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Fathers Fire

Fathers Fire

By Jody Sedrick

Are you ready for the greatest adventure of your life? In my weekly podcast, we explore the adventures, challenges, triumphs, sorrows, and the fun of being a dad.

I am the father of 6 kids. My wife and I had four and then God blessed us with 2 more through adoption. I think I have a unique perspective and experience to help fathers become the best dad possible.

I also love to interview other men trying to be great dads, step-dads, adopted dads, granddads, and foster dads. Let's help each other become the best men, husbands, and dads possible to leave a legacy that will endure.
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Fathers FireApr 06, 2020

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259 - Learning how to love, trust, and not become hardened
Mar 17, 202411:33
258 - How do you balance time with all your kids?

258 - How do you balance time with all your kids?

This week I sit down with Steve Thompson to explore how he balances time between all of his kids.

  • How do you balance the time between all of your kids especially when one is a YouTube sensation and traveling the world?
  • Meeting the emotional needs of children
  • Finding a way to connect one on one with your children
  • Setting your schedule around your family
  • Are you late with your kids?
  • If they don't have a plan will they fail? And have you failed?
  • How do you prepare your kids for success and failure?
  • Driven for success or more relaxed? Which is right?
  • Parenting so that you diminish regret
  • "Smart" vs "Street Smarts"

Guest:

Steve Thompson

Detail Doctors

https://www.detaildrs.com/


Hosts:Jody Sedrick

Mar 11, 202440:50
257 - It hurts my heart to discipline my kids

257 - It hurts my heart to discipline my kids

This week I sit down with my friend Joab Flores. We talk about the very real feelings that accompany enforcing consequences on your kids when the don't live up to the family rules.


Guest

Joab Flores

Mar 06, 202429:53
256 - What I'm Doing is NOT Having an Impact! Or is it?

256 - What I'm Doing is NOT Having an Impact! Or is it?

Today I sit down with my friend Joe Kimball to talk about not seeing the impact of what you do as a dad until later.


  • Was I to hard on my kids?
  • Balancing the line between being hard and abusive
  • Setting the pattern and expectation of eating together as a family
  • Owning your mistakes and becoming the kind of dad you want to be.
  • How did you feel as a kid?
  • Getting to the age where your kids are teaching you lessons
  • Now the kids are moving out what are the conversations like with his wife


Guest

Joe Kimball


Host

Jody Sedrick

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2nd Books "But How Far Must I Go?" A Journey In Faith

Scheduled to launch Saturday March 2nd

Feb 26, 202431:35
255 - The Secret to 35 Years of Marriage

255 - The Secret to 35 Years of Marriage

Yesterday I got a private text message congratulating me and Judie Sedrick for our 35th Wedding Anniversary. This person also commented how he had always felt like his marriage was a burden instead of being founded on friendship and love. I thought I'd share 10 things that have helped Judie and I build our relationship over the past 35 years. I hope these help you and would love to hear what you've found helpful

  1. Be in hot pursuit of your wife
  2. Little things matter
  3. Sarcasm can cut the heart
  4. Date night
  5. Let it go! It’s not that important
  6. Be the protector of her heart in how you speak to her and about her
  7. Be present- just because you're there doesn’t mean you’re there
  8. Dream, plan, and work together
  9. If you are a couple of faith pray together
  10. Love fiercely
Feb 20, 202425:21
254 - 3 Things We Must Teach Our Daughters

254 - 3 Things We Must Teach Our Daughters

Last week I had an experience that really got me thinking about how we treat the women in our life. It got me thinking about 3 key things that we need to teach our daughters:

1. You have a voice and deserve to be seen

2. It's ok to be strong, intelligent, beautiful and sexy. (It's not your fault he's a pig)

3. You belong, you are precious, and I love being with you as your dad

I'd love to hear your comments!

Jody


Feb 07, 202422:09
253 - Run From the Storm or Face It?

253 - Run From the Storm or Face It?

What do you do when life hits you with unexpected storms?

Jan 30, 202421:25
252 - Carry Your Own Burden

252 - Carry Your Own Burden

For the past couple of days I've been troubled by a post that I saw on Facebook that basically said "Carry Your Own Burden". When I think about the fact that 70% of all suicides are men I think there has to be a better way than "Carry Your Own Burden" or "Pull yourself up by the bootstraps". I explore some thoughts about creating an environment were we can support and love each other through our dark moments and be there for each other.

