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Craving a Slow Down? Start with Your Mind.
The search for simplicity and slow can be overwhelming. As we looked for where to start the prompting to go inside was reoccurring. In this we start with clearing and cleaning up our mind first. How can we free up our minds, create more mental minimalism to live in the present moment, while still accomplishing our goals and managing our lives day to day? Do you have too many big rocks in your jar? We explore the concept of balance and where we may be confusing balance with perfectionism and bringing awareness to the time we realistically have. Lastly we touch on time, not getting stuck in our thoughts of the past or pushing for the future but how we can live here in this moment. Related Episodes Essentialism / How to Do Less But Better Finding Solitude Through Digital Minimalism How to Find Slow Simplicity in Your Life Simplifying Our Lives Through the Beauty of Minimalism with Diane Boden Books and Links We Mentioned Essentialism and Effortless // Greg Mcowen The Artist’s Way // Julia Cameron Stillness is Key // Ryan Holiday When the Heart Waits // Sue Monk Kid Think Like a Monk // Jay Shetty This episode’s sponsors: OnVive is a health and wellness company that is giving away a Mercedes Benz SUV and $10,000 cash to one lucky customer on June 1st! Right now, every dollar spent on OnVive.com gives you 3 entries towards winning. Make sure to use discount code “Magic15” at checkout. Get entered today, follow along on their Instagram @onvivelife for more updates, and good luck! Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND
01:05:59
May 10, 2021
An Honest Path to a More Minimal Lifestyle with Diane Boden of Minimalist Moms Podcast
In an age when materialism is rampant and we are craving simplicity in our lives, the logic of minimalism offers us a beautiful alternative. In this episode, one of our favorite minimalists and authors, helps us move towards minimalism in our lives by giving us some very applicable concrete tips on where to start making shifts in our lives. Related Episodes Essentialism / How to Do Less But Better Finding Solitude Through Digital Minimalism How to Find Slow Simplicity in Your Life Books and Links We Mentioned Minimalist Moms: Living and Parenting with Simplicity // Diane Boden https://minimalistmomspodcast.com Are you feeling lost, unanchored or listless in your days? We use our daily planner and journal to align our core values with the tasks we do each day! You can learn more about it HERE We use a monthly subscription to audible to read all our favorite audiobooks, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast This episode’s sponsors:  OnVive is a health and wellness company that is giving away a Mercedes Benz SUV and $10,000 cash to one lucky customer on June 1st! Right now, every dollar spent on OnVive.com gives you 3 entries towards winning. Make sure to use discount code “Magic15” at checkout. Get entered today, follow along on their Instagram @onvivelife for more updates, and good luck!  Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND
30:47
May 4, 2021
Is Being Busy Stealing Your Life?
We all have the same 24 hours in a day. And yet, somehow, it often seems like others somehow are doing more, accomplishing more with their time and we are left feeling like failures. We have people who need us, responsibilities to fulfill, and what can seem like an endless to do list that we are never caught up on. This can lead to us chasing after achieving and we end up in a space of burnout and being constantly busy. In this episode, we hash out how we ourselves struggle with the balance between accomplishment and calm, and the things we have found helpful as we search for the elusive balance. Related Episodes Feeling Burned Out? How We Use Healthy Treats to Take Care of Ourselves Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections Essentialism / How to Do Less But Better How to: Create Pockets of Peace Why Your Desires Matter and How to Define Them with Heather Dhauvin Anxious Depletion / Magic Moment # 1 Are you feeling lost, unanchored or listless in your days? We use our daily planner and journal to align our core values with the tasks we do each day! You can learn more about it HERE We use a monthly subscription to audible to read all our favorite audiobooks, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND
58:49
May 3, 2021
Recalculating Happiness with Jess Klasnick
Most of us say that happiness is something that we want, and society is all too willing to volunteer a recipe for finding it. If only we had the right size house, in the right neighborhood, with the right job, then we would be happy. In this episode, Jess Klaznick helps us recalculate happiness as she shares her family’s journey to joy. She found that after achieving the recipe that society offered to her for happiness, she was surprised that the happiness promised didn’t automatically follow. She and her husband sold much of their belongings to travel the world with their children, and the insights she gained along the way are both inspiring and helpful. You can find more about Jess on her website, https://www.recalculatinghappiness.com Related Episodes Essentialism / How to Do Less But Better How to: Create Pockets of Peace How to Find Slow Simplicity in Your Life Are you feeling lost, unanchored or listless in your days? We use our daily planner and journal to align our core values with the tasks we do each day! You can learn more about it HERE We use a monthly subscription to audible to read all our favorite audiobooks, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND
38:16
April 26, 2021
HOW TO Find Slow Simplicity in Your Life
In a time when we feel like we need to do more and more, it is easy to become overwhelmed. In this episode, we discuss many tips that we have used as an antidote the the issue of constantly being busy we addressed in the last week’s episode. We offer you tools that help us stay present and take time daily to align our actions with our vision for our life. Related Episodes Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour Make Your Morning Routine Happen! Feeling Burned Out? How We Use Healthy Treats to Take Care of Ourselves Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections Essentialism / How to Do Less But Better How to: Create Pockets of Peace Books and links we mentioned: Essentialism // Greg McOwen When the Heart Waits // Sue Monk Kidd Hands Free Mama // Rachel Stafford Child Whisperer // Carol Tuttle Resucceed // James Colburn Clean Mama Instagram Live Free Creative Are you feeling lost, unanchored or listless in your days? We use our daily planner and journal to align our core values with the tasks we do each day! You can learn more about it HERE We use a monthly subscription to audible to read all our favorite audiobooks, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find The Magic in the Podcast app, Scroll to the bottom of the page, click on write a review, tap the stars to rate us and write your review, and then hit SEND.
01:07:19
April 19, 2021
Raising Lions: The Art of Compassionate Discipline with Joe Newman
When we have a child who is misbehaving, it is easy to see him or her as a “problem child”. We don't want to crush our child, but also don't want to be so loose that our child becomes a tyrant. The paradox is that as we see our children for their worth and raise them in their own power we can begin to feel feelings of frustration, that we aren't listened to or disrespected. This can cause us to swing wildly from extreme discipline to lax parenting. We can find ourselves at a loss as to how we can maintain some semblance of order and connection in our homes. In this episode, Felica explores this dynamic with Joe Newman, author of the incredible book, Raising Lions.  Joe has decades of experience working with children whose behavior is so difficult that they are medicated, sent to other learning facilities, etc.  His work has helped countless children who have been labeled as a lost cause, and has given relief and hope to many parents who are at their wit’s end. He explains how we can use compassion within structure and firm boundaries as we navigate raising our children by finding the balance between power and connection. Related Episode To Raise Strong Children, We Need to Be Strong Parents Book we mentioned: Raising Lions // Joe Newman Are you feeling lost, unanchored or listless in your days? We use our daily planner and journal to align our core values with the tasks we do each day! You can learn more about it HERE We use a monthly subscription to audible to read all our favorite audiobooks, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND
01:09:32
April 5, 2021
Become a Child Whisperer / Parenting Your Kids True to Their Nature (based on the work of Carol Tuttle)
Even though it can FEEL like there is one right way to parent in any situation; in our hearts we know that isn't true. We can feel the parenting advice that aligns with our personality. We can see the change in our child when we are acknowledging them for who they are. Parenting is not a one size fits all for us or our kids.  This week we are distilling concepts from the book The Child Whisperer by Carol Tuttle. Her unique take on recognizing our child's nature guides us to a more true interpretation of their needs and how we can guide them true to their personality, energy and desires! We loved this book so much and think you will too. If you are feeling at odds with one or more of your children and need a reset; this unique way of interacting with your children may be just the thing you need! Related Episodes Patience With Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood, and Making Peace With Your Inner Landscape Using Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect with Your Child Books and links we mentioned: The Child Whisperer // Carol Tuttle Are you feeling lost, unanchored or listless in your days? We use our daily planner and journal to align our core values with the tasks we do each day! You can learn more about it HERE We use a monthly subscription to audible to read all our favorite audiobooks, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND
01:17:22
March 29, 2021
The Beauty of Conflict with Clair Canfield
When most of us think of our experiences with conflict in communication, we feel emotions ranging from mild discomfort to full fledged panic or dread. In this episode,  we explore our approach to conflict with Clair Canfield, a brilliant professor on the subject of communication. He models what he teaches throughout this conversation and he offers us amazing tools to help us improve our relationships by holding space for others and changing our lens about what it means to connect with others. Clair's pillars of communication are nothing short of groundbreaking and have changed our approach forever.  Here they are: 1. Belief in the capacity to change 2. Belief in self determination (people have the right and ability to choose. Advice giving is counterintuitive) 3. Everyone has dignity 4. Safety- do not cause harm 5. Ethic of care (benevolence) You can watch Clair’s Tedx talk here, and his website is Canfieldconsulting.net. You can also find him on instagram @collaborativeconflict:) Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND
01:42:32
March 22, 2021
HOW TO Reconnect with Life, Your Marriage and Your Kids / Deep Dive into Connection
Connection is a foundational pillar of our parenting philosophy on Find the Magic along with boundaries, unconditional love and presence; we view connection as the vital, healing salve that can repair wounds and refill our empty buckets. In today's episode, we break down how we can connect with our kids, ourselves, and our spouse.  Filling our own bucket first allows us to connect with others. We offer some of our favorite tips for reconnecting with yourself and specifically how reconnecting with our bodies can remedy feelings of burnout and exhaustion. How gratitude offers us strength through trying times and realizing that we are connected with those who came before us can bring perspective.  We dive deep into the traditional differences in need between males and females and how need for affection can collide with a need for sexual connection.  We wrap up with gentle reminders of how we may be distracted in our parenting and guide you in ways you can find little moments sprinkled in your day where you can take advantage of connecting with your kids (even in discipline!**).  Books that inspired this episode  His Needs Her Needs // Willard F Harley Jr  Elevated Childcare // Janet Lansbury Our Related Episodes:  How to Embrace Childhood   Putting Connection First   How To Parent Less and Love it More p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallen We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family.  Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored to have such wonderful listeners. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND
46:15
March 15, 2021
HOW TO Simplify Meal Planning with Claire Tansey
Dinner can be the most joyful part of our day but often the preparation and pressure of getting something on the table brings stress instead of enjoyment with our family. If you strive to meal plan, make homemade meals and enjoy dinner time tune in! In 2021 we are focusing on being essential, minimizing the extra energy expenditures that cause us friction and burnout. In this episode we have a wide ranging conversation about many tips that can bring you more joy in meal planning from ways to budget and buy in season to picky eaters and how we can include them in meal planning and prep. We touch on back pocket dinners (meals made from ingredients you already have on hand) like black beans, cheddar cheese and tortillas from the freezer! Or a simple parmesan pasta or tuna melts, this is your fail safe back up plan! As much as we want to meal plan our best intentions can be thwarted by time, expired ingredients or lack of energy. Back pocket dinners are your go to in these moments. We also discuss narrowing down our dinner favorites and add them to our reoccurring dinner list!  Meal planning is a task that brings many of us stress, Claire helps us see that it doesn't need to. We can choose to find joy in meal planning! How we start is how we mean to go on. Let's find our groove together.  Related Episodes: HOW TO Eat with Intuition Cultivating Joyful Eating Habits / Deep Dive into Feeding our Kids French Kids Eat Everything (and so can YOURS!) You can find Claire’s books below: Dinner, Uncomplicated: Fixing a Delicious Meal Every Night of the Week // Claire Tansey Uncomplicated: Taking the Stress out of Home Cooking You can also connect with Claire on Instagram @tanseyclaire and on her website Clairetansey.com p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallen This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for your kind reviews! Just search Find the Magic on iTunes and scroll to the bottom of the page to leave one:)
49:36
March 8, 2021
Anxious Depletion / Magic Moment #1
Todays episode is our first Magic Moment! A shorter episode with quick wisdom to start your day. Felica shares the feelings of overwhelm, burnout and anxiety she has been experiencing and ways she has found to allow space for these feelings. She dives into what little things she believes may be weighing on us as parents/ mothers specifically and how we can see them more clearly. As we clarify them and expose what is pushing us to feel overwhelmed and anxious we can take steps to find more peace in our days. Felica shares tips that have helped her become more present, grounded and creative as she creates space for the burnout.  Related Episodes: Staying Open to the Present  Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us Our Daily Meditation  Hone Your Morning Routine  Feeling lost?  How to Cultivate Meaning  Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.
