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Figuring out Families

Figuring out Families

By Majellan Media
It's in the family we learn the skills of living together. We first
learn that we are loved, understood, wanted and cared for,
and in most cases it's in the family we are formed to be who we are.

But our biggest hurts, failures and tragedies can also occur
within the family.

For most of us we have to learn as we go!

For over 70 years Majellan has provided advice, shared stories
of family life and helped family members deal with the problems that arise.

We've helped thousands with their family issues.

Join us in this new podcast series. Together we’ll set about
Figuring out Families.
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Importance of Work/Life Balance - Focus session with Derek Boylen

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Parenting - Focus Session with Derek Boylen
There is no perfect way to parent and sometimes we are going to get it wrong! As we know children are constantly growing and developing and it is important that our parenting also needs to be open to change and development. Research tells us that healthy parent child relationships require both connectedness and flexibility and importantly parenting needs to be balanced. In a healthy parenting relationship children also need boundaries and lots of love and a wonderful sense of connection. We’ve been entrusted to a special relationship with our children. Derek explores parenting and reminds us to stop and cherish what’s before us as parents. At whatever stage of parenting you are this Focus session is not to be missed! Need more? Derek Boylen is an experienced relationship counsellor and is available for private consultation. To enquire about private sessions with Derek, or have a specific question about family and relationships answered go to our website majellan.media and complete the enquiry form here  Enquiries are made in the strictest confidence.
27:52
September 29, 2020
Goal Setting - Focus Session with Derek Boylen
The brain loves novelty but what’s novel today is boring tomorrow. Setting goals is a great way to help keep relationships fresh and continue growing. In new or old relationships, goals help families to stay excited about the future and give a sense of purpose and direction. Goals help us to prioritise the use of our time, money and resources. They give families a common purpose and they become milestones on the journey. In this Focus Session Derek describes how goals work to strengthen families and explores how to set goals as a family. Need more? Derek Boylen is an experienced relationship counsellor and is available for private consultation. To enquire about private sessions with Derek, or have a specific question about family and relationships answered go to our website majellan.media and complete the enquiry form here  Enquiries are made in the strictest confidence.
26:46
September 23, 2020
Dealing With Difficult Family Members - Focus session with Derek Boylen
One of the most common challenges for couples, especially younger couples is where the extended family interferes with relationships and it can feel like you are the ‘meat in the sandwich’ dealing with conflicts between your partner and your extended family. Derek explores the many  reasons for meddling and shares ways to deal with an extended family member who may be causing issues. Another issue Derek covers is having to set boundaries with extended family members. He provides some great strategies on how to set boundaries which is one way of strengthening relationships between all concerned. Need more? Derek Boylen is an experienced relationship counsellor and is available for private consultation. To enquire about private sessions with Derek, or have a specific question about family and relationships answered go to our website majellan.media and complete the enquiry form here  Enquiries are made in the strictest confidence.
27:26
September 15, 2020
Financial Stresses - Focus Session with Derek Boylen
Family finances is one of the most difficult things to talk about and less than 10% of families have a budget.  Finances can also be one of the biggest relationship breakers – especially when money gets tight or we get into difficult times. Different ideas or –‘habitudes’ - about money can create unnecessary stress on relationships and because there is no romance in speaking about finance most of us don’t cover the topic with our loved ones. Derek explains how to have conversations about money, how to be aware of the different views each of us may have about money and describes how we can budget in a positive way. Regardless of your financial position this Focus Session will be of value. By Majellan Media Because family matters most
33:08
September 7, 2020
Infidelity - Focus Session with Derek Boylen
Infidelity is more common than we think and often it is painful and hidden for couples; 25% of couples will experience infidelity and it’s a problem equally for both men and women. However, there are more ways people can be unfaithful beyond physical or emotional infidelity. When there has been emotional or physical infidelity it can be difficult, and a big part of the challenge will be the emotional imbalance within the relationship. In this Focus Session, Derek covers some basic principles about how to first start talking about it as couples and how they can recover and build an amazingly strong relationship, deeper than they imagined possible, even after infidelity, if they are willing to work on it. For more great resources on relationships and family visit majellan.media  Need more? Derek Boylen is an experienced relationship counsellor and is available for private consultation. To enquire about private sessions with Derek, or have a specific question about family and relationships answered go to our website majellan.media and complete the enquiry form here  Enquiries are made in the strictest confidence. Majellan Media because family matters most
