A Muslim Mom

Episode 04: Muslim role models: who's yours?

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By Farhat Amin
A Muslim podcast series about the messy intersection of life + business and the humanity that leads us as we grow, and fail, and adapt throughout every new season of motherhood.

Farhat Amin is a proud Muslim mum and entrepreneur. She designs positive Islamic parenting resources. A Muslim Mom Podcast & blog is about helping Muslim mothers understand their identity through discussion. The inspiration to begin the podcast came from Surah Asr

"By Time. The human being is in loss. Except those who believe, and do good works, and encourage truth, and recommend patience.”
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MUSLIM TEENAGERS, WHAT’S CAUSING THEM TO HAVE DOUBTS ABOUT ISLAM PART 2
In part 1, I explored the reasons why Muslim teenagers lose their connection to Islam due to their parents/grandparents emigrating from a Muslim country. The detrimental effects of ‘immigrant assimilation’ on our kids, can easily go undetected, I only realised it when I began studying the topic. In this post, I want to explore some other factors that are contributing to making our kids think and behave more liberally. A Lack Of Muslim Friends Or Good Muslim Friends Alhamdulilah, globally the Muslim population is enormous. According to a study in 2015, Islam has 1.9 billion adherents, making up about 24.8% of the world population. www.pewresearch.org. This data is four years old, as you know, we Muslims love having babies, so the figure is probably 2 billion now! Although we are huge, in Europe and the US, we are a minority. If you don’t live near a masjid or have a Muslim community nearby then your kids can’t attend Quran classes/ Islamic studies classes where they can become friends with other Muslim teenagers. Whether you like it or not your teenager’s friends have a bigger influence on them then you do. Hadith About Friends Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, (saw), said, “A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends.” Tirmidhī Abu Musa reported: The Prophet, (saw), said, “Verily, the parable of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell. As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes, or you will notice a bad smell.” Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhāri As a high school teacher, I noticed the different cliques that formed in year groups. These friendship groups would have the same ‘look’, speak the same, go to the same parties, listen to similar music. Basically, follow a set of unwritten rules, if you wanted to be part of the group you would have to conform. But I think we all know this; we’ve watched the movies and once upon a time we were teenagers. So, if our kids don’t have good Muslim friends then unfortunately, they end up mimicking (in varying degrees) their non-Muslim friends’ behaviour. i.e. gossiping, dating, swearing, disrespecting their parents and teachers, dressing immodestly, experimenting with marijuana. Our kids are under a lot of pressure to behave like an average non-Muslim teenager. Maybe you’re thinking, my child doesn’t do that, and inshallah I hope you’re right, and I am wrong. However, again as a high school teacher I witnessed the chameleonic behaviour of Muslim teenagers when they came to parents evening with their family. It would be funny if it wasn’t so tragic... Read the full blog post here www.farhatamin.com info@farhatamin.com
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What causes Muslim teenagers to doubt Islam? Part 1
As a Muslim parent, we teach our kids about their deen. We do the best we can to create an Islamic atmosphere in our home. We send them to madrasah or Masjid to learn Quran. Things generally are ok until they become teenagers: that's when the problems start. As kids become older and go through puberty it's natural for them to be curious and ask questions. They begin to think independently and question everything.  Why do I have to study so much? Why do I have to tidy my room? What's wrong with being on my phone till 1 a.m. in the morning? Some questions will also be about Islam. Why do I have to wear hijab? I don't think it's fair that I should have to fast when I have exams. Why can't I sleepover at my non-Muslim friend's house? I don't think it is a problem that Muslim teenagers ask these questions. I think it's a problem when we can't give them a clear answer which is based on Islam.   www.farhatamin.com info@farhatamin.com Messages from awesome listeners Salam, I have listened to a ‘Muslim Mum podcast’ and just wanted to say it was really refreshing to hear someone talk about cultural and Islamic heritage. As a Pakistani, I understand there are some Pakistani traditions that originate from Indian/ Hindu practices, however, a lot of the traditions we choose to have are in line with Islam. So it was really nice to hear someone else make a link between Islam and traditional practices, for example Shalwar kameez is traditional but I would consider them a lot more modest than the clothes our youth wears today (skinny jeans, short tops etc). So just wanted to say thank you, and I’m really enjoying the content! Rida Love this article. We are all Muslim first but Allah swt created us in different tribes and races and we should celebrate that too, it’s a gift to us but in the west sometimes our teenagers feel the need to suppress their actual racial identity to fit it. Racism / colourism also has a part to play too bubbling away in the background. Shan