16:42
March 1, 2021
Child Play Troubles, Defiant Kids, and Our Easy Affirmations Routine
In this rapid fire listener question episode, we address what to do when your kids have playmates who play in ways that you don’t approve of. We also delve into some options you have when your child seems to want to do everything you DON’T want  him or her to do while still maintaining connection. We also share the specific affirmations we do with our children each day. Related Episodes Patience With Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood, and Making Peace With Your Inner Landscape Using Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect with Your Child Books and links we mentioned: The Child Whisperer // Carol Tuttle Think Like a Monk // Jay Shetty Dad is Fat // Jim Gaffigan Podcast: Hurry Slowly Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND
55:20
February 22, 2021
How To Tame Your Parenting Triggers with Jen Lumalan of Your Parenting Mojo
Being reactive and angry in our parenting is a feeling that weighs on many of us. There are times when your child does things that all children do like: expressing uncomfortable emotions, making big messes, wasting food, screaming/shouting LOUDLY, stalling endlessly while getting dressed, leaving the house, or getting ready for bed...and we lose our cool. As we embark on this journey of authenticity and finding ourselves inside parenting, the anxiety of failing to respond in a way that is honoring to our kids and ourselves can threaten to break us. We often find ourselves trying to change our children, looking for strategies that will guide us in how we can get them to do or not do something. In this episode with Jen Lumalan of Your Parenting Mojo Podcast, Felica and Jen have a wide ranging conversation about how we can flip that perception and recognize our childhood trauma and how nurturing ourselves can help us better nurture our children. They flesh out common parenting triggers like respect and defiance and how we can recognize when our patience skin is worn thin! In that recognition, we can give ourselves grace and space between the trigger and our response to our children. A space where trust is created inside our relationship, where our child trusts that our response will be connecting and loving. We have all experienced circumstances that weaken our ability to respond to our kids with love and respect. Hopefully this episode will offer your resource, encouragement and insight into how you can see those triggers and soften the effect they have on your relationships. Jen is offering a course for parents who would like more training on recognizing and taming our triggers. The course can be found here: go.yourparentingmojo.com/t?orid=7508&opid=16 Related Episode: Susan Stiffelman on Remaining Present While Parenting  Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thanks for the kind reviews! To leave us a review, open Find the Magic in iTunes, scroll to the bottom of the page, click on write a review, tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback, and hit SEND
47:13
February 15, 2021
Recognizing Desire, Intimacy After Betrayal and Discovering Self within Our Sexuality with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
In this episode, we had the honor once again of discussing different aspects of intimacy with the incredible Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. She uses her extensive knowledge and wisdom about the subject of sexuality to help us navigate many different situations, such as when partners differ greatly in their level of desire for each other, how to journey through betrayal trauma, and she even gives tips on how to have a healthy relationship with your own sexuality while you are single. Related Episodes How to Own Your Own Desires & the Art of Intimacy with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife Putting Connection With Our Spouse First Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND
45:39
February 10, 2021
Power to Motivate Yourself Using Gretchin Rubin's Four Tendencies
How do you handle expectations? Are you a rule follower? A rule breaker? Do you do better when someone else expects you to do something, or are you motivated by your own expectations? We draw from Gretchin Rubin’s Four Tendencies and use that information to help understand yourself and what motivates you. As you discover this, it allows you the freedom to know how to get the things you want in life. You can learn to stop fighting your own nature and instead learn to learn what works. The book that inspired us: The Four Tendencies // Gretchin Rubin Related Episodes Habits Deep Dive / Why Simple Changes Compound into Big Results Four Pillars of Wholehearted Parenting We Apply to Any Problem Habits for High Performance Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND
01:02:33
February 1, 2021
Patience with Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood and Making Peace with Your Inner Landscape
We dive into a wide range of listener questions today! We start by exploring what the solitude of 2020 brought into our life, how to come to peace with our inner landscape and find connection where we can. We spend time on a deep dive into one of our most asked questions, dealing with our kids aggression and when they hurt other kids. We can remain calm, lean into emotions AND not become attached and let their emotions control ours. Our children's lives are intimately entwined in ours; this reveals itself in our third listener question about dealing with situations when our kids won't tell us their secret feelings or share their emotions. And finally we explore friendships in mothers, types of friends we need and how to deal with the loss of friendship that is no longer serving you or your child.  Related Episodes Finding Wisdom in Chaos Susan Stiffelman on Remaining Present While Parenting Guidance for the Changing seasons of Motherhood  Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND
50:56
January 25, 2021
Learning from Brave and Powerful Women and Seeing Power as Infinite
Power is not finite, join us as we dismantle this perception with co-founder of Bravery Magazine Elyse Beard. In this episode she shares the stories of incredible women throughout history who have shown exceptional bravery, ingenuity, and intelligence. She offers tips to use the tapestry of history as a way to change the way we approach our own lives, and how to help our children face their own fears and follow their dreams. You can find more about the Bravery Magazine below: Braverymag.com Instagram: @bravery_mag  Email: hello@braverymag.com Related Episodes: The Power of Beautiful Words Teaching Our Daughters to Live Wholeheartedly  Raising Boys Part 1 Raising Boys Part 2 Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallen This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the Podcast App  Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND
36:58
January 18, 2021
Using Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect With Your Child (based on Playful Parenting by Lawrence J. Cohen)
This week we explore the ideas of Lawrence Cohen. We often think of play as a secondary, optional activity. For kids, exploring the world through play is part of their healthy development. We dive deep into the science of play and discuss how to harness it for powerful connection. Books that inspired us: Playful Parenting // Lawrence Cohen Raising Lions // Joe Newman Related Episodes: Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the most EFFECTIVE Parenting Style  Make Your Morning Routine Happen! Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour Discovering YOUR Life Essentials Links We Promised: Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallen This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app, Scroll to the the bottom of the page, rate and review, and push send:)
01:18:01
January 11, 2021
Approaching the New Year Without Overwhelm
There are so many jokes about New Year’s Resolutions. We have all seen how full gyms get for the first two weeks of January, only to empty again after that. So many of us choose goals and have big plans to revamp our lives on January first, only to make no lasting changes.  In this episode, we share our personal approach to the new year, and how we look at it from a place without overwhelm. We use January as a time of self reflection, and save our accomplishment goal setting for spring time, when the whole world is waking up:). We give you lots of easy tips to make the beginning of your year inspiring and introspective without being overwhelming. Books that inspired us: Atomic Habits // James Clear The Miracle Morning // Hal Elrod Related Episodes: Staying Open to the Present  Make Your Morning Routine Happen! Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour Discovering YOUR Life Essentials Links We Promised: Rachel Hollis episode: This Daily Practice Changed My Life and Business My Intent Bracelet Maker Kit: Taralyn uses this with her kids to let them make jewelry with the words they choose for the year. Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Our Sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.
38:51
January 4, 2021
Breaking Out of Generational Molds with Tessa Marinello-Wells
Most of us want to be respectful, gentle, loving parents. However, many parents are held back by the way they were raised. It can be difficult to break the mold of generations before you. In this episode, we talk about how to do just that—how to take unhealthy parenting habits we experienced as children and rewriting the script for our own parenting style. This includes getting new information, as well as being aware of the molds we have been operating with in order to be free of them. Books that inspired us: Elevating Child Care // Janet Lansbury Gifts of Imperfection // Brene Brown A New Earth // Eckhart Tolle Related Episodes: Staying Open to the Present  Hone Your Morning Routine  Feeling lost?  How to Cultivate Meaning  Links We Promised: Big Little Feelings instagram  You can find more about Tessa and her wonderful shop, Argilla by Lucia on Etsy and Instagram  Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallen Our Sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money than if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. Check them out @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.
49:23
December 28, 2020
Using Intuition to Guide New Year Preparation
There are many voices competing for our attention. People we know, books we read, the news we listen to all are voices that fill our heads as we navigate what to do with our lives. In this episode, we explore how to create space in our lives for listening to our own intuition first, and how that serves us. We all have access to this incredible tool, and it is an eye opening experience to learn how to really tap into the power of intuition. We offer tips on how to cultivate and trust the intuitive process. Books we mentioned: Conversations with God // Neale Donald Walsh You Can Heal Your Life //  Louise hay Becoming Mrs. Lewis // Patti Callahan The Artist’s Way  // Julia Cameron Happiness Project // Gretchin Rubin Left to Tell // Immaculee Ilibagiza Related Episodes: Staying Open to the Present  Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us Our Daily Meditation  Hone Your Morning Routine  Feeling lost?  How to Cultivate Meaning  Links We Promised: Felica’s favorite kid shoes Baby Moccasins The podcast episode with Joe Rogan and Matthew McConaughey Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.
01:03:46
December 21, 2020
Susan Stiffelman on Remaining Present While Parenting
Children have the capacity to be our greatest teachers. They allow us the opportunity to truly look inside of ourselves when we are triggered, and wake up to our own nature.  In this episode, Felica had the incredible opportunity of discussing this topic with parenting expert and author, Susan Stiffelman, MFT. She explains how we can use the practice of being present to truly use this journey we have as parents to truly evolve ourselves as we face the daunting task of raising humans to do the same. Her books and her words are unbelievably inspiring and will help you as you navigate your own parenting experience. You can learn more about Susan Stiffelman and her work and sign up for her newsletter on her website:  https://susanstiffelman.com. She is offering a webinar you can join her in about coparenting with a narcissicist here. Books we mentioned: Parenting with Presence // Susan Stiffelman Parenting without Power Struggles // Susan Stiffelman Loving What Is // Byron Katie Playful Parenting // Lawrence Cohen Related Episodes: Finding Joy and Enthusiasm in Every Day The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting Staying Open to the Present  Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us Janet Lansbury’s episode: The Best Way to Deal With Intense Tantrums  Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallen This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.
43:11
December 14, 2020
Feeling Lost? HOW TO Cultivate Meaning in Our Lives
“What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for some goal worthy of him. What he needs is not the discharge of tension at any cost, but the call of a potential meaning waiting to be fulfilled by him.” Victor Frankl We all want to feel like our life has meaning. It is a deep human need that creates a void when our life feels like it lacks purpose. This desire for meaning crosses through every life station, regardless of economic status, life condition, or level of adversity. Whether you spend your days caring for children, struggling to stay alive from health issues, or have a bustlin EVERYONE wants meaning. In this episode, we explore how to intentionally cultivate meaning in our life. We dive into Dr. Victor Frankl’s advice of finding meaning through deets, experience, and even suffering itself. You can listen on iTunes here or many other platforms here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-dinner-meaningful-uncomplicated-claire-tansey/id1448424341?i=1000500833088 Related Episodes: When You Feel Like You’re Failing Finding Joy and Enthusiasm in Every Day The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting Finding Compassion in the Current Chaos Staying Open to the Present  Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallen This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Simply search Find the Magic Podcast on iTunes, scroll to the bottom of the page, rate and review us, and push send:)
43:17
December 7, 2020
Making Dinner Meaningful and Uncomplicated with Claire Tansey
We all have to eat to survive--it’s part of life. Often, the task of feeding an entire family every single day is overwhelming. The sheer recurring quantity of the task can be daunting to the most ambitious of us, and yet, the task remains. How can we as parents create a dinner table that is both fulfilling for our families and doesn’t drain the life out of us as parents? There is so much fascinating research out there about how eating family dinner together helps predict positive outcomes in children’s lives. We all know it’s something to strive for, yet we are often met with roadblocks to accomplishing such a task. Fortunately, in this episode, dinner expert and author Claire Tansey walks us through each roadblock to successful family dinners and gives amazing tips and strategies for overcoming them. She shares incredibly practical advice about how to meal plan in a way that actually works for you, and gives lots of helpful information about how to make dinner preparation and the eating of food satisfying and enjoyable for everyone involved. Related Episodes: HOW TO Eat with Intuition Cultivating Joyful Eating Habits / Deep Dive into Feeding our Kids French Kids Eat Everything (and so can YOURS!) You can find Claire’s books below: Dinner, Uncomplicated: Fixing a Delicious Meal Every Night of the Week // Claire Tansey Uncomplicated: Taking the Stress out of Home Cooking You can also connect with Claire on Instagram @tanseyclaire and on her website Clairetansey.com Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallen This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for your kind reviews! Just search Find the Magic on iTunes and scroll to the bottom of the page to leave one:) 
56:36
November 30, 2020
Teaching Our Daughters to Live Wholeheartedly
Raising children in today’s society has lots of opportunities and challenges. In this episode, we explore the ones that are specific to raising girls. This is an exciting time to be a woman, and there are many things we can do as parents to help our girls truly embrace the gifts this time in history offers us while rejecting the limiting messages that are simultaneously given to girls. We address topics like body image, power, and joy. We all have such an incredible opportunity for influence for the girls in our lives, and the ideas we delve into this episode will hopefully spark a dialogue for you. We can all do better. Related Episodes: Living Life Untamed and Releasing Others to do the Same  Seeing Ourselves Clearly in the Role of Mother Parenting Boys Part 1 Parenting Boys Part 2 Books that inspired us: Untamed // Glennon Doyle Loving What Is // Byron Katie Intuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Program That Works // Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch Love Warrior: A Memoir // Glennon Doyle For the recipes we mentioned for banana pudding and acorn squash, visit our website, findthemagic.co, episode 101 Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallen This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews on iTunes:)! You can leave a review here:)
56:22
November 23, 2020
Living Life Untamed and Releasing Others to do the Same (Untamed by Glennon Doyle)
“Feelings are for feeling. All of them. Even the hard ones.” Glennon Doyle This is our 100th episode! In this landmark episode, we explore what it means to step into our own power. There are lots of things we are told as we grow throughout childhood and into adulthood. Many of those things are wonderful and they serve us in creating a life that is true and beautiful. However, there are also things that we learn that simply don’t serve us. One of the joyful realities of adulthood is that we actually have the power to identify what we have learned and CHOOSE which things are true and beautiful, and which are not for us. We discuss the work of Glennon Doyle in her new book, Untamed, and discuss the deep topics that she brings up. She challenges the way we look at ourselves, and truly helps us see what dialogues we are having with ourselves because of society’s pressures, and walks us through how to authentically connect with who we truly are. We cover topics like how we cannot selectively numb our feelings; to lean into one, you must learn to lean into them all. Related Episodes: How to Own Your Own Desires and The Art of Intimacy with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife Books that inspired us: Untamed // Glennon Doyle Intuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Program That Works // Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch Love Warrior: A Memoir // Glennon Doyle Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallen This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com. Thank you for the kind reviews! Click here and scroll to the bottom of the page to leave a review: Find the Magic in the podcast app
48:10
November 16, 2020
How to Own Your Desires & the Art of Intimacy with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Physical intimacy is an important aspect of our lives, and yet it is also an area that for many people, can be a space that is complicated, difficult, and even emotionally or physically unpleasant. In this episode, we have a conversation with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a relationship and sexuality educator and coach, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, with a Ph.D in Counseling Psychology. In this conversation, we discussed this important topic and specifically address how you as a woman can own your own desire in a positive and empowering way. We address how developing yourself as a whole person, making room for yourself, and belonging to your own desires instead of only belonging to others and sacrificing yourself for their desires and needs are all key components to owning your own sexuality (and your own life). Intimacy takes courage. It means you are willing to be knowable--even the flaws and the scary parts. Sexuality is just a part of intimacy, and Dr. Finlayson-Fife beautifully addresses how we can bring our full selves unapologetically to our partners, and as we learn to do that, we can learn to fully bring ourselves unapologetically to the world. We can show up as a whole, flawed and glorious person in our own lives. As we acknowledge and validate our own desires, we are able to own them. Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s words are both empowering and inspiring. You can learn more about Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and her course offerings at her website, https://www.finlayson-fife.com Related Episodes: Putting Connection With Our Spouse First Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallen This episode’s sponsor: Utah House Doctors: Everyone knows that the market is hot right now and it is the perfect time to sell your home, but what you may not know is using a professional in this type of market will actually make you more money then if you try and sell your home yourself, or sell with a discount brokerage. We have experienced the service of Utah House Doctors, and they make buying and selling homes so easy and painless. You can find them at Instagram at @utahhousedoctors or on their website, http://www.utahhousedoctors.com.