29:20
September 3, 2020
Focus Sessions Overview with Derek Boylen
Welcome to Figuring out Families by Majellan Media where we look at the issues affecting families in the modern world. At Majellan, because we believe family matters most, we’ve produced several resources to help all families be the best they can be. We are very pleased to be joined by Derek Boylen, an experienced marriage and relationship councillor and a lecturer in relationships at the University of Notre Dame. We have put together this most valuable series which we are calling the Focus Sessions. In this short overview we highlight aspects of family relationships and how this series can help in strengthening your family relationships. We hope you’ll find the series beneficial and get some insights on issues you may face in your family. Hosted by David Ahern, Majellan Media Visit majellan.media for many more resources to help make your family the best it can be . Need more? Derek Boylen is an experienced relationship counsellor and is available for private consultation. To enquire about private sessions with Derek, or have a specific question about family and relationships answered go to our website majellan.media and complete the enquiry form here  Enquiries are made in the strictest confidence. Majellan Media because family matters most
05:45
September 1, 2020
Is it Over? Focus Session with Derek Boylen
In this Focus Session of Figuring out Families, marriage counsellor Derek Boylen talks about what to do when there appears to be no hope in a relationship. The types of pressures on families today are far greater than ever before so Derek discusses what can be done to ease the pressures and puts forward a number of suggestions on how to seek professional help if the family situation is deteriorating.  He adds that if the relationship breaks down without hope of resolution, there are things couples can do to protect themselves and their children. If you feel the relationship is over this episode is for you. Derek Boylen is an experienced relationship councillor and Lecturer in relationships at the University of Notre Dame  Need more? Derek Boylen is available for private consultation. To enquire about private sessions with Derek, or have a specific question about family and relationships answered go to our website majellan.media and complete the enquiry form here  Enquiries are made in the strictest confidence. Majellan Media because family matters most
32:29
August 25, 2020
Twelve Facets of Intimacy - Focus Sessions with Derek Boylen
Intimacy play an important part in all relationships. However, we tend to think of intimacy in terms of emotional or physical connection. In this session Derek explains what intimacy means and shows us that there are actually twelve facets of intimacy. As you listen, you will discover what these 12 facets are, how important it is to share intimacy in family relationships, how to expand a couple’s capacity to experience closeness and how we can overcome the vulnerability that we sometimes feel during ‘intimate’ moments. This is another valuable episode to help you make your relationship and your family the best it can be. Your host is David Ahern Need more? Derek Boylen is an experienced relationship counsellor and is available for private consultation. To enquire about private sessions with Derek, or have a specific question about family and relationships answered go to our website majellan.media and complete the enquiry form here  Enquiries are made in the strictest confidence. Majellan Media because family matters most
31:33
August 17, 2020
Importance of Work/Life Balance - Focus session with Derek Boylen
Continuing our Focus Series of Figuring out Families, marriage counsellor Derek Boylen speaks about the importance of work/life balance.  Never has this been so important, especially due to the difficulties we are experiencing with coronavirus. Work/life balance can lead to all sorts of stresses on families, financial and otherwise. Derek provides tips on what couples and families can do to ease these pressures and believes organisation and setting goals are key to a more harmonious family home. Need more? Derek Boylen is an experienced relationship counsellor and is available for private consultation. To enquire about private sessions with Derek, or have a specific question about family and relationships answered go to our website majellan.media and complete the enquiry form here  Enquiries are made in the strictest confidence. Majellan Media because family matters most
29:15
August 12, 2020
Benefits of Being Part of a Community - Focus Session
In the latest focus session of Figuring out Families with Derek Boylen, we explore community. The current pandemic has revealed much about society today and how we live in community. When we are deprived of communion with our neighbours it can impact on our mental health, and test the sturdiness of our social fabric. Derek explains how a strong sense of community is vital for the wellbeing of our relationships with loved ones.
30:29
August 5, 2020
Faith and Spirituality in Families- Focus Session with Derek Boylen
In this session we explore how faith and spirituality effect relationships in the pressure of daily life. Derek and David are joined by special guest Karen (Derek’s wife) to explore the importance of taking time to strengthen our ‘spiritual being’ and how in doing so we build closer more loving relationships. Topics covered in this session: The meaning of spirituality Spirituality, faith or religion? How we experience spirituality in the day-to-dayness of life. Learning to see our family members with new eyes. How to behold them. Opening space in your family for spiritual conversations to occur more naturally Thinking about what you’d like to pass onto your children and how to be intentional Finding people your family can journey in faith with. First steps if you’re very new to this but want to explore faith and spirituality more.