I'd love to hear your thoughts

Have a blessed day! And be the blessing that someone needs.

Cheers

Jody Sedrick

Jan 18, 202427:37
251 - Being open in the face of addiction to become a better dad

251 - Being open in the face of addiction to become a better dad

This week I sit down with Ryan Griggs to talk about his journey of being a single dad, a girl dad, dating, working through addiction, getting married, and going to be a dad for a second time this summer. What are the key things he's learned along the way?


Show highlights:

• Being a girl dad of a 13 year old going on 30

• The challenges of being a single dad, dating, and getting married

• Being purposeful in your relationships with your kids and your wife

• Working through addiction - Being open with your addiction

• Working through expectations placed on us

• 3 keys things to become a better dad


Guest:

Ryan Griggs

Blue Line

Jan 08, 202432:47
250 - No Gift for Me

250 - No Gift for Me

Today I'd thought I'd share an experience I had as an 8/9 year old boy where I didn't get a present for Christmas, or at least that's what I thought. Sometimes the gifts are right in front of us, we just need to look up.

Jan 02, 202407:40
249 - How do I make my wife feel secure - Part 2

249 - How do I make my wife feel secure - Part 2

Wil and I got so many amazing interaction, comments, advice and questions in episode 247 "What is the difference going from one kid to two?" where Wil brought up the question "How do I make my wife feel secure?"


In this episode we dig deeper into his questions and some of the comments that were made.We'd love to hear your comments and advice.


Enjoy this very important conversation


Guest:

Wil Fosett


Hosts:

Jody Sedrick

Dec 18, 202332:01
248 - Working through animosity and ill feelings

248 - Working through animosity and ill feelings

A lot of us men struggle because we are trapped in the swamp of yesterday. We didn't have a father in the home. One of our parents had an addiction problem. ":Parenting" was administered by physical and emotional abuse and a myriad of other reasons that have left you destitute of a positive role model. How do you break the cycle? How do you change the trajectory?


We tend to act out of a place of pride, anger, or fear?


What triggers us?

Do we feel unappreciated? 

Do we feel unseen?

Do we feel disrespected? Is that rooted in never having a voice as a child?


You can’t heal what you never reveal!  Unveil the mask


A lot of times we are holding on to ill feelings and the other person doesn’t even know, is oblivious, or doesn’t care. So the animosity you feel is cankering your heart and soul


Be the change you want to see

Dec 15, 202313:57
247 - How do I make my wife feel secure? Pt 1

247 - How do I make my wife feel secure? Pt 1

This week I sit down with Wil Fosset to explore the difference in going from one child to two. Can it be that different? How are he and his wife managing the difference? We also explore what it takes to keep your relationship alive and thriving when you are juggling kids and a career. What has your experience been when you added a child to your family? Was it is going or a totally new experience. Guest: Wil Fosset Millenial Mentor Host: Jody Sedrick Fathers Fire

Dec 05, 202336:19
246 - There's NO WAY I'm letting her fail!

246 - There's NO WAY I'm letting her fail!

This week I give a shout out to Steve Thompson owner of The Detail Drs in Boise, Idaho. He and his family decided to do 75 hard together. They were doing really well as a family and one of his daughter's missed a day. So what did he do? Rather than let her fail he started over with her. What would you have done? Have a GREAT week! Jody

Nov 20, 202308:02
245 - Don't Isolate Your Wife!

245 - Don't Isolate Your Wife!

This week I share some thoughts about taking on the entire weight of the challenges of life on your shoulders and neglecting to include your wife who wants to be part of your life and finding the solution.


I also talk about running into a hurricane of problems and trying to control every aspect as well as stirring up the pot in the name of "solving the problem"


I'd love to hear your thoughts

Cheers

Jody

Nov 14, 202309:50
244 - Don't define your life by one moment

244 - Don't define your life by one moment

We tend to define our life by a single moment. When in reality it is a series of moments that lead to something tragic or something amazing. A series of moments define our character and who we become. A single moment can ruin a reputation, it can set us on a new trajectory. When we are purposeful in crafting moments we can create a life that is fulfilling and leave a legacy on our children that will last far into their life. What are you doing with the moments you've been given?CheersJody

Nov 07, 202317:55
243 - I'm with my wife 24/7 - What is the secret sauce?
Oct 23, 202335:09
242 - The Masks We Wear To Hide Our Pain
Oct 17, 202322:23
241 - Before, During and After Divorce

241 - Before, During and After Divorce

This week I sit down with my brother Mike Sedrick and we have a very raw and authentic discussion about the before, during, and after challenges and realities of a divorce.


