Fathers Fire
By Jody Sedrick
I am the father of 6 kids. My wife and I had four and then God blessed us with 2 more through adoption. I think I have a unique perspective and experience to help fathers become the best dad possible.
I also love to interview other men trying to be great dads, step-dads, adopted dads, granddads, and foster dads. Let's help each other become the best men, husbands, and dads possible to leave a legacy that will endure.
Fathers FireOct 28, 2019
261 - Being a dad of a competitive athlete
This I sit down with Alex Russell and explore what it takes to be a dad of a competitive athlete. We talk about the demands on you as a dad, figuring out how much to push them, and giving them the space to discover their own talents and commitment to the game.
260 - Super Papa!
I had the AMAZING opportunity to go down to El Salvador to be part of the 1st IDA Certified Detailer and Skills Validated training event with Jorge Rivera, Rigo Santana, Christian Ramos Pwee, Manuel Martinez, Steve Thompson, and Little Steve (The Detail Kid). I share some thoughts and observations about being a dad from my experience in El Salvador.
259 - Learning how to love, trust, and not become hardened
How do you work through betrayal and disappointment?
Today I share some thoughts on how to work through being disappointed and let down by others while not becoming hardened in our heart.
Thanks for joining me every week!
Jody
Also check out my books
But How Far Must I Go? A journey in faith
Learn to Dance With the Currents of Life; When You Feel Like You’re Drowning
258 - How do you balance time with all your kids?
This week I sit down with Steve Thompson to explore how he balances time between all of his kids.
- How do you balance the time between all of your kids especially when one is a YouTube sensation and traveling the world?
- Meeting the emotional needs of children
- Finding a way to connect one on one with your children
- Setting your schedule around your family
- Are you late with your kids?
- If they don't have a plan will they fail? And have you failed?
- How do you prepare your kids for success and failure?
- Driven for success or more relaxed? Which is right?
- Parenting so that you diminish regret
- "Smart" vs "Street Smarts"
Guest:
Steve Thompson
Detail Doctors
https://www.detaildrs.com/
Hosts:Jody Sedrick
257 - It hurts my heart to discipline my kids
This week I sit down with my friend Joab Flores. We talk about the very real feelings that accompany enforcing consequences on your kids when the don't live up to the family rules.
Guest
Joab Flores
256 - What I'm Doing is NOT Having an Impact! Or is it?
Today I sit down with my friend Joe Kimball to talk about not seeing the impact of what you do as a dad until later.
- Was I to hard on my kids?
- Balancing the line between being hard and abusive
- Setting the pattern and expectation of eating together as a family
- Owning your mistakes and becoming the kind of dad you want to be.
- How did you feel as a kid?
- Getting to the age where your kids are teaching you lessons
- Now the kids are moving out what are the conversations like with his wife
Guest
Joe Kimball
Host
Jody Sedrick
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Check out my 1st Book "Learn To Dance With The Currents of Life - When You Feel Like You're Drowning"
Order on Amazon https://a.co/d/0q8xo6r
2nd Books "But How Far Must I Go?" A Journey In Faith
Scheduled to launch Saturday March 2nd
255 - The Secret to 35 Years of Marriage
Yesterday I got a private text message congratulating me and Judie Sedrick for our 35th Wedding Anniversary. This person also commented how he had always felt like his marriage was a burden instead of being founded on friendship and love. I thought I'd share 10 things that have helped Judie and I build our relationship over the past 35 years. I hope these help you and would love to hear what you've found helpful
- Be in hot pursuit of your wife
- Little things matter
- Sarcasm can cut the heart
- Date night
- Let it go! It’s not that important
- Be the protector of her heart in how you speak to her and about her
- Be present- just because you're there doesn’t mean you’re there
- Dream, plan, and work together
- If you are a couple of faith pray together
- Love fiercely
254 - 3 Things We Must Teach Our Daughters
Last week I had an experience that really got me thinking about how we treat the women in our life. It got me thinking about 3 key things that we need to teach our daughters:
1. You have a voice and deserve to be seen
2. It's ok to be strong, intelligent, beautiful and sexy. (It's not your fault he's a pig)
3. You belong, you are precious, and I love being with you as your dad
I'd love to hear your comments!