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Episode 06 : Ramadan Podcast 2
Salams!  This is a 3 part episode Part 1: Ramadan moon sighting, why we don't need to disagree Part 2: Hadith on Gratitude: Take advantage of five blessings before you are deprived Part 3: Ertugrul : why you should watch it! You can listen to previous episodes and take a look at my parenting resources at www.farhatamin.com Get in touch, info@farhatamin.com
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Episode 05: Ramadan Podcast 1
Salams!  This is a 3 part episode Part 1: What is your Ramadan mindset and how to get in the mood for Ramadan?  Part 2: How to be organized and productive this Ramadan Part 3: Why I created the course: Ramadan Made Easy for kids You can listen to previous episodes and take a look at my parenting resources at www.farhatamin.com Get in touch, info@farhatamin.com
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May 3, 2019
Episode 04: Muslim role models: who's yours?
Salams!  This is a 2 part episode We all have Muslim role models in our life. There are many Muslim celebs, it's easy to just follow them without thinking. So what makes a good female Muslim role model? In this episode of A Muslim Mom Podcast I explore: Part 1: Where do we get our role models from?  Part 2: Why should we go to Muslim gatherings and details about a brand NEW course I've created: Ramadan Made Easy You can listen to previous episodes and take a look at my parenting resources at www.farhatamin.com Get in touch, info@farhatamin.com
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April 5, 2019
Episode 03: How to encourage your kids to pray salah
Salams!  This is a 3 part episode Part 1: How to react to the New Zealand Terrorist attack, my thoughts Part 2: Advice on how to make salah a regular part of your life Part 3: Details about a brand NEW course I've created: How to create a Salah Routine for Kids You can listen to previous episodes and take a look at my parenting resources at www.farhatamin.com Get in touch, info@farhatamin.com
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Episode 02: Why do we compare ourselves to other Moms?
Salams!  This is a 3 part episode Part 1: Who is Farhat Amin? Part 2: Do you compare yourself to other mommies? Does it make you feel happier? Part 3: Sharing a Hadith that has changed my life, for real! You can listen to previous episodes and take a look at my parenting resources at www.farhatamin.com Get in touch, info@farhatamin.com
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Episode 01 : You are an AWESOME Muslim Mom!
This episode explores the status of mothers in Islam, the Quran and Hadith on motherhood and why modern society under values mums. Here are some of the beautiful ayah and Hadith describing the blessed status of mothers in Islam. The Quran on motherhood 1. "We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth" (46:15). 2. "Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: ‘My Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood' "(17:23-24). 3. "We have enjoined on man and woman kindness to parents; but if they (either of them) strive (to force) thee to join with Me anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not'" (29:8). 4. "We have enjoined on man and woman (to be good) to his/her parents; show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is (thy final) Goal. If they (parents) strive to make thee join in worship with Me things of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not; yet bear them company in this life with justice (and consideration) and follow the way of those who turn to Me (in love)" (31:14-15 Hadith about mothers 1. The Prophet Muhammad said, may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him: Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother (Ahmad, Nasai). 2. A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim). 3. Abu Usaid Saidi said: We were once sitting with Rasulullah when a man from the tribe of Salmah came and said to him: O Messenger of Allah! do my parents have rights over me even after they have died? And Rasulullah said: Yes. You must pray to Allah to bless them with His Forgiveness and Mercy, fulfill the promises they made to anyone, and respect their relations and their friends (Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah). 4. Abdullah ibn Amr related that the Messenger of Allah said: The major sins are to believe that Allah has partners, to disobey one's parents, to commit murder, and to bear false witness (Bukhari, Muslim). 5. It is narrated by Asma bint Abu Bakr that during the treaty of Hudaibiyah, her mother, who was then pagan, came to see her from Makkah. Asma informed the Messenger of Allah of her arrival and also that she needed help. He said: Be good to your mother (Bukhari, Muslim).
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January 28, 2019
Season 1: Trailer
Asalamualaikum friends and welcome to "A Muslim Mom Podcast". I am your host Farhat Amin and this series is all about the messy intersection of life, business and the humanity that leads us as we grow, and fail, and adapt throughout every new season of motherhood.
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