35:43
November 9, 2020
Prepping Kids for New Babies, Earning vs. Rewarding, Quiet Time Tips, & Our Favorite Life Hacks
So many of the life hacks that we use in our lives every day to make it easier came from other people sharing them. In this episode, we answer several listener questions, including our very favorite life hacks that are saving us right now, from laundry and cleaning life savers to hair and easy morning breakfast tricks. We also address issues about helping toddlers adapt to quiet time (one of our most frequent questions asked), preparing your older children to welcome a new baby into the family, and we discuss the important difference between systems of earning and rewards, bribes and punishments. Books we mentioned: Entitlement Trap // Richard and Linda Eyre Fairplay // Eve Rodsky Links we promised: Taralyn’s hair curlers that she and Katelin sleep in. She now likes the first link best started with these ones, which are fabulous as well. Felica’s black socks she uses for her boys. Taralyn uses the KB no show socks (she and her 4 kids wear all just wear the same size for simplicity. You can buy a big pack from costco or a smaller pack from Amazon). For the overnight breakfast recipes Taralyn, go to our website, findthemagic.co, episode 98. Related Episodes: Running a Household Without Resentment Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections  Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast, @katiejeangabriel, @taralyngriffin, and @felicaallen How to leave a review on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND
50:31
November 2, 2020
Seeing Ourselves Clearly in the Role of Mother
Society has often put the role of motherhood either on a pedestal or in a cage, and both are small spaces from which to thrive. Few roles combine such responsibility and power with such possibility for shame and unhelpful pressure. Because of this, the topic of seeing our own role as mother clearly and with curiosity is an important one. Something that every single one of us have in common is the fact that we have a mother. Some of us know our mothers, while some of us have never met her. Our relationship with our mother might be simple, joyful, complicated, toxic, or countless adjectives in between. Every situation is different, and regardless of what that relationship looks like, we can find wisdom as we address that relationship. In this episode, we discuss the fascinating work of Harriet Lerner and explore how it is possible to learn from the things our own mothers did or didn’t do with a combination of both clarity and grace. According to Lerner, addressing that relationship in our own mind and heart is something that is helpful to us as we approach our life and our own parenting. As we gain clarity with this relationship, we are able to see ourselves more clearly and truly learn to find the magic that we can access in this powerful role. Books we mentioned: Harriet Lerner on Mothers and Daughters: Breaking the Patterns that Keep You Stuck // Harriet Lerner https://amzn.to/2HzsGPI Related Episodes: Guidance for the Changing Seasons of Motherhood https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/find-the-magic/id1448424341?i=1000466525358 The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/find-the-magic/id1448424341?i=1000471366626 Keeping Our Personal Identity While Parenting https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/find-the-magic/id1448424341?i=100045781826 Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. You can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast This episode’s sponsors: Shine Cosmetics:  for amazing products with an inspiring message, go to https://shinecosmetics.com and use code findthemagic at checkout for a discount Blublox: For the products to help your light Hygiene to improve your health and sleep, go blublox.com and use the code findthemagic at checkout for a discount Parasol Diaper Subscription: for eco friendly, healthy, convenient diaper products for the kids, go to https://www.parasolco.com and enter findthemagic at checkout for a discount Don't forget to sign up for our email HERE for recipes, book and podcast recommendations and more!  
48:21
October 26, 2020
Creating Roots Through Family Traditions (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre)
The holiday season can feel overwhelming because we feel the need to do everything to make them exciting and special. However, the beauty of having our own families is that we can intentionally choose the holiday activities that serve us and let go of the ones that don’t. The magic of family traditions is that they help our children feel a sense of belonging and gives them roots, which helps them identify with the connection of the family instead of peer groups and can help with their behavior. In this episode, we share the traditions that serve us with simplicity and joy and give you many options to try with your own family. We talk about how sometimes all it takes is to recognize the traditions we already have and capitalize on naming them and making them reoccurring and special. From Halloween fun, ways to be grateful in November and loads of Christmas and winter traditions we hope that this episode inspires you to create new memories with your family and recognize your current traditions to turn them into magical ones that repeat every year! Books we mentioned: Hold on to Your Kids // Gabor Mate The Entitlement Trap // Linda and Richard Eyre Food Nanny Rescues Dinner //  Liz Edmunds The recipes we talked about are on our our website under Episode 96: www.findthemagic.co  Related Episodes: Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections Here is a list of ALL our favorite books, we use Audible as our library. They have a thorough collection of books, monthly credits and discounts on books so good it can’t be beat! We use a monthly subscription, you can learn more about it and start a FREE month trial HERE. p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast How to leave a review on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND
46:39
October 19, 2020
How Light Affects Our Sleep, Fertility, Our Child’s Behavior, and More with Andy Mant
A good night’s sleep is an elusive goal we simply dream about but rarely attain. We all know the benefits of quality sleep for us and our children, but we find ourselves at a loss for how to improve it. In this episode, we have a fascinating conversation with Andy Mant, founder of Blublox glasses. He shares loads of helpful research regarding how the light we expose ourselves to throughout the day and especially in the hours after the sun goes down impacts our sleep quality and overall health, including our brain focus power and maintaining a healthy weight. With only a few simple changes in our habits surrounding light, we can quickly reset our circadian rhythms to a healthy pattern. He addresses how this light hygiene affects babies’ sleep cycles, children’s learning and behaviour, and even fertility. He gives an entire spectrum of ideas to help you circadian rhythm, from the simplicity of watching the sunrise, to the options for changing the EMF and light environment in your home. To read more articles on this subject, or to  try their amazing products, go to blublox.com and use the code findthemagic at checkout and enjoy 15% off your purchase! You can also get more information on their youtube channel as well. Also, check out Restoring Vision, an amazing charity organization that blublox is currently partnering with to donate glasses to people in need. Related Episodes: Habits for High Performance  Habits Deep Dive / Why Simple Changes Compound Into Big Results Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:) Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books) https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) For more information on Dr Mary Wildes course go here- https://compassionparenting.com How to leave a review on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND This episode's sponsors:  Shine Cosmetics:  go to https://shinecosmetics.com and use code findthemagic at checkout for discount Blublox: For the products we talked about on this episode, go blublox.com and use the code findthemagic at checkout for discount
01:22:21
October 12, 2020
Habits Deep Dive / Why Simple Changes Compound into Big Results (Atomic Habits by James Clear)
It can appear like people who are successful at achieving their goals simply possess an incredible amount of self control. That kind of belief lets us off the hook from creating the life we really want--we simply lack the self discipline, right? Well, it turns out that as we create habits that add value to our lives, we actually require LESS self control, not more. As we change our environment and our cues and rewards, we have the power to eliminate negative habits and build positive ones that can transform our life. Habits are the key to making our goals a reality. We discuss the science behind habits and explore the work of experts on the subject. We break down the steps for creating a good habit (or ridding yourself of a bad one), and give you applicable tips that you can use right away in your life. We share what has really worked in our own lives as we have experimented with habits and unlocked the magic of things like habit stacking.  Books that inspired us: Atomic Habits // James Clear Deep Work // Cal Newport Essentialism // Greg McKeown Getting Things Done // David Allen The Power of Habit // Charles Duhigg Our Related Episodes: Habits for High Performance  Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connection Make Your Morning Routine Happen! We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored to have such wonderful listeners. How to leave a review on iTunes: * Open podcast app * Search for Find the Magic * Click on episodes * Scroll to the bottom of the page * Click on write a review * Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) * Hit SEND Thank you! Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:) Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books) https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) This week's sponsors Amazing makeup removing clothes, brow pencil and more of our favorite Shine Cosmetics favorites HERE - https://www.shinecosmetics.com/?afmc=FINDTHEMAGIC
01:05:45
October 5, 2020
Growing Up Alongside Our Kids with Upbringing
Our child’s resistance to cooperate or push back against our wishes can be alarming. However, it is possible to actually welcome the resistance instead of desperately trying to control it. In this episode, we collaborate with Hannah and Kelty, cohosts of the parenting podcast Upbringing and explore the concept of resistance and how we as parents can respectfully and emphatically create and hold boundaries while still honoring our childrens resistance. Hannah and Kelty are certified coaches in Simplicity Parenting, Positive Discipline and trained in the respectful parenting approach, RIE. They have an abundance of parenting knowledge and they share with us their wonderful parenting tips which include their Freedom Model, and the RESIST technique to help you know exactly what to do as you come up against your childrens’ resistance. We talk about leaning into our child’s resistance as we work to recognize our triggers and grow up beside them! You can find more about Upbringing on their website, Upbringing.co, where you can find their shop, their podcast, and their helpful models. You can also find them on instagram:) Books that inspired us: Nonviolent Communication // Marshall Rosenberg Elevated Childcare // Janet Lansbury Our Related Episodes: Parenting with Unconditional Love  How to Embrace Childhood  Putting Connection First  Guidance for the Changing Seasons of Motherhood Holding Boundaries / Discipline Pt. 1 We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored to have such wonderful listeners. How to leave a review on iTunes: * Open podcast app * Search for Find the Magic * Click on episodes * Scroll to the bottom of the page * Click on write a review * Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) * Hit SEND Thank you! Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:) Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books) https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) For more information on Dr Mary Wildes course go here- https://compassionparenting.com
01:14:35
September 28, 2020
Let Your Phone Be a Tool Not Your Master: Screen Detox Tips and Boundaries for Real Life
We can all use a little less screen time in our lives and the lives of our kids. Sometimes it can feel overwhelming to know exactly where to start when attempting to set boundaries and help our families become less dependent on entertaining technology to get us through the day. After a particularly inspiring conversation with Collin Kartcher a few weeks ago (see link below to listen), we have, in this episode, taken the conversation even deeper and walk through how to apply the principles in real life. We discuss how screen boundaries have worked in our own homes with hacks and tips that we have found to be immensely helpful in keeping technology in the place of a useful tool instead of the master it has become in so many of our lives. We address not only how to find freedom from technology, but how to also foster the antidote to this dependence: connection with real humans, in real life. Want to motivate yourself a bit more? Try plugging in your own daily screen time into the following equation. Pull out your phone, check your daily screen time (or, look at your daily social media time, or gaming time--whatever you feel like is just kind of fluff screen time). Then plug in that number of hours into this equation: Daily Screen time X 365 (days in the year) X 50 (years) divided by 5,840 (awake hours a year, if you sleep 8 yours a night) = the amount of years of your life you will spend looking at your phone if you do the same amount for 50. (For people who average 5 hours per day, it is around 15 years total!) Motivation? Found. Your welcome:) Books and links that we mentioned: Digital Minimalism // Cal Newport Atomic Habits // James Clear Gabb Phone Tick Talk Watch Our Related Episodes: Saving Our Kids and Ourselves from Screens & Social Media with Collin Kartchner  Finding Solitude Through Digital Minimalism Curbing Your Screen Attachment Tantrums, Screen Time, and Breaking Out of a Funk We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored to have such wonderful listeners. How to leave a review on iTunes: * Open podcast app * Search for Find the Magic * Click on episodes * Scroll to the bottom of the page * Click on write a review * Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) * Hit SEND Thank you! Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:) Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books) https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) For more information on Dr Mary Wildes course go here- https://compassionparenting.com
01:09:28
September 21, 2020
How Meditation Can Save Your Life With Brooke Snow
Small daily practices often compound into large scale change in our lives. As parents we tell ourselves we "don't have time". Our conversation with Brooke Snow today will challenge that belief. Of all the life changing habits in the world, meditation is right at the top of the list for us at Find the Magic. In this episode, we have an inspiring conversation with author, meditation instructor and advocate Brooke Snow. We also discuss how meditation can help improve all aspects of your life, from your ability to parent with patience, to your ability to handle what life throws at you. Brooke initially discovered the life-saving power of meditation unintentionally while struggling to breathe with blood clots in her lungs in a life-flight helicopter. It wasn’t until later, while living with the PTSD (that can accompany near death experiences) and simultaneously raising her young children, that she truly began to understand what meditation could do. Brooke gives us some wonderful tips on how to incorporate visualization into our practice, as well as how to use the floors and ceilings technique to truly dial in meditation as an easy non-negotiable habit.  Find more about Brooke at: Her book // Living in Your True Identity Brooke Snow Podcast  Brookesnow.com  @iambrookesnow Our Related Episodes: Our Daily Meditation: this is the meditation that Taralyn does every morning. You simply push play and she walks you through it. It’s an easy way to get yourself into the habit. Make Your Morning Routine Happen! Morning Routines for a 30 Day Transformation with Taralyn Hone Your Morning Routine with Felica More Resources: Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:) Our Website: https://www.findthemagic.co  (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books) Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored have such wonderful listeners. How to leave a review on iTunes: * Open podcast app * Search for Find the Magic * Click on episodes * Scroll to the bottom of the page * Click on write a review * Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) * Hit SEND Thank you!