Jody
253 - Run From the Storm or Face It?
What do you do when life hits you with unexpected storms?
252 - Carry Your Own Burden
For the past couple of days I've been troubled by a post that I saw on Facebook that basically said "Carry Your Own Burden". When I think about the fact that 70% of all suicides are men I think there has to be a better way than "Carry Your Own Burden" or "Pull yourself up by the bootstraps". I explore some thoughts about creating an environment were we can support and love each other through our dark moments and be there for each other.
I'd love to hear your thoughts
Have a blessed day! And be the blessing that someone needs.
Cheers
Jody Sedrick
251 - Being open in the face of addiction to become a better dad
This week I sit down with Ryan Griggs to talk about his journey of being a single dad, a girl dad, dating, working through addiction, getting married, and going to be a dad for a second time this summer. What are the key things he's learned along the way?
Show highlights:
• Being a girl dad of a 13 year old going on 30
• The challenges of being a single dad, dating, and getting married
• Being purposeful in your relationships with your kids and your wife
• Working through addiction - Being open with your addiction
• Working through expectations placed on us
• 3 keys things to become a better dad
Guest:
Ryan Griggs
Blue Line
250 - No Gift for Me
Today I'd thought I'd share an experience I had as an 8/9 year old boy where I didn't get a present for Christmas, or at least that's what I thought. Sometimes the gifts are right in front of us, we just need to look up.
249 - How do I make my wife feel secure - Part 2
Wil and I got so many amazing interaction, comments, advice and questions in episode 247 "What is the difference going from one kid to two?" where Wil brought up the question "How do I make my wife feel secure?"
In this episode we dig deeper into his questions and some of the comments that were made.We'd love to hear your comments and advice.
Enjoy this very important conversation
Guest:
Wil Fosett
Hosts:
Jody Sedrick
248 - Working through animosity and ill feelings
A lot of us men struggle because we are trapped in the swamp of yesterday. We didn't have a father in the home. One of our parents had an addiction problem. ":Parenting" was administered by physical and emotional abuse and a myriad of other reasons that have left you destitute of a positive role model. How do you break the cycle? How do you change the trajectory?
We tend to act out of a place of pride, anger, or fear?
What triggers us?
Do we feel unappreciated?
Do we feel unseen?
Do we feel disrespected? Is that rooted in never having a voice as a child?
You can’t heal what you never reveal! Unveil the mask
A lot of times we are holding on to ill feelings and the other person doesn’t even know, is oblivious, or doesn’t care. So the animosity you feel is cankering your heart and soul
Be the change you want to see
247 - How do I make my wife feel secure? Pt 1
This week I sit down with Wil Fosset to explore the difference in going from one child to two. Can it be that different? How are he and his wife managing the difference? We also explore what it takes to keep your relationship alive and thriving when you are juggling kids and a career. What has your experience been when you added a child to your family? Was it is going or a totally new experience. Guest: Wil Fosset Millenial Mentor Host: Jody Sedrick Fathers Fire
246 - There's NO WAY I'm letting her fail!
This week I give a shout out to Steve Thompson owner of The Detail Drs in Boise, Idaho. He and his family decided to do 75 hard together. They were doing really well as a family and one of his daughter's missed a day. So what did he do? Rather than let her fail he started over with her. What would you have done? Have a GREAT week! Jody
245 - Don't Isolate Your Wife!
This week I share some thoughts about taking on the entire weight of the challenges of life on your shoulders and neglecting to include your wife who wants to be part of your life and finding the solution.
I also talk about running into a hurricane of problems and trying to control every aspect as well as stirring up the pot in the name of "solving the problem"
I'd love to hear your thoughts
Cheers
Jody
244 - Don't define your life by one moment
We tend to define our life by a single moment. When in reality it is a series of moments that lead to something tragic or something amazing. A series of moments define our character and who we become. A single moment can ruin a reputation, it can set us on a new trajectory. When we are purposeful in crafting moments we can create a life that is fulfilling and leave a legacy on our children that will last far into their life. What are you doing with the moments you've been given?CheersJody
243 - I'm with my wife 24/7 - What is the secret sauce?
This week I sit down with Ray Evans and talk about the challenges and fun of being with his wife 24/7 juggling a thriving detailing business, keeping their 10-year relationship fresh, and parenting a 7-year-old daughter. As you guessed it takes work so what is the secret sauce to make it work?