33:14
July 27, 2020
Love Languages, Focus Session with Derek Boylen
What are love languages? Put simply, they are the ways we show love and interpret love back. It is the language we speak when expressing love.  And it is important to know that your love language may be different to that of your loved ones. This means there is room for misinterpretations and can be a cause for lack of connection. In this Focus session Derek describes what the five love languages are and shows us how we can express our love more deeply – to our partner and our children in their love language. If you have or haven’t heard of love languages before you will enjoy the way Derek presents this most interesting topic
30:44
July 14, 2020
Problems and Relationship Repair - Focus Session with Derek Boylen
All relationships are tested at one time or another and there is nothing wrong with a good argument. In fact, it can be healthy. Arguments in a relationship are inevitable! Even if we had the best communication skills in the world there are still going to be times when we have different expectations or goals or values which can to lead to a disagreement of some sort. In this session we explore the steps to help address problems when they arise and how disagreements and arguments can in fact enrich a relationship. Join David and Derek to find out more.
31:14
July 13, 2020
Keeping Fun and Romance Alive - Focus Session with Derek Boylen
When we think about what it takes to build strong lasting family relationships we often focus on the big guns of trust, honesty, loyalty, etc. However, an essential part of meaningful relationships is also fun, humour and laughter. Those are also play a big part of the job of building a healthy family life. Having fun and including romance in relationships is a choice, not something we do, just when we feel like it. In this session Derek talks about the importance of planning for fun in the family and explains what love rituals are and how to keep romance alive in your relationship.
32:45
July 13, 2020
Love Maps, Focus Session with Derek Boylen
Having a strong loving relationship usually means you have a good understanding  of what is important to your family members.  In this Focus Session we explore Love Maps and how they can help to gain a deeper knowledge of the people we care most about and therefore build stronger relationships. Understanding Love Maps gives us a valuable means of getting to know and appreciate our partners and children better to help avoid conflict, and most importantly build strong, loving bonds. Derek and David discuss what Love Maps are, how to grasp them and how to apply the knowledge to make our relationships the best they can be. This is a fascinating session
31:41
July 3, 2020
Communications Part 2: Focus Sessions with Derek Boylen
In part two of our Communications session we take a closer look at how emotions impact on our relationships and how we communicate.   We are also joined by some special guests to get children's perspective on communication.   We suggest you listen to part one first. Click Here to go to Part 1 . Communication is the theme of the second session of our focus series with Marriage Counsellor Derek Boylen. As much as good communication can build positive bonds and mutual respect, so can poor communication remove trust and break down the foundation of a relationship. An entire series could be focused on this topic alone. However we have condensed the subject into two incredibly informative sessions, with part I & II.
35:58
July 1, 2020
Communications Part 1: Focus Sessions with Derek Boylen
Communication is the theme of the second session of our focus series with Marriage Counsellor Derek Boylen.  As much as good communication can build positive bonds and mutual respect, so can poor communication remove trust and break down the foundation of a relationship. An entire series could be focused on this topic alone. However we have condensed the subject into two incredibly informative sessions, with part I & II. 
30:07
July 1, 2020
Figuring Out Families – The focus series with Derek Boylen - Session 1: Families in Lockdown
With this episode we start a new series of podcasts that focus in on real family and relationship issues ... And we’re pleased to be joined by marriage councillor and family expert, Derek Boylen. Together we will explore the most pressing issues facing families today. As well as a practising counsellor Derek is the Director of the Centre for Life, Marriage and Family in the Archdiocese of Perth and is also a sessional lecturer for the University of Notre Dame in the Discipline of Counselling.   He is extremely well qualified, and we are very pleased to have him join us again on Figuring out Families for a series of 'sessions' on relationships and family.   Our first 'session' looks at how families deal with Covid-19.
32:51
June 24, 2020
Kate Moriarty - Six Kids, Coronavirus and Faith!
In this Figuring Out Families podcast we talk to Kate Moriarty, a freelance writer and mother of six. She speaks about her faith and the issues she and her husband encountered home schooling their children and tuning into live streaming Masses from their TV room during the COVID-19 lockdown. Kate also passes on some valuable tips for families on ways to better organise your lives and those of your children. This is a fun and entertaining podcast.