58:08
September 14, 2020
Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre)
Have you ever driven in a city that isn’t well planned? The roads are often too narrow for the amount of traffic, and the flow of streets seem to have no discernible pattern. Navigating in such a place can be tricky and chaotic. In contrast, a city that has planned  ahead of time what they want long term often has wide, orderly streets, and the initial time and thought investment pays back tenfold as their city runs much smoother as it grows. In this episode, we talk about using this theory of infrastructure in our own families. It takes some time upfront, but in the long run, it makes our family run sooo much more smoothly and makes parenting easier, while intentionally aligning it with our values. We discuss the systems that we have tried out in our own homes over the years that have proven themselves to be priceless. Books we mentioned: The Entitlement Trap Secrets of a Happy Family Hold on to Your Kids Miracle Morning Links We Promised Serendipity Parenting Episode from Linda an Richard Eyre Related Episodes  Discovering Your Life Essentials  How To: Create Pockets of Peace We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored have such wonderful listeners. How to leave a review on iTunes: * Open podcast app * Search for Find the Magic * Click on episodes * Scroll to the bottom of the page * Click on write a review * Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) * Hit SEND We LOVE reading your words and your kindness often brings us to tears! Thank you! Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:) Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books) https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram @findthemagicpodcast : https://www.instagram.com/findthemagicpodcast p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) For more information on Dr Mary Wildes course go here- https://compassionparenting.com
01:14:32
September 7, 2020
Saving Our Kids & Ourselves from Screens & Social Media with Collin Kartchner
Collin Kartchner is a social activist and champion of giving childhood back to our children. The research is coming in fast about the giant social experiment of putting the pocket-sized computers into the hands of young children and teens, and the results are…alarming, to say the least. Collin helps us to understand the direness of the situation concerning kids and their internet consumption, specifically social media and online gaming. These platforms are designed specifically to give our minds dopamine hits providing the false sense of connection that kids are craving. This can create a vacuum in their minds that may lead to depression and lack of connection to people around them. Although this information at first paints a bleak picture for childhood, we discuss the beautiful antidote that is at all of our fingertips: connection. REAL connection with actual humans in our lives.  Collin offers concrete advice about trying out a family screen detox, and gives us lots of inspiring suggestions on how to increase the connection in our own home with the people we love. He will truly inspire you to make a difference in your child’s life (and model freedom from screen dependence yourself!  Books We Mentioned Glow Kids: How Screen Addiction is Hijacking our Kids—and How to Break the Trance // Nicholas Kardaras Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids // Kristen A. Jensen Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds // Kristen A. Jensen Digital Minimalism // Cal Newport Collin uses a Gabb phone with his kids. Here is their website. Related Episodes  Curbing Your Screen Attachment Finding Solitude Through Digital Minimalism   We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored have such wonderful listeners. How to leave a review on iTunes: Open podcast app Search for Find the Magic Click on episodes Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND We LOVE reading your words and your kindness often brings us to tears! Thank you! Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:) Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books) https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/findthemagicpodcast p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) The amazing parenting program by Dr Mary Wilde (Listen to her episode with us here) can be found here - https://compassionparenting.com/membership To learn more about Dr. Mary Wilde: https://drmarywilde.com
01:12:52
August 31, 2020
The Art of Acceptance, Self Discovery, and Homeschooling with Erin Loechner
In her book, Chasing Slow, Erin Loechner describes how sometimes, in our search for more, we add things to our lives. We buy more things, add more tasks, take on more. However, often, what we need is actually less. In this episode, she shares with us her insights on living with the lion inside of us, the one who always is whispering to us that we must do more, have more, BE more. What do we do with this voice when we are different phases of life? Some phases require more stillness, and others have space for more goal reaching, and there is beauty in all of these phases. This embracing of each phase of life that Erin embodies led her to search for and then create, along with child development professionals and educators, a beautiful homeschool curriculum called Other Goose. It is built on these three pillars of education: connection through nature, community through stories, creativity through play. It offers flexibility to parents of younger children and is a wonderful resource for any of you out there who are considering homeschooling this year. Erin Loechner has been an online educator, homeschool advocate, and author for over 10 years.  Her all-in-one homeschooling plan for the early years, Other Goose, has been used by over 25,000 students worldwide, and includes daily literature, creativity, foundations, outdoors, relationships, language, math, rhythms, logic, and habit lessons for kids ages 2-7. To find out more about Other Goose and take the assessment go here. Chasing Slow is her fabulous book and you can find it here. Other Goose on Instagram: instagram.com/othergoose Erin on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/erinloechner/ Her blog is https://designformankind.com/ Related Episodes Episode 44: Making Education Awesome Episode 85 Homeschooling and Trusting Your Ability to Teach with Jen Lumanlan  We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored have such wonderful listeners. How to leave a review on iTunes: Open podcast app Search for Find the Magic Click on episodes Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND We LOVE reading your words and your kindness often brings us to tears! Thank you! Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:) Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books) https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/findthemagicpodcast p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
48:52
August 24, 2020
Why Your Desires Matter and How to Define Them with Heather Chauvin
Sometimes, it takes facing death to really help us realize what we truly want out of living. In this episode, author and entrepreneur Heather Chauvin shares her story of how her experience with stage 4 cancer did just that. We found our conversation with her to be truly liberating in so many ways. Heather debunks the unconscious belief that so many parents have that exhaustion is simply a defining aspect of parenthood. What??? Doesn’t that just give you energy, knowing that you don’t HAVE to be drained all the time? She challenges us to look at our own life, really tap into what we truly desire, and then go after that feeling. She gives step by step instructions on how to create the life we want, NOT by doing it all, but by distilling down to doing the things that matter. You can find our more about Heather at her website, http://heatherchauvin.com/media, and watch her inspiring Ted Talk here:) Books we mention: The Desire Map // Danielle Laporte Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:) Our Website: (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/findthemagicpodcast p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
52:05
August 17, 2020
HOW TO Parent Less and Love it More
We are so excited to dive into wholehearted and respectful parenting and what it means with Minimalist Moms Host Diane Boden. This discussion will help you get to the heart of a wholehearted parenting approach by simplifying what you DO to get to the relationship you hope to have with your kid. We discuss how to both acknowledge parental emotions and needs and your child's emotions/needs and meet in the middle in a peaceful place. This episode is a combination of two separate conversations we had with Diane. In these discussions, we give a breakdown of our favorite tips on discipline as well and how to create an environment of teaching over punishment and reward. We touch on creating rhythms and routines, setting calm boundaries and responding to sibling conflicts. In true minimal fashion we also discuss how to PARENT and talk less and get more results. If you enjoyed today’s episode we would love for you to share it with your friends and leave a review! Spreading the word helps more parents find us and helps us grow so we can bring you amazing guests and topics! Books we mentioned: Simplicity Parenting // Kim John Payne Calmer, Easier, Happier Boys // Noel Janis-Norton Elevating Childcare // Janet Lansbury Raising Lions // Joe Newman Here is a list of ALL our favorite books! Enjoy:) To find out more about Diane or listen to her podcast find her here - https://www.minimalistmomspodcast.com/ Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/findthemagicpodcast p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) Our podcast logo was designed by https://instagram.com/mrstaylordoyle?igshid=wxljtnhf9r1b
57:41
August 10, 2020
Homeschooling and Trusting Your Ability to Teach with Jen Lumanlan
So many of us are facing a big decision this Fall, will we be teaching our kids at home? Or maybe we have no choice at all. So many of us are being thrown into the role as teacher and parent. This week Felica is interviewing Jen Lumanlan of Your Parenting Mojo. Jen Lumanlan holds an M.S. in Psychology (Child Development) and an M.Ed., and hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast which is a reference guide for parents of toddlers and preschoolers based on scientific researchers and the principles of respectful parenting.  In each episode she examines a topic related to parenting and child development from all sides to help parents understand how to make decisions about raising their children.  She lives in California with her husband and daughter. Jen brings us wisdom backed with immense research (her specialty!) on why we should trust our ability to teach, our child’s ability to learn (and lead their own education through their own interests!) and the process of homeschooling. We touch on why we can let go of the perfect curriculum, standardized tests, and we discuss the value of play in education, socialization and explore the concept of pandemic pods. We hope that this wide ranging conversation helps any of you choosing (or maybe without the choice) about your child’s education this Fall feel more confident. If you would like to learn more about Jen you can find her on her website https://yourparentingmojo.com/ If you would like to learn more about Jen you can find her here. You can listen to her podcast here. Here is her blog post on socialization in schools and her blog post on schemas is here, and she has some wonderful information on the Pandemic Pods 'in a box' course here. You can find  is Jen’s course to help you decide if you’re ready to homeschool here. Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): Find us on Instagram @findthemagicpodcast p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
47:53
August 3, 2020
How GOOD Apologies Change Every Relationship (Even the one with ourselves) - based on work by Harriet Lerner
We ALL make mistakes. Every single one of us. Sometimes, even with the best of intentions, we hurt people. Although many of us are over apologizers for unnecessary things, we often become non-apologizers when it comes time to truly say we are sorry. We buffer it with defensiveness or ego, and our attempts at apologies fall flat. Our relationships suffer when this happens. In this episode, we address how over apologizing is unhelpful and give tips on how to avoid it, and then we delve deep into what makes a true apology, and how to get out of the way of our ego enough to truly make amends in our relationships. This topic is so beautiful because it really gives us space in our relationships to admit when we do wrong, listen without defensiveness, and truly heal. Articles and authors that inspired us: Harriet Lerner // Why Won’t You Apologize Maja Jovanovic // Sorry to bother you, but do you say “sorry” too much? What to say instead. Interview with Harriet Lerner on Elle Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ Katelin: https://instagram.com/katiejeangabriel?igshid=10enisvpit8u p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
37:30
July 27, 2020
Finding Wisdom in Chaos
In this special episode, we welcome a new host onto our show! Katelin is Taralyn’s sister and Felica’s sister-in-law, and we are so excited for you all to get to know her better. For many of us, this is a time when our current reality does not match our expectation of it. Even without a pandemic, sometimes our career, our relationships, or our health doesn’t line up with what we think it should be. In this episode, we talk about the wisdom from authors that we are personally leaning on during this time, and which books are really helping us the most. We have found comfort in the wisdom that has transcended time from the philosophers of the past such as Socrates and Plato, and modern thought leaders such as Ryan Holiday and Eckhart Tolle. As we talk about these different philosophies, we explore the idea that when we feel like we are losing ourselves because the outer circumstances that we have learned to define ourselves with change or disappear all together, it is actually an opportunity to truly find ourselves. We are more than our circumstances; we are not our thoughts. It is a quite liberating realization! Books or authors we mentioned: Stillness is Key // Ryan Holiday The Obstacle is the Way // Ryan Holiday A New Earth // Eckhart Tolle Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ Katelin: https://instagram.com/katiejeangabriel p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
51:33
July 20, 2020
Coaching Yourself Through Any Problem with Robin Davis
What do you do when you find in a circumstance that you don’t like? Do your thoughts make your situation feel better or worse? The concept that I have control over my thoughts and feelings, and therefore my actions and results was a mind blowing philosophy when I was first introduced to it years ago, and I have found this philosophy help me in so many situations since. This week, I had the chance to interview Robin Davis, a Certified Life Coach from The Life Coach School. I have LOVED using the model they teach there for years, and have used it in self coaching with a lot of success. In this episode, Robin breaks down the model to apply to any situation in your life, and then takes the time to coach me with a personal dilemma I have been having. Happy listening! Love, Taralyn More Info: If you’d like to have a free coaching session with Robin, call or text her at 801.529.5885 Robin is certified through the Life Coach School, founded by Brooke Castillo. Here is the website for that organization. Books or authors we mentioned: Loving What Is // Byron Katie Law of Attraction // Esther and Jerry Hicks Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself // Joe Dispenza Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
01:15:30
July 13, 2020
The Power Of Beautiful Words