Guest
Ray Evans
Stick To The Details
https://www.sticktothedetailsinc.com/
Host
Jody Sedrick
242 - The Masks We Wear To Hide Our Pain
Hey gents, It's been three weeks since we last sat down. I have been swamped with business travel and neglected to get some episodes pre-recorded. My apologies.
On a positive note, in the past two weeks I've had some amazing opportunities to sit down with men all over the globe to talk about business, family, and personal challenges. In my conversations the reality that many of us are walking with serious personal emotional trauma from our childhood that continues to haunt us even though we've tried to hide it behind the masks we wear.
Today I explore the masks we wear to hide our pain with the hope that it will help us come to grips with what we are trying to hide and have the courage to look at them and start the healing process.
Thanks for listening
Jody
Check out my book
"Learn To Dance With The Currents of Life - When You Feel like You Are Drowning"
241 - Before, During and After Divorce
This week I sit down with my brother Mike Sedrick and we have a very raw and authentic discussion about the before, during, and after challenges and realities of a divorce.
Highlights:
0:00 Intro
03:00 How he’s doing after the divorce
06:00 How did you come to terms with you needed to divorce?
10:30 “Until death do us part”
14:00 How did you help the kids work through their own pain and loss?
26:30 What has been helpful for you and the kids looking forward
Guest:
Mike Sedrick (My brother)
Jody Sedrick
jody.sedrick@gmail.com
@jodysedrick on YouTube and Instagram
240 - Walking through The Dark Night of the Soul
Show highlights:
0:00 Introduction
03:00 "A lot of lasts as a dad"
05:30 Dark night of the soul
14:30 We're all broken - emotionally bankrupt
17:45 Working out of addiction and emotional bankruptcy
24:00 His son working through his own trauma
Guest:
Sam Davis
TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@the.interventionist.sd
Hosts:
Jody Sedrick
Instagram and TikTok: @jodysedrick
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239 - Building a Launch Pad for Your Kids
This week I sit down with serial entrepreneur, coach, father and husband to explore what it takes to juggle being an entrepreneur and being a husband and father. One of the key things we explore his how to be the launching pad for your kids. What does that look like and how do you build a launching pad that builds independence but also let's your kids know you are present when they need you. Come join this amazing conversation. Guest Kevin Davis Maxed Out Men https://www.maxedoutmen.com/
Hosts:
Jody Sedrick
Instagram @fathersfire
Instagram @jodysedrick
238 - "Just Have Faith"
In the. depths of a heavy challenge has someone ever told you "Just have faith!" and the words rather than comfort, ring hollow, or even come across as unintendly harsh?
I share a few thoughts that I hope will help you walk with greater tenderness and love as you try to support a loved one. There is a time to acknowledge pain and loss, a time to extend love, and a time to know when to encourage faith. Wisdom is knowing the difference.
Have a great day!
Jody
237 - I had to step back and pivot when the baby came
What do you do when you have an unexpected baby? You take a step back, re-evaluate and pivot.
George Gonzalez Jr. joins me this week to explore becoming a new dad and the changes he made in every aspect of his life to focus on his family
Show highlights:
0:00 Intro
1:30 Everything in my life has changed
07:00 Downsizing strategically to take care of my family
11:00 What surprised him about having a baby
14:00 Having a kid has given you a different perspective on your dad
19:30 His recommendations for new dads
** Interview with George and his dad on The RoadFS Podcast - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CTIELD4b4sw
Guest:
George Gonzalez Jr.
Host: Jody Sedrick
Instagram @jodysedrick and @fathersfire
Website: jodysedrick.com
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236 - A Love Letter to My Suicidal Friends
This week I sit down with my oldest son, Devon, to talk about the back story of his new song, "A Love Letter To My Suicidal Friends"
We discuss our own personal experiences with loved ones and friends who struggle with feeling like they don't belong and don't want to stay in this world. Let's be honest life can be REALLY tough sometimes and put your heart and mind in a very sad and lonely place.
We recognize this is a very personal and emotional issue and are trying to bring an open, loving, caring, and empathetic discussion that will help you and a loved one walk through a dark season of your life.