Highlights:

0:00 Intro

03:00 How he’s doing after the divorce

06:00 How did you come to terms with you needed to divorce?

10:30 “Until death do us part”

14:00 How did you help the kids work through their own pain and loss?

26:30 What has been helpful for you and the kids looking forward


Guest:

Mike Sedrick (My brother)


Jody Sedrick

jody.sedrick@gmail.com 

@jodysedrick on YouTube and Instagram

Sep 25, 202344:44
240 - Walking through The Dark Night of the Soul
Sep 20, 202346:41
239 - Building a Launch Pad for Your Kids
Sep 12, 202335:09
238 - "Just Have Faith"

238 - "Just Have Faith"

In the. depths of a heavy challenge has someone ever told you "Just have faith!" and the words rather than comfort, ring hollow, or even come across as unintendly harsh?


I share a few thoughts that I hope will help you walk with greater tenderness and love as you try to support a loved one. There is a time to acknowledge pain and loss, a time to extend love, and a time to know when to encourage faith. Wisdom is knowing the difference.

Have a great day!

Jody

Sep 09, 202308:26
237 - I had to step back and pivot when the baby came
Aug 23, 202325:30
236 - A Love Letter to My Suicidal Friends

236 - A Love Letter to My Suicidal Friends

This week I sit down with my oldest son, Devon, to talk about the back story of his new song, "A Love Letter To My Suicidal Friends"


We discuss our own personal experiences with loved ones and friends who struggle with feeling like they don't belong and don't want to stay in this world. Let's be honest life can be REALLY tough sometimes and put your heart and mind in a very sad and lonely place.


We recognize this is a very personal and emotional issue and are trying to bring an open, loving, caring, and empathetic discussion that will help you and a loved one walk through a dark season of your life.


Love Jody and Devon

Aug 07, 202349:52
235 - Is your porn addiction part of the problem?

235 - Is your porn addiction part of the problem?

Hey guys,

Last week I went and saw the movie Sound of Freedom. It is a powerful and compelling origin story of Tim Ballard and his work rescuing children from the sex trade. In the very beginning of the movie, it shows how he is working to earn the trust of a pedophile to get more information so that he can rescue a kid. As I watched this interaction, it highlighted that porn was a contributing factor (and overlooked) part of the illegal sex trade.


I know a lot of you men struggle with overcoming your porn addiction and I thought I'd share some insights that maybe will put into perspective and help you ultimately overcome your addiction, I know it's a challenge and talk about this in the spirit of helping us all be men of integrity both in private and in public, and guardians of our heart.

I'd love to hear your thoughts!

Thank you for listening!

Jody

Aug 04, 202313:44
234 - You're Great At Love Bombing But Suck At Being a Husband

234 - You're Great At Love Bombing But Suck At Being a Husband

For the past couple of weeks, I've thought about why men struggle in their relationship with their spouse or significant other.  At the beginning of the relationship we're great a love bombing; going out of our way to prove we are the one. But somewhere we lose the pursuit of her heart and wonder why she's nagging and always complaining about you not doing your part.


Perhaps it's time to look in the mirror and look at what you used to do versus now.  Your actions will be very revealing.


I'd love to hear your thoughts.


Cheers

Jody

Jul 26, 202324:23
233 - I did not want to have kids!
Jul 18, 202344:06
232 - Dad and Son Time - Deep Conversations In The Truck

232 - Dad and Son Time - Deep Conversations In The Truck

This week I sit down with Daniel G aka Stoner Gump. We explore making time to have deep conversations with his 7-year-old son while driving in his truck. We also explore the challenges of co-parenting, letting kids explore, and learning how to be friendly.


Show highlights:

0:00 Intro

2:00 Amazing conversations in the truck

4:00 How should we deal with a bully

07:30 Teaching kids to work

11:30 The dynamic of having 4 kids and managing co-parenting

16:00 getting married at 17

20:00 Looking back on being a dad


Daniel G Tiktok @stonergumper


Host: Jody Sedrick

Instagram @jodysedrick and @fathersfire

Jul 10, 202329:12
231 - Little Things Build a Dad's Legacy

231 - Little Things Build a Dad's Legacy

This past week we had the opportunity to go to Springdale Arkansas to celebrate my mom's 80th Birthday and have a family reunion. All 8 of us siblings were able to come along with a lot of the grand and great grandkids. We had such a fun time together. As I watched the interaction and love between everyone I thought about the little things my dad did with my mom to create such an amazing legacy for our family.