Hey everyone! It’s Taralyn today. It’s no secret that I LOVE words. I love talking; I love writing; I love reading. I feel so much of who I am and how I think is a result of the ideas and philosophies I have read or heard over the years.  Words have the power to change the world! I have found that memorizing beautiful words from the masters who have come before me to be a powerful way to have those ideas at my fingertips when the need arises. I have also been pleasantly surprised at how fun it has been to introduce my kids to poetry and great literature and how easy it is to have them memorize these words. In this episode, I talk about different categories of words that my kids and I memorize: historical documents, poetry, inspiring leader quotes, and scripture. I explain the benefits of such a practice, and give you lots of easy tips and tricks to have you easily incorporate some literature love into your parenting. Links: My favorite quote book: Great Quotes from Great Leaders // compiled by Peggy Anderson Rainer Rilke William Blake William Wordsworth Norton Poetry Anthology ( more of an investment, but has great info) Karl, Get Out of the Garden!: Carolus Linnaeus and the Naming of Everything // Anita Sanchez Great kids’ literature lists: https://goodandbeautifulbooklist.com and  http://litkidz.com Historical documents: archives.gov Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
31:11
July 6, 2020
Finding Yourself After Giving Birth
Hey! It's Felica! I am solo this episode to share Wes' birth story! I am also sharing some of my favorite tips for regaining a feeling of peace, finding your why and some concrete systems you can implement in your home after you have a new baby. Hopefully this episode brings you some doable takeaways that you can try (or not!;). In this episode I discuss: My go to breathing techniques as a starting point to regaining. How you can slowly build up your self care routine after having a new baby. My strategy for reintroducing morning time. How to recognize what is truly important to you, say no to other things and strategize with the help you have to prioritize. ROUTINES & rhythms and why they are crucial. How to set and hold boundaries even when you feel like you should give in because of the new addition to your family. The cleaning system I mention - https://cleanmama.com/blog/ Food prep resource (Utah) - https://www.citruspeardinners.com/ My newborn / postpartum essentials list HERE Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/
33:31
June 29, 2020
Four Pillars of Wholehearted Parenting We Apply to Any Problem
With all the change and emotional upheaval of the last few months, it is easy to feel a bit unmoored. In this episode, we take a nice big breath and go back to what we know for sure—our core pillars of wholehearted parenting. Whenever we find ourselves having specific issue with one of our children (or any relationships for that matter!), or we are feeling a bit overwhelmed with any aspect of life, we find ourselves returning back to these four basic pillars over and over, and they have served us well. Our foundational recipe is connection, unconditional love, being present, and setting healthy boundaries. We have found these to be not only crucial and useful, but liberating. We address each one with fresh examples to hopefully give you some tips as you navigate the important situations in your life. Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co ALL the books that inspired us are here:) Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
01:03:04
June 22, 2020
HOW TO Express Your Needs and Solve Problems with Nonviolent Communication
Communication is always an important space, and now more than ever, we are loving the communication philosophy developed by Marshall Rosenberg called Non-Violent Communication (NVC). The ground breaking assumption of NVC is that ALL human beings have the ability to connect with each other and have needs, and that our needs don’t conflict, but it is simply our strategies for meeting those needs that create problems. These conflicting strategies are what lead to violence or causing harm to each other. This is deep, powerful philosophy that can change the way each of us interact. Whether you are talking to your children, your spouse, your neighbor, your boss or those across cultural lines using appropriate and clean communication tactics will open doors and hearts.  The steps to nonviolent communication involve observing, describing emotion, identifying needs, making specific requests, and clarifying understanding. If there ever was a time for this clarification, it is now. We hope you find it helpful in all important relationships in your lives. We recorded this episode before the history-making events of the last week surrounding civil rights here in the United States, so although we don’t apply the principles directly to this subject, we look forward to hearing how you apply the concepts in whatever you are currently facing. The Book That Inspired Us: Nonviolent Communication // Marshall B. Rosenberg // Audio and hardcopy versions Felica’s High Five inspiration: Clean Mama Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ Katelin: https://instagram.com/katiejeangabriel/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
52:17
June 2, 2020
How to Share Poetry With Our Kids, Handle Park Disputes and Be Aware of Our Own Burden of Need
We loved this melting pot of rapid fire questions from all of you! Remember to leave a review with any questions you’d like us to answer. In this episode, we answer a bunch of different questions on a wide variety of topics that apply to many parents out there.  We talk about our own bedtime routines (aside from our children—we need good sleep too!), what to do when your child is having a dispute at the park playground, and teaching a love of poetry to our kids. We also share a bit about creating an affirmations routine with your kids, and we explore the idea of not projecting our own needs onto our children, along with other topics.  Links to things we mentioned: Sign up for our email at findthemagic.co for the poems we referred to:) Taralyn’s favorite sleeping earbuds If you have a newer iPhone, you’ll also need this connector for it them to plug into:) Blue light blocking glasses to wear before bed to improve sleep Taralyn’s Favorite sleep track from itunes: “Slow Wave Sleep Delta Waves” by Kelly Howell Hose bib safety lock to keep toddlers from turning on the water (this one locks the whole thing completely). Felica uses this regulator which isn’t a lock, but prevents her youngest kids from turning on the hose. Here is the link to our episode that includes information on age appropriate chores Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
52:51
May 18, 2020
The “S” Word: Can We Encourage Better Infant Sleep? Interview With Holistic Sleep Specialist Kim Hawley
Sleep. Blessed, sometimes elusive sleep. Sleep is such an important issue that parents of babies and toddlers often find themselves desperate for it, and it is surrounded by so many emotions. We questions ourselves constantly. Are we doing it right? How can we sift through all the information out there? How can we meet both our needs and the needs of our child? In this wide ranging conversation we discuss and tease out ideas on infant sleep that we hope will be eye opening for all of you! In this episode, we bring in a professional to address one approach to sleep. Kim Hawley is a Certified Certified Holistic Sleep Coach, and she has a Master’s of Public Health, Maternal and Child Health, and a Master’s of Arts Cultural Anthropology from George Washington University (along with many other certifications you can find on her website). She shares many tips regarding sleep, and she offers wonderful advice on how to filter through all the information out there. Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj You can find Kim Hawley here: Website: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/  If you  want to sign up for her free intro call: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/getting-started You can sign up for her newsletter at the bottom of most pages on her website Facebook page: https://m.facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc/
01:07:13
May 11, 2020
To Raise Strong Children We Need to Be Strong Parents
For many parents, it can be difficult to respectfully parent while still holding strong boundaries. However, sometimes, as we try to avoid being an authoritarian tyrant, we go too far the other way and become permissive lambs without boundaries and our children are left with too much power, which in turn makes them feel unanchored and insecure. In the last few decades, our society has witnessed an upswing in number of children who are, diagnosed or not, dealing with many behavior difficulties. Joe Newman, author of Raising Lions, has spent his career helping these children. He has found a pattern that has helped countless parents and teachers find that balance between being an authoritarian parent and an overly permissive parent. While his book is geared towards dealing with children with mild to severe behavior problems, we have found his tools to be unbelievably helpful as parents to all children. The book that inspired us: Raising Lions: The Art of Compassionate Discipline // Joe Newman Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
01:04:48
May 4, 2020
Feeling Burned Out? How We Can Use Healthy Treats to Take Care of Ourselves
Does anyone else out there find yourself reaching for an entire box of Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups (insert your kryptonite here) when you are feeling the big feelings that most of us are experiencing on a daily basis? During times of high emotions, boredom, and overwhelm, we have found ourselves grasping for something to hold on to. In this time, we have found that Gretchin Rubin’s strategy of using healthy treats to care for ourselves has been truly a life saver. Most of us love the idea of good habits in our lives. In her book, Better Than Before, Rubin describes a strategy of using healthy treats to care for ourselves, which actually increases our ability of keep good habits in our lives. When we deprive ourselves of things that we look forward to and bring us pleasure, we can end up feeling depleted and burned out. This often leads us to abandon our good habit pursuits and can lead us to un-healthy treats or numbing (which can bring us pleasure momentarily, but often derail our long term goals and habits). Healthy treats are so wonderful because they are things that both make you feel good in the moment, and feel good after you are finished with them. On the other hand, unhealthy treats are enjoyable in the moment you indulge in them, but often make us feel worse later (think eating an entire chocolate cake to escape feeling a negative emotion, skipping your workout to mindlessly scroll YouTube, over drinking, or any addictive behavior that you feel sabotages your wellbeing). In this episode, we discuss how to really use the strategy of healthy treats as a fun way to give more to yourself, which in turn allows you to actually stick with your goals and habits. We give our lists of healthy treats so that hopefully you leave the episode with a long list of your own healthy treats you can lean on throughout the day to help you feel both taken care of and motivated. The book that inspired us: The Happiness Project // Gretchin Rubin Better Than Before // Gretchin Rubin (in this book, she really expands the idea of healthy treats) Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
48:47
April 27, 2020
Simplifying Our Lives through the Beauty of Minimalism. Interview with Diane Boden
There is no way around it, our stuff affects our lives.  Minimalism is a philosophy that invites us to find freedom and simplicity. We all know that minimalism applies to our material things, which is important, and today we discuss how we can apply minimalism to the way we parent. In this episode, we interview Diane Boden, host of the Minimalist Moms Podcast, and a mother of three kids who lives with the goal of thinking more while doing with less. She gives us wonderful tips we can all apply to our lives in a very doable way, and we hope it will leave you inspired to simplify your own life so you can do focus more on what’s truly important to you. You can find Diane on instagram @minimalistmomspodcast, and on her website, http://www.minimalistmomspodcast.com/, where you can find her podcast and other social media platforms. Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
53:45
April 20, 2020
The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting
This is a time of self reflection, a slow down presented to us by COVID-19. It isn’t ideal; however,  ultimately, it has the potential to lead to a new level of self awareness. Finding your true self and acknowledging who you are fully can be scary and can challenge some of the long engrained thought patterns we all have. GUILT if we want more than caring for children at home. LONGING for something outside of our “good life” when we should be content with that good. Do you find yourself offering yourself at the alter of parenting? Were you shown examples of martyrdom that were praised as being a “good mother or father?” Conversations we have heard have inspired us to explore this joust between care of others and care of ourself. How can we find the dance that will inspire our own happiness and acknowledge the happiness that caring for others brings? How can we respect those we love while holding a space of respect for ourselves? We have broken down four concrete steps that help us recognize, layout, and act on the inspiration to do more burning inside us while opening our awareness to our needs and the needs of those around us. The main Conversation that inspired us: Glennon Doyle and Brene Brown on Untamed: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/glennon-doyle-and-bren%C3%A9-on-untamed/id1494350511?i=1000469313957 Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
01:08:31
April 13, 2020
Interview with Dr. Mary Wilde: How to Joyfully Ride the Waves of Parenthood Without Drowning in Them
We are honored this week to have a special guest on the podcast this week, Dr. Mary Wilde. She has amazing tips for all of us about how to meet our children’s needs while still meeting our own and remaining whole. She shares useful analogies that will help us all improve our parenting, and help us find peace as we navigate these unique times with our children. Dr. Wilde is a board-certified pediatrician, author, and mom of eight who has created Imagine Pediatrics Behavioral Health & Wellness to address child behavioral health needs in her area and beyond. She has special training in mind-body medicine to help kids build skills of self-regulation and coping through guided imagery and focused practice. She specializes in helping kids who struggle with anxiety and has created the “Overcoming Childhood Anxiety” online course series for youth and parents. Dr. Wilde utilizes the best of modern medicine, while being open to evidence-based holistic & integrative solutions. She advocates prevention & healthy lifestyle choices and is the creator of the “Whole & Healthy” Virtual Health Fair. (Information from her website: https://drmarywilde.com ) Other helpful links: Article about meeting your kids “at the bottom of the slide” (letting go but still being there): https://redtri.com/meeting-them-at-the-bottom-of-the-slide/ Her online course for kids/teens & parents addressing childhood anxiety from a mind/body/spirit standpoint: https://drmarywilde.com/anxiety-courses Free ebook "Your Road to Calm: Stress Detox for the Modern Family": https://drmarywilde.com/ebook-optin 5-day strength-based ADHD challenge with Dr. Mary Wilde & co-host Dr. Lara Honos-Webb, author of "The Gift of ADHD": https://drmarywilde.com/ADHD-challenge (bonus session on optimizing the home learning environment for kids with ADHD during the pandemic) MANY links and resources for parents during this time of COVID-19 including my favorite websites, articles, blogs addressing the pandemic, resources for free meditations/imagery exercises, and list of ideas on how to safely serve others even during the time of social distancing: go to https://drmarywilde.com Parenting book by Dr. Mary Wilde: Faithful Nurturing: Mothering from the Heart to the Heart https://www.amazon.com/Faithful-Nurturing-Mothering-Heart/dp/1534625186 Connect with her on: FB: https://www.facebook.com/imaginepediatricsstgeorge (FB live with Q&A every Friday at 12:40pm) Instagram: @drmarywilde Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCD9v8BVE0hmyg5SFwxq30PA Our Find the Magic Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
