salams!  This is a 2 part episode We all have Muslim role models in our life. There are many Muslim celebs, it's easy to just follow them without thinking. So what makes a good female Muslim role model? In this episode of A Muslim Mom Podcast I explore: Part 1: Where do we get our role models from?  Part 2: Why should we go to Muslim gatherings and details about a brand NEW course I've created: Ramadan Made Easy You can listen to previous episodes and take a look at my parenting resources at www.farhatamin.com Get in touch, info@farhatamin.com
April 5, 2019
How to encourage your kids to pray salah
Salams!  Part 1: Why you should be praying salah regularly Part 2: Details about a brand NEW course I've created: How to create a Salah Routine for Kids, you can sign up here You can listen to previous episodes and take a look at my parenting resources at www.farhatamin.com Get in touch, info@farhatamin.com Prayer, or Salat, was made obligatory for all Muslims, whether they be rich or poor, strong or weak, black or white, male or female. Prayer allows the believer to enrich their spirituality and cultivate the soul’s right to love and worship the Creator, Allah. “Verily, I am Allah! There is none worthy of worship but I, so worship Me and offer prayer perfectly for My remembrance.” [Quran, Taha, 13-14] The importance of prayer is conveyed constantly in the Quran and was also stressed by the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh): “Know that among your duties, prayer is foremost”. The performance of prayer five times a day is considered vital to attain success in this life and the hereafter. Following the testimony of faith, performance of the prayers at their correct times and complete in bowings, prostrations and humility, will guarantee forgiveness from God and everlasting paradise. Muslims believe that the first matter that they will be brought to account for on the Day of Judgment is the prayer. If it is sound, then the rest of their deeds will be sound. And if it is bad, then the rest of his deeds will be bad. Prayer provides a constant reminder of the essence of our creation and provides a direct connection to Allah, who linked success and felicity to humility in prayer. It emphasizes the proximity between religion and daily life. Life, from an Islamic standpoint, is to be directed to Allah. Life is an opportunity for worship and the remembrance of Allah. Praying repeatedly throughout the day and interrupting the daily activities brings about the realization of this concept. The believer, through prayer, acquires a spiritual awareness that he takes with him throughout all of life’s endeavors. Prayer purifies the heart and truly, through Prayer, a believer attains spiritual devotion and moral elevation. Prayer not only gives a deep connection with God, but in prayer one establishes patience, humility and sincerity. Prayer provides a means of repentance and is a restrainer from shameful and unjust deeds. This is portrayed through the following saying of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh): “If a person had a stream outside his door and he bathed in it five times a day, do you think he would have any filth left on him?” The people said, “No filth would remain on him whatsoever.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) then said, “That is like the five daily prayers: Allah wipes away the sins by them.” (From the Hadeeth collections of Al-Bukhari and Muslim.) Praying five times a day engages the believer in constant remembrance of God and keeps him away from any unjust deeds and leads him only to deeds that will earn the pleasure of God. It is through prayer that one really finds inner peace and fulfillment. It is also a source of patience, courage, hope, confidence, inner peace, stability, equality, unity and an expression of thankfulness to God.
March 22, 2019
Episode 02: Why do we compare ourselves to other Moms?
Salams!  This is a 3 part episode Part 1: Who is Farhat Amin? Part 2: Do you compare yourself to other mommies? Does it make you feel happier? Part 3: Sharing a Hadith that has changed my life, for real! You can listen to previous episodes and take a look at my parenting resources at www.farhatamin.com Get in touch, info@farhatamin.com
March 14, 2019
Episode 01 : You are an AWESOME Muslim Mom!
This episode explores the status of mothers in Islam, the Quran and Hadith on motherhood and why modern society under values mums. Here are some of the beautiful ayah and Hadith describing the blessed status of mothers in Islam. The Quran on motherhood 1. "We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth" (46:15). 2. "Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: ‘My Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood' "(17:23-24). 3. "We have enjoined on man and woman kindness to parents; but if they (either of them) strive (to force) thee to join with Me anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not'" (29:8). 4. "We have enjoined on man and woman (to be good) to his/her parents; show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is (thy final) Goal. If they (parents) strive to make thee join in worship with Me things of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not; yet bear them company in this life with justice (and consideration) and follow the way of those who turn to Me (in love)" (31:14-15 Hadith about mothers 1. The Prophet Muhammad said, may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him: Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother (Ahmad, Nasai). 2. A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim). 3. Abu Usaid Saidi said: We were once sitting with Rasulullah when a man from the tribe of Salmah came and said to him: O Messenger of Allah! do my parents have rights over me even after they have died? And Rasulullah said: Yes. You must pray to Allah to bless them with His Forgiveness and Mercy, fulfill the promises they made to anyone, and respect their relations and their friends (Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah). 4. Abdullah ibn Amr related that the Messenger of Allah said: The major sins are to believe that Allah has partners, to disobey one's parents, to commit murder, and to bear false witness (Bukhari, Muslim). 5. It is narrated by Asma bint Abu Bakr that during the treaty of Hudaibiyah, her mother, who was then pagan, came to see her from Makkah. Asma informed the Messenger of Allah of her arrival and also that she needed help. He said: Be good to your mother (Bukhari, Muslim).
January 28, 2019
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