Back to Basics for Parenting Teens
By Fern Weis
Join me for skills that work and new perspectives to help you *bring out the best in your teen* (rather than trying to prevent the worst).
With communication skills, relationship-building, boundaries and self-care, you can turn it around, and you don't have to do it alone. We’re in this together, because it takes a village to raise parents, too.
www.fernweis.com
Disclaimer: Life coaching is not a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or addiction recovery help.
Back to Basics for Parenting TeensJul 14, 2021
#24 - It's never my kid's fault (according to her).
Teens have a way of distracting us so they can avoid the issue we want to talk about. Your best tactic is to stick to the facts.
#23 - Letting Go: The Real Story
Letting go doesn't mean giving up or giving in. It doesn't mean cutting your child out of your life. What it does mean is giving your teen the opportunities and dignity of experiencing and learning from life.
There will be mistakes along the way. It's supposed to be that way. Letting go means being there to support them trough it, not to fix it for them.
There's an anonymous poem called "Letting Go". It says it all. To get your copy, email me at fern@fernweis.com and I'll send it over.
#22 - What NOT to Say to Your Teen
We hear over and over that it's what you say and how you say it. Let's flip that around and look at specific words and phrases to avoid. What you omit can be just as important as what you say.
When you try them out, let me know how it goes.
** The opinions of the presenters are not a substitute for medical and mental health treatment.
#21 - On-the-job skills for Teens, with Kirt Manecke
#20 - Step-Family Parenting with Judy Graybill
Parenting in a stepfamily is a whole new world. My guest, Step-Family Coach Judy Graybill, shares her personal experiences and professional learning to help you better understand the blended family dynamic. Her biggest takeaway for you is that a healthy relationship with your partner is the foundation for parenting and connecting with your step-children. I hear that loud and clear; parenting is about the parents.
Learn more about Judy, her resources and programs at www.judygraybill.com. You'll also find her on Instagram @judy.m.graybill.
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** The opinions of the presenters are not a substitute for medical or mental health treatment.
#19 - Best way to praise your child.
Our praise often falls flat because we are the parents and
1. we offer it to make our child feel better OR
2. our child is a black and white thinker. They think something is 100% true or not true at all.
This episode goes into more depth about this this and what kind of praise works best.
Listen to the end for a free tool that makes effective praise easier to do. fern@fernweis.com
Thanks for listening.
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** The opinions of the presenter are not a substitute for medical or mental health treatment.
#18 - Who's the Center of Attention?
There's often one person in the family who's the center of attention. This person may be out of control and the source of chaos, the one everyone's dancing around. This episode explores how this impacts everyone in the family and how you can cope more productively with it.
Foundations: Relationships, Boundaries, Communication Skills
*Disclaimer* - This content reflects the opinions of Fern Weis. It does not represent, nor is it a substitute for, mental health or medical advice.
#17 - How to Say No Without Guilt & Resentment
Foundations: Boundaries, Communication, Self-Care
#16 - Do you give until it hurts?
Are you familiar with "The Giving Tree" by Shel Silverstein? Most parents love this book. I read it to my children only once because I found the message disturbing. This mother (the tree) gives and gives until she has nothing left, and her son takes and takes, with no regard for her. Is that how you want to show up for your children and them for you? If not, you'll appreciate this perspective on doing less for everyone else and doing more for you. You have a life and hopefully dreams. You matter.
Foundations: Self-Care, Boundaries, Potential
*Disclaimer* - This content reflects the opinions of Fern Weis. It does not represent, nor is it a substitute for mental health or medical advice.
#15 - The Boiled Frog
The Boiled Frog is a short story with a big lesson. It illustrates what it takes for us to see what's really going on in our family, and tips to avoid reaching a crisis point. Preparation is key. I've also included a mini-script you can adapt for your individual situation.
Foundations: Communication, Prevention, Awareness
#14 - Hearing Children's Voices
In this episode we'll go deeper into what it really means to hear your child, and how you can become the one they turn to.
Foundations: Communication, Relationships, Mental Health
#13 - #1 Tip to Get Out of Your Funk
It's too easy to stay in a bad mood and wallow. Know that it's okay to feel sorry for yourself, and that it's not healthy or helpful to stay there for too long. Here's my #1 tip to get out of your funk faster, and to teach this to your kids.
Foundations: Mental Health, Boundaries, Role Model
DISCLAIMER: These are coaching strategies, and are NOT a substitute for mental health care. If you struggle with anxiety, depression or other mental health issues, please consult with medical/mental health professionals.
#12 - Privacy - What do you share about your kids?
Foundations: Relationships, Boundaries
#11 - P is for People Pleaser
People pleasing was my M.O. It meant avoiding conflict at all costs, and impacted all my relationships. Being a people pleaser also affects how you parent, and not in a good way. Enjoy some personal insights into the world of being a PP. You're not alone, and you can change.
Foundations: Relationships, Self-Care
#10 - The 'F-Bomb'
Foundations: Relationship-building, Communication Questions? Write to me at fern@fernweis.com.
#09 - We gave them the tech. Have we lost our kids?
Foundations: Communication, Relationships, Boundaries
#08 - Gayle Gruenberg, Professional Organizer
In addition to her training and many qualifications, Gayle's super powers are compassion and acceptance of each individual. This allows her clients to release any guilt or shame they may be carrying around clutter, and to create a more peaceful environment.
More information at www.lgorganized.com.
#07 - Your Children Are not Your Children
At some point we launch our children into their future and their life is no longer in our hands. The poet-philosopher Kahlil Gibran speaks for all parents in "On Children" (commonly known by the first line, Your Children Are not Your Children). I encourage you to find it online and read along with me. I was introduced to this poem at a difficult time in our family's life, and it spoke deeply and profoundly to me. Stay with me as I share its meaning to me.
Foundations: Relationship Building, Self-Care
#06 - Respectful Conversation is Key to Reach Your Teen
#05 - R is for Rules (and Principles) for Better Results
Foundations: Communication, Boundaries
#04 - A is for Anxiety
TIP: It's more than meditation and yoga!
#03 - What keeps you up at night?
#02 - Stop talking about school!
#01 - Parents and the college decision