35:25
April 6, 2020
What to Do When Sibling Tension Rises / Deep Dive into Sibling Rivalry
Do any of you have children who seem to turn up the squabbling and fighting when they are in close quarters? With schools being cancelled throughout the world, many families are finding themselves with all their children home under one roof all day, and although that presents us with many opportunities, it also has many parents pulling out their hair as their children seem to take sibling rivalry to new heights. In this episode, we address the questions that many of you have asked about how to navigate the concept of siblings fighting. We give tips on how to successfully implement quiet time (which is a life saver during quarantine time!), and how to help your children use this unique situation as a time to help strengthen their connection with each other and with you instead of reeking havoc on their interpersonal relationships and causing the temporary insanity of their parents. You can do this!  Books that inspired us: Hold On to Your Kids // Gabor Mate and Gordon Neufeld  Siblings Without Rivalry // Adele Fabre and Elaine Mazlish  Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co  Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/  Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/  p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
01:07:14
March 30, 2020
Tips for Parenting Wholeheartedly in Uncertain Times
Amid the current events of the COVID-19 pandemic and other natural disasters, we have had so many listeners reach out about how to cope as parents during this time. In this episode, we discuss the balance of feeling and processing our own emotions authentically, while not overburdening our children with the full force of our fears. This allows them to also feel all of the big feelings that will come up for them during this time as we offer them a safe space to experience them. We also share with you strategies that are helping us in our daily lives as we have adjusted to the new changes that has accompanied school cancellations and social distancing. Whether you are currently fully isolated or distancing from others, this pandemic has created unrest in our homes. We have tips for you on how to manage homeschool and being together 24/7! We can do this together! Thanks for all of your wonderful support; we have a pretty fabulous worldwide community, and we are so grateful for you! Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
37:18
March 23, 2020
Finding Compassion in the Current Chaos
Wow world! As we live this beautiful life alongside the current events of our world (you know, like the pandemic we have happening), we have a really wonderful opportunity to deepen our compassion practice to help make the world, and inside our own hearts, a better place. We discovered the power of a practice called Tonglen from Pema Chödrön’s book, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times, and we have LOVED incorporating it into our lives! It is a practice that helps you process negative emotion (anyone feeling any of those right now?:) in an amazingly loving way. In this episode, we walk you through the practice, and share how we have found it helpful in our own lives. When it is often so challenging to melt together compassion and kindness that we feel personally into the anxiety of every day. It is so powerful, and we hope you love it as much as we did. If you’d like summary of the steps taken from Chödrön’s book to refer back to after listening, here is the link to our website: https://www.findthemagic.co and click on episode 65. Books that inspired us: When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times // Pema Chödrön Gifts of Imperfection // Brené Brown Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ Lastly, here is the link to the Gentri music video that opened Taralyn’s eyes to actually SEEING the need in homeless people without turning away.
42:42
March 16, 2020
When You Feel Like You’re Failing
Sometimes in life, but especially in parenting, we just feel like we don’t measure up—at all. We can end up feeling like we are failing at one of the most important things we have ever done, and it is disheartening, to say the least. This episode is for all you parents out there who, at the end of some days, have worried that you aren’t enough as you wrap yourselves in blankets of worry and overwhelm. In a world full of beautiful and helpful (and also some not so great) advice, with countless books on every subject, it is possible to sometimes have our efforts to become better parents simply feel too hard, too much. In this episode, we use one of our listener’s example of having a toddler not behaving (hitting, in this case) to explore the path that leads to parent shame, and how we can turn away from that path and find inspiration and peace instead. Books that inspired us: Gifts of Imperfect Parenting // Brené Brown Power of Showing Up // Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
43:57
March 9, 2020
Habits for High Performance (based on work by Brendon Buchard)
We all know that habits are a huge part of any amount of success. In his book, High Performance Habits, Brendon Buchard shares what habits he has found to be the highest contributors to success of all kinds in life during his career as a high performance coach and from studying countless high performers. We have adopted several of his habits in our own life, and we have found them to be immensely helpful. In this episode, we give you an overview of Buchard’s game-changing findings, and share with you which of his habits we have found the most beneficial to us. Some of them are so small, you will be able to immediately work them into your life and hopefully see the profound shifts that follow. Books that inspired us: High Performance Habits // BRENDON Buchard Stillness is Key // Ryan Holiday Links to things we mentioned: -High Performance Habits Planner - Podcast on sleep we loved with Dan Harris and Dr. Matthew Walker Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
49:08
March 3, 2020
Guidance for the Changing Seasons of Motherhood
Many of us often hear the well meant advice to “enjoy every single second because it all goes by so fast!” Although there is so much wisdom in this advice, sometimes it makes us feel guilty when we are in moments that seem at best a drudgery and others that are downright miserable. This episode we hear a listener question about what do when our dreams seem to be deferred while we are in certain seasons of life. Parenting young children is a season that seems to be fraught with many of these dilemmas and questions. In this episode, we address these questions and talk about how to incubate and still develop our dreams WHILE we slow down in the caring for young children. Also, we talk about how to feel the moments of pain, allowing them to flow through us so we are also able to fully embrace the moments of rapture and fulfillment that also come. Both sides of this emotional spectrum are part of every season of life, and there is a courageous beauty to staying open to all that life brings. Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
43:35
February 24, 2020
Cultivating Joyful Eating Habits / Deep Dive into Feeding our Kids
Do you approach the dinner table with hesitation, anxiety or perhaps even dread? Food is an integral part of our lives. We feed our kids multiple times a day and yet it is often a source of contention for many families. We hope this episode can alleviate some of the stress surrounding mealtimes. We get into our favorite tips for cultivating a beautiful, joyful relationship with food. From our daily routine to tips and hacks that have helped our kids become willing and happy eaters. We have a listener question that I am sure all of our listeners have experienced with keeping our kids at the table and we breakdown our theory on food introduction to infants! We hope this deep dive can further guide you in what seems like a simple daily task but can weigh on us so heavily! Books we mention: French Kids Eat Everything // Karen Le Billon Intuitive Eating // Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch Here is a link to the baby food website we love to use to introduce our babies to many different flavors: https://babyfoode.com Our favorite recipe is this one: Ingredients 3 medium sweet potatoes 1/2-1 cup canned coconut milk – full fat 1/4 tsp coriander Instructions Heat oven to 400 degree. Line a baking sheet with tin foil or a silicon mat. Prick sweet potatoes several times with a fork and place on baking sheet. Roast in oven for 45-50 minutes or until tender when priceked with a fork. Let cool to touch. When cool, peel away skin and add sweet potato meat to a blender or food processor. Add in 1/2 cup coconut milk and coriander to the blender and puree for 1-2 minutes or until smooth. If puree is too thick, add in additional coconut milk or water in 1/4 cup increments until you have reached your desired consistency. Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
56:38
February 17, 2020
Parenting Boys Part 2
In part two of our discussion about raising boys, we review the four pillars of connection, getting outside, sleep, and nutrition, and we tackle the challenges and opportunities that boys face at school and learning. We also address the research on screen time and boys’ brains, and give you all sorts of tips to make screen time a pleasant activity with boundaries instead of an unlimited source of distraction and dependency. We have such an AMAZING opportunity as parents to really create a community where they can thrive with their own natural strengths, and we can help create a world where boys are taught to have emotional intelligence and access their internal world with confidence and love. Thanks for joining us for this conversation! Books that inspired us: Calmer, Easier, Happier Boys // Noel Janis-Norton Boys Adrift // Leonard Sax Wild Things // Stephen James and David Thomas Link to resources we mentioned: Wim Hof Method: https://www.wimhofmethod.com Tim Ferris’s interview with Wim Hof: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-tim-ferriss-show/id863897795?i=1000351593298 Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
52:10
February 10, 2020
Parenting Boys Part 1
This AMAZING time we live in offers so many opportunities for us and for our children. However, it also presents many unique challenges as well. Girls growing up now face specific difficulties, and boys do too. In this episode, we address some of the issues that accompany raising boys, and what we have seen in our sons’ lives. We also bring in a lot of great info from authors who have done far more research on the subject of boys. We address issues like how to cultivate  respectful, strong, and kind boy by channeling his natural strengths (as opposed to simply suppressing all of their tendencies and making them feel like they are terrible all the time). We explore some fascinating psychology and hopefully help all of us raise boys who become men who are whole, respectful, humans who make this world a better place:). Books that inspired us: Calmer, Easier, Happier Boys // Noel Janis-Norton Boys Adrift // Leonard Sax Wild Things // Stephen James and David Thomas The planner that was Felica’s high five: High Performance Planner // Brendon Buchard Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
54:13
February 3, 2020
Our Daily Meditation
In this mini episode, Taralyn guides us through the meditation we do every day. She was originally inspired by several different meditation teachers, and has adapted their techniques using other practices that people have used for thousands of years to what works well for her. After listening to this audio every day for a couple weeks, you’ll find that you can do the sequence on your own without any guidance. Anywhere you find yourself, you can do this practice.  Here is the sequence for reference:  Breathing (where your exhale is twice as a long as your inhale) -2 deep breaths with your fingertips pressing 2 inches below your belly button -2 deep breaths with your fingertips pressing over your heart -2 deep breaths with your fingertips pressing in the center of your forehead just above your eye  Body mindfulness: Tap into what you are feeling, hearing, tasting, and smelling, and seeing  Mantra Meditation: Focus on the word one, and come back to it when thoughts come  Gratitude/manifestation: Think of something you’re grateful for, then feel gratitude for something you are hoping to manifest, and then detach from the outcome and be open to inspired action you can take to make it happen.  (I like to connect them—for example: if you want flat abs, 1) Feel gratitude about the core strength you have already, 2) feel the feeling of gratitude and whatever emotion you would feel with amazing flat abs, and then 3) detach from the outcome (realize your happiness isn’t dependent on it), and be open to whatever inspired action you can take). Love/Metta Meditation: focus on imagining someone or something you love in front of you, then you gradually expand that love 
15:19
January 29, 2020
Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour
We all know that setting aside time to feed our souls is important, and it’s no secret that one of our core habits that we use to get this time is our morning routine. This habit has literally been the biggest game changer in our own fulfillment and wholeness, and so we really can’t say enough good about it. This subject remains one of our most frequently asked listener questions, so in this episode, we delve deep into some tricks to really help cement this routine into a long term, non-negotiable habit. We also introduce you to a really accessible form of meditation, and will give you tools to get you started on this life changing habit, or give you ideas to improve what you already have going. Books that inspired us: Stress Less, Accomplish More // Emily Fletcher The Miracle Morning // Hal Elrod Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/
53:51
January 27, 2020
Multitasking, Being Present While Saying No, and Facing Bedtime Alone with Small Children
Is it possible to be mindful and present while still not doing everything your child wants? What about multitasking with an audiobook in your ear? Are you sacrificing present awareness for that? And lastly, when you have a baby and a toddler and are facing the daunting task of establishing a bedtime routine by yourself as a parent, how can you stay present without relying on technology as your second pair of hands? After receiving so many wonderful questions from all of you amazing listeners, we address a few common issues that apply to so many parents. Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
36:11
January 20, 2020
Book Club Recommendations for 2020
This time of year, so many people are getting their book list goals going, and so we, along with some awesome guest co-hosts, give you our current favorite books from several different genres (gasp—not just self-help!). As you consider what you are going to read this year, this episode will give you ideas about which ones to add. It’s like we’re all a part of a great big book club. If you read them, let us know what you think! If you’d like to see all of the books we mentioned in this episode, check out our website:  www.findthemagic.co/episodes/ep-55-book-club-recommendations-for-2020