Caught up in the minutiae of life you can’t see the impact you are having. But from the lens of time, we can see how little things add up. If I were to sum up the little things that my dad did it would be

  1. Showed us that Mom was preeminent in his life and heart
  2. He made time for us kids
  3. He taught us to work and worked beside us
  4. He played with us
  5. He owned his mistakes, said he was sorry, and showed more love after

I hope you enjoy this episode and that something touches your heart.  


Cheers

Jody

Jul 03, 202318:56
230 - Happy Father's Day

230 - Happy Father's Day

Happy Father's Day

I wanted to wish you a Happy Father's Day and share a few thoughts with you


  • Dads are critically important!
  • Mad respect for single moms and single dads
  • Many kids struggle because they have a huge hole in their hearts in the shape of their father; abandoned, abusive, oppressive, in the room but not involved, addicted,
  • You don’t need to be the perfect dad, throw out perfection and replace it with purpose, involvement, leadership, mentorship, fun, playfulness and a whole lot of love. Your kids don’t need you to be perfect they need you in their lives. 

I hope you have a GREAT day with your kids!


Cheers!

Jody

Jun 18, 202315:59
229 - The power of a dad's touch

229 - The power of a dad's touch

Recently I had the opportunity to go to Orlando Florida to watch my mentor and personal coach give the keynote speech at the MOAA Conference. He shared a story about his father and how his father attempted to bridge the gap of years of strain by lovingly placing his hand on his shoulder. His story has made me think of how many children are yearning, hoping for a dad's touch. A dad's love!

I also share a story I had with my own dad where he extended a hand of love and mended a little boy's heart.

I'd love to hear your stories of how you've connected with your dad, or maybe even still trying to figure out how to connect!

Have a Blessed day! Thanks for tuning in!

Jody

Jun 16, 202315:06
228- Memorial Day Tribute Pt 2. - Stepping out of the military mindset to be a dad

228- Memorial Day Tribute Pt 2. - Stepping out of the military mindset to be a dad

In honor of Memorial Day here is Pt 2.  I revisit an episode with Ty Watson a Navy Corpsman. We discuss the challenge of getting out of that military mindset when working with your kids.


Some highlights of the show


* The challenge of being a dad while serving in the Navy

* Recognize that your wife is creating a regimen in the home and support what she has built

* The power and blessing of having a strong relationship with his wife

* Allowing our kids to ask questions 

* Putting unrealistic expectations on your kids

* Learning to dad the way each of your kids needs to a dad

* Growing through transitions

* As much as I want to be a perfect dad I’m not

Guest:

Ty Watson

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May 31, 202343:43
227 - Memorial Day Tribute Pt 1 - What it's like to be deployed and be a dad?
May 30, 202328:16
226 - Dad's Grieve Too!
May 23, 202335:51
225 - Yes, You Deserve It

225 - Yes, You Deserve It

Why do we as dad's sometimes feel like we don't deserve good things? We put everyone else first and when we finally do one thing nice for ourself we feel guilty about it?


What has your experience been with doing something nice for you? You feel guilty or no?


Host: Jody Sedrick

Instagram @jodysedrick and @fathersfire

Website: jodysedrick.com

Order my book "Learn To Dance With The Currents of Life - When You Fell like Drowning" - Paperback and Kindle

May 17, 202308:13
224 - On The Outside Looking In
May 09, 202321:02
223 - Get Your Head In the Game If You Want To Save Your Marriage
May 03, 202352:24
222 - I"m not the dad that my kids need
Apr 25, 202324:24
221 - My Marriage is On The Edge of Dying
Apr 17, 202321:09
220 - When I don't have my kids I'm lonely!
Apr 03, 202329:49
219 - Death of a Relationship

219 - Death of a Relationship

This week I ponder several conversations with men who are in the process of going through a divorce. I set those conversations against the ideal of having a strong marriage one that is a true partnership with each other and with God.  


Honestly, I wrestled with how to discuss it in a way that all would benefit. I knew there are men who are happily married, divorced, widowed, going through a divorce 


Top it off had two conversations with different men going through a divorce that made me even more sensitive to how to deliver it. 