Love Jody and Devon
235 - Is your porn addiction part of the problem?
Hey guys,
Last week I went and saw the movie Sound of Freedom. It is a powerful and compelling origin story of Tim Ballard and his work rescuing children from the sex trade. In the very beginning of the movie, it shows how he is working to earn the trust of a pedophile to get more information so that he can rescue a kid. As I watched this interaction, it highlighted that porn was a contributing factor (and overlooked) part of the illegal sex trade.
I know a lot of you men struggle with overcoming your porn addiction and I thought I'd share some insights that maybe will put into perspective and help you ultimately overcome your addiction, I know it's a challenge and talk about this in the spirit of helping us all be men of integrity both in private and in public, and guardians of our heart.
I'd love to hear your thoughts!
Thank you for listening!
Jody
234 - You're Great At Love Bombing But Suck At Being a Husband
For the past couple of weeks, I've thought about why men struggle in their relationship with their spouse or significant other. At the beginning of the relationship we're great a love bombing; going out of our way to prove we are the one. But somewhere we lose the pursuit of her heart and wonder why she's nagging and always complaining about you not doing your part.
Perhaps it's time to look in the mirror and look at what you used to do versus now. Your actions will be very revealing.
I'd love to hear your thoughts.
Cheers
Jody
233 - I did not want to have kids!
This week I sit down with Brian Prescott to explore his resistance and final acceptance of becoming a father. His journey has a surprising curve but also highlights the challenge of working through his wife wanting to have a kid when he was totally against it. Show highlights: 0:00 Intro 03:20 taking on a huge role as a father with a new baby and his wife unable to walk 5:30 Never planned on having kids which caused real friction with my wife
11:00 Working through the pain of disagreement and not having the same goals
14:00 - Taking on the responsibility of having a kid and starting a business
19:00 - Eliminating the hurry
29:00 - Having the difficult conversations Guest: Brian Prescott
Host: Jody Sedrick
Instagram @jodysedrick and @fathersfire
Website: jodysedrick.com
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232 - Dad and Son Time - Deep Conversations In The Truck
This week I sit down with Daniel G aka Stoner Gump. We explore making time to have deep conversations with his 7-year-old son while driving in his truck. We also explore the challenges of co-parenting, letting kids explore, and learning how to be friendly.
Show highlights:
0:00 Intro
2:00 Amazing conversations in the truck
4:00 How should we deal with a bully
07:30 Teaching kids to work
11:30 The dynamic of having 4 kids and managing co-parenting
16:00 getting married at 17
20:00 Looking back on being a dad
Daniel G Tiktok @stonergumper
Host: Jody Sedrick
Instagram @jodysedrick and @fathersfire
231 - Little Things Build a Dad's Legacy
This past week we had the opportunity to go to Springdale Arkansas to celebrate my mom's 80th Birthday and have a family reunion. All 8 of us siblings were able to come along with a lot of the grand and great grandkids. We had such a fun time together. As I watched the interaction and love between everyone I thought about the little things my dad did with my mom to create such an amazing legacy for our family.
Caught up in the minutiae of life you can’t see the impact you are having. But from the lens of time, we can see how little things add up. If I were to sum up the little things that my dad did it would be
- Showed us that Mom was preeminent in his life and heart
- He made time for us kids
- He taught us to work and worked beside us
- He played with us
- He owned his mistakes, said he was sorry, and showed more love after
I hope you enjoy this episode and that something touches your heart.
Cheers
Jody
230 - Happy Father's Day
Happy Father's Day
I wanted to wish you a Happy Father's Day and share a few thoughts with you
- Dads are critically important!
- Mad respect for single moms and single dads
- Many kids struggle because they have a huge hole in their hearts in the shape of their father; abandoned, abusive, oppressive, in the room but not involved, addicted,
- You don’t need to be the perfect dad, throw out perfection and replace it with purpose, involvement, leadership, mentorship, fun, playfulness and a whole lot of love. Your kids don’t need you to be perfect they need you in their lives.
I hope you have a GREAT day with your kids!
Cheers!
Jody
229 - The power of a dad's touch
Recently I had the opportunity to go to Orlando Florida to watch my mentor and personal coach give the keynote speech at the MOAA Conference. He shared a story about his father and how his father attempted to bridge the gap of years of strain by lovingly placing his hand on his shoulder. His story has made me think of how many children are yearning, hoping for a dad's touch. A dad's love!