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January 13, 2020
Top 10 Self Bettering Tips from 2019
In this episode, we recap our 2019 year with all of our favorite life hacks and tips that have improved our lives.  Below we have links to all our favorite items we mentioned, along with our favorite green smoothie recipes. Enjoy! You can see all the details on Episode 54 at findthemagic.co Books we mention: Meditations for Soul Realization // Master Choa Kok Sui // https://amzn.to/2QrCAoO  Stress Less, Accomplish More // Emily Fletcher // https://amzn.to/2FqlqBv  The Art of Living // Thich Nhat Han // https://amzn.to/36tvYvL  Our Current Favorite Green Smoothie:  Flavor Base: *1-2 TBS Raw Cacao *1-3 TBS Peanut Butter *1 Frozen Banana (or not frozen—it doesn’t matter much)  Super add-ons: *A handful of leafy greens (We just freeze Kale or Spinach or whatever blend we are in the mood for and then take out a handful at a time) A splash of Brain Octane Oil 2 droppers of Phytoplankton 1 heaping teaspoon Barley Grass Juice Powder 1 scoop Collagen Protein A few Probiotic capsules Raw Honey if you need more sweetness (or sweetener of your choice—I used to always add honey but now my tastebuds are used to it without-T) A few cubes of ice *Milk of your choice to fill up the rest—maybe like 1.5 cups? (we use coconut and almond the most but try other ones for fun sometimes too)  Other Flavor Bases options we love:  -Any tropical frozen fruit with half orange juice and half milk for the liquid and vanilla  -Frozen peaches and wild blueberries with any juice (apple, orange, grape juice, or coconut water work nicely) *We choose organic where availability and budget make it a good option  Other links to things we mentioned:  Meditation on Twin Hearts by Master Choa Kok Sui:  Full version on iTunes that Taralyn likes:  https://music.apple.com/us/album/meditation-on-twin-hearts-with-self-pranic-healing/1078568154  The abridged version that Felica likes: https://youtu.be/N884jNJJpGc  Tara Brach’s meditation we love: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tara-brach/id265264862#episodeGuid=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.tarabrach.com%2Faudio%2F2011-03-23-Part-1-Healing-Power-of-Self-Compassion.mp3  Ziva Meditation: https://zivameditation.com // Emily Fletcher’s Meditation Website where she has some great courses and info  Mindvalley:  https://www.mindvalley.com // Where Taralyn took Emily Fletcher’s Meditation Course (and other awesome courses)  Our Website has even more info::)
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January 6, 2020
Top 10 Parenting Tips of 2019
Over the years, we have learned so many parenting tips from the books as we have studied and we have tried out many of them. In this episode, we tell you our very very favorites. From philosophies that have transformed our parenting to hacks that have simply made our lives easier, we hope you’ll find these tips as helpful as we did! Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
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December 30, 2019
Thrive this Holiday Season, Instead of Just Survive
The winter holidays can be a time of many opposites: joy and grief, magic and rushing, spirituality and materialism. Many of us put very high expectations on ourselves to somehow manage perfectly the practical aspects of this time of year (think gift planning and food making), create magical, cozy experiences for our children,  while still cultivating room for an appreciation for the spiritual side for this season. All of these expectations can be...a lot. Add onto this the fact that many people have personal griefs that they are mourning this time of year, and it’s no wonder that for many, this time of year is less a season of joy and hope, and more a season of simply “getting through” and surviving. During this episode, we discuss tips to hopefully help you make this season a lot more enjoyable by looking at your own authentic values and creating a season of presence, awareness, and yes, lots and lots of joy (and maybe even a little magic). Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
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December 23, 2019
Running a Household Without Resentment
There is so much effort that goes into running family life. There are seemingly endless housekeeping tasks, time planning, relationship maintenance, spiritual, academic, and physical teaching of children, budgeting, providing for the family’s needs, etc. You get the picture—it’s a long list. Sometimes, because of a lack of communication between partners, it is easy to build resentment when one person feels like he or she is carrying most of the load. In this episode, we lay out a specific program created by Eve Rodsky in her book Fair Play that we have used in our homes to help increase communication about task breakdown and cut down on resentment. This method is nice because it values both partners roles, takes into consideration the many different parenting/providing setups like 2 income households, one full time provider and one stay-at-home parent, and everything in between. It’s all about just finding what works for your family, and it is creates a framework for some really powerful dialogue between partners. The book that inspired us for this episode: Fair Play // Eve Rodsky // https://amzn.to/2M00mpf The cards to start playing!:  https://www.fairplaylife.com/downloadable-cards Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
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December 16, 2019
How to WAKE UP to Your Life
Being present is one of our core philosophies, and so today, we dig deep into Chapter 1 of Eckhart Tolle’s book,  A New Earth, and discuss how we have used the principles he writes about to uncover our own sense of presence. In our experience, the ability to be truly aware and present in any given situation, is the key to actually experiencing this life. When you are present, you feel awake, able to give and receive love more fully, and truly find access to a higher level of living. Book we mention: A New Earth // Eckhart Tolle // https://amzn.to/2P3gcBb Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
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December 9, 2019
Cultivating a Grateful Heart
Happy Thanksgiving everyone! The holidays can be a busy time, so in the episode, we take our own advice and are simply doing a gratitude episode from home. We discuss some awesome research on the benefits of being thankful, share our individual gratitude lists, and give you some specific tips to help you cultivate a grateful heart during this holiday season. Here is the article we refer to on the benefits of cultivating gratitude: https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
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December 2, 2019
Keeping Our Personal Identity While Parenting
This topic is near and dear to our hearts because we know, from personal experience and from hearing from many of you, how easy it is to lose our identity while pouring our heart and soul into the parenting of our children. How can we give selflessly like we want to while not forgetting our own wholeness? In this episode, we share with you our own raw experiences of our journey into motherhood, and times when we have lost our wholeness and how we found our way back to ourselves. Sometimes it’s easy to forget that we are more than the roles we fill. If you or someone you know is struggling with staying intact personally while parenting, we hope the discussion in this episode will help you navigate your own personal journey and find what works best for you and your family. Here is the article about postpartum support we mentioned: https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2017/06/26/534021439/secrets-of-breast-feeding-from-global-moms-in-the-know Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
56:34
November 25, 2019
How To Rise Above Our Parenting Triggers
Throughout our lives, we often find ourselves being triggered emotionally by other people’s actions. Maybe a store clerk says something that really sets us off, or a co-worker makes a comment that triggers anger or shame in us. These experiences every day give us the chance to really learn about ourselves. There are few situations that force us to really face this reality than in parenting because we are often pushed to our emotional limits (and we are often short on sleep for it as well!). That’s one of the beautiful things about parenting—it is truly a soul revealing journey. Our kids give us so many opportunities to observe what is triggers us (some days, it might feel like there is a bit too much triggering:). In this episode, we give you lots of concrete examples from parenting to allow you to first identify your own triggers and take back the power in the way you connect with others:) The book we referenced wasThe Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind // Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson // https://amzn.to/33ZSFWT Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
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November 18, 2019
Growth Mindset is Crucial for Our Kids, BUT What About Us?
Carol Dweck’s groundbreaking work on mindset has influenced so much of the way we talk about growth and success. In fact, our children’s school district is currently restructuring their teaching program to incorporate the concept of growth mindset! In this episode, we share our personal journey towards growth mindset and share tips on how to develop it in your own life. The focus here is how to truly internalize it and model it (not perfectly though—there is always room for growth!:). It is liberating as adults to realize that with a growth mindset, we are never stuck. The world is often far more open to us than we realize if we are willing to let go of our fixed mindset and look at the malleability of growth. This approach has the power to lessen the damages of perfectionism and allows for a less anxious view of life. The book we referenced was Mindset: The New Psychology of Success // Carol S. Dweck // https://amzn.to/2p9GBDx Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
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November 11, 2019
When Kids are Sick and Toddlers Feel Unbearable
Every parent experiences their kids getting sick. In this episode, we explore how we can engage in wholehearted parenting even on those days when they aren’t feeling well. We also discuss some questions from listeners about what to do when toddlers seem to become so difficult that parenting feels unbearable. Things we mention: Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting // Dr. Laura Markham // https://amzn.to/327Xmwg Felica’s favorite story meditation for her kids to listen to on sick days: https://music.apple.com/gb/album/your-secret-treehouse-guided-meditation/1256088681?i=1256088683 Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
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November 4, 2019
Making Education Awesome
We live in a time when there are SOO many fantastic options for educating our kids (and ourselves!) formally and informally. We have had many parents ask us about our take on how to enhance the process of learning in our families. There seems to be a lot of parent guilt about not doing enough to teach their young children structured academics, and some worry that they are making learning a drudgery by pushing it too much. In this episode, we address these concerns and offer our own personal approach, which focuses on a combination of guided and self directed learning, with a heavy dose of wonder, a touch of positive challenge, and a relaxed attempt at moderation. We have experience with several kinds of schooling, including homeschooling, and we give our take on the benefits of the different options. Books we mention: The Well Trained Mind:  A Guide to Classical Education at home // Susan Wise Bauer // https://amzn.to/31RFmGq Teaching from Rest: A Homeschooler’s Guide to Unshakable Peace // Sarah Mackenzie // https://amzn.to/32We2rU Taralyn’s current favorite homeschool curriculum options: Math: Primary Mathematics (aka Singapore Math) https://amzn.to/2NkVaMl Language Arts, Handwriting, and Science: The Good and the Beautiful from Jennyphillips.com History: A Well Trained Mind (they start with ancient and have all the eras). I started their Story of the World: History for the Classical Child: Volume 1: https://amzn.to/31TMT7i Spanish: Rosetta Stone Keyboarding: The Typing App from the Apple Store Also, here is a great podcast about the concept of free range learning if you are interested:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/respectful-parenting-janet-lansbury-unruffled/id1030050704?i=1000415099608 Here is our favorite fall caramel recipe that Taralyn mentions in her high five: Taralyn and Felica’s Favorite Dipping Caramel Adapted from Jeanie Allen’s Caramel Corn recipe findthemagic.co This caramel is the best we have ever had for dipping fall apples in. The texture is so creamy:) 1 cube butter 1 cup light corn syrup 1⁄2 teaspoon salt 1 box brown sugar (16 oz or 3 1⁄2 cups) (sometimes I just eyeball this - T) 1 can Eagle brand sweetened condensed milk 1/2 cup heavy whipping cream (optional) Combine all of these ingredients together and heat on medium low for a long time—at least a half hour, stirring often once it starts getting bubbly. The key is to do it slowly so it doesn’t burn, and it just barely boils. Do this until all the sugar is dissolved. Then, remove from heat and stir in the secret ingredient: 1 Cup Sour Cream (I’ve added anywhere from a half cup to 1 pint, and it always turns out AMAZING - T). Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:) https://amzn.to/36d89Zj
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October 28, 2019
Why Kids (and adults!) Need to Connect to Nature
As the weather outside gets colder, it becomes easier and easier to stay inside. Even when it is warm outside, the comforts of our homes and offices sometimes keep us in. However, going outside into the wild offers us soooo many benefits, from improved attention spans, increased physical wellness, and mood enhancement. In this episode, we explore what author Richard Louv has called Nature Deficit Disorder. This can show up as increased mood behaviors in children and physical affects such as cardiac risk factors and obesity. What happened to free playing outside!? We discuss how being out in nature helps our bodies and minds so much, and we give all kinds of tips on how to get yourself (and your kids) outside more.   Books:  Last Child in the Woods // Richard Louv - https://amzn.to/35Tamcc The Nature Fix // Florence Williams  - https://amzn.to/2Bx5YSk Our  Website (You can find all show notes here! Along with book recommendations and links to all past books): https://www.findthemagic.co   Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/  Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/
52:58
October 21, 2019
Finding the Magic of Birth
In this episode, we indulge in talking about one of our favorite subjects—birth. Many of our listeners have asked us about our birth stories and for advice on how to approach the birthing process with joy instead of fear. We share our own personal stories, and what we found helpful in preparing for the birth of each of our children. Books we mention: Hypnobirthing// Marie Mongan // https://amzn.to/33xoSnM Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth// Ina May Gaskin // https://amzn.to/33v5cB0  Links:  This is the organization both of us took our classes from: https://www.hypnobabies.com This is a preview for an awesome show about birth (there will be actual births in this); https://vimeo.com/47116003 Our Website: https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/
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October 14, 2019
Our Take on the Grit Phenomenon