A couple of observations 

* both started with “just friend” relationships on Facebook 

* Have you become emotionally disconnected through Social media; bikinis, lingerie, porn

* Be intentional with your relationship

* I don’t go to lunch with other women for business. The women friends I have are our friends 

* Know when to talk, when to listen, when to press an issue

* 50/50, 100/100, 180/20

* You can do everything right and still the other person can make a choice that destroys your relationship

* You be the strength. You be the anchor your kids need (she just wants attention)


Relationships can be messy. They can be beautiful. We get the opportunity and challenge to work through them.  What have you done to turn your relationship into a true partnership?


Thanks for listening

Jody Sedrick

Mar 27, 202324:25
218 - I got checked by my 9 year old
Mar 20, 202344:00
217 - It's Ok To Be Angry But What Next?
Mar 13, 202341:21
216 - This is Who I Am Now!

216 - This is Who I Am Now!

Many of you men have worked hard to overcome past failings but how come it's difficult for some people to see who you've become - who you are now?

I dig into some thoughts inspired by the movie Inmate #1 and conversations with my good friend Rigo Santana who left gang life and now is working hard to show young boys and men a better way.


Mar 06, 202321:56
215 - Don't Do That! What I would tell myself as a young dad

215 - Don't Do That! What I would tell myself as a young dad

I've been married 34 years this past week. Judie posed the question to me in our podcast "Into The Grey". What would you tell your 18/20-year-old self about relationships, careers, and spirituality?  This got me thinking about what I would tell myself as a young man about being a dad and good husband

Show Highlights:

  • Remember they are kids
  • Let them make mistakes
  • Let them explore / explore with them
  • Let them play
  • Make them do a season
  • Let them see you make big moves
  • Let them see you love their mom
  • Counsel with your wife
  • Be a unified front - don’t let kids play you against each other
  • What if you didn’t have a good dad
  • You know what you didn’t like, you know what you don’t want to be opposite
  • Angry - patient
  • Stubborn- open and understanding
  • Yeller- soft spoken
  • Workaholic - set aside time
  • Overbearing - gentle
  • Alcoholic - Clean and sober
  • Forgive yourself when you mess up
  • Apologize. - own who you are and what you do

What would you tell yourself?

Feb 22, 202324:24
214 - Dude, I Didn't Want To Get Up for Work!
Feb 13, 202334:08
213 - When The UGLY side of divorce comes out

213 - When The UGLY side of divorce comes out

I had a great conversation with someone very close to me who is going through the ugly side of the divorce. I explore some thoughts on our conversation and how you can battle the tendency bring out the ugly in you.

I'd love to hear how you have battled the tendency to bring out the ugly in you when things go south.

Cheers!

Jody Sedrick
Fathers Fire

Feb 06, 202314:00
212 - Walking in Darkness

212 - Walking in Darkness

This morning I visited with someone very close to me who is going through the dark side of divorce.  I thought I'd share a few thoughts about walking through dark seasons. How can you find hope, light and direction to pull yourself through those dark moments?

Have an awesome day!

Jody

Feb 02, 202312:30
211 - Counseling, I''ll Try It So You'll Get Off My Back

211 - Counseling, I''ll Try It So You'll Get Off My Back

This week I visit with DJ Patterson. We explore his experience going from high school sweethearts to having a strong marriage with four beautiful children. We discuss the aversion to counseling, the surprising benefits, fostering kids, homeschooling and more,

Show highlights:

0:00 Intro
02:00 Child sweethearts who were growing together and learning to communicate
08:00 Fostering twin boys and the ripple effect on family
11:00 Making time for each kid individually and homeschooling
21:00 What has been the most surprising thing about being a dad
25:00 How did he figure out what kind of dad he wanted to be

Guest
DJ Patterson


Jan 23, 202336:02
210 - Who do your children need you to be in this moment?

210 - Who do your children need you to be in this moment?

We men often think of our role in terms of provider and fixer. But what do your kids really need at this moment? And how can that change from moment to moment?  Today a look at a few roles your kids may need that you've either been missing, avoided, or neglected  Sounding board Counselor Cheerleader Fan Believer Blueprint å Advocate  Confidant Playmate  What other roles have you found your kids needed and how did you feel it?  

Host:
Jody Sedrick
Fathers Fire

Jan 17, 202320:05