I also share a story I had with my own dad where he extended a hand of love and mended a little boy's heart.
I'd love to hear your stories of how you've connected with your dad, or maybe even still trying to figure out how to connect!
Have a Blessed day! Thanks for tuning in!
Jody
228- Memorial Day Tribute Pt 2. - Stepping out of the military mindset to be a dad
In honor of Memorial Day here is Pt 2. I revisit an episode with Ty Watson a Navy Corpsman. We discuss the challenge of getting out of that military mindset when working with your kids.
Some highlights of the show
* The challenge of being a dad while serving in the Navy
* Recognize that your wife is creating a regimen in the home and support what she has built
* The power and blessing of having a strong relationship with his wife
* Allowing our kids to ask questions
* Putting unrealistic expectations on your kids
* Learning to dad the way each of your kids needs to a dad
* Growing through transitions
* As much as I want to be a perfect dad I’m not
Guest:
Ty Watson
Host: Jody Sedrick Instagram @jodysedrick and @fathersfire Website: jodysedrick.com Order my book "Learn To Dance With The Currents of Life - When You Fell like Drowning" - Paperback and Kindle https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09MC6HNL9/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_866DKBJTKR73JH3MS48W
227 - Memorial Day Tribute Pt 1 - What it's like to be deployed and be a dad?
Today I want to take a moment to recognize the men and women (and their families) who have given so much for us to enjoy the freedoms that we enjoy. I thought it would be fitting to revisit two episodes with men who are serving or who have services and talk about the challenges of being a dad while serving in the military. In part 1 we will revisit a conversation with my brother Mike Sedrick. He shares the challenge he and his family have experienced when he is deployed on military assignments. Many families experience this challenge so I thought it'd be great to sit down with him to hear some of the things they've done before, during, and after the deployment.
Thank you to all of you men and women who serve our country!
Host
Jody Sedrick
Fathersfyre@gmail.com
226 - Dad's Grieve Too!
We rarely talk about grief. And as men, we often avoid the conversation entirely. This puts men in a real corner when we lose a loved one - a parent, spouse, friend, and even a child. When confronting we tend to isolate, self-medicate, avoid, and sometimes do all three rather than face the very real emotions associated with losing a loved one.
In this episode, I sit down with Andy Bohart, host of the TikTok channel DadsGrieve2, and we have a very raw and heartfelt discussion about the loss of his son and working through the very real feelings associated with grief.
Show Highlights:
00:00 Intro
02:00 We don’t talk about grief - What do I say?
05:30 Men haven’t been taught to deal with emotions
8:30 Grieving along side of your wife
12:00 There is no timeline for grief
17:00 “What IS your son’s name?”
20:30 People mourn differently
24:00 Telling stories about our loved ones
28:30 Working through loss
Guest:
Andy Bohart
TikTok @DadsGrieve2 @lifeaftergrief (his wife’s TikTok
https://www.helpingparentsheal.org/affiliate-groups/helping-fathers-heal/
Host: Jody Sedrick
Instagram @jodysedrick and @fathersfire
Website: jodysedrick.com
Order my book "Learn To Dance With The Currents of Life - When You Fell like Drowning" - Paperback and Kindle https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09MC6HNL9/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_866DKBJTKR73JH3MS48W
225 - Yes, You Deserve It
Why do we as dad's sometimes feel like we don't deserve good things? We put everyone else first and when we finally do one thing nice for ourself we feel guilty about it?
What has your experience been with doing something nice for you? You feel guilty or no?
Host: Jody Sedrick
Instagram @jodysedrick and @fathersfire
Website: jodysedrick.com
Order my book "Learn To Dance With The Currents of Life - When You Fell like Drowning" - Paperback and Kindle
224 - On The Outside Looking In
This past weekend at my daughter Ke'ilani's graduation from UVU I found myself for the first time standing on the outside looking in and it honestly threw me off for a second. Dad has been replaced - which is the pattern of life but the experience caught me completely off guard.
I thought I'd share some feelings about how I'm embracing the reality of my baby girl moving on to the next chapter of her life and actually loving what I see evolving for her and our family.