Grit has become a buzzword in the self-help world thanks to some amazing research that has linked it to success. Grit is connected to courage, resolve, and strength of character. We believe grit is worth cultivating in our society as everything gets easier and our perseverance and commitment to go deeper in tasks can easily wane with our attention span. Angela Duckworth's book, Grit: The Power of Passion ad Perseverance, explores what makes someone "gritty,” why it is important, and how we can cultivate it. We are breaking down her theories in this episode and going specifically into how we can help encourage grit in ourselves and our kids! In this episode, we explore the research in Angela Duckworth’s book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. Books we mention: Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance // Angela Duckworth https://amzn.to/2nqT70z How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results // Esther Wojcicki https://amzn.to/2nqT70z Our Website: https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/
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October 7, 2019
Encouraging Independent Play and Letting Go of Guilt
As parents, many of us feel guilty that we aren’t engaging in play enough with our kids. Or, we feel guilty that our kids aren’t playing enough on their own to develop their imagination and instead spend lots of time in front of screens. Either way, there is lot of guilt to choose from. There is a reason mom guilt is such a popular term! We are here to suggest there is a better way:). In this episode, we address a few individual listener questions and explore how we can, by focusing first on connection and meeting their attention needs, create a secure setting or them to explore their own world of independent play. We also discuss how we can successfully let go of that parent guilt so you can actually enjoy that time you get to yourself while your kids are developing their imagination on their own. Books we mention: Magda Gerber // Your Self-Confident Baby // https://amzn.to/2ozGIY9 Janet Lansbury // Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting // https://amzn.to/2n7IkrU Our Website: https://www.findthemagic.co Find us on instagram: Felica: https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/ Taralyn: https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/
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September 30, 2019
Finding Joy and Enthusiasm in Every Day
Have you ever been in the rut of the everyday? It can feel like a slog at times moving from one mundane task to the next. This shows up magnified in parenting when we are stuck on the treadmill of cleaning up spills, changing diapers, driving carpool, planning meals only to fall asleep exhausted and enter the next day that way! We easily catch ourselves living for our next date night, weekend away or perhaps even that day when “life will be easier, our kids will be older, we will have more money” etc. This episode we want to challenge that status quo. We want to share a concept with you that can awaken you to each of these moments and help you find the acceptance, joy and perhaps even enthusiasm in all of the parts of this life, small and big. We also chat about this weeks high fives including Taralyn being on Instagram! here- https://www.instagram.com/taralyngriffin/ and Felica confirming one of our truths, letting kids discover their passions and removing your ego from your kids education and extracurricular drive!  BOOKS WE TALK ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE The concept of these three modalities is from Eckhart Tolle’s book A New Earth. - https://amzn.to/2LDI2Co Oprah’s feature on Elkhart- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oprah-and-eckhart-tolle-a-new-earth/id1458654443 Find Felica on Instagram here- https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/
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September 23, 2019
Essentialism / Permission to do less but better
We are so excited to review Essentialism by Greg Mckeown on this episode! We thought this book and giving our take on how to live true to your essentials would be a perfect follow up to the digital detox / finding solitude episode as creating that white space is really the first step in having mental clarity and presence with what you truly want for your life! Essentialism is the art of designing your life to include what is truly important to you. It is the discipline of separating the vital few from the trivial many. In this episode we chat about how we find mental clarity to do just that and what tools you can use to create space for your essentials.  THINGS / BOOKS WE MENTION Essentialism, The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown https://amzn.to/2O16IXf Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport https://amzn.to/2ZNWMHM Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist https://amzn.to/2LwD0Yv OUR WEBSITE  FIND US ON INSTAGRAM - @felicaallen and @taralyngriffin
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September 16, 2019
Finding Solitude Through Digital Minimalism
Sweet sweet SWEET solitude. Sometimes I classify solitude as going to the bathroom alone or hiding in my closet for a couple extra minutes! As people of this social connected, news blasted time in history we rarely find quiet moments of PEACE to ourselves and our minds are craving them. On the flip side we also struggle to make deep meaningful connections with those around us resulting in anxiety and depression. How can we counterbalance this teeter totter? SOLITUDE. Time for our minds to rest, relax and reboot. In this episode we are discussing our experiment with a digital detox inspired by the book Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport. Did we find more solitude and rest by simplifying how we use screens and technology? CAN YOU?   THINGS / BOOKS WE MENTION Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport https://amzn.to/2ZNWMHM Note to Self Podcast  Collin Kartchner on Instagram  OUR WEBSITE  FIND US ON INSTAGRAM - @felicaallen and @taralyngriffin Taralyn’s High Five: her fave yoga studio, Root to Rise
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September 9, 2019
Parenting when Exhausted, TODDLERS & Fostering Imaginary Play
Today we answer questions from our awesome listeners! We address how to stay present and wholehearted while in the midst of parental sleep deprived exhaustion, how to survive with toddlers at the park while trying to feed a newborn, and how to help cultivate imaginary play in children who have become accustomed to screen time. Links to books we mentioned: Your Self Confident Baby // Magda Gerber Elevating Childcare // Janet Lansbury Simplicity Parenting // Kim John Payne Here are the podcast episodes we referred to: The Pause (this is our best advice on sleep:) Tantrums, screen time, and breaking out of a funk Curbing Our Own Screen Attachment
38:14
September 4, 2019
Putting Connection With Our Spouse First
We can get lost in parenting. One more diaper, another meal to clean up, another practice to run to. How can we connect with our spouse while parenting? Today we talk about both emotional and physical intimacy and give a few tips on how to cultivate it. Here are the professionals we refer to (as well as a hilarious YouTube video we laugh about:): Esther Perel’s Website  and one of her books “What Turns You On” from the Goop podcast: Love Warrior // Glennon Doyle This is the hilarious parenting video about how sometimes bedtime can be a reverse hostage negotiation by Michael McIntyre.
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August 26, 2019
Putting Connection First
We all know connection is important, but sometimes we have a hard time knowing what we are doing to either foster of break our connections with the ones we love most. Today we explore what connection looks like, and how our ability to nurture connection is what gives us meaning. As with most things, it starts by looking inward. In this episode, you’ll find tips on how to set limits while still maintaining your relationships and how to give from a place of wholeness instead of resentment. The books that inspired this episode: Peaceful Parenting, Happy Kids // Dr. Laura Markham Soul of Discipline // Kim John Payne
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August 19, 2019
Our Favorite Parenting Wisdom
Today we are posting at the beach at the Oregon Coast! We have two special guests, and we talk about the best parenting advice we have ever received. Enjoy!
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August 13, 2019
HOW TO Eat with Intuition
Eating is part of everyone’s life, and yet so many people struggle with having a healthy relationship with food. Before we can hope of helping our children grow into adults who are at peace with food, it is so important to model it ourselves. In this episode, we discuss our own personal relationship with food, which centers on mindfulness.  We share insights from authors who have plenty of research to back up this mindful method. The goal with this approach is a life that is at peace with food and a body that is healthy and balanced. We hope you find it helpful!  Books we refer to:  Intuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Program That Works // Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch Love Warrior: A Memoir // Glennon Doyle Also, here is the wireless ear bud that both Taralyn and Felica are obsessed with and that Taralyn was so sad to lose:) It is a GAME CHANGER! It’s really the key to how we listen to so many books. 
42:15
August 5, 2019
French Kids Eat Everything (and so can YOURS!)
Do your kids have trouble sitting for meals? Trying new foods? Are they constantly snacking and refusing to eat at meal times and do you find yourself cooking extra meals just for them? Sometimes food power struggles run our home and created unwanted anxiety and tension in our relationship with our kids. This episode we are breaking down one of our favorite parenting books "French Kids Eat Everything". It is on our list of recommendations to every new parent or caregiver. We are reviewing the French Food Rules that are applicable from the early days of infant eating all the way through childhood. And if you already have habits in your home that you are hoping to break this episode is for you as well! We have practical mutually respectful tips to create peaceful mealtimes in your home!  Books we refer to: French Kids Eat Everything: How Our Family Moved to France, Cured Picky Eating, Banned Snacking, and Discovered 10 Simple Rules for Raising Happy, Healthy Eaters // Karen Le Billon Happiness Project: Or, Why I spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have Mor Fun // Gretchin Rubin We also mentioned Kodiak Cakes as one of Taralyn’s family’s favorite breakfasts. Her favorite flavor is the buttermilk and chia superfood packed one:).
59:57
August 5, 2019
Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the MOST Effective Parenting Style
Do ever just wish for a simple breakdown of how to be the most effective parent? Parenting is so tricky and unique to each family situation but there are some tried and true rules that can help guide you. This episode we are breaking down the four basic parenting categories that most of us fall into. We loved seeing each laid out in this way to really simplify how we can approach parenting. Each style hinges on DEMAND and RESPONSE and the level at which we show both to our children. We know you will find some useful insight into how you are currently parenting and how you may be able to sweet your expectation (that tricky word!) and warm responsiveness to create an environment of growth and respect in your home! Books we mention in this episode are-  How To Raise an Adult - https://amzn.to/2K0sJ4G 
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July 21, 2019
Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us
In this episode, we talk about how to approach our life from a place of abundance instead of scarcity by tapping into the emotions we all have access to.  What is it that we feel like we truly want? A certain amount of money? A better marriage? And organized house? Kids who don’t sass?;) This episode is about tapping into the reserve of what we already have inside of us. By asking yourself some important questions about why you want any particular thing, you discover your true WHY. This discovery is a game changer because then, you can tap into that why at any time!  It is LIBERATING to realize that you have the capacity to feel anything you want. It’s like you are stoking up a fire—it is awesome! Then, you come at your goal without the desperation and scarcity that you might have had before. You come at it from a place of confidence. We share details of how to use this technique, and share examples of how we have used it in our own lives. Thanks for listening! We mention the book Thrive by Arianna Huffington.
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July 15, 2019
Finding Peaceful Simplicity in Your Summer
Summer is here! This beautiful season can be exhausting. In today’s episode we are talking about simplifying in this season as well as some tips to find peace in less that ideal circumstances.
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July 8, 2019
Raising Adults Pt.2 / Healthy Praise
Is praise a springboard or a trap? Everybody loves praise, right? But not all praise is created equally. Some praise encourages our children to develop grit, confidence, and resilience, while other kinds of praise can hinder our children and discourage their ability to keep trying when things get hard. In this episode, we share some fascinating research about both kinds of praise and discuss the best forms of praise for the overall wholeness for our kids.  We also discuss the benefits of chores and give some tips about how to successfully cultivate hard work and responsibility in your kidlets.  You can find the book that inspired us here:  How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success https://www.amazon.com/dp/1250093635/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_u-meDbES0W78H Praise advice from the American Psycological Association: https://www.apa.org/education/k12/using-praise An awesome article about how doing chores makes kids more successful: https://www.inc.com/bill-murphy-jr/kids-who-do-chores-are-more-successful-adults-according-to-science.html
44:19
July 1, 2019
Raising Adults Pt.1 / How to Avoid Overparenting
Do you ever feel like you are caught in the trap of overparenting? Today we talk about fostering independence in our kids using inspiration from the book How to Raise and Adult by Julie Lythcott-Hainsworth. As the Dean of Freshman at Stanford University, she spent a lot of time interacting with young adults. She found that despite the best of intentions, many parents are robbing their children of the chance to be their own independent person, and that this epidemic of child-like adults has been on the rise in recent years.  In this episode, we discuss possible antidotes to this issue as our children grow. We focus on independence, wholeness, and emotional resilience.  For a list of age appropriate tasks most kids can complete independently, check out: https://www.familyeducation.com/life/individuality/guide-to-teach-your-child-life-skills-by-age You can find the book that inspired us here:  How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success https://www.amazon.com/dp/1250093635/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_u-meDbES0W78H
37:15
June 24, 2019
Sharing, Bedtime Boundaries & Extra Needy Babies
On this episode, Felica offers advice on a few of our common listener questions. She addresses sharing (do we have the teach our kids to ALWAYS share? We don’t as adults...), the lovely bedtime boundaries that we all navigate, and what to do when you have a baby who seems extra “needy”.  Find Felica here - https://www.instagram.com/felicaallen/
28:08
June 17, 2019