30:59
June 5, 2020
Josie Jones - Australian of the Year 2020 Victorian Local Hero
Each morning, Josie Jones starts her day by collecting rubbish on the beach. A single mum, she has volunteered over 10,000 hours and countless dollars to improve the water quality in Victoria’s Port Phillip bay.  Personally collecting over 5.3 tonnes of rubbish from its shorelines. Josie devotes every spare moment to stopping litter entering waterways, and engaging the community to inspire change. A graphic designer, she has used her skills successfully to dramatically decrease cigarette butts on local streets through her 'The Only Butt' campaign. She spoke to Figuring our Families about the work she does for the environment, how her life was impacted when her mother committed suicide, being a single mum and her faith. We’re sure you will be inspired by this remarkable woman.
38:50
May 10, 2020
Gary Pinto - Walk With Me
In this podcast we talk to Aria award winner Gary Pinto, an inspirational singer/songwriter, who’s been a mentor to many young Australian artists and friend to such legends as Jimmy Barnes and Guy Sebastian.  In this podcast Gary talks about life with his family at home under coronavirus, his faith, long music career and the online music fundraiser for Caritas.  Find out more abut the concert here This is a must listen podcast.
30:32
April 30, 2020
Christine Carolan on the extent of slavery in the world today
Over 40 million people are believed to be caught up in slavery around the world and in Australia - and unknowingly each of us may be facilitating its continuation. In this Figuring Out Families podcast we talk to Christine Carolan, Executive Officer of the Australian Catholic Religious Against Trafficking in Humans (ACRATH), an organisation dedicated to eliminating modern slavery. Christine says ACRATH consists of many dedicated volunteers, and they have had many successes in fighting the insidious slave trade whose victims include both individuals and families.
35:05
April 17, 2020
Derek Boylen on relationships and marriage
Relationships and marriages are the topics of this episode of Figuring out Families where we welcome Derek Boylen, an experienced marriage councilor and a member of Ministry to Newly Married. Derek shares what it takes to make a relationship work and speaks about the top three issues that couples face in their first three years. This is a must hear podcast for all couples young and old. Brought to you by Majellan.Media 
30:37
March 4, 2020
Kirsty Robertson, CEO of Caritas Australia
In this episode we caught up with Kirsty Robertson who is the new CEO at Caritas Australia via a phone hook up and talked about the work Caritas does with the most abandoned families in the  world and how important Project Compassion is to ensure they can make a real difference in the world. Enjoy the episode.
24:29
February 20, 2020
Christmas and the Holy Family
As we approach Christmas, we turn our attention to the holy family.  Mary and Joseph experienced problems as all couples do. We know that their marriage almost didn’t happen because Mary told Joseph she was expecting a child. After God’s intervention in a dream to Joseph, they did marry and then we hear little else about their relationship. However we can imagine that like any marriage, there may have been times when Mary and Joseph had disagreements and faced issues as parents as they raised their child Jesus. They probably would have dealt with those issues far more charitably than many of us would, but still, no family is completely free of difficulties. It is in the family that we learn the skills of living together. We first learn that we are loved, understood, wanted and cared for, and in most cases it's in the family we are formed to be who we are. So this Christmas we remember all families It’s sad that research has found that the Christmas period is a time of the year for a spike in anxiety, depression, social isolation, as well financial and time stress. Work-life balance, increased indulgence in food, drugs, alcohol and gambling.  Differing expectations, beliefs or values around Christmas are factors contributing to family stresses over the holiday period. Like Mary and Joseph who endured stress finding shelter for the birth of their son Jesus, this Christmas we remember all families experiencing stress, sorrow and hardship. Oh come Emmanuel We pause and reflect on our own family; we thank God for the blessing, and we pray for the healing of our families’ wounds and brokenness Oh come Emmanuel For all families in the world. We recognise the differences that culture and beliefs bring, and we celebrate the similarities that love and understanding bring. Oh come Emmanuel From the Majellan Family to your family: We wish you a blessed, safe and peace filled Christmas and new year as we pray , Oh,come Emmanuel  Christ the Savior is born.  He is "God Among Us"  - Emmanuel The musical accompaniment in this episode is a modern take on a Christmas classic by our mission partner Niamh O’Neill and performed by the Redemptorists Youth Oceania, in New Zealand. To hear the song in its entirety and view our Christmas Card video go to the Majellan YouTube Chanel Host: David Ahern Produced by Majellan.media
03:37
December 11, 2019
Gerald Bain-King, School principal speaking about families and school
In this Figuring Out Families podcast we talk to Gerald Bain-King, who’s about to retire after many years as a principal and vice-principal in the Catholic school system. Gerald’s time in education has given him tremendous insights into the types of issues that affect families. In this podcast he gives advice on how parents can help their children get the best from their time at school and talks about the issues affecting students and their families today, including the proliferation of modern technology and the consequences on a child’s learning and what schools can do to assist families in need. A must listen for parents of school-aged children. Looking for more information visit majellan.media/guides
37:59
December 4, 2019
Deacon George Piech Meat
Our special guest on this episode of Figuring Out Families is Deacon George Piech Meat.  After fleeing war-torn Sudan and spending two years in Egypt, Deacon George and his young family came to Australia as refugees in 2004. He has since gained a Bachelor of Theology degree and now works as a Sudanese Catholic community pastoral worker in Melbourne.  He speaks about his life in war torn South Sudan with his wife and children, his work with Sudanese youth, and his mission to raise money for a Catholic school in South Sudan.