I'd love to hear your thoughts!
Hosts:
Jody Sedrick
223 - Get Your Head In the Game If You Want To Save Your Marriage
If you want to save your marriage you need to listen to this episode. I sit down with Sean Knauff and have a deep discussion about what it takes to rebuild and save a failing marriage.
Guest
Sean Knauff
Host: Jody Sedrick
Instagram @jodysedrick and @fathersfire
Website: jodysedrick.com
Order my book "Learn To Dance With The Currents of Life - When You Fell like Drowning" - Paperback and Kindle https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09MC6HNL9/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_866DKBJTKR73JH3MS48W
222 - I"m not the dad that my kids need
Walking through tough seasons can cause you to question what kind of dad you really are? They can also cause you to second-guess your faith and force you to take a hard look at what you believe.
Today I look at overcoming trials. Recognizing where those trials come from and how to navigate them.
Show Notes:
0:00 Intro and honey-do list
02:30 - Finding purpose and happiness after a divorce or dark seasons in your life
07:00 Trials in our life come from 3 sources; self, others, and God
13:00 Looking past the need for justice and learning to forgive
15:45 Carrying the trials God entrusted to you
20:00 Knowing when your kids need a connection with you
Host: Jody Sedrick
Instagram @jodysedrick and @fathersfire
Website: jodysedrick.com
Order my book "Learn To Dance With The Currents of Life - When You Fell like Drowning" - Paperback and Kindle https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09MC6HNL9/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_866DKBJTKR73JH3MS48W
221 - My Marriage is On The Edge of Dying
Are you looking at your relationship and realizing you are on the edge of losing it all? Is it too late to save your marriage? Or is she out the door? Today I explore some ideas on how you could save your marriage. It won't be easy but it could be worth it! Show highlights • Recognize where you are. Be honest and own it • It took you a while to get here it’s going to take a while to get back. • Get in hot pursuit • She’s going to be skeptical- that’s ok. She was skeptical when you started dating • Keep a gratitude journal for yourself. Maybe do one for her and leave it where she can find it • Come up from behind and give her a hug. Thank her for brightening your day. Tell her that you love her then ask what can I do to help her Just a few ideas to help you reignite the fire in your marriage. What have you done that has helped recapture what dying in your relationship? I'd love to hear your ideas. Have a GREAT week!
Host: Jody Sedrick
Instagram @jodysedrick and @fathersfire
Website: jodysedrick.com
Order my book "Learn To Dance With The Currents of Life - When You Fell like Drowning" - Paperback and Kindle https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09MC6HNL9/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_866DKBJTKR73JH3MS48W
220 - When I don't have my kids I'm lonely!
This week I sit down with Angel Guiterrez and we explore the joy and challenges of being a single dad. We explore one of the things that are rarely talked about but are a real issue that haunts single dads, coming home to an empty house and feeling alone.
Show Highilights
0:00 Intro
04:00 Dealing with the unexpected with the loneliness of being a single dad
16:00 Trying to define what co-parenting looks like
Guest
Angel Guiterrez
Host: Jody Sedrick
Instagram @jodysedrick and @fathersfire
Website: jodysedrick.com
Order my book "Learn To Dance With The Currents of Life - When You Fell like Drowning" - Paperback and Kindle https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09MC6HNL9/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_866DKBJTKR73JH3MS48W
219 - Death of a Relationship
This week I ponder several conversations with men who are in the process of going through a divorce. I set those conversations against the ideal of having a strong marriage one that is a true partnership with each other and with God.
Honestly, I wrestled with how to discuss it in a way that all would benefit. I knew there are men who are happily married, divorced, widowed, going through a divorce
Top it off had two conversations with different men going through a divorce that made me even more sensitive to how to deliver it.
A couple of observations
* both started with “just friend” relationships on Facebook
* Have you become emotionally disconnected through Social media; bikinis, lingerie, porn
* Be intentional with your relationship
* I don’t go to lunch with other women for business. The women friends I have are our friends
* Know when to talk, when to listen, when to press an issue
* 50/50, 100/100, 180/20
* You can do everything right and still the other person can make a choice that destroys your relationship
* You be the strength. You be the anchor your kids need (she just wants attention)
Relationships can be messy. They can be beautiful. We get the opportunity and challenge to work through them. What have you done to turn your relationship into a true partnership?