44:08
November 20, 2019
Bronwyn Melville - Pregnancy Help Australia
Our special guest in this episode of Figuring Out Families is Bronwyn Melville. Bronwyn is on the Board of Newcastle Pregnancy Help. She provides advice to women who are pregnant either by choice, or whose pregnancy is unplanned. Bronwyn, the mother of seven children and five grandchildren, talks about the types of issues affecting pregnant women today: some are from broken families while others have to deal with violent partners. Bronwyn also speaks passionately about her presentation before the NSW parliamentary inquiry into the decriminalisation of abortion, prior to the Government passing new legislation.
32:25
November 7, 2019
Dr Robyn Miller CEO of MacKillop Family Services
In this Figuring Out Families podcast we talk to Dr Robyn Miller, Chief Executive of MacKillop Family Services. Robyn is a social worker and family therapist with more than thirty years' experience. She also worked as a consultant with the Royal Commission into Institutional Responses to Child Sexual Abuse. Her organisation provides numerous services in the areas of Disability, Youth Support, Family, Education and Out of Home care. In this episode, Robyn, who is the mother of five children, talks about the role that trauma plays in family breakdown and what is being done to better protect children at risk.
36:32
October 23, 2019
Episode 3 Juli Sharp from Genesis Pregnancy Support on the issues about sex young people face today
In this Figuring Out Families podcast we talk to Juli Sharp Executive Officer of Genesis Pregnancy Support.  Juli’s been with the organisation for 20 years and previously served on the national board of Pregnancy Help Australia. She has written 10 sex and relationship education programs for schools called beREADY. Under her leadership, the organisation has also opened second-hand baby gear shops named ‘Reborn’ and introduced post abortion healing retreat weekends for women who are suffering. In this podcast we speak to Juli about the issues facing young mothers and women expecting babies, the changing trend of abortion and how pornography is having an adverse effect on families and children. Juli is a mother of three adult children and a grandmother of four. Host:  David Ahern Producer: Tony Biviano. By Majelan.media
30:50
October 8, 2019
Episode 2 Michael Gartland Salesion Youth Camps
The Salesians of Don Bosco, a Catholic Order serves the young, especially the disadvantaged and marginalised.  They have organised holiday camps for children for many years.  In this episode of Figuring Out Families, we welcome Michael Gartland who talks about his involvement in the camps, firstly as a participant as a youngster and now years later as a camp leader.  Michael speaks about his family upbringing and the positive experience the camps have on the children, especially those from broken or abusive homes.
27:54
September 26, 2019
Episode 1 with Denis Fitzgerald from Catholic Social Services Victoria
In our first episode of Figuring out Families we are pleased to welcome Denis Fitzgerald, outgoing Executive Director of Catholic Social Services Victoria (CSSV).  Denis has been with CSSV for eleven years where he has been a staunch advocate for social justice and support for those most in need in our society. Catholic Social Services Victoria assists the Catholic Church in following the teachings of Jesus Christ to stand with and serve those who are poor, disadvantaged and marginalised; and to work for a just, equitable and compassionate society. As a peak body for Catholic community services in Victoria CSSV supports and enhances the work of service and justice of our member organisations.  Join us as we talk to Denis about the issues and challenges facing families today, the main causes of family breakdown, and how it’s contributing to an increased problem in local communities and society generally. Brought to you by Majellan.Media Presenter: David Ahern Production: Tony Biviano 
34:47
September 9, 2019
Figuring out Families Introduction
Here's a really short overview of Figuring out Families  The new podcast from Majellan Media.   Episode 1 will be out 7 September.
01:05
August 23, 2019