Thanks for listening
Jody Sedrick
218 - I got checked by my 9 year old
Today I sit down with my good friend Shad Stoker we explore blending a family, setting aside your ego, the power of the decisions we made and didn’t make, and the challenge of parenting very different kids
Show highlights
0:00 intro
1:15 - Power of positive thinking and gratitude
5:15 - Blending a family
9:00 - Setting aside our ego - getting checked by 9 year old
12:30 - Rule of three
16:00 - Kids don’t have perspective
24:00 -We are who we base on the decisions we made and we didn’t make
30:00 - Tiny little bits of action lead to massive results
33:00 - Each kid is unique
Guest:
Shad Stoker
Host:
Jody Sedrick
website: jodysedrick.com
Instagram: @jodysedrick and @fiathersfire
Order my book "Learn To Dance With The Currents of Life - When You Fell like Drowning" - Paperback and Kindle https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09MC6HNL9/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_866DKBJTKR73JH3MS48W
217 - It's Ok To Be Angry But What Next?
I sit down with Kirk Evans and we go deep on everything from wishing he could go back, dealing with divorce, learning how to manage and deal with our emotions, and more.
He gave me a lot of things to think about and reflect on. I'm sure this episode will give you a great deal to reflect on.
Show highlights:
0:00 Intro
4:00 Wish I could go Back7:00 I thought my dad hated me
11:00 The aftermath of divorce
17:00 We become a better man little by little
20:00 Allowing room for emotions and teaching how to deal with them
Guest
Kirk Evans
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Host:
Jody Sedrick
Fathers Fire
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216 - This is Who I Am Now!
Many of you men have worked hard to overcome past failings but how come it's difficult for some people to see who you've become - who you are now?
I dig into some thoughts inspired by the movie Inmate #1 and conversations with my good friend Rigo Santana who left gang life and now is working hard to show young boys and men a better way.
215 - Don't Do That! What I would tell myself as a young dad
I've been married 34 years this past week. Judie posed the question to me in our podcast "Into The Grey". What would you tell your 18/20-year-old self about relationships, careers, and spirituality? This got me thinking about what I would tell myself as a young man about being a dad and good husband
Show Highlights:
- Remember they are kids
- Let them make mistakes
- Let them explore / explore with them
- Let them play
- Make them do a season
- Let them see you make big moves
- Let them see you love their mom
- Counsel with your wife
- Be a unified front - don’t let kids play you against each other
- What if you didn’t have a good dad
- You know what you didn’t like, you know what you don’t want to be opposite
- Angry - patient
- Stubborn- open and understanding
- Yeller- soft spoken
- Workaholic - set aside time
- Overbearing - gentle
- Alcoholic - Clean and sober
- Forgive yourself when you mess up
- Apologize. - own who you are and what you do
What would you tell yourself?
214 - Dude, I Didn't Want To Get Up for Work!
We don’t talk about depression as men. We have been taught to “man up”, “work through it”, etc. But let’s be real some days we don’t feel like getting up. We don’t want to go to work. Sometimes that feeling of depression lasts a long time and requires us to do things differently to take care of ourselves and ultimately our family
Show Highlights:
0:00 Intro
5:30 Dealing with the depression of my separation
9:30 Comfortable enough to reach out to a friend
14:00 dealing with the ugly of ego
18:00 Meeting the Ex’s new boyfriend for the first time
24:00 You can’t move forward looking in the rearview mirror
26:30 AARP called
31:00 Do I regret the old Rigo?
Guest:
Rigo Santana
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213 - When The UGLY side of divorce comes out
I had a great conversation with someone very close to me who is going through the ugly side of the divorce. I explore some thoughts on our conversation and how you can battle the tendency bring out the ugly in you.
I'd love to hear how you have battled the tendency to bring out the ugly in you when things go south.
Cheers!
Jody Sedrick
Fathers Fire
212 - Walking in Darkness
This morning I visited with someone very close to me who is going through the dark side of divorce. I thought I'd share a few thoughts about walking through dark seasons. How can you find hope, light and direction to pull yourself through those dark moments?
Have an awesome day!
Jody